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Carol RoperBUILDING STRONG HOMES PODCAST: Reconciling Relationships Between Parents and Their Adult Children – with Tamera RasmussenTamera Rasmussen, a board-certified licensed professional counselor, understands that relationships rupture because of unmet needs and helps us understand how to start the process of reconciling those relationships.2024-03-0700 minBuilding Strong HomesBUILDING STRONG HOMES PODCAST: Reconciling Relationships Between Parents and Their Adult Children – with Tamera RasmussenTamera Rasmussen, a board-certified licensed professional counselor, understands that relationships rupture because of unmet needs and helps us understand how to start the process of reconciling those relationships.2024-03-0700 min
The MOM Show with Courtney DoyleEpisode 83~ Prayer Tuesday "Relationships"Relationships can be messy and hard. Last week my guest shared she is praying for relationships on all levels: "I do believe that if there's one thing that the enemy is very successfully attacking right now, it's relationships, marriages. Parent-child relationships, sibling relationships, church leadership. There's a lot of division and I'm praying very specifically and strategically that we would be delivered from that attack and that our relationships would grow stronger.” Tamera Rasmussen You have heard the saying hurt people hurt people? We have to find healing for ourselves, we have to unmask our own...2023-05-1608 minThe MOM Show with Courtney DoyleEpisode 82~Unmasking Brokenness with Tamera RasmussenHave you been broken? Do you battle insecurity that prevents you from answering God's call on your life? Are you in a unique role as a Mom, where blessings and challenges coincide? Do you know you are loved and accepted for who you are by God, our loving Father? So many questions, and so many topics are explored in this conversation with Tamera. As a practicing psychotherapist, business owner, author, speaker, wife, and mama. Tameras greatest passions are her family and encouraging women in their roles as wives and mot...2023-05-0959 min
Strong and Free LeadersEpisode 10: Tamera RasmussenTamera is a practicing psychotherapist, a parenting and relationship coach, writer, podcaster, speaker, and ministry leader. She is passionate about helping individuals and families heal from generational trauma, emotional and behavioral issues, and attachment trauma that makes being in and navigating relationships difficult.
We talk about:
4 signs that your team member needs help
The power of “are you okay” and “I see you”.
Why we MUST be honest with ourselves
Maturity in Leadership
Mental Illness
Want to connect with Tamera...2022-09-2154 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageEpisode 22 Difficult Conversations: Talking About Sex With Little OnesTalking about sex begins with understanding the human body
It is never too early to start teaching your kids about their sexuality
Name parts appropriately – eliminating shame, when we are afraid to name genitalia or talk about bodies it teaches our children to be ashamed/uncomfortable with it too, teaching pride in gender, protection from predators
Teaching healthy curiosity - get ahead of the bus
Touching and exploration is normal - guide appropriate curiosity
Don’t freak out or assume deviancy or sexual abuse because of curiosity – openly communicate about...2022-07-2530 minOut of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageEpisode 21 Difficult Conversations: The Importance of Talking About Sexual DysfunctionPreventing sex is one thing, and it is an important thing, but there are other unrealized consequences of leaving our kids ill-equipped to manage the complexities of sex even if they choose to wait. There is an incorrect assumption that if our sons and daughters wait to have sex that everything will come naturally and be great. This just isn’t true, spending years face to face with broken women and couples whose marriages are struggling and failing due to intimacy and sexual dysfunction issues has taught me that we are not doing enough to support our young people wh...2022-07-1230 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations : My Kid Had Sex, Now What?Things don’t always go the way we want them to, we can say and do all of the right things but nothing is a guarantee, your child has free will, they are going to make their own decisions and sometimes that leads to pre-marital sex. Make sure the door is open to them if they decide to take this path. Many parents with strong convictions take a passive-aggressive or aggressive approach to these situations. Their child feels abandoned and rejected which just leads to more unhealthy sexual behavior. Kids often turn to sex to try to fill an em...2022-06-2723 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations: Lust, Love, and the Emotional Consequences of Sex for TeensBe real with them about the emotional consequences of having sex outside of marriage. Most kids have a friend or know of kids who hop from relationship to relationship. One week they love each other and the next they are broken up. Using an example that they can connect to is more productive than explaining it on our terms. Since you have already explained the bonding process and God’s design they will be able to connect with the idea that big feelings are real but that they can change rapidly.
Talk to them about the fact th...2022-06-1322 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations: Protection, Morality, and Desire for TeensTo read a full outline of this loaded episode visit www.outofthisworldrelationships.com, a full summary will be available there!
Contact me for details about Relationship and Parenting Coaching, suggestions, and questions.
