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Intimate Judaism(64) From Shame to Self: Navigating Sexuality After Leaving OrthodoxySara Glass, author of “Kissing Girls on Shabbat” was raised in the Hasidic community of Gur. Today, she is trauma therapist, identifies as queer, and though she is no longer religious herself, works with women along the religious and LGBTQ spectrum. We spoke to Sara about the risks and dangers of sexual experimentation when leaving religious life, and the complexities of integrating being gay and religious.
2025-06-2247 min
Orthodox ConundrumHaving “The Talk”: How Should Jewish Parents Talk to Kids About Sex? (Co-produced with Intimate Judaism)Please note that this episode discusses sensitive topics and uses explicit language. Listener discretion is advised. Today, the Orthodox Conundrum is releasing a new episode of Intimate Judaism that my Intimate Judaism co-host, Talli Rosenbaum, and I recorded with Yonina Rubinstein, where we explore how parents can approach conversations about sexuality with sensitivity, clarity, and confidence. How can we talk to kids about sex in a way that’s honest, healthy, and grounded in Jewish values? Yonina offers practical strategies for different ages and stages, explains the importance of modeling a positive attitude toward intimacy, an...
2025-05-141h 04Intimate Judaism(63) Having “The Talk”: How Should Jewish Parents Talk to Kids About Sex?How do we talk to our kids about sex in a way that’s honest, healthy, and grounded in Jewish values? In this episode of Intimate Judaism, Talli and Scott speak with Yonina Rubinstein to explore how parents can approach conversations about sexuality with sensitivity, clarity, and confidence. We discuss practical strategies for different ages and stages, the importance of modeling a positive attitude toward intimacy, and how halacha (Jewish law) and tradition can serve as a guide—not a barrier—to raising sexually healthy children. Whether you’re a parent, educator, or just thinking ahead, this episode offers an essen...
2025-05-141h 03
Matan: One on One Parsha PodcastEpisode 214 - Parshat Acharei Mot-Kedoshim: Jewish Sexual Values and Ethics in this Modern MomentThis episode brings together the Matan Podcast with the hosts of Intimate Judaism, R. Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum, to discuss the tensions between Jewish sexual ethics and modern sexual trends. What is a Jewish sexual ethic and how much is it related to what appears in the verses of the Torah? What are some of the biggest challenges facing the Orthodox world in the realm of sexuality and what central values would we like to preserve? These are some of the heavy questions we try to tackle with candor in this conversation.
Our Vayikra series focuses on the lived...
2025-05-0555 minMatan: One on One Parsha PodcastEpisode 214 - Parshat Acharei Mot-Kedoshim: Jewish Sexual Values and Ethics in this Modern MomentThis episode brings together the Matan Podcast with the hosts of Intimate Judaism, R. Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum, to discuss the tensions between Jewish sexual ethics and modern sexual trends. What is a Jewish sexual ethic and how much is it related to what appears in the verses of the Torah? What are some of the biggest challenges facing the Orthodox world in the realm of sexuality and what central values would we like to preserve? These are some of the heavy questions we try to tackle with candor in this conversation.
Our Vayikra series focuses on the lived...
2025-05-0455 minIntimate JudaismTzniut: Modesty, Female Masturbation, and the Media (CLASSIC EPISODE)Orthodox girls and women are traditionally taught to dress modestly in order to avoid attracting the male gaze and to keep men from sinful thoughts or behaviors. These messages, according to Rabbanit Oriya Mevorach, an educator and doctoral student of Gender and Philosophy, objectify and sexualize women and girls, and are actually influenced by Western society’s sexuality discourse. Moreover, the effect of these messages present men as sexual beings while female sexuality is ignored. Rabbanit Mevorach, who studies sexuality and culture, presents an alternate approach to teaching modesty to young women in their teenage and young adult years. Sh...
2025-04-2745 minIntimate Judaism(62) Love on the spectrum: Navigating intimacy with a neurodivergent spouseIf you are on the autism spectrum, or know or suspect your spouse may be, intimacy and communication may present challenges. In this episode, Talli and Rabbi Scott speak with Tzippora Price, an expert on neurodivergent couples, to learn more. They identify some of the behaviors associated with Autism Spectrum Disorder, as well as some challenges that may occur when one spouse is neurodivergent (and whether these problems can likely be avoided if both spouses have ASD). They also address problems unique to Orthodox Jews on the spectrum, how these issues affect a couple’s sex life, and some mec...
2025-03-2656 min
Misconceptions36. Developing a Healthy Intimate Life in a New Marriage Talli Yehuda Rosenbaum is an individual and couple therapist and currently certified as a sex therapist and sex therapy supervisor by International Associates of Psychosexual Therapists (IAPST) and is a certified as a sex therapist by the Israeli Society for Sex Therapy (ISST). She is co-author with Dr. David Ribner of the book “I am For My Beloved: A Guide to Enhanced Intimacy for Married Couples.” and co-editor with Dr. Anna Padoa of the Springer textbook entitled “The Overactive Pelvic Floor.” She has authored over 40 journal articles and several book chapters on trauma, sexual pain disorders, sexual health, unconsummated marriage, and sexua...
2025-02-2149 minIntimate Judaism(61) Did I Marry the Wrong Person?In this episode, Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn blend Jewish wisdom with modern psychology to explore marital doubt, intimacy challenges, and when to stay or go. Tune in for practical insights on transforming even the most challenging relationships.
2025-02-0951 minIntimate Judaism(60) "Happy Wife, Happy Life"?Many contemporary how-to guides to Jewish marriage in the Orthodox world encourage husbands to shoulder full responsibility for their wives’ happiness at the expense of their own. In the yeshiva world this is known as “being mevater.” Though teaching young men to be unconditionally kind and respectful to their wives sounds progressive, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum discuss the potential problems with this approach.
2025-01-1447 minIntimate Judaism(59) Will I Marry the Wrong Person?Choosing a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions one makes in life. Yet the process of dating, building a relationship and deciding to marry requires time and good relational skills. Listen as Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum discuss dating and getting engaged.
2024-12-0854 minIntimate Judaism(58) Why not a Threesome, Sex in the Dark, Hating Nidah Laws and More: An Intimate Judaism Q&AIn our latest Q&A episode, Talli and Scott address some of the many questions submitted by listeners regarding Judaism and intimacy. Among the issues they discuss are repairing sexuality after 15 years of “doing it wrong,” consensual threesomes, sex therapy versus couples therapy, when a wife wants sex more than her husband, tubal ligation, looking at porn to get in the mood, and much more. To watch Talli's webinar on Relationship Renewal, Commitment, & Forgiveness in Elul, click here. Visit IntimateJudaism.com for the full podcast archive, shownotes, a free men's mikvah checklist, and more.
