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Queer Divorce ClubChrissy Heyne, Finding Strength in ChangeIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, Chrissy shares her personal journey through divorce, from the initial shock and emotional turmoil to co-parenting and rebuilding her life. She discusses the process of choosing mediation, the importance of community support, and the strategies that helped her cope. Chrissy reflects on the ongoing nature of personal growth and the value of viewing life changes as opportunities rather than setbacks. She also offers advice for those just starting their own divorce journey, emphasizing resilience, self-compassion, and the power of community.2024-09-0555 min
Queer Divorce ClubFlint, Renewal through Self-DiscoveryIn this insightful episode of the Queer Divorce Club podcast, Flint candidly shares their experiences with two different queer divorces, discussing the emotional challenges and the journey of reconciling their identity within societal expectations. Flint emphasizes the importance of therapy, community support, and rediscovering personal interests as crucial elements of healing and rebuilding life post-divorce. This conversation delves into the complexities of emotions during life transitions, offering listeners mindfulness practices and self-care strategies, especially beneficial for queer and trans individuals. Flint's story highlights the path to contentment and a fulfilling life, focusing on living intentionally and finding...2024-05-3142 min
Queer Divorce ClubBrenda Bridges, Divorce MythsIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club podcast, Tera is joined by Brenda Bridges, author of "Oh Shit! I'm getting divorced," and a seasoned divorce coach, financial advisor, and certified collaborative divorce mediator. Brenda sheds light on crucial aspects of divorce while debunking prevalent myths surrounding topics like child support, alimony, and the timing of filing. Gain valuable insights and practical advice on navigating divorce with emotional resilience and clarity. Listen now for expert guidance on managing emotions and approaching divorce with empowerment and confidence. Brenda Bridges: https://bridgingdivorcesolutions.com/ Music in this episode i...2024-05-2248 min
Queer Divorce ClubAshmeeta Madhav, Grief SupportIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club podcast featuring Ashmeeta Madhav, resilience and grief support advocate, and founder of Growth StoryHub. Ashmeeta shares her journey of navigating divorce at a young age, remarriage, and the profound loss of her second husband to a terminal illness, all while raising young children. Through her own experience, Ashmeeta recognized the need for support in processing grief, especially in the context of divorce, where it often goes unaddressed. She offers insights into the multifaceted emotions of grief, strategies for self-compassion, and navigating the process of rebuilding amidst loss. Ashmeeta empowers listeners to...2024-04-0254 min
Queer Divorce ClubAmy Nielsen, Making Regulated Decisions for a Peaceful DivorceDiscover invaluable insights in this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, as Tera sits down with attorney and divorce coach, Amy Neilsen. With her wealth of experience supporting couples through divorce, Amy shares practical tips on navigating a peaceful divorce process and maintaining post-divorce harmony while co-parenting. Drawing from her own journey as a queer divorcee, Amy offers valuable advice on prioritizing your own well-being during the divorce process and ensuring that your needs are met. Tune in as Amy guides us through a process of self-discovery, helping us identify and communicate our needs effectively while navigating the complexities...2024-03-0451 min
Queer Divorce ClubLisa Johnson, Supporting your kids through high conflict divorceIn this episode, we're thrilled to introduce our first guest of the year, Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, a high conflict divorce coach, and certified domestic violence advocate. Lisa expertly navigates the complexities of supporting children through a high conflict divorce, shedding light on the profound impact that conflict during divorce can have on kids. Throughout our conversation, Lisa shares invaluable strategies for parents facing this challenging terrain, offering insights into creating a safe and supportive environment for children amidst turmoil. Tune in as Lisa provides actionable advice on supporting kids, navigating parenting time with an...2024-02-1448 min
