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Relational Trauma SOSS2 E6- 9 BEST Practices For Faith Leaders w/ Tara McCauslandS2 E6 – 9 Best Practices for Faith Leaders With Tara McCausland A H.E.R. Wings Unfold Production
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Welcome to Relational Trauma SOS! In this episode, we’re honored to speak with Tara McCausland about 9 Best Practices for Faith Leaders—a powerful guide developed by S.A. Lifeline to help clergy and spiritual leaders support individuals and couples affected by another’s unwanted sexual behavior.
These best practice...2025-08-0759 min
Pathway to RecoveryWhat Now? Helping Kids Already Struggling with Pornography w/ Geoff SteurerSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland and therapist Geoff Steurer discuss principles to help youth already caught in the trap of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviors. The episode focuses on providing guidance to parents on creating a supportive environment where children feel safe discussing their struggles. Geoff emphasizes the importance of a relationship-first approach, validating children's sexual curiosity and modeling self-compassion, relational repair, and open communication. Highlights include the encouragement for parents to own their own struggles around device use, pornography and sexuality, and teaching discernment over mere avoidance. The powerful impact o...2025-08-0547 minPathway to RecoveryHelping Parents and Faith Leaders Navigate Pornography With Youth w/ Sam BlackSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland talks with Sam Black, author of 'The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It'. They discuss the 5 Myths parents believe about pornography and their child and the impact of pornography on the developing brain. They also discuss how parents and faith leaders can create safe spaces for discussing this sensitive topic as source of protection and preparation for youth to navigate a pornographic world. Want to connect with Sam? Reach out at sam.black@covenanteyes.comResources referenced in...2025-06-0354 minPathway to RecoveryAddiction, Nuances Around Comorbid Conditions, and Learning Acceptance in the Recovery Process w/ Adam MooreSend us a textIn this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland welcomes Dr. Adam Moore who explains the importance of recognizing and addressing multiple concurrent issues for effective recovery. The episode emphasizes the need for a holistic approach to healing, incorporating aspects like sleep, diet, and exercise along with therapy and 12-step programs. Dr. Moore also touches upon the broader philosophical aspects of recovery, urging listeners to embrace the process and find their unique healing path on their journey. The discussion concludes with practical advice for both newcomers and those who have...2025-05-0654 minPathway to RecoveryThe 4 C's of Getting Unstuck After Sexual Betrayal w/ Kristin SnowdenSend us a textIn this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland talks with Kristin Snowden about getting unstuck when we are feeling paralyzed or overwhelmed by betrayal trauma. Kristen introduces the 'Four Cs'—Choice, Control, Context, and Connection—key concepts that help betrayed partners feel empowered and regain stability. The episode also addresses the physiological and psychological impacts of betrayal trauma, the importance of group support such 12 step, boundaries, and offers advice for both betrayed partners and their spouses who are working towards recovery. Kristen emphasizes the significance of predictability, consistency, and humi...2025-04-0148 minPathway to RecoveryHow Faith Leaders Can Support Couples Affected By Sexual Addiction & Betrayal Trauma w/ Matthew and Joanna RaabsmithSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith about their personal experience with sexual addiction and betrayal trauma and their journey to now helping others with similar challenges. The discussion delves into common mistakes faith leaders make in addressing sexual addiction and betrayal trauma and emphasizes the importance of education, support, and using outside resources to better serve these couples. They outline three phases of rebuilding relational intimacy after betrayal: recovery, restoration, and renewal. The concept of not rushing or forcing forgiveness and trust is addressed. The episode concludes...2025-03-0457 minPathway to RecoveryLearning Healthy Sexuality as Couples and Families Affected by Porn & Sexual Addiction w/ Chelom LeavittSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland and Dr. Chelom Leavitt discuss the importance of learning about and developing healthy sexuality and how that is impacted by pornography and sexual betrayal. Key points include the necessity of establishing safety in relationships before healthy sexuality can be addressed, self-compassion, understanding sexual perceptions and expectations, overcoming the negative influences of pornography and the importance of open communication. The conversation also delves into how couples can work on their own healing in this area to positively impact their children's development of healthy sexuality. Strategies for fostering a...2025-02-0453 minPathway to RecoveryDeveloping Healthy Communication Skills After Sexual Betrayal w/ Kevin SkinnerSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland and Dr. Kevin Skinner discuss effective communication strategies for couples dealing with sexual betrayal and addiction. Dr. Skinner emphasizes the importance of slowing down conversations and understanding underlying emotions, such as fear and pain, rather than responding defensively. He suggests techniques like 'deep listening,' adult timeouts, and back-to-back communication to help break negative patterns. Dr. Skinner also highlights the importance of external support systems like sponsorship and groups, and advises against making quick decisions in the wake of betrayal. The conversation underscores the critical role of s...2025-01-0745 min
Come, Follow Me and HealRestoration with Tara McCausland (Part 2)SA Lifeline: https://salifeline.org/Serenity Prayer: https://salifeline.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/The-Serenity-Prayer-1.pdfGod's Favourite by Elder Karl D. Hirst: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2024/10/14hirst?lang=engPathway to Recovery Podcast: https://salifeline.org/podcast/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2024-12-3033 min
