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The Positivity XperienceHow Fake Helplessness Controls You (And the Psychology Behind It)Some people don't manipulate through anger — they manipulate through weakness. In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, Lori Wheeler breaks down the psychology, neuroscience, and emotional patterns behind feigned vulnerability and feigned helplessness — two of the most subtle and powerful forms of manipulation. You'll learn: • How people fake fragility to gain control • The psychology behind "playing helpless" • How learned helplessness and attachment wounds feed manipulation • The dopamine reward loop that keeps YOU rescuing them • Why your empathy makes you the perfect target • How to break the cycle without guilt or fear ...
2025-11-3044 min
The Positivity XperienceRewiring the Scarcity Mindset: The Science, Energy & Psychology of AbundanceEver wonder why no matter how much you have — it never feels like enough? In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, Lori Wheeler dives deep into the scarcity mindset — the psychological, energetic, and neurological patterns that keep you stuck in lack. You'll discover: • Why your brain is wired to focus on what's missing (and how to reprogram it) • The neuroscience of negativity bias and how it fuels fear-based thinking • How your energetic vibration mirrors your beliefs about "enough" • Grounding techniques to calm your nervous system and embody abundanc Lori blends neuro...
2025-11-2344 min
The Positivity XperienceStop Letting People Define You: The Psychology of Identity, Expectation, and Self-Ownership.Have you ever wondered who you'd be if you stopped trying to live up to everyone else's expectations? In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, Lori Wheeler breaks down the psychology of identity — how childhood attachment, social pressure, and people-pleasing create a false self that keeps you disconnected from who you really are. You'll learn: • Why your brain links approval with safety (and how to retrain it) • The hidden cost of performing for acceptance • What it means to stop defining yourself through others' validation • How to reclaim your sense of self an...
2025-11-1645 min
The Positivity XperienceThe Hidden Cost of Being the Helper: How to Stop Betraying YourselfDo you find yourself doing more than your share — emotionally, logistically or mentally — and wondering if your 'help' is actually betraying you? In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, we explore how over‑functioning became a survival strategy, the neuroscience behind the rescuer loop, and how to reclaim your identity outside of being the fixer. You'll learn: *Why your nervous system equates others' struggles with a threat to your value *The 3‑step brain rewire to stop rescuing and start supporting *How to redefine love and boundaries when you've been stuck in self‑bet...
2025-11-0942 min
The Positivity XperienceWhen They Make You the Bad Guy: How to Survive the Smear & Break the Guilt LoopDo you ever walk away from a conversation and feel like you're the villain — when all you did was protect your peace? In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, we dive into the emotional smear campaign: those covert moments when someone flips the story on you, uses guilt as ammo, and turns your boundary into your fault. We'll blend psychology, neuroscience and lived experience to help you: *Understand why your brain falls into the guilt loop *Recognize the smear tactics manipulators use *Use three neuroscience‑backed tools to regulate your nervous syst...
2025-11-0247 min
The Positivity XperienceThe Psychology of Excuses (and How to Break Free)Are excuses keeping you stuck? In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, I break down the psychology of excuses — why we use them, what they're really protecting us from, and how to call yourself out so you can finally move forward. We'll dive into: The hidden fears behind your excuses (failure, judgment, rejection). Why excuses feel safe in the moment but sabotage you long-term. How to expose the "hidden payoff" of excuses — and why you keep repeating them. A step-by-step framework to rewrite your excuses into raw truths. Th...
2025-09-1446 min
The Positivity XperienceHow They Control You With Guilt & 'Fake Caring' Are you falling for it every time?Do you ever feel like someone twists your words to make you the problem? Or maybe they guilt-trip you with, "After everything I've done for you…" Or act "concerned" just to control your choices? These aren't just frustrating behaviors—these are psychological manipulation tactics designed to make you doubt yourself, feel guilty, and stay compliant. In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, we're breaking down: 🔹 Why manipulators twist your words (the psychology of control, guilt, and projection). 🔹 The 5 most common manipulation scripts: the Guilt-Tripper, the Score Keeper, and the Fake Concern Manipulator, Victim Card-Manip...
