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The Authentic EdgeBye... For NowIn this final episode (for now), Toks shares why she’s pressing pause on The Authentic Edge and Living Inside Out.
From launching a new concession for The Baby Cot Shop in Harrods to completing her long-awaited book, life has brought an exciting (and very full) buffet of opportunities. But sometimes, even the best things need to be taken off the plate to make room for what matters most in the moment.
This is not goodbye—just a gentle pause. Thank you for starting your mornings with The Authentic Edge. We’ll meet...2025-04-0403 min
Living Inside Out with ToksEp #122 Talking Twins and Music with Music Producer AØBWelcome to the Living Inside Out podcast, hosted by Toks Aruture, a visionary entrepreneur and mindset coach. In this episode, Toks invites the youngest guest ever on the show, Aaron Omo-Adesanya, to share his compelling journey into the music industry. Aaron, alongside Toks, navigates through personal experiences of having a twin, his early ambition to build a career in music, and the invaluable life lessons he garnered along the way.
Aaron speaks candidly about his childhood, his inspirations, and the pivotal moments that shaped his career path and personality. Deeply entwined with themes of identity and self-discovery...2025-04-0339 minThe Authentic EdgeWhat if They're Right About You?In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture opens up about a powerful moment of self-awareness triggered by a conversation at a glamorous awards event. Despite being showered with praise and offered mentorship by a successful executive, her initial reaction was disbelief, doubt, and—ultimately—cynicism.
Drawing parallels from a similar story she witnessed on television, Toks explores how cynicism can quietly sabotage our potential. It creeps in, questioning compliments, rejecting support, and minimising the light others see in us.
You’ll learn:
• How to recognise cynical thinking when it sh...2025-04-0303 minThe Authentic EdgeWhy I Said 'No' to a DogIn this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture shares a surprising story from her childhood—one that explains why she’s always said no to having a dog, despite her children’s persistent pleas.
From growing up surrounded by pets to the formative memories that still influence her today, Toks reflects on how past experiences shape our present-day choices—often in ways we don’t consciously realise.
It’s a light-hearted yet thought-provoking reminder that sometimes, our “no” carries an entire backstory.
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2025-04-0202 minThe Authentic EdgeDon’t Mistake Your Ego for Your PersonIn today’s episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture reflects on a personal moment that revealed the quiet yet powerful difference between ego and identity. Through a simple memory triggered while driving past a familiar spot, Toks explores how we often mistake a bruised ego for personal hurt—and how this misinterpretation can quietly shape our decisions.
If you’ve ever found yourself avoiding opportunities, turning away from challenges, or replaying old moments of embarrassment or offence, this short but powerful insight will speak directly to you.
Tune in to learn:2025-04-0103 minThe Authentic EdgeSuccess Doesn’t Have to HurtIn this thought-provoking and personal episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture reflects on a moment that shifted her perspective: the quiet, often unquestioned belief that success must be earned through suffering. After hearing a guest on a talk show admit she believed things only counted if they hurt, Toks recognised that same mindset in herself- accepting anxiety as a companion rather than a signal to pause and reframe.
This episode challenges the narrative that success must come at the cost of constant struggle. Toks unpacks the difference between the discomfort that comes from discipline a...2025-03-3103 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #121 What to Do When Fear Tries to LeadThis week’s episode is both very personal and powerfully relevant.
Toks shares the story behind The Baby Cot Shop’s upcoming concession in Harrods- an extraordinary milestone wrapped in excitement… and fear. As she reflects on a journal entry written over eight years ago, just before opening the King’s Road store, we’re reminded that fear often shows up right before elevation.
But not all fear is the same.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to identify whether your fear is a warning or a doorway to something greater—and what to do when you...2025-03-2925 minThe Authentic EdgeProtect the Eggher story. What started as an exciting conversation about a business idea turned into an emotional drain, simply because the other person couldn’t see what she saw.
Toks unpacks why it’s important to protect your ideas in their infancy, not from ‘haters,’ but from well-meaning voices who can’t see your vision. Drawing on a quote from Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie—“Protect it like a guinea fowl’s egg”—this episode is your reminder to trust your inner knowing and hold space for your dreams to grow.
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...2025-03-2802 minThe Authentic EdgeHigh-Level ThinkersIn this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores what sets high-level thinkers apart—not just in strategy, but in mindset and daily habits. She unpacks the internal conversations that often sabotage our potential and offers practical insights for cultivating a mindset that sees possibilities where others see limits.
You’ll discover why elevating your thinking begins with awareness, and how to shift from reaction to reflection, especially in moments that test your patience or self-belief.
If you’re ready to operate from a higher level of thought and action, this epi...2025-03-2702 minThe Authentic EdgeCrowded MindIn this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture shares a deeply personal moment when, despite weeks of preparation and excitement, she stood before an audience and her words failed her. A story she had told countless times suddenly wouldn’t flow.
What went wrong? No space. No buffers.
Toks unpacks the vital lesson she learned about the power of rest and the importance of creating mental and emotional space between tasks. When your schedule is too packed, even your thoughts start to trip over each other.
If yo...2025-03-2602 minThe Authentic EdgeThe Unexposed MindWhat if the limits you see aren’t real? What if your biggest obstacle isn’t your ability but your exposure?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores how our beliefs, ambitions, and even our self-perception are shaped by what we’ve been exposed to. She challenges you to consider how unfamiliarity can feel like an impossibility- and why broadening your perspective is the key to breaking through unseen barriers.
🎧 Tune in to discover:
✅ Why exposure is the gateway to new possibilities
✅ How lack of awareness ke...2025-03-2102 minThe Authentic EdgeCreated to RecoverIn this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture shares a powerful revelation about healing, resilience, and the ability to begin again.
Inspired by a moment of gratitude journaling, Toks explores how our bodies naturally heal from cuts and bruises, and how this same principle applies to our emotional and spiritual lives. No matter the setbacks, disappointments, or heartaches we face, we are built to recover.
🎧 Listen in to discover:
✅ How gratitude can shift your mindset in moments of anxiety
✅ The parallel between physical healing and emotional resilienc...2025-03-1205 minThe Authentic EdgeYou're Already Who You Need to BeWhat if the only thing holding you back is an unrealistic version of yourself—one that doesn’t even exist?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores the over-exaggerated ideals we unknowingly create about confidence, success, and personal growth. These mental constructs can make us feel like we’re never quite ready—that we need to be calmer, smarter, or more polished before taking action.