Come, Follow Me and HealRestoration with Tara McCausland (Part 2)SA Lifeline: https://salifeline.org/
Serenity Prayer: https://salifeline.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/The-Serenity-Prayer-1.pdf
God's Favourite by Elder Karl D. Hirst: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2024/10/14hirst?lang=eng
Pathway to Recovery Podcast: https://salifeline.org/podcast/2024-12-3033 minCome, Follow Me and HealRestoration with Tara McCausland (Part 1)SA Lifeline: https://salifeline.org/
Serenity Prayer: https://salifeline.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/The-Serenity-Prayer-1.pdf
God's Favourite by Elder Karl D. Hirst: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2024/10/14hirst?lang=eng
Pathway to Recovery Podcast: https://salifeline.org/podcast/
2024-12-3033 minCome, Follow Me and HealRestoration with Tara McCausland (Part 1)SA Lifeline: https://salifeline.org/Serenity Prayer: https://salifeline.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/The-Serenity-Prayer-1.pdfGod's Favourite by Elder Karl D. Hirst: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2024/10/14hirst?lang=engPathway to Recovery Podcast: https://salifeline.org/podcast/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2024-12-3033 minPathway to RecoveryDifferentiating and Understanding Narcissism & Sexual Addiction w/ Sherie ChristensenSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland and guest expert Sherie Christensen discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), its diagnostic criteria, and misconceptions around the term 'narcissist' within today's culture. Sherie explains the difference between narcissistic traits and true NPD, how personality disorders impact addiction, and emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between addict behaviors and NPD. The episode also explores other issues such as high-functioning autism (HFA) and its overlap with narcissistic or addict-like traits. Sherie elaborates on the necessity of comprehensive therapy alongside 12-step programs for effective recovery, highlighting the role of empathy, boundaries...2024-12-0343 min
From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody SteurerWhat I've Learned as the Daughter of a Recovering Sex Addict - with Tara McCausland - Episode 269We typically address betrayal and recovery from the perspective of the betrayer and their partner. But in a family dynamic, there are often children involved that feel the weight of the betrayal as well. Children are keenly aware of feelings and emotions and are heavily impacted by those even when they don’t understand exactly what’s happening or the reasons behind them. In this episode we welcome Tara McCausland, Executive Director of SA Lifeline. Tara shares about her personal experience growing up with a sex-addicted father and the impact of addiction on family dynamics, especially children. Tara shares how...2024-11-0751 min
From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody SteurerWhat I Have Learned as the Daughter of a Recovering Sex Addict - with Tara McCausland - Episode 269We typically address betrayal and recovery from the perspective of the betrayer and their partner. But in a family dynamic, there are often children involved that feel the weight of the betrayal as well. Children are keenly aware of feelings and emotions and are heavily impacted by those even when they don’t understand exactly what’s happening or the reasons behind them. In this episode we welcome Tara McCausland, Executive Director of SA Lifeline. Tara shares about her personal experience growing up with a sex-addicted father and the impact of addiction on family dynamics, especially children. Tara shares how...2024-11-0751 minPathway to RecoveryHealing Through a Trauma-Informed Lens: Insights from APSATS President, Jeanne VattuoneSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Jeanne Vattuone, LCSW, CSAT, and current APSATS president. She explains the evolution of the trauma-informed treatment model and its benefits for the betrayed and the betrayer over the traditional co-addict or co-dependent model. Jeanne also details the APSATS multidimensional partner trauma model phases: safety and stabilization, grief and mourning, and reconnecting and rebuilding. The episode underscores the importance of specialized care for both those struggling with sex addiction and their partners and how understanding the impact of trauma helps relationships heal. Jeanne emphasizes the necessity...2024-11-0547 minPathway to RecoveryGaslighting, Betrayal Blindness & Self-Deception w/ Michelle MaysSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Michelle Mays about the complex and harmful phenomenon of gaslighting. Mays explains the four types of gaslighting—lying, reality manipulation, scapegoating, and coercion—and the impact each has on those who experience betrayal trauma. The discussion delves into the mental health ramifications, the stages of gaslighting, and the journey of healing for both the gaslighter and the gaslighted. Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and professional support, the episode offers valuable insights into overcoming the layers of self-deception and relational harm caused by gaslighting.Conn...2024-10-0148 minPathway to RecoveryMeet the Speakers of the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference & Why You Won't Want to Miss ItSend us a textIn this special episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland introduces speakers from the upcoming 2024 S.A. Lifeline virtual conference happening on September 26-28, 2024. The episode features insights from notable speakers like Janice Caudill, Dan Drake, Crystal Hollenbeck, Roy Kim, Tammy Gustafson, and MJ Dennis, covering critical topics such as betrayal trauma anger, the importance of group work in recovery, power dynamics, and sexual healing post-infidelity. Dr. Jill Manning also highlights the unique benefits of attending the conference, including reduced isolation, access to helpful resources, and the emphasis on both...2024-09-1018 minPathway to RecoveryThe Scoop on Defining and Diagnosing the Problem and the Latest in Sexual Addiction Research w/ Stefanie CarnesSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Dr. Stefanie Cranes about