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@tamera.nicole.rasmussen
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2022-05-3022 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations : Filling in the Blanks of Teen SexTo read a full outline of this loaded episode visit www.outofthisworldrelationships.com a full summary will be available there!
Contact me for details about Relationship and Parenting Coaching, suggestions, and questions.
Please leave a written review and share with parent friends who need it!
@tamera.nicole.rasmussen
tameras@cents@gmail.com2022-05-1627 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations : Changing Bodies Part 2So often we see puberty as a male and female issue, mom handles the girls and dad handles the boys. When we function this way we are missing a huge opportunity to connect with our opposite gender kids and model gender roles in marriage. When fathers are involved and present for their daughters - willing to comfort them, shop for feminine products, and are unashamed of them becoming a young woman, their daughters will gravitate toward men with similar qualities later in life.
When mothers are involved and present for their sons - able to express compassion, u...2022-05-0226 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations : Changing Bodies Part 1Boys and puberty – Boys struggle with many of the same things that girls do in puberty. Unfortunately, there is generally very little attention paid to their development process when it comes to emotions, shame, insecurity, mood, and bullying. It is important to acknowledge that development happens for both genders and as parents we need to be aware and meet the needs of sons and daughters through this transition.
Girls and puberty – Girls struggle with intense changes in their emotions, an increase in shame, often related to body changes, insecurity, and confusion or angst over starting their period.
2022-04-2532 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations : Shaping Healthy Dating for Kids Part 2I believe that healthy sexual behavior and relationships are possible for the next generation if we are just willing as parents to put in the work.
One of the biggest issues with teen dating is a lack of foundation work in the primary years and parents being too hands-off with their teens. 16 is the age when most kids gain a lot more freedom, they start driving and being more independent but it is also a time when kids tend to be most at risk.
We don’t need to treat our teens like adults. They are...2022-04-1828 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations : Shaping Healthy Dating for Kids Part 1Most sources agree that the average age of virginity loss in the United State is 16. Not surprisingly one of the main factors attributed to early sex is a lack of sex education at school and at home. You may also find it interesting that boys generally lose their virginity first followed by girls.
You may be wondering why I am focusing on dating as a precursor to talking about sex with your kids, but think about it attraction and dating actually come first which is a fact that is largely overlooked when we think of sex education...2022-04-1124 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageDifficult Conversations : How to Handle Sexual Situations Forced on Your KidsThis week's episode is a little bit different and unexpected. Navigating the world our kids live in can be challenging, curveballs lurk around every corner. I wanted to share a recent parenting experience that highlights just what our kids are up against. It can be difficult to sort through our fears and values to confront issues our kids face in a healthy way. We have a choice, we can lean into discomfort and equip our kids to manage it or we can put our heads in the sand and do everything we can to limit exposure.
...2022-04-0416 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageGood Sex, Bad Sex, Godly Sex : Preparing for the Sex TalkHaving "the talk" is an opportunity to build relationship and intimacy with your kids.
You must first understand your own level of comfort talking about sex. Take some time to reflect on your own relationship with and feelings about sex, how you plan to speak to your child, what your standards surrounding sex are, and your confidence level. There is no shame in practicing, making notes, or processing these feelings with a therapist, pastor, friend, or co-parent.
"The talk" should not be up to just one parent, sex is between a man and his wife a...2022-03-2830 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageGood Sex, Bad Sex, Godly Sex – The Basis of Godly SexHebrews 13:4 and 1 Corinthians 6:18 tell us that sex was designed for marriage. Period. Any sex outside of those boundaries is sin. Most Christians are aware of this but don't fully understand the why.
It isn’t just that God wants to control us or prevent us from having fun. Quite the opposite, He wanted sex to be a sacred unique experience that binds us together with our spouse, the person we vow to spend the rest of our life and our burdens with. He desired it to be for our good and for our pleasure and knows exactly ho...2022-03-2116 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageGood Sex, Bad Sex, Godly Sex - The Basis of Good SexTalk about sex – Get comfortable with the idea of leaning into discussions about your sex life with your spouse. It is the least discussed topic in most homes and is a leading cause for separation and divorce.
Sex was meant to be fun and satisfying – church and religious stigma have created a distorted view that satisfying and exciting sex is for the sinner but it was created by God as a beautiful gift for the married.
Satan has successfully dismantled the perception of sex and Christians need to fight that narrative by being open about sex...2022-03-1432 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageGood Sex, Bad Sex, Godly Sex - The Basis of Bad SexSex as reward and punishment – bleeds into parent-child/control mechanism and loses value and satisfaction, becomes transactional – decreases vulnerability, desire, and frequency
Unrealistic Expectations –We are bombarded with images and situations that appear so satisfying which leads to unrealistic expectations in our own very real, non-produced relationships.
