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Sex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhat If You're the One with the Low Sex Drive?When you're the one who wants less sex, the conversation is almost never about you. It usually centers on the person who's not getting laid. Let's flip that. In this episode, Stacey gets into the weight of being the low libido partner, and everything that comes with that. Guilt. Shame. Embarrassment. Pressure. If you're the one not saying yes, this episode is about you. Finally. 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ Ready to Transform Your Intimate Conversations? Get the free workbook
2026-02-2523 minSex in Real Life with Stacey Herrera5 Causes of Sexlessness in Otherwise Loving RelationshipsYou love each other. You're both committed. But you're not having sex. Sexlessness in otherwise loving relationships is more common than you think. And it rarely comes down to one thing. In this episode, Stacey breaks down the most common reasons loving couples stop having sex. And why it's not always the end of the world or the relationship. 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ Ready to Transform Your Intimate Conversations? Get the free workbook 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Her...
2026-02-1830 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraHow Sex Becomes a Source of Conflict in Longterm RelationshipsWhy does sex become such a charged topic in long-term relationships? Most of the time, you're not really fighting about frequency, desire, or who initiates. You're fighting about unmet emotional needs. Connection. Validation. Autonomy. Safety. Feeling wanted. When those needs aren't being met, sex becomes the battleground. And the conflict doesn't stay in the bedroom. In this episode, Stacey gets into what's really happening beneath the surface - and why asking "what is this really about?" changes everything. 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/
2026-02-1115 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraIs Monotony Killing the Buzz in Your Sex Life?Autopilot is not a good thing in relationships. But that doesn't mean that monotony is the enemy. When you're on the routine hamster wheel of same place, same thing, it's hard to tell if you're bored with your partner or the script. But here's the thing, your brain loves automation. Efficiency makes its job easier. Trouble is, desire needs novelty to tap into aliveness. When sex becomes routine, you have a choice. You can make it mean "this relationship is broken." Or you can see it as an invitation. In this...
2026-01-2115 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraIs Your Sex Life Doomed When You're Recovering from Sickness or Surgery?We plan for everything around surgery except sex. Time off work. Stocking the fridge. Help with the kids. Recovery logistics. We handle all of it. But what happens to your sex life during recovery? Nobody talks about that. Not with the doctor. Not with each other. Sometimes bodies need repairs, especially after 40. The question isn't if… It's when.. And how will you handle it when it does? In this episode, Stacey talks about navigating sex when you're in recovery mode. This isn't tips for "keeping the spark alive," but the reality of d...
2026-01-1421 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWill Setting Sexual Intentions Improve Your Sex Life? Maybe So…Why isn't setting sexual intentions a thing? You set goals for your career, health, finances, relationships. But your sex life? That's supposed to just... happen naturally? That's bullshit. Everything that matters requires intention. That includes your sex life. In this episode, Stacey walks you through how to set sexual intentions that actually mean something —not vague wishes, but real, specific intentions you can act on. In this episode: Why setting sexual intentions is a great idea Questions you should ask yourself Knowing what you control vs...
2026-01-0724 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraHow Can You Own Your Wanting When You Struggle with Erectile Dysfunction?This is the final episode in our 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. Over the past five weeks, we've talked about the weight, the mechanics, the conversations, what partners experience, and sex beyond erections. But we haven't talked about… wanting. One casualty of ED is desire. You stop letting yourself want. No fantasizing or anticipation. No imagining or longing. You disconnect from this part of yourself because wanting something you don't think you can have feels too painful. But when you disconnect from desire to protect yourself from disappointment, you don't just lose sex. You...
2025-12-1727 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraDo You Need an Erection to Have Great Sex? (SPOILER: No)Most of us learned that sex = penetration. Everything else? Foreplay. Warmup. Extra. But that model is outdated, limiting, and honestly? It's been sidelining everyone's pleasure for way too long. But you should know that a soft penis is a functional penis. Soft penises can give pleasure and receive pleasure. And when you decentralize erections, a world of pleasure opens up. In this episode, Stacey gets explicit about what sex can look like when penetration isn't on the menu—not as a consolation prize, but as genuinely satisfying, delicious sex. In this episode:
2025-12-1021 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraErectile Dysfunction Is Hard on Relationships. Top 4 Questions Partners GoogleThis is Part 4 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. This week: the partner experience. When ED happens, all the attention goes to the person experiencing it. Pills, supplements, clinics—there's an entire industry ready to help. But if you're the partner? There's nothing. No marketing. No acknowledgment. Just an expectation to be supportive and not make it worse. Partners suffer too. And they're Googling in secret, trying to find answers to questions they don't know how to ask out loud. In this episode, Stacey digs into what partners are actually searching for, wh...
2025-12-0323 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraHow Do You Tell Your Partner You're Struggling with Erectile Dysfunction?This is Part 3 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. This week: the conversation. Less than 60% of men experiencing ED talk about it with their partners. That means more than half are keeping it to themselves—and silence creates distance. In this episode, Stacey shares two contrasting stories: one where pretending ruined the experience, and one where honesty created intimacy from the start. Then she breaks down how to actually have the conversation. In this episode: When and where to talk about ED (hint: not right after it happens) Wh...
2025-11-2622 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraHow Erections Work and What Happens When You Have Erectile DysfunctionThis is Part 2 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. This week, we're exploring the mechanics of erection. Many penis owners do not know how their body works below the belt. Not because they're uninformed, but because nobody ever taught them. So when erection challenges arise with no obvious explanation, it's easy to assume you're just broken. In this episode, Stacey breaks down how erections work and what interferes with the process—psychological, physical, and everything in between. In this episode: The physiology of erections (and why it's not as simple as...
