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The Art of Approach Podcast#27 - Dr. Mike Strand on psychology, relationship insecurities, IFSToday's guest is Dr. Mike Strand, an established psychologist with a private practice here in Austin. We're excited about this one.
Find out more about Mike:
connectedcounselingwellness.com
In this episode, we discuss a trending Instagram reel, answer a question from Reddit, and explore the topic of trust in relationships.
We then go deep with Mike, who shares insights on dating, relationships, and internal family systems. The conversation covers topics such as gender differences in attraction, the importance of trust in relationships...2024-07-241h 43The Art of Approach Podcast#26 - Cory Smith on dating in the gay community, consent, clear communicationWelcome back to the show! Today our guest is Cory Smith, a business coach and socializing teacher here in Austin.
Find out more about Cory and his work: coryjsmith.com
In this episode of the podcast, we discuss various topics related to conversation, listening, consent, and rejection.
We explore the importance of proximity and touch in gauging interest, as well as the need to approach interactions without expectations.
We also address the question of how to ask for consent without breaking the mood, emphasizing the...2024-07-021h 37The Art of Approach Podcast#25 - Glaucia Stanganelli on fashion and self expression, how money plays a role in datingWelcome! This week we have an incredible guest, Glaucia Stanganelli. Find more about her:
www.glauciastanganelli.com/
@glaucia_stanganelli or @artbyglaucia on Instagram
In this episode of the Art of Approach podcast, we discuss the role of fashion in dating and relationships with Glaucia. We emphasize the importance of expressing oneself through clothing and style, as it can give a person an edge in the dating market. We also explore the concept of creativity in fashion and how it can be a signal of a person's willingness to invest in...2024-06-251h 19The Art of Approach Podcast#24 - Why women can't find attractive men, building a network of friendsWe're back! After a few weeks off we're back with some great guests in the coming weeks.
Today we discuss the challenges women face in finding attractive men and why some women aren't being approached. We explore the concept of proximity attraction and how it affects dating dynamics. We also share personal experiences and insights on approaching women and the importance of authenticity. The episode concludes with a discussion on the experimental mindset of approaching and the different approaches that work for different individuals.
We then discuss our different approaches to dating...2024-06-171h 04The Art of Approach Podcast#23 - Vielka Kano on intimacy misconceptions and improving long-term relationshipsWelcome back! This week we are joined by Vielka Kano who is an AASECT certified sex therapist here in Austin. You can find out more about her and her work at vielkakano.com.
In this podcast episode, Vielka shares her insights into the field of sex therapy and the critical importance of sexual education. She discusses the widespread misconceptions and challenges people face regarding their sexual desires and needs, emphasizing the need for self-love, safety, and open communication in maintaining healthy sexual relationships.
Vielka explores the concept of polarity and how it...2024-05-1453 minThe Art of Approach Podcast#22 - Erik Landry on the power of the voice, building physiological confidence, the approach mindsetFind out about Erik Landry:
Instagram: @vocodojo
Work with him: vocodojo.com
In this podcast episode, we delve into the dynamics of relationships and the intricacies of communication between men and women. We emphasize the importance of understanding and being understood, highlighting the need for clear and open communication to avoid covert manipulation and ensure balanced interactions. We discuss the power of authenticity and the interplay of active and passive roles in building meaningful connections.
We also explore the concept of pseudo-rejection and its potential to cause misunderstandings, stressing the...2024-05-101h 47The Art of Approach Podcast#21 - Matt Ng on being a nice guy, approaching as a vehicle for personal growth, being direct vs indirectToday we are joined by Matt Ng. Matt is an approach coach here in Austin, TX. You can find out more about Matt at @mattapproachcoach on Instagram.
In this podcast episode, we explore various facets of dating and personal growth, focusing on the concept of the 'nice guy syndrome' and its impact. We discuss how being overly accommodating and passive, often seen as 'nice guy' behavior, stems from insecurities and a lack of self-worth.
The conversation also covers the need to embrace more assertive masculine qualities and the importance of facing fears...2024-05-011h 17The Art of Approach Podcast#20 - Meeting 'organically', what's wrong with mainstream dating advice, oversharing early onHey all. The audio on this episode is a little rough but there's lots of good stuff regardless. Listen through to the end!
In this episode we cover various topics related to dating and meeting new people, discussing the challenges of gaining attention and the importance of authenticity. We debate the fine line between oversharing and being too reserved. Our conversation also touches on maintaining an abundance mindset and accepting one's current state in the dating journey. We share advice on approaching women and emphasize the importance of vulnerability in building connections.