the challenges of defining and diagnosing sex addiction. Topics covered include the historical context for diagnosis problems, the stigma and societal misunderstandings surrounding it, and the prevalence and causes of sex addiction based on recent research. Dr. Carnes also shares the distinct impact of sex addiction on individuals and families, compares it to other addictions, and offers hopeful advice for those starting or already on their recovery journey. REGISTER FOR THE 2024 S.A. LIFELINE CONFERENCELearn more...2024-09-0349 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - What are some barriers to working Step 4 and how do I overcome them?Send us a textIn this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss the challenges and significance of Step Four in the recovery process. The hosts elaborate on the fears and barriers associated with Step Four, emphasizing the need for trust in God, honesty, time, and support from sponsors and group members. They address the added complexities for betrayed partners dealing with acute trauma and discuss the need for individuals and groups to acknowledge the trauma and provide space and time for partners to achieve adequate safety and stability before proceeding with step 4 work. The episode...2024-08-2725 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - Is relapse a part of recovery?Send us a textIn this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss the concept of relapse in the context of recovery from sexual addiction. The main discussion revolves around whether relapse is part of recovery, differentiating between terms like lapse and relapse, and emphasizing the importance of rigorous honesty and a recovery mindset for long-term recovery. They also address the partner's perspective on dealing with relapse and the importance of having a relapse preparedness plan in place for safety. Throughout, they highlight the necessity of continuous and honest recovery efforts for sustainable recovery....2024-08-1317 minPathway to RecoveryWhy Couples Need to Grieve and Mourn to Facilitate Betrayal Trauma Healing & Addiction Recovery w/ Jake PorterSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland and guest expert Dr. Jake Porter discuss the significance of grief in the healing process for betrayed partners and how essential it is for both partners in a relationship to engage in the mourning process. He emphasizes the need for safety and stabilization before addressing grief and mourning, and provides insights on how couples can support each other through the healing journey. The episode also highlights the importance of seeking qualified therapy and creating personalized mourning rituals to cope with betrayal trauma. Connect with Dr. Porter at...2024-08-0642 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - How do recovery principles change the way I parent?Send us a textIn this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss applying recovery principles in parenting and how these principles can positively impact parenting style. They emphasize the importance of surrender, trust in God, and the shift from control, fear and pride to surrender, faith, and humility. Personal anecdotes and member shares from the SAL book highlight the positive impact that recovery can have on family dynamics and individual serenity.Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference here. https://salifeline.org/conference-2024/0:00 Q&A - How do recovery principles change t...2024-06-2518 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - Why and how do I decide to turn my will over to God?Send us a textIn this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B discuss the challenges and importance of Step 3 in the recovery process: making the decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God. They delve into why this can be difficult, and how it is a daily commitment rather than a one-time action. The dialogue includes personal experiences and insights on how relinquishing control to the God of our understanding can support long-term recovery and spiritual growth.0:00 Q&A - Why and how do I make the decision to...2024-06-1115 minPathway to RecoveryYour Nervous System During and After Sexual Betrayal w/ KayLee DunnSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes guest expert KayLee Dunn, a psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach. KayLee shares her expertise in helping individuals, especially women, rebuild trust and heal after intimate betrayal. She discusses the role of the nervous system in betrayal trauma, introducing concepts like neuro-intuitive boundaries and survival mode responses. The conversation delves into practical ways to self-regulate, the importance of self-compassion, and the power of pausing and observing one’s reactions. They also explore the dynamics between betrayed and betraying partners, emphasizing understanding and intentional responses. Whether new to betr...2024-06-041h 01Pathway to RecoveryQ&A - How can I respond to trauma triggers in a healthy way?Send us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland and S.A. Lifeline executive assistant Jeni Brockbank discuss how to manage trauma triggers effectively. Jeni shares insights on understanding trauma triggers and emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, self-care, and setting boundaries. The episode includes a discussion on practical steps to take when faced with trauma triggers—pause, breathe, practice self-care, and seek support. Jeni also shares a personal experience and the episode ends highlighting the importance of reaching out to others for support in the journey of recovery.0:00 Q&A - How can I re...2024-05-2814 minPathway to RecoveryPost Discovery Triage Care: Establishing Safety & Stabilization for the Betrayed and Betrayer w/ Amanda ChristensonSend us a textIn this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland talks with therapist Amanda Christensen about first steps to take immediately following discovery of sexual betrayal. Amanda shares her personal and professional experience, emphasizing the importance of safety, stabilization, and recovery steps for both the betrayed and betraying partners. For the betrayed, prioritizing self-care, seeking support, and gradually setting boundaries are essential. The betraying partner must commit to sobriety and close all doors to acting out. The episode