2025-11-1922 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraCan We Talk About the Emotional Weight of Erectile Dysfunction?This is Part 1 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. Not the mechanics or the fixes —we'll get to that later. This episode is about the part nobody talks about… the emotional weight. In this episode, Stacey explores what it feels like to live in a body that's changed. The heartbreak and the inconvenience. The way masculinity gets hitched to erections. In this episode: The pressure to maintain an erection 3 ED archetypes: pretenders, withdrawals, and searchers Why ED feels lonely despite billions of targeted ads How shame keeps...
2025-11-0524 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraThe Rejection Story That's Keeping You From Good SexIn this episode, Stacey explores the rejection stories we tell ourselves and how they affect our sex lives. She shares a story about a boundary violation that turned cruel and breaks down why we make every 'no' about our worth. How do we separate someone's no from our self-worth? And how fear of rejection gets in the way of leaning in. 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your d...
2025-10-2921 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraDo Your Kids Need to Know About the Marital Affair?You want to protect your kids from the pain. But you also don't want to lie to them. So do you tell them about the affair? Whether you stayed together or split, whether your kids are minors or adults, this question comes up. There is no one right answer. In this episode of Sex IRL, Stacey explores the complexity and nuance of deciding whether to tell your kids about infidelity. Find out how to think it through. In this episode: The tension between protection and honesty—both inst...
2025-10-2210 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraIs Performing Pleasure Affecting Your Sex Life?Last week, we discussed the penis owners' scorecard. This week, we're talking about vulva owners who perform pleasure. Moans that are a little too extra. Making that "feel good" face to make them feel good. And putting on a show, even when the sex is mediocre at best. Sounds like generosity, but smells like performance. In this episode, Stacey explores: Why managing someone else's feelings is actually manipulation How faking it cheats your partner out of a chance to get better (sex is a skill, not instinct) ...
2025-10-1507 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraIs Their Sexual Satisfaction Really That Important to You?If we had a nickel for every time someone with a penis said, "My partner's pleasure is the most important thing to me," we'd all be rich. Sounds noble. But most of the time, they mean: "I need them to get off so I can feel like I'm good in bed." In this episode of Sex IRL, Stacey breaks down the difference between generosity as performance vs. presence. Making your partner's orgasm is your scorecard effs up the experience. In this episode: Why "Did you come?" is often about anxiety, not...
2025-10-0808 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraDo Selfless Women and Capable Men Make the Best Lovers?She's the one who remembers birthdays and keeps the group text alive. He's the guy who handles the money and fixes what's broken. They look like opposite types, but they suffer the same affliction: performance instead of presence. In this episode of Sex IRL, Stacey digs into how the roles we play (think: the selfless woman or the endlessly capable man) keep us hidden. These archetypes don't just show up in our daily lives. They follow us into the bedroom. And when your personality becomes a performance, intimacy flatlines. In this co...
2025-10-0108 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraDoes Main Character Energy Make You Selfish?A lot shifts after 40. Your tolerance for pretending disappears. That bottomless energy you used to have? Poof… gone. Suddenly, you're saying no to things that used to be an automatic yes (including sex). It's not selfishness. It's honesty. In this episode of Sex IRL, Stacey explores how to step into main character energy without shutting people out or burning everything down to the studs. Because showing up as your whole self gives intimacy a fighting chance. In this episode: Why fakeness feels intolerable after 40 How to say no to wh...
2025-09-2408 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWelcome to Sex IRLThis is the inaugural episode of Sex IRL, a brand-new podcast from Stacey Herrera. If you've been listening to Love Is…, you'll notice the shift. Stacey explains why she's pivoting toward the topic she circles back to most: sex. But this isn't a show about techniques or tips—you can Google that. Sex IRL is about the messy, funny, deeply human ways we reach for each other, and all the fears, silences, and cracked knees that come with it. In this short intro, Stacey shares why sex is the entry point to bigger conver...
2025-09-1704 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhat If I'm Turned Off by My Partner?Attraction isn't static. Even in the healthiest relationships, it ebbs and flows. But what do you do when the spark is flickering and everything your partner does gets on your last nerve? This is the first episode of the Grown Ass Woman Summer series. And Stacey is digging into a question that midlife women often ask: "What if I'm turned off by my partner?" In this conversation, Stacey gets real about what it means to feel disconnected from someone you still love. (Psst… it's not always about sex.) She explores how irritability can mask deeper em...
2025-07-3013 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhat If "Emotional Safety" Is a Socially Acceptable Way to Self-Sabotage?There is a lot of talk about feeling emotionally safe. But sometimes what we're calling unsafe is just new, unfamiliar, and uncomfortable. In this episode, Stacey explores the difference between actual harm and healthy discomfort. And why growth rarely happens when we feel at ease. She unpacks what emotional safety really means, how it's often used as a shield, and why some of the most powerful transformations happen when we feel unsure. If you've ever said, "I'm not ready" or "I don't feel safe," this one is for you. In this episode:
2025-07-1610 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraIf Your Partner's Conflict Style Is Cruel, Listen to This Episode TwiceHow do they treat you when they're upset? In this episode, Stacey explores the nuance of conflict in relationships. Whether it's weaponized silence, bringing up things shared in confidence, or claiming they "didn't mean it" after saying something hurtful, how someone shows up during conflict speaks volumes. You'll learn the difference between healthy space and emotional punishment. And why the way someone handles disagreements can (and sometimes should) be a deal breaker. If you've ever walked away from a disagreement feeling like small and unsure if love is supposed to gut you, this...
