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Midlife ConfidenceJoin Me on a New Journey: Announcing the O Remember Podcast [78]Our lives are continually unfolding, sometimes in surprising ways. My life coaching background has helped me navigate some big changes in the past year, and I’m happy to share a new podcast I’m doing now. Listen in to learn more and hear the first episode of the O Remember Podcast. I hope you will come with me on this new journey!Links
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2023-09-0819 min
To Your Greatness with Dawn MathisCreating Confidence and Rediscovering the Midlife Experience with Vauna DavisBook a free Life Reflection Session with Dawn Mathis: http://ToYourGreatness.net.
This time on “To Your Greatness with Dawn Mathis”, Dawn is joined by Vauna Davis, a certified life coach that specializes in midlife confidence. Her goal is to help others by teaching them to see into their own minds, take charge, and think in ways that serve them best.
Together, Dawn and Vauna talk about Vauna’s journey to becoming a life coach. They also dive into topics like creating life experiences with our minds, getting unstuck from unmanaged emotions and thoughts, and the im...
2022-04-2842 min
Midlife ConfidenceTime Insecurity [77]Are you constantly feeling like you don’t have enough time or you’re wasting time? You might have a condition called time insecurity. Listen and see if you have these symptoms so you can recognize why you’re suffering. You’ll learn to diagnose the signs of time scarcity and time guilt.Show notes:Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com
2022-04-1112 minMidlife ConfidenceYour Time Story [76]Understanding your story about time is the beginning of a healthier new relationship with it. Here are 11 questions about your time story to explore:1. What do I think about time?2. Do I feel like I have enough time?3. Why don’t I have enough time?4. What have I tried to do to manage my time? How has that worked for me?5. What 3 emotions do I feel about time?6. What do I think about myself and how I use my time?7. Do I believe I’ve used my time well? When did I or...
2022-04-0411 minMidlife ConfidenceTime Peace 101 [75]What if we could stop fighting with time and finally use it for what is was created for? Time management & productivity training can only get us so far. To truly feel at peace with time, you have to go to a deeper level – your relationship with time. God created time and gave us all of it we need to do what we’re here to do. Once you get your time beliefs right, then managing your time is the final skill to using your time on earth well. This is the first episode in a series exploring how to crea...
2022-03-2811 minMidlife ConfidenceQuiet Phase [74]We all have quiet phases, when we feel the need to retreat from being so busy and think about how to rebalance our lives. It may feel indulgent, but it’s important! I’m going through a quiet phase myself – maybe you’ll relate to some of this too.In this episode:We have many doorways to use to shift our emotional stateOur mind, our body, and our spirit all need some re-alignment at timesJust a few degrees off will cause us to miss our destinationLinks: Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Matter Of a Few Degrees...
2022-03-0715 minMidlife ConfidenceTop Marriage Tips – 3 We Ignore, 3 We’re Working On, and 3 We Made Up - with Mike [73]Mike and I are celebrating 39 years together, so we’re sharing a little of the reality of marriage in midlife. We’ve all heard lots of marriage advice, but by this point we take it with a grain of salt! We’re not a perfect example of marriage by any means, but we’re sharing what our experience is like now. Maybe you’ll relate to some of this too. In this episode:Learning to listen only to hear what is true for the other personLetting each other just be who they areDon’t play the other person’...
2022-02-2135 minMidlife ConfidenceGod is Writing Your Grown-Up Child’s Story with Pamela Henkelman [72]Being a parent of adult children is a sacred responsibility - and a challenge! But unlike all the wonderful support we had while raising young kids, there are very few people helping us figure this out. My guest, Pamela Henkelman, is here to change that. She helps Christian moms navigate their changing roles with their adult children through intimacy with God. Join us for a conversation about surrendering our adult children, watching our kids go through hard times, letting married children cleave to their spouse, and the new experience of being an in-law. It all comes with this stage...