2025-08-3151 min
The Positivity XperienceWhy We Crave What We Can't Have (and Why It Never Feels Like EnoughWhy do we obsess over what we don't have — whether it's a relationship, luxury item, social status, or someone else's approval — only to feel empty once we finally get it? In this eye-opening episode of The Positivity Xperience, we break down the real psychology behind your cravings and the emotional traps that leave you chasing more but feeling less fulfilled. You'll learn how scarcity, social proof, and the dopamine chase drive your desires — and how to stop confusing temporary satisfaction for true fulfillment. ✨ In this episode, we'll cover: ✅ The Scarcity Principle: why rare things seem more...
2025-07-2047 min
The Positivity Xperience5 Things to Remind Yourself on the Healing Journey (And the Pitfalls That Can Derail You)In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, we're cutting through the noise to bring you 5 powerful reminders every person needs to hear on the path to emotional healing — along with the most common traps that silently sabotage your growth. 💥 Whether you're working through trauma, setting boundaries, breaking old patterns, or just trying to stay regulated — this episode is your wake-up call and your roadmap. We're covering: ✅ Why healing isn't linear — and what to do when you backslide ✅ The truth about emotional bypassing and over-intellectualizing pain ✅ What to expect when people around you don't grow with...
2025-07-1346 min
The Positivity XperienceRadical Self-Acceptance and Personal GrowthWelcome to another episode of The Positivity Xperience podcast, where we dive deep into the topic of radical self-acceptance and personal growth. In this 30-minute episode, we explore the importance of fully accepting ourselves while also striving to grow and improve. In a world that often tells us we need to constantly change and fix ourselves, it's crucial to understand the power of radical self-acceptance. We will discuss why this mindset is essential for our mental health and well-being, and how it can ultimately lead to greater personal growth and fulfillment. Join me as we...
2024-02-2530 min
The Positivity XperienceImposter Syndrome Chronicles: Navigating Self-Doubt🎙️ Welcome toThe Positivity Xperience, where we dive deep into the fascinating world of personal development and self-discovery! In this episode, join me on a journey to unravel the mysteries of Imposter Syndrome – that sneaky feeling of inadequacy that can hold us back from realizing our true potential. 🤔 Have you ever felt like you're not deserving of your achievements? Or feared that you're just one step away from being exposed as a fraud? You're not alone! 🌟 Discover the roots of Imposter Syndrome, understand its impact on your personal and professional life, and learn effective strategies to overcome it...
2024-01-1433 min
The Positivity XperienceUNVEILING THE POWER WITHIN: Embracing Self-Priority for a Fulfilling Life🌟 Welcome to The Positivity Xperience, where we embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment! In this episode, we dive deep into the profound concept of prioritizing oneself above all else. Join me as we unravel the layers of self-love, personal growth, and the undeniable impact it has on every aspect of our lives. 🌈 Explore the untold benefits of making yourself the number one priority—beyond the realms of familial duties and societal expectations. I'll shed light on why embracing self-priority isn't selfish but rather a transformative act that radiates positivity into all your relationships. 🔒 Brace yourse...
2023-12-1730 min
The Positivity XperienceEp. 47 Revenge & Grudges.** Release The AngerWe have all been in a space of such deep hurt that is seems impossible to consider that ever going away until the other person "pays the price" for hurting you. What you don't realize is that deep anger is actually harming your energy. When you focus on self love and healing yourself, the need to seek revenge and hold grudges will not keep you at 3 am feeling this anger. Follow all my socials and website here Join my Tik Tok Live every Tuesday evening 7pm EST and Sunday morning (time varies) for co...
2021-11-2830 min
The Positivity XperienceThoughts And Feelings Are NOT FactsWe get ourselves cought up and hurt when other people do not see or validate our feelings to the way we would like them to. This is because we are the only ones having our exact feelings and thoughts. A Fact is one that just is, it carries zero emotion. We attach our views, thoughts and emotions to them. They are valid to us. It becomes problematic however when you expect everyone to see it as THE FACT. Lets chat about it. For all things Lori and Postivity Xperience follow here! Tik Tok @LoriWhe...