2025-07-0917 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraTired of Feeling Like an Afterthought in Your Romantic Relationship?If you're the one they check on after the fact, the person who gets the update but not the invitation, or the partner expected to adjust without being asked, this conversation is for you. This week on the pod, Stacey unpacks what it feels like to be an afterthought, how that pattern often mirrors the way we treat ourselves, and why clarity doesn't always guarantee change. Whether you speak up or stay silent, the result can feel the same—and it's exhausting. You'll hear why being overlooked isn't always about other people missing the mark. So...
2025-06-2509 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraLove or Attachment? How to Know What You're Really FeelingIt might look like love. Might even feel like love. But what if it's not? In this episode, we're exploring the difference between love and attachment. Knowing the difference might save years of confusion, resentment, and chasing someone's potential. Stacey is walking you through what love is (without the fairytale framing), how attachment shows up in your nervous system and choices, and why the two get so tangled in midlife relationships. If you've ever been in a situation that made you question yourself, held on longer than you wanted to, or built a...
2025-06-1811 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraTired of Doing It All? How to Step Back Without Everything Falling ApartIf you're the one who remembers the birthdays, plans the date nights, manages the group chats, and loads the dishwasher (because no one else seems to notice it's full), this episode is for you. In today's conversation, Stacey opens up about what happened when she finally stopped doing it all and what she learned about herself, her nervous system, and the stories that keep so many women in midlife over-functioning in their relationships. If you've ever thought, "If I don't do it, it won't get done," this one will hit home. You'll hear...
2025-06-1109 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraSexual Winter: When Desire Pauses (But Nothing's Wrong)Midlife brings shifts—some welcome, some disorienting. One of the most confusing? When your desire goes quiet for a while. This week, we're talking about sexual winter. This season doesn't get enough airtime, especially among midlife women navigating shifting roles, changing hormones, and the pressure to always be "on." This episode is for you if you've ever wondered: Why don't I want to have sex? Is this just a phase or something else? How can I stay connected to my partner when I'm not feeling sexual? Will my...
2025-05-0710 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhy Midlife Body Changes Are a Mindf*ck and a MasterpieceWhat do you do when your reflection surprises you? When you catch a glimpse and think, Wait… when did that change? In this episode, Stacey shares an unfiltered reflection on aging, intimacy, hydration (yes, hydration), and her evolving relationship with the woman in the mirror. Tender. Honest. Very midlife. In this conversation: The difference between fixing and tending to yourself The soft grief and quiet joy of watching your body change Confidence that comes not from how you look, but how you stay This is no...
2025-05-0216 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraSexual Autumn: Embracing Slow Sex and Deep PleasureThis week on Love Is…, we're exploring Sexual Autumn—a season that doesn't get nearly enough celebration. Unlike the urgent heat of summer, autumn brings a slower, deeper sensuality. Touch becomes more intentional. Foreplay is a full-body conversation. Arousal builds in layers. It's richer and more satisfying. Might even feel otherworldly. In this episode: How to honor your body when it takes longer to warm up Why spontaneity isn't necessarily the gold standard for good sex What to do if you and your partner are in different seaso...
2025-04-3010 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraSexual Summer: The Season of Desire That SizzlesThis week on Love Is..., we're diving into Sexual Summer—the season of peak desire. If spring is awakening, summer is full bloom. It's spontaneous. It's primal. It's the kind of hunger that lives in your skin and hums through your whole body. For women over 40, sexual summer might hit hardest in midlife, when pregnancy is no longer a worry, and pleasure becomes a top priority. In this episode, we explore: How sexual summer shows up in midlife (even if it skipped your twenties) What to do wh...
2025-04-2311 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhen Your Inner Child Has the WheelHey love, Ever catch yourself in the same argument? Or feel that familiar urge to shut down, chase, or fix—even when you know better? Your inner child might be behind the wheel. Again. In this week's episode of Love Is, I'm breaking down how childhood survival strategies sneak into our adult relationships, why they're so sticky, and how to start choosing differently—without blaming your past. Once you know who's driving, you can gently take the keys back. Want to go deeper? I created a free workb...
2025-03-2610 minSex in Real Life with Stacey Herrera10 Tips For Talking About SexNo one teaches us how to talk about sex. That means we learn the hard way —by fumbling or mumbling —which is no bueno. That ends today. This week on the podcast, I've got 10 tips for making these conversations a little bit less uncomfortable. From timing it right (not while you're getting busy) to the build-up (think Eiffel Tower—start at the base, not the tip). You'll be talking pleasure, desire, and boundaries with confidence in no time! You can thank me later. Mentioned in Episode 25: Yes/Ma...
2025-03-1910 minSex in Real Life with Stacey Herrera3 Strategies for Navigating Their SilenceAs a kid, silence in my house was heavy. Not the peaceful kind – the kind that sits on your chest and makes you hold your breath. That's probably why I followed my former husband from room to room trying to make him talk it out. Not my proudest moment, but hey, we're all learning here. In this week's episode, I explain what happens when someone goes silent—they're probably not rejecting you, by the way. I also share three strategies that will change how you handle the "silent treatment." Plus, I'm dropping dimes abou...
2025-03-1219 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhy Love Hurts So GoodIn this week's episode of Love Is..., I discuss a recent challenge in my relationship that had me questioning the real purpose of relationships. Here's what we're exploring: Why relationships bring up our sh*t How conflicts can be doorways to healing What happens when we get curious instead of defensive I share insights from relationship experts Terry Real and Esther Perel, as well as an honorable mention from Marianne Williamson. If you're in the messy middle of relationship growth right now —bless you. This one's especially fo...