But here’s the truth: You already are the person you need to be.
🎧 Listen now to discover:
✅ How your mi...2025-03-1103 minThe Authentic EdgeDitch the FantasyIt’s easy to romanticize how life should unfold—how your business, career, or personal story should look. But in doing so, you risk forcing a version of your story that was never meant to be, instead of allowing it to unfold as it was designed.
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture challenges the idea of rigid expectations and the dangers of clinging to a fixed vision of success. What if the path you resist is actually the one you were built for?
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✅ Why...2025-03-1002 minThe Authentic EdgeThe Art of War Against Fear“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” – Sun Tzu
What if the enemy you’ve been battling isn’t failure, rejection, or even success, but fear itself? Fear disguises itself in different ways: self-doubt, procrastination, people-pleasing, and even playing small to stay comfortable. But here’s the truth: nothing good grows from the soil of fear.
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture shares a strategic approach to overcoming fear, inspired by Sun Tzu’s The Art of War. She explore...2025-03-0702 minThe Authentic EdgeEmbracing Change: Lessons from 'Who Moved My Cheese'In this episode, Toks Aruoture shares how the book "Who Moved My Cheese" transformed her approach to business and life during difficult times. She shares the concept of accepting life's seasons, encouraging listeners to embrace change and let go of what no longer serves them.
As we celebrate World Book Day, Toks invites you to explore the insights offered by this impactful book, highlighting how it can provide hope, vision, and tenacity in challenging moments. Tune in for inspiration and join Toks's journey on "The Authentic Edge," with further explorations on mindset and personal growth available on...2025-03-0601 minThe Authentic EdgeStreamline Your MindWelcome to The Authentic Edge with Toks Aruoture, where in just four minutes, you'll gain practical insights to start your day with clarity. Discover how grouping similar tasks not only conserves energy but also enhances your focus and reduces procrastination. By scheduling specific times for tasks like responding to emails or making phone calls, you make it easier on your mind and create room for authentic living. Join Toks every weekday for more insights to fuel your day.
2025-03-0402 minThe Authentic EdgeMastering Impulse for Better OutcomesWelcome to another episode of The Authentic Edge with Toks Aruoture, designed to align your mindset and give you clarity to start your day. In today's brief yet insightful session, we explore how impulsive actions can significantly impact the outcomes of our lives, often without us even realizing it. Toks delves into the subconscious influences of impulse, drawing parallels with emotions and how they dictate our actions and decisions.
By understanding these patterns, you can become more aware of the triggers that prompt impulsive reactions, transforming them into conscious decisions. Join us this week to unlock the...2025-03-0301 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #119 The Messy Middle: How to Keep Moving When Life Feels StuckWelcome to March 2025! As we step into a new month, it’s the perfect time to reflect on the past season and prepare for what’s ahead. In today’s episode, Toks Aruoture dives deep into the concept of life’s seasons—how challenges are inevitable, but they are never permanent. Just like the changing weather, trials have a beginning, middle, and end.
We explore:
• The Certainty of Seasons: Just as winter turns into spring, difficult times will eventually pass.
• The Power of Perspective: How we interpret obstacles determines whether they stop us or prop...2025-03-0122 minThe Authentic EdgeTriggers: Mastering ProcrastinationTitle: Understanding Your Triggers—The Key to Overcoming Procrastination
Have you ever wondered why you hesitate, delay, or avoid certain things—even when you know they’re important? What if the key to breaking free lies in understanding your hidden triggers?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture dives into the intricate connection between impulses, procrastination, and past experiences. She shares a personal story of facing business rejections and how those experiences unknowingly shaped her decisions. The truth? We all have subconscious triggers influencing our actions. The good news? Once we...2025-02-2802 minThe Authentic EdgeTrust Your GutHow often do you second-guess your instincts? If you’re used to structure and order, trusting your intuition can feel like stepping into the unknown. But what if your future self—the wiser, more experienced version of you—already knows the answer?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores the challenge of trusting your inner wisdom, especially when logic and evidence aren’t there to back it up. She shares how tapping into your intuition can lead to more authentic, aligned decisions, helping you navigate life with clarity and confidence.
🎧 Li...2025-02-2702 minThe Authentic EdgeExpand Your NetworkDoes the idea of networking make you cringe? You’re not alone. But what if networking wasn’t just about business cards and sales pitches? What if it was about gaining fresh perspectives, unlocking opportunities, and discovering connections that could change your life?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture shares how she transformed her once-dreaded networking experience into an exciting, game-changing journey—one that even led to a TED talk. She breaks down the true essence of networking, beyond just business, and explores how stepping into the right spaces can open doors you nev...2025-02-2602 minThe Authentic EdgeRewrite Your StoryWhat if the version of your life you’re living isn’t the one you’re meant for? What if the pressure to fit into expectations is holding you back from something greater?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores the power of rewriting your life story—not through fiction, but by embracing authenticity. When you drop the weight of pretense and lean into your truth, you redirect your energy towards progress, clarity, and fulfillment.
🎧 Listen now to discover:
✅ How societal expectations can silently shape your life choices2025-02-2502 minThe Authentic EdgeDon’t Ignore Small WinsIt’s easy to celebrate the big victories—the job promotion, the major breakthrough, the life-changing moment. But what about the small wins? The ones that go unnoticed but quietly shape your journey?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture reminds us that small wins matter. Every step forward, no matter how tiny, contributes to the bigger picture. If you only measure success by monumental achievements, you’ll miss the progress you’re making every single day.
🎧 Listen now to discover:
✅ Why small wins are just as important as big ones
✅ How celebrating...2025-02-2402 minThe Authentic EdgeListen to Your SpiritIn a world full of noise, opinions, and external expectations, how often do you pause to listen to your own spirit?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores the power of tuning into your spirit which is one with God’s. So often, we dismiss our instincts, overanalyze decisions, and look outward for answers that are already within us.
But what if the clarity you seek isn’t outside—it’s inside, waiting to be heard?
🎧 Listen now to discover:
✅ Why learning to trust your spirit is crucial
✅ The difference...2025-02-2102 minThe Authentic EdgeIt’s Not Supposed to Be This WayHave you ever looked at your life and thought, This isn’t how it’s supposed to be? Maybe things feel off course, like the reality you’re living doesn’t match the vision you once had.