discusses establishing a structured recovery plan, including therapeutic disclosure, and pausing before making m...2024-05-0748 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - Is God powerful enough/good enough to restore me to sanity?Send us a textHosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. delve into the crucial question of whether the God of one's understanding is strong enough to restore sanity in the context of recovery. They discuss the common doubts and struggles individuals in recovery face regarding their perception of a higher power, including feelings of abandonment and the question of God's existence and benevolence. Justin shares his personal journey of reevaluating his understanding of God five years into sobriety, inspired by the concept of 'firing' an old God and 'hiring' a new one to better support his recovery...2024-04-2313 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - What does it mean to be powerless and making room for the miracle when we 'give up'Send us a textIn this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. explore the concepts of powerlessness and unmanageability in the context of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. They discuss how admitting to these states can be challenging yet crucial for individuals dealing with addiction and for those who are in a relationship with them. Justin shares his personal journey of denial and eventual acceptance of his powerlessness over addiction, highlighting the relief and empowerment that comes from surrendering to a higher power. The episode emphasizes the importance of admitting one's limitations to open the door t...2024-04-0912 minPathway to RecoveryThe Value of Therapeutic Disclosure & Tips and Strategies for Best Outcomes w/ Dan GraySend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes Dan Gray to discuss therapeutic disclosure in the healing process for individuals affected by sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Dan emphasizes the critical role of disclosure to help break the cycle of secrecy and shame surrounding addiction, highlighting the benefits of therapeutic disclosure for both the addict and their spouse. He explains the ideal circumstances for disclosure, including the involvement of therapists for both parties to prepare and guide them through the process. Dan outlines common pitfalls of informal disclosures and stresses the importance of professional...2024-04-0252 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - Should I call it sexaholism or sex addiction and why does my sobriety definition matter?Send us a textIn this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. explore a listener's question about the distinction between calling oneself a sexaholic versus a sex addict, and the implications of that decision. The discussion delves into the SAL definition of sobriety, highlighting the importance of personal values in determining what terms and definitions one chooses to embrace for successful recovery. Justin shares a personal account of seeking loopholes in sobriety definitions and the dangers it posed to his recovery. Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an...2024-03-2612 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - What first steps should I take post discovery of sexual betrayal?Send us a textIn this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss strategies for moving forward after the discovery of betrayal in relationships. The episode emphasizes the emotional turmoil that follows discovery, and the importance of establishing safety and stabilization. They share personal stories, including Justin's own missteps post-discovery and the journey towards healing. Tara and Justin advocate for setting boundaries, seeking support outside the marital relationship, and the necessity of finding a supportive community for both the betrayed and the betrayer. They stress that healing from addiction and betrayal is a shared but individual...2024-03-1216 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - What are the differences between boundaries and bottom lines and how do you apply them in relationships?Send us a textIn this Q&A episode, host Tara McCausland interviews Steven and Rhyll Croshaw, co-founders of S.A. Lifeline Foundation, who share their experiences and insights on setting boundaries and bottom lines in relationships and personal recovery. They discuss the differences between boundaries and bottom lines. Steven explains how he sets his 'bottom lines' - personal safeguards established to protect him from negative triggers. Rhyll talks about the importance of allowing individuals to set their own bottom lines and that boundaries give betrayed partners choice in responding to behaviors that cause them to feel un...2024-02-1323 minPathway to RecoveryEmpowering Betrayed Partners Through Boundary Setting w/ Sheri KefferSend us a textIn this episode, Tara McCausland talks with Dr. Sheri Keffer about the importance of setting and holding boundaries in relationships, particularly when dealing with sexual betrayal and addiction. Dr. Keffer shares her personal journey of recovery and emphasizes the need for betrayed partners to have courage and patience with themselves as they practice setting and holding boundaries. Questions addressed include:-What are boundaries and why are they so critical if you’ve been affected by sexual betrayal? How are they different from punishment? - What are some sign...2024-02-061h 02Pathway to RecoveryQualified Therapy: Why it's Important, How to Find it, and Why it Complements 12-Step Work w/ Dan DrakeSend us a textHost Tara McCausland and therapist Dan Drake discuss the importance of finding a qualified clinician that has specialized training in sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. They suggest questions/ways to vet a therapist to ensure best therapist-client fit. They explore how having a therapist during the disclosure process is helpful, and paint a picture of what the therapeutic process might look like in the first year. They also touch on the value of combining the 12-step program with therapy. Dan points out the importance of seeing qualified therapy as one part of a wid...2024-01-0950 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - What does it mean to 'surrender' and why is it so powerful?Send us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland is joined by her assistant and friend, Jeni Brockbank. They discuss the concept of "surrender" as part of recovery, especially during challenging times such as the holidays. A three-step surrender process "on your knees, on the phone, in a box" is also shared which includes prayer, reaching out to a trusted person for support, and writing out issues and setting them aside. The episode ends on a reminder about a blog post Jeni wrote on the topic found at www.salifeline.org and the announcement of a b...2023-11-2116 minPathway to RecoveryThe What & Why of SAL 12-Step for Betrayal Trauma Recovery w/ Kahi WingetSend us a textIn this episode, Tara McCausland interviews Kahi Winget, the SAL Women's 12 Step executive director. Throughout the interview, they discuss the structure and benefits of SAL 12-Step meetings for individuals suffering from betrayal trauma, the hurdles to joining the meetings, as well as the journey of recovery. Both encourage newcomers to attend meetings and push through the early challenges of the process - emphasizing the life-changing impact of the program. They also discuss faith, spiritual connection with God or your Higher Power, and how these play crucial roles in the recovery journey....2023-11-1544 minPathway to RecoveryThe What & Why of SAL 12-Step for Betrayal Trauma Recovery w/ Kahi Winget In this episode, Tara McCausland interviews Kahi Winget, the SAL Women's 12 Step executive director. Throughout the interview, they discuss the structure and benefits of SAL 12 step meetings, the hurdles to joining the meetings, as well as the journey of recovery. Both encourage newcomers to attend meetings and push through the early challenges of the process - emphasizing the life-changing impact of the program. They also discuss faith, spiritual connection with a Higher Power, and how these play crucial roles in the recovery journey.Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step M...2023-11-1444 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - What brought you to SAL 12-Step and what are some of the blessings of the program?Send us a textHost Tara McCausland speaks with two leaders of the SAL 12-Step program, Kahi Winget and Andrew Schmucker. They discuss what originally brought them to SAL 12-Step meetings and how the reasons for their participation have evolved through the recovery process. Kahi and Andrew share unique blessings from working the SAL 12-Step program as well as how their conception and relationship with the God of their understanding has been strengthened during this time. Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonate2023-11-0728 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - Why do addicts lie and why is rigorous honesty key to recovery?Send us a textToday is another Q & A with our hosts, Tara McCausland and Justin B. Most addicts lie about their behaviors because they think it will protect themselves and not hurt others around them. Justin discusses how he eventually recognized the error in his thinking and how honesty has improved his relationships. They talk about how dishonesty is one of the most hurtful things for a betrayed partner.Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact t...2023-08-2916 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - What does a willing heart in recovery look like for a betrayed spouse?Send us a textHosts Tara McCausland and Justin B speak again with Heather B about her experience developing a willing heart and choosing to work her recovery from betrayal trauma even though her husband, Justin, did not choose recovery for 7 long years after disclosure. Heather discusses how humble prayer, a helpful faith leader, and taking small steps toward recovery was key in her journey to find hope and healing for herself. She explains that even though Justin did not acknowledge his addiction or choose to attend 12-Step for years, working the tools of recovery helped her...2023-08-0816 minPathway to RecoveryDeveloping a Willing Heart in Recovery as a Betrayed Partner w/ Jill ManningSend us a textHost Tara McCausland speaks with betrayal trauma expert, Dr. Jill Manning, about how a betrayed partner can apply the recovery puzzle pieces of a willing heart, honesty, humility, accountability, commitment, and seeking spiritual connection to facilitate healing. As a betrayed spouse, it is easy to feel like a victim of our addicted partner's behavior and believe recovery work is theirs to do, not ours. While this is understandable, Jill and Tara discuss why some partners might struggle with this and how staying in that mindset can stifle growth. Jill discusses how betrayed partners can mov...2023-08-0156 minPathway to RecoveryQ&A - What does a willing heart look like for a sexual addict?Send us a textHosts Tara McCausland and Justin B discuss what a willing heart, the central piece of the S.A. Lifeline Recovery Puzzle, looks like for a sexual addict. Justin describes the need for admission of addictive behavior as an important starting point and then an open-mindedness to new things in the recovery journey such as attending a 12-Step meeting. Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts2023-07-1114 minPathway to RecoveryThe Heart & Mind Recovery Puzzle Pieces w/ Eddie CapparucciSend us a textIn this episode, host Tara McCausland reviews the S.A. Lifeline heart and mind Recovery Puzzle pieces (e.g. willing heart, humble, accountable, committed, honesty, seeking spiritual connection) with guest expert, Dr. Eddie Capparucci. They compare them with the transformational elements in Eddie's latest book Why Men Struggle to Love: Overcoming Relational Blindspots and discuss how these critical elements not only help a person heal from the effects of sexual addiction but how they can transform a person's character and life. They also discuss why sobriety alone is not enough for lasting recovery...2023-07-0452 minPathway to RecoveryUnderstanding Betrayal Trauma and the Path to Recovery w/ Barbara SteffensSend us a textHost Tara McCausland and guest expert Dr. Barbara Steffens define what betrayal trauma is, what it looks like and how to approach healing and recovery. Barbara shares advice for betrayed partners, therapists and faith leaders. The importance of having a community for healing is discussed.Dr. Barbara Steffens specializes in helping women recover from sexual, relational betrayal and is a speaker and presenter on