2025-03-0509 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhat Really Makes Sex Amazing?Today on Love Is..., I'm getting real about something that might surprise you: the best lovers aren't necessarily the most skilled ones. We're diving deep into: Why emotional safety matters more than technique What happened when a lover actually listened The "work" that transforms sex from good to unforgettable Gentle Warning: This episode contains adult themes (not explicit, but definitely a grown folks' conversation). If you've ever wondered why "technically perfect" sex sometimes feels empty or why simple moments can feel electric - this one's for you.
2025-02-2616 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhen Connection is Reduced to a ClickIn Episode 21, we're having an honest conversation about unsolicited photos of genitalia and what they reveal about modern seduction (or lack thereof). This is bigger than d*ck pics – it's about how technology has changed the way we approach desire, connection, and intimacy. We're digging into: The difference between seduction and harassment (with wisdom from Esther Perel) Why quick hits of attention leave everyone feeling empty A fresh perspective on boundaries that puts you back in control How to choose connection over convenience This conversation mi...
2025-02-1915 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraDoes Your Partner Pass the Sniff Test?Remember when I promised we'd start getting into the juicy stuff? Well, today we're talking about something rarely discussed in relationship conversations: why your nose might be the most honest matchmaker you have. In Episode 20, I'm breaking down three crucial reasons why odor compatibility matters in romantic relationships (and yes, I'm sharing my own experiences too). We're diving into pheromones, sexual chemistry, and why that "ick" might be more significant than you think. And if you've ever found yourself secretly loving—or hating—how your partner smells —I'd love to hear...
2025-02-1209 minSex in Real Life with Stacey Herrera7 Reasons Why "It's Complicated"I spent years mistaking intensity for intimacy, choosing complicated over calm because at least I knew the steps to that dance. When someone consistently showed up—no games, no drama —it felt empty. But it wasn't about them. It was about how foreign safety felt to my nervous system. In this week's episode, we explore seven reasons why we sometimes distance ourselves from good love, heading straight for the familiar territory of "it's complicated." Sometimes, the hardest part isn't finding good love – it's letting ourselves receive it. Plus, exciting news about Sovereignty, my new pr...
2025-01-0819 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraHow Does Wanting Make You Feel?I've been thinking about our desires—not fleeting wishes but longings that remind us there's more to life than comfortable compromises. In Episode 15, we illuminate how many of us are caught in the familiar tension between gratitude for what is and hunger for what could be. There's wisdom in wanting; maybe it's time to stop apologizing for wanting more. P.S. If this episode resonates, you might want to check out Sovereignty—doors open next month. Get on the waitlist. Mentioned in Episode 15: Sovereig...
2025-01-0110 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraReturn to Your KnowingWe used just to know things. Remember that? Before we started gathering a focus group of friends and consulting "The Google" at ridiculous hours to search for answers, we used to know things. And by knowing things, I mean we used to trust ourselves. This week, we're discussing what happens when we trade that knowing for external validation. I share my bookstore epiphany. Some of my biggest downloads have happened in bookstores —go figure. Mentioned in Episode 14: Sovereignty is coming soon - join t...
2024-12-2510 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWhen Anger is Wisdom 🔥There is so much to be pissed about. Living in a world that often expects us to manage everyone's feelings while minimizing our own. We've spent years trying not to coast on emotional autopilot. The exhaustion is real. In episode 13, we're taking a deeper look at anger. I'm digging into why that simmering frustration is not a sign of bitterness —it's proof that it's time to make shift happen. We're done apologizing for our feelings. Now is the time to begin trusting our inner knowing. Ready? Let's go. M...
2024-12-1812 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraLove, Safety, and Plot TwistsI thought I was good at love. I prided myself on being patient and understanding —a shoulder to cry on. I consistently chose partners who couldn't (or wouldn't) show up for me. Not that I required them to. That changed the day I learned my longtime lover had jumped the broom. Oh, and I found out he was married on Facebook, by the way. Turns out I wasn't as good at relationships as I thought. But I was good at staying safe. In this week's episode, we're talking about what happens wh...
2024-12-1114 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraYour Body Whispers Before it ScreamsFrom mysterious anxiety to unexplained tension, our bodies speak a language we've forgotten how to hear. This week, we're exploring the quiet wisdom in our bones. If you've ever made a decision that seemed right but felt wrong, this episode is for you. Does your gut know things that your mind won't admit? This is for you, too. Sometimes, the answers aren't between our ears. Maybe they're hitched sin our breath, beneath the blades of our shoulders, or resting in the curve of our back. The body cannot lie. Let's remember how...
2024-12-0409 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraGrown Folks & FriendshipRemember when making friends was as simple as sharing your lunch at recess? In this week's episode, we're digging into the beautiful complexity of adult friendship – from the vulnerability of new connections to the evolution of decades-long bonds. From an unexpected prayer in a corporate bathroom to skinny dipping at 50, I'm dishing on 25 years of friendship with my girlfriend Christi, plus the question that revolutionized how I see friendship itself. Ever wonder how to ask someone to be your friend after 40? Let's discuss! Mentioned in Episode 10: Da...
2024-11-2715 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraThat Voice Isn't YoursMost of us have a voice that tells us we're "too much" or "not enough." Episode 9 dives into how external criticism often becomes our inner dialogue. Sparked by Dr. Raquel Martin's insight about injected oppression, we're exploring where those limiting beliefs come from. How they shape our relationships, and what happens when we finally recognize them for what they are. Plus, a juicy homework assignment might change how you talk to yourself forever. Time to reclaim your voice. Mentioned in Episode 9: "Injected oppression evolves into int...