2024-10-301h 02Intimate Judaism(57) Hugging with a shinui: Halachic leniency in times of distressAccording to Rav Yoni Rosensweig, founder of Maagalei Nefesh, an organization that confronts issues pertaining to mental health and halacha, “Jewish law is not meant to cause harm.” War, mental health concerns, and emotional and relational distress are factors that contribute to the need to seek leniencies in halachic practice in a way that reduces, rather than increases, potential harm. Listen to the premiere episode of Season 7 of Intimate Judaism as Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum discuss mental health, intimacy and Halacha with our guest, Rav Yoni Rosensweig.
2024-09-101h 05Intimate Judaism(56) Inviting Single Religious Women to the Sexuality ConversationThe discourse on marital intimacy and sexuality in Judaism has become a normative topic of conversation. Rabbanit Shayna Goldberg, an educator and spiritual advisor at Migdal Oz, a Midrasha of higher learning for young women in Gush Etzion, believes that conversations about desire, sex and sexuality are relevant for unmarried women as well, and not just as part of premarital education after they have become engaged. In this episode, we discuss the importance of normalizing and addressing issues of sexuality for single women.
2024-06-031h 09Intimate Judaism(55) Loving Again After Loss: Dating and Remarriage After WidowhoodLosing one’s spouse is one of life’s most difficult and painful experiences. The process of grieving includes feelings of loneliness, abandonment, and isolation. While grieving the loss of a spouse, one also mourns the loss of identity as a member of an intimate partnership and acceptance of a new identity as a widow/er. Well-intentioned friends and family members may urge those who have lost a spouse to “move on,” while others may pass judgment when they begin to date or find a new partner. We are grateful to Marc Tobin and Jodi Wachspress, both of whom lost the...
2024-04-0959 minIntimate JudaismThe Sex Strike Controversy: An Intimate Judaism Live ConversationThe infamous “Sex Strike” was recently spearheaded by influencer Adina Miles, AKA “Flatbush Girl,” in order to apply communal pressure to men and their rabbis to free Malky Berkowitz, who has been refused a get for four years. This initiative has created a great deal of outrage in Jewish Orthodox communities, and the “responsa” on social media platforms has been passionate and robust. Some have expressed concern that withholding sex, even for one night, is liable to destroy more marriages. Others see the outrage as the problem, and point out the lack of such fury over get refusal. Join Rabbi Scott Ka...
2024-03-1241 minIntimate JudaismThe Failure of Sexual Health Organizations to Condemn Sexual Violence (crossover episode with Orthodox Conundrum)After October 7th, Jews around the world have felt besieged by some erstwhile allies, as some have been silent in the face of rampant antisemitism, and others have openly supported Hamas and its genocidal goals. While there have been many who openly support Jews and Israel, the war in Gaza has also provided a moment of reckoning as we discovered some unhappy surprises about people we thought were our friends. A good example is the reaction to October 7th by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, or AASECT. As an organization dedicated to healthy...
2024-03-051h 06
Orthodox Conundrum"It Was Never 'Heal the World' at the Expense of Yourself": Antisemitism in AASECT - and Fighting Back - with Talli Rosenbaum, Dr. Logan Levkoff, and Dr. Shoshana Bulow (197)After October 7th, Jews around the world have felt besieged by some erstwhile allies, as some have been silent in the face of rampant antisemitism, and others have openly supported Hamas and its genocidal goals. While there have been many who openly support Jews and Israel, the war in Gaza has also provided a moment of reckoning as we discovered some unhappy surprises about people we thought were our friends. A good example is the reaction to October 7th by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, or AASECT. As an organization dedicated to healthy...
2024-03-041h 04Intimate Judaism(54) Sex Positive Premarital Kallah InstructionIn many Orthodox communities, premarital sex education taught by Kallah teachers is limited to ensuring wedding night “success” and encouraging strict observance of Nidah laws in order to "guarantee" sexual satisfaction. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum as they interview two Kallah instructors, Dr. Hadassah Fromson and Dr. Yosefa Wruble, who discuss how they integrate discussions about sexual pleasure and satisfaction together with promoting commitment to traditional observance. Sharing their research and anecdotal experiences, they demonstrate that religion and sex positivity are not contradictory, but are in fact complementary.
2024-02-1356 minIntimate Judaism(53) Navigating Sexual Desire Discrepancies with a Focus on the Emotional Relationship, with Dr. Laurie WatsonIn last month's episode, we discussed many of the physical, psychological and social factors that can contribute to sexual desire discrepancy in couples. This month, we are taking a deep dive in to the role of emotional intimacy, attachment styles and relational dynamics on desire. Joining us is expert Dr. Laurie Watson, sex therapist, author, and co-host of the popular Foreplay Radio podcast.
2024-01-0947 minIntimate Judaism(52) Why Doesn’t My Wife Want to Have Sex With Me?When there are desire discrepancies between couples, women are often identified as the partner with less sexual desire. Yet the experience of desire may be different for men and women, and the expectation that desire should be equally matched can create feelings of frustration and rejection. The right question may not be “Why doesn’t she want?” but rather, "What does she want and how does she want it?" In this episode we discuss the fluidity of female desire, how biological and hormonal factors play a role, the differences between spontaneous and responsive desire, and the difference between cognitive motiva...
2023-12-0552 minIntimate Judaism(51) Love in War: Strengthening Security and Connection Amidst Trauma and ThreatAs Jews in Israel and worldwide absorb the realities of the horrors of threat, murder and violation, it seems surreal to think or talk about intimacy. Yet, in the face of threat, the safety and security of a committed partnership can be a comforting resource. And in the confrontation with death, people sometimes seek the vitality and life affirming energy that sexual relations provide. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum for a discussion on intimacy, sex and peace in the home during war. Spoiler- it’s all normal.
2023-10-2142 min
Orthodox ConundrumThere Was Before... And Now There's After: Reflections on the War in Israel with Talli Rosenbaum and David Lange (177)In this special episode of the Orthodox Conundrum, Scott spoke with Talli Rosenbaum to discuss ways to deal with the very real trauma and emotional distress that the war in Israel has caused, whether or not we live in Israel. He also talked with David Lange of Israellycool.com to get a brief overview of the way that this conflict has been portrayed in the media and over social media - both the good and the distressing. Scott also offers his own reflections on what the war means, and how people who love Israel can help her at this...
2023-10-0947 minIntimate JudaismShould We Sympathize with Sexual Offenders? (Special Episode)A podcast hosted by an Orthodox comedian recently featured a controversial interview with a child sex offender. In response, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum created a panel to discuss whether there are potential benefits to learning more about people who struggle with attraction to minors and do not offend, as well as those who do. (This episode contains explicit material regarding sexual abuse that some readers may find disturbing.) Show your support for Intimate Judaism by becoming a patron on Patreon! Go to https://www.patreon.com/intimatejudaism to learn more.
