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Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondObsessed At All Costs: When Attachment Becomes More Important Than Everything ElseIn this episode, host Trina Laird explores the psychological turmoil behind midlife crises, with a particular focus on the gripping case of Brendan Banfield. Banfield became fixated on his family's au pair, leading to a dismantling of his former identity as a father and husband. The discussion delves into the neurological underpinnings of obsessive attachment and its impact on personal and family relationships. Highlighting the difference between love and obsession, the episode offers insights into why such behavior often appears irrational to outsiders and explores the emotional fallout for those left to pick up the pieces.
2026-02-2029 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondAttachment Isn't Attraction: Why Crisis Bonds Feel Like Love, But They Are Far From ItIn this episode, host Trina Laird discusses how psychological attachment, often confused with true attraction, is linked to a person's need for emotional relief rather than compatibility. Trina explains the unsettling shift from partner to adversary, describing it as a survival tactic rather than a deliberate choice for the person in MLC. The discussion offers solace by suggesting that the behaviors and accusations made by those in crisis reveal more about their internal turmoil than the reality of their loved ones. The brain in MLC didn't choose a better partner, it forced them to choose a person who helped...
2026-02-1521 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondDr. Lee Baucom on Unpausing Love and Mastering Connection in MarriageDr. Lee Baucom, a renowned thriveologist and marriage coach, discusses the common pitfalls of marriage, particularly the unnoticed 'pause button' many couples hit when life gets busy. This episode delves into the detrimental effects of putting a relationship on hold, which can lead to feelings of disconnection and midlife crises. Dr. Lee emphasizes the importance of continuous connection and self-empowerment within relationships to foster a thriving marriage. He shares strategies to avoid the 'pause button' and insights into recognizing and addressing these issues before they become irreparable.
2026-02-0956 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondDivorced But You Feel Like A Widow? You May Be... WIVORCEDIn this poignant episode, Trina discusses the emotional and financial devastation faced by those abruptly abandoned during a spouse's midlife crisis. Unlike divorce, where both partners may mutually decide to part ways, this sudden departure creates an ambiguous grief—where the person is alive but the relationship is not. Through personal anecdotes and community support, Trina sheds light on a term she coined called 'wivorced', encapsulating the unique struggle of being part widowed, part divorced. She emphasizes resilience and the importance of rebuilding a life amidst the chaos of emotional abandonment, encouraging listeners to find strength in community.
2026-02-0619 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWhen Fear Took The Wheel: COVID, Midlife and Emotional CollapseThis episode explores the intersection of midlife crises and the COVID-19 pandemic, highlighting how the added stressors of isolation, fear, and uncertainty exacerbated existing emotional struggles. Today Trina Laird discusses how these pressures can lead to impulsive decisions, relationship disintegration, or identity crises, emphasizing that while pandemic fear did not cause these occurrences, it acted as an accelerant. This episode offers insights into understanding the emotional fallout and provides guidance on finding stability and healing for those affected by emotional abandonment and upheaval.
2026-02-0115 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondReality Inversion: When The One Who Leaves Claims THEY Are In Danger Of YOUThis episode delves into the concept of false fear narratives, highlighting how reality inversion can distort perceptions and relationships. The conversation offers insights into managing these crises by focusing on calm, truth, and emotional regulation, providing guidance to those left behind by a partner in crisis. The episode also introduces resources for navigating the aftermath, emphasizing resilience and understanding amidst chaotic experiences.
2026-01-3114 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWhen A Father Walks Away: At What Point Does He Become Known As The Sperm Donor?This episode sheds light on the intricate emotional landscape of parental abandonment during midlife crises. Affected adult children grapple with not only the loss of their fathers but also the silent desertion by grandparents who choose to protect their own adult children. The discussion highlights the painful gap between biological ties and the courage and accountability that true fatherhood and grandparenthood require. As these children navigate feelings of erasure and betrayal, your host Trina Laird calls for accountability and questions the renaming of relationships to protect dignity and emphasize healing over maintaining appearances.
2026-01-2618 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondSeven Years and Claire's Former Husband Is Still In The TunnelIn this episode of 'MLC Bomb Drop and Beyond,' Claire shares her personal journey through her husband's midlife crisis. It began after a series of professional and personal challenges, including job loss and a health scare. Over the years, these stresses transformed their once harmonious partnership into a strained and distant relationship. Claire reflects on the emotional toll it has taken, especially after her husband abruptly left. Her story sheds light on the complex and often painful reality of midlife crises, emphasizing the need for understanding and support for those left navigating the aftermath.
2026-01-2535 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondJanuary Divorce: The Illusion of PowerJanuary is often dubbed the 'Super Bowl of Divorce,' with many marriages unraveling after the holiday season. The podcast, MLC Bomb Drop and Beyond, addresses this trend, emphasizing that January filings are not acts of courage but responses to mounting pressures. It urges those affected to remain calm, seek support, and avoid mirroring the chaos of a partner's midlife crisis. With personal anecdotes and expert insights, this episode offers a survival guide for those blindsided by a sudden split, encouraging them to regain control of their life and emotions, independent of who initiated the legal process.
2026-01-1518 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWhile the MLCer Self Sabotages It's Time For YOU To Stay StrongThis episode explores the harrowing journey through a midlife crisis, a tumultuous and self-destructive path often misunderstood by others. It delves into themes of personal disintegration, avoiding responsibility, and the allure of temporary relief. Many individuals emerge emotionally altered, severing themselves from family, community, and historical anchors. This episode stresses the importance of facing internal struggles with courage and personal growth, advising left-behind spouses to rebuild and focus on themselves. It's a compelling reminder that change is internal and observers must focus on their own healing.