2024-11-2008 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraEroticism vs SensualityRemember when we used to wait months for a movie to come out? The buildup. The teasers. The sweet angst of anticipation. In Episode 8, I'm using a little nostalgia to break down the difference between eroticism and sensuality. We're exploring imagination, presence and how these two forces play together in our relationships. And there's a simple practice you can try at home to bring more of both into your daily life. You can thank me later. 😉 Mentioned in Episode 8: Esther Perel: https://estherperel.com/
2024-11-1319 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraYou Deserve a Partner, Not a ProjectEver find yourself playing mom to your partner? You know the drill — chronic fixing, saving, and problem-solving. (Raises my hand 🙋🏽♀️) In Episode 7, we're unpacking that sneaky urge to mother our romantic partners and how it might sabotage our relationships. From the allure of being needed to those familiar caretaking patterns, we learned way back when. I'm sharing five practical ways to shift from being someone's emotional mother to being their equal partner. Time to retire that superhero cape, love. You deserve a partner, not a project. 💕
2024-11-0618 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraWho Are You?Who are you... beneath all the roles you play on a daily? Yep, we're going there. Episode 6 is juicy. It's all about excavating the you buried beneath years of "shoulds" and expectations. And because I love a good map, I'm sharing a 5-step process for getting to the core of who you really are. This episode is a compass if you've been feeling lost —in your roles —in your relationships. This one might stir up some sh*t in a good way. But don't worry, I got you 😉 ...
2024-10-3021 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraIs Your Picker Broken?Your picker isn't broken, my love. Don't worry. You are not doomed to repeat the same relationship patterns forever. Episode 5 of Love Is… is a deep dive into why the "wrong" one might be one of your greatest teachers and how every connection —even the baddies —can catapult growth. Relationships are not vending machines for happiness. But they are fertilizers for evolution. Get ready to shift your focus from "who" you're picking to how you're showing up, and discover how to use curiosity to disrupt those pesky patterns. Reminder: All timin...
2024-10-2323 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraDestigmatizing HerpesThis week, we're unpacking the herpes stigma. It's time to get real about this common condition that affects billions. Discover why herpes doesn't define you and how it might even lead to more authentic connections. We'll explore why shame can't survive in the light and how to navigate those tricky disclosure conversations with confidence. In Episode 4, we're reclaiming worth, embracing wholeness, and remembering that Love Is… always possible. Plus, I'm sharing deets about my upcoming book that's going to revolutionize how you think about sexual health conversations. Mentioned in Episode 4: ...
2024-10-1624 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraMaintaining Sexual DesireFeeling meh about your changing body? You're not alone. In this episode of "Love Is," we're diving into the nitty-gritty of sex after 40. From responsive arousal to those "sandpapery" moments, we're unpacking it all. Episode 3 is about loving your evolving body, having those squirmy conversations, and rediscovering pleasure. Because midlife sex? It's a whole new adventure. Mentioned in Episode 3: The "Three Things" exercise: staceyherrera.com/threethings "Yes, No, Maybe" list: staceyherrera.com/yesnomaybe The Pleasure Chest: thepleasurechest.com/
2024-10-0928 minSex in Real Life with Stacey Herrera7 Ways to Add More Love to Your LovingLove and heartbreak hits different after 40... or is that just me? Let's discuss! Episode 2 is all about choosing love, even when it's hard with a capital H, and embracing the possibilities. I've got 7 unexpected ways to deepen your relationships—with others and yourself. I'm also jamming about why presence might be your new superpower and how letting go could revolutionize your love life. We're just getting started! Mentioned in episode 2: Quotes: Our hearts connect with lots of folks in a lifetime, but most of us don...
2024-10-0230 minSex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraGolden Ruling YourselfEver feel like you're dragging a suitcase full of past hurts while hoping for a brighter future? In this debut episode of LOVE IS, we're unpacking that emotional baggage and making room for joy. Discover why joy isn't just a feeling – it's a radical act of self-love. We'll explore how treating yourself well creates a magnetic field that attracts the life and love you desire. Episode 1 is all about choosing joy, loving fiercely, and embracing the delicious possibility of right now. Discover why now is always the perfect time to choose love. Plus, there's a ju...
2024-09-2516 min
Sex in Real Life with Stacey HerreraOfficial Trailer: Love Is..."Love Is..." with Stacey Herrera, the podcast where we're ditching the fairytales and getting down to the nitty-gritty of love after 40.
2024-09-1801 min
Fremont BizTransforming Minds with Stacey from Harmony Mindshift on Holistic HealingIn this episode of Fremont Biz, we dive into the world of mindful healing with Stacey, the founder of Harmony Mindshift in Lander, WY. With over 30 years of experience working with both adults and children, Stacey has made a lasting impact on many lives, including her involvement in the Unaccompanied Student Initiative in Cheyenne and her work in substance abuse recovery.Now, she’s ventured on her own, outside of traditional systems, using innovative techniques like PSYCH-K® and Bio-Tuning® to help people transform their subconscious minds and overcome life’s obstacles. Stacey shares how these holistic approaches can sh...
2024-09-1425 min
What Self Care Looks Like...Season 13 | Episode 3: The Power of Intimacy with Stacey HerreraStacey Herrera, an intimacy and relationship coach, discusses the importance of intimacy in relationships and the signs that intimacy is lacking. She emphasizes that intimacy is not just about sex, but about being close and connecting with others on a deep level.