2023-08-201h 13
Orthodox ConundrumShould We Sympathize with Sexual Offenders? (Special Episode)A podcast hosted by an Orthodox comedian recently featured a controversial interview with a child sex offender. In response, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum created a panel to discuss whether there are potential benefits to learning more about people who struggle with attraction to minors and do not offend, as well as those who do. (This episode contains explicit material regarding sexual abuse that some readers may find disturbing.) Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108).
2023-08-201h 16Intimate JudaismAncient Love in Modern Times: Celebrating Love on Tu B'Av (BONUS EPISODE)The 15th of Av , also known as Tu B’Av, is a minor Jewish festival which in modern day Israel is celebrated as a holiday of romantic love, not unlike Valentine’s Day. In this mini bonus episode, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum discuss the Mishnaic origins of this day, and compare ancient and modern day beliefs about love. To purchase I Am For My Beloved: A Guide To Enhanced Intimacy For Married Couples by Talli Rosenbaum and David Ribner, go to http://www.urimpublications.com/i-am-for-my-beloved-a-guide-to-enhanced-intimacy-for-married-couples.html. For the Hebrew version, go to http://www.urimpub...
2023-08-0231 minIntimate Judaism“Date 'Em 'Til You Hate 'Em”: A Visit with Netflix Star Aleeza Ben Shalom (BONUS EPISODE)Not since Yenta from Fiddler on the Roof has there been a matchmaker as famous as Aleeza Ben Shalom! Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum for a rollicking discussion with the colorful, engaging and entertaining host of “Jewish Matchmaking.”
2023-05-2131 minIntimate Judaism(50) Like Fine Wine: Sex After 50What happens to the sex life of couples during middle age? Does the familiarity of long-term marriage breed sexual boredom ? Does aging reduce sexual interest? What happens when intimacy is no longer mediated by nidah laws? Listen to Rabbi Scott interview Talli as she presents surprising research findings and insights that will dispel myths about sex in midlife and beyond.
2023-05-0250 minIntimate Judaism(49) Sexual Compatibility, Condom Use, Defining Jewish Sex, and MoreIn our annual Q&A episode, Talli and Scott answer many questions and discuss numerous issues dealing with Judaism and intimacy, including whether avoiding sex before marriage means a likelihood of being sexually incompatible with your spouse, how to proceed when you start off shomer negiah and then... you're not, finding porn on your husband's intenet history, coping with changes in libido, defining Jewish sex, the halachic attitude towards using a condom, and more. We appreciate your many questions, and encourage you to continue being in contact with us.
2023-03-1956 min
The MoPodRabbi Scott Kahn & Talli Rosenbaum on Intimate JudaismRabbi Scott Kahn & Talli Rosenbaum join The MoPod to discuss their podcast - Intimate Judaism. They speak about topics that many leaders in the Orthodox world don't speak about in a public forum. You don't want to miss this.
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2023-03-1435 minIntimate Judaism(48) Is There a Modern Orthodox Shidduch Crisis?The shidduch crisis refers to the phenomenon in the Orthodox Jewish community whereby eligible single persons, especially women, have difficulty finding a suitable spouse. While there are definite differences between the way dating for marriage is approached and conducted in the Hasidic, Yeshivish and Modern Orthodox worlds, there are also some similarities. Recently, a research study was conducted to better understand and promote awareness regarding the struggles that many Orthodox Jewish daters face across the religious spectrum. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum, together with study authors Dr. Michael Salamon and Dr. Naomi Rosenbach, as they discuss the resear...
2023-02-2150 minIntimate Judaism(47) Unmarried and Dating in Midlife: Navigating Intimacy and SexualityWhether divorced, widowed or never married, seeking a new relationship is complex. While each individual has his or her own unique experiences and perspectives, being unpartnered in midlife usually represents mourning for having loved and lost, or not yet having experienced the joy of partnered intimacy. Added to this for Orthodox Jews, are conflicts around non-marital physical touch. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum in a discussion meant to encourage compassion to self and other, inclusion and hope. Check out https://www.intimatejudaism.com/ for the full podcast archive, show notes, and more. And w...
2023-01-1547 min
Hope to RechargeSex & Intimacy in the Orthodox Jewish Community: What’s working, What’s not working & What needs to change (Talli Rosenbaum)Talli Rosenbaum, an individual, couples and certified sex therapist, who deals mainly with human relationships, and in particular, intimate relationships, joins us in this eye opening episode that confronts a controversial topic that needs exploration. Suppressed and overt traumas of all kinds can be often be triggered and revealed in intimate and personal sexual situations. Even more, one's first sexual experience in of itself, can be perceived as a traumatic event, if conversation, mutual expectations, assumptions and desires are not properly addressed in advance.Intimacy and the dynamics between marriage partners have been a taboo subject in...
2023-01-1050 min
Hope to RechargeSex & Intimacy in the Orthodox Jewish Community: What’s working, What’s not working & What needs to change (Talli Rosenbaum)Talli Rosenbaum, an individual, couples and certified sex therapist, who deals mainly with human relationships, and in particular, intimate relationships, joins us in this eye opening episode that confronts a controversial topic that needs exploration. Suppressed and overt traumas of all kinds can be often be triggered and revealed in intimate and personal sexual situations. Even more, one's first sexual experience in of itself, can be perceived as a traumatic event, if conversation, mutual expectations, assumptions and desires are not properly addressed in advance.Intimacy and the dynamics between marriage partners have been a taboo subject in...
2023-01-1050 minIntimate Judaism(46) Want, Will, Should or Must: Is the Sex You Are Having Really Consensual?Numerous sources in our tradition demonstrate that sex in marriage must be mutual and consensual, and at no time can sex be forced or coerced. However, If a woman has been taught that she must do what her husband wants and she is responsible for protecting him from sin, she will fear the consequences of saying no. In this episode, Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn discuss how non-consensual sexual dynamics can be built in to the system even as normative Jewish law forbids coercive sex. We invite you to listen to this thought provoking and important discussion about th...
2022-12-1853 minIntimate Judaism(45) Navigating Relational and Sexual Intimacy During Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Postpartum PeriodPregnancy and childbirth are profound events in the life of a couple. The physical, psychological and hormonal changes that occur to women during pregnancy and in the postpartum period can impact both partners and affect emotional and sexual intimacy. Couples must learn to adjust to a changed family system and a new identity as parents. Observant Jewish couples are additionally affected by laws that restrict touch during childbirth and in the postpartum period. In this episode, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum discuss how pregnancy and childbirth as well as restrictions on physical touch, can affect relational intimacy and s...
