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LOVEBONDS141: Exploring the Affair Triad: A Conversation with Dr. Sarah Fajgenbaum-TesljaPsychiatrist and psychotherapist, Dr. Sarah Fajenbaum-Teslja, and relationship counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC, shed light on misunderstood aspects of infidelity. Together, they provide a novel framework for understanding the cause of infidelity and explore the emotional pain and challenges of each person in the triad.
An affair triad involves the three people impacted by the affair:
One who is in a committed relationship or marriage and engages in secret intimacy outside of the relationship.
The partner or spouse in a committed relationship or marriage whose partner or spouse in...
2024-05-2449 min
The Housecrunch Radio Show with Terri B!HC 625 Terri B! Ft Dj IzeeTracklist
1. Sidney Charles - House 2 Heal(Original Mix)
2. Zsak - Turn Off The Lights(Extended Mix)
3. Ranger - Pushing On(Extended Mix)
4. DIMATTEO - Be Yourself(Extended Mix)
5. Antoine Claraman - Other Side(Yvvan Back & Zetaphunk Extended Mix)
6. Earth n Days - The Kinda Love(Extended Mix
7. Hotswing - Work It(Earth n Days Extended Remix)
8. Hotswing - Underground(Extended Mix)
9. D.H.S. - The House of God(The Cube Guys Extended Remix)
10. David Penn, Sex-O-Sonique...
2024-03-3000 min
LOVEBONDS141: From Trauma to Treatment: Healing Each Person in the Infidelity Triad with Dr. Sarah Fajgenbaum-Teslja, Part 1In this first episode of this three-part series, Dr. Sarah Fajgenbaurm-Teslja and Terri DiMatteo, LPC discuss trauma and treatment for individuals in committed relationships or marriages whose spouse or partner intimately engages with another outside their relationship or marriage.
2023-09-2143 minLOVEBONDS140: A Conversation with New Jersey’s Premier Dating Coach and Matchmaker Julianne Canterella, MSWDo you find dating challenging, confusing, or puzzling? As a licensed therapist, dating coach, and matchmaker in New Jersey, Julianne Canterella provides expert advice to those seeking a fulfilling dating experience!
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2023-07-2049 min
LOVEBONDS139: A Conversation with Debbie Mirza, author of "The Covert Passive Aggressive #Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse"Does your spouse or partner constantly criticize you, sulk, take credit for your ideas, display incongruent words and actions, exhibit silent rage, and withhold praise and recognition? If so, you may be in a relationship with a #covert passive-aggressive #narcissist. In this episode author Debbie Mirza shares her personal story, helps listeners identify #covertnarcissism and ways to heal.
To learn more about Debbie, purchase her books and discover helpful, healing resources visit www.debbiemirza.com
2023-04-151h 00
LOVEBONDS138: Love, Relationships, Betrayal and Healing: An Interview with Couple Therapist Terri DiMatteo, LPC by Sonia Schnee, Founder and Owner of Jersey IndieMany misconceptions exist about love, relationships, infidelity, and relationship repair. In this episode, New Jersey couple therapist and affair recovery counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy in Princeton, NJ.
This enlightening interview with Sonia Schnee, Founder, and Owner of Jersey Indie, covers the following:
Why is 'communication' not the critical ingredient to a romantic relationship?
What defines a romantic relationship?
What is a bond of intimacy?
What is emotional regulation, and why is it so important?
What is the leading cause of infidelity?
Listeners will surely find these eye-opening and insightful ideas about love...
2023-01-0757 min
LOVEBONDS137: The Turbo Relationship with PreMarital Specialist Dr. Mayi DixonIt’s no secret that the pandemic has had a wide-ranging effect on romantic relationships, including new romantic relationships. The Turbo Relationship is a term used to describe new relationships that formed during the pandemic that moved quickly toward commitment. The rapid commitment speed in a pandemic environment has both short- and long-term effects on the couple, as you’ll learn from our guest on the topic, Dr. Mayi Dixon.
Dr. Mayi Dixon of Innovative Counseling Solutions is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Georgia specializing in Marriage and Family Therapy. In this episode, she addresses the many face...
2022-08-1927 minLOVEBONDS136: Learn This Advanced Communication Skill For a Stronger ConnectionCommunicating with your most important person can be challenging. Sometimes you need their undivided attention. When you can't get it, panic can set in. To help ensure that you have your spouse or partner’s focused attention, master the higher-level communication skill explained in this crucial episode.