Stacey highlights the need for self-awareness in order to cultivate intimacy and navigate relationships effectively. She also discusses the role of vulnerability in maintaining intimacy and suggests ways to improve self-awareness, such as meditation, journaling, and seeking feedback from others. The conversation explores the dynamics of emotional labor and vulnerability in romantic relationships.
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2024-07-0852 min
Music Interviews with Rob Herrera on Front Row LiveStacey Ryan Interview | Creative Process for ‘I Don’t Know What Love Is’ Debut EPStacey Ryan sat down with Rob Herrera in LA for an interview on the creative process behind debut EP ‘I Don’t Know What Love Is.’
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2023-04-2726 min
Flip Your MindsetEp 26: Surviving War & Loss: Eric Herrera's Journey A Bomb Hunter's StorySend us a textJoin Eric Herrera as he shares his powerful story of bravery, loss, and love. From enlisting in the army to facing hardships both physical and emotional, Eric's journey will leave you inspired. Witness his transformation from basic training to serving in Iraq, and see how brother-like friendships and love helped him overcome grief. Don't miss this captivating story of resilience and the power of the human spirit.Unlock the Power of Mindset Transformation and Transform Your Life Today! Subscribe to Stacey Uhrig's YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/ch...
2023-04-1043 min
The Sensuality Project3 Un-obvious benefits of having herpesThis is the second episode in the herpes series. There is so much misinformation out there about herpes, consequently, there is a huge stigma that comes with being diagnosed with the virus. My intention for this series is to open dialogue about herpes and to help de-shame the experience for those who test positive.
I want to reiterate, if you test positive for herpes and you are struggling with the diagnosis, know this… you are not alone.
2019-04-2410 minThe Sensuality ProjectThe Top 5 Herpes Myths - DebunkedThis is the first in a series of episodes all centered around herpes. There is so much shame and such stigma that comes with testing positive for herpes.
This series is aimed to reduce the stigma, to let you know that you're not alone if you test positive, and to inform those of us who may be ignorant to the truth about herpes.
If you test positive for herpes and you are struggling with the diagnosis, know this... you are not alone.
Sign up to get on the Dating With Herpes waitlist.
2019-04-1512 minThe Sensuality ProjectEmbodiment, producing pleasure, & skinny dipping w/Sama Morningstar & Nicole KatzenderThis is an extra special episode... it's a 2-for! That's right, you get two chats for the price of one listen! Two amazing women... Sama Morningstar & Nicole Katzender talk candidly about embodiment, pleasure, and womanhood.
2019-04-031h 10The Sensuality ProjectHow's your heart?Your heart (literal and metaphorical) heart is a compass. It directs your emotions and dictates your choices. Your heart is the reason that you love the nouns (people, places, and things) you love.
Your heart regulates your calm and ignites your excitement. It triggers adrenaline and opens the floodgates for oxytocin. Your heart is the brains of the operation...
How often do you listen to your heart?
And when you listen, do you heed what it says?
2019-02-2736 minThe Sensuality ProjectMale Intuition, Orgasms at 29, & Copy-cat-ing w/Stacey Marie FruitsMy guest this week, the magical Stacey Marie Fruits. And Stacey and I share more than just a name, we also share a kinship for pleasure and discovery. We share a penchant for belly laughs, intimate relationships, and truth-telling. Two Stacey's for the price of one... it just doesn't get much better than that!
2019-02-131h 15The Sensuality ProjectThe truth about kink, discomfort, & being petty as f*ck w/Raven RobinsonMy guest this week, Raven Robinson, is one of my oldest internet friends. Our conversations are always epic and this chat is no exception! We get down and dirty about everything from simulated connection to her post-ashram life adjustment. Raven is one of the realest women I know... you're going to L-O-V-E her!
2019-01-162h 02The Sensuality Project...and food tastes better too!2018 is in the rearview and it wrung everyone the fuck out... including me. But we made it. So now what?
For starters, allow me to re-introduce myself... Because 2019 isn't about change, it's about consistency. That means we need to invite more on-purpose juicy deliciousness to our lives. And for me, that looks like being more analog.
2019-01-0211 minThe Sensuality ProjectFellatio, Hypersexuality, & the Porn Soundtrack w/Nia J.My guest this week is Nia J.
In this episode we explore:
⇒ Hypersexuality + being too sexually expressive
⇒ Watching other people pee & probing vaginas
⇒ Asking, receiving, & being empowered to make change
⇒ Getting what you asked for, literally
2018-12-121h 19The Sensuality ProjectEmpty-nesting, the 45-year awakening, & the spiritual experience called divorce w/Kerrie WearingMy guest this week is Kerrie Wearing who knows a thing or two about change, transformation, and deliciousness!
2018-11-281h 22The Sensuality ProjectLoving your period, being super single, & the intimacy flinch w/Stasha WashburnMy guest this week is all about that period life! Stasha Washburn is helping women to fall in love with their periods! I love a woman who rides hard for Aunt Flow! In this episode, we get down and dirty about politics, voting, #MeToo, and relationship-ing!
2018-11-141h 20The Sensuality ProjectWomb healing, immature sexuality, & rights of passage w/Sama MorningstarOn this week's episode, I'm chatting with Sama Morningstar about womb healing, trauma, and everything in between!
2018-10-311h 27The Sensuality ProjectConscious grieving, the little beige box, & the sisterhood lifeline w/Caitlin GraceWe will bury parents, friends, lovers, and children. We will mourn celebrities and strangers. We will weep and wail for the loss of life, love, and sameness. Shedding tears for what once was and what will never be. The longer we live the more familiar with sorrow we get until we become the mourned.