special issues related to partners of sexual addicts. She's a retired mental health counselor and a board certified coach. She was the...2023-06-0649 minPathway to RecoveryThe Who, What, and Why of the Pathway to Recovery PodcastSend us a textTara McCausland, executive director of S.A. Lifeline Foundation, and Justin B, a sex addict in long-term recovery, introduce the Pathway to Recovery Podcast. Here they answer the who, what, and why of the podcast. Who are the hosts of Pathway to Recovery and who is S.A. Lifeline?What can you expect from this podcast?Why was this podcast started and what are the ultimate goals associated with the Pathway to Recovery Podcast ?Justin and Tara end with with some words of wisdom and encouragement regarding recovery from se...2023-05-0223 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.65: Why I am Still Rowing & Tara's Farewell - Tara McCauslandIn this episode, Still Rowing podcast founder and host, Tara McCausland, bids farewell and answers why she is still rowing and shares some of the evidence or “fruit” of her faith. She also relates some lessons gleaned from former Still Rowing guests with the intent to encourage listeners to examine their own experience and testimony to help them choose faith in Christ and his restored church.Public Square Magazine article:https://publicsquaremag.org/faith/gospel-fare/is-personal-experience-the-final-arbiter-of-truth/2022-08-3130 min
Still Rowing PodcastSRS: Called to Love, Share & Invite - Tara McCauslandThe threefold mission of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is to proclaim the gospel, perfect the Saints, and redeem the dead. The first part of that mission - proclaim the gospel - came through loud and clear in the April 2022 conference with five talks given on the subject of missionary work. But as members of the church, we may feel reluctant or overwhelmed by the commission to share this news, good as it may be. In this Still Rowing Short, host Tara McCausland shares some why's and how's of missionary work and some faith-promoting experiences she had...2022-05-1119 min
Still Rowing PodcastSRS: Called to Love, Share & Invite - Tara McCauslandThe threefold mission of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is to proclaim the gospel, to perfect the Saints, and to redeem the dead. The first part of that mission - proclaiming the gospel - came through loud and clear in the April 2022 conference with five talks given on the subject of missionary work. But as members of the church, we may feel reluctant or overwhelmed by the commission to share this news, good as it may be. In this Still Rowing Short, host Tara McCausland shares some the why's and how's of missionary work along with some...2022-05-1020 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp 60. Daughter of a (Recovering) Sex Addict: A Gift in an Ugly Package - Tara McCauslandImagine being sat down one day and having your father tell you he was arrested for soliciting a prostitute and that he has struggled with sexual addiction for most of his life. How would you feel? How would this change your world? How could the sorrow of betrayal be turned to your good? In this unique episode, Tara McCausland joins Camille Brooks as a guest on the Finding Joy and Peace Podcast - reposted here for Still Rowing listeners. Tara shares her experience growing up in a family where sexual addiction was present and how this formative and difficult experience...2022-04-2745 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.57:{Anchors of Faith} Love, Marriage, and Nurturing Marital Sexual Intimacy - Ty MansfieldWith marriage rates decreasing and many people choosing alternatives to traditional marriage, it is becoming an increasingly fragile institution. Further burdening marriage is the toxic cultural narrative around what romantic relationships should look like and provide individuals - making it difficult for couples to achieve the unrealistic romantic ideal the media perpetuates. Under such pressures, the idea of a thriving eternal marriage feels more and more illusive and impossible to achieve. In this episode, therapist Dr. Ty Mansfield rejoins host Tara McCausland to discuss love, marriage, and how to nurture marital sexual intimacy through an elevated gospel lens which teaches...2022-03-021h 30
Still Rowing PodcastSRS: A Love Letter From God - Tara McCauslandPassionate, romantic love has become a kind of idol worship in our culture, leading many to feel unsatisfied, lonely, and without real love in their lives. Trouble is, the unrealistic expectations we've placed on marriage or other romantic relationships is causing us to struggle in our pursuit of true, enduring love with a spouse and to lose our focus on the Source of that deep and abiding Love which is only found in God. In this Still Rowing Short, host Tara McCausland quotes from Sister Susan Porter's excellent 2021 conference talk "God's Love: The Most Joyous to the Soul" and shares...2022-02-1512 min
Still Rowing PodcastSRS: Gospel Lessons From Basketball & Bringing Others to Christ - Tara McCauslandIn the October 2021 General Conference, Sister Bonnie Cordon said, “One of Satan’s most powerful weapons is to distract us with good and better causes which, in times of need, may blind and bind us away from the best cause—the very work that called us into this world.Our eternal purpose is to come unto Christ and actively join Him in His great work.”What’s blinding and binding us from participating in this great work and sharing the gospel message with others? In this Still Rowing Short, host Tara McCausland relates a brief story about her son's first basketball g...2021-12-1308 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.52: "Good Enough" Parenting, Freedom vs. Agency & Trusting God w/ our Children - Lili AndersonParenting has always been messy and complicated business. Attempting to raise faithful, resilient children in this permissive era has made an already difficult task that much more daunting. In Still Rowing Episode 52, host Tara McCausland speaks with Dr. Lili Anderson - author, practicing clinical social worker and former BYU professor in the School of Family Life - about important principles that can help our children succeed and get "far enough in" to the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Dr. Anderson also explains the difference between agency and freedom and our responsibility as parents to set and expect the Gospel standard. Finally...2021-11-101h 26
