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Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 138: Keeping up with Co-Host Zoe KorsIn this episode, I reconnected with my former co-host, the wonderful Zoe Kors. Though we’ve never met in person, she feels like a kindred spirit, and I absolutely love her to bits!.It had been months since our last chat, but like old friends, the conversation flowed effortlessly. I was eager to catch up and hear what she’s been up to since we last recorded together, back when another former co-host Peter Marriott joined us.As always, we had plenty to talk about - sex, relationships, and dating in later life. We touched on t...2025-04-2335 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 100: Reuniting my former co-hostsA friend suggested that I celebrate Episode 100 of this podcast by reuniting my former co-hosts, Peter Marriott and Zoe Kors. Since Peter and I started recording the podcast in June, much has changed - some of it good and some not-so-good. For a start, Peter moved to Sheffield, where he had been a lecturer at the University for many years. He is rekindling old friendships, making lots of new ones, and dabbling in the local kink scene.Zoe, meanwhile, is on the verge of launching a new course, Practical Intimacy for Couples, is writing her...2024-08-1442 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 74: Putting the Pep back into your PartnershipOne of the most popular questions we have been asked is how do you keep sex alive in a long-term relationship? As Zoe says, when you’ve known someone for 150 years, and they are no longer mysterious, it’s common for sex to go out the window. And this is especially true if your bodies are no longer the shape they were when you met your partner, and your libido isn’t what it used to be either.But, as the cliche goes, if there’s a will, there’s a way. And couples that want to have more...2024-01-1732 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 73: What does a sexologist do?If you’ve ever wondered what a sexologist actually does, you’re about to find out as co-host Zoe Kors explains her work as a sex and intimacy coach.While she explains that sometimes issues, such as a mismatched libido, may be relatively easy to solve (in some cases), in most cases, having better sex can mean overcoming shame, trauma or abuse. Better sex is usually about more than technique, but in becoming liberated from whatever hangups, compulsions or fears may be preventing you from being fully present with yourself or another.It’s work that i...2024-01-1134 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 72: Kinks & PerversionsThis week, we share our personal experiences of some of the more bizarre perversions we have encountered in our lives and our attitude towards them. While not all perversions can be directly attributed to the widespread use of pornography, it is undoubtedly a contributing factor. Additionally, experiences from our youth, when our sexual template was being formed, may also play a part in how we experience sexual pleasure. What happens when our partner’s need for specific scenarios goes beyond what we are happy to do or gives us pleasure? How do we reconcile our se...2024-01-0429 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 71: A Question of CareThis week, we confront the question of what happens when looking after our parents takes priority over looking after our intimate relationships with our partner. Five weeks ago, Zoe’s 94-year-old mother had a fall, which left her with fractured vertebrae. Until that time, she had been relatively independent, but her injury left her unable to look after herself, and, as a result, Zoe has been thrust into the world of the American care system. Those who live in a country where elderly care is a right and not a privilege may not recognise the ch...2023-12-2029 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 70: Sex without ShameIn Zoe’s absence, I interviewed Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, author of multiple books including Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy . Her latest book is Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too!It’s almost impossible to separate shame from sex especially if you were brought up in a religious household that preached abstinence until marriage. Or if your sex education suggested that sex was bad and that good girls shouldn’t enjoy it. So it should come as no surprise that in later life, many women...2023-12-1433 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 69: When I went to see a DomOne of the benefits of growing older, if you haven’t already tried it, is discovering kink. There’s no expiration date on exploring alternative lifestyles, if you’ve always been vanilla. In this week’s episode, Zoe shares her experience with visiting a ‘Dom’ stemming initially from her professional interest before turning personal. Unlike adult lifestyles such as swinging, BDSM rarely involves sexual intercourse; the pleasure comes from impact play and other techniques that may involve using electricity, ticklers, clamps, blindfolds or restraints to heighten the senses.A word of caution - there are many fraudst...2023-12-0738 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 67: Talkin' DirtyThis week’s episode was sparked by a man Suzanne met who enjoyed providing a running narrative while they were enjoying intimacy. Although not adverse to dirty talk, this stream of consciousness became distracting. Nevertheless, it helped to get the endorphins flowing, heightened the meeting, and provided the occasional sigh for a couple of days after as she recalled what they had done. Dirty talk can have that effect, but how to do it, communicate with each other about what does or doesn’t turn you on about it, can mean the difference between super hot sex or b...2023-11-2331 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 64: UTIs and Possible CausesThis week has been all about