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture shares a powerful perspective shift for those moments of frustration and disappointment. What if your current situation isn’t a mistake—but a setup?
When life doesn’t go according to plan, it’s easy to resist, complain, or feel stuck. But what if the detour is actually leading you exactly wher...2025-02-2003 minThe Authentic EdgeIt’s Not the End, It’s Just the Visible EndSometimes, we stand at what looks like the end of the road, convinced that there’s no way forward. But what if the path is there—just hidden from view?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture reflects on the story of the Israelites at the Red Sea- trapped between an impossible barrier and an approaching enemy. But their journey wasn’t over. The way forward existed all along- it was simply unseen.
If you’re facing a situation that feels like you’ve hit a dead end, consider this: you’re...2025-02-1901 minThe Authentic EdgeThe Illusion of ReliefNot everything that feels good is good for you. And not everything that feels bad is bad for you.
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores the dangers of living on the surface, chasing temporary relief instead of deep, lasting transformation. When we let our emotions dictate truth, we risk making decisions that soothe the moment but sabotage our future.
But here’s the shift: Pain isn’t always an enemy—it can be a teacher.
When embraced with wisdom, challenges can propel us into real growth a...2025-02-1805 minThe Authentic EdgeOverwhelmed? Try ThisWhen was the last time you made space just for you—not as a parent, partner, or professional, but as you?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores the importance of carving out time for yourself beyond your responsibilities. By categorizing life into segments—home, family, work, and self—you can start recognizing your daily wins instead of feeling like you’re constantly falling behind.
One key shift? Defining your “bare minimum wins.”
That one hug, that one act of kindness, that one moment of self-care—it all counts.
You’re doing m...2025-02-1703 minThe Authentic EdgeLove is InvisibleNot all love is spoken. Some of it is simply felt.
In this special Valentine’s Day episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture shares a deeply personal story about her maternal grandmother—who spoke only Yoruba, a language Toks didn’t fully understand as a child. Yet, despite the language barrier, her grandmother’s love was unmistakable.
This episode is a reflection on how love transcends words and actions, revealing itself through presence, intention, and the quiet, unseen connections we share.
Because in its truest form, love doesn’t need to be spoken to...2025-02-1403 minThe Authentic EdgeThe Lies We Tell OurselvesThe most dangerous lies aren’t the ones people tell us—they’re the ones we tell ourselves.
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores how deeply ingrained beliefs, shaped by our past experiences, can silently limit our potential. Many of these lies don’t come from dramatic events—they stem from small, seemingly harmless moments, words spoken over us, or actions we observed as children.
But here’s the truth: what you believed to be true about yourself then doesn’t have to define you now.
By uncovering and challenging th...2025-02-1303 minThe Authentic EdgeDream Beyond Your Current LimitationsWelcome to another episode of The Authentic Edge! Join Toks Aruoture as she takes you on a reflective journey through a personal diary entry from June 28, 2019.
Toks shares the excitement and revelations that come with planning future projects and why your current emotional and mental state should never limit your vision. We are constantly evolving, and this episode serves as a reminder to dream audaciously without downsizing your aspirations based on today’s circumstances.
Listen in as we explore:
✔️ How to separate your future vision from your present emotions
✔️ Why growth and evolution demand big...2025-02-1102 minThe Authentic EdgeThe Creative Power of TimeIn this episode of The Authentic Edge, host Toks Aruoture delves into the profound concept of 'kairos', the Greek word for time, exploring how each moment holds creative power and potential.
We often see time as a linear path, but what if timing matters more than time itself? Toks challenges conventional thinking and explains why recognizing the right moment can turn good results into great ones.
Join us as we explore:
✔️ The difference between chronos (linear time) and kairos (opportune time).
✔️ How timing impacts success and decision-making.
✔️ Practical steps to align your actions with...2025-02-1002 minThe Authentic EdgeAbundance vs Scarcity MindsetDid you know that your mentality shapes the way you interpret life? The way you think—whether from a place of abundance or lack—determines how you see opportunities, handle setbacks, and even experience success.
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture breaks down the key differences between an abundance mindset and a lack mentality, challenging the idea that wealth is only about possessions.
Here are three major distinctions:
1.Abundance isn’t about what you own. You can have a wardrobe full of clothes and a garage full of...2025-02-0502 minThe Authentic EdgeBeyond Motivation: Finding Lasting Inspiration
We don’t excel just for ourselves, we do it for those watching and waiting to be inspired. ~ Toks Aruoture
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture unpacks the difference between motivation and inspiration, explaining why one is temporary and the other is the key to lasting progress. Motivation gives you a reason to act, but reasons change. Urgency shifts. Fear creeps in. Suddenly, your drive isn’t about progress anymore; it’s about avoiding discomfort.
Inspiration, on the other hand, is a continuous state of being moved to act. As...2025-02-0403 minThe Authentic EdgeThe Courage to Set GoalsSetting goals requires more than just ambition, it takes courage. Fear often sneaks in, daring us not to put our desires into words, keeping us stuck in hesitation and self-doubt.
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explains why clearly defining goals is the first step toward achieving them. She also explains how fear distorts our perception, making challenges seem bigger than they are, and why the brain resists effort, even when it’s good for us.
Toks shares practical steps to break through the fear of goal-setting and crea...2025-02-0303 minThe Authentic EdgeFear Has a Grip on You- It’s Time to Loosen ItFear can feel like an invisible rope, tightening around us, keeping us from moving forward. But what if you could loosen its grip? What if seeing fear for what it truly is was the key to breaking free?
In this episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture unpacks the weight of fear and how it subtly influences our decisions- often without us even realising it. Inspired by Ronald Reagan’s words, “Don’t be afraid to see what you see,” and wisdom from James 4:17, Toks explores why acknowledging fear is the first step to breaking free from...2025-01-3103 minThe Authentic EdgeProcrastination is Stealing Your FutureHow many opportunities have you let slip away because of hesitation? That email, that text asking for help, that post positioning you as an expert—what’s stopping you from hitting send?
In this short but powerful episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture reminds us that every moment is filled with creative power, waiting to be activated. But procrastination? It’s the silent thief of the life you were meant to have.
Today, you get a push to take action. To stop waiting. To hit send on the things that could ch...2025-01-3003 minThe Authentic EdgeWhen Life’s Pieces Don’t FitIn this insightful episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture explores the concept of malunion; when broken bones heal in the wrong position—and draws parallels to the emotional and mental healing we experience after life’s hardships.