Caitlin Grace has returned to chat with me about death and the process of dying. And only she and I could turn an ominous topic into a love-fest complete with side-splitting laughter!
2018-10-171h 09The Sensuality ProjectImperfect mothers, grief orgasms, & the conflict of pleasure w/Jenny Eden BerkOn this episode, I am chatting with Jenny Eden Berk about the copious amount of pleasure available to us... among so many other things!
In this episode we explore:
⇒ Talking about sex with your daughters
⇒ Being unmoored by death
⇒ Going through the motions and surviving
⇒ Being gluttonous, hedonistic, and indulgent
2018-10-031h 43The Sensuality ProjectBeing monogamish & birthing the new paradigm w/Adrienne Ero-PhillipsMy guest this week is Adrienne Ero-Phillips, who is committed to healing womb space trauma and helping others to empower themselves. She is also hosting a powerful FREE online event BIRTHING THE NEW PARADIGM, which begins on Tuesday, July 31st. You can reserve your spot here. Did I mention that I'm featured in the event? 😉
2018-07-251h 08The Sensuality ProjectSquirting, positive social proof, & eating the cake too! w/Carmen ReneMy guest today is Carmen Rene a fierce diva who is owning her truth and taking names! She is about that Love-Yourself-Where-You-Are life and she struts her talk like a BOSS. Whoever said "you can't have your cake and eat it too" clearly wasn't living their best life...
2018-06-1354 minThe Sensuality ProjectThe intimacy crisis, hating on joy, & decriminalizing sex work w/Biba AttaBiba Atta, my most popular guest, is back! She also happens to be one of my closest sister-friends. And we are chatting about the intimacy crisis and all the things...
In this episode we explore:
⇒ The luxury of being intimate
⇒ The conundrum of joy
⇒ Decriminalizing sex work
⇒ The importance of tribe
2018-04-181h 09The Sensuality ProjectTithing your time, sexual limits, & making yourself cum w/JeTuan JonesIn this episode we explore:
⇒ The spiritual element of sexuality.
⇒ Receiving the offering of the darkness.
⇒ The connection between self-pleasure + business.
⇒ Self-perception + victimization.
2018-03-281h 17
The Creative ImpostorStay in the room, Stacey Herrera, Sex, Money, Creativity, The Sensuality ProjectEpisode 064. "Self-consciousness is the assassin of authenticity." ~Stacey Herrera Stacey Herrera is the producer and host of the podcast The Sensuality Project. I love it, it makes me blush and it makes me think about topics we often don't get to talk about in a constructive way. And I don't mean just sex -- but what the experience of being in this physical, sensual body is like; relationships; permission, consent and boundaries; social norms and prejudices; and so much more. Stacey is facilitating a premium community JUST FOR these kinds of conversations amongst "sister friends"...
2018-03-151h 09The Sensuality ProjectTransactional sex, surrendering control, & octopussy w/Andrea KlunderThis week my guest, Andrea Klunder and I are chatting it up about... Sex work, the sex/money connection & how business can destroy relationships. Such a fun & juicy conversation!
2018-03-141h 12The Sensuality ProjectPussy weights, sex chats, & the chihuahua effect w/Jen PavichWomanhood is a continuous rite of passage. We are in a constant state of becoming. Evolving and growing. Shrinking and expanding. We are our mothers as much as we are ourselves. On this episode, we explore the various (and sometimes hilarious) things about being a woman.
2018-02-281h 14The Sensuality ProjectAllowing pleasure, seeing diversity, & looking at vulvas w/Myola WoodsMy guest this week creates beautiful sacred space for others to reconnect with their most authentic selves in mind, body, and spirit. Myola Woods embodies love and acceptance so beautifully and this conversation inspired me in more ways than one.
2018-02-0759 minThe Sensuality ProjectEvolution, needing vs. needy, & a new communityIn this episode, I'm talking solo about where I've been and where I'm at, as well as what's coming up for The Sensuality Project.
2018-01-3136 minThe Sensuality ProjectSwallowing semen, the truth about being unattractive, + Cardi B w/ Stephanie WilliamsMy guest this week is Stephanie Williams, host of the Mocha Minutes podcast, and this might be my most candid conversation yet. We touched on some smoking hot topics without breaking a single bead of sweat!
2018-01-171h 13The Sensuality ProjectReclaiming Cunt, breaking through, & relationship-ing w/Sophia Wise OneMy guest this week is Sophia Wise One, and she is indeed wise. Her own healing set her on the path to help other women to come home to their bodies, connect with their wombs, and tap into the divinity of universal wisdom.
2018-01-101h 15The Sensuality ProjectPussy pH, funky spunk, & defining "woke" w/Winter WhiteFunky spunk, pussy scent, and body odor O-My! And relationships... it always comes back to that, right? In this episode, my guest Winter White and I go there!
2018-01-031h 19The Sensuality ProjectThe other rape, denying white privilege, & the teachings of Judy Blume w/Leigh MontavonIn this episode, I sit down for a chat with Leigh Montavon to explore rape culture, emotional labor, and coming of age.
2017-12-131h 11
Vagina TalksStacey Herrera interview Stacey Herrera does women's work. Her sensuality focused work helps women to enjoy their bodies, cultivate conscious relationships, and live delicious whole-hearted lives. She loves having shame-free conversations about subjects that should be shameless. Because life is sexually transmitted and she believes that the main ingredient to fulfillment is FULL EXPRESSION. Reach out to Stacey: Website http://staceyherrera.com The Sensuality Project Podcast- http://staceyherrera.com/podcast/ Twitter Handle: @staceynherrera Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceynherrera/ Join Sophia Wise One as she turns poiso...