2022-02-0725 minMidlife ConfidenceRelease and Reset [Meditation][71]We’re kind of like an Instant Pot – pressure builds up, and we need to release it regularly so we don’t explode into outbursts, illness, and breakdowns. What are your pressure release practices that allow stress and tension to release continually, and keep you out of the danger zone? The first thing is to be aware that stress is growing, and then take time to release it and reset. In this episode:In midlife, we deserve extra attention, extra care and extra time to recover from stress.What is the tension trying to tell us?The Res...
2022-01-2422 minMidlife ConfidenceThe Reset Meditation [Bonus for 71]This visualization was first shared in Episode 71. I’m reposting is here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need a reminder to de-stress. Sometimes we let pressure build because we aren’t aware of it until we’re ready to explode. What if we had something to remind us to release the stress before it makes us miserable? Take a break with the Reset Meditation and imagine what it could be like to continually recover and reset to a state of well-being and peace.Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Jo...
2022-01-2408 minMidlife ConfidenceIntegrate What's Working in Midlife & The Soup Story [70]By midlife we have a lifetime of experience and insight - it's the perfect time to pause, recognize what is working and integrate it into our life. The first step is to slow down all the consuming for now. What if you already know what you need to know? What if you already know enough? We can integrate what we already have and use it to contribute something only we can do.In this episode:Keep the treasure, toss the trashLess consuming, more producingThe Soup Story - an analogy for midlife integrationLinks:Vauna’s...
2022-01-1016 minMidlife ConfidenceThe Movie Meditation [Bonus for 69]This visualization was first shared in Episode 69. I’m republishing it here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need a reassuring perspective on your life.When you’re busy and distracted, you forget how sweet, meaningful, and beautiful your life is. Taking time to step back and watch yourself from a distance helps you see that you really are the star of your story. Take a break with the Movie Meditation to become a compassionate observer of your own legendary life. Show Notes5 Simple Practices: For A Lifetime Of Joy...
2021-12-2709 minMidlife ConfidenceA Front-Row Seat to Your Legendary Story [69]When you’re busy and distracted, you forget how sweet, meaningful, and beautiful your life is. Taking time to step back and watch yourself from a distance helps you see that you really are the star of your story. Take a break with the Movie Meditation to become a compassionate observer of your own legendary life. The visualization is also published as a bonus stand-alone meditation – The Movie Meditation [Bonus for 69]Show notes:5 Simple Practices: For A Lifetime Of Joy, Amaya PryceVauna’s Instagram @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com
2021-12-2713 minMidlife ConfidenceLightening Up by Letting Go with Michael Ann Part 2 [68]One of the most basic principles of living a more peaceful life is understanding what is - and what isn’t - in our control. As a teacher, Michael Ann gets opportunities to practice this every day. In part 2 of coaching with Michael Ann, she shares how the coaching experience has already helped her feel more at ease, more herself, and more in charge of how she responds. She’s finding that taking charge of her thoughts and feelings in the classroom allows her actions to come naturally from a place of love. Best of all in a few week...
2021-12-1326 minMidlife ConfidenceDo This to 10X Your Influence on Your Grown-Up Children with LaMonte & McKelle [67]Learn 1 practical thing you can do to help your children build an identity that serves them well and builds your relationship at the same time! This is good for children of any age from 0-99 – we never grow out of this need. So listen in to learn more about how you can spend a little time that will reap exponential rewards for a lifetime. This is part 2 of 2 episodes with LaMonte Wilcox and McKelle Wilcox – be sure to listen to episode 66, Release Your Adult Children from Painful Patterns. In this episode:Kids are here to tea...
2021-11-2937 minMidlife ConfidenceRelease Your Adult Children from Painful Patterns with LaMonte & McKelle [66]If you have grown-up children - or children of any age - what would you be willing to do to help them live their best, most rewarding life? For sure we would sacrifice immense amounts of time, energy, and resources. Even better, what if it wasn’t that hard? My guests today, Lamonte Wilcox and his daughter McKelle Wilcox, raise the possibility that releasing ourselves from the patterns we picked up when we were young can allow our children (even adult children!) to live free from the limiting patterns we passed down. Join us for part 1 of 2 episodes of th...