Queer Divorce ClubTera Wozniak Stortz; Self-Compassion and ResistanceIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, Tera provides an update on the club's progress and shares insights gleaned from her own divorce and rebuilding journey in 2023. Those lessons include how self-compassion has been such an asset to her and other lessons about how to function post divorce with kids. Tera Wozniak Stortz Tera is a queer writer and coach. After decades of living the heteronormative “perfect” life, Tera decided to lean out, getting divorced and building a queerer life. Today, Tera is writing, running the Queer Divorce Club, and leading peer coaching circles for...2024-02-0116 min
Queer Divorce ClubDr. Joe Kort; Gay in a Straight MarriageIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, join us in a candid conversation with Dr. Joe Kort, a distinguished psychotherapist and the founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Southeast Michigan. Dr. Kort specializes in working with individuals, particularly men, who grapple with the realization of their gay identity while navigating straight marriages. We delve into the challenges of coming out within a marriage, the complexities of remaining in a marriage as a queer individual, and the arduous journey of making it through divorce. Dr. Kort aptly describes the process as brutal, and together, we...2023-12-0543 min
Queer Divorce ClubMatthew Phifer; Co-Parenting in High ConflictIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, we delve into the profound insights of Matthew Phifer, a therapist, speaker, and trainer, specializing in navigating toxic relationships, narcissism, trauma, and emotional abuse. Tera and Matthew focus on the challenging terrain of co-parenting with a toxic ex, stabilizing both yourself and your children after divorce, and healing following a relationship with a narcissist. Matthew shares invaluable tips on establishing boundaries and cultivating a healthier post-divorce life, especially when dealing with an abusive ex-partner. His expertise sheds light on crucial aspects of post-divorce recovery, offering listeners practical guidance and a deeper...2023-11-2146 min
Queer Divorce ClubSamantha Fox, Late Bloomer LesbianIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club Podcast, I had the privilege of conversing with Samantha Fox, a sexuality and curiosity coach specializing in Late Bloomers. Our discussion delves into the unique experiences of coming out later in life, exploring its profound effects on personal identity, family dynamics, and the journey to finding authenticity for late bloomers. Drawing from her own journey as a late bloomer, Sam shared valuable insights that I connected with, and I'm certain you will too. Sam also underscores the importance of community support as you navigate the intricacies of coming out and divorce...2023-11-0749 min
Queer Divorce ClubNina Raff, LSCW, Co-ParentingIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, we deep dive into the world of co-parenting. Tera is joined for a second episode with Nina Raff, a therapist who specializes in divorce and co-parenting. Nina offers invaluable guidance on navigating post-divorce parenting. Learn how to maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex, support your children through the challenges of divorce, and manage your own feelings of guilt. Nina's insights provide a wealth of support and information for parents on their divorce journey. Nina Raff No one gets married thinking they will divorce. Marriage has...2023-10-241h 01
Coming Out PodEpisode 267: Tera Wozniak StortzTera Wozniak Stortz, founder of the Queer Divorce Club, remembers one fleeting moment in high school when it ever-so-briefly crossed her mind that she might be a lesbian. For the most part, though, Tera thought that her lack of attraction to men simply meant that she was "broken." Like many in her position, Tera ended up in a long-term heteronormative marriage, and kept herself moving at such a breakneck pace that she never had time to truly examine her identity. But when Tera and her husband became polyamorous and Tera started having experiences with women...the truth that she'd been...2023-09-2058 min
Queer Divorce ClubJonelle Tunney, Transitioning and DivorceIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, Tera has the privilege of speaking with Jonelle Tunney, a licensed professional counselor, transwoman, and divorcee, who generously shares her personal journey of transitioning while navigating the challenging terrain of divorce. Jonelle's story is a poignant narrative of resilience and growth. During the conversation, Jonelle offers a wealth of insights drawn from her experiences of simultaneously managing significant life transitions over the past five years. She candidly discusses the lessons she's learned, both from her transition and her divorce, shedding light on what worked for her and what didn't...2023-09-0756 min