2017-12-081h 35The Sensuality ProjectDepression, threesomes, & shakin' that ass w/Nikki PebblesIn this episode, my guest, Nikki Pebbles, and I explore relationships, depression, and the body love movement.
2017-12-061h 01The Sensuality ProjectCuriosity + Boundaries + Intimacy = Full ExpressionWhat does it mean to be fully expressed?
2017-11-2224 minThe Sensuality ProjectWage slavery, delivering whoop-ass, & ticking the monogamy box w/Melissa Danielle (pt 2)This is part 2 of my chat w/Melissa Danielle and we are going deeper into the expansive nature of relationships.
2017-11-1559 minThe Sensuality ProjectDefining monogamy, sex work, & women need consent too w/Melissa Danielle (part 1)This week I'm chatting w/Melissa Danielle about all things self, love, and relationships.
2017-11-0856 minThe Sensuality ProjectNaked yoga, herpes, and authentic yoni love w/Giavanni ScottOn this week's episode, I'm chatting with Giavanni Scott about all things yoni.
2017-11-011h 12The Sensuality ProjectWell-traveled lovers, storytelling, power & submission w/Isabelle RizoIsabelle Rizo is my guest this week and we had an expansive conversation about the complex nature of human beings.
2017-10-251h 19The Sensuality ProjectGetting high on social media, intimacy soup, & loving armpit funk w/Alexis PetrinOn this week's episode, I'm chatting with my sister-friend Alexis, who is fierce in her commitment to embracing the messiness of life. She does not cower when her heart gets tender and she leads by beautiful example. She's deep and she LOVES to go there!
2017-10-181h 08The Sensuality ProjectBeing black outside of America, feeling good enough, & moving your body w/Fatou SyOn this episode, my guest Fatou Sy, talks about what it's like to live in a black female body on three different continents.
2017-10-111h 09The Sensuality ProjectTaking instruction, giving head, and getting choked out w/Jay DeanDuring this chat, Jay Dean and I get down and dirty on the topic of sex.
2017-10-041h 19The Sensuality ProjectGrieving your period, longterm love, and being f*cking amazing w/Caitlin GraceMost of us aspire to be in the kind of relationships that make us feel nourished.But all too often our relationships fall short. Perhaps because we attract people who do not have the capacity to offer what we need. But if we're honest, sometimes we are the ones who do not have the capacity to hold that which we desire most.
My sisterfriend Caitlin Grace models what it looks like to not only be in partnership with someone who adores her but she is also the kind of woman who can hold space for BIG love
2017-09-271h 13The Sensuality ProjectSapiosexuality, cooking for love, bourbon, and timber w/Hilary BookerThrough conversations with others, I discover so much about myself. Which is exactly how I felt when I spoke with my new sisterfriend, Hilary Booker. In this episode we explore:
⇒ Touch-free orgasms
⇒ Diet and what works for your body.
⇒ Womb wisdom and the Divine Feminine.
⇒ The truth about falling in love.
*this episode is sponsored by the Long Story Short advice column
2017-09-201h 31The Sensuality ProjectAttention whoring, money blocks, and the duality of being seen w/Mia DavisThis week I am chatting with my sister-friend and emotional accountability partner, Mia Davis.
In this episode we explore:
⇒ All the ways that we shut off and push pleasure away.
⇒ Allowing yourself to be seen and fully expressed in an authentic way.
⇒ Making, creating, and being energetically open to receiving money.
⇒ Withholding, locking away and shutting down pleasure.
**This episode is sponsored by the Long Story Short advice column, real world advice for women like you.**
2017-09-131h 12The Sensuality ProjectNot-enoughness, the closure myth, penetration, and self-acceptance. w/Biba AttaYou ever meet someone and immediately click? Well that was exactly how I felt the first time that I met Biba Atta. We get each other's jokes, like for reals. We go together like peanut butter and homemade jelly! Which is why I invited Biba to join me for a conversation on the inaugural episode of The Sensuality Project podcast! In this episode we explore: ⇒ Why having important conversations via email/text and why it's not always a good idea. ⇒ Stress & resentment and the impact it can have on the male libido. ⇒ The closur...
2017-09-061h 11The Sensuality ProjectWelcome to The Sensuality Project Podcast!Welcome to The Sensuality Project Podcast... where the messiness of real life gets sexy!
2017-09-0605 min
VO Buzz WeeklyVoice Over Demo Spotlight: Recording a TV Promo Voice Over Demo with Stew HerreraWe're in the studio recording a tv promo demo reel with voice over superstar, Stew Herrera. In this episode of "Voice Over Demo Spotlight" we are taking you behind the scenes and showing you how to record a professional voice over demo. Our guest, Stew Herrera is a force in the voice over business in the genres of tv promos, trailers, radio imaging, commercials and narration. You can hear Stew on CBS, FSN, Fox Soccer Channel, ABC Radio and The Travel Channel. We are so excited to show you the recording process of a voice over demo...
2017-05-0700 min
The More Profitable Podcast with Stacey HarrisBeing Yourself (Even When You Change) with Stacey HerreraThis episode is not what you think it is, I'll let you know that right now. We are talking clutter, and I don't just mean the piles of junk on your desk (although Heather is going to kick ass at getting rid of that too). We're actually talking about your inner and outer clutter that keeps you from living the life you love. It's not about getting organized, it's about staying clear.A little about Stacey…Stacey Herrera is a connection coach, writer, and speaker from San Pedro, CA. She believes that healthy rel...
2014-11-1427 min