2022-11-0850 minIntimate Judaism(44) Infertility and RelationshipsInfertility and pregnancy loss affects relationships: with self, God, partner, family, friends and community. In part 2 of this two part series, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum discuss the general implications of infertility and pregnancy loss on these relationships and on marital intimacy and sexuality. Listen to Talli and Rabbi Scott discuss this as well as the specific considerations for observant Jewish couples. Become an Intimate Judaism Patreon subscriber to get additional episodes, merch, and more! Just go to https://www.patreon.com/intimatejudaism.
2022-10-0346 minIntimate Judaism(43) Infertility and Pregnancy Loss (Part One): A Conversation with Dr. Aimee BaronThe liturgy we recite on Rosh Hashana includes references to fertility and childbirth. God remembers Sarah, Rachel and Chana by answerIng their prayers for a child. The poem “Hayom harat olam,” the ‘birth day’ of the world, evokes images of pregnancy. For individuals and couples struggling with infertility or pregnancy loss, this can be triggering, painful and isolating. In the first of two episodes on infertility and pregnancy loss, Talli and Scott speak with Dr. Aimee Baron, founder of I Was Supposed To Have A Baby, a nonprofit organization that utilizes social media to support Jewish individuals and families going thro...
2022-09-1341 minIntimate Judaism(42) ‘The Surrendered Wife’ and Marital Intimacy: Hierarchal Power Dynamics Versus Equal and Mutual PartnershipLast month, Orthodox Jewish journalist Avital Chizhik-Goldschmidt published an article in The Atlantic highlighting the popularity of Laura Doyle’s 2001 New York Times bestseller, ‘The Surrendered Wife,’ among Orthodox Jewish women. Doyle’s book provides a practical guide to marital bliss and harmony, suggesting that women stop being critical and demanding of their husbands, respect and trust them, and regularly engage in self-care and “be vulnerable.” Many would consider this to be sound advice, and Doyle’s devotees on social media have reported that their marriages underwent a complete transformation after reading the book and applying its principles. In so...
2022-05-1754 min
Intimate Judaism(41) Mindfulness, Pleasure and Orgasm: The Jewish Pleasure PrincipleJudaism values sexuality in the framework of marriage, both for the purposes of procreation and for relational intimacy. But does Judaism sanction the enhancement of physical pleasure, or should it be minimized? Do the Sages relate to pleasure differently in men and women, and how aware were they regarding the female experience of desire, arousal and orgasm? Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum as we discuss the “Jewish Pleasure Principle.” Become an Intimate Judaism Patreon subscriber to get additional episodes, merch, and more! Just go to https://www.patreon.com/intimatejudaism.
2022-04-0643 min
Intimate Judaism(40) "Male and Female He Created Them": Trans, Non-Binary, and Orthodox JudaismAccording to Jewish sources, God created humans as distinctly male or distinctly female. The roles, obligations and privileges of each gender are clearly defined in our tradition. Yet, not everyone conforms to the gender assigned to them at birth and some individuals experience their gender as distinctly opposite. Can Orthodox individuals who identify as non-binary or transgender find welcoming places, literally and figuratively, in Orthodox society? In this month’s episode, Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn speak with Rebitzen and social worker Daniela Weiss-Bronstein, about this important topic. Become an Intimate Judaism Patreon subscriber to get ad...
2022-03-0949 min
Intimate Judaism(39) Straight FOMO, Hymenal Myths, Vasectomy Envy, Fetishes, BDSM and Mad at God: Listening to our Listeners Q&AIn this month’s episode, we turn the mike over to you, our listeners, and answer a handful of the many questions you have sent in on email, Facebook and Instagram messenger. Listen to Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn discuss what happens to queer women who don’t want to miss out on traditional marriage and sexual reproduction, when you are angry at God, when babies destroy your sex life and much more. Join here for the full podcast episode. Become an Intimate Judaism Patreon subscriber to get additional episodes, merch, and more, including a Q and A...
2022-02-0854 min
Intimate Judaism(38) Reproductive Health and Halacha Part 2: Birth Control MethodsReproductive health ensures that couples can lead satisfying sex lives, and make informed decisions regarding family planning. Decisions related to birth control methods are generally guided by various factors, including health, convenience, cost, preference, and sexual or other side effects. For most observant Jewish couples, these decisions are also informed by Jewish law. In the second episode of our two-part series on reproductive health and halacha, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum speak with gynecologist Dr. Elissa Hellman, also known as “The Confident Kallah” about the various methods available to couples, their impact on sex, their impact on the...
2022-01-1158 min
Intimate Judaism(37) Reproductive Health, Birth Control, and Jewish LawReproductive health is relevant to all couples in their childbearing years. Family planning, fertility interventions, and the use of contraception are guided by values and Halachic considerations, and involve several other factors including financial concerns, personal and professional goals, desired family size, and relationship stability. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum in the first of a two-part series on reproductive health and Halacha. Become an Intimate Judaism Patreon subscriber to get additional episodes, merch, and more, including a Q and A dropping this week. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/intimatejudaism.
2021-12-0748 min
Intimate Judaism(36) Out of the Closet Without Shame: Balancing Conflicting Identities of LGBTQ and OrthodoxyIn past decades, being Orthodox and gay meant suffering in the closet, or choosing to live authentically at the expense of religion. Today, more LGBTQ individuals and couples wish to retain their religious identities while embracing their sexual orientation. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum in a moving interview with Rachel Weinstein, Shimmy Feintuch and Joshua Brook. Become an Intimate Judaism Patreon subscriber to get additional episodes, merch, and more, including a Q and A dropping this week. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/intimatejudaism.
2021-11-0959 min
Intimate Judaism(35) Sex Positivity, Sexual Health, and Sexual Rights: Are These Jewish Values?The World Health Organization defines sexual health as fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and considers sexual pleasure to be a basic human right. In Judaism, sexual pleasure is valued, but only in the context of marital sex, leaving many people in conflict between their sexual health and spiritual health. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum as they discuss the six principles of sexual health, and how they conflict with or align with Jewish values. To register for the webinar referenced in the podcast, go to https://webinars.tallirosenbaum.com...
2021-10-1151 min
Intimate Judaism(34) Men Are Pigs and Women Are Distractions: What Messages About Sex Are Taught in Yeshiva, Seminary, and College?During the month of Elul, hundreds of high school graduates flock to Israel for their gap year programs, yeshivot, and seminaries. This year offers experiences of high level learning, spiritual growth, increased maturity, new friendships, and fun. But many students experience confusion, particularly around their developing sexuality. The legendary “Night of Tears” refers to the night that some yeshiva boys and seminary girls are encouraged to end their boyfriend/girlfriend relationships for the greater good of full time Torah study. On the other hand, the phenomenon of clubbing, drinking, and hooking up is real. Are our educational institutions teaching agen...