Through a powerful analogy, Toks challenges us to examine the conclusions we draw during painful experiences. Are they helping us grow, or are they setting us on a path of misalignment?
This episode is a call to reset; reset your mindset, your beliefs, and the way you approach healing. It’s a reminder that jus...2025-01-2903 minThe Authentic Edge"Dear Body, I'm Sorry"In this heartfelt episode of The Authentic Edge, Toks Aruoture reflects on the unspoken relationship we have with our bodies- the neglect, the overwork, and the lack of care we sometimes show to the very vessel that keeps us alive.
Through personal insights and gentle prompts, Toks shares how an honest apology to her body shifted her perspective, encouraging listeners to rethink how they treat their own. This isn’t just about health—it’s about gratitude, awareness, and reconnecting with the parts of us that often go unnoticed.
Tune in for a po...2025-01-2804 minThe Authentic EdgePurpose isn't PrettyIn this episode, Toks reflects on a pivotal moment speaking on stage and the feedback that followed. While the images captured confidence and celebration, she shares the often unseen side of purpose- tears, frustration, and uncertainty.
Toks challenges the idea that living your purpose always looks glamorous, revealing that it’s in the raw, unfiltered moments of growth that purpose truly unfolds.
A reminder that purpose isn’t about perfection; it’s about embracing the whole journey- pain, progress, and all.
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Start your mornings with purpose a...2025-01-2403 minThe Authentic EdgeNothing Has MeaningIn this episode, Toks explores how the meaning we assign to life’s events shapes our emotions and reality. Using the recent LA fires as an example, she highlights the universal nature of emotions, regardless of circumstances, and shares how shifting perspectives can inspire empathy and personal growth.
Toks reflects on the human tendency to attach judgments- good or bad- to events, and how our interpretation, rather than the event itself, is often the cause of our pain. By learning to separate situations from the emotions they evoke, we create room for empathy and personal growth.
2025-01-2304 minThe Authentic EdgeEmbrace Leadership Beyond FeelingsIn this episode of The Authentic Edge, our host, Toks Aruoture, shares her personal journey with leadership.
Sharing a candid story, she explores the idea that feeling like a leader is not necessarily tied to being one. Despite significant accomplishments like opening a boutique on a prominent high street or delivering a TED Talk, Toks discusses the constant presence of fear and self-doubt. She emphasizes separating emotions from identity, suggesting that success and leadership are determined by actions rather than feelings.
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Start your mornings with purpose and cla...2025-01-2203 minThe Authentic EdgeFinding FocusWelcome to The Authentic Edge, where Toks delivers concise insights to help you align your mindset, live authentically, and kickstart your day with clarity.
In this episode, Toks shares her personal journey from a life of superficial achievements to finding focus and embracing a single, inspiring goal.
Explore the challenges of navigating opportunities and learn how to differentiate between distractions and true paths to success.
Toks discusses the importance of timing and the value of patience, while offering a glimpse into her own experiences with rejection and persistence in the business world.
2025-01-2104 minThe Authentic EdgeBehind The Authentic EdgeWelcome to "The Authentic Edge," hosted by Toks Aruoture, where she shares quick insights on aligning your mindset, living authentically, and starting your day with clarity. Join Toks, a passionate storyteller and mum of four, as she introduces herself and her journey, balancing life and entrepreneurship through her venture, The Baby Cut Shop.
Rooted in the Christian faith, Toks offers her audiences lessons derived from personal experiences, business triumphs, and life’s unpredictable paths. While faith influences her journey, her insights transcend beliefs, providing practical advice for everyone.
Toks invites listeners to connect and explore de...2025-01-2004 minThe Authentic EdgeBreaking the Invisible WallsToks Aruoture explores how our conversations and the information we absorb shape our perceptions and personal growth. Mulling on a recent dialogue, she highlights the importance of setting boundaries, auditing influences, and breaking free from limiting beliefs.
Toks shares practical insights to help listeners shift their mindset and overcome invisible barriers to growth. For deeper discussions, tune into her podcast, Living Inside Out.
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Start your mornings with purpose and clarity—make The Authentic Edge your 5 a.m. habit every weekday. In just 3–5 minutes, you’ll get powerful insights to set the...2025-01-1704 minThe Authentic EdgeBuilding From Inside OutIn this debut episode of The Authentic Edge, we explore the power of building your life from within. Toks Aruoture shares how every action starts as a thought and why nurturing your mindset is key to living authentically and purposefully. Learn how to harness your imagination, align with your true desires, and take actionable steps toward the life you’re meant to live.
Tune in for insights that inspire bold, authentic growth in just 3–5 minutes.
2025-01-1602 minThe Authentic EdgeWelcome to The Authentic EdgeThis podcast was birthed because I love sharing life lessons. A quick audio note I shared caught the attention of a radio producer, leading to a segment & now, podcast. Enjoy 3–5 minute soundbites packed with insights to inspire, challenge, & encourage you to live boldly & authentically.
For deeper conversations, check out my podcast Living Inside Out with Toks or connect with me on instagram, LinkedIn or toksaruoture.com
2025-01-1603 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #113 Life Lessons: Entrepreneurship & Motherhood with Tomi RotimiWelcome to Episode 113! 🎉
This week, I sit down with the incredible Tomi Rotimi, a trailblazer in the fashion industry, a devoted mother, and a fellow entrepreneur. In this heartfelt and inspiring conversation, we delve into the life lessons she’s learned, the highs and lows of building a brand, and the balance she’s found between family and business.
Tomi candidly shares the moments that shaped her journey and how she overcame obstacles to create Xclamations!, a thriving business while staying true to her values. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a dreamer, or...2025-01-1158 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #112 Turning to Scripture: Finding Strength and Focus for a New YearHey friends, welcome to Episode 112!
This week, I’m sharing something deeply personal- how I used scripture to navigate a challenging season and how it helped me grow. But first, let’s talk about last weekend’s Zoom session. It was such a joy to connect with so many of you! Over 60 people signed up, and the feedback has been incredible. Here are just a couple of comments that truly moved me:
“I heard Toks speak for the first time at the Hangout anniversary dinner, and her story challenged me and made me be...2025-01-0429 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #105: A Conversation with Getrude Matshe on Purpose, Passion, and UnityIn this inspiring episode, Toks speaks with Getrude Matshe—3-time TEDx Speaker, author, serial social entrepreneur, and philanthropy consultant. Getrude, known for her vibrant energy and commitment to empowering women, shares her insights on finding one’s purpose and using it to uplift others. The conversation explores her journey, her belief in the African philosophy of Ubuntu, and her mission to educate and empower Africa’s next generation. Getrude’s story is one of resilience, self-belief, and an unbreakable commitment to community and unity.