...2024-04-2957 minThe Art of Approach Podcast#19 - Jealousy, easy wardrobe adjustments, defining self-worthIn this episode of the Art of Approach podcast, we explore the transformative power of fashion in men's wardrobes, emphasizing the impact of a white button-up shirt and stylish shoes. We delve into the importance of self-care and expressing individuality through clothing. Our discussion also covers meeting women in real life versus using dating apps, advocating for a balanced approach. We stress the importance of safety, genuine intentions, and respect in interactions, while addressing issues like false accusations and the need for clear communication in relationships.
The conversation touches on taking responsibility for one's emotions, avoiding blame, and managing jealousy...2024-04-201h 09The Art of Approach Podcast#18 - Dalton Daniel on personal development through approaching and datingThis episode we are joined by Dalton Daniel, a podcaster and good friend of ours. You can find 'Don't think. Breathe' on major podcasting platforms and on Instagram @donthink.breath.
In our conversation, we discuss approaching women in public, emphasizing understanding their interest and mindset. We cover the importance of genuine interest versus neediness, sharing insights from personal experiences to highlight respect and intention. We also stress appreciating every woman's beauty genuinely and approaching with authenticity.
We explore dealing with rejection, emphasizing genuineness, understanding rejection's impact, and resilience strategies. We highlight the...2024-04-081h 31The Art of Approach Podcast#18 - Dalton Daniel on personal development through approaching and datingThis episode we are joined by Dalton Daniel, a podcaster and good friend of ours. You can find 'Don't think. Breathe' on major podcasting platforms and on Instagram @donthink.breath.
In our conversation, we discuss approaching women in public, emphasizing understanding their interest and mindset. We cover the importance of genuine interest versus neediness, sharing insights from personal experiences to highlight respect and intention. We also stress appreciating every woman's beauty genuinely and approaching with authenticity.
We explore dealing with rejection, emphasizing genuineness, understanding rejection's impact, and resilience strategies. We highlight the...2024-04-081h 31The Art of Approach Podcast#18 - Dalton Daniel on personal development through approaching and datingThis episode we are joined by Dalton Daniel, a podcaster and good friend of ours. You can find 'Don't think. Breathe' on major podcasting platforms and on Instagram @donthink.breath.
In our conversation, we discuss approaching women in public, emphasizing understanding their interest and mindset. We cover the importance of genuine interest versus neediness, sharing insights from personal experiences to highlight respect and intention. We also stress appreciating every woman's beauty genuinely and approaching with authenticity.
We explore dealing with rejection, emphasizing genuineness, understanding rejection's impact, and resilience strategies. We highlight the...2024-04-071h 20The Art of Approach Podcast#17 - Creating mystery, having female friends, surrendering to intense emotionIn this episode, we discuss various aspects of dating and the nuances of approaching women, underlining the crucial role of maintaining mystery and self-validation to keep the attraction alive. We talk about overcoming approach anxiety by advocating for incremental steps towards building self-confidence and the profound importance of engaging with and understanding our emotions, particularly in social settings. Emphasizing the significant benefits of having female friends, we explore how their insights can refine our dating strategies and help us understand the dating scene from a different perspective.
Additionally, we touch upon the necessity of...2024-04-011h 12
Don't Think. Breathe.EP 41 | William Mulvaney | Dating, Fitness & AuthenticityIn this episode I am joined by William Mulvaney! Will is a dating and approach coach here in Austin, Texas. He is the co-host of The Art of Approach Podcast (a podcast where Will and Timothy Bray give dating and relationship advice to help improve men's dating lives, relationships and overall help build self-esteem and confidence for men.) as well as the meetup group called Dumping Dating Apps (a dating and approach group where Will & Tim support well-intentioned people in approaching potential love interests to get more dates, build relationships, and confidence. You can find Will, @willpower...2024-04-011h 43The Art of Approach Podcast#17 - Creating mystery, having female friends, surrendering to intense emotionIn this episode, we discuss various aspects of dating and the nuances of approaching women, underlining the crucial role of maintaining mystery and self-validation to keep the attraction alive. We talk about overcoming approach anxiety by advocating for incremental steps towards building self-confidence and the profound importance of engaging with and understanding our emotions, particularly in social settings. Emphasizing the significant benefits of having female friends, we explore how their insights can refine our dating strategies and help us understand the dating scene from a different perspective.