2021-11-2225 minMidlife ConfidenceRedefining What Works with Michael Ann [65]Join my friend Michael Ann and I today as we do some coaching on a big challenge she’s facing. She’s a seasoned teacher who is having an unexpected and bewildering teaching experience this year. You’ll hear how Michael Ann slows down and starts coming up with some really great insights as she redefines what it means to connect with her students. We’ve all faced similar feelings of loss and disconnection through a move, getting settled in a new job or having kids leave home – any changes in our life that leave us feeling disoriented for a while. W...
2021-11-1531 minMidlife ConfidenceA Simple System to Keep You on Track [64]We all have insights that come to us about how we can experience life better, and times when we envision achieving a goal so clearly. We're so excited about it! Then our life and our mind are so busy that we forget and lose touch with it. That radiant light dims, that clarity gets fuzzy. And then your life just doesn't reach the level that seemed so clear and possible in the moment. It doesn’t have to be that way! I’ll walk you through my system for keeping those powerful insights top of mind where they can actu...
2021-11-0825 minMidlife ConfidenceTurning Trauma into Triumph with Stephanie Olson [63]Most of us in midlife have experienced trauma at some time in our lives. My guest today, Stephanie Olson, shares her story of childhood trauma. It led to some rough years in young adulthood until she found her way back to herself with God’s help. Now she is living a purposeful life by using her painful experiences to reach out to help others. Midlife is a good time for us to consider if past trauma is holding us back today, and if we’re ready to heal it.In this episode:Making peace with our ageS...
2021-11-0120 minMidlife ConfidenceA Tale of Two Prayers [62]How do you know if you received an answer to prayer and did the right thing? If you’ve ever thought that following God’s guidance means that everything should work out smoothly and then felt confused when it didn’t, I’ve got a couple of stories from my own life to share with you. I think about answers to prayer differently now, in a way that gives much more space for our real human experience along the way. And it allows for God to provide something even more meaningful than what we asked for. In this epi...
2021-10-2528 minMidlife ConfidenceFinally Finding Ourselves Beyond 40 with Rebecca [61]Sometimes we need to hear from another woman in midlife the we can relate to - how she has come to feel more confident now than ever by knowing who she is and what she loves, and to find meaning in life. So welcome to my friend and guest Rebecca Welling, who shares what she loves about being in midlife now. Her journey took her through raising 5 children (including triplets), taking 10 years to finish her degree, dealing with the sudden silence of an empty nest, and finding fulfillment in becoming a Medicare expert (yes, all kinds of work can...
2021-10-1830 minMidlife ConfidenceEasing Purpose Guilt [60]Have you ever felt guilty because you wanted to do something with your life that doesn’t fit what you think is an approved, worthy purpose - like building schools in South America or making quilts for refugees? If so, you’re suffering from purpose guilt. So listen in! Let’s release that shame and let you get on with creating a meaningful life by doing what you really want to do.In this episode:Purpose guilt come from what we’re thinking is approved and worthyA meaningful purpose doesn’t have to be volunteering for a humanita...
2021-10-1120 minMidlife ConfidenceLetting Go, In Real Life [59]Have you ever struggled to know if or when you should stop doing something or end something? That’s what’s happening for me this week, so listen in to hear how it’s going. The truth is that living a meaningful life unfolds one step at a time, and sometimes knowing when to stop something is just as important as knowing when to start. We might need to direct our energy into the one thing we want to make progress on.In this episode:
Being drawn in too many directions reduces the progress we make in any...
2021-10-0430 min
Breaking the SilenceKeep Breaking the Silence: 5 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned from Young Adults with Vauna [82]How can you join the cause of turning a weapon of destruction into a tool for transformation? This is our last episode of Breaking the Silence, but just the beginning for you to contribute to a new culture of courage, compassion, and connection. In this send-off from founder Vauna Davis, you’ll hear what she learned from young adults and what she hopes you will do to keep reaching out. Thank you so much for listening, we love you! We can’t wait to see what you will do.In this episode:Young adults who were ambu...