2020-12-0613 min
LOVEBONDS137: How to Safeguard Your Relationship During the HolidaysThe holidays add additional stress due to the extra chores, travel, and extended family relations. This year - due to the pandemic - it’s holiday stress is on steroids! As a result, it’s more important than ever that you and your beloved safeguard and protect your very precious relationship. You need one another more than ever. This episode provides ideas, suggestions, and techniques for staying close, and connected during these very trying times.
2020-11-2300 minLOVEBONDS137: Safeguarding Your Relationship During the HolidaysThe holidays add additional stress due to the extra labor, travel, hosting and family relations. This year they are the holidays on steroids. It’s more important than ever that you and your spouse or partner safeguard and protect your very precious relationship. You need each other more than ever. This episode gives you ideas and suggestions for staying close and connected to one another during this very difficult holiday season.
2020-11-2300 minLOVEBONDS135: Emotional Affair v Sexual AffairSome people ask, "What's worse? An emotional affair or a sexual affair?". Is one or the other more or less painful? Does one or the other have a more significant impact on the committed relationship or marriage? What happens when the affair is both emotional and sexual? Have a listen as affair recovery expert Terri DiMatteo, LPC unpacks it all for you.
2020-09-2814 minLOVEBONDS134: What is a Healthy Relationship?One barrier to obtaining relationship satisfaction is not knowing what a healthy, satisfying, and loving relationship is. The romantic relationship serves a specific purpose and function that mystifies and confuses many.
Marriage and relationship counselor Terri DiMatteo of Open Door Therapy demystifies a healthy relationship so that you can identify it and achieve it for yourself.
2020-09-2720 minLOVEBONDS134: Resolving Relationship Strain During CovidThere’s no question that the pandemic is adding additional stress and strain in romantic relationships. This episode will address those strains in an effort to increase empathy and understanding for a deeper, more meaningful connection.
2020-09-2611 minLOVEBONDS133: From An Affair to Commitment: What You Need to KnowThough rare, there are occasions when a committed relationship or marriage develops from an affair. Unions born of an affair face unique challenges - and it's probably not what you think! Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo of Open Door Therapy specializes in helping couples restore in the aftermath of an affair addresses this complex topic.
2020-09-2515 minLOVEBONDS132: How Your First Family Impacts Your Current RelationshipThe family you grew up in has a profound impact on your current love relationship. Your first family teaches you about love and conflict. Examining the ways in which your family has impacted you -- and the effect your partner or spouse's family has had on him or her -- can have a profound effect on helping each of you gain a better understanding of the intricacies of your relationship.
Couples Counselor Terri DiMatteo of Open Door Therapy breaks it down for you in an easy to understand manner.
2020-09-2515 minLOVEBONDS131: Fierce Fighting Over Small MattersDo fights over the dishes, laundry, groceries, or other small matters quickly turn to major blows? What's that all about? Why can't we just put up a to-do list and resolve it all logically?
Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo of Open Door Therapy helps you understand why this happens so that you can say good-bye to big blowouts over the little things.
2020-09-2512 minLOVEBONDS130: Why Emotional Acuity is Key to Relationship SuccessMost people think that when it comes to romantic relationships “communication” is key and work hard to communicate more effectively. Unfortunately, that's not what's needed. Emotional smarts are what's needed.
Learn ways to 'up your game' when it comes to emotionally tuning into your partner and having them effectively tune into you. Master this and you'll reap the rewards of relationship fulfillment.
2020-09-2517 minLOVEBONDS129: Do This One Thing Right Now for a Stronger ConnectionDo you find that you and your partner are constantly squabbling over small matters? Underneath it all, there is usually a deeper concern. Most worry that a partner may not really love them, have their back, or really care. It's easy to feel alone in the relationship. Changing just one simple thing can help move your relationship from adversity to connection. Listen now to discover the one simple thing you can do right now that can have a profound effect.
2020-04-2305 minLOVEBONDS128: How to Talk to Your Partner During the PandemicIt’s been rough. The pandemic is putting a strain on the best of relationships. Talking about simple matters can quickly become tense and escalate. This episode provides proven techniques to calm tensions so that you and your partner can talk to one another to address the matters at hand.
