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It's So Hard115. Silencing within Orgs feat. Nat Tang, Chloe Durand, Stuart Venables, and Gemma Frances: "Stop being a hack brutha...""The movement is not found in the four walls of just one organisation. And if you are the sort of person who is prone to speaking out — sometimes against your own self-interest, just on the basis that it's the right thing to do — you will find that your capacity for change is not bound to one particular organisation..." -Chloe Durand In this episode, we chat about the toxic patterns that show up in political parties, Ȿ:/ 𝒲 orgs, and other organising spaces. Many thanks to former WA Greens co-conveners Nat Tang (@natchiching) and Chloe Durand (@nicotene_dundee), former WA...
2025-10-101h 40It's So Hard114. When Policy Doesn't Work feat. Nat Tang: "Our enemies are organising against us..."Nat Tang (@natchiching) is the former Policy Convener for The Greens WA. In 2022, she consulted Decrim WA while developing the party's Ȿ:/ 𝒲 policy. In this episode, we discuss the importance of consulting grassroots communities, whether Ȿ:/ 𝒲 and domestic violence should be framed as women’s issues, and the stigma and limitations we encountered while working on decriminalisation efforts. Recorded 21st June 2025 Host - Tess Lyrez @softermedia Sound - Michael Unwin @___mauja___ Mentions - @demyunn Website - softermedia.net Contains explicit descriptions. S3:E114
2025-07-011h 47It's So HardMoments: Me on Making Emotional Labour Visible - with thanks Sabah & Pris (links in notes)This moment was recorded LIVE as part of Consent Conversations at Smut Club. The rest of this discussion is coming soon. Many thanks to Sabah and Pris for deepening my understanding of consent and emotional labour. This conversation couldn’t fully capture my mistakes in the deleted episode or the depth of their feedback and advice. For more insights, I recommend following and supporting them directly. Sabah - @badgalcovphephe Pris - @prisbackedup and @decolonisesexworkau It's So Hard is produced by - Tess Lyrez Instagram - @softermedia Website - softermedia.net
2025-02-1106 min
It's So HardMoments: V on Decrim 4 DummiesDecrim 4 Dummies is a workshop by V from Decrim WA. This 101 entry-level session breaks down everything you need to know about the SW laws in unceded, so-called Western Australia - and beyond. Tickets to Decrim 4 Dummies (live episode) Tickets to Consent Conversations (live episode) Smut Club events and info This moment is from episode 112. Mentions - Smut Club @smutclubfilmfest, V @puppygirlfemboy, Lua @littlelua.s, & Mercy @mxstress.mercy It's So Hard is produced by - Tess Lyrez Instagram - @softermedia Website - softermedia.net
2025-02-0201 minIt's So Hard107. South Australia's Sex Work Laws feat. Sasha Sinns: "The Nordic Model doesn't protect anyone..."Sasha Sinns has worked as a full-service sex worker under a range of legal models. She joins Tess for a chat about a Bill that was recently introduced by opposition leader Nicola Centofanti. This Bill proposes a Nordic model of criminalisation in South Australia. Action Steps: Follow @sashasinnsaus, @sinsouthaustralia, and @scarlet_alliance Sign the petition to block this Bill Contact an MP in SA and let them know that The Nordic Model would be even less safe than the current criminalisation model. Encourage them to discuss the full decriminalisation of sex work with SIN (Sex Industry...
2023-10-1541 minIt's So Hard102. Sex Work and The Law feat. Ariela Moscowitz and Isidoro Rodriguez: "Why are we policing sex?"Ariela Moscowitz and Isidoro Rodriguez discuss the definition of sex work, who enters the industry, and the power of stigmas. Ariela unpacks the 4 legal models that govern sex workers all over the world: criminalisation, legalisation, the Nordic model, and decriminalisation. Ariela is the Director of Communications for Decriminalize Sex Work, an organisation pursuing a state-by-state strategy to end the prohibition of consensual sex work in the United States. Isidoro Rodriguez is a criminal justice journalist and former deputy editor for The Crime Report. In 2020, he wrote an in-depth article called Predators Behind the Badge: Confronting...
2023-04-2259 minIt's So Hard101. Welcome to Season 3: "Have you heard of Shirley Finn?"Tess gives an overview of Shirley Finn’s story. We discuss Shirley’s pressures and motivations, including but not limited to sex work. It was beyond the scope of this episode to track Shirley’s interactions with individual detectives and politicians. However, it is worth exploring. See links below. Contains explicit violent descriptions. Mentions - Decrim QLD Hosts - Jenn and Tess Louise® Website - itssohard.info S3:E101 00:04:20 – 00:07:57: Perth society, especially in late 1800’s and early 1900’s. See The Petticoat Parade by Leigh Straw, Fremantle Press. 00:07:57...
2023-04-1039 minIt's So Hard97. The Death of George Pell: "He would trample on victims..."It's fair to say we've both had a bit on and we've got a bit to say in ep 97 of It's So Hard, a podcast about the sex industry and other sexy things... Jenn and Tess discuss the death of George Pell and it's impact across victim-survivor communities. Jenn shares her recent learning about advocacy and direct action, and a little activist experiment she took part in in response to the media frenzy over Pell. If you want to connect in with CSA victim-survivor communities, check out the following: - Loud Fence (@loudfence)...
