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Why ThoFinal Four: Final WordsTHANKS FOR THE MEMORIES! We've loved your messages, comments, reviews, and all the ways you've made the Why Tho community a place of hope, justice, and grace. It's been a pleasure to serve you. Here's a few things we hope you remember as your journey forward and we hope you'll continue to pray for us and reach out to let us know how you're doing. We love you!!
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2022-09-2924 minWhy ThoFinal Four: What We're Loving Right NowA tried and true episode of Why Tho, we share what we're loving right now and why. Big things, small things, book things, people things. Enjoy our last hoorah of what we're loving right now.
As promised, check out the Neurocycle app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/neurocycle/id1460119837
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Rise of the Truth Teller: https://www.amazon.com/Rise-Truth-Teller-Story-Gumption/dp/0801094380
Love Is the Resistance: https...
2022-09-2221 minWhy ThoFinal Four: Favorite EpisodesWe've had a good four-year run at Why Tho and today we look back at the episodes that made us laugh, think, and change. From our faith and politics series, to best guests, to cheese boards and frozen pizza, we've imparted wisdom and courage to this community.
You'll get a good idea of what to go back and listen to on Why Tho and hear more about our journey together.
BUY OUR BOOKS. If you've loved Why Tho, say thank you by purchasing our resources. That helps us get to write another one and also supports the good work we...
2022-09-1524 minWhy ThoFinal Four: Roast or ToastBig News this week on Why Tho: This is one of our final episodes. Four years of weekly conversations between two dear friends about everything under the sun - we are so proud of this work and thankful to be in your eardrum every Thursday. Why Tho will remain available until Jesus comes back so you can access it anytime. So, we’re going out in our usual style, starting with Roast or Toast. From shows to books to therapists, here’s what we want to roast and what we want to toast.
If Why Tho has been a blessing in y...
2022-09-0834 minWhy ThoSurviving Summer Recap 2022This summer at Why Tho, we learned from a friendship expert, therapist, and life planner. We wanted you to get the wisdom you need to build the ordinary rhythms and connections that help you grow. Summer can be death by a thousand cuts (or meltdowns) but it can also be a time to move slow, take breaks, and figure out what keeps you sane. We hope that’s what this series did for you!
More to come since summer is not over but for now, we’re thankful you’re here. Let us know how our guests and this series helped...
2022-08-1132 minWhy ThoSurviving Summer: Shows You Need to WatchIf there's one thing we barely agree on, it's television options, but that's why today's episode is perfect. Ashley is being perfectly embarrassing by remembering no actors or actresses names. Tiffany, per usual, finds a way to bring up the Office and Parks and Recs.
From true crime to Tiffany Haddish to superheroes, we've got you covered for the rest of summer. We're out here surviving with you, Why Tho Fam, and always grateful for you!
Have you heard about Tiffany's mentorship program? It's going to be life-changing! Get more information here: https://forms.gle/YS7bstwKeENKaPJE6
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2022-07-0729 minWhy ThoShameless Plug Part 2Week two of SHAMELESS PLUGS does not disappoint. Women matter. Our voices, our bodies, our gifts - what we give to the world is irreplaceable. For fifteen years, Tiffany has devoted her life to empowering and championing women. She shares the path that led her here - from her first mommy blog with a six-week old and pre-schooler in her arms to writing books about story, dreaming, and justice. As a mentor, teacher, and friend, Tiffany is moving into the next phase of her leadership: Resisterhood Cohorts. Hear her heart behind a smaller group of women journeying together for seven...
2022-06-1627 minWhy ThoThe AAPI Women Who've Changed Our LivesToday’s episode is a special, personal one. We are celebrating AAPI Heritage Month by sharing a few of the Asian women who made a lasting impact on our personal lives. Women who shaped our thinking and our freedom, and taught us how to love and share and be together with others.
As the Why Tho fam, we also want to honor Tiffany, as a leader in our lives and in the AAPI community. It’s a blessing to grow together. Support Tiffany’s work by donating to SIP - a weekly table gathering of women to talk about real issues...
2022-05-2629 minWhy ThoWomen's History Month: The Long Game of LifeIt’s International Women’s History Month and we pulled an oldie but goodie out of the archives. Maybe you need a reminder that difficult days don’t last forever. We’re playing the long game of life.
Tiffany was having a particularly difficult day of parenting when she felt a little whisper: this is a long game. A very helpful whisper indeed, because life is a marathon, not a sprint, and even though we have moments to run hard, we must constantly pull ourselves up from the fray, from the discouraging bad days to acknowledge that the overall arc of our l...
2022-03-1023 minWhy ThoThrowback Thursday: Why Body Image is a Struggle#tbt to our top downloaded episodes of Why Tho! Old friends and new, these episodes offer humor, wisdom, and practical hope for you. In celebration of our third birthday we’re revisiting the archives to see how far we’ve come and thank you for being part of the Why Tho Fam!
Body image impacts women everywhere. Our culture is obsessed with image. From magazine covers to social media ads to the groups we belong to, we're receiving implicit and explicit messages that the sum total of our value is in our pants size, our lack of wrinkles, our hair, and...
2021-10-0727 minWhy ThoLove is the Resistance: Addressing Conflict and Pursuing AccountabilityIn week six of the Love is The Resistance Series, we address forgiveness, conflict resolution, and how we navigate difficult situations with those who think and act differently than we do, because dear listener, it's not easy!
To order your copy of Love is the Resistance by Ashley Abercrombie, visit https://www.amazon.com/Love-Resistance-Disagree-Conflicts-Avoiding/dp/0801094399
To take the Love is the Resistance Course visit: www.ashabercrombie.org/love-is-the-resistance
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2021-09-0926 minWhy ThoSummer BreakAfter the shenanigans of the last year a summer of sanity sounds like heaven to us!
On today's episode, Why Tho Hosts Ashley and Tiffany share the conversations that inspire them, the books they're reading, and a summer flow that's working for connection and peace. Friends, no matter the context of your life and relationships, it's always a good time to say goodbye to what's no longer serving you and hello to what is good for the soul so you can continue to become the person you were made to become.
You're powerful, and we love you!
Mentions in today's...
2021-07-0834 minWhy ThoGet in Formation: How Justice Forms Our FaithGet in Formation is a new series to inspire spiritual and personal growth. After the year we've all endured, it is important to find ways to refresh and renew our faith. Practical tools, helpful tips and inspiring wisdom, this series is jam packed with good stuff.
On today's episode, we discuss how justice has informed our faith. Through the current event of the trial of Derek Chauvin, we discuss the pillars of justice - integrity, love, mercy - and what it means to live justly.
How do we continue to remain in relationship with others who don't share a love...