2021-08-3152 min
The Chochmat Nashim Podcast: Women Talk JudaismWhose 'Unorthodox Life' Is It, Anyway? (Season 4 Episode 15)Join us for this special crossover episode with Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum of Intimate Judaism and the Orthodox Conundrum to discuss the discussion around the controversial "My Unorthodox Life" Netflix show. Music; "Misery" by The Whips
2021-07-271h 03
Orthodox ConundrumWhose Business is My Unorthodox Life, Anyway? (72)The Netflix reality show, My Unorthodox Life, has been the talk of much of the Orthodox world since it was released less than two weeks ago. It tells the story of Julia Haart, who first developed a shoe line, and quickly rose in the world of fashion. She now is the the CEO and co-owner of Elite World Group, the world’s largest modeling network. As most of you probably know, the reason that her story is different from others is that Julia was an Orthodox Jew named Talia Hendler living in Monsey. She had once been a passionate teacher of...
2021-07-261h 08
Intimate JudaismWhose Business is My Unorthodox Life, Anyway? (BONUS EPISODE)The Netflix reality show, My Unorthodox Life, has been the talk of much of the Orthodox world since it was released less than two weeks ago. It tells the story of Julia Haart, who first developed a shoe line, and quickly rose in the world of fashion. She now is the the CEO and co-owner of Elite World Group, the world’s largest modeling network. As most of you probably know, the reason that her story is different from others is that Julia was an Orthodox Jew named Talia Hendler living in Monsey. She had once been a...
2021-07-261h 03
Intimate Judaism(33) Painful Sex and Vaginismus: It’s Not Your FaultAlthough quite common, painful intercourse is a topic that is rarely talked about. Couples who are unable to experience pain free intercourse, or are unable to consummate their marriage, may not know why this is happening or with whom to consult. Is this problem physical or psychological? How is it diagnosed and treated? In this episode, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum discuss causes and solutions. Become an Intimate Judaism Patreon subscriber to get additional episodes, merch, and more, including an upcoming Q and A. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/intimatejudaism.
2021-05-2544 min
The Franciska ShowBirth Control & Judaism (SPECIAL)A panel with: Talli Rosenbaum Rabbi Scott Kahn Rebbetzin Rifki Freundlich (& Yoetzet Halacha) Need help launching, producing or monetizing your podcast? Book a call with Franciska to get the support you deserve. www.franciskakosman.com/book
2021-05-2052 minThe Franciska ShowBirth Control & Judaism (SPECIAL)A panel with: Talli Rosenbaum Rabbi Scott Kahn Rebbetzin Rifki Freundlich (& Yoetzet Halacha) Need help launching, producing or monetizing your podcast? Book a call with Franciska to get the support you deserve. www.franciskakosman.com/book
2021-05-2052 minThe Franciska ShowBirth Control & Judaism (SPECIAL)A panel with: Talli Rosenbaum Rabbi Scott Kahn Rebbetzin Rifki Freundlich (& Yoetzet Halacha) Need help launching, producing or monetizing your podcast? Book a call with Franciska to get the support you deserve. www.franciskakosman.com/book
2021-05-2052 min
Intimate JudaismLubricants, Vibrators, and Sex Toys for Marital Enhancement Episode 32Modesty, lack of information, and embarrassment are just some factors that inhibit observant couples from using products designed to enhance sexual intimacy. In this episode, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum host Beverly Damelin, who shares her expertise in the field of sexual enhancement products and explains how they can help improve the sexual experience....
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2021-04-2000 min
Intimate Judaism(32) Lubricants, Vibrators, and Sex Toys for Marital EnhancementModesty, lack of information, and embarrassment are just some factors that inhibit observant couples from using products designed to enhance sexual intimacy. In this episode, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum host Beverly Damelin, who shares her expertise in the field of sexual enhancement products and explains how they can help improve the sexual experience. Become an Intimate Judaism Patreon subscriber to get additional episodes, merch, and more. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/intimatejudaism.
2021-04-2051 min
Orthodox ConundrumForced Marriage in Orthodoxy: Yes, It Happens (57)Jewish law requires that both the husband and wife consent to marriage or the marriage is not valid. In practice, however, certain Chassidic communities effectively force a couple to get married - a process which, while conforming to the technical details of halacha, does not truly give either spouse much choice in the matter. To discuss this difficult topic and the issues of consent that arise from it, Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum spoke with Eve Sacks and Yehudis Fletcher, co-founders of Nahamu, about the markers of forced marriage, how the shidduch system might lead to forced marriage, and what...
2021-03-2252 min
Intimate Judaism((31) Consent and Coercion: What Does Forced Marriage and Obligatory Sex Look Like in the Jewish Community?“Forced marriage" and coercive sex are terms that most believe have no relevance to Judaism. Nevertheless, in communities where marriages are typically arranged by parents and matchmakers, does the couple truly have the freedom to reject the match? And even in modern Orthodox circles, do young men and women sometimes feel pressured to marry when they aren’t sure about the partner, aren’t ready for marriage, or are uncertain of their sexual orientation? How do young people know that they are ready for marriage, and what barriers might impede informed consent? Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn in a d...
2021-03-2244 minIntimate JudaismFantasy, Premarital Sex, Kink and More: An Intimate Judaism Q and A Epidsode 30In Episode #30 of Intimate Judaism, Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn answer practical sex questions from listeners. Among the subjects covered are: Can a couple experience sexual pleasure when intercourse is medically inadvisable? Why must couples get the first time “over with” on the wedding night? (Or must they?) Is it permissible to masturbate...
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2021-02-1600 min
Intimate Judaism(30) Fantasy, Premarital Sex, Kink and More: An Intimate Judaism Q and AIn Episode #30 of Intimate Judaism, Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn answer practical sex questions from listeners. Among the subjects covered are: Can a couple experience sexual pleasure when intercourse is medically inadvisable? Why must couples get the first time "over with" on the wedding night? (Or must they?) Is it permissible to masturbate when your wife is a Niddah? May women fantasize? Does enjoying anal play mean I’m gay? ... and much more. Listen and share this special episode, and make sure to subscribe today. Become an Int...
2021-02-1655 min
Soul Sessions with KKWHAT HAPPENS OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM...STAYS IN THE BEDROOM with Talli RosenbaumIn this weeks episode, I have a conversation with Talli Rosenbaum, an individual and couples therapist and a certified sex therapist who together with Rabbi Scott Kahn, has a great podcast of her own called “Intimate Judaism”: https://www.intimatejudaism.com.
She talks to me about how sex is not an isolated part of our lives, rather it’s part of who we are biologically, psychologically and socially, as well as relationally.