2023-01-2332 minIt's So Hard96. New Year's Non-Resolutions: "Life is SO changeable!"We're into 2023 for ep 96 of It's So Hard, a podcast about the sex industry and other sexy things. Jenn and Tess chat about all things "resolutions", and how we're both embracing the chaos of life and trying to be okay with things that are unresolved! Jenn also shares a family rant and we shout out everyone who has been facing challenges this holiday period. For more tips from Jenn about managing during the holidays, head over to patreon.com/itssohard. Content warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn a...
2023-01-0619 minIt's So Hard95. Consent Thought Experiments: "What would Jenn do?"We get creative for ep 95 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry... and other sexy things. After our discussion last week about sex education in schools and the importance of modelling balanced conversations about sex, Tess got inspired. She created a thought scenario game called What Would Jenn Do? Enjoy the discussions about consent and boundaries and do tell us... what would you do? Content warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: "No Justice"...
2022-12-2635 min
It's So Hard95. Consent Thought Experiments: "What Would Jenn Do?"We get creative for ep 95 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry... and other sexy things. After our discussion last week about sex education in schools and the importance of modelling balanced conversations about sex, Tess got inspired! She created a thought scenario game called What Would Jenn Do, and we recorded our journey for the pod. Enjoy the discussions about consent and boundaries and do tell us... what would you do? Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and T...
2022-12-2435 minIt's So Hard94. Sex Education in Schools: "What's your perspective on dry-humping?"Let's talk about sex, baby! Welcome to an educational and empassioned ep 94 of It's So Hard, a podcast about the sex industry and other sexy things. This week, Jenn and Tess discuss sex and relationship education from a few different angles. They recount their own experiences, and Jenn shares a recent encounter with the classroom content in a religious school - fair warning, it's not great... Jenn and Tess also talk over some of the findings of the most recent National Survey of Australian Secondary Students and Sexual Health and discuss why we are ALL responsible for...
2022-12-161h 01It's So Hard93. Behind the Lehrmann Trial: "This is a systems issue..."We're chatting current events and change in ep 93 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry and other sexy things. Recorded on Friday the 2nd of December in the wake of a signficant national news story, Jenn and Tess talk about some of the legislative and procedural barriers that victim-survivors of rape, sexual and relational violence face when trying to report their experiences and see their complaints through the courts. These barriers impact the safety and wellbeing of many communities and systemic issues require systemic change! Jenn and Tess talk over...
2022-12-0525 minIt's So Hard90. Police Sexual Misconduct feat. Isidoro Rodriguez: "The culture is so insidious..."Welcome to ep 90 of It's So Hard, a podcast about the sex industry and other sexy things. This week, Tess chats with Isidoro Rodriguez, criminal justice journalist and deputy editor for The Crime Report and host of The Crime Report podcast. We cover Izzy's discussion with Ariela Moscowitz from Decriminalize Sex Work about the worldwide decrim movement, the complicated relationship between sex workers and the media, and we begin unpacking police sexual misconduct. Jenn was unable to make it to this recording but she'll be back soon. For a deep-dive into police misconduct... ...
2022-10-261h 13It's So Hard88. Squirting on Command feat. Little Red: "So I was going through my slut phase..."Welcome to Ep 88 of It's So Hard, a podcast about sex work and other sexy things. We're excited to welcome back fellow ex-churchie and FSSW Little Red! We raise the question of whether we are "ourselves" at work. We chat about various relationships with fantasies, including Tess's 10-yr fantasy-plan. Little Red chats about how much one should jam into an hour-long booking. And of course, how she discovered squirting... So if you're into PSE services with some armchair philosophy on the side, this is the ep for you! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit s...
2022-10-1247 min
It's So Hard87. Call Out or Call In feat. Tilly: "We've lost our sense of compassion!"We're stoked to welcome back a fantastic guest for part 2 of our discussion on cancel culture and compassion for It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tilly from Whoretopia the Podcast, Tess and Jenn discuss the complexities of navigating social media, making mistakes, learning and growing. We also cover accountability, privilege, nuance and how changing your mind is a radical thing! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise I Intro Music: "No Justice" by Lil Hoe (@the.peoples.hoe)
2022-09-151h 04It's So Hard86. Going Private Part 2 feat. Juno: "I believe that we create experiences..."Welcome to part 2 of our chat with the fantastic Juno about going private for ep 86 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tess, Jenn and Juno enjoy some drinks and snacks while chatting about Juno's experience of moving from brothel to private work. Tess and Juno groan over the unique challenge of writing marketing bios, the process of developing and evolving service lists and preferences and why balcony sex might not be on Juno's to-do list any time soon! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some...
2022-09-0847 minIt's So Hard83. Casual Sex Experts feat. Georgie Wolf: "We had a 2-hour fuckathon!"We’re excited to welcome back Georgie Wolf to It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tess, Georgie and Jenn chat about the need for better s^x ed, the expertise that SWers bring to their bookings and the power of eroticism. We also cover doubles, couples and why f^cking in pleasers is a serious task! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: "No Justice" by Lil Hoe (@the.peoples.hoe)
2022-08-1754 minIt's So Hard79. The Whorearchy Part 1: "What you earn and how you work impacts the amount of whorephobia you face..."It's a group session for ep 79 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry! Tess and Jenn are joined by Pro Domme Liv, Jenn's mum Pet, spoken word poet and proud trans woman Joni and pole dancer Lacey (and 4-6 pets!) to chat about whorephobia, patriachy, women's place and the way the Whorearchy is embedded in all of our lives. Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Co...