Additionally, we touch upon the necessity of...2024-03-311h 13The Art of Approach Podcast#16 - Following emotion vs logic in dating, authentic expression, self-growth through your approaching journeyIn this episode, we discuss how qualities like emotional expression, authenticity, and leadership, often seen in musicians, can make one more attractive in dating. We emphasize the importance of connecting emotionally, being genuine, and showing vulnerability to forge authentic bonds. We highlight confidence, self-love, and the mindset of viewing dating as a path to personal growth and abundance. The conversation covers psychic sexual communication, the significance of body language, setting intentions, and the necessity of a supportive network. Ultimately, we conclude that embracing authenticity, pursuing self-improvement, and maintaining a positive mindset are key to building confidence and attracting meaningful...2024-03-251h 08The Art of Approach Podcast#15 - Bill Furlong on communicating attraction silently, the power of eye contact and setting up the opportunity for women to chase you.Bill Furlong's Artwork & Photos:
www.billfurlong.com
Insta: @furlongartwork @furlongphotos
In our conversation, we delved into diverse dating topics, from rejection to personal growth. Key themes emerged, highlighting the value of genuine intentions, vulnerability, and empathy. We explored psychic sexual communication and the significance of eye contact in forging connections. Tips were shared on coping with rejection, advocating self-love, recognizing misalignment, and shifting focus away from oneself. The discussion extended to how dating experiences influence other aspects of life, notably career paths. Will shared insights into how his interactions with...2024-03-191h 06The Art of Approach Podcast#14 - Approaching groups, group interactions, planning fun and exciting datesIn this episode, we explore diverse approaches to dating, covering topics such as reviewing an Instagram reel, responding to a Reddit question, and providing insights on approaching a girl surrounded by friends. Emphasizing the crucial role of authenticity and confidence in social interactions, we share tips on navigating various situations. Our key message underscores the importance of having the courage to initiate connections and staying true to oneself when pursuing someone of interest. Discussing aspects like approaching with confidence, avoiding burnout, being selective, and the benefits of compliments, we also explore group approaches and stress the necessity of having...2024-03-031h 01The Art of Approach Podcast#13 - Approaching someone at work, making dates memorable, the important of the first textIn this episode, we explore various facets of dating and attraction, delving into the notion that attraction is not a choice and emphasizing the importance of authenticity. Our discussion covers topics such as dating multiple people, self-improvement in attracting a partner, and the significance of having a clear vision in dating. We navigate the challenges of workplace attraction, suggesting a cautious, slower approach outside of the workplace to mitigate potential complications. We encourage listeners to break away from conventional thinking and forge their unique paths, exploring different approaches to exchanging numbers. Throughout, we stress the vital role of authenticity...2024-02-291h 15The Art of Approach Podcast#12 - How to react to being ignored, should you continue to pursue if she doesn't text backIn this episode, we debunk the idea of a complex process for approaching women at the gym and emphasize the importance of authenticity and clarity in expressing desires. Our discussion delves into the difference between spraying and praying and the potential pitfalls of purely sex-driven motivations. We also provide insights on how to navigate various dating scenarios, such as ignored messages, flakes, and cancellations.
We explore the concept of emotional intelligence, highlighting the significance of understanding and working with emotions in dating and personal growth. Throughout the episode, we share our recent dating experiences and the challenges...2024-02-2657 minThe Art of Approach Podcast#11 - Reina Jabbour on pursuing vs chasing, masculine & feminine polarity, how shadow work can transform youTo work with Reina email her: reinajabbour@hotmail.com
In this episode, we dive into the intriguing realm of masculine and feminine energies within relationships, exploring topics like the impact of stress on behavior and the significance of men embracing their softer side through practices like yoga. Drawing from an Instagram reel and a Reddit community question, we underscore the necessity for individuals to engage in shadow work and heal childhood wounds for healthier relationships. Our discussion extends to advice for women with high masculine energy, emphasizing the transformative power of gratitude and growth...2024-02-221h 05The Art of Approach Podcast#10 - Where do you meet amazing women in your town? What's the right time to approach?In this episode, we shift our perspective to explore dating advice and optimal places to meet women, urging listeners to broaden interests and utilize platforms like Meetup.com. Advocating for authenticity, we debunk the myth of a perfect time for approaching women, sharing real-life examples and emphasizing empathy. Our experiences in approaching strangers in the park and group meetups are recounted, highlighting the importance of setting goals and staying focused. We delve into the dynamics of approaching women in various scenarios, caution against over-reliance on dating apps, and explore the intersection of art in society, addressing challenges faced by...2024-02-1658 minThe Art of Approach Podcast#9 - Nice Vs Bad Boys Misconceptions, Building Up To The Kiss, Dating With Both High Hopes & Low ExpectationsIn our latest episode of the Art of Approach podcast, we explore the nuances of online dating, from navigating Instagram reels to setting up the first dates, emphasizing the importance of the right mindset and confidence without overemphasizing expectations. We delve into the dynamics of approaching groups, the persona contrasts between "bad boys" and "nice guys," and the significance of expressing desires authentically. Our discussion also covers the challenges of seeking validation, the importance of self-validation, and