Still Rowing PodcastSRS: Real Talk on the Challenges of Temple Attendance & Heeding a Prophet's Voice - Tara McCauslandIn the October 2021 Conference, President Russel M. Nelson issued the call to Latter-day Saints to attend the temple more often as a means of fortifying our spiritual foundations in these difficult and unprecedented times. But if someone were to ask you how you feel about attending the temple, what would be your response? Are you one who loves serving in the temple and attends regularly or does temple attendance feel like just another task to check off your list? While some feel great peace and power in the temple, others confess to feeling anxiety, overwhelm, or even loss when in...2021-11-0219 min
Still Rowing PodcastAnnouncing Some Big(ish) News & Brief Musings on Manna - Tara McCauslandHost Tara McCausland announces some exciting Still Rowing news and shares some brief insights about manna and how God will provide your daily bread as you trust Him.Take a minute and listen to the awesome BYU speech by Elder Christofferson that Tara referenced in this episode. https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/d-todd-christofferson/give-us-this-day-our-daily-bread/2021-09-0811 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.49: Priesthood Authority & Temple Covenants - The Source of Our Power - Jared HalversonIn Still Rowing episode 49, host Tara McCausland and CES instructor and sought after speaker, Jared Halverson, discuss the history of and need for priesthood keys, the difference between priesthood authority and priesthood power, and the important truth that women and men in the church have access to both. They also discuss the power that stems from making and keeping temple covenants, how priesthood covenants and ordinances prepare us to meet God, and the key difference between temple worthiness vs. temple readiness.Check out Jared's exceptional Youtube channel here:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpumfWNEXE5YbL5QMjg5agA2021-08-2458 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.47: Communing with God, Enriching Our Discipleship with Mindfulness & Meditation - Ty MansfieldWith all we are asked to do as Latter-day Saints, our discipleship can sometimes feel depleting more than enriching. If church and temple attendance, prayer and scripture study have stopped blessing our lives and connecting us with the Divine, does it mean these practices no longer hold value? Or could it be that we are missing a key ingredient that, if added, would infuse those practices with meaning and bring us greater peace, joy and fulfillment as Latter-day Saints.In Still Rowing episode 47, host Tara McCausland and Ty Mansfield - PhD, therapist, and author - discuss how learning and incorporating...2021-07-271h 02
Media Savvy MomsWhat to tell kids when a parent struggles with sexual addiction with Tara McCauslandPorn harms families. No question there. So what do you do when a parent struggles with sexual addiction? Instinct may be to keep it hidden. Your spouse knows—but not the children. You reason the truth would be too painful. Better that they never find out. And yet, experience and research show that children actually suffer more from the weight of hidden truths than they do from careful and honest disclosure. Tara McCausland, Director of Outreach for SA Lifeline joins me this week to discuss this very sensitive topic. SA Lifeline is a non-profit foundation that provides ed...2021-05-1943 min
Finding Joy and PeaceDaughter of an Addict a Beautiful Gift in an Ugly Package (Sorrow Let’s The Glory Out) With Tara McCauslandImagine being sat down one day and having your father tell you he was arrested for prostitution and has struggled with sexual addiction for most of his life. How would you feel? How would this change your world? How could the sorrow of betrayal be turned to your good and bring out the glory within you? Tara McCausland mother, Rhyll Croshaw, shared her story in a previous podcast—The Sorrow Of Betrayal Trauma, which has blessed the lives of many. Today we will hear the story from the perspective of a child in the hope of blessing oth...2021-04-2743 min
Come Towards Delight42. Tara McCausland ON: A fellow Podcaster, host of ’Still Rowing’, Tara shares her experience growing up with a parent battling addiction. Surrendering, The power of Vulnerability, Shame, Miracles.Everyone has “Skeleton’s in their Closet”, but Tara didn’t know about the Skeleton living in her families closet until years after her parents were already battling it. Tara’s shares her personal experiences dealing with the trauma and pain caused by her fathers battle with addiction.
Tara’s Dad was introduced to pornography as a young boy, to no fault of his own. Years of trauma and unprocessed feelings lingered in him and led to very real and strong cravings throughout his life. Spending money on prostitutes, going to strip clubs, and viewing pornography regularly were habits t...2021-04-141h 05
Still Rowing PodcastConfessions of a Part-time Podcaster & Announcement - Tara McCauslandHost Tara McCausland muses about the challenges and blessings of producing this podcast and shares some insight about the gift of time and how we choose to spend it. Want to read a great talk about the importance of how we spend our time? Listen here: https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/henry-b-eyring/child-promise/2021-03-0216 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.39: {Anchors of Faith} Evidence of Joseph Smith's Prophetic Call - Steven HarperJoseph Smith, the man Latter-day Saints consider to be a prophet, was a person of complexity and depth. The truth claims members of the Church of Jesus Christ make rely heavily upon the veracity of the claims made by Joseph Smith. With that much at stake, it becomes imperative that one gain a witness that Joseph was who he said who he was, saw what he said he saw, and was truly called of God to perform a great latter-day work. In episode 39, host Tara McCausland along with guest Steven Harper - professor of Church history and doctrine at BYU...2021-02-021h 08