2021-04-2228 minWhy ThoGet in Formation: Deconstruction and ReconstructionGet in Formation is a new series to inspire spiritual and personal growth. After the year we've all endured, it is important to find ways to refresh and renew our faith. Practical tools, helpful tips, and inspiring wisdom, this series is jam packed with good stuff.
In this episode, we'll unpack deconstruction and reconstruction. Deconstruction is getting plenty of buzz word air time, but it's a tale as old as time. Unlearning and relearning is part of discipleship. Thinking thoughtfully about why we believe what we believe increases our faith, and sometimes things fall apart in our belief systems so...
2021-04-1525 minWhy ThoGet in Formation: What Informs Your Spiritual Journey?Get in Formation is a new series to inspire spiritual and personal growth. After the year we've all endured, it is important to find ways to refresh and renew our faith. Practical tools, helpful tips and inspiring wisdom, this series is jam packed with good stuff.
In this episode, we'll unpack how we grow. What informs our spiritual journey? What gifts from others were we given to teach us to pray, worship, and relate to others? What did we have to overcome in order to be who we are? All of this creates pathways for our spiritual journey.
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2021-04-0830 minWhy ThoUnpopular Opinions and What's Saving Our Lives Right NowOn the heels of the Prey Tell series, we want to say THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT!
What an incredible launch and as Tiffany says, it's not a moment, it's a movement, so we are thrilled to invite you to keep sharing, reading and engaging with the work of Prey Tell.
We also felt it was time for a hilarious episode: UNPOPULAR OPINIONS. Turns out Ashley hates hot tea and that almost ended the future of Why Tho, but we're still fam.
You'll love this episode and we encourage you to reach out to us and share your most unpopular...
2021-04-0134 minWhy ThoPrey Tell: Narcissistic MenToday's episode is all about narcissism, how to spot when someone is demonstrating narcissistic tendencies and what it looks like to set boundaries, walk away, or seek help. This episode highlights a chapter in Tiffany's latest book "Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up" and it unpacks why narcissism is hard to escape and the myths surrounding narcissism. Spoiler alert: it's not always that easy to spot!
To learn more about Tiffany's book and pre-order visit www.tiffanybluhm.com for a list of your favorite retailers. All pre-orders unlock access to...
2021-03-0434 minWhy ThoPrey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak UpHey there, Why Tho listeners! Today's we've got an ear snack for you! Enjoy the first chapter of Tiffany's latest book, "Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up." Prey Tell addresses the imbalance of power between men and women in sacred and secular culture through an intersectional lens and examines how we can all work toward balanced and equitable spaces and speak up.
To learn more about Tiffany's book and pre-order visit tiffanybluhm.com for a list of your favorite retailers.
All pre-orders unlock access to the Prey Tell Virtual Summit...
2021-02-2527 minWhy ThoRelationship Series: CodependencyDo you ever feel like your mood, personal growth, opportunities or relationship status depends on what another does, says or thinks? Do you struggle to untangle your life from another's? Are you constantly offering advice to others, "shoulding" all over them? "You should do this/read this/think this?" Is it hard to say no? You might be struggling with codependency.
In this episode of the Why Tho Relationship Series, we're talking about signs of codependency, what to do when you recognize it and how you can overcome hiding, care-taking, controlling and manipulative behaviors in relationships. You are a powerful...
2021-02-0429 minWhy ThoWhat We Want People to Know with Guest Cohost Susie GamezGuest cohost Susie Gamez and Tiffany Bluhm talk about the pop culture shows of their youth, their interracial marriages, finding their space in white evangelical spaces, and what they want others to know when it comes to engaging minority cultures.
Thank you for joining us for another episode of Why Tho. If you enjoyed your time with us, please rate and review this podcast.
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2020-12-1730 minWhy ThoWhat's Saving Your Life Right Now with Guest Cohost Kat HarrisGuest cohost Kat Harris and Tiffany Bluhm share what's saving their lives right from fanny packs, to music, to humanizing other's who's choices have negatively affected them. They share it all and encourage you to identify the little and large things that are helping you get by.
Kat Harris is an author, speaker, podcaster. Her book "Sexless in the City" releases April 2021 and you can pre-order it here: http://bit.ly/kat-sexless
Are you a single woman? Sign up for Kat's 6 tips to activating your dating life with intention and clarity: http://bit.ly/trwdatingtips
Follow Kat on Instagram: www.in...
2020-12-1025 minWhy ThoStaying Sane During the Holiday with Guest Cohost Pricelis DominguezGuest Cohost Pricelis Dominguez and Tiffany Bluhm discuss what it looks to care for yourself during the holidays whether you are in lockdown or with family. The holidays aren't always easy, and the added stress of the pandemic is no joke. Hear tried and true ways to stay sane!
Disclaimer: The sound on this episode was not cooperating so please forgive the echo vibes you'll hear today!
Thank you for joining us for another episode of Why Tho. If you enjoyed your time with us, please rate and review this podcast.
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2020-11-2625 minWhy ThoPost Election Detox with Guest Cohost Scott EricksonAs Ashley Abercrombie embarks on maternity leave, Tiffany welcomes guest cohosts to chat with her throughout the next 6 weeks.
In this episode, Tiffany chats with speaker, artist, spiritual director, and author Scott Erickson. They cover the recent death of Alex Trebek, long walks, sweaty cheese, undercover costumes while dining out, his wife Holly Erickson (1/2 of the Modern Proper), and Scott's latest book, "Honest Advent: Awakening to the Wonder of God with Us Then, Here, and Now"
To learn more about Scott's book and order it before the start of Advent on Nov. 29th, click here: https://amzn.to/38wk3AU
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2020-11-1231 minWhy ThoWhat We Want our Sons to Know ThoMr. Rogers once said, "Feelings are mentionable and manageable." Sigh. Fred, we love you - how he has pastored so many of us (and now our children) through media is remarkable. Children, like adults, have some big feelings, and they don't always know how to manage them, and they cannot navigate life without our help. On today's episode, we share with you our top priorities in raising our young sons, and why these are important for us. Given the scandals and abuses of power we are all bearing witness to in the news today, it is important that we steward...
2020-08-2731 minWhy ThoThings You Like That Others May NotWe want you to know how much Tiffany hates raisins, and let you know that she has never eaten (or heard of) a raisinette. Dear listener, how is this possible? She is passionate about Sour Patch Kids (Ashley's least favorite candy), both of our hosts love a good binge watch of Supermarket Sweep. The heart wants what it wants, apparently.
We're diving in this episode on the strange things we like, dislike, love, and love to hate. From Twitter to candy to big things (like CHANGE - dear Lord will it ever end), this is a great conversation about how...