Talli explains that sex is not just something that you do, but a journey you go on with the person you love. We talk about the difference between the ma...
2021-02-0255 min
Intimate Judaism(29) Intimacy After Sexual AbuseSexual intimacy provides the opportunity to express love with connection, pleasure, and satisfaction. Yet, for people who have experienced sexual assault, sexual violence, and abuse, intimacy can feel very unsafe. Being on guard, and sometimes checking out and dissociating, is what has allowed abuse victims to survive, and the idea of “relinquishing control and getting lost in the moment” can be terrifying. Rather than associate physical intimacy with pleasure and connection, sex can trigger feelings of shame, disgust, aversion, and pain. Healing from sexual abuse in order to experience emotional and physical intimacy in a healthy way can...
2021-01-1248 min
Intimate Judaism(28) Tzniut: Modesty, Female Masturbation and the MediaOrthodox girls and women are traditionally taught to dress modestly in order to avoid attracting the male gaze and to keep men from sinful thoughts or behaviors. These messages, according to Rabbanit Oriya Mevorach, an educator and doctoral student of Gender and Philosophy, objectify and sexualize women and girls, and are actually influenced by Western society’s sexuality discourse. Moreover, the effect of these messages present men as sexual beings while female sexuality is ignored. Rabbanit Mevorach, who studies sexuality and culture, presents an alternate approach to teaching modesty to young women in their teenage and young adult years. Sh...
2020-12-1445 min
Intimate Judaism(27) “It Is Not Good for a Man to Be Alone”: Guiding Religious LGBTQ JewsHarav Binyamin Lau, community leader, author, teacher, and former Rabbi of the Ramban Synagogue in Jerusalem, recently introduced a document providing guidance for members of the religious LGBTQ community and their families. This document is a collection of recommendations that, according to Rav Benny, “Do not permit prohibitions or prohibit things that are permitted,” but seek to pave the way to integrate one’s identity with religious life. In this bonus episode of Intimate Judaism, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum speak candidly with Rav Benny about reconciling religious and homosexual or transgender identities, and how to promote greater accept...
2020-11-0933 min
Intimate Judaism(26) What is Tantra and is it Kosher? Enhancing Sexual Intimacy Using Ancient Eastern Philosophy and TechniquesTantric sex originates from ancient Hinduism and revolves around sexual practices that focus on creating a deep, intimate connection. It is a meditative sexual practice that encourages people to focus on the connections between the mind, the body, and the soul. It is intended to lead to fulfilling sexual experiences and greater intimacy. Taoism is a system of traditional beliefs from China. Taoists believe that when a man ejaculates, he loses some aspects of his vitality, or life force, and Taoist practices include learning to delay ejaculation, thereby increasing energy as well as enhancing the sexual experience. While these...
2020-10-2854 min
Orthodox ConundrumSex and Guilt (BONUS EPISODE FROM INTIMATE JUDAISM)THIS PODCAST CONTAINS EXPLICIT MATERIAL. LISTENER DISCRETION IS ADVISED. Intimacy and sexual experiences are so closely connected with a person’s sense of identity, and so seldom discussed in many religious communities, that they often are the source of tremendous feelings of guilt. When are these feelings misplaced and when do they serve a constructive purpose? How should a religious individual manage his experience of guilt? Is there a way to reframe the experience of shame or guilt in order to create a sense of empowerment? Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn as they tackle these and other timely qu...
2020-09-2341 min
Intimate Judaism(25) Sex and GuiltIntimacy and sexual experiences are so closely connected with a person's sense of identity, and so seldom discussed in many religious communities, that they often are the source of tremendous feelings of guilt. When are these feelings misplaced and when do they serve a constructive purpose? How should a religious individual manage his experience of guilt? Is there a way to reframe the experience of shame or guilt in order to create a sense of empowerment? Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn as they tackle these and other timely questions. Become an Intimate Judaism P...
2020-09-2241 minIntimate Judaism“Unorthodox” and Male Sexual Functioning Problems Episode 24The Netflix series “Unorthodox” inspired two Intimate Judaism ZOOM panels on female and male sexuality respectively. But many listeners had further questions about sexual functioning in men-particularly with regard to “performance anxiety”- and asked us to discuss the topic in more detail. Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn in this bonus episode, as they...
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2020-08-0300 min
Intimate Judaism(24) “Unorthodox” and Male Sexual Functioning ProblemsThe Netflix series “Unorthodox” inspired two Intimate Judaism ZOOM panels on female and male sexuality respectively. But many listeners had further questions about sexual functioning in men -particularly with regard to "performance anxiety" - and asked us to discuss the topic in more detail. Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn in this bonus episode, as they discuss the factors that can contribute to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation, and how religious and social pressure can contribute to these conditions. Support Intimate Judaism by becoming an Intimate Judaism patron on Patreon! Go to https://www...
2020-08-0333 min
Intimate Judaism(23) Masculinity, Male Sexuality, & Judaism: Navigating Love, Lust, & IntimacyMen are sexually assertive, they constantly think about and want sex, and their masculinity is determined by the frequency of their sexual conquests and their performance. This stereotype is perpetuated by the media in Western culture. Jewish sources, on the other hand, acknowledge the power of the male sexual drive, but require men to direct this drive exclusively towards marital relations. The expectation to live up to contemporary societal expectations of masculinity, to struggle with forbidden sexual arousal, yet be commanded when appropriate to perform sexually with one’s wife, may contribute to feelings of confusion, frustration, and anxiety....
2020-06-0956 min
Intimate Judaism(22) “Just Do What He Tells You to Do”: Take-Home Messages from the Unorthodox Panel (BONUS EPISODE)Intimate Judaism's recent ZOOM live panel (https://www.intimatejudaism.com/unorthodox-intimacy-and-authenticity-how-accurate-is-the-netflix-series-portrayal-of-chasidic-intimacy-episode-21/) aroused a great deal of interest and discussion. Many of our listeners wrote in describing their experiences, and in this bonus episode, Brooklyn trauma therapist Chaya Feuerman relates how the messages she received from her own kallah teacher shaped her negative beliefs about sexuality. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum as they discuss premarital sexual education, wedding night anxiety, what to do about painful sex, and the tension between maintaining cultural sensitivity while promoting sexual health and autonomy.
2020-05-0429 min
Intimate Judaism(21) Unorthodox, Intimacy, and Authenticity: How Accurate is the Netflix Series' Portrayal of Chasidic Intimacy?The Netflix series “Unorthodox” portrays the journey of Esty, a young Satmar Chasidic woman who ultimately leaves her marriage and her community to live a secular life in Berlin. Her marital life with her husband, Yanky, and in particular, their dysfunctional sexual relationship, is fraught with conflict and unhealthy intervention of others. Moreover, Esty is seen as having little autonomy over her body or entitlement to withhold sexual consent. We invited a panel of experts to discuss some of the topics raised by this series, including sexual autonomy and agency vs. obligation, vaginismus and unconsummated marriage and the stat...