understanding one’s inner child, alongside recognizing red flags in dating. We address balancing desire with self-control, the benefits of setting boundaries, an...2024-02-091h 08The Art of Approach Podcast#8 - Body Language Clues, Building Rapport, Using Friends As Accountability PartnersIn the 8th episode of The Art of Approach Podcast, we explore the intricacies of dating and approach coaching, sharing insights and personal experiences on overcoming self-defeating thoughts, healing past wounds, and building self-belief. We discuss the importance of body language, being present, and the power of affirmations and self-forgiveness in building rapport. Our conversation also covers managing expectations when approaching women, the benefits of approaching alone versus with a wingman, and the significance of expressing feelings and respecting privacy in potential relationships. Finally, we reflect on the importance of honesty and authenticity in interactions, emphasizing overcoming fear and...2024-02-011h 08The Art of Approach Podcast#7 - Creating a space for authentic conversations, saving time with compliments, the true nature of the sh*t testIn episode seven of the Art of Approach podcast, we dive into the essence of using 'friend energy' when meeting new people. We discuss the significance of treating everyone like a friend to forge authentic and comfortable connections. Our conversation also touches on the importance of clear intentions and genuine desire in approaches, handling 'sh*t tests' with confidence, and the need to recover from negative experiences while maintaining a balanced mindset. We delve into finding equilibrium in interactions, focusing on the journey rather than the outcome in dating, and the role of texting in early stages of relationships...2024-01-181h 00The Art of Approach Podcast#6 - Nicole Karmine on how women can approach men, dressing for expression and authenticity, being your own coachWelcome to the sixth episode of The Art of Approach podcast, where I, Timothy Bray, alongside my co-host Will Mulvaney, dive into the intricate world of approaching and dating. Today, we're thrilled to have Nicole Karmine, an esteemed intrapersonal intelligence coach, joining us to shed light on the nuances of meeting new people and building genuine connections. Nicole brings her unique perspective to the table, discussing everything from the fear of rejection to the vitality of authenticity in relationships. She also shares her inspiring journey with The Chemistry Connection, her venture focusing on intentional intimacy. Together we explore the...2024-01-121h 40The Art of Approach Podcast#5 - The perfect opportunity to talk to a girl? Why do we interact with strangers differently?Welcome to episode 5 of The Art of Approach Podcast! Today, we are tackling some common dating advice from social media and answering your questions. We're talking about how to give compliments that really mean something and discussing the tricky business of making an impression. We also dive into why some people hesitate to approach women and share tips on getting past that. Plus, we're exploring the idea of dating with freedom and intention, without rushing into serious relationships. I'll share my thoughts on what makes dating work, like taking time to understand your emotions and the value of a...2024-01-051h 02The Art of Approach Podcast#4 - Managing nervousness on a date, taking ownership of our destructive narratives and the power of having high standardsIn our fourth episode of "The Art of Approach," we dive into the complex world of dating. We talk about embracing our anxiety and nervousness, understanding that these feelings are a natural part of the journey and can be tackled with confidence. We discuss the importance of accepting uncertainty in dating, the courage to face rejection, and the significance of starting at any age focused on personal growth. Highlighting the value of high standards, we explore how they lead us to partners who inspire and challenge us. We also touch upon the empowering aspect of expressing our desires and...2023-12-271h 00The Art of Approach Podcast#3 - Overcoming the fear of rejection, the art of the first kiss, is it ok to approach women at the gym?Welcome to the third episode of The Art of Approach podcast, where today, Tim and William unravel the intricacies of dating and relationships. We'll delve into effective strategies for engaging with someone who's shown disinterest, share tips on finding the right partner, and explore how beauty influences dating. Tackling common challenges, we discuss overcoming rejection fears, clarifying intentions, the art of the first kiss, and the importance of authenticity and consent. This episode is packed with insights and practical advice to refine your approach to dating, ending with a reminder to stay true to the core principles of building...2023-12-2256 minThe Art of Approach Podcast#2 - Challenges after approaching, breaking negative mindsets and meeting women in the parkIn this episode, we delve into the world of authentic approach, dating, and relationships. We emphasize the importance of authenticity and integrity in attracting others and often critique modern dating advice to address the root issues behind dating problems. We also explore the concept of the friend zone and stress the need for men to express their desires from the outset. We talk about the patience required to see results from approaching women and the crucial role of consistency. Sharing our personal stories, we highlight the importance of authentic listening and addressing the foundational issues in relationships. Our conversations...2023-12-161h 03The Art of Approach Podcast#1 - How to not be a creep, choose stories that empower you and how to practice approachIn this episode, we explore the delicate balance of cherishing each moment and avoiding overpowering behavior in dating. Instead of manipulative tactics, we champion the virtues of being genuine and straightforward. We discuss the nuances of approaching women, with an awareness of societal expectations and the concern of coming across as intrusive. We also offer insights on organically creating opportunities to meet women in daily life, emphasizing the significance of not fixating on results and concentrating on honing our approach.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Format
01:00 Discussion of Instagram...2023-12-1650 min