2020-07-3028 minWhy ThoWhy We Need Restoration in Community ThoSo, you'll learn a few things on this podcast. For example, the age gap between Ashley (on the very end of the old millenials) and Tiffany (major millenial vibes) becomes very apparent. Ashley just got on Venmo and might hide money under the mattress, and Tiffany would like an app to pay her children for chores.
Also, in this week's news, the church where Tiffany grew up in allowed a rally in their parking lot, with elected officials (like the sheriff) over a long standing racist sign that hangs over the city where they declared the sign should stay (freedom...
2020-06-2526 minWhy ThoWhy You Need Rest For the Journey ThoTake a minute to breath, fam, because this journey is long and demanding. On this episode, we are talking about why rest is necessary amid these times, and you'll also learn all about Ashley's lead foot and Tiffany's fear of breaking the rules.
Thanks for listening, be sure to rate review, and share this episode with a friend!
Links in this episode include Book of Common Prayer: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/book-of-common-prayer/id1138857966
Connect with us on Instagram: @tiffanybluhm and @ashabercrombie - we'd love to hear from you!
2020-06-1121 minWhy ThoWhy Whites Will Not Make America Great AgainWe're not beating around the bush on this episode of Why Tho, we're planning to hit white supremacy hard. Because here's the thing, we think the KKK, the Alt Right, the folks marching in Charlottesville chanting "Jews will not replace us!" are the real racists, and in comparing ourselves against them, so many white people absolve themselves of the sin of racism. But as Ashley says on today's episode "Supremacy is the tea we are steeped in from birth." We must do better, and stop with the social media sentiments, and take a deep, long look at ourselves. It's time...
2020-05-2828 minWhy ThoWhy 2020 is a Disappointment ThoDisappointment is a honest to goodness reality in 2020. From watching kids graduate on Zoom, to financial loss, to major job changes, to relationship challenges, to the sting of isolation, we’re all managing our expectations and disappointment. RIP to our best laid plans and hello to a life we didn’t choose.
On today’s episode, we’re laughing together about things gone awry (specifically an alleged bird cartel inside Tiffany’s house), grieving the losses, and looking ahead with hope.
Thank you for tuning into the Why Tho podcast! Be sure to rate and review the show - we love and a...
2020-05-2123 minWhy ThoWhy Justice is Not a Trend ThoYou know what sucks Why Tho Fam? Racism. It sucks because it is a lie from the pit of hell that says one race is superior over another, that the color of a person's skin determines their lot in life. But wait! We've had a black president! Racism doesn't exist! Slavery was 400 years ago! None of this is biblical! Stop being political!
We've heard all this and more, but you know what we've learned (and you too, if you're watching the news, or have any friends who don't look like you), the truth is this: Racism is alive and well...
2020-05-1426 minWhy ThoWhy Your Hard Stuff Matters ThoOn today’s episode, we’re taking a look at a twitter thread from one of our favorite psychologists, Hillary McBride. She talked about the power of comparative suffering, and how we can learn more about our own pain, and our ability (or inability) to cultivate empathy, by ranking our pain. She normalizes this as part of being human. What a load off during Quarantine! Gratitude grows when we realize what we do have, in comparison to others. And compassion increases when we find ways to act, to give, to receive from others.
We need to continue to realize our own...
2020-05-0728 minWhy ThoWhy Do You Keep Carrying That ThoMore time at the crib means more opportunities to evaluate why we do what we do, and why we have what we have. Listen, do you ever just look around at your house, or a closet, or the TRUNK OF YOUR CAR, and think to yourself WHY THO? Who did this to me? What are all these things? Why do we have them? And you know what we've realized? The same is true for our souls - our minds, hearts and bodies. Why do we keep carrying things that are, at worst, harming us, and at best, just aren't helping...
2020-04-3028 minWhy ThoWhy the Women are the First to Hear ThoStories are LIFE and women are incredible story tellers. It’s no secret that when God shows up in the Bible, speaks a word of life to a daughter, she finds the courage to go and tell the truth of the story, and she empowers and releases others to do the same.
Join us as we examine Mary Magdalene at the tomb, and the Woman at the Well. Be encouraged to wait, to be found faithful, to hear God say your name, to speak hope in the midst of grief, and to see light in the middle of darkness. Get re...
2020-04-2325 minWhy ThoWhy God is Still Good in the Dark ThoWhen we're in the thick of it, we can start asking incredibly important questions: Is God good? Is he good to ME? It's easy to feel alone and isolated during the difficult times, wonder if there is hope for better days ahead. We want you to know dear listener, that even though the days are dark, God is still good. We have found him as a faithful friend and father, a comfort and present help in time of need. While none of what we're collectively facing is easy AT ALL, we trust that we will get through it. Together. In...
2020-04-0923 minWhy ThoWhy Heaven is All Around Us ThoA global pandemic doesn't really feel like heaven, but we're encouraging you to really look and see the goodness of God. Jesus often said, "The kingdom of heaven is at hand..." In the midst of economic difficulty, oppressive rulers, racism, sexism and more, he pressed people to see that heaven is right here, right now, all around us.
No matter how dark, how fearful, how lonely, we are not alone, and there is beauty, and dare we say, joy to be found.... but not in Tiger King. So y'all stop watching that garbage! Or at least message us with an...
2020-04-0220 minWhy ThoHow to Survive a Pandemic ThoHoly smokes guys, this happened fast (just like Europe and Asia warned us it would), but here we are, quarantined as a mug, and maybe terrified for the future of our businesses, families, and friends. Help is on the way - we're not experts (PLEASE LISTEN TO THE EXPERTS AND NOT THE POLITICIANS BUT ACTUAL MEDICAL PERSONNEL AND SCIENTISTS), but we do have some laughs, verses, and ideas for how to survive the Coronavirus in 2020.
Please remember to reach out to people you trust, especially if you feel isolated, or are struggling with depression, and we are praying fiercely for...
2020-03-1925 minWhy ThoWhy This Will Get You Through ThoListen, we've got some goods to get you THROUGH. Just got a promotion at work? Nothing exciting has happened to you in three years? Suffering through a difficult challenge? Dealing with relationship tensions? Struggling to get out of bed in the mornings?
We've been there and we got you! Here's our best pro tips to help you love yourself and sustain yourself until you get to the other side. Because we know you're gonna make it dear listener, and we need exactly what you were created to give to the world. Keep on keeping on!
Tiffany's crispy mushroom recipe shout...
2020-03-1225 minWhy ThoWhy You Need to Pass On This ThoFrom parasites to dehydration to late night Twitter to Twilight book clubs to clutter, we're sharing all the things you might want to pass on. Why? Because we care about your mental health! Sometimes we feel like we have to do all the things, be all the things, finish all the things, even when it would serve us better if we would stop a few things. Everything and everyone is vying for our attention - ads on social media, ads in the supermarket, people we want to impress (but don't even like, or who don't like us) - and it's...