2020-04-2957 min
Intimate Judaism(20) Love (and Sex) in the Time of CoronaThe Coronavirus has affected how we live, how we work, how we congregate and how we experience touch and intimacy. The world at large has had to renegotiate the common norms of social intimacy with distancing measures that are increasing daily. Meanwhile, couples are faced with a new reality: confinement at home, the need to keep children occupied and help them cope with stress and uncertainty, as well as provide comfort and reassurance to one another. How do couples navigate their intimate relationships during this time? Midrashic sources point to several times in history where...
2020-03-2342 min
Intimate Judaism(19) Porn, Fantasy, and Compulsive Sexual Behavior: How Much is Too Much?Our sources teach us that lusting after our hearts is prohibited. Yet sexual curiosity, fantasy, and thinking about sex are part of the normative developmental process. Therefore, how do we determine how much is too much and what thoughts and behaviors are problematic? Is what may be “bad for your neshama” like viewing porn, necessarily bad for your mental health, and might the battle to guard one’s eyes and control one’s thoughts actually backfire, leading to obsessional thinking and compulsive behaviors? Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn as they discuss sex addiction, pornography, and compulsive sexual b...
2020-03-0248 min
Intimate Judaism(18) Sex Is Not Something You 'Have'“Sex is not something you ‘have’ but rather an expression of an intimate and erotic energy that a couple mutually shares.” This quote, from the recently released book, I Am For My Beloved: A Guide to Enhanced Intimacy for Married Couples by co-authors Talli Rosenbaum and David Ribner, reflects the theme that a passionate marriage is about cultivating a loving, emotionally intimate relationship. In this episode of Intimate Judaism, Rabbi Scott Kahn interviews co-host Talli Rosenbaum, and her co-author Dr. David Ribner about the book, which helps couples improve both their emotional and physical intimate lives. J...
2020-01-2742 min
Intimate Judaism(17) Let's Talk About Sexual PleasureIs sexual pleasure considered an important value in Judaism? What place does sex for pleasure have in a healthy marriage? Join Talli and Scott for a frank and open discussion about these and many other questions.
2020-01-0745 min
Intimate Judaism(17) Let's Talk About Sexual PleasureIs sexual pleasure considered an important value in Judaism? What place does sex for pleasure have in a healthy marriage? Join Talli and Scott for a frank and open discussion about these and many other questions.
2019-12-2445 min
2019-11-1253 min
Intimate Judaism(15) Teshuva as a Guide to Repairing our Intimate Relationships (BONUS EPISODE)During the month of Tishri, we engage in a process of Tshuva; self-reflection and repentance. Through prayer, we repair our relationships and connect with God, with ourselves, and with those we may have hurt. In this mini episode, join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum as they discuss how the basic elements of the tshuva process can serve as a model for healing and repairing our relationships with ourselves and the significant others in our lives.
2019-10-0226 min
Intimate Judaism(14) Singles, Sex, and Orthodoxy“It’s not good for man to be alone.” Living a traditional Jewish life implies marriage and raising a family. Sexual intimacy is highly valued, but only within the framework of a marital bond. However, whether due to the “shidduch crisis," rising divorce rates, or other circumstances, our communities include many individuals who haven’t married, or are widowed or divorced. What are the experiences of singles in attempting to navigate a normal, healthy drive for connection and intimacy with the halachic and communal expectations of sexual abstinence? Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn in a frank disc...
2019-09-1853 min
The Franciska Show'Kol Isha'- Asur? Heter? Mutar?This special episode is here to bring clarity to a heavy and quite emotional topic for to us all. A comprehensive overview of the issue both from the halachik and psychological perspectives with our dear guests and co-hosts of the "Intimate Judaism" podcast - Rabbi Scott Kahn and sex therapist Tali Rosenbaum. A little bit about our guests: Talli Rosenbaum has decades of experience in the field of sexual health, and is a certified sex therapist and an individual and couple therapist. She is an internationally regarded expert in this field and has published and lectured extensively. Talli serves as the ac...
2019-08-2042 minThe Franciska Show'Kol Isha'- Asur? Heter? Mutar?This special episode is here to bring clarity to a heavy and quite emotional topic for to us all. A comprehensive overview of the issue both from the halachik and psychological perspectives with our dear guests and co-hosts of the "Intimate Judaism" podcast - Rabbi Scott Kahn and sex therapist Tali Rosenbaum. A little bit about our guests: Talli Rosenbaum has decades of experience in the field of sexual health, and is a certified sex therapist and an individual and couple therapist. She is an internationally regarded expert in this field and has published and lectured extensively. Talli serves as the ac...
2019-08-2042 minThe Franciska Show'Kol Isha'- Asur? Heter? Mutar?This special episode is here to bring clarity to a heavy and quite emotional topic for to us all. A comprehensive overview of the issue both from the halachik and psychological perspectives with our dear guests and co-hosts of the "Intimate Judaism" podcast - Rabbi Scott Kahn and sex therapist Tali Rosenbaum. A little bit about our guests: Talli Rosenbaum has decades of experience in the field of sexual health, and is a certified sex therapist and an individual and couple therapist. She is an internationally regarded expert in this field and has published and lectured extensively. Talli serves as the ac...
2019-08-2042 min
Intimate Judaism(13) Marital Conflict: When Couples Disagree About ReligionWhat happens when couples disagree over religious observance? When one spouse decides that he or she no longer wants to be observant? Is there a way to reach an understanding? Join Talli and Scott as we discuss these issues on the season finale of Intimate Judaism!
2019-05-2243 min
Intimate Judaism(12) Monogamy and Exclusivity: Defining, Preventing and Dealing with BetrayalSexual exclusivity is a core value of Jewish marriage. Extramarital sexual contact – infidelity – represents not only a breach of Jewish law, but also a rupture of the couple’s loyalty and trust. While sexual intercourse with another person is almost universally considered adultrous behavior, how do couples define what they consider to be a betrayal? Is texting, having lunch with a member of the opposite sex, or flirting considered infidelity? And if lines are crossed, how can the couple repair their relationship? Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn for a serious look at the personal, psychological, halachic, and hashka...
2019-04-1042 min
Intimate Judaism(11) Homosexuality, Asexuality, and More: Responding to Listener QuestionsTalli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn address your questions in this special Q&A episode of Intimate Judaism. Among the issues they deal with are homosexuality and Orthodoxy, Halacha's attitude toward sterilization via tubal ligation or vasectomy, whether we should encourage our children to talk to kids of the opposite gender, and more.