2020-04-2306 minLOVEBONDS128: The Pandemic and Your Sex LifeLounging around in your jammies and joggers with overgrown hair and a bucket full of worries is hardly the recipe for feeling amorous! None of this is conducive to feeling sexy, romantic, flirty or fun. The pandemic may be taking a disastrous toll on your sex life, and ultimately on your relationship. If so, it's time to turn things around and place your sex life front and center! Listen now to find out why you should prioritize your sex life, how it can be done and the benefits you'll reap when you do.
2020-04-2113 minLOVEBONDS127: The Secret to Securely Connected CouplesResearch shows that what separates couples that are in long-lasting satisfying relationships from those that are not engage in a particular interaction! Tune in to discover the magic to satisfying long-lasting love and connection.
2020-04-2111 minLOVEBONDS126: Do This One Thing to Protect Your RelationshipNo matter your situation, your relationship is likely under enormous stress and strain right now and could use a little help! In this episode you’ll learn the one thing you can do right now to see your relationship safely to the other side of this pandemic.
2020-04-2108 minLOVEBONDS125: How Couples Counseling Helps to Restore and Improve a RelationshipWhat is couples counseling, and how does it work? How can a couple tell if relationship counseling is effective? This episode identifies the four most common reasons that couples seek professional relationship care, defines the primary aim of couple counseling, and provides ways to assess if the therapy is helping. Listeners can enhance their understanding of this episode by also listening to LoveBonds Episode 118, ‘The Function of the Romantic Relationship’ and Episode 101, ‘How Love Helps Manage Difficult Emotions.’
2020-02-1622 minLOVEBONDS124: The Art of Romance: Heartfelt Ways of Making Your Partner Feel Loved and DesiredYou and your spouse or partner are in a romantic relationship — so where’s the romance? Whether it comes easily, or needs a bit of effort, this episode is for you! Learn ways to go beyond superficial niceties or simply giving your partner a compliment. In this episode you will discover ways to go deeper— to emotionally move your partner so that they not only feel loved and desired but are more likely to respond to you lovingly and with desire!
2020-02-1415 minLOVEBONDS123: Getting Through DivorceEven in the best of circumstances with a lot of agreement between partners, divorce is never easy. It is regarded as one of life’s most stressful and painful experiences. So what can ease the pain and see you through? Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo shares a few ideas that can help.
2019-12-2615 minLOVEBONDS122: Reflections on the show ‘Married at First Sight’A New Jersey relationship and couple counselor shares relationship insights and observations based on the show ‘Married at First Sight’ — where brides and grooms meet each other for the first time at the altar!
2019-12-2318 minLOVEBONDS121: What does it mean to repair a relationship?Is the absence of fighting or simply ‘getting along’ indicative of a healed relationship? How about enjoying one another or being polite? How much does mutually expressing fondness and admiration go? Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo provides you with clear insights on how to assess relationship restoration.
2019-12-1812 minLOVEBONDS120: Can Your Relationship Survive an Affair?The future of a relationship is no longer certain upon the discovery of an affair. Four key elements help determine the likelihood that a relationship that has been traumatized by infidelity can endure. Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy in Westfield, NJ, will help in determining the survivability of a relationship impacted by infidelity.
2019-12-0715 minLOVEBONDS119: Why the "Best Friend" Relationship Model Doesn't WorkDo you refer to your partner as your 'best friend'?
On the surface, this seems fine enough. After all, best friends are generally close confidants that enjoy one another. There's a warmth, familiarity and camaraderie between close friends - so what could possibly be amiss in referencing your partner as your 'bestie'?
Listen as relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo unpacks the reasons why the 'best friend' model doesn't work for romantic pairs and suggests another relationship model that is more akin to the romantic relationship.
2019-12-0512 minLOVEBONDS118: The Function of a Romantic RelationshipWe've all heard relationship advice, have seen relationship memes on social media and have heard 'tips' and 'dos and don'ts' when it comes to the romantic relationship: but what are these ideas and suggestions based on? Many of these suggestions imply that if just one person in the relationship would make changes, the relationship would improve.
Unfortunately, many such notions add to the confusion and misunderstanding already surrounding romantic relationships. Before you can restore or repair a romantic relationship you need to know what its function is, how it works and what it's supposed to do for you.
Relationship and co...
2019-12-0417 min2019-12-0300 minLOVEBONDS117: Exploring the Old Adage "Once a Cheater Always a Cheater"We've all heard it. We've heard it among friends. We've heard it at social gatherings. We've heard it on the television and among relationship experts - 'once a cheater, always a cheater'.
