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Toxic to ThrivingThe grey rock methodThe grey rock method can be used in court, work, ex naracassists. This method is good so the toxic person can see you as boring person. They need to crave your blood like vampires. They need drama to.keep them going. Want to learn more go to toxictothriving1.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-07-1909 min

Toxic to ThrivingHow a narcassists will use the court system to hoover their victimsToday I want to.talk about how a narcassists will use court system to hoover their victims back into their circle. They will use the court system to hoover their ex girlfriend if they have children together or even ex wife. The courts do not realize they are putting them in a dangerous situation. They will even use therapy sessions. The courts are thinking therapy will be good for co parenting but you can not co parent with a narcassists. Your putting mothers in a dangerous situation. Marc assists uses smear campaigns in the court system. They will go as...2021-06-1607 min

Toxic to ThrivingHaving an argument with a narcassists is a waste of time.Arguing with a narcassists is a waste of time. They can actually start gaslighting you. Normal people tries to understand the other party, listen to them and be honest andaje sure they understand where others are coming from. But not a narcassists they think they are right at all times.if you ignore them they will start bullying, calling you names and intimidating. Want to learn more about narcissists go to toxictothriving1.com. I also have a paid coaching group fill out the form and I will be in touch. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way t...2021-06-1412 min

Toxic to ThrivingNarcassists will use children as pawnsNarcassists will use their children as pawns in the court system to continue to emotionally abuse you. They will get custody of the children even if they don't want them to live with them. Court systems fail at minimizing the abuse. They will lie on you and go as far as manipulating the courts. They will start having the children spy on you. Keep secrets and they will also start making the children question their own reality. Go to toxictothriving1.com fill out the form of you need coaching on how to deal with a narcassists.2021-06-0812 min

Toxic to ThrivingNarcassists losses in courtMeeting a narcissists in court. Is the most vindicating person you will ever meet. They will sit there calm, confident, but once you let them be themselves they will show their true self. You want to catch them in a lie on the stand. But you want to have evidence to back it up. They will show their true colors after their first lie. If you need a coach when going to court I can help you. Also you can go to toxictothriving1.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.f...2021-06-0306 min

Toxic to ThrivingNarcassists and their flying monkeysRemember the wizard of oz where the wicked witch had her flying monkeys to torcher and terrorize Dorthy and her dog as she was trying to get home. This is what a narcissists will do and they will go out and gather their flying monkeys. Now you want to be on the look out for these flying monkeys. In social media or even your children can be their flying monkeys. Go to toxictothriving1.com or if your looking for a coach you can email me at Tina@toxictothriving1.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to m...2021-05-2407 min

Toxic to ThrivingParental alienation 2Dr Richard Gardner is a physiatrist who created parental alienation syndrome. And courts are using his theory in child custody cases. Which needs to be thrown out in our court systems. He committed sucide in 2003 at the age of 72. In New Jersey. If you come across this article bring it to your lawyers attention. I couldn’t understand Colorado’s court system until now. And if a parent is alienating your child courts needs to remove that child ASAP. Toxictothriving1.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-05-2213 min

Toxic to ThrivingParental allientationParental alleination is where one parent keeps the child or children away from the other parent. Now this can be mild or severe. The alleinator will tell the children mom prefers her new family. Toxictothriving1.com for a list of signs --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-05-1806 min

Toxic to ThrivingConquering fearIn this issue, we are going to talk about different types of fear. External fear, internal fear, subconscious fear. Go to toxictothruving1.com for a list if different fears. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-05-1707 min

Toxic to ThrivingPart 2 of self esteem and self confidenceAs we talked yesterday about workaholics and over eating to comfort self esteem and low confidence. Some will divert to working out at the gym golfing or porn sites even strip clubs. Also some will divert to shopping buying purses clothing Cologne. And other expensive items like cars. While other divert to sex. For a list go to toxictothriving1.com enter your email and you will get a list plus and self esteem ebook 2021-05-1404 min

Toxic to ThrivingSelf esteem and self confidenceMany people live their lives without getting the source of what originally caused their feelings of low self esteem. Because they are unaware of how they can heal their painful past and reframe the circumstances that originally resulted in interceptions of being unworthy. Unloveable, or deficient in some way. Most people instead often resort to finding ways to distract themselves from unpleasant sensations that accompany feeling inferior. Instead of efficiently silencing the nagging voice of the past hurts, they seek out distractions that temporarily forget about their lacking confidence. Toxictothriving1.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest w...2021-05-1309 min

Toxic to ThrivingWhat is self confidence?One of the main requirement to success, happiness, and reaching your goals a confidence. Having enormous self confidence will also be useful in just about every part of your life. Confidrnce is the personal ownership of no one, the person who has it learns and goes on learning. Toxictothriving1.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-05-1108 min

Toxic to ThrivingFactors that influence your Self-EsteemThere are so. many factors in life that influence your self-esteem.These factors can either build your self esteem up it pull you down. Your childhood is one of the main contributing on your self esteem. As you are growing up and your personality develops everyone around you have the potential to influence the person you become. For example chaotic home tend to.have lower confidence and self esteem. Children grow up in unstable environment. Tend to have lower self esteem and confidence. The pressure of society are a main contributor of lw self esteem. There are so many demands...2021-05-0707 min