2022-07-2157 minIt's So Hard76. Mouthy Broads: "What's my prognosis re. deep throating?"We're all storytime for ep 76 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry! Jenn and Tess have had some busy days this week, and we invite listeners along as we discuss medical appointments, difficult work decisions, crying in public and the revelation that Jenn has a clinically tiny mouth! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) lisence. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/5808 Ft: rslan...
2022-07-0143 minIt's So HardUS Abortion Rights Overturned: "It's not a debate to us, it's real life..."Jenn and Tess got onto Zoom yesterday afternoon to have an convo that many, many people with uteruses are having across the world this weekend. Forgive the muffled recording, this wasn't a planned record. We thought we'd share our initial reflections on the revocation of rights, why a legislative decision in the US has a monumental impact on all of us and why we NEED cis men to be just as responsive and proactive about this issue as everyone else!!! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter copyright 2018 Licensed under a Cr...
2022-06-2633 minIt's So Hard74. Decrim QLD: "Institutions like this LOVE wanky titles..."We get legislative on ep 74 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry! Jenn recounts her first ever fun, sexy flashback and shares some exciting recent purchases. Tess and Jenn then talk about the QLD decrim campaign, law reform and how the whole process have given Tess a new kink for authoritative/wanky titles! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) lisence. http://dig.ccmixter.org...
2022-06-171h 16It's So Hard73. Brothel Diaries Part 6: "Either way, it's a finger in the ear!"We enjoy a bit of a throwback for ep 73 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we chat about Jenn's ADHD diagnosis, productivity dramas and the nuances of sexting services. Tess also dives back into her brothel diaries for a well-handled broken condom and a mysterious back scar! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) lisence. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_web...
2022-06-081h 15It's So Hard72. Values-Based Publishing feat. Ruby Summers: "Okay, what else is possible?"We're so excited to welcome another iconic guest to ep 72 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Former stripper, academic and SWer zine creator Ruby Summers joins us to talk all things publishing! Ruby shares the process of developing the fantastic TOS Journal, we rant about research ethics limitations and we daydream about a night on the town to blow off some steam! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter copyright 2018 Li...
2022-06-0257 minIt's So Hard71. Know Thyself feat. Georgie Wolf: "The work of being a great client..."Another heavy hitter guest for ep 71 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. We welcome author (The Art of the Hook Up), podcaster (The Satisfaction Project) and FSSW Georgie Wolf to the pod! We talk client resources, self-awareness, duty of care in the industry and engage in some mutual fangirling! Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) lisence. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_web...
2022-05-2756 minIt's So Hard70. Tilly from Whoretopia: "Elon Musk moving into the Twitter sphere is terrifying!"We're psyched to be linking up with FSSW, educator and fellow podcaster, Tilly of Whoretopia for ep 70!!! Tilly, Tess and Jenn talk about marketing, podcasting, the immense skillset of sex workers and why none of us are particularly good at small talk! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard. Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour! Hosts: Je...
2022-05-201h 12It's So Hard69. 69-ing and Tit Journies: "Close your eyes and picture an upside down dick!"We cover a lot of ground in ep 69 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we talk Jenn's ADHD progress, the psychology and logistics behind 69-ing, how body type impacts how we're sexualised and the very different boob challenges we both face! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard. Content Warning: NSFW, containts explicit se...
2022-05-111h 09It's So Hard68. Sexy Tidbits from Jenn: "Look, a lot went wrong there..."We got a little impromptu this week on It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tess and Jenn are finally in the same city, so we've been busy with upcoming guests and other fun projects that we have to be secretive about for now. This week, we fangirl over other SW-led pods like Whoretopia and The Satisfaction Project, and Jenn finally shares the iconic tale of her first time giving head... it's a doozy, folks! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and...
2022-05-0558 minIt's So Hard67. First Times: "Just out here trying to have a hump!"We're talking about firsts on ep 67 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Tess and Jenn delve into the the "virginity" conversation, mull over facilitating firsts and fantasies and we manage to solve the mystery of Jenn's church porn fantasy! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions a...
2022-04-271h 06It's So Hard66. Advocacy and Aftercare feat. Liv: "I swipe myself to sleep!"Can you believe we're back for ep 66 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry?! We're stoked to talk again with ProDomme, sex work advocate and all round fabulous person Liv! Liv shares her experiences in navigating advocacy, developing aftercare processes both personally and professionally and we all get on another tangent about neurodiversity, capitalism and the productivity trap. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us f...
2022-04-201h 04It's So Hard65. Our Origin Story: "We have time for some dick stuff if you want..."We get a little nostalgic for the 65th ep of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tess and Jenn head back in time to talk through the origins of our podcast, our friendship story, our current identity crises and why sleeping in on a Sunday morning is an orgasmic experience! You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ and support us at patreon.com/itssohard. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour Hosts: Jenn and Te...
2022-04-131h 16It's So Hard64. Decrim WA feat. Lena: "We're in the wild, wild west out here..."We get legislative for ep 64 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. We're joined by sex worker and activist Lena and we talk about the importance of decriminalisation for all sex workers, the challenge of walking the myth-busting tightrope and why we all get over-complicated when we talk about *sex*!!! You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us and our industry guests at patreon.com/itssohard. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour ...
2022-04-0457 minIt's So Hard63. Stripping feat. 50 Plus a Tip: "Cheers and woos don't pay our bills!"We're going international this week on ep 63 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. We welcome Danica and Riley from the fab Canadian podcast 50 Plus a Tip! They're both strippers with a whole range of other experiences in the sex industry, and we chat about club etiquette, legislation between Canada and Australia, advertising and more of Jenn's grandma drama! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @soharpod, at our website itsshard.i...