Is is true?
This episode provides an in-depth exploration of the old adage 'once a cheater, always a cheater'.
2019-02-1712 minLOVEBONDS116: Three Problems With Online DatingOnline dating is easy, convenient and popular. Many a pair have met, fallen in love and married through online dating apps - so what's wrong with meeting people through dating apps?
Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy shares ways in which online dating works against building a safe and trusting romantic relationship.
2019-02-1412 minLOVEBONDS115: One Reason Why Affair Recovery is So DifficultThe discovery of an affair immediately catapults a couple into a relationship crisis. The future of the relationship is no longer guaranteed as the couple asks themselves, "Can we survive this?" The task of rebuilding trust and safety is daunting. Listen as affair recovery expert Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy unpacks a particularly tricky challenge in affair recovery.
2019-02-1412 minLOVEBONDS114: Will Your New Relationship Last? One Way to Find OutIf you're in a shiny new relationship and things are going great, you might be wondering if he or she be 'the one.' Does your new relationship have enough of the right stuff to go the distance? Is it too early to tell? Here's a quick - but effective - way to determine if your new relationship might have genuine, long-lasting potential.
2019-02-1308 minLOVEBONDS113: How to Know When It's Time to Call it QuitsIt's no secret that all relationships experience conflict and periods of disconnect. While these experiences are considered typical, how can you tell when enough is enough, and it may be time to call it quits? Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy offers a few indications that a relationship may be reaching the breaking point.
2019-02-1209 minLOVEBONDS112:Challenging Popular Notions on the Affair TriadWe've all seen the magazine headlines, celebrity gossip stories, politicians who cheat and have listened to the experts that portray infidelity in trite and predictable ways. Our culture tends to simplify and trivialize each person within the affair triad. In fact, the language of affairs also contributes to infidelity misunderstanding. Popular notions suggest that: The one who engaged in the infidelity is portrayed as a heartless, immoral villain and is labeled "The Cheater". The one who's partner strayed is portrayed as an innocent victim who was wronged and made no contribution to the relationship crisis of infidelity. This party gets labele...
2019-02-1226 minLOVEBONDS111: The Psychopathic Partner: Terri DiMatteo, LPC in Conversation with Steve Becker, LCSWLove and relationships have their challenges but when the romantic partner is a personality disordered psychopath the challenges are steep. Not for the faint of heart, this episode presents an in-depth discussion on being in a relationship with the personality disordered with Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Steve Becker. Steve has over twenty years of experience and specializes in narcissistic spectrum personality disorders.
Steve is the author of "The Inner World of the Psychopath: A Definitive Primer on the Psychopathic Personality" available on Amazon.
Visit Steve's website www.powercommunicating.com
Visit Steve's YouTube Channel Steve Becker, LCSW
2019-02-0925 minLOVEBONDS110: Terri DiMatteo with Pre-Marital Bliss Podcast Host Mayi Dixon on the Challenges of Pre-Marital InfidelityWhat is a couple to do when infidelity occurs before getting married? Mayi Dixon, LPC host of Anchor's "The PreMarital Bliss Podcast," interviews relationship and couples counselor Terri DiMatteo. The two discuss the unique concerns that occur when infidelity happens before getting married. What is the best response, and what is the best way forward? You can learn more about Mayi by visiting her website www.innovcounseling.com and by listening to her at "The PreMarital Bliss Podcast" on Apple Podcasts here.
2018-08-1428 min
The PreMarital Bliss PodcastEpisode 13 | Cheating While EngagedToday Mayi interviews Licensed Professional Counselor Terri DiMatteo. The two discuss cheating during the dating phase of the relationship. How does one decide whether or not to end a relationship after a cheating incident? Terri can be reached by visiting her website: http://lovebonds.net Don’t forget to follow Terri’s podcast https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/lovebonds/id1263562097?mt=2
2018-08-1430 minLOVEBONDS109: Why You May Still Be Thinking About An Old FlameDo you still occasionally think about a romantic partner from your past? Do you sometimes wonder 'what if?' even though many years have passed and each of you has moved on? Does a particular past person still hold a tender place in your heart? If so, perhaps you have experienced a love that was interrupted rather than an actual break-up. This episode is based on the fascinating research on lost love by Dr. Nancy Kalish.