Still Rowing PodcastEp.36: This is {Amazing} Grace - A Christmas Message & Musical Medley From Tara McCauslandHave you ever had this thought?“I’m not celestial material. I’m simply not good enough.”If this sounds familiar, perhaps a greater understanding of who the babe born in Bethlehem truly was and what He came to do will increase your faith in your eternal potential.In this episode, host Tara McCausland shares what Grace is, why and how you and I can access it, and how Grace has blessed and sanctified real people in remarkable and amazing ways. Hang in till the end for a special musical medley prepared just for you by Tara. Merry Christmas!2020-12-2221 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.35:{Anchors of Faith} Understanding the Nature of the Godhead - David ButlerWhy is understanding the nature of God, His Son, and the Spirit so essential to our faith and testimony? How can a greater awareness of God’s character increase our trust in Him and His Plan for us? How do we reconcile the apparently wrathful God of the Old Testament and the loving Lord we see in the New Testament? In Still Rowing episode 35, guest David Butler and host Tara McCausland discuss these and other questions to help each of us develop a greater understanding and love for the Godhead - our Father in Heaven, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Gh...2020-12-0844 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.32: Politics, Polarization, and Building a Zion People - Tara McCauslandI noticed a predominant theme throughout the Saturday sessions of this past October conference, hearing over and over the words unity and Zion. We heard on more than one occasion the solemn reminder that “if ye are not one, ye are not mine.”In this episode, host Tara McCausland shares some personal observations regarding the increasing polarization we are seeing politically and in public discourse and what we as disciples of Jesus Christ can do to help mend these social rifts, create more unity in our wards and communities, and help build a Zion people. Link to Elder Holland’s talk...2020-10-2725 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.30: Prophets, Revelation & the Paradox of a True & Imperfect Church - Brad MathesonCan a prophet make mistakes and still be a prophet? Can the church be both true and imperfect? How is revelation received on a church level? What is the difference between doctrine and policy and why does it matter?In Still Rowing episode 30 and third installment of our Anchors of Faith series, host Tara McCausland and guest Brad Matheson discuss the need for a living prophet in today's world, how we can trust in and sustain these men we call prophets and seers, policy vs doctrine, and the blessings and complexity associated with belonging to the true and imperfect church.2020-09-291h 05
Still Rowing PodcastEp.28: {Anchors of Faith} The Fall, the Plan of Happiness, and Minding the Gap - Melinda W. BrownIn the April 2020 Conference, President Dallin H. Oaks stated the following:“I share the conviction that has come to me from many letters and by reviewing many requests to return to the Church after name removal or apostasy. Many of our members do not fully understand this Plan of Salvation, which answers most questions about the doctrine and inspired policies of the restored Church.”Therefore, gaining an understanding and testimony of God’s Great Plan is key in anchoring our faith in Christ and His church. Why? Because only within that framework will mortality and the restored Gospel of Jesus Christ...2020-09-011h 01
Still Rowing PodcastBonus Episode: Can God Help Me With Even This? - Tara McCauslandLife is laced with challenges big and small and sometimes, when difficult circumstances arise, we may forget that God can help us with *even* this. In this bonus episode, Still Rowing host Tara McCausland describes how a recent challenge reminded her that God desires to help us in all things and that through the enabling power of the Atonement of Christ, we can find the strength and resilience to adapt to our circumstances and move forward in the strength of the Lord.Want to listen to Elder Bednar's awesome talk cited in the episode? Check it out here:https://speeches...2020-07-2912 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.17: Attack of COVID-19: Faith, Fear, and a Chance to Reset - Greg ClarkIn the last month, lives around the world have dramatically shifted as the result of COVID-19. In this episode, BYU professor Greg Clark and host Tara McCausland discuss the source, symptoms, and antidote to the fear many are experiencing at this time. They also explore the unique opportunity to improve our condition as a people - not in spite of - but because of the novel coronavirus. Want to listen to Greg’s original 2008 BYU speech "Some Lessons on Faith and Fear"? Check it out here. https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/gregory-clark/lessons-faith-fear/BYU Forum - Developing Democratic Character With Ja...2020-04-0152 min
Still Rowing PodcastEp.16: What Will I Do With My Pain? - Tara McCauslandWe all experience pain in varying degrees throughout our lives. But when we are in discomfort, what do we do? Who or what do we turn to for relief? Are we able to find purpose in our pain or is suffering just an unfortunate part of mortality? In this episode, Tara McCausland describes some of her own pain, how her response to it has shifted over the years, and her testimony that our trials can really be our greatest blessings in disguise. Hang in till the end to hear a special song recorded for this episode.2020-03-0225 min
Still Rowing PodcastIntroducing Still Rowing: Who, What, and Why - Tara McCausland"Still Rowing" host Tara McCausland shares the who, what, and why behind this podcast as well as some personal stories and insights that have helped her continue to choose faith in Christ and His restored church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.2019-07-1531 min
JuvenaliaThe Juvenalia Christmas Spectacular 2016Hello and welcome to the Juvenalia Christmas Spectacular 2016. We gathered some past and future guests around the Juvenalia table to talk Christmas with us. We were *very* surprised by the topics that came up and can pretty much guarantee that you will be too. We won’t spoil too much but if you want a Christmas podcast that features Elon Musk, the Titanic Museum, famous graveyards, Karen Carpenter, and beards within beards, you’re in the right place.
So who was there? Here’s who was there:
Alan Maguire – Co-host of Juvenalia
Ellen Tannam – Co-host of Juvenali...2016-12-221h 40