2019-03-1341 min
Intimate JudaismWhen” Family Purity” Strains Your Marriage (Episode 10)Many people are taught that following Taharat HaMishpacha - the laws of family purity - keeps a marriage fresh, and adds passion to a couple's sexual relationship. Often, this is true, but many times, it's not. Some couples find that Taharat HaMishpacha adds a tremendous strain to their relationship. Are there solutions within Halacha? What should a couple in this situation do? Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn speak with Yoatzot Halacha Nechama Goldman Barash and Atara Eis to discover how they confront these issues, and whether couples can find reasonable solutions that allow them to follow Jewish law...
2019-02-1357 min
Intimate Judaism(9) "My Spouse Wants Sex Less Often Than I Do!" - What Does Halacha Say?Are sexual relations in Jewish marriage mandatory? Can either partner demand sexual relations at any time? How do we reconcile that concept with the understanding that autonomy and mutual consent are core values of sexual and marital health? Stay tuned for this episode of Intimate Judaism when Talli Y. Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn discuss the sources.
2019-01-0748 min
Intimate Judaism(8) Sex Within Marriage: What's Allowed and What's Not?Judaism’s view of sex within marriage- is it really ruled by do’s and dont’s or does anything go? What do the sources actually say? Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn for a frank and enlightening discussion. You may be surprised at what you will learn.
2018-12-0545 min
Intimate Judaism(7) Jewish #MeToo: Does Adherence to Jewish Law Provide Safety from Sexual Assault?In his recent analysis of the “#MeToo earthquake,” Rabbi Avi Shafran, Agudath Israel of America’s director of public affairs, bemoans the “supposedly enlightened, progressive, post-patriarchal society, with its proud claim to value and respect women,” and questions how we can expect men to respect women who dress and behave immodestly. In contrast, he asserts that sexual abuse is “relatively rare” in a society guided by Jewish law, where modesty and strict boundaries on gender interaction provide a carefully controlled environment, and women are valued and respected rather than objectified. In this episode of Intimate Judaism, Talli Rosenbaum and R...
2018-11-0641 min
Intimate Judaism(6) The Wedding Night: Negotiating the Transition from Abstinence to Full Sexual IntercourseMany couples await the wedding night with anticipation and excitement, as they are finally permitted to express their desire for one another and to consummate their relationship. For some couples, however, the wedding night, and sometimes the weeks and months thereafter, can be a source of anxiety and distress, and represents an obligation they struggle to “perform successfully.” How do couples negotiate the transition from abstinence to full sexual intercourse? What happens when one partner is not ready or is hesitant, anxious or afraid? Is wedding night sex an Halachic obligation and if so, how can it be ful...
2018-10-0845 min
Intimate Judaism(5) Bonus Episode - Shomer Negiah: The Listeners Strike BackIntimate Judaism's most recent episode, ‘Shomer Negiah: Premarital Sexual Activity and Jewish Values," generated plenty of comments, discussion, and disagreement. In this bonus episode, Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn address listener comments, and expand on the differences between guilt and shame, whether a person "has to" consult a rabbi before making a Halachic decision, the consequences of non-Halachic sexual activity and more.
2018-09-1224 min
Intimate Judaism(4) Shomer Negiah: Navigating Premarital Sexual Activity and Jewish Law and ValuesAs human beings, we are wired for connection, and the desire for intimate touch is a natural instinct. However, Jewish Law is clear that premarital sexual activity, even when it doesn't involve sexual intercourse, is forbidden. How do we manage that tension? Do we acknowledge that the halachot of refraining from touching the opposite gender are not universally observed, and discuss openly which prohibitions are Torah law and which are Rabbinic enactments so that individuals can choose to "lessen" the prohibition? Will that be understood as tacit sanctioning of premarital touching? How do we impart our values without creating fe...
2018-08-2736 min
Intimate Judaism(3) Raising Sexually Healthy Children (Part 2)Preparing our children so that they grow up to be healthy, independent, and happy adults requires giving them the right messages at all stages of their development. What is the connection between growing up in a safe and secure environment, and the ability to experience pleasure in the context of marital intimacy? Why is it necessary to avoid judging our children, even when we disagree with their decisions? What do we mean when we try to teach them about intimacy? And how can our relationship with G-d serve as a model for intimacy with a spouse? Join Talli Rosenbaum...
2018-07-2430 min
Intimate Judaism(2) Raising Sexually Healthy Children (Part 1)Almost all parents try to raise their children in a manner that both reflects the parents' moral values, and gives children the necessary tools so that they lead fulfilling and emotionally healthy lives. This is certainly true in the Halachic community, which must balance the messages children hear from the ourside world with the Torah values they are taught at home and in school. How can we achieve this balance so that our kids learn to respect the Halachic attitudes toward sex, while also growing into sexually healthy adults? Is there a way to use media in order to...
2018-07-2428 min
Intimate Judaism(1) Masturbation, Sexual Health, & Halacha: Is There A Conflict?Halachic sources state that male masturbation is unequivocally prohibited under Jewish law. This prohibition, however, often creates serious conflict and guilt in the religious and private lives of young Orthodox men, with consequences ranging from experiencing feelings of hypocrisy, to dropping out of Orthodoxy altogether, to skewing their perceptions of what marriage is supposed to be. In this episode of Intimate Judaism, Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum discuss this important topic, and attempt to outline how parents, teachers, and children should navigate the dual tracks of strengthening a commitment to Halacha, while enabling healthy sexual growth and attitudes.
2018-07-2429 min
Intimate Judaism(00) What is Intimate Judaism? (Pilot) Discover Intimate Judaism, where a rabbi and therapist discuss intimacy, sexuality, and relationships in the context of Jewish family life and Torah observance. We raise conflicts and challenges, and offer candid solutions, while remaining firmly within the bounds of Torah and Halacha.
2018-07-2409 min
Orthodox ConundrumMasturbation, Sexual Health, & Halacha: Is There A Conflict? A Conversation with Talli Rosenbaum (9)THIS PODCAST CONTAINS EXPLICIT MATERIAL. LISTENER DISCRETION IS ADVISED. Halachic sources state that male masturbation is unequivocally prohibited under Jewish law. This prohibition, however, often creates serious conflict and guilt in the religious and private lives of young Orthodox men, with consequences ranging from experiencing feelings of hypocrisy, to dropping out of Orthodoxy altogether, to skewing their perceptions of what marriage is supposed to be. In this episode of The Orthodox Conundrum, Scott Kahn speaks with therapist Talli Rosenbaum about this important topic, and how parents, teachers, and children should navigate the dual tracks of strengthening a commitment to Halacha...
2018-03-1830 min