2026-01-0616 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondHow One Wife Meets the New Girlfriend And Lives To Tell About ItIn our New Years Episode I'm happy to introduce you to Lexi, married 24 years to her high school sweetheart when all of a sudden the bomb was dropped. Now divorced, her husband has broken up with the AP and has a new girlfriend. Some MLC'ers will run from one relationship to another, this could be the first of many for her Ex, but she graciously agreed to meet with them for dinner. He's not the same man that she married, but he's not the man he was when they divorced. Lexi reminds us that healing begins with choosing yourself...
2026-01-0143 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondStranger Things: A Mirror to Midlife Trauma?This episode explores the concept of a midlife crisis and its psychological impact, drawing parallels with the popular TV show 'Stranger Things.' We discuss how the Upside Down world in the show symbolizes unprocessed trauma and emotional damage, similar to what individuals may experience during a midlife crisis. By metaphorically comparing betrayal, trauma, and reality shifts to the eerie elements of 'Stranger Things,' this episode offers a deeper understanding of the emotional turmoil involved. This episode also emphasizes the importance of connection, truth-telling, and emotional support for healing and overcoming the associated challenges.
2025-12-2631 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondDr. Jake Porter on Betrayal Trauma and Returning to YouIn this episode, Dr. Jake Porter discusses the traumatic ripple effects of betrayal and offers a path to healing for those devastated by it. As a pioneer in couple-centered recovery, Dr. Porter explains the myriad ways betrayal can affect individuals physically, emotionally, ethically, and spiritually. He emphasizes the need for those affected to reclaim their identity and offers insights into the symptoms exhibited by individuals who have experienced such trauma. Dr. Porter also touches on how men and women might experience betrayal differently, underscoring the importance of tailored therapeutic approaches to achieve personal empowerment and healing.
2025-12-2240 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Vanisher's Journey: Unraveling the Midlife CrisisThis episode focuses particularly on vanishers, those who abruptly abandon their families, often triggered by deep-seated emotional wounds which originated in early childhood. The episode outlines stages from pre-crisis identity confusion to eventual regret and potential attempts to reconnect. The narrative highlights the critical impact on spouses and children left behind, emphasizing understanding and patience as integral to navigating these challenging dynamics, and recognizing the emotional journey of those who seemingly vanish.
2025-12-1442 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Hidden Dangers of Never Arguing in MarriageFor left behind spouses, the aftermath of a partner's midlife crisis can be emotionally devastating. This episode of the podcast explores the underlying reasons why individuals in crisis might avoid confrontation, leading to significant emotional damage. By blaming their partners and framing themselves as victims, they avoid taking responsibility for their actions. The podcast offers hope by detailing signs of genuine recovery and self-awareness in returning partners. It emphasizes the importance of authentic communication, vulnerability, and the willingness to face discomfort in rebuilding trust and relationships after a midlife bomb drop.
2025-12-0931 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Moment He Said 'Change the Locks': Intuition, Instability and Who To Call If You Feel Overwhelmed or SuicidalMidlife crises can be destabilizing, causing emotional turmoil and unexpected challenges. The podcast episode discusses the potential risks of severe midlife crises, including suicide and violence, and underscores the need for awareness and protection, especially if children express concerns. Through personal stories, the episode advocates for listening to instincts as they often reveal truths obscured by the crisis. It also offers guidance on seeking help and ensuring safety, emphasizing that vulnerability in such trying times is not weakness. The episode seeks to connect and support those affected, highlighting the importance of storytelling for mutual understanding and healing.
2025-12-0618 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Apology You'll Never Hear: Finding Gratitude in SilenceThis episode explores the emotional turmoil of experiencing an unanswered apology from a vanishing spouse, one who disappears amid a midlife crisis. Though difficult, the speaker encourages listeners to find gratitude in these moments, as the silence can highlight the emotional collapses their partners endure. It's not a lack of love or regret but an inability to face shame and accountability. Understanding this allows those left behind to reclaim their strength and self-worth, validating themselves without needing an apology. Their personal journey becomes one of growth, free from the shadows of their partner's collapse.
2025-11-3019 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondRising from the Ashes: Men's Stories of Betrayal and TriumphThis episode wraps up our Gratitude week as we shed light on the emotional turmoil men face during a midlife crisis and the hidden strength they harbor after being cheated on and betrayed by their wife. Highlighting stories of men like Colonel Sanders and Sylvester Stallone, it showcases that betrayal can often be a catalyst for creating empires and legacies. With examples from ordinary individuals who found new purpose through creative outlets and health-focused lives, the message is clear: a man's life story doesn't end with betrayal. It's a chance for reinvention and growth, proving that the next chapter can indeed be the best chapter.
2025-11-2915 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThanksgiving Gratitude: Celebrating Resilience and ReinventionThis episode of MLC Bomb Drop highlights the incredible resilience and transformation of women who have turned midlife crises into opportunities for reinvention. Featuring stories of trailblazers like Martha Stewart and Debbie Fields, as well as everyday women who have rebuilt their lives, this episode emphasizes gratitude for resilience and personal growth. It offers encouragement to those facing similar challenges, urging them to embrace new beginnings and celebrate their potential. Listeners are reminded that their hardships can lead to newfound strength and bravery, with gratitude being a powerful tool for healing and rebuilding.
2025-11-2814 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondGrace and Gratitude with Kenda-Ruth StumpfWelcome to our very first Thanksgiving Episode - all week we have been touching on reminders of all the wonderful things in our lives even at the darkest time of being dragged through MLC. There is still so much to be grateful for and in today's episode we speak with Kenda-Ruth Stumpf of MidLifeCrisisMarriageAdvocate.com who reminds us to look at this time as a time of transition, clarity and while our spouse struggles with finding their identity we have the opportunity to reinvent ourselves! We can once again pursue our passions often put aside during marriage and child-rearing. Kenda-Ruth says Crisis = Danger and OPPORTUNITY. So let's focus on opportunity, it's YOUR TIME now
2025-11-2727 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondStanding Strong: Gratitude Amidst the ChaosIn this podcast episode, the host encourages listeners to find gratitude despite being engulfed in chaos. Children, often the unseen heroes amidst midlife crisis fallout, deserve recognition for their resilience and strength. The episode emphasizes the power of holding onto truth and resisting the urge to rewrite one's history amid false accusations and narrative changes. It’s a celebration of surviving the psychological turmoil with integrity intact. The message serves as a reminder that even when faced with a circus of lies, staying true to reality can be a profound source of strength.