2021-09-0630 min
The Positivity XperienceStop Trying To Make Other People Comfortable With YOUYou often feel stuck because you are hoping that other people support your decision. growth or boundaries. You start to second guess your goals and beliefs when other people start to show some form of doubt or judgement. Getting comfortable with other people not understanding your vision or goal is where you will really start to grow. This will come with therapy, mindfulness and daily practice of self love and trusting your own goals. You are often waiting for other people to validate those dreams. When you do that, you will always be waiting. For...
2021-08-2930 min
The Positivity XperienceStop Waiting To Be Comfortable....Nothing Grows In the Comfort Zone...Do IIt ScaredAre you waiting for the "perfect" scenario before you take the steps to achieve your goals, you will remain stuck. In the comfort zone there is zero growth. The growth happens in the discomfort, the uncomfortable and the unknown of the outcome. If you continue to wait for that comfort, the growth will not happen. Follow Me Here! Instagram: Officialloriwheeler Tik Tok: Lori Wheeler Facebook: The Positivity Xperience Podcast YouTube: The Positivity Xperience or Lori Wheeler
2021-08-1630 min
The Positivity XperienceSelf Harm And EmotionsEmotions are tough. Even people who have the best coping strategies at times struggle. For some people however, coping with emotions feels impossible. For some, self harm becomes a coping strategy. There is hope for people who self harm with compassion. You can text 741741 for help You can also text or call the Suicide Prevention line 1-800-273-8255 For All things Positivity Xperience Click here
2021-07-1235 min
The Positivity XperienceAre You Living For You Or Someone Else?Do you find yourself stuck or not knowing who you are? On top of trauma and other life events, you often try to make everyone happy and live for them. Over time you start to lose who you are or what you want. Self love is a process and not one that is achieved over night. It can also appear to be a lonely journey at first. Let's chat about it... Follow here for all things Postivity Xperience
2021-06-2728 min
The Positivity XperienceHow To Start Learning AcceptanceDo you struggle to accept the things in which you cannot control? Do you find yourself on a loop? Staying present and releasing this control takes time, patience, trauma healing and TONS OF DAILY PRACTICE. For more Positivity Xperience click here
2021-06-0630 min
The Positivity XperienceDo You Feel Stuck In Your Life?Do you feel stuck? Feeling stuck has many modalities to it with the rooted issue being fear. Fear is limiting and tells your mind that you can't do something. The key is to challenge that fear and do it scared. "What If I Fail" reframe that to "What If I Fly" For more Positivity Xperience click here
2021-05-3030 min
The Positivity XperienceDo You Struggle With Health Anxiety?Do you reserch your symptoms on Google when you feel off? Do you avoid the doctor or procedures due to your fear of what you could be told or what could happen? These are just a few things may indicate you have health anxiety. Let's chat about it... Join the discussion on the Facebook group. The Positivity Xperience Podcast. For more visit the website here: The Positivity Xperience
2021-05-1728 min
The Positivity XperienceForgiving Other's is ALWAYS For YouIn this week's episode I share a bit about my childhood and some traumatic experiences that led to a rather rocky adult life. For years I struggled with the world owing me something for having a tough life. That ISN"T the case and the world didn;t owe me anything. Forgiveness released me from bonds I had that held me back. Let's Chat Forgiveness.... The Positivity Xperience
2021-05-0334 min
The Positivity XperienceThe Intro EpisodeWelcome to my newest podcast The Positivity Xperience. I am an alternative therapist, Life and Health coach. I am also an intuitive and empath. In this podcast you will hear some of my backstory while giving you tips on anxiety, depression, overthinking and soooo many more topics. I will also be sharing positive stories from time to time from around the globe. Its a little space to just hear positivity and maybe even along the way, you will may get some helpful tips too! Oh I talk alot so if you just want the tips... it may not be...
2020-12-0215 min