2020-03-0528 minWhy ThoWhy Black History is American History ThoThis is a special episode of Why Tho as Ashley recently visited the Equal Justice Initiative's Legacy Museum and Lynching Memorial in Montgomery, Alabama. We're sharing some of the history of racism in America that she learned on her trip. You'll hear thoughtful questions, powerful, devastating images, and receive recommendations for how to keep learning about the lasting effects of racism in America. We hope you'll see how you can affect change in your sphere of influence, and remember, that we're all interconnected in the beloved community of Christ. We each bear his image.
As mentioned in the show today...
2020-02-2727 minWhy ThoThings We Love Right NowWe still don't understand why Glossier is not a key sponsor for this podcast. Probably because we keep giving away ads FOR FREE. But seriously, on the list of things we're loving right now: balmdotcom and their lash slick mascara is at the top of our list. From podcasts to road trips to all the things in your house you can still return to Nordstrom and receive store credit. We hope this episode helps you discover new things and in general, will be a good time had by all.
Thanks for listening to the show! Every week we create killer...
2020-02-2026 minWhy ThoWhy Galentines are Better Than Valentine's Day ThoTarget does not get to decide when my partner spoils me with chocolate and roses. YOU BETTER BELIEVE we will shake our heads if any man spent over $100, or in Tiffany's case, over $10. Yes, of course we like chocolate and roses, but for petes sake, romance isn't about the fluff. It's about the heart. It's about reciprocity and communication. This episode covers romance for those who find themselves in today's dating scene and for those who are married. A little something for errr'body! Enjoy.
We mentioned a few resources in this episode:
The first is "Boundaries in Dating" by Townsend...
2020-02-1319 minWhy ThoWhy Everyone Has Something to Teach Us ThoThere is no skirting around the fact that those who are teachable and those who see themselves as life-long learners know the key to adulting. The honest truth is that everyone has something to teach us, alright. We can learn from the waiter at PF Changs, a book written 100 years ago, or from two women on a podcast who had no idea they needed to change their oil every 3,000 miles.
In this episode, we talk about why choosing to learn what you don't know is necessary to ADULT. It just is.
Thanks for listening to the show! Every week we...
2020-02-0623 minWhy ThoWhy You Have Not Arrived ThoGrit or Gift? You have the capacity for both in this life and we are here to talk all about it as we know grit and our gifts are necessary as we ADULT. Even tho it's January 57th, we are here for you as you bravely live your beautiful life.
Thanks for listening! Every week, we create killer (FREE) content for you, and we'd love your support. Take a moment to subscribe to our podcast, and rate it a 5! You'll help others find the show, and you'd bless our little hearts too.
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2020-01-3023 minWhy ThoWhy Relating to the Generations is Adulting ThoRelating to others (all the others) is a mad important Adulting skill. We are talking top priority, in 2020, and we want to help you do it, STAT. Instead of splintering into factions, we believe the generations are better together.
Whatever your age, it's important to respect those who have gone before you and those who are coming behind you, and to offer mutual respect to build a bridge of connectedness. We can forgo what we think we deserve (entitlement) from others and let humility drive us toward one another instead.
This is a show to share, dear listener, because we...
2020-01-2324 minWhy ThoWhy God Does Not Have Enemies ThoPolarization, villainization, and manipulation. Three big things we are helping you avoid in 2020. With the internet pastoring us due to the hours of our life we give to it, people are becoming increasingly settled in their camps and echo chambers. That leads us to polarizing narratives about others that are at minimum, not helpful, and often harmful. It becomes easy to make villains out of people we don't agree with, or even those who have hurt us, but in the words of Father Greg Boyle, "God doesn't have enemies. God only has children."
We have to journey from the opposite...
2020-01-1632 minWhy ThoWhy EQ in the Digital Age is Adulting ThoTechnology is here to stay and it's time for us to thoughtfully consider what we allow to shape our mind, recognize how it affects our interactions with others and establish what kind of boundaries we want to place on our usage to help us relate to one another in meaningful ways. Are our devices taking over our lives? Is there something in between us all the time? Are we being dum dums on the internet? From comments to private messages, people are freer with harsh words, acting as experts in judgment and accusation. We're just wondering where that leaves our...
2020-01-0926 minWhy ThoWhy Adulting is a Must ThoNew Year, New You... Except we're hoping to not start 2020 off feeling overwhelmed, anxious and behind. So to help you live your best life, we're offering all the best tips and tricks we have to help you take responsibility for your life and no one else's, cause you can only do your part.
In this episode, we're tackling how not to overextend yourself before you start, how to say "no" consistently so you can say "yes" peacefully, and how to foster connection and trust, instead of fear and failure. Our desire is for you to live honestly and joyfully. With...
2020-01-0225 minWhy ThoWhy Resolutions Are Cancelled ThoHear, hear! Furthermore and forevermore, resolutions are CANCELLED THO. Here’s why... you’re worth more than impossible standards, goals without actionable items, and feeling like a failure by the end of January. So, we’re offering ways to think about the changes you want to see, and the person you want to become. Vulnerable and honest, you’ll see how we want to grow in the new year, and how we avoid the quick-fix traps. Do your big, beautiful life, but don’t let other people, social media, or anything else, tell you setting 25 resolutions will lead to happiness. Cause the...
2019-12-2623 minWhy ThoWhy Reflections of 2019 are Necessary ThoWe’re ending a decade and in 2019, a million and one things happened. Not only nationally and globally, but personally. On this episode, Tiffany and Ashley look back on the year, share lessons learned, including what it means to stay present, speak life over others, manage busy seasons, and wrestle well. We hope you take time to reflect and learn from this year. Even this decade! You’re powerful and you’ll probably be amazed at all you’ve accomplished as you look back on your life. We’re cheering you on!
To learn more about Tiffany, her books, speaking, freebies...
2019-12-1926 minWhy ThoWhy Gratitude and Gumption ThoGratitude brings so much joy (unless you're complaining and Sister So & So and her Brother Bob are so happy you could die). Also, joy is vulnerable. It takes courage to celebrate, especially when things aren't going great or when we're waiting for breakthrough. Still, gratitude is like engine oil for gumption. When we practice gratefulness, we are less likely to envy others, surrender to discontent, or feel like nothing is ever enough. We are more connected, more able to stay present in the daily moments of life, giving our best where we are. That's gumption - the will to continue...