2025-11-2610 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondEvolving Through Struggle: Gratitude in AdversityCelebrating our Grateful Thanksgiving week today we focus on gratitude for the growth that comes from overcoming life's challenges. We reassure listeners that healing is unique to each individual, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging red flags and building a more secure future. We discuss pain as a catalyst for personal rebirth, highlighting the balance between embracing vulnerability and establishing new personal boundaries. Ultimately, it's a call to live authentically, anchoring oneself in reality rather than being swept into chaos.
2025-11-2510 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondGratitude for Truth: Even When It Breaks YouGratitude Week takes a bold turn as we dive into the difficult reality of midlife crises. Host Trina Laird leads a heartfelt discussion on appreciating steadfast truths, even when they upend lives. This episode explores the strength found in adversity, the courage of those who choose truth over convenience, and the resilience of children during familial disruptions. A message of hope is spread, promoting self-integrity and healing as formidable responses to crisis.
2025-11-2512 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondBreaking the Chains: Gratitude Forged in CrisisAs we launch Gratitude Week Trina disccusses the shifts from traditional Thanksgiving themes to appreciating clarity, resilience, and the support one receives from non-blood-related family members. This episode emphasizes understanding the generational patterns contributing to crises, highlighting the courage it takes to break these cycles. Listeners are encouraged to cherish the strength built in adversity and value the unyielding support system beyond traditional family lines.
2025-11-2315 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Beast Within: Midlife Crisis and the Inner VillainToday's episode highlights the internal struggle individuals face as they attempt to flee from their inner 'monsters,' projecting their fears and dissatisfaction onto those closest to them. With references to popular films and classic literature, this episode underscores a timeless narrative of humanity's battle with internal demons. Midlife Crisis isn't about your spouse escaping YOU, it's really about your spouse escaping THEMSELVES.
2025-11-1619 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondDeception Exposed: A Letter That Changed EverythingTrina hosts Nikki on the 'MLC Bomb Drop and Beyond' podcast, where they dive into the emotional depths of a midlife crisis fueled by infidelity. After a 26-year marriage built on partnership, Nikki's world turned upside down upon receiving an anonymous letter about her husband’s affair. Her story reflects on the unraveling of their relationship, the emotional fallout on her family, and her personal growth journey. Nikki’s experience underscores the hidden emotional battles behind midlife crises and highlights tenacity, healing, and the path to personal empowerment. Nikki is now becoming a coach specializing in helping others surthrive divo...
2025-11-1041 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondCursed Love: When the Midlife Crisis Turns SupernaturalThis episode explores the intersection of midlife crisis and supernatural beliefs, using the story of Mara, whose husband's betrayal led her to a spiritual journey. Despite doctors finding no explanation for her sudden physical symptoms, Mara felt she was cursed after her husband participated in a 'blessing' ceremony in Brazil. By engaging in a cleansing ritual, she reclaimed her peace and alleviated her symptoms. This narrative highlights how, in times of emotional turmoil, individuals may seek spiritual solutions for psychological distress, emphasizing the psychological impact of betrayal and the potential therapeutic role of rituals in finding closure.
2025-10-3121 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondFrom Love at First Sight to Sudden DepartureIn this emotional podcast episode, Karen shares her story of how a seemingly perfect marriage was upended by her husband's midlife crisis. From their meeting in 2001 to a sudden and unexplained departure in 2022, Karen details the impact of her husband's erratic behavior and questionable decisions. Despite moments of happiness, underlying issues such as unprocessed trauma and loss eventually surface, creating a tumultuous and painful journey for the family. Karen's narrative highlights the challenges faced by many spouses left behind in the wake of a partner's midlife crisis.
2025-10-2746 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondFrom Affair to Altar: Why Marriage during MLC Is A Mockery of MarriageIn this episode of 'Midlife Crisis: Bomb Drop and Beyond,' host Trina Laird delves into the unsettling reality of midlife crises, particularly the trend where individuals in crisis marry their affair partners. She provides an unfiltered look at how these courthouse weddings are less about love and more about justifying previous betrayals and running from loneliness. Through vivid descriptions of the tense atmosphere and emotional turmoil, listeners are made to see these weddings as performances rather than genuine unions, highlighting the distress and disruption left in their wake for everyone involved.
2025-10-2513 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWhispers of the Serpent: Affairs and Midlife CrisisThis episode explores how mlc pushes individuals into a realm of psychological and spiritual darkness, impacting families and communities significantly. The episode discusses the role of affair partners in exacerbating the crisis, offering what seems like freedom but ultimately adding to the destruction. By highlighting these issues, the podcast aims to shed light on the deeper emotional turmoil and provide support for the affected families, stressing the real and lasting impact of midlife crises on loved ones.
2025-10-2120 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondHow "Adjustment Disorder" Encompasses Midlife CrisisIn this episode our host aligns the MLC experience with Adjustment Disorder, a recognized condition in the DSM that responds to specific stressors and exhibits intense symptoms just like MLC. By framing the midlife crisis within this psychological context, it emphasizes the importance of early diagnosis and treatment to help individuals navigate personal upheavals and prevent long-term detrimental effects. The conversation pushes for redefining midlife crises as disorder progressions that legal and mental health frameworks should consider, helping save relationships and personal well-being.