Casual sex requires no vulnerability it's simply carnality in action.
There are consequences of emotionally void sex and emotionally void sex can happen even in marriage – Depression, low self-esteem, anxiety
Imprinting plays a significant role in how we perceive, respond to, talk about, and pursue se...2022-03-0729 min
Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageMarriage Bootcamp Part 4: 7 Myths About SexNot only is sex one of the leading causes for divorce it is also one of the most painful aspects of marriage. It is one of the first things most couples seek from each other and one of the first things that they fight about.
Myths about sex
1. If you wait to have sex until marriage it will be perfect and you will have no issues– Nope
The divorce rate for single partner marriage are by far the lowest but sexual issues can still exist.
2. If you test drive a few pe...2022-02-2822 min
Building Strong Homes: Blueprints to Strengthen Your Faith and Family podcastReconciling Relationships Between Parents and Their Adult Children with Tamera RasmussenTodays' guest is Tamera Rasmussen, a board certified licensed professional counselor, motivational speaker and podcaster. She has an incredible story of overcoming a difficult childhood that led to her career in counseling. She dropped out of school at 16, worked two jobs and homeschooled herself so she could go to college. She got engaged when she was 17 but lost her fiancé in a tragic farming accident seven days before their wedding. Later, she met her now husband, who was a widower with a baby and a toddler. All of Tamera's struggles, experiences and education have taught her to learn to n...2022-02-221h 04Out of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageMarriage Bootcamp Part 3: 9 Keys To a Better Relationship Part 37. Pick your battles.
Finances, pornography, infidelity, and substance abuse are among the leading causes for divorce. Those are things worth fighting against.
Too many people are trying to fight these battles alone, shame embarrassment fear of judgment might keep you from seeking the help you need. If that’s you, don’t be stubborn, get help!
More women file for divorce than men and I don’t think it’s a coincidence that men usually refuse to attend marriage conferences/retreats/counseling at much higher rates than women.
Pride is the vehicle of...2022-02-2125 minOut of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageMarriage Bootcamp Part 3: 9 Keys To a Better Relationship Part 2This episode covers some pretty controversial topics and is by no means a complete review. There may be things that aren’t discussed here but I encourage you to delve further into the subject if you find yourself wanting more information or clarification.
This week we will explore three more of the 9 keys to a better relationship.
Key number four
Embrace individual strengths and differences. Don’t get caught up in stereotypes.
Stereotypes can lead to misery, when we expect our spouse to fit in a box they don’t belong in, we are unable to appreciate them for who they a...2022-02-1413 minOut of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageMarriage Bootcamp Part 2: 9 Keys To a Better Relationship Part 1Marriage Bootcamp Part 2: 9 Keys To a Better Relationship Part 1 This week we will explore three of 9 keys to a better relationship.
*How you talk about your spouse to others matters..
Proverbs 18:21 - Death and life are in the power of the tongue.
Matthew 33:34 “For the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart.”
Ephesians 4:29 - Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
Bitterness, hurt, and rejection, can show up as ne...2022-02-0715 minOut of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageMarriage Bootcamp Part 1 - The Love TriangleLove is the greatest commandment, but why? God created man and woman and the covenant of marriage; we need love, we are wired for belonging and connection. God designed us to be in relationship with him and other people, to experience the security of unconditional love. It isn’t for His sake that he commands us to "love one another" it is for ours.
Luke 6:27-28
27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
2022-01-3138 minOut of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageIntroductionHey sisters! In this episode, I will tell you a little bit about myself and what inspired this podcast. We are all wired for belonging and relationship which is a beautiful thing - when things are going well. Would you agree that relationships are messy and some things are much easier to talk about and deal with than others? Does the idea of talking to your kids about sex or to your spouse about what you do, and do not like, in the bedroom make your stomach turn? Do you fly off the handle and struggle to know how...2022-01-2410 minOut of This World Relationships - Unlocking God's Design for Parenting and MarriageTrailerFaith, Family, Friendships, Marriage, Parenting.. nothing is off the table. In this podcast Tamera will be exploring some of life's messiest, most uncomfortable relationship topics. God desires for us to have whole, healthy relationships but that can be much easier said than done. Each episode will be packed with practical insights, clinical advice, and biblical truths that will help take your relationships to the next level and out of this world! Find Tamera on Instagram @tamera.nicole.rasmussen or on Facebook @tameranicolerasmussen. Bring your questions, what do you want to know? Nothing is off the table! tameras2cents@gmail...2022-01-2301 min