Key Takeaways
Embracing Responsibility: Getrude shares her powerful experience of taking on the r...2024-11-1246 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #104 Redefining Luxury with Elizabeth SolaruIn This Powerful Episode of Living Inside Out, Toks Sits Down with Elizabeth Solaru
In this episode, Toks Aruoture has an inspiring conversation with Elizabeth Solaru, a multi-award-winning luxury business consultant, author of The Luxpreneur, and former microbiologist turned cake artist. Elizabeth’s journey from science to the world of luxury and entrepreneurship is filled with incredible insights and transformative lessons on building a brand, finding your unique voice, and embracing authenticity.
Key Topics Covered:
•The Power of Authenticity: Elizabeth shares how staying true to yourself is essenti...2024-11-031h 08Living Inside Out with ToksEp #101 A New Chapter: Looking Back, Moving ForwardWelcome back to Living Inside Out! After a brief hiatus, we’re back with a fresh new look and an exciting direction for the podcast. In this first episode of our new season, Toks Aruoture reflects on the journey so far, shares some of the lessons learned along the way, and gives you a sneak peek into what’s to come.
Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode:
• Why taking a step back and pausing to reflect was so important.
• A deep dive into the lessons Toks has learned over...2024-10-0524 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #100 Life Lessons with Suzy and Toks (Part 2)Welcome to episode #100! Thank you for sticking with me through 100 episodes of this podcast journey.
This episode marks a special milestone—my continued conversation with Suzy, where we dive deep into the theme "Talk is Cheap, Actions Speak Louder than Words." Yes, it's a powerful message, and I'm thrilled to share it with you.
We often hear the saying, "Listen closely with your eyes." This episode is all about that—paying attention to the actions around us and the stories they tell. Suzy and I discuss how actions reveal true intentions and character far more than...2024-08-0325 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #99 Life Lessons with Suzy & ToksWelcome to episode #99! I thank you for riding with me through 99 episodes of my podcast.
This episode has been a long time coming—my conversation with Suzy on the life lessons we learned in 2023! Yes, I know, 19 months later, but we made it, and that’s what counts, right?
One cannot quantify the benefits of having the right people in your space. Besides having good friends who watch your back, make great company, and lend a listening ear, we should have wise people who plant words of life in and around us.
2024-07-2443 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #98 Overcoming Weariness: Staying Energised on Your JourneyThis week on Living Inside Out, we dive deep into the roots of weariness and its impact on our lives and goals. Toks explores how chronic disappointments can spiral into discouragement, hopelessness, apathy, and even depression. Discover practical strategies to stay energised and focused on your God-given purpose, despite the enemy’s attempts to derail you.
Episode Highlights:
• Understanding Weariness: Learn how repeated disappointments lead to discouragement, and how this can devolve into hopelessness and depression. Depression is described as a dark pit of hopelessness, a place where defeat feels inescapable.
• Spiritual Perspective: Understand how the...2024-06-3029 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp#97 Challenges to Opportunities: Steps to Help You Change Your PerspectiveWelcome to The Living Inside Out podcast. I’m your host, Toks Aruoture. This is episode 97: “Challenges to Opportunities: Steps to Help You Change Your Perspective.”
Hello, my friend. I hope you are well. If you’re in the UK and have a 16-year-old, congratulations! The exams are over. I, too, have a 16-year-old, and now that exams are done, I told him he’d need to get a job. Initially, I thought providing everything was a sign of love, but I’ve realised the importance of work ethic and early skill acquisition.
If this is your firs...2024-06-1530 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #96 The Power of Perspective: Seeing Neutrality in Every ChallengeEpisode Summary
In this episode, we explore the concept that circumstances in themselves are neutral, and it is our thoughts about them that shape our emotional responses. As always, I draw from personal stories, reflections, and examples, to see how our perceptions and attitudes can transform our experiences of pain, so we are not crippled by it, but instead we advance in spite of it.
Episode Highlights
• Introduction to the Concept:
• Statement from the previous episode: Circumstances are neither good nor bad.
• The idea that it is our thoughts about circ...2024-06-0826 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #91 The Christian EntrepreneurThis week we are continuing our 'entrepreneur' series and exploring what it looks like to be a Christian entrepreneur. I considered naming this episode The Spiritual Entrepreneur, but I realised that "spiritual" can mean many things to different people. So, it helps to be clear on this.
Personal Story: Finding Guidance
My earliest recollection of leaning on God for guidance as a Christian businesswoman was when I prayed for a mentor. God took my cry for help seriously and sent me Betsy Stevenson, a wonderful mentor who guided me through the fog. Her warmth and...2024-04-1322 min
The Nigerian HustleThe Fruit of Red Soil: A Conversation With Toks AruotureSend us a textToks Aruoture is the founder of The Baby Cot Shop, a luxury baby furniture brand located in Chelsea, London. She has established herself as a significant figure in the luxury baby furniture market, focusing on craftsmanship and luxury. Her entrepreneurial journey began after leaving a career in pharmaceutical sales to launch her interior design business, which eventually led her to establish her first retail store in the United States. The 2008 financial crisis led her to relocate back to the UK, where she identified a gap in the market for luxury baby furniture, leading...2024-04-081h 16
Sol RisingS2E4 Let the River Take You with Toks AruotureWhat do you do when you reach a stumbling block on your road to success? Do you consider it the end, a sign of failure, or do you view it as a minor setback? Do you believe you will reach your goal without needing to see the final destination? Do you trust the process? Ginny and Amanda are so excited to bring you this special episode with guest Toks Aruoture, a British-Nigerian businesswoman and the founder of The Baby Cot Shop, a luxury baby furniture brand based in London. Toks also hosts the acclaimed podcast, Living Inside...2024-01-1252 min
The Resilient Retail Game Plan173 | Finding Value Beyond Business with Toks AruotureWe know that starting a business is not for the faint of heart. Even those who are full of confidence can sometimes be plagued with the fear of losing everything we have built. In today's episode, I spoke with the inspiring Toks Aruoture, owner of the Baby Cot Shop. Toks has an incredible journey to share with us. After losing her store in the US she returned to the UK and reopened her business online with a goal to have a physical location on the high street. But despite achieving that dream, she still faced fe...2023-11-2332 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp#84 Habits that Limit Business Growth: HoardingI hope you're having a great day and taking some time to relax and unwind. 😊
When it comes to growing our businesses, there are countless books, talks, videos, and articles out there that offer valuable insights and advice. They often highlight the habits and routines of successful individuals, suggesting that by emulating them, we can move closer to our own version of success. And hey, those tips can definitely be helpful!