2022-03-301h 20It's So Hard62. The Nordic Model feat. Kit: "In a world where clients are criminalised..."We get legislative in ep 62 of It's So Hard, the podcast where a sex worker and a civvy talk about life in and around the sex industry. Kit from Fuscous Fury joins us again and they've done their homework! We get talking about the Whorephobia Checklist, break down the fallacies of the Nordic Model and get weirdly passionate about plumbers rights. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig...
2022-03-231h 34It's So Hard61. Male Sex Work feat. Rome the Tradie: "Spreading the Good Word of dick!"Ep 61 is a triumph for It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. We're joined by companion, masseuse and venue host extraordinaire: Rome the Naked Tradie. We talk about being a male sex worker, navigating substances and safety and using his handyman skills for sexy purposes. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us at patreon.com/itssohard. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit s...
2022-03-181h 07It's So Hard60. Reflections on Representation: "I do worry about fucking up!"We're 60 eps young at It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn and Tess hit record on an It's So Hard planning meeting as we started to muse more deeply about allyship, representation, identity and the purpose and direction of the pod. Tess also walks us through her slightly stalk-y vetting process for guests! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us o...
2022-03-0955 minIt's So Hard59. Diverse Sex Part 1: "CAN jackhammer... cool story, bro!"We've had to shift some things this week, so this one is hot off the press - ep 59 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Tess shares her recent professional development in service provision for clients living with disabilities. We also talk about the narrowness of societal sexpectations, Jenn's dumpsterfire mental health and why diverse sex is the best sex. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, o...
2022-03-041h 07It's So Hard58. BDSM feat. Pro Domme Liv: "Every booking is an escape room!"We welcome Liv to ep 58 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Liv is a Pro Domme provider, and she's here to talk all things BDSM. She talks about her kink apprenticeship, which services make people say "ooooh" and we all bond over DSM diagnoses. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us and our guests at patreon.com/itssohard. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise
2022-02-2457 minIt's So Hard57. Lost in Translation Part 2: "Ummmm, that's debatable!"It's Ep 57 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life and around the sex industry. This week, we delve into dealing with problematic, whorephobic and/or plain ignorant convos with civvies, clients and grandmas. We also touch on how to raise concerns as a client, and why Jenn will always assist you to find a good, slur-free swear-based insult! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us @sohardpod on social media, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us and our guests...
2022-02-161h 11It's So Hard56. Anal Queen feat. Little Red: "Like being in a BDSM relationship with Jesus!"It's Anal Week for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we’re joined by FSSW and Anal Queen, Little Red. She talks us through leaving church, getting into FIFO sugaring and learning important anal lessons from a French Daddy and a babe called Joey. And we’re just so blessed she’s passing on those teachings to us! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssos...
2022-02-091h 07It's So Hard55. A Sexual Awakening: "Where does a kink come from?"We get a little *kinky* for ep 55 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn makes some sweaty fantasy confessions and Tess gets to analysing them! We talk about where fantasy and kinks come from, how to explore them and why Jenn can't seem to get away from her sportsperson attraction! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon...
2022-02-031h 10It's So Hard54. Sex Work and Health Care Panel feat. Fox, Lena and Tess LouiseWe're excited to bring you an extra special panel discussion for ep 54 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. We're honoured to bring you a panel discussion on the experiences of sex workers in the healthcare system, convened by the AMSA Sexual and Reproductive Health Project. Fox, Lena and our very own Tess Louise discuss the stigmas faced by sex workers when engaging with medical professionals and give valuable guidance to medical students about how to practice in sex work-friendly ways. You can find us on social media @s...
2022-01-271h 13It's So Hard53. Lost in Translation: "Could we do a threesome together?"We laugh, cry and get personal on this ep of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we cover all things SWer/civ communication. We share the diversity of context in communication, how we often say the same thing in different ways and why Tess would need to mentor Jenn to be a successful threesome partner. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or s...
2022-01-191h 03It's So Hard52. Shooting Erotic Content feat. Fuscous Fury: "Can they even kneel in that position for that long?!"It's our first season 2 guest on It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry! We're joined by Kit, photographer and founder of Fuscous Fury Media. Fuscous Fury was 'born from a dark and sombre fury towards the lack of safe, non-judgemental and inclusive environments within the creative industry'. We chat safe and mindful collab dynamics, navigating whorephobic TOS, the attraction of chaos and why we do support singing into the abyss. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support the pod on patreon...
2022-01-131h 08It's So Hard51. Back with a Bang: "I might be mixing up my threesomes..."We're baaaaack for Season 2 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life and around the industry. We dive straight into Tess' first work threesome, the value of honest industry mentors and how the hell anyone keeps track of their lube! We also shout out some fab face-in workers, do a dick pic deep dive and celebrate the incomparable tunes of SWer and rapper Lil Hoe. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, our website itssohard.info/ or s...
2022-01-051h 37It's So HardWe Were On A Break! Client Q&A Part 1Well it's only gone and turned into a New Year!!! And It's so Hard is here with you to ring it in... Tess and Jenn talk high pressure holidays, low energy celebrations and we start to answer some of the fantastic questions sent in by clients and listeners of the pod! Parts 2 and 3 of this Q&A will be up in the coming weeks on patreon.com/itssohard. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit s...