2019-12-1222 minWhy ThoWhy Holidays are Better on a Budget ThoPeppermint mochas, mulled wine, cheese boards (duh), pine needles, holiday candles, shopping lists, and all of it has the potential to be so lovely... and so, expensive. If you're not careful, you can dig a hole of debt, and a soul crushing mountain of anxiety, trying to do all the things and please all the people. BUT WE GOT YOU! Holidays are better on a budget. Sure, it might require grown-up conversations (no, I can't participate in a gift exchange this year, but I'd love to come and party!), and it might mean stretching decor, or getting better storage, but...
2019-12-0529 minWhy ThoWhy Turkey is STILL a Problem ThoListen, it's impossible to top last year's Thanksgiving episode - it was so hilarious that we were hearing from you cheeky little listeners for WEEKS. So, here's a recap, and we hope you have a great week gathering with your people, in celebration of the complicated American holiday, Thanksgiving.
Guys, seriously, can we talk about turkey tho? Who wants to have a dry piece of poultry as the main event? Everyone knows that SIDES are the hero of this Thanksgiving story. Why doesn't anyone serve filet mignon with twice baked potatoes and a cheese platter? Unless you're Tiffany, who had...
2019-11-2827 minWhy ThoWhy Loneliness is Real ThoThis is an issue that impacts us all. We can experience loneliness even if we are completely surrounded by others, or perhaps in a new season of life (like motherhood, or empty nesting, or navigating the loss of a loved one), or when we're in recovery making new choices, or feeling on the outside at work, school, or even at home. Loneliness is real tho, and this episode, Ashley and Tiffany discuss how they've felt it in the past (yes, there have been holidays alone), how they experience it now, and offer practical ways to deal with feeling alone. Dear...
2019-11-2121 minWhy ThoWhy Self Care is Not Always Soul Care ThoListen, we're here for the glow up. Tiffany gets two emails per day from Sephora and she's satisfied with her life choices. Ashley has a standing gel manicure appointment every month. Good curling irons are life, and so is Glossier lip balm and boy brow, okay?! However, the New York Times wrote an opinion piece about the wellness industry, "The New Spiritual Consumerism" and gave thoughtful commentary on who wellness is actually for, and if we are trying to satisfy our needs in unrealistic, unhealthy ways. As we approach the holiday season, this dialogue is important, not only because our...
2019-11-1430 minWhy ThoWhy a Friend Loves at All Times ThoWhen we really know each other, we can really love each other. To suspend judgment, step into a person's context, seek to understand, and walk alongside a friend means that we can experience companionship in every season of life. None of us have a perfect life, and all of us know what it means for the reality of our life to hang well beneath our ideal of what life should be. Each of us also know what it's like to go through an identity crisis (HELLO MIDDLE SCHOOL, WE ARE NOT FRIENDS), and suffer brokenness and hurt in some area...
2019-11-0721 minWhy ThoWhy We Are Not Going Home ThoEveryone is talking about the conversation at the conference where John MacArthur told Beth Moore to go home, went on to say that there is no circumstance for women to preach, ever, and suggested that women of color and immigrants have no place at the table talking theology and translation. SAY WHAT HOMEBOY!
Not only are we not going home, but we believe the Bible very clearly endorses the body of Christ operating in the five-fold ministry (unless there's two bodies of Christ - one for men and one for women), and that BOTH men and women are called to...
2019-10-3128 minWhy ThoWhy You Need to Ask This Question ThoA good question can unlock a moment of life. When we don't have understanding; when we feel alone; when we're struggling or suffering; when we're confused or lonely... asking the right question helps us settle into the season, and see beyond our circumstances.
We all have times when the monotony wears on us and we need to see God. So, we're asking a very important question on today's podcast: Where do you see God right now? Because we need to pull back the layers of our day, our life, our relationships and our junk, to see God where we are...
2019-10-2420 minWhy ThoWhy Even the Good Things Can Be a Struggle ThoWhat happens when you get what you pray for? After all the waiting and hoping, are we ever really ready for the great responsibility of sustaining a dream? From starting a business, to transitioning home with kids, to moving cities, and more, we will have to let go of some things. What sustained us in our waiting, may not sustain us in our dream. New habits, new relationships, and new mentalities are required, and so is room for dreaming, thinking, and BEING. We hope you get what you pray for, dear listener, and we're here with some fresh tips to...
2019-10-1723 minWhy ThoWhy You Must Watch This ThoHow many titles can one human watch? We are bombarded with tv shows, IG accounts, Ted talks and more, but NEVER FEAR, WHY THO LISTENERS, OUR MUST WATCH LIST IS HERE!
We’ve done your work for you, and have a short list of things you must watch right now. Much to Ashley’s dismay, Law & Order SVU didn’t make the cut, but the Great British Bake Off did.
From the Defiant Ones to RGB to Superstore and more, we’re sharing what we’re watching and why we’re watching it. What’s on your Must Watch list? Send us a mess...
2019-10-1020 minWhy ThoWhy It's Time to Throw a Party ThoParties are the best, aren't they? Good food, poppin' music, and your people make for a good time, and when the party is celebrating something monumental, even better. Today's episode is all about the importance of celebration. Don't miss it! Also, we feature our longtime friend Harmony Dust Grillo. Find more about her Harmony at www.harmonygrillo.com.
Loving our podcast like we love you? Then subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend - it helps others find the show!
To find out more about Tiffany's writing, speaking, or books visit her site at http://www...
2019-10-0328 minWhy ThoWhy the World is Not Safe or Kind to Women ThoFrom catcalls to comments about our weight, height or hair, to someone suggesting we might be on our period if we're having a difficult day, to people talking behind our backs, to abuse and more, women know what it means to fight through challenging experiences. ON. THE. DAILY. Sometimes, we're fatigued, depressed, bone-tired, and irritable because we don't realize how much we deal with regularly, how much we have to stuff down to keep going. BUT WE MUST, and it's okay to take a time out to actually acknowledge what we've gone through, and might currently be going through, so...
2019-09-2626 minWhy ThoWhy Bless Her Heart is Not a Blessing ThoIf anyone ever says, "Bless your little heart", and you have the courage to ask them what they mean, you will regret it. This is not a blessing. Trust us. Somebody is really looking for the opportunity to tell you something about yourself that you don't want to hear (or they are going to say it behind your back). Sometimes, truth telling about OTHERS is easier than telling the truth about OURSELVES. But if we want to see personal growth in our lives, then it's time to start getting honest about our own lives. The power is in the telling...
2019-09-1924 minWhy ThoWhy the Bible is a Book for Foodies ThoFood is for sure one of our love languages, and we have discovered that the Bible is actually a book for foodies. From Jael, to Esther, to four teenage boys kidnapped and enslaved in Babylon, to a miracle of water to wine at a wedding, to Jesus at the last supper. The story of humanity starts with an apple, and finishes with an incredible, Pinterest worthy, redemptive, banquet feast. There's a spiritual element to gathering at the table, where we are leveled, and the potential for vulnerability, and even exposure, increases. Freedom, justice, miracles, courage, and gumption can all be...