However, if we truly want to bring about meaningful change in our lives, we need to go beyond just focusing on what we do. We...2023-07-0832 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #75 Making Peace with TrialsTrials. Difficulties. Challenges. It's all the same. Many of us define our lives by seasons; for example, we name a season difficult when things are not going as planned. In this landmark episode, #75, I share a lesson I am currently learning- making peace with trials.
Episode 72, How to Build Resilience, formed the foundation of this lesson. If you are going to accept what you cannot change, and embrace your life in its entirety, you must first learn how to be resilient.
Making peace with difficult situations does not mean embracing or expecting a life wrought with challenges. It means recognising th...2023-04-0826 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #73 Raising Teens with Intention- Celia Toks FamilyRaising our teens today in this digital age can be quite challenging, but Celia shows the world that it can be beautiful and fun. Chances are that you have had someone say something negative about raising teenagers.
Every generation is different and has to navigate the world in a way the previous one didn't. In this episode, I chat with Celia Toks and her adorable teenage daughters about how there are navigating their world. Lizzie and Rachel's maturity, authenticity and innocence are admirable, and their relationship with their mother is beautiful.
I took away many...2023-03-191h 03Living Inside Out with ToksEp #71 Raising Our Boys with Intention- Kiki JolugboMeet Kiki! She is on a mission to see the male child raised into world-class leaders, while encouraging a healthy relationship between fathers and their sons.
As a mum to four boys, I subscribe wholeheartedly to this mission. I believe girls should be empowered, but Kiki says this has translated to the empowerment of our sons being ignored. Listen and let's chat about this on social- @toksaruoture
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The Pride Road Architects PodcastToks Aruoture: Online v Bricks and Mortar StoresABOUT TOKS ARUOTURE
Toks Aruoture is a creator of high-end nursery rooms and the founder of The Baby Cot Shop in Chelsea, London. As a mindset strategist, she enables entrepreneurial women play bigger by helping them to identify limiting beliefs. Toks believes that the most valuable tools for exponential growth are the unique abilities each person carries, but having the wrong mindset can restrict access to those gifts.
Through her podcast, Living Inside Out, she helps listeners unearth their talents so they can be who God intended them to be. She is a prolific writer...2023-02-2841 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #69: Beverly Adaeze is Living AuthenticallyI sit down for a tete-a-tete with the beautiful Beverly Adaeze, content creator, lifestyle, beauty and travel influencer.
We chat about growing up, African parenting (of course!), life as a content creator, and our shared affection for fried plantains! Oh, and why did she move to Columbia? Plus, our Christian Faith.
Is there someone inspiring you'd like to see featured on Living Inside Out? Drop an email to pa@toksaruoture.com, and we'll make it happen!
And if you haven't, please Subscribe, Like and Share, and I can't wait to hear y...2023-02-1956 min
The Simplifiers PodcastHow to adopt a healthy mindset - with Toks Aruoture (PART TWO)Earlier this week, we shared part one of this conversation, all about how to adopt a healthy mindset. For me, the more and more I discuss how the subconscious in our brains work, the more I get genuinely curious with how the mind, body and spirit work in harmony. Even deeper still, what happens when one is out of whack? Does it affect your ability to make wise decisions (Yes.) Does it hijack your day and jeopardize where you are headed next? (Yes and yes.) So yeah, let’s talk about it. Now, if you haven’t hear...2023-02-0322 minThe Simplifiers PodcastHow to adopt a healthy mindset - with Toks Aruoture (PART ONE - ALL-STAR)Are you ready to learn how to adopt a healthy mindset? Because the truth is, when you get your mind in a healthy place, everything else starts to (like magic) slot into place. Have you noticed this? Opportunities open up, people pop into your mind and when you reach out to them, collaborations get sparked and life begins to unfold in beautiful ways. Abundance is found where there was once scarcity. So again, the question really is… are you ready? My special guest today is Toks Aruoture and she’s simplifying how to adopt a healthy mindset. She b...2023-01-3128 min
Luxury Business PodcastToks Aruoture: Living Life From The Inside OutFollow Elizabeth SolaruLuxury Business Emporium Website: https://luxurybusinessemporium.com/ Linkedin: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-solaru-1ba901 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luxurybusinessemporium/ Toks Aruoture https://toksaruoture.com/A great believer in using her natural gifts, Toks left her career in the pharmaceutical sales industry and launched her interior design business, specialising in residential homes.Shortly afterwards, she transitioned her passion for interiors into her first retail establishment in the United States, where she developed a love for craftsmanship and luxury furniture.The financial crisis in 2008 led t...2023-01-2341 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #67 The Iceberg Theory: How to Trust in the Unseen and Manifest your DreamsHas your dream taken a detour? Dreams and visions are invisible, a preview of what is to come, but how can you ensure they manifest as a physical reality?
In this episode, I share a powerful concept that God taught me to believe in and manifest my dreams. Too many of us embark on a path with joy and certainty only to give up halfway because the journey does not resemble what we imagined. We often translate rejection to mean it isn't possible; we call it the end of the road when it is a p...2022-12-2425 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #65 What’s Up November? Don’t forget the fruits of your hard workTo understand where you stand today and how you got there, you've got to know where you've been. In this episode, I catch you up on the last three months; I have been on hiatus for that long. It has been a trying season, and while I am still physically in that space of lesson learning, challenges, mentally, I have departed, which is good.
Our difficulties come to teach and stretch us. I believe they come to push us to increase our capacity for learning more, living more and being more of who God created u...2022-11-1428 min
From The Basement UpToks Aruoture - The Baby Cot ShopFounder & CEO of The Baby Cot Shop, Toks Aruoture, talks with host Michelle Brandriss about what it's like to be an entrepreneur and nursery interior designer. Toks shares how she went from the pharmaceutical industry to interior design while being the mother of four children.