2018-05-1005 minLOVEBONDS108: Making Sense of Infidelity: An interview by Dini of Vigilantes Radio with Terri DiMatteo, LPCInfidelity is a relationship trauma that hurts. Affairs require lies and deception to occur. The paid and suffering in the aftermath lingers a lifetime. With all of that, is there anything about infidelity that makes sense? Is there any logic to it? Relationship and couples counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC discusses how infidelity 'makes sense' with Dini of Vigilantes Radio on the "Inside The Biz" Series.
2018-04-151h 07
The Couples Therapist Couch030: Helping Couples Cope After Infidelity with Terri DiMatteoEveryone knows someone who has been impacted by infidelity. It is such a prevalent reality in our society, yet there is still so much taboo and limited understanding in the way that we talk about it. There tends to be a lot of shame and judgement involved which can make it even more difficult for couples to work through it. In this interview with Terri DiMatteo we talk about how to help couples affected by infidelity and betrayal. We go into detail about how to guide couples to have a different perspective and learn to trust and...
2018-02-1353 minLOVEBONDS107: The Trouble With Conflict AvoidanceIt is a common misconception that a relationship lacking in conflict is desirable. Many couples that find themselves in couples counseling report, "we never fight." Although they are experiencing angst, they don't engage in conflict. What is the problem with having a "conflict-free" relationship and "getting alone"? Trusted relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy, explains why going 'conflict-free does more harm than good for a relationship.
2017-08-0404 minLOVEBONDS106: Was it cheating or not?Did your partner cheat on you? Are you sure? Does one of you think the other cheated, yet you can't agree that cheating has occurred? Which behaviors constitute infidelity? Is kissing another an act of betrayal? Is excessive texting or emotional sharing with another infidelity? Is there an identifiable line? How can it be so confusing? Affair recovery expert Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy, clears up the confusion.
2017-07-3104 minLOVEBONDS105: The Complex Challenges of "No Contact" With the Affair Partner (Part Three of Three Parts)The first task in affair recovery is to fully and permanently conclude the relationship with the outside party or the affair-partner. Full affair recovery cannot truly take place while a spouse or committed partner remains in contact with the affair-partner. While this task can occur expediently, more often than not, it is usually a challenging process that often comes with some backsliding. This stage of affair recovery is a complex and highly misunderstood process. How "no contact" takes place is critical. Listen now to part one of a three-part segment on "The Complex Challenges of 'No Contact' With the A...
2017-07-3104 minLOVEBONDS104: The Complex Challenges of "No Contact" With the Affair Partner (Part Two of Three Parts)The first task in affair recovery is to fully and permanently conclude the relationship with the outside party or the affair-partner. Full affair recovery cannot truly take place while a spouse or committed partner remains in contact with the affair-partner. While this task can occur expediently, more often than not, it is usually a challenging process that often comes with some backsliding. This stage of affair recovery is a complex and highly misunderstood process. How "no contact" takes place is critical. Listen now to part one of a three-part segment on "The Complex Challenges of 'No Contact' With the A...
2017-07-3104 minLOVEBONDS103: The Complex Challenges of "No Contact" With the Affair Partner (Part One of Three Parts)The first task in affair recovery is to fully and permanently conclude the relationship with the outside party or the affair partner. Full affair recovery cannot fully occur while a spouse or committed partner contacts the affair partner. While this task can occur expediently, more often than not, it is usually a challenging process that often comes with some backsliding. This stage of affair recovery is a complex and highly misunderstood process. How "no contact" takes place is critical. Listen now to part one of a three-part segment on "The Complex Challenges of 'No Contact' With the Affair Partner,"...
2017-07-3104 minLOVEBONDS102: The Surprising Reason People Have AffairsThere are many notions about why people have affairs that suggest a biological predisposition, that partners who stray are immoral individuals without conscience or that society and culture are to blame. Affair recovery expert Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy, has quite a different thought on the matter.
2017-07-2704 minLOVEBONDS101: How Love Helps Manage Difficult Emotions and Why It MattersWhen asked what a relationship is for, most people respond that it's for companionship, sharing tasks, and sexual intimacy. While those things are true, romantic love serves a greater purpose. Romantic love has a very significant meaning and function. Specifically, it helps partners regulate difficult emotions and serve as a buffer from the stresses and strains of life. Getting that functionality right is key to relationship satisfaction! Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy breaks it down.
2017-07-2704 min