2019-09-1224 minWhy ThoWhy Forgiveness is My Other Favorite F Word ThoForgiveness is one of our favorite F-words. Forgiveness leads to wholeness and that is what makes it so powerful. We're fragmented when we choose to remain stuck in our hurts and wounds. We become suspicious of others, and we struggle to move forward in health and strength in the big offenses. Especially in our closest relationships. We make vows that hinder our purpose, and lead to greater isolation and loneliness (I will never let this type of person hurt me again; I will never commit to intimacy again; I will never risk my heart in relationship again because I fear...
2019-09-0523 minWhy ThoWhy You Need to Stop That and Start This ThoWe're slowly pulling ourselves out of summer, and that means adjusting ourselves and our lives to the final months of the year. There are probably things we need to stop doing and things we need to start doing. They will not only make our lives more efficient, but give us more confidence to make the decisions we know we need to make. From body image to gossip to schedules to being present, we've got all the good tips for the things to stop and start doing NOW. Tag us on social, and tell us what you're stopping, and what you're...
2019-08-2226 minWhy ThoWhy Common Sense is Not That Common ThoWanna know our beef with 2019? Common sense is not that common tho. Like, aren't there some things we should all know are unacceptable in society? For example: Don't say every old thought that comes into your head. Don't do every dumb thing you feel like doing. From the smallest uses of language, to the social tact that helps us read a room, to the refusal to pick a side and be a hater... We need some common sense and basic human decency. (Can we get an Amen?) Also, we are distraught over the fact that bulletproof backpacks are being purchased...
2019-08-1526 minWhy ThoWhy Books Are Food For Your Brain ThoThe science is there (but you'll have to google it): reading may stave off Alzheimers, aids us in quest for empathy, provides the brain with necessary food to function, and gives us something to talk about at the dinner table, or at awkward parties when meeting strangers. Books make the world go round, which is probably why dictators burn them. Words are powerful, life giving and life changing (unless you're a dictator, where the opposite is true). From the book Night to Jesus Feminist, to Barbara Brown Taylor and Brother Lawrence, we've got the goods, and we want to share...
2019-08-0826 minWhy ThoWhy Cheese Boards Are Life ThoApparently, cheese board specialist is a job now, and we're just wondering how to apply, because cheese boards are LIFE THO. A giant piece of wood, full of cheese, meats, nuts, dried fruit, chocolates, dips, and whatever else you like. This is the stuff that makes kitchen conversations legit. Which to us, means hospitality and hilarity. (I mean, some people can be fake around a cheese board, but we can't, sooooo). In our digital world, where we are highly connected, but lacking true community, we cannot forget to gather together, face to face, and we highly recommend meat and cheese...
2019-08-0123 minWhy ThoWhy Your Style Issa Vibe ThoWhat defines your style? Maybe you like Namaste in Bed on a t-shirt (Tiffany), or all black everything (Ashley), or red lips and fabulous brows (Both). Maybe your home is a bit retro, or jewel toned, or covered in legos. It's all fabulous. Now matter what our style is, the way we express ourselves is part of our contribution, and our welcome, to the world around us. When we are our truest selves (no matter our budget), we empower people around us to be their best self as well. So get some style tips, laugh your head off, and grow...
2019-07-2526 minWhy ThoWhy Being A Neighbor Still Matters Tho"Who is my neighbor?" Isn't this the age old question? Particularly now, when our neighbors might include our co-workers, social media buddies, friends from former cities, people who share our faith tradition, as well as people who don't, and of course, those who live on our street. That's a lot of people to share connections with so how do we practice neighborliness in 2019? How do we avoid the constant clapback on social media and the temptation to grow callous in a perpetually needy world? Well, that's easy, we just need to take a little encouragement from the Fred Rogers Playbook...
2019-07-1826 minWhy ThoWhy The Long Game of Life ThoTiffany was having a particularly difficult day of parenting when she felt a little whisper: this is a long game. A very helpful whisper indeed, because life is a marathon, not a sprint, and even though we have moments to run hard, we must constantly pull ourselves up from the fray, from the discouraging bad days to acknowledge that the overall arc of our life is likely quite positive. Ashley averages one movie every two years, and recently saw the Toni Morrison documentary, The Pieces I Am, where she too, was reminded of the long game of life: to do...
2019-07-1123 minWhy ThoWhy The Pay Gap ThoBusiness Insider reported that women earn 80.7 cents for every dollar that her male counterpart earns. Statistics also show that college educated females now outnumber males in the work force, but are still not fairly compensated. Tiffany and Ashley have firsthand experience with this, and this is an important dialogue for us to have. We want to see women advance, not at the expense of men, but because equal pay for equal work should be our baseline. Recently, Luna Bar, having fallen in love with the US Women's Soccer Team, like the rest of us, decided to close a pay gap...
2019-07-0426 minWhy ThoWhy You Can Evolve ThoFirst of all, Facebook Quizzes. Guys, we love them. Okay, Ashley loves them, but it is important to know how many states we've traveled to, and which Disney princess we are, right? Okay, maybe not, but the big takeaway is, it's okay to evolve. (Especially beyond FB quizzes.) In every season of life, we are becoming, and we have to allow ourselves to grow, and give ourselves permission to make necessary changes, and to step into a gap when there is a need. Noor Inayat Khan, the Indian princess (as the BBC calls her) spied for Britain. She was born...
2019-06-2725 minWhy ThoWhy Civil Disobedience ThoCan you imagine being asked to submit to a completely irrational request, a rule that violated your humanity, a policy that made your superior at the expense of someone else? Of course you can... because we've all been coerced or forced into becoming less of who, or what, we were created to become. There are times when civil disobedience (what living legend John Lewis calls, "good trouble") is required to disrupt the current order, structure, or even law, and help others understand that we are all created with inherent value and dignity, and must be treated accordingly. Journey with us...
2019-06-2025 minWhy ThoWhy Do You Love That ThoSeriously, why do you love that tho? From beauty products (Glossier, Laura Mercier, NARS), to nightly routines (do NOT sleep without water by the bed), to favorite books, podcasts, and Target faves, the Why Tho Gals are coming with the Summer Thunder, and you do not want to miss this good time. We all have the little things that spark joy in our lives, the things that are keeping us alive, and full of hope. As we prepare for a holiday weekend, it's important to think about what you love and what you need. Even if it is a frozen...
