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High Performance HealthBitesize: The #1 Regret People Have in Life (and How to Avoid It) | John R. MilesJoin Angela and John R. Miles for a thought-provoking discussion about the challenges of pursuing one's passion amidst financial concerns and life commitments. Drawing on research by psychologist Tom Gilovich, the conversation highlights the common regret of not pursuing an ideal life and the importance of breaking free from a cycle of unfulfilling work.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Pursuing Your Dreams: A significant number of people regret not pursuing their ideal life, with 76% expressing that their biggest regrets are the "what ifs" and "should haves" rather than mistakes made
Gradual Change: Transformations in life do not happen overnight. J...
2025-08-2913 min
Choiceology with Katy MilkmanWhen It Feels Like Everyone's WatchingWe've all been there. Maybe you fumbled a line in a presentation. Or tripped on a shoelace. Or suffered a bad hair day. It can feel like the whole world is watching you—and judging you—in those embarrassing moments. But are people paying as much attention to you as you think?In this episode of Choiceology with Katy Milkman, we explore why we tend to blow our own missteps out of proportion.We go behind the scenes of some of the most consequential speeches of World War II. Speeches given by a man who was c...
2025-08-2536 min
Choiceology with Katy MilkmanObstacle Illusions: With Guests Daniella McCahey & Tom GilovichFirst-born children tend to believe that their parents were harder on them than their siblings are willing to grant. Football fans take disproportionate note of the challenging games on their team's schedules. We're wired to interpret our challenges as bigger than our advantages, even if the reality is more balanced.In this episode of Choiceology with Katy Milkman, we consider our tendency to focus more attention on our negative or challenging experiences than on our positive or easy ones. This asymmetry also appears in how we remember the lives and experiences of other people. Daniella Mc...
2025-04-2130 min
Pivotal DecisionsThe 10 Habits of Perpetual UnderachieversIn this episode, Stan explores the Habits of Perpetual Underachievers and the behaviors that hold people back from moving forward in life. Drawing from research, biblical wisdom, and practical insights, Stan highlights the importance of making the best use of our time and overcoming mindsets that lead to regret. Learn how habits like procrastination, fear of failure, lack of discipline, and poor time management can prevent you from fulfilling your God-given purpose. This episode challenges you to examine your priorities, take intentional steps forward, and trust God’s plan for your life.Key Takeaways:Regret Research:Re...
2024-12-1721 min
Voice over Work - An Audiobook SamplerSocial Skills for the Overthinker, Chapter by ChapterFeel yourself become tongue-tied around others? Or worse yet, you simply avoid others because you are constantly worried about being judged?It's not logical and it doesn't make sense, but it can't be reasoned with. Social anxiety can be crippling, to the point where you don't even want to order food!How to understand your anxious brain's wiring, soothe it, and get around it.Social Skills for Overthinkers is about more than what to say and when to say it, it is about how to gain your freedom. This book takes a much...
2024-09-0221 min
Voice over Work - An Audiobook SamplerSocial Skills for the Overthinker: Beat Self-Sabotage, Escape Your Comfort Zone, and Get Out Of Your Head By: Nick TrentonFeel yourself become tongue-tied around others? Or worse yet, you simply avoid others because you are constantly worried about being judged?It's not logical and it doesn't make sense, but it can't be reasoned with. Social anxiety can be crippling, to the point where you don't even want to order food!How to understand your anxious brain's wiring, soothe it, and get around it.Social Skills for Overthinkers is about more than what to say and when to say it, it is about how to gain your freedom. This book takes a much...
2024-08-2606 min
Freakonomics Radio596. Farewell to a Generational TalentDaniel Kahneman left his mark on academia (and the real world) in countless ways. A group of his friends and colleagues recently gathered in Chicago to reflect on this legacy — and we were there, with microphones. SOURCES:Maya Bar-Hillel, professor emeritus of psychology at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem.Shane Frederick, professor of marketing at the Yale School of Management.Thomas Gilovich, professor of psychology at Cornell University.Matt Killingsworth, senior fellow at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.Barbara Mellers, professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania.Eldar Shafir, director of the Kah...
2024-07-1152 min
Celebration ChurchWIN THE DAY: Cut The Rope - AudioOne way or the other, there comes a moment when you need to cut the rope and take a step or a leap of faith. At the end of our lives, according to psychologist Tom Gilovich, 84% of our regrets will be the things we would have, could have, and should have done but did not do. It’s not the mistakes we made, as painful as that is. It’s the opportunities we miss. Yes, you will experience a few fails, a few falls. But cutting the rope is the way we cut the ribbon on our dreams. We aren’t call...