2025-10-1634 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Dark Night of the Soul: Inside the Midlife Crisis TunnelThis episode describes the progression from destructive chaos to the silent, introspective 'tunnel' stage, where the affected party is physically present but emotionally distant. While the crisis-stricken individual battles an internal war, the podcast advises family members to focus on their own healing journey.
2025-10-1223 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMidlife Crisis: The Mental Disorder That SHOULD BE in the DSMIn this episode, the host traces the history of how the term 'midlife crisis' was coined in the 1960s by Canadian psychoanalyst Elliot Jacques. Before becoming part of popular vernacular, midlife crises were often misunderstood and mislabeled as 'second adolescence' or a 'nervous breakdown'. This episode explains how the term allowed for more dialogue and understanding around this developmental stage, while stressing the necessity for its inclusion in the DSM. The host calls for greater awareness and study, asserting that acknowledging this stage's psychological roots will provide better support for those affected.
2025-10-0827 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondKeith Urban and Nicole Kidman: Could it be a Midlife Crisis?This episode explores the unsettling reality of midlife crises, highlighted by rumors surrounding Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman's marriage. It discusses how a midlife crisis can lead to unexpected behavioral changes and relationship breakdowns, even in high-profile marriages. Listeners are reminded that they are not alone in experiencing such challenges, and resources are shared to help those navigating this turbulent life stage.
2025-10-0212 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Reality of Reactive Abuse: When Movies Mirror LifeThis episode uncovers the hidden layers of midlife crises, focusing on the devastating impact they have on families and relationships. It draws parallels with the psychological thriller 'The Girlfriend', explaining how it mirrors real-life experiences with its portrayal of sociopathy and manipulation. Through detailed analysis, the podcast addresses how these patterns manifest in midlife crises, urging listeners affected by these issues to reach out and share their stories to foster a communal sense of support and resilience. The message is clear: those facing these struggles are not alone, and their voices matter.
2025-09-2713 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMidLife Crisis and Gender Identity: Ruth's Story (part 2 of 2)This episode continues with Ruth's story as we dive deep into the emotional turmoil of experiencing a spouse's midlife crisis and gender transition. It sheds light on the psychological effects left behind on partners and families, focusing on issues like gaslighting and the feeling of widowhood without a death. Through the personal testimony of a left-behind spouse, listeners gain insight into coping with the drastic changes and loss, while uncovering the importance of support systems for healing. It explores the journey of rediscovering one's identity and the power of shared experiences in overcoming such challenging life transitions.
2025-09-2146 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMidlife Crisis and Gender Identity: Ruth's Story (part 1 of 2)In our Season 2 Premiere we are introduced to Ruth, a wife navigating the emotional complexities of her husband's unexpected transition into a woman. Amidst their 13-year marriage, Ruth was blindsided by this revelation and found herself grappling with not just marital breakdown, but a dramatic transformation that left her questioning what else in their past had gone unsaid. With three teenagers in the mix, Ruthie shares her attempts to support her spouse while managing feelings of betrayal and confusion as she was told to adapt or leave.
2025-09-2047 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondAging or Ailment? Discerning the Differences Between MLC and FTDIn this episode of 'MLC Bomb Drop and Beyond,' the discussion delves into the perplexing world of midlife crises and their uncanny resemblance to frontotemporal dementia (FTD). The host highlights the emotional turmoil experienced by families and draws parallels between these conditions, using Bruce Willis's diagnosis as a reference point. Listeners are urged to reconsider judgments about erratic midlife behavior and remain vigilant for underlying neurological causes. The episode emphasizes the importance of medical testing over therapy when red flags appear, and stresses leveraging community support and expert resources to navigate these life-altering challenges.
2025-08-3119 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondDecoding Dreams: What Do They Really Mean?This episode focuses on the intersection of midlife crises, dreams, and unresolved emotional trauma. Sharing her dream analysis, the host highlights the symbolic representation of her marital issues through her pet's imagined escape, aligning it with her husband's affair. The discussion extends to the recurring nightmares experienced by her friend's ex-boyfriend, drawing connections to the childhood trauma of living in a volatile family environment. The conversation emphasizes recognizing red flags in relationships and understanding family patterns to preempt potentially traumatic life events, advocating for introspection and healing in personal growth journeys.
2025-08-3029 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWhen Worlds Collide: Midlife Crisis Meets Mental BreakdownThis podcast episode of MLC Bomb Drop and Beyond delves into the complexities of midlife crises, exploring how these struggles lead people to question their identities and make impulsive decisions. It draws parallels between the hidden lives of serial killers, narcissists, and those experiencing a midlife crisis, emphasizing the concept of compartmentalization. The discussion also touches upon the emotional, financial, and social harms caused by these crises. Despite not being classified as mental illnesses, these experiences have real consequences for sufferers and their families. Why is there no real treatment? Listen today and you'll hear why.
2025-08-2430 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondInside the Homewrecker Playbook: The Five Types, Red Flags and Alienation of AffectionIn this episdode, listeners are introduced to the 'Affair Partner Playbook,' breaking down five distinct types of partners who entangle themselves in someone's midlife crisis - and with most MLC'rs looking to be someone's hero, these two go hand in hand! The Host also discusses Alienation of Affection and lists the six states which still allow a betrayed spouse to file a lawsuit in court holding the homewrecker financially liable.
2025-08-1918 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondExposing the Affair Partner Playbook: Lies & GaslightingIn this podcast episode, host Trina Laird dives into the psychological and emotional complexities of midlife crises and affairs. Through breaking down real texts from affair partners to the betrayed spouses, listeners gain insights into tactics like gaslighting and manipulation. The discussion emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags and cutting off these toxic interactions to reclaim personal power. Trina also highlights resources for those affected who seek healing and understanding as they navigate through the chaos and emotional devastation left behind by a spouse's midlife crisis and infidelity.