Toxic to ThrivingBalacing act of self esteemHaving a healthy and balanced sense of self-esteem is major key to.lving a healthy and happy life. Sometimes self esteem can become something else and unbalanced ego. So how do you know if you are simply being confident or if you are deceiving yourself? Healthy. Self esteem is one where you have the confidence to.be honest with yourself. And I've yourself no matter what. A healthy self esteem encourages you to live your life to the fullest.go to toxictothriving1.com if you need coaching. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a p...2021-05-0306 min

Toxic to ThrivingSelf-esteem and depressionSome people struggle with self esteem and depression. Their struggle with confidence goes much deeper. Those with low self esteem. Seem to be more likely to struggle with depression. What is self esteem? Self esteem refers to someone's level of self worth and self-respect. It goes much deeper than just confidence. It comes down how the person feels about themselves. What is depression? Depresion is a feeling of sadness, hooefulness. It's a long lasting effects the quality of life the person suffering. How are they connected? When someone does not feel that they are worth anything. Or the other hand...2021-04-3007 min

Toxic to ThrivingHow low self esteem can hurt relationshipsLow self esteem can affect your life in so many ways. Not only can it severely undermine your quality of living. It can also affect romantic relationships. People with low self esteem attracts partners. That are abusive emotionally or physically. Family members don't want to be around you with a negative attitude. In the real world it will be hard for low self esteem people to.meet quality people. Check out my website at. Toxictothriving1.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-04-2906 min

Toxic to ThrivingRegaining self-Esteem after a set backA setback in yourself esteem can be almost debilitating blow. Job loss, fights with a friend, gaining 5 pounds after losing 20. Understanding self esteem? Self esteem is your inner self worth and self respect. Self-esteem can lead to bigger problems. Consider a different perspective putting yourself in others people shoes. Try walking in someone else shoes with the same ordeal your having. Consider positive things about you. Know you are worthy. Treat yourself when you accomplished your goal. Get your hair done, nails done 2021-04-2906 min

Toxic to ThrivingLow self esteem and self fullingSometimes a person fears becoming so strong they play themselves out. This happens a lot for people with his self-esteem. Low self-esteem itself can easily become somewhat of a self fulfilling prophecy. But it don't have to stay that way. Let's talk about what is self esteem? Many people are unaware if the true definition of self-esteem. It's much deeper than self confidence and self respect. Even deeper than yourself. Self esteem is a measure of ones self worth and self respect. It's important to realize your worthy of happiness, of love and good in the world. Now understanding the...2021-04-2707 min

Toxic to ThrivingCauses of low self esteemCauses of low self esteem As you know being with a narcissists can bring down yourself esteem. Do you suffer from low self esteem? To truly work towards building a stronger self esteem it is important to understand the orgins of your problems. There is typically a defining factor, sometimes a contributing factor. Growing up around parents or someone who had self esteem issues. This can cause a child to develop similar issues. It's learned behavior that follows you into adulthood and throughout your life. Authority figures: whether you had a parent or other authority figures can be unsupportive of...2021-04-2607 min

Toxic to ThrivingWhat happens when you start rejecting a narcassistsWhat happens when you start to reject a narcassists. You see a narcissists don't like being rejected or abandoned. They fly into rage and punish you. Especially if you have children. When. You tell a narcassists your.leaving them they will say go ahead the kids and I will be fine without you. They will start love bombing you if you are unable to.get away. You see when you reject a narcassists. You are rejecting the false self the ha e so carefully created to impress you. When you reject that false self it destroys their entire reason for...2021-04-2202 min

Toxic to ThrivingTrust signsAs you know we all have to have trust in any relationship. Rather it be employer, family or a partner. The basic requirements in any relationship. It's vital information for a long lasting bond and good communication. For a relationship to flourish. And sometimes you will get a gut instinct on who to trust and not to trust. Listen to your gut because you can pay the conquenses later. 1. They are charming, a normal person can seem charming and seem trustworthy. But others can fake being charming, and you won't be able to trust them. Underneath the sweetness they are...2021-04-2014 min

Toxic to ThrivingSilent treatmentA narcasists will do a silent treatment when they don't get their way or having a discussion. You will start to ask him questions and he might say everything is fine. Or say nothing at all. He will start to.make you think you did something wrong. When you didn't do anything wrong. He will start making you feel confused, ashamed, not good enough, anxiety, stressed. Until you admit you did something wrong but in reality you did nothing wrong. This is their form of abuse and it's wrong for them to do this. They will do this just to...2021-04-1603 min

Toxic to Thriving7 stages of leaving a narcasissts1. You need to come to terms of the abuse. This is real! 2. Grow and understanding. Understand your situation. Narcissists will not change for you or anyone else. You need to reconnect with loved ones. 3. No contact with the narcissist. You don’t want to be friends with the narcissists 4. Reconnect with loved ones. Your family 5. Get back to normal, this will take some time. But it will come 6. Finding yourself again. If you need therapy go and that way you can start working on yourself. 7. Set boundaries let the narcissists know he/she will not talk to you in certain wa...2021-04-1405 min