2024-07-0147 min
Celebration ChurchWIN THE DAY: Cut The Rope - AudioOne way or the other, there comes a moment when you need to cut the rope and take a step or a leap of faith. At the end of our lives, according to psychologist Tom Gilovich, 84% of our regrets will be the things we would have, could have, and should have done but did not do. It’s not the mistakes we made, as painful as that is. It’s the opportunities we miss. Yes, you will experience a few fails, a few falls. But cutting the rope is the way we cut the ribbon on our dreams. We aren’t call...
2024-07-0147 min
Chaotic CreativesDoing the Thing: The Power of Imperfect ActionRachael and Lauren talk about the concept of taking "imperfect action" when following what fascinates them, and how this could lead to new insights and a higher tolerance for uncertainty. Plus, Rachael shares fun practices to turn off autopilot and find joy, even at the post office. Episode Link Mentions:Rachael's "Prioritize Play" Workshop: https://rachaelrenae.com/prioritizeplayThe Ideal Road Not Taken by Tom Gilovich: https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2018/05/woulda-coulda-shoulda-haunting-regret-failing-our-ideal-selves The transcript for this episode can be found here!
Cover art designed and photographed by Kristle Marshall for Hom Sw...
2024-06-241h 04
A Time to Thrill - Conversations with AIME AUSTIN Crime Fiction AuthorEpisode 47: A Time to Thrill – Conversation with Aime Austin – featuring Marlene RheinFilmmakers are often lifted to mythical proportions in our culture. They create movies that mark the moments of our lives, push new phrases into our common lexicon, and for many leave lasting impressions. This month I have the joy of speaking with a triple-threat writer/director/actor Marlene Rhein
Let’s chat. I have *so* many questions.
You can find Marlene:
Website: https://www.marlenerhein.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marlenerhein/
Show Notes:
Who is Joi Seracha?
The So So You Don’t Know
2 Pac Shakur – All About U (Music Video NSFW) –
Jia Jiang Wh...
2024-06-011h 18
LIFTOFF: The Art & Science of Conversation9. WHEN: It's Time to EndLIFTOFF: The Art & Science of ConversationEpisode 9In Episode 9, host Ilana Gilovich learns how to navigate conversational endings gracefully. Featured Guests:Tom Gilovich: Cornell University psychology professor and co-director of the Cornell Center for Behavioral Economics and Decision ResearchAlison Wood Brooks: Harvard Business School professor and author of TALK: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being OurselvesMallory Gracenin: Actor, writer, consultant, and producerTessa Velazquez: Chef, restaurant co-owner, founder + writer of The Sobremesa, and co-founder of YESBABEMax Stossel: Poet, Filmmaker, Speaker, and Founder of Social AwakeningAdam Mastroianni: Experimental...
2024-05-2947 minLIFTOFF: The Art & Science of Conversation3. WHERE: Setting the MoodLIFTOFF: The Art & Science of ConversationEpisode 3In Episode 3, host Ilana Gilovich learns how to design conversational environments to encourage vibrant conversation. Featured Guests:Alejandro Rodriguez: Writer, director, and founder of Alejo CommunicationsTom Gilovich: Cornell University psychology professor and co-director of the Cornell Center for Behavioral Economics and Decision ResearchTessa Velazquez: Chef, restaurant co-owner, founder + writer of The Sobremesa, and co-founder of YESBABEFred Dust: Founder of Dust&Co. and author of Making Conversation: Seven Essential Elements of Meaningful ConversationMorsels Mentioned: Making Conversation: Seven Essential E...
2024-05-2929 minLIFTOFF: The Art & Science of Conversation1. INTRODUCTION: The World's Most Underrated Art FormLIFTOFF: The Art & Science of ConversationEpisode 1In Liftoff's first episode, host Ilana Gilovich shares her passion for conversation as an art form, and begins her quest to discover the secrets of extraordinary conversation. Featured Guest: Tom Gilovich, Cornell University psychology professor and co-director of the Cornell Center for Behavioral Economics and Decision Research. Morsels Mentioned:"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." - Maya An...