2025-08-1930 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWhen Her Crisis Became Their Catastrophe: Liam's StoryLiam shares his startling journey through a midlife crisis that hit his family unexpectedly after two decades together. His wife's sudden emotional and physical disconnection, later revealed as an affair with her boss, took a significant toll on Liam and their children. The episode delves into how subtle changes over several years culminated in a 'Bomb Drop' upon their return from a family cruise. Liam has learned a lot about MLC, reminds us to be grateful for the wonderful years with our spouses before they turned into someone we don't remotely recognize. It's very possible their best selves were...
2025-08-1041 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondBeth's Story: When the Perfect Husband Suffers MidLife CrisisIn this episode, we hear from Beth, who reveals the unraveling of her marriage due to her husband's midlife crisis. Their life appeared perfect until signs of dissatisfaction emerged after becoming empty nesters. Her husband retreated into a world of triathlons and distance, distancing himself further when he left for Asia. This absence brought a stunning revelation: he was having an affair with a younger colleague. Beth recounts the shock, denial, and eventual confrontation, shedding light on the personal toll of a midlife crisis and the recovery journey she has embarked upon.
2025-07-281h 18Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondUnveiling the Godwink in Everyday Life (Silent Resentment part 2 of 2 with Jenny)In this episode we continue with Jenny as she describes miraculous encounters with Chris Stapleton's song 'Starting Over'. With host Trina Laird, they explore how serendipitous moments can serve as spiritual milestones. Jenny's journey highlights the struggle of longing for reconciliation with a distant spouse amidst the trials of everyday life. Listeners are encouraged to recognize these 'Godwinks,' or divine nudges, as opportunities for renewal and hope.
2025-07-2632 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondSilent Resentment: How Avoiding Conflict May Actually Fuel a MidLife Crisis (part 1 of 2)Today's conversation sheds light on the underlying feelings of unappreciation and control that may remain hidden for years. Todays guest has been standing for FIVE long years, she emphasizes the importance of addressing silent resentments to prevent emotional explosions that manifest as sudden erratic behaviors such as having an affair or quitting a job. As seen through Jenny's story, individuals who ignore confrontation often face a crisis in their identity, leading to drastic decisions in an attempt to reclaim power and purpose. Join us as Jenny shares what she learned and how it's making a positive impact as her...
2025-07-231h 08Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondKiss Cam Karma: When Infidelity Goes Viral and The World Sides with the BetrayedIn this episode of MLC Bomb Drop, the host delves into a scandal that went viral involving a CEO caught on a kiss cam with his HR manager. This public betrayal sent shockwaves through social media, revealing not just issues of infidelity but the broader implications of power imbalances and ethical breaches. The discussion highlights how public and professional reactions have shifted, with overwhelming support for the betrayed spouse. The episode underscores the lasting impact of infidelity on families and careers, urging listeners to speak openly about betrayal and affirming that they are not alone in their experiences.
2025-07-2113 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondShark Eyes and Emotional Disconnect: A Deep Dive into Midlife CrisisIn this captivating episode, listeners are invited to understand the impact of midlife crises on relationships, marked by the phenomenon of 'Shark Eyes.' Trina Laird reveals how this condition signifies emotional detachment and a survival mechanism for those undergoing crisis. She warns of the potential escalation into false accusations and legal battles, urging spouses to prioritize their mental well-being. Through real-life stories and statistics, the episode underscores the prevalence of manipulative behavior during such crises, providing a supportive message that reassures listeners they are not alone in their experiences.
2025-07-1816 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMake Your Relationship FAIL In Order To Succeed with IAT Coach Bryan PowerIn this episode, host Trina Laird interviews Bryan Power, an Integrated Attachment Theory coach, as he recounts a tumultuous period in his marriage. What started as a simple disagreement spiraled into an emotional journey revealing deep-seated childhood traumas. Bryan discusses how therapy sessions, intended for self-improvement, opened a Pandora's box of emotions, leading to fears of abandonment and insecurity. By embracing failure as an essential step towards success, Bryan rediscovered emotional resilience and commitment to his son. This episode emphasizes the power of attachment theory in understanding and healing relational dynamics and reminds listeners to embrace FAILURE as the...
2025-07-1658 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWitness to the Wreckage: A Sister's Love and Support After BetrayalSpecial guest Zoe shares her experience witnessing her twin sister Stacy's husband transform seemingly overnight, shattering years of relationships and stability. Listeners learn about the intense emotions, from disbelief to anger, as loved ones grapple with the altered reality. This episode sheds light on the unanticipated destruction midlife crises cause, emphasizing the importance of support systems and community in rebuilding lives left in disarray after such personal upheaval.
2025-07-1145 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondSarah Discovers MLC is Not a Myth But a Psychological Time Bomb That Shatters Her WorldSarah recounts her emotional journey through her husband's midlife crisis, which uprooted their nearly 29-year marriage. Already a firefighter with post-traumatic stress from past events, her husband faced an identity crisis after retiring. His friendship with a young woman raised alarms, leading to heated confrontations and accusations. A series of personal tragedies, including the loss of his mother and a close friend, added emotional turmoil. Friends and family noted his behavior was far from normal, leaving Sarah grappling with their relationship's sudden transformation. This narrative exposes the complexities and emotional struggles faced during a midlife crisis.
2025-07-081h 33Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondNeuroception: Your Body's Unseen Threat DetectorOften in MLC the person experiencing the MLC exhibits narcissistic traits, even if they never exhibited them before! Listeners often ask if their spouse has been a covert narc or narcissist all along, or is this just a temporary thing? Today's discussion covers how subtle cues, often misread by the conscious mind, can alert us to shadow personalities such as covert narcissists and sociopaths. Listeners are encouraged to trust their gut instincts and recognize these warning signs as a powerful form of self-protection.