Toxic to ThrivingMilignant narcasisstsMalignant narcassists are very dangerous. They have no empathy on anyone. They are ready to rise hostility. They are aggressive, antisocial. They also destroy dignity and thirst for power. Which leads to wrecking other mental health. They can be extreme dangerous on themselves or others. The sad part they love harming others. They dehumanize people they are with or around them. They also undermines families and organizations in which they are involved in. Here are a few traits to watch for 1.entitlement 2. Extreme anger 3. Lack of remorse 4. Paranoia have a great night https://beacons.page/Tinakearnescoaching --- This episode is...2021-04-1303 min

Toxic to ThrivingCovert NarcasistsCovert narcasists is to themselves, have depression, they mistrust feeling like nobody appreciates them. They are not good listeners. They are self absorbed, they feel like others people are boring and ignorant. They can get their way with aggressive behavior. They agree to things but don't follow through. They my.say the forgot or pretend there was no agreement. They will add self pity to.their toolkit. So they can have more control. They won't brag openly. They judge other people. They may look away while talking to them. They have anxiety hypersensitivity and delusions. They can be very abusive...2021-04-1004 min

Toxic to ThrivingA narcasists can be anywhere!A narcasists can be anywhere schools, bars, churches, even on a reality show. I love married at first sight. Paige and Chris married as strangers. Well Chris has been rejecting paige and didn't know why. And Chris came with every excuse like his ex is pregnant, well Chris bought his ex a car and threw that in paiges face. Chris kept rejecting paige and paige just had enough. So she was like this is it. She went on the show for the right reason but Chris went for the wrong reasons. Chris wouldn't take responsibility of his own actions, blaned...2021-04-0806 min

Toxic to ThrivingHoover! What is hoovering?Hoovering is a technique a narcissist uses to gain control over you. Just like the hoover vacuum to suck you back in the toxic relationship. Now victims don't realize this they think they just miss them. That's no the case. The narcasissts realize they lost control over you. They can go through phone calls, text messages, email and even have a friend relay a message to you. Best way to solve this is change email address, phone number, change friends even your home address. Which I did not mention. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to m...2021-04-0702 min

Toxic to ThrivingInventorying your weaknesses and strengthsNarcasists prey on your weaknesses and fears. They have no emotions or very shallow emotions. Maybe you empathize with a narcissists. This where he can keep you as his victim. Maybe you have memories with the narcissists and remember those momories was fake because the narcasists has a mask on. Now your strengths. Your strength can be emphasizing with others going through the same thing as you. This is where the narcasists gets mad. Because you are ignoring him pushing him aside. And he can't hold you as his victim anymore. Also, thirst for knowledge keeping that value with you...2021-04-0605 min

Toxic to ThrivingLeadership in courts dont understand nacassistsLeaderships. In the court system don't understand narcissists. Maybe they don't know what a narcissistic is.or don't care. Or.maybe they are a narcasists themselves. And the courts need to understand this. A narcasists will go as far as making you homeless. Or do something tragic. Mediators need to understand this. Because they are putting you in danger. You can't not co parent with a narcasists. If the mediator says we have to get a long tell them no. I need no contact. Because the narcasists will continue making your life miserable. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: T...2021-04-0405 min

Toxic to ThrivingStonwalling a technique a narcasists useStonealling is a technique a narcasists will use. In a heated discussion, while you are talking they will turn away, not give you eye contact, or look at their phone. You will be there looking a your food. Feeling lonely upset. They will eventually come around. After you apologize and telling them you didn't mean to be so harsh. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-04-0302 min

Toxic to ThrivingGasligjting what is it?Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation. A narcissist will do this if you discard him. Or if your co-parenting and they daylight you. 1. Make a journal on what he is doing to you. 2. Take a friend, mother, father, brother, whoever with you. Don't be by yourself with the narcasists. 3. Record them 4 set boundaries. Never think it's your fault because it's not your fault. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-04-0103 min

Toxic to ThrivingIntroductionLet me introduce myself, my name is Tina Kearnes. I am a certified counselor I specialize in narcissism, Toxic relationships, trauma. I been in the medical field for over 10 years. As I been studinf narcasissim I came to realize my father had the narcassists traits. Nobody ever talked about narcasist’s until recently. When others started coming out openly and telling their stories. So say tuned for more episodes --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-03-3101 min

Toxic to ThrivingWhat is love bombingLove bombing is a form of manipulation that has power over you. They will give you attention and affection. They will buy you gifts take you on trips. They will tell you, your beautiful and their life is complete because your in it. Then eventually it all stops. Then here comes the gaslighting, criticisms, name calling, so tomorrow I will talk about gaslighting have a great night https://beacons.page/Tinakearnescoaching --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app 2021-03-3101 min

Toxic to ThrivingToxic to Thriving (Trailer)2021-03-2800 min