2024-05-2911 min
Athena Wellness Podcast - Reclaiming Our Warrior SpiritWellness Wednesday: The Regret of Paths Not Taken#240 Today is Wednesday, time for a little wellness boost – a shortened episode to help keep your Warrior Vibe high.In this episode, Kathy’s sharing what she learned about people who feel remorse in their life by the paths they didn’t take. Kathy then invites you to consider three suggestions to move directionally toward your ideal self. If you’ve been looking for some inspiration to shape your next life chapter, this is the episode for you! Links:
2024-01-1013 min
The Special Needs Mom PodcastDefending GratitudeSend us a text (Note: we are not able to respond but LOVE to hear from you!!)Hello and welcome to the podcast. Feeling overwhelmed and struggling to find gratitude in the midst of managing life as a special needs mom? Let's unpack those feelings together. In this special Thanksgiving episode, we're taking a deep-dive into the concept of "defending gratitude." We'll explore why we often struggle to be grateful in the face of adversity, and introduce practical strategies to help you navigate these emotional hurdles. Positive Psychology The Enemies of Gratitude: Hidden Brain...
2023-11-2233 min
Future TrippingDrs. Tom Gilovich and Shai Davidai: For Anyone Who Wonders Why Life Can Feel So Hard [even harder than it may be]This week we are joined by two experts on people’s perceptions of the world and their influence on our actions. Laura has been an admirer, and drawn on the work of, Dr. Gilovich and Dr. Davidai for years, and during their conversation today, they generously indulge Laura as she asks them to apply their research and own personal practices to Laura’s own work in trauma, vicarious trauma, overwhelm, and systematic oppression/structural supremacy. They cover everything from enduring regret to the headwinds/tailwinds asymmetry. With humor and candor, they relay their pioneering research in very accessible ways and...
2022-10-201h 14
Stanford Psychology Podcast66 - Shai Davidai: Pursuing Status in a Zero-Sum WorldEric chats with Shai Davidai, Assistant Professor in the Management Division of Columbia Business School. His research examines people’s everyday judgments of themselves, other people, and society as a whole. He studies perceptions of inequality and competitive, zero-sum beliefs about the world. Shai received his PhD from Cornell under Tom Gilovich’s supervision. His work has been published in various top-tier journals.In this episode, Eric and Shai discuss how people pursue status. When do people seek status through dominant aggressive bullying and when do they receive it due to their competence and a good character? Shai...
2022-10-0651 min
On WisdomA Joyous Journey from Black-and-White to Grey (with Tom Gilovich)Is "the spectrum" a more helpful way to think about the world than "categories"? Tom Gilovich joins Igor and Charles to discuss the perils of black-and-white thinking, the evolving data on the hot hand phenomenon, the science of regret, why foxes are wiser than hedgehogs, and the freedom that comes from learning that we are of less interest to other people than we think. Igor considers the limits of psychological nudging in tackling society’s structural problems, Tom shares the perspective that leads him to be so unrelentingly joyful, and Charles learns that even scientists have to work hard to...
2022-08-0148 min
Future Ready Leadership With Jacob MorganCornell Psychologist On The Difference Between Wisdom and Intelligence, Causes of Poor Performance, and Dealing With BiasTom Gilovich is an American psychologist who is the Irene Blecker Rosenfeld Professor of Psychology at Cornell University. He has conducted research in social psychology, decision making, behavioral economics. He is also the author of the book, The Wisest One in the Room: How You Can Benefit from Social Psychology’s Most Powerful Insights. What you will learn in this episode: The difference between wisdom and intelligence Why we misevaluate certain things Strategies and techniques to use to be the wisest person in the room How experiences have a different effect on us than purchasing material thi...
2022-06-061h 13The Future Of Work With Jacob MorganCornell Psychologist On The Difference Between Wisdom and Intelligence, Causes of Poor Performance, and Dealing With BiasTom Gilovich is an American psychologist who is the Irene Blecker Rosenfeld Professor of Psychology at Cornell University. He has conducted research in social psychology, decision making, behavioral economics. He is also the author of the book, The Wisest One in the Room: How You Can Benefit from Social Psychology’s Most Powerful Insights. What you will learn in this episode: The difference between wisdom and intelligence Why we misevaluate certain things Strategies and techniques to use to be the wisest person in the room How experiences have a different effect on us than purchasing material thi...
2022-06-061h 13
The Mind SocietyDr. Tom Gilovich: Heuristics & Cognitive BiasesTwo significant, yet rarely discussed in the mainstream, psychological phenomena are heuristics and cognitive biases. Heuristics, also known as “mental shortcuts”, are used to help us make judgements and, thus, decisions without having to exhaust a lot of mental energy. These sets of simple and efficient rules are an evolutionary adaptation meant to help us; however, in certain situations these rules are erroneous, thereby creating cognitive biases. Cognitive biases are an individual’s subjective construction of reality that influences the way they perceive and behave in the world. When cognitive biases can become harmful is when they lead to illogi...