2025-07-0325 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Discard of the AP is often worse than the Bomb Drop!This episode dives into the psychological turmoil experienced during a midlife crisis, emphasizing how affairs, often seen as an escape, end up causing further damage. The host discusses how the initial euphoria of leaving a spouse for an affair partner quickly turns into regret, resentment and contempt for the AP, ultimately leading to the dissolution of the new relationship. Listeners learn that midlife crises are not just damaging to the individuals but also to their families and relationships. The podcast serves as a reminder that running from internal emptiness through impulsive decisions rarely provides the desired fulfillment.
2025-07-0114 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWork on Yourself? How about...RISE UP! In this episode of 'Midlife Crisis, Bomb Drop and Beyond,' host Trina Laird delves into the emotional turmoil left in the aftermath of a partner's midlife crisis. Emphasizing the power of language, the discussion shifts from the often patronizing advice to 'work on yourself' to a more empowering narrative. Listeners are encouraged to reclaim their power, heal on their own terms, and view their journey as one of rising and rebuilding. The podcast aims to validate the experience of those affected by midlife crisis, offering a supportive community and a message of hope and empowerment.
2025-06-2717 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondAn Apology from one LBS Husband on behalf of all men to the Discarded Wives in Pain EverywhereThis short little episode today is packed full with HEART, EMPATHY AND LOVE - something most wives DO NOT GET at bomb drop, nor do husbands when their wives drop a bomb on them! Today Trina reads a letter from a husband who experienced sudden discard by his wife of 22 years, but as heart broken, emotionally and financially devastated HE is...he took the time to write in because it broke his heart to hear some of the stories by the women on this show. He gets it. He lived it too. He feels their pain, just like we...
2025-06-2512 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondNavigating the Aftermath: A Midlife Crisis Explored, Three Listener StoriesListener Brian shares his heart-wrenching experience of his wife’s midlife-induced infidelity, unraveling a stable family life. Married for over two decades, with three children, the unexpected affair led to a cascade of financial and emotional challenges. Brian's narrative highlights the consequential disruption to their children's education and the psychological toll on the entire family as they struggle to navigate a changed reality. By spotlighting personal accounts, this episode underscores the pervasive impact of such crises, aiming to foster community support, provide insight into psychological ramifications, and offer avenues for emotional recovery and understanding.
2025-06-2334 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondSurviving Cancer and Infidelity: Maggie's StoryMaggie's life turned upside down when her husband of 33 years revealed an affair, compounded by Maggie's diagnosis of stage three breast cancer. Her husband's request to open their marriage, juxtaposed with her urgent fight for survival, left Maggie grappling with betrayal, body image issues, and the unraveling of past identities. Fighting through this storm, she faced treatments alone, reflecting on forgiveness and personal growth. Despite immense challenges, including her husband’s indifference and absence during her medical battles, Maggie's resolve to persevere illustrates her powerful journey through pain towards self-discovery and inner strength.
2025-06-181h 06Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondFather's Day THANK YOU to the Dad Who StayedThis episode flips the script! NOT ALL MEN RUN! Some stay. Some fight. THEY RISE! This Father's Day we honor those dads, the dads holding the line while your wife spirals out - YOU are the hero of this story!
2025-06-1511 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMeet Joe Dillon, Co-Founder of Equitable Mediation ServicesMr. Joe Dillon is a pioneer in divorce mediation with an MBA in Finance and specialized training from Harvard, MIT and Northwestern Univeristy. Joe guides couples toward agreements that protect both their emotional well-being and financial futures. Equitable Mediation Services maintains a 98% case resolution rate, significantly higher than the industry average of 70%. With Dillon's guidance and expertise, couples CAN part ways amicably while protecting what matters most.
2025-06-141h 09Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondFather's Who Vanish: Cowardice Disguised as CrisisUnpacking the impact of midlife crisis on fatherhood and families. As we approach Father's Day, while many celebrate, others are left with questions, grief, silence. Today we talk about the father's who DIDN'T stay, and what it means for the children, the partners, and even the men themselves.
2025-06-1317 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondBomb Drop on their 25th Wedding AnniversaryIn this heartfelt podcast episode, we delve into Kevin's personal account of his wife's sudden departure during a midlife crisis. Kevin shares how his wife initially kept her emotional struggles hidden, which were exacerbated by the collapse of her business during COVID-19. Faced with financial woes and a diminished social circle, Kevin's wife abruptly left their family home, citing the need for space and self-discovery. This conversation details the impact on their 25th wedding anniversary plans, and how the couple's children are dealing with the aftermath of their mother's life-changing decision. Kevin also shares what helped him navigate this...
2025-06-1046 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondRare Opportunity to Speak Directly with a WIFE in MLCIn this podcast episode, your host Trina converses with Melissa, a woman experiencing a midlife crisis. At 39, Melissa recounts mistaking her feelings for another bout of clinical depression. She describes the restlessness, irritability, and lack of motivation that consumed her life, propelling her to question her identity and long-term commitments. Her story reveals the turmoil behind what many see as a stereotype, highlighting the emotional challenges faced not just by individuals but their families too. Melissa's narrative sheds light on the complexity of midlife crises, as well as the search for healing and self-discovery.
2025-06-0747 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondUnveiling Stacy's Story: When Love Meets CrisisStacy shares her personal journey through the tumult of a midlife crisis in her marriage. After 23 years together, raising two children, facing financial and emotional upheavals, and enduring natural disasters, Stacy's life takes a dramatic turn. Her husband begins exhibiting strange behaviors, leading to suspicions of infidelity. Despite a once stable life marked by shared values and family focus, Stacy's world unravels when her husband's midlife crisis pushes him toward questionable decisions. This podcast episode delves into the emotional aftermath, highlighting the profound impact of a midlife crisis not only on the individual but on the family unit as a...