2021-12-3141 minIt's So HardWe Were On A Break! The Xmas Quickie: "Bring me wine!" Yes, yes, we are still on that break but it's Xmas and we felt it was only appropriate to celebrate somehow! In this week's Xmas Quickie, we chat holiday plans, play some festive Truth or Drink and talk through our current fantasies. We also give our tips for managing a sometimes complex time of year, and you'll get a sneak peak of Tess' new Patreon series! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard...
2021-12-2239 minIt's So HardWe Were On A Break! The IDEVASW 2021 Rant: "We're not fucking calm!"Yes, we're still on a break but it's an important week and we wanted to recognise the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers on the 17th Dec. We continue Tess' discussion about assumptions of safety, violence and sex work: we consider the ways structural, cultural and direct violence impact sex workers and how important it is for all of us (looking at you too civvies!) to push for the structural justice of decriminalisation. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us...
2021-12-161h 07It's So HardWe Were On A Break! Flashback to Int. Sex Workers' Day 2021We're technically on a break... but we couldn't help but share some of the other great content we've enjoyed making this year! This week, you get a piece of Patreon with an edit of our discussion on International Sex Workers' Day 2021! We talk legislation, the history of sex workers' rights and how civvies can get educated and support those on the frontlines. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us o...
2021-12-0935 minIt's So Hard50. Cocktail Q&A: "I'm a big fan of the wet pussy!"We've reached our 50th ep and we're ready to party on It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry! Jenn tries out her newfound skills to make some sexy cocktails, we set up a drinking game for our listeners and we muse about relationships and jealousy. Tess walks us through some work Q&As and Jenn shares more about her juicy public sex experience. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at o...
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It's So Hard49. Erotic Blueprints: "Do not date me if you're into massage!"A slight change of plans, but we roll with the punches for ep 49 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry This week, Jen puts on some purple lippy, Tess gets a little tipsy and we get *erotic*! We take the Erotic Blueprint quiz by Jaiya, and decide we have quite a bit in common, we're both a little kinky AND we could all benefit from learning more about our own erotic needs and desires. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and o...
2021-11-2448 minIt's So Hard48. Religion and Sex Part 2: "You're hurting Jesus' feelings!"Let's all bow our heads and hear the Word of Ep 48 for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. That's right folks, Tess and Jenn get into some churchy business again. We talk public shame and restorative justice, how religion has fucked us up a little and that one time that Tess' sermon was too extreme for the cult!!! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ o...
2021-11-181h 37It's So Hard47. Break Up Sex Part 2 feat. Kate: "No moving to the country for love!"Kate's back to finish our discussion for ep 47 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we continue to mull over the highs and lows of breaking up, the attraction of ex sex and Tess talks about the process of breaking up with clients. Kate also advises against moving to the country for love and Jenn suggests we should all throw open the doors of possibility for what relationships, sex and intimacy should look like. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the re...
2021-11-0946 minIt's So Hard46. Break Up Sex Part 1 feat. Kate: "Jelly shots get me every time!"We welcome back Kate for ep 46 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. In part one of this two-week ep, we dive into the criteria for a real breakup, what it means to start queer dating for the first time and the age-old question: to have the break-up fuck or not. Kate also shares her candle endeavours, Jenn reminisces about public sexy times and Tess gets hit on by an attractive mouse. There's a lot to take in here, folks! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse...
2021-11-0356 minIt's So Hard45. Crazy Sexy feat. Juno: "The eternal search for the best dumpling"We're in our mid forties at It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry! And to help us celebrate, Juno has dropped back in to catch up and chat about attraction, navigating civvy friendships and why capitalism is always the bad guy. We also cover stealthing as sexual assault, why Jenn is SO bad at flirting and Tess makes a sexual discovery. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website i...
2021-10-2758 minIt's So Hard44. Coercion Part 2: "Don't shower, just rant!"Ep 44 is here for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn and Tess revisit coercive communication and behaviour. Jenn shares why she's hopeless at remembering appointments lately, we both agree that being late is the worst feeling ever and we muse over the nuances of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. On a more serious note, Tess then shares an experience of coercive behaviour with a client that resulted in sexual assault and we both discuss the ways that we can all avoid coercive dynamics and strive for...
2021-10-201h 34It's So Hard43. Rate, Review, Subscribe feat. Shawn: "A good service is so subjective"Welcome to the slightly last-minute ep 43 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Jenn is out of the mix for this week, so Tess sat down with our resident guest client Shawn to discuss all things reviews, ratings and navigating boundaries in sex worker-client relationships. They cover how to get and give feedback, the fallacies of current review systems and how kindness goes a long way both ways. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info and support us and our industry guests...
2021-10-1648 minIt's So Hard42. Brothel Diaries Part 5: "I'm not hydrated enough for that yet!"Ep 42 is here to round out the Brothel Diaries series for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tess shares three more bookings to sum up a whole shift at the broth, Jenn gets self-reflective and wonders whether she might be a psychopath and we share a rose and some love with new peer-led advertising platform, Ivy Société! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us fe...
2021-10-061h 09It's So Hard41. The Client Episode Part 2: "Danger erection"We're into the 40s of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. And we're excited to welcome back our guest Shawn for part two of our chat about client experiences. We cover what makes a good booking, how to break the ice as a new client and how preferences shift over time from "bargains" to more meaningful experiences. We also quickly shout out Smutclub Film Festival with the fantastic Kit from Fuscous Fury, which we can't wait to attend for the first time this year! Join our hosts for a...