Queer Divorce ClubNina Raff, LCSW, Choosing Family Reconfiguration and Divorcing PeacefullyIn this episode I have the privilege of chatting with Nina Raff, a seasoned psychotherapist specializing in collaborative divorce and the discernment process. Nina's expertise shines as she offers invaluable insights on various crucial aspects of divorce. Throughout our conversation, you'll gain valuable advice from Nina on choosing the right divorce approach for you, recognizing signs that it may be time for divorce, and effectively communicating about this transition with your children. We also delve into the unique challenges faced by queer divorcees and how to navigate them, all while ensuring you make informed decisions throughout the...2023-08-241h 06
Queer Divorce ClubCariann Moore, Navigating the Messy MiddleIn this episode, Tera has the privilege of connecting with the wonderful Cariann Moore as she bravely shares her journey through the intricate phase following her divorce, often referred to as the "messy middle." Through her vulnerability, Cariann opens up about her personal experience during this challenging period and offers profound insights into her healing process. We delve into the strategies she employed to navigate the messy middle during the post-divorce rebuilding stage and discuss how others can find their own paths to healing. The "messy middle" is a shared experience after divorce, and Cariann's wisdom provides...2023-08-1157 min
Queer Divorce ClubDr. Lynda Spann; Red Flags and When to Call it QuitsIn this compelling episode of the Queer Divorce Club, Tera had the privilege of talking with Dr. Lynda Spann, the founder of the Lesbian Couples Institute. They delve into the crucial topic of recognizing red flags in relationships and navigating the difficult decision of when to call it quits or persevere to strengthen your marriage. Additionally, they explored the concept of consciously uncoupling and discussed how to embrace self-compassion and understanding when making the choice to get divorced. Dr. Lynda Spann Dr. Lynda Spann is the founder of the Lesbian Couples Institute (LCI). Lynda and...2023-08-0445 min
Queer Divorce ClubBonus: You Can Leave What Isn't Working by The Gay DivorceesWelcome to a bonus track from The Gay Divorcees! In our last episode, Ethan Philbrick graced us with a discussion of his gay divorce and how he brought together The Gay Divorcees in part to build community around queer divorce. This beautiful song, "You Can Leave What Isn't Working," holds a special place in his heart and he is sharing it with our community! For the full album from The Gay Divorcees, head over to divorcee.gay. The Gay Divorcees The Gay Divorcees is a band of real-life queers who got gay married and gay d...2023-08-0104 min
Queer Divorce ClubEthan Philbrick, Finding Community Through Music and Queer Divorce CultureIn this episode, Tera had the privilege of chatting with the talented Ethan Philbrick, a cellist, artist, and writer. Ethan shares his own heartfelt divorce story and sheds light on his inspiring initiative, The Gay Divorcees, a musical platform created to honor the narratives of queer divorcees. Together, we explore the culture surrounding queer divorce and the significance of its relatively short history in our country. Delving into the importance of this history, we reflect on its impact on divorcees and the expectations they may face when choosing to separate. Join us as we celebrate...2023-07-2852 min
Queer Divorce ClubAsh and Dawn, Healing and Building New Relationships Post DivorceIn this episode, Tera has the pleasure of hosting Ash, a Certified Somatic Practitioner, and her wife Dawn, a relationship coach trained in a psychobiological approach to couples therapy. Join us as Ash and Dawn, both divorcees turned happily married couple, share their inspiring journey of healing and love. Discover the remarkable story of how they met and the transformative healing they embarked on as a couple following their divorces. But that's not all! Get ready to dive into some invaluable tips on healing, moving into new relationships (not just romantic ones) after divorce, and...2023-07-191h 04
Queer Divorce ClubKate Herald Browne, Family Structure and Navigating the Murky MiddleDiscover a powerful journey of healing and growth in this episode of the Queer Divorce Club. Join Tera, as she sits down with the incredible Kate Herald Browne, who candidly shares her personal story of divorce, remarriage, and co-parenting. In this heartfelt conversation, Kate and Tera delve into the intricacies of queer divorce, exploring its unique dynamics and shedding light on the differences between queer and heteronormative divorces. Together, they uncover the transformative power of repairing relationships with ex-partners and offer invaluable insights into navigating the challenging "murky middle" of divorce. Get ready to be...2023-07-101h 04