2025-06-061h 13Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondPower, Control and the Diddy Effect: Coercive Control and its effects on one's healthThe recent footage and allegations against music mogul Sean "Diddy" Combs has hit a nerve for so many survivors. In this episode we'll touch on coercive control, how it hides in plain sight and the devastating effects it has on one's health. The correlation between emotional abuse and auto immune diseases is frighteningly high. Medical journals have found that people with stress-related disorders such as PTSD, or complex PTSD, are 30-50% more likely to develop autoimmune diseases such as lupus, MS, rheumatoid arthritis or Hashimoto's. Coercive control doesn't always leave a bruise, but it ALWAYS leaves a SCAR.
2025-06-0223 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondBecoming YOU - 3 questions for the MLC'erToday I'm speaking to those men and women battling the brain fog of mid life crisis. We know you're in pain, we know you feel guilt, shame, fear. Join us today as we have three questions for you to think about in an effort to help you move forward in this crisis, with grace and determination to become the YOU that you truly want to be.
2025-06-0114 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMemorial Day Mindfulness: Embrace Peace Amidst ChaosIn this episode of 'MLC, Bomb Drop and Beyond,' host Trina explores the emotional turmoil of a midlife crisis, focusing on how such struggles often disrupt holidays. Trina offers practical advice for divorced or divorcing parents on how to gracefully navigate graduations, ensuring they're about the child, not adult conflicts. Acknowledging the complex challenges of sharing life events with a narcissistic or midlife-crisis-impacted ex-spouse, she emphasizes the importance of personal boundaries and creating new traditions. With Memorial Day approaching, Trina also reminds us to honor the true spirit of the holiday, focusing on peace and remembrance.
2025-05-2311 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondThe Affair Partner: From Fantasy to NightmareThis podcast episode delves into the psychological turmoil experienced during a midlife crisis, focusing on why individuals often choose affair partners who seem to be a 'downgrade.' The show explores the role of Cluster B personality traits in these relationships, revealing the destructive patterns of fantasy and mutual exploitation. It discusses why midlife crisis individuals, or MLCers, feel validated by these partners and how the temporary intoxication of these affairs leads to lasting consequences. The episode empowers listeners to see past the betrayal and highlights the opportunity for personal rebirth and growth.
2025-05-1918 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMLC Playbook EXPOSED!This podcast episode explores the complexities of a midlife crisis, a psychological struggle often mistaken for mere stereotype. It delves into the subtle beginnings of a midlife crisis, revealing how it starts up to three years before any major upheaval. Listeners are reminded of the silent unraveling process, characterized by irritability, emotional distancing, and shifts in identity. By understanding these early signs, individuals can better navigate the emotional and relational challenges. The discussion sheds light on personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of healing, accountability, and understanding for those left in the aftermath of a midlife crisis.
2025-05-1922 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMidlife Crisis Unveiled: A Guide for PartnersMidlife crisis is a profound psychological struggle often emerging between the ages of 40 and 60, marked by an identity crisis, impulsive decisions, and reevaluation of life roles. Women generally experience a five-stage process where they transition from feelings of discontent to eventual healing and acceptance. Men, on the other hand, often undergo an identity collapse driven by aging and unmet expectations, leading to impulsive actions like affairs or career changes. Although not officially recognized as a mental illness, the emotional turmoil significantly impacts spouses and families, prompting the necessity for understanding, emotional support, and sometimes professional intervention.
2025-05-1731 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondCelebrate Resilience This Mother's DayThis episode of 'Midlife Crisis Bomb Drop and Beyond' is dedicated to mothers who feel overlooked or replaced, especially amidst midlife crises. It acknowledges the strength of women who hold their families together through hardship, emphasizing their resilience as they redefine womanhood. The host encourages mothers to embrace their value and offers a heartfelt message of affirmation. Lisa Terkeurst’s message on bravery inspires listeners to face fear with action, reminding them that true courage comes from rising despite challenges. Listeners are urged to celebrate Mother's Day by recognizing their strength and enjoying self-love and joy.
2025-05-1110 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondAfter the Bomb: One Wife's Story of Betrayal and StrengthIn this gripping podcast episode, Janie reveals the devastating impact of her husband Bob's affair, which surfaced after nearly two decades of marriage. Despite the outward appearance of a loving relationship, red flags emerged when his behavior shifted following a trip with friends. Janie discovered the affair through phone records and faced emotional turmoil as Bob's drinking spiraled out of control. Her story unfolds as a betrayal involving a familiar acquaintance, and the emotional fallout affects not just Janie, but their entire social circle. Throughout the turmoil, Janie's resilience and strength shine through as she navigates the unpredictable landscape...
2025-05-091h 16Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondInspiring Pastoral Counselor Jenny Miller Discusses Attachment Styles in MLCIn this compelling podcast episode, your host invites inspiring pastoral counselor Jenny Miller to discuss the profound effects of a midlife crisis (MLC). Jenny shares her journey as a spouse blindsided by her partner's MLC which led her to focus even moreso on betrayal trauma. This episode delves into the psychological aspects of MLC, highlighting the prevalent attachment styles—avoidant and anxious—and their impact on relationships. Jenny unlocks her professional knowledge offering insights into how individuals can navigate these tumultuous times and how to find therapists that can truly offer guidance, support and understanding of this particular type of t...
2025-05-0749 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWife Battles MS all alone while Husband Remarries during MLCToday's guest shares her story of a husband who left during MLC, peeked out of the tunnel for a moment but went back in, married his affair partner and now has a child with her. Is he trapped? It sure feels like it. Today's guest is brave, humorous and continues to see the glass half full. She's a strong woman and here's her story.
2025-05-0452 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMeet the fascinating Laurie McDermott, CEO of TheWifeExpert.comYes, Laurie is a victim of Bomb Drop also! Hear what she learned to help her reconcile with her husband and launch a completely new career. From a comedian to now an award winning columnist and host of The Wife Expert on YouTube, and about to launch any day...the new WifeExpert APP for advice and support on the go, wherever you go!