2021-09-291h 12It's So Hard40. Unmet Needs: "Okay, so I'm gonna adopt a cat..."Welcome to ep 40 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. And guess what - Jenn and Tess are both in the same city!!! We celebrate with a tipsy, extended mulling after a long day of guest recordings... we start with Shakespeare, muddle our way through relationship expectations and end with Tess leaning into some cat lady energy. This one goes deep - enjoy! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the p...
2021-09-221h 17It's So Hard39. The Dick Series: "Penises are so expressive!"We've reached ep 39 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. And we figured it's time for the first installment of our Dick Series... this week, we talk about the fallacy of BDE, how common dick size anxiety is and we both agree that a broader definition of sex would be much more inclusive for all! Plus, Tess talks outcall logistics, Jenn gets real pun-ny and we both use a LOT hand gestures. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) c...
2021-09-151h 02It's So Hard38. OCD and Sex feat. Pet: "All he wanted was to have a wank!"Ep 38 is here for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. We're joined by our literal and chosen mum, Pet to discuss all things OCD and sex. We cover Tess' brainscan kink, our collective religious backgrounds and how Jenn was a stage 5 clinger as a baby. Pet shares how she and her partner have navigated OCD, asexuality and demisexuality across a 36-year partnership... this ep is basically the lovestory of Jenn's parents! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos...
2021-09-081h 24It's So Hard37. Brothel Diaries Part 4: "So you impulse bought a tantra session"Ep 37 is here and it's a doozy. Welcome to It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we mull over attraction, ethics and the wild ride that spontaneous decisions takes us on! We share some love for the fabulous Lucy Price and her podcast In Bed with Lucy, Tess shares an experience of sexual assault in a brothel and how toxic organisational and legislative structures contribute to "bad experiences" in the industry. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) c...
2021-09-021h 40It's So Hard36. The Client Series Part 1: "Do you like butt stuff?"Roll up, roll up for ep 36 It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we hear from our first client guests, Shawn and Luke. We talk first nudes, standard levels of service and how to ask for extras. We also muse over anal play and why clear communication results in confident and fun sexual interactions. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can f...
2021-08-251h 00It's So Hard35. Brothel Diaries Part 3: "Let's all go on the erotic journey"Welcome to part 3 of the Broth Diaries on It’s So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Tess and Jenn talk about the results of their Erotic Blueprint Tests… turns out we’re both kinky! We start our first pod book club with the outstanding ‘Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers’ Rights’ by Juno Mac and Molly Easo Smith, Tess reflects on a tour client who preferred the slow approach and we try to nail down the various consistencies of semen. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and s...
2021-08-181h 26It's So Hard34. Brothel Diaries Part 2: "It's all I want to fuck you (cha-ching!)"Ep 34 seems like the perfect time to dip back into Tess' tour diaries for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we mull over daddy issues, the productivity trap and we fangirl over the fantastic Bella Green and her new book 'Happy Endings'. Tess shares a dicey booking from her tour days and we chat about laser hair removal, shit tattoos and whether you can get chili-infused lube. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if y...
2021-08-111h 33It's So Hard33. Boundary Pushers feat. Frankie Fatale: "I saw his scrotum, like, 18 times"Guess who's back for ep 33 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry... it's the incomparable Frankie Fatale!!! Showgirl, stripper and porn performer, Frankie is a legit legend who keeps us laughing like crazy! This week, Frankie and Tess talk over the challenges of managing difficult work interactions, dealing with industry appropriation by civvies and why us ladies really need to get more comfy with checking each others' pussies. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're k...
2021-08-041h 26It's So Hard32. Brothel Diaries: "Tie me up all day!"It's ep 32 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry... and we have a treat for you - we're digging into Tess' old tour diaries! We also muse over the cult that we grew up in, we fangirl out over the incredible Somebody You Love podcast and Tess shares that one time that she gave an hour-long BJ. Talk about commitment to the task! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in t...
2021-07-281h 12It's So Hard31. Image Maintenance feat. Jameson Scarlett: "A whole bathtub of lube"Please welcome back our special guest for ep 31 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry... it's Jameson Scarlett! Third time's a charm and Jameson is here to talk more in-depth about being a male worker in the industry and how he works hard to prove himself as a gentleman to book and to work with. We also chat about common civvie questions and how important prep time is for a special request! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy...
2021-07-2151 minIt's So Hard30. PTSD and Sex: "It's a boner bonanza!"We've made it to the dirty thirty on It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. To celebrate, we get deep into all things PTSD. Tess and Jenn describe their experiences of PTSD, how we navigate sex as a coping strategy and we both agree that our ultimate goal on this pod is to inspire at least one offense boner. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, you c...
2021-07-161h 32It's So Hard29. Health Checks feat. Rubi Valentine: "No-one's really wanking for pleasure nowadays!"She's back, you guys! The hilarious Rubi Valentine joins us for episode 29 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Rubi joins us to discuss STIs and health checks, the joy of quickies and hands-free toys, and how tactical wanking used to help Rubi stay focused at her old civvy job - doing other peoples' taxes! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can f...
2021-07-071h 13It's So Hard28. ADHD and Sex: "I don't need to fuck them all!"Welcome to ep 28 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we dive into all things ADHD. Jenn and Tess talk about the different symptoms and experiences of ADHD, the unique ways that neurodivergence interacts with sex and relationships, and why Tess' improved self esteem is getting in the way of her sexy times!!! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, you can find us @sohardpod on social...