2019-05-2327 minWhy ThoWhy Body Image is a Struggle ThoBody image impacts women everywhere. Our culture is obsessed with image. From magazine covers to social media ads to the groups we belong to, we're receiving implicit and explicit messages that the sum total of our value is in our pants size, our lack of wrinkles, our hair and skin color.
In this episode, Tiffany and Ashley talk about their experiences with body image (name calling, shame, eating disorder, and more). Plus, we'll provide helpful tools to help you overcome negative body image and share how to lean into a more holistic perspective of our emotional, spiritual, relational and physical...
2019-05-0227 minWhy ThoWhy Meghan Markle is Legit ThoWhere were you for the royal wedding? We want to know when you discovered Meghan Markle. If you've seen the tv show Suits, then you already know why Ashley and Tiffany are obsessed. Plus, Prince Harry found his person, and America got her princess, and we are here for it! So, from learning how to pronouce Givenchy, to how cultures come together, to the heart warming goodnes of finding true love, we're going in on HRH Duchess Markle. There's a huge learning curve to transition, and through the beautiful couple we're tackling the chaos of community, holding true to your...
2019-04-2524 minWhy ThoWhy Privilege is Not a Cuss Word ThoSo, who's sick of talking about privilege in America? Right, not us, so bear with us as we dive right in. We believe this is still an important conversation. Plus, one of our cohosts has had quite a few run-ins with the law (can't wait for you to hear that story), and both Tiffany and Ashley have served as prison chaplains in America. Whether we're talking about race or gender, it's true that there are things that people with a certain skin color, and men, will just never have to deal with, ever. Gina Crosley-Corcoran, author of the essay, "Explaining...
2019-04-1827 minWhy ThoWhy Women Are Still Not Equals Tho25 minutes is not enough time to unpack the difficulties we experience as women because of our gender, but hey, here we go! It's common within nearly every context of society for women to feel subservient, or not good enough, or like the sole responsibility for all emotional and physical labor belongs to us. We think there's a better way, and that women can be, and should be valued and viewed equally.
Learn with Ashley and Tiffany how to speak up, how to honor other women, and that you're not alone as you navigate the gender gaps in your sphere of...
2019-04-1124 minWhy ThoWhy She Bullies ThoRegina George is our worst nightmare, because she grows up to become an adult, and make her own little Regina George babies that our kids have to deal with. Why tho? We've likely all experienced the overt and passive aggressive behavior from other women that discourages, silences or manipulates us. In this episode, Tiffany and Ashley unpack the She Bully, how to deal with her, and how to resist giving her power over your life.
To find out more about Tiffany's writing, speaking, or books visit her site at http://www.tiffanybluhm.com/ Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram...
2019-04-0417 minWhy ThoWhy That Relationship Is No Longer Working ThoOh man, we are nostalgic creatures. In the midst of a relationship that's no longer working tho, we sometimes struggle to tell ourselves the truth. Perhaps the person we're dating has been revealing their poor character, pushing our boundaries, and making us feel like crap all the time. Maybe a co-worker who used to be in our corner starts spittin' out cutting comments, or tears us down in meetings now that we're in a new position. Perhaps we've added a few babies to our marriage, and we keep trying to make things go back to what they used to be...
2019-03-2821 minWhy ThoWhy The Underdog Wins The Fight ThoTiffany seems to think the Mighty Ducks is a serious underdog story, but Ashley is more of a Goonies girl. Either way, the research proves it, we love to root for the underdog. We see ourselves in the one with all the obstacles, and as two fellow comeback queens, we know what it takes to have the odds stacked against you, and still learn to thrive in life. The underdog is scrappy, creative, with humility and hustle, passion and commitment, and today's episode will remind you, that you might lose a few fights, but overall, you're positioned to win. Share...
2019-03-0725 minWhy ThoWhy Things Get Worse Before They Get Better ThoYou ever working to get better and everything starts getting worse? What about when you're begging the heavens to make your spouse/friend/sibling/co-worker/boss better, but they start acting like hell incarnated, instead? Yeah, sometimes it gets worse before it gets better tho. Haven't we learned anything from Marie Kondo, and her magical art of tidying up? The clothes on the bed as part of the process inspires a level of panic like none other, but when it's all sorted, peace rains down like a river. Join Ashley and Tiffany as they share how to navigate the messy...
2019-02-2128 minWhy ThoWhy You Need To Silence The Haters ThoOkay, so, the Fyre Festival and the Amex Black Card got us thinking about something serious: The Hatership. Those folks who remind you what you're not, who you used to be, and who sit on the sidelines of your life, telling you what's up 24/7. #byefelicia, cause we really need to silence the haters tho. Join us as we discuss how to deal with the internet haters, real life haters, self haters, used to be supporters who are now haters, and how to remember the truth, and lean into relationships to recover. Yes to growth, helpful critiques, and opportunities to get...
2019-02-1430 minWhy ThoWhy It Takes A Village ThoLoneliness is a problem in our world. We can even be surrounded by incredible people, who love us, and that we love, and without choosing to be vulnerable and honest, we won't experience the true power of a dream fulfilled. Cause it really does take a village tho. To build a dream, to build a life, to build the lives and dreams of others, we need people. People who help us navigate the highs and lows of life. People who will be with us when our day job ain't looking nothing like our dream job. People who will hold our...
2019-02-0722 minWhy ThoWhy She Dreams ThoDreams are no joke. They keep us up at night and the more we pursue them, the more we have a hankerin' for them to come true. The truth is, too many of us feel like our past choices or lack of access to resources or gender, or (fill in the blank) is reason enough to give up on our dreams altogether. Here's the thing, dreaming is your birthright and you owe to yourself and the world to get after it. Go on, girl. Get yours.
This episode is especially fabulous since Tiffany reads the first chapter of her new...
2019-01-3130 minWhy ThoWhy Your Weaknesses Are No Joke ThoWho else is obsessed with the Enneagram, DISC profile, Buzzfeed Disney Princess Quiz, and whatever else tells us who we are, and what we're good at? Okay, great, well, this podcast is the opposite of that. Cause your weaknesses might be killing you tho. You're welcome. What we don't want is for you to waste time improving your weaknesses, but what we do want is for you to understand how your blindspots could be impacting your leadership and capacity. We all have character flaws and things we're not great at, and that's why we need each other to thrive, so...
2019-01-2425 minWhy ThoWhy You Need To Fight For Peace ThoWhy is peace so difficult for us to find? We'll tell you why, cause it's hard out here for the humans. Anxiety, fear, stress, and daily responsibilities can choke the life right out of our heads and hearts. Plus, we can get so bottlenecked in our own stuff, that we don't even notice how desperately others are crying out for relief. Peace is possible, brave soul, no matter what you're facing, and in this episode, Tiffany and Ashley share exactly why you need to fight for peace. Plus, you'll learn how to cultivate peace in your life, and in the...
