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gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowSteve on RealClearFetish! Talks RealClearPlay!Send us a textCheck out my guest appearance on RealClearTalk this week, and check out the show wherever you find this podcast!!Show notes from the episode:Steve B has been sober since May 28th, 2021, and is the host of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show. Having isolating during his drinking, he has only begun embracing his interests in leather, fetish, and kink in sobriety- something he believes is necessary for him in order to live a full, happy, and sober life. He is forever grateful for his sober fa...2024-11-2154 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowTraveling in Sobriety ft. FrankieSend us a textHey there, super sober heroes! 🦸🏽♂️ This week on Gay A, Sober Steve is thrilled to welcome back a fan-favorite guest and globetrotter, Frankie New! Steve and Frankie dive into a topic close to Frankie's heart: Traveling in Sobriety.In This Episode: Join Steve and Frankie as they discuss the unique adventures and perspectives that come with sober travel. From finding queer-friendly destinations and the occasional surprise doll museum to embracing the joy of being fully present in each moment, Frankie shares insights on the empowering freedom that sobriety brings to his journ...2024-10-3122 mingAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowSobriety, Social Media, and Self Care ft. Jaycee K ClarkSend us a textHey, Super Sober Heroes! In this episode of gAy A, Sober Steve welcomes back Jaycee K. Clark for a powerful conversation on the impact of social media on mental health and sobriety. With over 1,227 days sober, Steve sits down with Jaycee to discuss how social media plays a dual role in our lives—both as a tool for connection and a source of distraction. Jaycee, who will be one of the keynote speakers at the Here, Queer, Sober event next September, shares personal insights from her recent social media hiatus and how it tr...2024-10-2419 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowBeing "Out" in Sobriety ft. DanielleSend us a textHey there, Super Sober Heroes! In today’s episode of gAy A, host Sober Steve (with 1,227 days sober!) welcomes back Danielle—one of our long-time pod family members, to dive into a topic that many in the LGBTQ+ community can relate to: Being “Out” in Sobriety.What you’ll hear in this episode:Danielle reflects on her experiences of coming out in college and how it mirrors her sobriety journey.They discuss the importance of recovering out loud and the impact of living authentically in both your sexuality and your r...2024-10-1724 mingAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowSober Support from The Vault (Part Two)Send us a textIn this week’s episode, host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, continues the dive into gAy A's archives with Part 2 of "Sober Support from the Vault." After more than 225 episodes, Steve brings back some powerful early interviews that still resonate today. Whether you’re a new listener or a longtime fan, this episode offers a chance to revisit impactful stories from some of gAy A's earliest guests who continue to make waves in the queer sober community.Featuring clips from early interviews with Charlie Gray, Danielle (Daisy Soul Chil...2024-10-1031 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowSober Support from The Vault (Part One)Send us a textIn this exciting two-part special, gAy A is diving into the archives! Host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, takes you on a journey back to some of the earliest episodes of the show. With over 225 episodes and more than three years of content, it’s easy to miss some of the incredible stories shared by guests who have since become part of the gAy A family. So, Steve has pulled some of the best clips from his first solo episode, as well as his initial interviews with Joey, Gabriel, and Kr...2024-10-0326 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowSurviving Socializing Sober ft. SavannaSend us a textIn this week’s episode of gAy A, Sober Steve the Podcast Guy sits down with his long-time sober sibling, Savannah. With 1,215 days sober for Steve and 1,365 days for Savannah, they share an honest conversation about surviving the challenges of sobriety—especially in a world where alcohol seems to be everywhere. From navigating social events and mocktails to processing personal triggers and using sobriety tools, this episode is packed with wisdom for anyone looking to go from simply surviving to truly thriving in sobriety.Key Takeaways:Surviving a Wo...2024-09-2627 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowAI on Sobriety & Queerness: Steve interviews ChatGPTSend us a textIn this exciting and unconventional episode of gAy A, Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, puts AI to the test! Can AI really understand the intersections of queerness and sobriety? Steve and ChatGPT dive into some of the most powerful themes shared by LGBTQIA+ individuals in recovery, exploring how technology can shed light on these deep, personal experiences. Plus, can you tell the difference between AI Steve and Real Steve? Tune in and find out!Key Takeaways:•Can AI Relate?: How AI reflects on the shared queer an...2024-09-1927 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowCompetitions in Sobriety ft. ChadSend us a textIn this week's episode, host Steve, celebrating 1,202 days of sobriety, welcomes back Chad to continue their conversation on sobriety, fitness, and competition after bonding at OutSport's OutVivor event. Chad shares his experiences in various competitions, from marathons to soccer, and how pushing his limits has been a crucial