2025-05-011h 02Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondNavigating Betrayal and Flying MonkeysThis podcast episode sheds light on the tumultuous experience of a midlife crisis, often overlooked as mere cliché. It delves into the role of 'flying monkeys,' or enablers, who support narcissistic behaviors and false narratives during personal upheavals like divorce. The host explores cognitive dissonance and why individuals may align with these destabilizing storylines. Additionally, the discussion touches on the devastating emotional impact of betrayal and how these narratives can isolate and harm true victims. With practical advice on identifying and protecting against these influences, the episode emphasizes resilience and reclaiming personal truth.
2025-04-2619 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondUnmasking the Midlife Crisis: A Covert Narcissist StoryWhat's it like when a covert narcissist ends up experiencing mid life crisis? In a nutshell, they still do the typical MLC behavior, discard, rewriting history, smear campaigns of their former partner, but do they emerge a happier, healthier person? Or do they continue with another version of a mask? Find out today as we discuss covert narcissism and how it faces MLC.
2025-04-1927 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondForward Moving Spouse Finds New LoveIn this podcast episode, the host discusses the often underestimated severity of a midlife crisis (MLC), likening its symptoms to depression and identity crises. The episode features Jane, who recounts her marriage unraveling after 29 years due to her husband's affair with her best friend. Despite the betrayal and the restrictions of the COVID lockdown, which severely limited avenues for counseling and healing, Jane manages to find happiness and rebuild her life. The story highlights the psychological impacts of MLC, the repercussions of emotional upheaval, and the path to resilience and recovery.
2025-04-0240 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondContinue with KENDA-RUTH STUMPF, Founder of The Hero's Spouse (part 2 of 2)Join us for PART TWO with Kenda-Ruth Stumpf! Please see below for links: Free ResourcesUnderstanding Midlife CrisisFree Online Video CourseQuiz: How Can I Tell if my Spouse is Having a Midlife Crisis?The Hero’s Spouse ForumThe Hero’s Spouse Private Facebook GroupMLC Q&A on Facebook and YouTubeSubmit a Question! I stream pre-recorded responses up to 3X a week.The Hero’s Spouse WebsiteArticles about MLC, Infidelity, Dealing with your MLCer, Healing, Mirror-Work, Forigiveness…The Blog, LoveAnywayMore ArticlesPaid ResourcesStand Up & THRIVE!Paid Membership for Forward Moving Spouses – Support Group which includes the online video...
2025-03-2844 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMeet KENDA-RUTH STUMPF, Founder of The Hero's Spouse (part 1 of 2)Kenda-Ruth survived her husband’s Midlife Crisis—and so did he! She started The Hero’s Spouse website, forum and Private Facebook Group and together they eventually went on to adopt 5 children from foster care, creating a blessedly chaotic life! Kenda-Ruth supports education about Midlife Crisis in marriage and helps guide Forward Moving Spouses through the pain and trauma of betrayal. Her support groups are created as safe spaces for Standers—men and women who are hoping to save their marriages. The Hero’s Spouse offers a variety of resources to offer guidance and support as you are dealing with the pain a...
2025-03-251h 20Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondPART TWO Husband Emerging from 8 years in MLCOur story continues with part two as our guest shares a story he wrote for his wife, trying to explain what happened. Feeling like he was living a tug of war with his brain, he felt guilt but was completely unable to stop his secret life. He talks of being psychologically manipulated and how that's exactly what led to the end of that emotional affair. As our dear guest emerges from the tunnel he doesn't recall everything, but does recall enough to know that he hurt the woman he loved most of all. He is now more self-aware and...
2025-03-1441 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondRare Opportunity to Speak Directly with a Husband in MLCIn this podcast episode, John shares his personal experience with a midlife crisis that began in 2017. As he approached retirement, a loss of purpose led him into an online emotional affair, which acted as an addiction. Despite being married for over 40 years, John found himself entangled in a web of guilt and deceit. His online relationship escalated to include purchasing a house with his new partner, further complicating his life and leading to significant personal and legal challenges. John's story provides a raw, inside perspective on the psychological turmoil of a midlife crisis.
2025-03-1251 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondWhen Love Faces Midlife: A Story of TransformationsIn this gripping episode, a woman recounts her 38-year marriage and the unexpected turmoil introduced by her husband's midlife crisis. Initially drawn to his emotional stability, she later realized his avoidant tendencies during conflicts. Her husband's desire to sell their beloved home marked the beginning of a series of life-altering 'bomb drops.' As her partner embarked on a path to rediscover youth and autonomy, she found solace in understanding the signs of midlife crisis. Establishing a support network, she set out on her personal journey of healing and growth, transforming blame into enlightenment and resilience.
2025-03-0732 minMid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMidlife Crisis: The Hidden EpidemicIn this episode, John Doe shares his heart-wrenching experience as a left-behind spouse after his wife's midlife crisis. Despite being unaware of her internal turmoil, John found himself thrust into a world of chaos, facing divorce, financial ruin, and emotional distress. With his daughters caught in the crossfire, John narrates a journey filled with unexpected challenges. Through persistence and support from unexpected allies, he found solace in understanding the pattern behind his wife's erratic behavior, shedding light on what many dismiss as a mere phase.
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Mid Life Crisis: Bomb Drop and BeyondMidlife Crisis: More Than Just a New CarThe debut episode of this podcast seeks to shed light on the pervasive issue of midlife crises, emphasizing that their influence can be far-reaching and destructive. Contrary to the cliché of middle-aged indulgence in expensive sports cars, these crises can tear families apart both financially and emotionall. By inviting others to join the conversation, the podcast aims to cultivate a broader understanding and bring attention to the widespread and generational impacts of midlife crises.
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