2022-02-0431 min
Stanford Psychology Podcast31 - Tom Gilovich: Judging Individuals, Judging GroupsEric chats with Tom Gilovich, Professor of Psychology at Cornell University. Tom’s Judgment and Belief Lab studies how people evaluate the evidence of their everyday experience to make judgments, form beliefs, and decide on courses of action. Why do people make seemingly wrong decisions? When do they misread evidence? Tom’s research has been widely cited around the world, and he is the author of multiple books, including The Wisest One in the Room, co-authored with Lee Ross. In this episode, Tom discusses his recent work on how people judge groups differently than individuals. For example, peop...
2022-02-0342 min
Graceful Atheist PodcastBook Review: Scout Mindset with JimmyMy returning guest this week is Jimmy. Jimmy and I review Julia Galef’s book Scout Mindset: Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don’t. We explore the book from two lenses: Deconversion and Secular Grace. Jimmy brings an intense focus on humility, self-honesty and truth seeking to the conversation. The perfect complement to Julia’s book. Julia GalefThe best description of motivated reasoning I’ve ever seen comes from psychologist Tom Gilovich. When we want something to be true, he said, we ask ourselves, “Can I believe this?,” searching for an excuse to accept it. When we don’t want s...
2021-09-201h 09
The Dispatch PodcastThe Treasure of the Scout MindsetAre you a “scout” or a “soldier”? What do those terms even mean? In Julia Galef’s new book, The Scout Mindset, she argues the scout mindset is underrepresented in today’s world. “The scout’s role, unlike the soldier, is not to go out and attack or defend,” she says. “It’s to go out, and see what’s really out there as clearly as possible and to put together as accurate a map of the territory or a situation as you can.” Plus, listen closely for Steve’s John McLaughlin impression and why Julia believes bouncing between Airbnbs is way better than s...
2021-04-091h 17
Mental Models Podcast It's not a brain in a jar, that's the gist!Mental Models: Streaking Star Effect or Bias: #64A talent that you have, but will it last, unlikely! We all want that superior money earning performance to continue, and we enjoy the success of an individual over a team (Jessie Walker and Tom Gilovitch reported on it in 2020, links below). Because we like narratives and we want to be the hero of our story, just like Kolby Bryant or LeBron James were for the Lakers.
For more on best investing strategies, avoiding bias and learning about your brain BUY 5 star reviewed book “Understanding Behavioral Bia$” on Amazon - link here: http://amzn.to/2XHtsOE Continue to listen to Ment...
2020-11-0923 min
Choiceology with Katy MilkmanIf Only …: With Guests Stirling Hart & Colin CamererIn a past episode titled “Spoiled for Choice,” we looked at how decision-making can be hampered by our desire to avoid the painful emotion of regret. In fact, regret aversion can cause people to abandon certain decisions entirely.In this episode of Choiceology with Katy Milkman, we look more closely at regret itself. Stirling Hart is a professional lumberjack. He’s also a world-class lumberjack sports athlete. He has travelled the world competing against the best of the best in events such as the underhand chop, the spring board, the single buck, and the standing block c...
2020-10-1231 min
Room 104Psychologist Explains Biggest Regrets People HaveEver wondered what you're going to be regretting come the end of your life? Prof of psychology Tom Gilovich from Cornell explains what he discovered with his research into end of life regrets. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
2020-06-2315 min
De agora em diante#11 - Como se tornar o “Eu Ideal” e ter uma vida sem arrependimentos.Se você estivesse em estado terminal de uma doença, você ficaria feliz com a vida que teve? Ou ficaria arrependido de não ter feito outras coisas? Segundo o psicólogo Tom Gilovich, esta é a maior causa de arrependimento das pessoas. Mas não se preocupe, isto irá mudar assim que você ouvir este episódio e conhecer o Eu Ideal!
2019-12-1910 min
The Non-Anxious Leader PodcastEpisode 24: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying (and How to Avoid Them)On our deathbed, most of our regrets will be things we left undone. Four of the top five are so-called regrets of inaction. Looking at them from a family systems perspective will help to avoid them.
Show Notes:
This article from Cornell summarizes Tom Gilovich's work on regret.