part of his sober journey. He also provides insights into balancing fitness, fun, and personal growth while staying connected to recovery. The conversation delves into both solo and team competitions, how sobriety has transformed their approach to challenges, and the importance of a balanced social...2024-09-1223 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowBe True to Yourself ft. Chad RSend us a textHost Steve celebrates 1,195 days of sobriety and welcomes Chad to share his powerful journey. Together, we explore the importance of self-discovery, overcoming toxic relationships, and building a life rooted in recovery and community.Celebrating Sobriety: Steve marks 1,195 days sober and introduces Chad to the show.Starting Early: Chad’s journey to sobriety and the struggles he faced along the way.Overcoming Challenges: From toxic relationships to personal growth, Chad opens up about the hardships he conquered in early recovery.Community & Transformation: Chad’s experiences in s...2024-09-0516 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowAdult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families ft. MelindaSend us a textIn this episode, Sober Steve celebrates 1,186 days of sobriety and welcomes Melinda Dixon, the first member from Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) to join the show. Melinda shares her powerful journey toward emotional sobriety, shedding light on how ACA has profoundly shaped her life. The conversation explores the importance of emotional regulation through human connection, the power of community, and the impact of understanding one's core wounds on maintaining healthy relationships. Steve and Melinda also discuss the evolution of their queer identities in sobriety and the pride they’ve found in...2024-08-2923 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowYou Are Not Alone ft. Dale WSend us a textHost Sober Steve celebrates 1,172 days of sobriety and introduces Dale W., who is 205 days back in sobriety, sharing his powerful journey in this first part of a two-part episode.Dale opens up about his struggles with meth addiction, the isolation he faced, and the joy he found in building connections within the queer community. The conversation delves into overcoming emotional hurdles, finding acceptance, and the critical role of honesty in sobriety. Together, Steve and Dale explore the importance of authentic connections and offer a glimpse into their shared experiences within sober kink...2024-08-1529 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowTurning Your Mess Into Your Message ft. Jaycee K. ClarkSend us a textHost Sober Steve celebrates 1,164 days of sobriety and thanks listeners for their support, highlighting the new fan mail option before welcoming Jaycee K. Clark, a 34-year-old trans woman, to share her experience, strength, and hope, along with her inspiration for activism today. Jaycee discusses her past struggles with addiction, her experiences in sex work, and her journey to sobriety. She emphasizes the importance of building connections, overcoming shame, and transforming past traumas into a source of hope and activism. Jaycee also talks about her experiences navigating healthcare and dental work as...2024-08-0821 mingAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowMailbag Part 2: Sober Lessons over 200 Episodes!Send us a textIn this 201st episode of the Queer Sober Hero Show, host Sober Steve celebrates over 1,132 days of sobriety by answering questions from influential guests who’ve been significant to his podcast and recovery journey. This second part of the 200th episode mailbag extravaganza features Steve reflecting on his transformation, the ongoing battle with alcohol-related thoughts, and the joys of living a sober, authentic life while addressing key questions and providing insights on sobriety and community.Celebrate by binging past episodes by the amazing guests who asked this week's questions!Ch...2024-07-1123 mingAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowCelebrating 200 Episodes - Mailbag #1Send us a textIn this milestone episode, host Sober Steve celebrates 200 episodes with a special mailbag Q&A featuring questions from some of our amazing previous guests.Celebrate by binging past episodes by the amazing guests who asked this week's questions! Phil's Episodes: #172- A Change in Perspective #143- It’s How You Carry ItElsa's Episodes:#163 Managing Career in Sobriety#33 One Day at a TimeJimmy's Episodes:#159 Don’t Take Yourself So SeriouslyJ9's Episodes:#184- Creating with ADHD...2024-07-0428 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowCoping with Trauma and PTSD in Sobriety ft. Johnny Bear (#198)Send us a textSober Steve Chats with Johnny Bear from Belly Talk on sobriety and bear community wellnessSober Steve celebrates his 1,117 days sober by sharing his gratitude for the supportive Sarasota community and exciting Pride Month activities. He then interviews Johnny Bear from the Belly Talk podcast, who opens up about his tumultuous journey through addiction, self-discovery, and eventual sobriety. They discuss the challenges and triumphs of remaining sober while being active in social and bear communities, and share advice on building a support network, seeking help, and maintaining daily sobriety practices. Johnny...2024-06-2032 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowUnraveling Recovery ft. Christina Hayes Scott (#194)Send us a textSober Steve welcomes Christina Hayes Scott to discuss the significance of sobriety and holistic recovery. Topics include Recognizing burnoutEmotional regulationFacing challenges like breakups and health scares, Exploring the 12-step program and cross addictions like overeating. Christina shares her personal journey to sobriety, emphasizing the transformative power it holds in dealing with emotions and progressing in life. Both Sober Steve and Christina stress the importance of holistic recovery by addressing underlying issues for a successful sobriety path, alongside promoting nature connection and positive social media presence for support and...2024-05-2336 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowJournaling and Community in Sobriety ft. Alex S (#192)Send us a textSober Steve is joined by Alex Sphon to discuss recovering out loud in his community as well as tips and advice for anyone who is sober or sober curious.