Queer Divorce ClubRachel Kieras, Finances and DivorceIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, I had the pleasure of chatting with Rachel Kieras, a financial expert with certification in the divorce process. Together, we dive deep into the crucial topic of managing finances during divorce. Rachel breaks down the essential financial aspects to focus on and provides a step-by-step approach to navigate the complexities of the process. Beyond the logistics, Rachel emphasizes the emotional aspects of finances and the importance of building a supportive team during divorce. We explore budgeting strategies and setting yourself up for a prosperous life post-divorce. This episode is...2023-06-281h 06
Queer Divorce ClubMichelle Coulier and Miguel Ruiz-Santos; Real Estate and Lending During DivorceIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, we're diving into the intricacies of buying and selling a home while navigating the divorce process. Whether you're looking to purchase a new home or refinance the one you owned with your former spouse, this episode is packed with valuable insights and expert advice to help you make informed decisions. The episode features Michelle Coulier and Miguel Ruiz-Santos who experts in real estate and lending specifically tailored to the needs of the LGBTQIA+ community. Together, we'll explore the unique challenges and considerations that arise when dealing with property during...2023-06-2038 min
Queer Divorce ClubPaul Schwen, mediator | Divorce Mediation and Co-Parenting Relationship FoundationsWelcome to the latest episode of the Queer Divorce Club Podcast! We are thrilled to bring you an enlightening conversation with Paul Schwen, an esteemed family law attorney and mediator who specializes in supporting queer individuals through the divorce process. In this episode, Paul shares his expertise on the ins and outs of mediation, shedding light on its unique dynamics within the context of queer divorce. During our insightful discussion, Paul dives deep into the intricacies of mediation and highlights the differences between queer and straight divorces. He emphasizes how mediation can serve as a powerful tool...2023-06-141h 00
Queer Divorce ClubEpisode 3: Candace Lefke, Embodiment and HealingIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club podcast, we have the privilege of hearing Candace Lefke's inspiring journey as she recounts her transformative experience of ending her marriage, embarking on a profound healing process, and the remarkable role embodiment played in her recovery. Candace fearlessly opens up about her break up with her husband, unraveling the complexities and emotions surrounding that pivotal moment in her life. Through vulnerability and resilience, she shares the profound lessons learned and the growth she has experienced since then. What makes Candace's story truly remarkable is her unwavering commitment...2023-06-061h 02
Queer Divorce ClubDevon Gibby | Gay Dad | Co-Parenting | DivorceIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club podcast, Tera talks with Devon Gibby. Devon, a proud gay dad, takes us on a transformative journey that began a decade ago when he courageously started blogging about his life as a closeted Mormon married to a woman. In this deeply personal episode, Devon shares his experiences of navigating the complexities of faith, sexuality, and divorce, ultimately emerging as a passionate advocate for co-parenting. Through his Instagram account, Devon invites us into his world, offering an authentic and relatable glimpse into the joys and challenges of raising his two sons. Join...2023-05-3042 min
Queer Divorce ClubInterview with Queer Divorce Club Founder Tera Wozniak Stortz | Queer Divorce and Coming OutWelcome to episode 1 of the Queer Divorce Club! In this special edition, Tera's partner takes on the role of interviewer as they delve into Tera's personal journey through divorce, coming out, and her current state of being. The conversation explores the intricacies of Tera's divorce, the emotional challenges encountered along the way, and the ongoing healing process following the end of her marriage and the revelation of her true self. Additionally, they discuss the genesis of the Queer Divorce Club and their shared enthusiasm for fostering this empowering community. Join us for this intimate and inspiring conversation as we...2023-05-2338 min
Queer Divorce ClubQueer Divorce Club Podcast IntroductionThe Queer Divorce Club Podcast is a one-of-a-kind podcast created by and for the LGBTQIA+ Divorce Community. Join us as we embark on a transformative journey together, navigating the intricacies of queer divorce with the guidance of guest experts and individuals who generously share their own stories. Hosted by Tera Wozniak Stortz, the founder of the Queer Divorce Club, this podcast delves into a multitude of essential topics. From making the difficult decision to end a marriage to crafting a fulfilling life after divorce, we'll explore it all. Prepare to trust your intuition, embrace your identity in...2023-05-1802 min