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departed by Bronnie Ware
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2019-06-2414 min
Freakonomics Radio382. How Goes the Behavior-Change Revolution?An all-star team of behavioral scientists discovers that humans are stubborn (and lazy, and sometimes dumber than dogs). We also hear about binge drinking, humblebragging, and regrets. Recorded live in Philadelphia with guests including Richard Thaler, Angela Duckworth, Katy Milkman, and Tom Gilovich. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
2019-06-2051 min
What's the Big Idea with Andrew HornTom Gilovich - The Power of Investing in Experiences vs. Material PossessionsThomas Gilovich is the Irene Blecker Rosenfeld Professor of Psychology at Cornell University and co-director of the Cornell Center for Behavioral Economics and Decision Research. He specializes in the study of everyday judgment and reasoning, psychological well-being, and self-assessment. In addition to his articles in scientific journals, Dr. Gilovich is the author of How We Know What Isn’t So (Free Press), Why Smart People Make Big Money Mistakes (Simon and Schuster, with Gary Belsky), Social Psychology (W.W. Norton, with Dacher Keltner, Serena Chen, and Richard Nisbett), and The Wisest One in the Room (The Free Press, with Le...
2019-05-2052 min
Choiceology with Katy MilkmanThe Mystery of Chance: With Guests Andy Marocco & Tom GilovichHave you ever seen a cloud overhead that looks very much like, say, a rabbit? Or maybe you’ve found a potato chip that had an uncanny resemblance to Elvis, or a cornflake that was almost exactly the shape of the state of Texas. What are the chances?
In this episode of Choiceology with Katy Milkman, we explore curious events and mysterious patterns in order to reveal the human habit of ascribing meaning to randomness.
Andy Marocco of the Naval Air Station Fort Lauderdale Museum joins Katy to revisit some of the most famous and en...
2019-01-2127 min
Behavioral Grooves PodcastBarry Ritholtz: How to Reduce Evolutionary PanicIn this special edition, we sat down with Barry Ritholtz, a Wall Street investment maven, host of the podcast Masters In Business, a regular contributor to Bloomberg TV, CNBC and The Street, as well as an author whose pieces appear in The Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post as well as his blog, The Big Picture.
To say that our conversation with Barry was unconventional is an understatement. We talked for well over an hour about the application of behavioral science in his investment firm, predicting market downturns, Steely Dan, behavioral science researchers, great investors throughout history...
2019-01-0642 minThe Future Of Work With Jacob MorganThe Future Of Work Is Employee ExperienceA study about satisfaction carried out by a professor of psychology gives us something to think about in the workplace. Tom Gilovich, a professor of psychology at Cornell University, did a study along with some members of his team to find out how levels of satisfaction are affected by spending money on experiences versus spending money on physical things. Gilovich and his team found that people who spend money on physical things such as phones, computers, houses or cars tend to have a drop in satisfaction as time goes on. On the other hand, they found that...
2018-01-1802 minFuture Ready Leadership With Jacob MorganThe Future Of Work Is Employee ExperienceA study about satisfaction carried out by a professor of psychology gives us something to think about in the workplace. Tom Gilovich, a professor of psychology at Cornell University, did a study along with some members of his team to find out how levels of satisfaction are affected by spending money on experiences versus spending money on physical things. Gilovich and his team found that people who spend money on physical things such as phones, computers, houses or cars tend to have a drop in satisfaction as time goes on. On the other hand, they found that...
2018-01-1802 min
Curious Minds at WorkCM 063: Janice Kaplan on the Power of GratitudeGratitude has a dramatic impact on well-being and success, yet many of us are not aware of this research.
In this groundbreaking book, The Gratitude Diaries: How a Year Looking on the Bright Side Can Transform Your Life, Janice Kaplan explains the science behind the power of gratitude. The author of twelve books, including The New York Times bestselling memoir, I will See you Again, Janice was an award-winning producer at ABC-TV Good Morning America, Executive Producer of the TV Guide Television Group, and Editor-in-Chief of Parade Magazine.
In this episode, Janice explains the surprising, counterintuitive connection between gratitude and...
2016-11-2135 min
Raise Your GameThe Wisest One in the RoomWe often rely on the wisdom of others when there's a tough decision to make. So how can we learn to reflect and turn to ourselves in times of challenge and adversity? Tom Gilovich shares some principles to developing real wisdom, as opposed to mere cleverness, to help us level up our understanding in challenges both mundane and extraordinary. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2016-05-2615 min
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