During the conversation the two discuss traveling to help people all over the world to design their dream nurseries, and how that process has shifted with the prevalence of remote meeting apps like Zoom and WhatsApp that allow Toks to meet people anywhere they're at. Toks also talks about...2022-10-2535 minThe Simplifiers PodcastHow to adopt a healthy mindset - with Toks Aruoture (PART TWO)Earlier this week, we shared part one of this conversation, all about how to adopt a healthy mindset. For me, the more and more I discuss how the subconscious in our brains work, the more I get genuinely curious with how the mind, body and spirit work in harmony. Even deeper still, what happens when one is out of whack? Does it affect your ability to make wise decisions (Yes.) Does it hijack your day and jeopardize where you are headed next? (Yes and yes.) So yeah, let’s talk about it. Now, if you haven’t hear...2022-08-1922 minThe Simplifiers PodcastHow to adopt a healthy mindset - with Toks Aruoture (PART ONE)Are you ready to learn how to adopt a healthy mindset? Because the truth is, when you get your mind in a healthy place, everything else starts to (like magic) slot into place. Have you noticed this? Opportunities open up, people pop into your mind and when you reach out to them, collaborations get sparked and life begins to unfold in beautiful ways. Abundance is found where there was once scarcity. So again, the question really is… are you ready? My special guest today is Toks Aruoture and she’s simplifying how to adopt a healthy mindset. She b...2022-08-1628 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #47 Are You Too Busy? How Excessive Activity Can Derail Your FutureAre you too busy? How do you deal with stress? Do you even recognise when it is time to pause? Many entrepreneurs struggle to create enough room to function, this can lead to overworking. As a one who has run her own business for 15 years, I understand that there is a difference between being busy and being productive- but I sometimes struggle to recognise which is which. Having spent the last couple of months being excessively busy, I am excited to share with you, the lessons I learned.
My hope is that you will come to identify and isolate that w...2021-11-1330 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #35 Starting over: Life after Setbacks"You can't live in the past!'
Some pieces of advice are easier said than practised. We all know (on paper) not to live in the past but it can be incredibly difficult to implement. Especially if as far as you can see, your past was more pleasant than your present, and your future isn't promising either.
Living in the past can be precarious because it keeps you stagnant. Stationary people are not exempt from having big dreams and those desires will remain just that. So how can you move forward if a setback has kept you stuck?
In this ep...2021-04-2429 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #32 Faith over Fear: Harnessing the Power WithinFaith and fear are usually positioned as opposites yet they can feel the same sometimes. How can you tell the difference?
In this episode, Toks makes three comparisons between fear and faith drawing from her life and Biblical examples.
Faith draws from the future, fear feeds on past or current circumstances.
Faith is more than believing in an unseen God.
Faith is the practice of converting an invisible concept into a visible reality. Each time I succumbed to fear, it was because I looked at my past and around me for evidence of certain failure. Fear thrives on past experiences and c...2021-03-2027 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEP #31 New Beginnings: it's all in your handsIn this episode, I take you with me to Lagos, Nigeria, where the coronavirus pandemic is being experienced differently. Nigerians are known as the happiest people in the world and also happen to be unbelievably resilient. I draw lessons from my observations; I believe we can apply them and remove some restrictive beliefs.
Nigerians have a limitless mindset. I put this down to religion, and it doesn't matter which one. Nigerians are religious people, which means they believe there is a supreme being that they have access to; this being dwells outside the boundaries of what our senses perceive, leading t...2021-03-1035 min
Pregnancy without FearThe Baby Cot Shop: Interview with Toks Aruoture, luxury nursery interior designerMeet Toks Aruoture! In this week's episode we talk to mindset strategist, mum, wife, luxury nursery interior designer and founder of The Baby Cot Shop, Toks Aruoture.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/pregnancy-without-fear/message2021-03-0831 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #19 Walking Through the Fire: Mindsets to Adopt During a Challenging SeasonI once heard someone say everyone is in one of three stages, just come out of a trial, currently in one or about to step into one. We can agree that challenges are inevitable, but how can we go through the fire without giving up? In this episode, I share three mindsets we can adopt to help us journey through the difficult seasons of life.
Growth mindset.
A growth mindset believes that where they are and what they see isn't the end, that there is more beyond. There is joy after this season. It allows you...2020-08-2027 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #18 Step Out of Your Comfort ZoneWhy do we shy away from stepping out of the comfort zone?
The brain prefers the familiar, predictable part. It's easier for it to navigate a route it has always gone on. Each time you change activity or start something new, your brain uses up calories. It translates the unfamiliar to mean danger and will work to get you out of there.
So when we are gifted with a new idea, thinking and talking about it in the safety of your old space is fun. But the moment you try to run with it and start to put down a fo...2020-08-1331 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #17 Words to Keep You Going When You Feel StuckWhat do you say to yourself when you're discouraged? The words we hear on a daily basis determine the direction of our thoughts, and consequently our actions. What we listen to during intense situations carry enough power to stir you away from or into an emotional dungeon.
In this episode, I share some of my favourite quotes, mantras and scriptures that can help you start moving again when you feel stuck.
I Am the Captain of My Fate
Not as pompous as it might initially sound, especially if you believe in t...2020-08-0729 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #16 More Life Hacks for the Entrepreneurial Woman
Being a woman in business comes with its share of challenges, but we also have our superpower to help us navigate them. In this episode, #16 of the Living Inside Out Podcast, I share four tips for the new female business owner to help her win at life and business.
Business Life Hack: Build Your Community
There is a saying in business that goes you can’t work on your business while working in your business. Take out time to zoom out of your business so you can make an informed decision about what nee...2020-07-3029 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #15 Life Lessons For the Entrepreneurial WomanIn the United Kingdom, 32% of businesses are owned by women. In the United States the figure is 39% and in Ghana, its a whopping 44%.
When it comes to employment, 72.7% of women form part of the workforce in the United Kingdom and in the USA the figure is 57.9%.
More women are balancing or attempting to balance a job or business with raising the family, yet, we keep adding to our plate without making room for more.
We have a responsibility to decide what we take on so that we can...2020-07-2428 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #14 Digging for AnswersIn the previous episodes, we looked at how our environment feeds us, and we zeroed in on the role of friends in our life. Now because we are made up of spirit, soul and body, it follows that we are being fed not just from the outside, but from our spirit and our mind.
How do you know where to receive advice from if your mind is saying one thing and your spirit is saying something else?