**Episode Highlights Include**- **The Role of Journaling in Recovery:** Alex shares how his journaling has helped him from the beginning of his sobriety journey and continues today.- **You Say I'm an Alcoholic Like It's A Bad Thing:** Alex shares how recovery out loud has changed his perception and sense of community over the years.- **Friendships in...2024-05-1624 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowGrief & ADHD Sober ft. Andy (#188)Send us a textIn this episode, Sober Steve chats with our special guest, Andy, who bravely opens up about his journey to sobriety through grief and ADHD. Andy shares his struggles with alcohol, how he found his place within the queer community, and built a network of sober friends. Andy shares his challenges of traveling while sober, and the positive shifts in lifestyle that come with sobriety. You don't want to miss Andy's inspiring story and the valuable insights shared in this episode. Steve then dives into the correlation between ADHD and addiction with some f...2024-04-1733 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowTrans Figured in Sobriety ft. Brian BSend us a textWelcome to gAy A: The Super Soberhero Show! In this episode, we delve into the inspiring story of Brian Belovitch, author of Transfigured. He is a resilient individual who has navigated through societal pressures, personal struggles, and the challenges of identity and sobriety. Brian also has the unique experience of transitioning from male to female in his youth, and then a transition back to male in sobriety.Join host Steve as he sits down with Brian to explore his transformation, his experiences and insights on sobriety, and his mission to carry a...2024-04-1137 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowSuccess in Sobriety ft. Christopher VSend us a textWelcome to gAy A: The Super Soberhero Show! In this episode, we dive into the inspiring journey of our guest, Christopher, a fragrance and skin care developer and fashion designer. He shares his experiences with sobriety, the challenges he faced, and the resilience he developed. From creating his own line of fragrances to navigating personal struggles, Christopher's story is one of strength and determination. Our host, Steve, also discusses his own sobriety journey and the impact of joining a kickball league on his perception of team sports. Plus, we'll explore the i...2024-04-0447 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowCreativity in Sobriety: Leo S on Being a Creative Sober and Uncomfortable WorkSend us a textWelcome back to gAy A: The Super Soberhero Show, where we celebrate sobriety, resilience, and creativity. In today's episode, our host, Sober Steve, shares his personal journey of sobriety, reflecting on 1026 days of continuous sobriety and the approval of his workshop on overcoming shame and trauma in the context of sex and recovery for the Florida roundup. We then dive into a captivating interview with the talented Leo S., who shares his 35-year sobriety journey intertwined with a successful music career and struggles with alcohol dependency and anxiety. Leo's story ex...2024-03-2841 mingAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowFinding My Way Back to God ft. Steve #183Send us a textIn this bonus episode of gAy A: The Super Soberhero Show, host Sober Steve shares his powerful and personal story told at his church's storyteller Sunday. From his childhood in Erie, Pennsylvania to his struggles with sobriety and finding his way back to God, Steve takes us on a raw and emotional journey. He talks about the impact of being "othered" and how it affected his sense of self-worth, his faith journey, and ultimately led to his battle with alcohol. Steve discusses his path to sobriety, the inception of his podcast, and his...2024-03-1716 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowThe Frog No More ft. Charlie Gray #180Send us a textSteve welcomes back friend of the podcast and best selling quit-lit author, Charlie Gray, to discuss how creating, publishing, and marketing his "Charlie and The Frog" trilogy impacted his sobriety.Topics discussed include:What are you grateful for today?Charlie's "zany" journey to sobriety.Picking up the pen the first timeTurning a book into a trilogyHow the creative process changed Charlie's life.How the publishing and marketing process impacted him.What would a “Lost Chapter” to one of the books look like?How has life changed since the trilogy?Turning addi...2024-02-2936 min
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero ShowSwiping Sober: Navigating Love on Queer Dating Apps #178Send us a textThis week Sober Steve, the Podcast Guy, dives into the world of dating apps for sober people in the queer community, and experiences across the different platforms and stages of our addiction and recovery.As I approach a monumental sobriety milestone, gratitude practices deepen my connections beyond the sober community with heartwarming responses from friends. Then, things get even more personal as I bring my husband on to share our experience meeting on not one but two apps and how that has evolved into our marriage today.Guest Gabriel...2024-02-1533 min