2021-06-301h 17It's So Hard27. The Hungover Episode feat. Juno: "I'm pretty fucking gay but I'm open-minded..."It's ep 27 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry and we're joined by... the fantastic Juno!!! Porn performer, full service worker and resident of one of the coolest sharehouses around, Juno joins Tess and Jen to yarn about drinks before midday, role play, queer presence in the industry and the highs and lows of dirty talk. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, you can find us on social...
2021-06-231h 02It's So Hard26. Long Bookings: "So someone had a strap-on at some point"Better late than never for ep 26 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry! Jenn gives you all a clit rehab update, we fangirl over our pod inspo, Tess shares a long booking a broth and we agree that we should all normalise giving sex toys for birthday presents! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can find us on social media @sohardpod, our we...
2021-06-181h 17It's So Hard25. Porn Collab Politics feat. Frankie Fatale: "Put your love cave to the floor"Look who's back for ep 25 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry... it's the amazing Frankie Fatale!!! Stripper, showgirl and porn performer, Frankie is a busy woman but she sat down with Tess and Jenn to muse over the complexity of navigating work collabs, the need for a SW-positive social media site and how everyone can benefit from a bonus pussy! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or...
2021-06-091h 12It's So Hard24. Making Contact: "Give me a super good discount"Happy International Whores Day from It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tess and Jenn felt that Ep 24 was the perfect time to talk all things contact/booking-related. We cover why Peter energy is premium (props to @theorganisedescort), why negging is such an unattractive contact strategy and how to recover when you drown important docs in red wine! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally s*xy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us...
2021-06-021h 43It's So Hard23. Private vs. Brothel Work feat. Eva May: "I think we're going to fuck tonight"She's back for ep 23 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry... it's the incomparable Eva May! Full service worker, porn performer and independent film-maker (check out Aussie Babes Club) - what a resume! Eva joins us to share an special love life update and we all mull over the politics of brothel vs. private work, OnlyFans and sugaring, and the importance of appetising toes. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate i...
2021-05-261h 18It's So Hard22. Sexting feat. Jo: "Everyone needs a ring light!"Welcome to ep 22 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry. Today, we have Jo back on board to talk all things sexting!!! Jenn continues to enjoy thick footy thighs (sorry Tess!), we debate the pros and cons of squirting, Jo shares her experiences joining the sexting community and Tess advises that food-related sex is really best in the first hour of a booking. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in t...
2021-05-191h 16It's So Hard21. Sexessibility feat. Taylor Tara: "The dick never ages"Welcome to ep 21 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry - and we're joined today by the fabulous and multi-talented Taylor Tara! Author, photographer, full service worker and industry mentor - Taylor has done it all! We yarn about the importance of access to sex for people of all ages, abilities and preferences, Taylor shares her latest projects and we all muse on the agelessness of the dick. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if...
2021-05-121h 01It's So Hard20. Patreon Party: "A very professional discussion"Welcome to the Patreon Party episode on It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry! We present our new Patreon, where you can access 2-4 EXTRA episodes per month!!! We have a lot of great content with our industry guests that is ready to be shared, and you also get to thank our guests for their time and effort - all for the price of a cup of coffee. First two bonus episodes will go up on Friday - you can subscribe at https://www.patreon.com/itssohard. In the me...
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It's So Hard19. Starting Out: "Guys' arses do not get enough appreciation!"It may be a few days late, but it's double the length! Welcome to episode 19 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn talks through her newfound passion for football (or, more specifically, footballers), Tess shares how she started out in the industry and we both muse over medication, clitoral dissonance and why one of us is attending a death conference tonight. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in t...
2021-04-301h 51It's So Hard18. Showgirls feat. Frankie Fatale: "I've used Swarovskis to cover the fuck ups"It's ep 18 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry... and gracing us with her presence is showgirl, Australia's no. 1 stripper and all round fabulous person, Frankie Fatale!!! Frankie dropped by to talk about her creative vision as a performer and producer, and we had a laugh over stripper namesakes, show-stopper moves and which venue most appreciates you dancing in a bathtub of fake blood. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate i...
2021-04-2150 minIt's So Hard17. Sex Across a Lifetime feat. Pet and Jo: "Fresh air and frisky men"It's a family affair on Ep 17 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry. Jenn's mum and aunty drop in for a yarn about dick size, sex across the lifespan and the joys of moving to a place where nobody knows you. Tess also suggests that we all participate in more threesomes... you know, for educational purposes! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback...
2021-04-141h 15It's So Hard16. To Quickie or Not to Quickie feat. Jameson Scarlett: "Take care!"Guess who's baaaack? It's Episode 16 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life and around the sex industry and we welcome back special guest and dream man Jameson Scarlett! We talk lockdown management strategies, classy af responses to online harassment and Tess and Jameson go head to head in the first pod debate: What is the ideal booking length - a quickie or a long, luxurious interaction? Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or j...
2021-04-071h 01It's So Hard15. Fake Boyfriend: "What would Margaret Thatcher do?"Welcome to ep 15 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn and Tess muse over outdated cultural references, exciting/embarrassing/disappointing mulling updates (looking at you, fake programmer dude) and Tess takes us through her extremely successful fake boyfriend experiment. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can find us online at itssohard.info or on Insta and Twitter @sohardpod.