2019-01-1725 minWhy ThoWhy Work and Home Are Not Enemies ThoHave you ever felt like your work life was in direct competition with your home life? Excelling in your career, at the expense of your laundry, your health, or your relationships? Yeah, us too. It's time to stop allowing guilt to ruin our lived experiences at home and at work. You are worthy of dignified work, and a fulfilling home life. Regardless of your age and stage, single or not, this episode will help you integrate what you feel called to do outside your home with the life you want to create inside your home. Whether you're a leading executive...
2019-01-1025 minWhy ThoWhy You Feel Stuck ThoPerfection. No mistakes. No failing. Hiding behind an image. But when you feel stuck tho, these are ridiculous ideals. To move forward, to gain momentum, we will get messy. We will make mistakes. Failure is certain (sorry dear listener, but it's true). And we'll have to value our integrity over our image. Dealing with the real, over the ideal, can help us decide our next best step, so we can get ourselves unstuck. As you start the new year, how do you want to move forward? What areas of life do you want to see change? We hope this week's...
2019-01-0326 minWhy ThoWhy You Need To Be Instead of Do ThoNew year, who dis? Ummm, the same person we were yesterday because no one can change overnight. As we close the door on 2018, and begin a new year, it's important to ask, who do you want to be? We are not human doings, we are human beings, and if we focus more on who we are becoming, then our goals will be a natural outcome of who we are, rather than our best attempts to do, do, do. Listen to Ashley share her failure at the Five F's (Family, Fitness, Faith, Frienship, Finance) year after year until she finally threw...
2018-12-2720 minWhy ThoWhy Women Are Strong as Heck ThoWomen are strong as heck because the lives they lead require courage, conviction, and resolve. Where women are not empowered, communities and nations suffer poverty, lack of economic growth, and a diminished view of God. From single parents to activists and authors, stay-at-home moms and executives, children, teens and young adults, women are spectacular, uniquely created to make a difference in the world. On this episode, Ashley and Tiffany talk about the power of a free woman, what happens when she tells the truth, and how she can partner with others to affect change.
To find out more about Tiffany's...
2018-12-2029 minWhy ThoWhy You Decide Your Traditions ThoTrees, lights, presents, parties, and don't forget depression, loneliness, and the loss of what could have been... Ugh, holidays, why tho? With the magic of Christmas, and the busyness of the holiday season, it's easy to mask the deeper emotions beneath the surface. On this episode, Tiffany and Ashley share why you need to decide your traditions. When you suffer loss, divorce, and pain from childhood, how do you imagine the future? If you make a significant life shift, what happens to the long standing traditions of your past? One day at a time, managing expectations, choosing courage, resisting busy...
2018-12-1326 minWhy ThoWhy Frozen Pizzas ThoCommunity and connection - isn't that what we all want? It's what Facebook wants to create with millions of profiles (jury's out on that one), because they have identified our shared need. On this episode, Tiffany and Ashley discuss the importance of gathering together at the table to experience community and connection, and to be reminded that we're not alone in celebration or struggle. Listen, whether it's frozen pizza, fancy place settings, delivery service, or fine fare from your favorite restaurant, the point is that you spend time together. In a polarized, digital world, gather at the table where the...
2018-11-2927 minWhy ThoWhy Turkey is a Problem ThoGuys, seriously, can we talk about turkey on Thanksgiving tho? Who wants a dry piece of poultry as the main event tho? Everyone knows that SIDES are the hero of the Thanksgiving story. Why doesn't anyone serve filet mignon with twice baked potatoes and a cheese platter? Especially if you're Tiffany, who had a vegetarian help her stuff her turkey one year, wearing dishwashing gloves with leftover soap on them. This episode is filled with laughs to accompany your Thanksgiving holiday prep. Don't worry, if you're listening from somewhere else in the world, you'll cry tears of laughter too. Also...
2018-11-2227 minWhy ThoWhy You Need to Turn Off Your Phone ThoWhat do we do with the little time we have to ourselves? What do we do when we are at a party, or with our family, or at dinner with friends? Is our phone our primary safety net? Do we reach for it every time we are bored, uncomfortable, or alone? Do we take time to dream, to sit, or just be? Well, Ashley admits to being a full-on iPhone addict, and Tiffany has done too much research to be addicted, but both of these women know the struggle is real. In this episode, we talk about why you need...
2018-11-0828 minWhy ThoWhy the Grey is Okay ThoWe build our lives around our desire to be sure. This is this. That is that. 2 + 2 = 4. If I do this, it will produce that. If I give this, or say this, or do this, I expect that you will give that, say that, or do that back. But real life isn't actually like that. As much as we try to build a black and white world where we are safe, secure, and in control, we are often reminded that what we have built for ourselves is a false sense of safety, security and control, and we have to reckon with...
2018-11-0122 minWhy ThoWhy You Cannot Do It All So Stop Trying ThoComparison is killing us, and with the lifestyle bloggers, Pinterest perfecters, and everything from the magazines in the grocery aisle to the expectations of everyone else, we are struggling to have it all, do it all and be it all. On this week's episode, Tiffany and Ashley ask Why Tho? Who set up this impossible standard, and why are we trying to live up to it? Doing a few things well, instead of doing all the things kinda well (or not well at all, tbh), can change your life! Emotionally, mentally and physically, we only have so much to give...
2018-10-1125 minWhy ThoWhy Ashley Abercrombie ThoAshley, who had a pHd in pretending, learned to take her mask off and get honest with a little old-fashioned truth-telling. Overcoming drugs, alcohol, an eating disorder, and dysfunctional relationships, Ashley opens up about the journey of recovery, dealing with fear, and learning to live in meaningful, reciprocal relationships. She started in Eden, North, Carolina, then moved to Los Angeles, and now lives in Manhattan, where she pastors a church on Wall Street with her husband, Cody, and is a full-time writer and speaker.
For close to a decade, Ashley has been advocating for change, speaking out against injustice and...
2018-10-0226 minWhy ThoWhy Tiffany Bluhm ThoTiffany, who was left in an orphanage at two-days-old in India, has overcome impossible odds to become an adoptive mother and birth mother, and wife to her husband Derek. She's a full-time writer, international speaker, and the Gatherer-in-Chief of SIP, a table gathering that serves hundreds of women each season in the Seattle area. She drops wisdom bombs like: "Fixing the exterior doesn't fix the interior," and "What's breaking you, is also what's making you." She talks about shame, fear, anxiety, discrimination, abandonment, dreams and more. Why wouldn't you want to share this podcast tho? Read more at www.tiffanybluhm...
2018-10-0225 min