Suzanne’s night sweats, frequent need to pee and feeling generally miserable. Hello urinary tract infection. Ladies of a certain age and men too might want to consider some of the contributing causes, and it’s not all about wiping in the wrong direction. Someone else’s saliva may also make its way into the urethra which is even more likely if the person in question, considers that inserting his tongue as far up one’s vagina as possible is supremely horny. Horny for who, Zoe and Suzanne ask. Maybe in some ide...2023-10-2633 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 62: Suzanne goes to an adult clubWhat do you do if you’re an older woman with a declining libido? If you’re Suzanne, you go to a swinging club to rev it up. While this may not be everyone’s idea of a good time, if you have an open mind and the ability to say ‘no’ when called for, it can be a fun way to spend a night and become aroused.In this episode, Suzanne shares her experience of going to a club, near Heathrow, with a playmate and a couple. She talks about the rules of engagement, her attitu...2023-10-1134 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 59: What is consensual sex?What is consent, and how do you make sure that, when it comes to sexual intimacy, there’s mutual consent? Mostly, it’s black and white - yes means yes and no means no. But what happens if one or both people are not in complete control of their facilities? Could a yes be a no once the booze or drugs have worn off? Or what happens if you like your sex on the kinky side, how familiar are you with safe words and knowing when to use them? In this frank discussion, Zoe shares her...2023-09-2033 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 58: Peter returns with an updateWhile Zoe is away at a yoga retreat, I thought it would be fun to hear from former co-host Peter about what life has been like since he moved to Sheffield. So, not so much sex from him, but a much happier-sounding Peter enjoying his new environment. While this podcast is dedicated to sex and sexual pleasure, Peter points out how much one’s living circumstances and personal happiness can help alleviate the desire for sex. Not that the feeling goes away, but perhaps it’s not so urgent when one is less lonely. 2023-09-1427 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 53: The MenopauseEvery woman’s experience of the menopause is different but, for many, it’s the impact on one’s libido that can come as a real shock. Along with hot flashes, fuzzy brain, Zoe and Suzanne discuss how the menopause affected them and how they have dealt with it.HRT or Bio-Identical hormones can certainly help, but not all women want to or are able to take them.If you’re single or in a new relationship, then you can start as you mean to go on with a new partner. But what happens in a long-t...2023-08-0234 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 53: The monkey off your backEvery woman’s experience of the menopause is different but, for many, it’s the impact on one’s libido that can come as a real shock. Along with hot flashes, fuzzy brain, Zoe and Suzanne discuss how the menopause affected them and how they have dealt with it. HRT or Bio-Identical hormones can certainly help, but not all women want to or are able to take them.If you’re single or in a new relationship, then you can start as you mean to go on with a new partner. But what happens in a long-t...2023-08-0234 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 52: Those Pesky ErectionsGetting hard, getting it up, keeping it up. There are so many ways for the penis not to work; it’s a wonder when it does. Erectile dysfunction can happen to men of all ages, but the percentages increase when men hit 40. There are many reasons for unreliable erections, but mostly they are psychological. Lack of confidence, fear, underlying trauma, stress, and anxiety can all prevent a man from having an erection and rarely because they’re not sexually attracted to their partner.In this episode, Suzanne Noble and sexologist Zoë Kors discuss unreliable erections and w...2023-07-2632 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 50: Let's Talk about KissingThere’s a cliche that says, “The best feeling is kissing someone for the first time when you’ve wanted to kiss them for a long time.” But what happens when that first kiss isn’t what you expect, disappointing, and doesn’t match your kissing style? Is a bad kiss the beginning of the end? On the podcast, sexologist Zoe Kors and Suzanne Noble discuss bad kisses they have experienced and their views on whether or not it’s possible to change how a person kisses. They share what makes a good kiss and memorable kisses. You may be sur...2023-07-1232 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 49: Talking to your kids about sexWhen is the right time to talk to our children about sex, and how should we do it? It’s estimated that most children will have viewed porn by the time they are 10; some say it’s as young as eight years old. Zoe and I discuss our own experience of learning about sex and how we talked about it with our children. Plus, she shares tips for how to broach the topic, help children to understand about pleasure (that doesn’t have to be sexual) and about the difference between what they see on screen and real-l...2023-07-0534 min
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastEpisode 48: The Clitoris is More than a ButtonWomen’s bodies are a mystery, often as much to ourselves as to others with whom we are intimate. And nowhere is arguably more mysterious than the clitoris. While most people know what it looks like from the outside, far fewer recognise that it extends into the vaginal walls, where it has more than 10k nerve endings.Together with my new co-host and author of the book Radical Intimacy, Zoe Kors, we talk about the internal workings of the clitoris, the emphasis placed on having an orgasm and whether or not we should be hung up on ho...2023-06-2733 min