2021-03-311h 28It's So Hard14. Darwin Boys feat. Rubi Valentine: "With great pussy comes great responsibility"OMG, the fucking gorgeous Rubi Valentine is joining us for Ep 14 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry! Rubi is a full service worker, porn performer and all round hilarious individual. She joins Jenn and Tess Louise to talk porn goals, young vs. older clients (give us all your dads!) and how to convince everyone you want to fuck them. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or...
2021-03-241h 15It's So Hard13. Coercive communication: "How's your clitoris?"Welcome to Episode 13 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn and Tess get gynaecological as they muse over clitoral rehab and whether it's possible to cum too much. They also yarn about different forms of coercive communication and how we can all be better at seeking to understand each other. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can find u...
2021-03-171h 21It's So Hard12. Porn and High Standards feat. Eva May: "My heart and my pussy want two different things"You guys, we're so lucky! It's Eva May Day on It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry. Eva is a well-established full service worker, and a highly sought after porn performer and producer. She dropped in to talk with us about the ins and outs of porn (pun intended), friendly face fucking and how sex work has drastically raised her dating standards but tanked her Uber rating. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to...
2021-03-101h 34It's So Hard11. 'Daddy' Issues: "Is there such a thing as admin porn?"Technical difficulties be damned! It's episode 11 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. This week, Jenn and Tess Louise do a deep dive into panic attacks in an Uber, the pressures of social performance and why Tess loves sex-related paperwork! Shout out to those of us living with mental health challenges - to quote Joe Gilgun, we're all hard cunts. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the p...
2021-03-031h 01It's So Hard10. Working Online feat. Jameson Scarlett: "Fishhook me"It's a super exciting episode 10 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. Welcome to our special guest, Jameson Scarlett - escort, content creator and all round great human! Jameson muses on his stripper days, Tess reiterates how good a scene partner Jameson is (turns out, the feeling is mutual!) and we all share the stories of our very first nudes. You don't want to miss this folks! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And...
2021-02-241h 08It's So Hard8. Sex, Religion and Escaping a Cult: "Get on the vibrating buttplug"Oooh guys, welcome to our extra deep Episode 8 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. This week, Tess Louise and Jenn open the lid on their personal histories and how they both survived a cult! Seriously... you don't want to miss this. Tess also shares some bookings where religion and sex interacted in interesting ways and we muse over surviving toxic family dynamics. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to p...
2021-02-101h 39It's So HardBONUS EPISODE: Sex Work in LockdownOMG you guys, it's a surprise bonus episode of It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. Tess Louise has been plunged into lockdown, so we thought we should do a quick bonus episode about some of the ways that the pandemic has impacted and changed the sex industry. We talk legal shit, online shit and how to reach out and support sex workers during such a complicated time. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And i...
2021-02-0446 minIt's So Hard6. Socks, sandals and anal: "Maybe the dick's right"It's officially episode 6 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. This week, Jenn and Tess Louise muse over coming out as a sex worker, awkward run-ins, the magic of the male prostate and all things anal play. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can email us at sohardpod@outlook.com or find us on Instagram @sohardpod. Content Wa...
2021-01-271h 00It's So HardBONUS EPISODE: A Complicated DayIt's a surprise bonus episode of It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. Tess Louise and Jenn mull over January 26th, a complicated day in the Australian context. They discuss their own journeys towards understanding Australia's colonial history and the ways that the sex industry interacts with race in complex ways. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.o...
2021-01-2636 minIt's So Hard5. Do you want my dick or do you want my money?Welcome to It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. This week's episode was recorded some time ago, so it may be a little out of order - forgive us! Tess Louise and Jenn yarn about work cover stories, gender expectations and the relationship between sex and crying... hint: it's totally normal, guys! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can email u...
2021-01-201h 05It's So Hard4. Sometimes I'm just tryna wash my asshole... Welcome to It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. This week, Jenn reports the findings of her Tinder experiment, Tess Louise shares a super sexy booking and both hosts mull over the politics of post-sex showering. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can email us at sohardpod@outlook.com or find us on Instagram @sohardpod. Content Warning: NSFW, c...
2021-01-131h 30It's So Hard3. There's nothing wrong with fishing...Welcome to It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. This week, Tess-Louise and Jenn discuss the politics of Tinder locations, industry terminology, a better way to approach complex sexual fantasies and that one time that Tess worked in a brothel with a real live shark!!! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can email us at sohardpod@outlook.com or find...
2021-01-061h 19It's So Hard2. I mean, semen's alright but...Welcome to It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. Today, Tess-Louise and Jenn talk about casual dating and sex expectations, the impact of medication on cumming and the joys of 69-ing with someone the same height as you! If you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can email us at sohardpod@outlook.com or find us on Insta @sohardpod. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour Hosts: Jenn and Tess-Louise Intro M...
2020-12-301h 12It's So Hard1. There is a naughty listWelcome to It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry and life in and around it. Hosted by Jenn and Tess-Louise with personal and professional experience in the mental health and sex industries, each week our hosts mull over life, sex, relationships, mental health and balancing it all in complex industries. Today, Jenn and Tess-Louise mull over being women in the world, booking protocol, consent, rough sex and a complicated booking. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're k...
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It's So HardComing Soon...Coming Soon... It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. Hosted by Jenn and Tess-Louise with personal and professional experience in the mental health and sex industries, each week our hosts mull over life, sex, relationships, mental health and balancing it all in complex industries. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can email us at sohardpod@outlook.com. Content...
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