The mind gives instructions in several ways, but emotions are the most obvious. The spirit also gives instructions using such tools like our in...2020-07-1626 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #13 How to Make and Keep Good Friends
Narcissism. I watched Jada Pinkett smith's red table talk where she had a psychologist as a guest. Dr Ramani Durvasula shared the traits of a narcissist and In the spirit of becoming a better friend to my friends, I found myself hoping I’m not a narcissist. We think of someone who is so self-absorbed that they make everything about them, and while I don’t think I do, I did check a box or two while watching the programme. In the end, I concluded that I need to stay on that path to becoming a better, less...2020-07-0927 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #12 Toxic Friendships: Six Types of Friends to AvoidDid you know that the people in your circle influence the decisions you make? Taking time to inspect your environment and how it is feeding you is crucial, and your relationships form a large part of your environment.
In this episode I share, some of my experiences with friendships that have had a limiting effect on me. The stories are true but the names are fictitious. You may find some of these rates in a relative, co-worker or even yourself- as I did.
Passive Aggressive Porsha
My first Porsha was in secondary school. The day the friendship came to an end wa...2020-07-0333 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #11 The Value of a Good FriendA girl’s first friend is herself, before her siblings if she has any. The closeness and love we have for ourselves I believe forms the foundation of future relationships. Any insecurities we carry are in part responsible for any toxic relationships we are holding on to.
I don’t know about you but as I’ve gotten older, my circle of friends have shrunk. Maybe its because you truly need a village to raise you until you don’t need as much handholding any longer. Letting go of your tribe’s hands can be a sign of growth- although not always...2020-06-2727 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEP #10 More Lies we Believe: Recognising the source of wrong mindsetsWhen it comes to removing wrong mindsets, we have to understand the source. Without knowing how a lie became our truth, we run the risk of layering our minds with the same stuff again.
I know myself is a mindset that sounds grand, but it can be limiting. When the certainty of your knowledge of self prevents you from attempting great feats, it is a problem.
It is good to know yourself, but don't allow a fixed mindset to rob you of new opportunities. A fixed mindset believes in it's abilities, but doesn't think it can acquire new abilities. A growt...2020-06-1827 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #9 Lies We Believe: Exposing the mindsets that limit growthMindsets are the basis from which our thoughts are formed. Your mindset is responsible for how you come to conclusions and often, for the thoughts you think. So what happens when we have a negative mindset that Is so believable?
We unearth them. In this episode I share three limiting beliefs I discovered where holding me back and how I was able to get rid of them.
You don’t just get to change your mindset., you have to unearth it and replace it with the truth.
It Is Not Supposed To Be This Way.
This was a mindset I inhe...2020-06-1230 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #8 Little Balls of Fire: The Power of Small MistakesWe have all been there, how one seemingly tiny error ends up setting everything on fire.
A single tweet from Justine Sacco set her career and the Twitterverse, alight. That was in 2015. She posted a racist comment then boarded a 12-hour flight to South Africa. Justine landed to meet the chaos including the loss of her job.
The use of racist slurs along with its denial, plus Mark Fuhrman's refusal to answer a pertinent question changed the outcome of the O.J Simpson trial.
Derek Chauvin, a single thought to kneel on George Floyd...2020-06-0727 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #7 How to Handle Intense EmotionsEmotions are what we experience when a thought moves us to act.
Some are more intense than others and the intense ones are responsible for equally intense actions or beliefs. In this episode, How to Handle Intense Emotions, I share some tips on using the power of fear.
We can either be led by fear, or we can use fear as a springboard to leap forward.
I have learned that you can never understand a person until you are able to get under their skin, enter into their world and see things from...2020-06-0229 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #6 Joy or Pain: Emotional Decision MakingHow do you make decisions- serious ones? Many of us do so based on our emotions. We are driven by the urgency, the pressing need that fear carries or pulled by the impulse joy brings. When we make decisions solely in response to our emotions, we are leaving the outcome to chance.
The trouble is emotions are unreliable. And relying on them can lead us down the wrong path.
In this episode, I share real examples of how I have made decisions based on either fear or joy and the complications that resulted from them.
My hope is that by the...2020-05-2728 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #5 The Principle of IntentionYour feelings drive your actions. It is possible to have one desire but work towards an unrelated goal, one that your intention dictates.
Here's some news for you; we don't get what we want. We get what we intend.
In this episode, I share a story of how I had the privilege of being mentored by a seasoned, successful businessman, yet I did not experience the business growth I wanted because my intentions did not line up with my desires.
If you don't know what your overall desires are, you will end up being impulsive and create short ter...2020-05-2026 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #4 Other People's OpinionsCrossbreeding has its place in the animal and plant kingdom, but grafting your idea on to someone else's opinion guarantees an infertile result.
Hybrids take the benefits from both sides.
Hybrids are also sterile and don’t have the life to keep reproducing.
Our gifts are given to help us navigate challenges so why do we graft the opinions of others on to ours?
You can develop the confidence to trust your ideas and stop running to people to approve them.
Your ideas have virtue, or life in them.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are jus...2020-05-1727 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #3 The Concept of Authentic LivingAuthenticity is an elixir. It strips off the layers of expectation- ours and theirs- so we can connect as humans and experience the joy of simply being ourselves. Authentic living Is the mould which we fit perfectly into.
You are an original, but your layers need to be removed.
Does what you believe match up to what you say you believe?
There is an invisible part of you that existed before you were created.
Jeremiah 1:5 Before I formed you in the womb I knew[ you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophe...2020-05-1321 minLiving Inside Out with ToksEp #2 The Rock Star Story: Rising Above the ChallengeLife comes with upheavals and everyone can name that monumental event that they regard as a landmark one. Chances are, you can also tell the story that led to the event.
The way you tell your story influences others' perception of you, and you can not tell a powerful story if you only see yourself through smudged lenses. Writing your own story gives you the tools to show up in a powerful, confident manner that will lead you to live the life you truly want.
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The Property Renovation PodcastInterior Design for Children, with Toks AruotureI don’t know about you but I have two young kids a boy and a girl and my partner and I are always talking about changing their room around and given it a new look.
But how do you know what’s the right balance, the right colour, whilst trying to make it look cute and not over loaded.
Well a few weeks ago I came across and event on event Brite, which is a really cool app if you want to find different workshops and course on DIY and improvement but anything for that matter.
Anyway this evening work...2019-02-0342 min