2021-10-0121 minMidlife ConfidenceAlign with Your Purpose [58]How would it feel to be in alignment in your life? What if your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions were all lined up and going in the same direction to reach your goals? I’ve gained some insight about life alignment from – surprise! – getting my teeth straightened up. Let’s talk about the value of incremental progress, commitment to the process, and vision for the final result. In this episode:Recognizing when you’re out of alignment and might need some professional helpTrusting your ability to change and growDiscomfort is evidence of progress Show notes:Vau...
2021-09-2723 minMidlife ConfidenceSpiritual Imagination [57]As we seek deep meaning and purpose at this time in our life, spiritual imagination is a practice that can help you envision your most fulfilling and powerful life. In my experience spiritual imagination can change our reality by actually shifting our thoughts and feelings, leading us to take action and create the results we want. So come along with me for a belief walk …In this episode:An intentional vision that helps me honor and trust my grown-up kids journeysInviting God to co-create our life with us, through spiritual imaginationWe might as well imagine the be...
2021-09-2017 minMidlife ConfidenceWrite Your Own Report Card with Emily [56]Do you keep a report card in your head? One that usually shows that you got a C- or unsatisfactory in some life skill or personal quality or something? Who wrote that report card, and why are you still using it to judge yourself? Now that we’re grownups, we get to decide what success looks like for us and let go of comparing ourselves to others. In this coaching session with Emily, you’ll hear how she is learning to create her own report card for what she wants out of her education as she returns to school for...
2021-09-1421 minMidlife ConfidenceMoney Can’t Buy Peace with Emily [55]What you really want when you wish you had more money, is actually a certain feeling that you think more money would give you. That’s the main point of today’s coaching session with my awesome friend Emily. It turns out that one of the reasons she wants to get a degree and become a therapist is to have her own money to spend without guilt. We dive in to why it's more powerful if she creates that feeling of freedom and independence now instead of waiting. So if you have expectations and wishes around money, this is for...
2021-09-0629 minMidlife ConfidenceGrowing Out of Mom Guilt with Emily [54]For mothers, when the time comes to create some more space in your life for your own growth and goals, it creates a new – and sometimes uncomfortable – dynamic with your children. Finding the balance between meeting their needs and your own can be tricky! Mom guilt can create self-doubt unless you’re aware and intentional about what’s best for everyone involved. Listen in to this coaching session with Emily, a mom of 7 who is starting an educational journey to become a therapist. (1 of 3 with Emily)In this episode:Choosing to not go on a guilt tripGivi...
2021-08-3033 minMidlife ConfidenceDesign a Meaningful Micro-Mission [53]Sometimes in midlife we can come down with a condition called purpose anxiety! It’s when we stress over figuring out what our mission should be and how to make it happen. What if designing your destiny could be more fun? Listen in to hear about how you can make living a purposeful life simpler and easier by engaging in small micro-missions. In this episode:What is purpose anxiety and why do we get it?Examples of micro-missionsBoth volunteer and for-profit work can be life-changing and valuableShow notes:Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach w...
2021-08-2319 minMidlife ConfidenceThe Dot-to-Dot Secret for Getting Things Done with Bonnie [52]We’ve all been confused and overwhelmed before by projects or situations that seem complicated with a lot of things to figure out, and a lot of things to do. In this coaching session with my guest client, Bonnie, we talk about ways to tame the overwhelm step-by-step just like a dot-to-dot puzzle. Not only that, but we dismantle her old painful story about how hard her project is and rewrite a new story that is more reassuring and energizing. Bonnie has some great insight of her own to share with you too. So don’t miss this conversation beca...
2021-08-1627 minMidlife ConfidenceWhy a Belief Plan is Better Than a To-Do List with Bonnie [51]While a to-do list is helpful to manage the actions you take, a belief plan goes even deeper. It helps you feel the way you need to feel in order to do what you want to do. It’s a living guide that grows with you and builds your confidence and motivation. You’ll hear how gathering powerful thoughts and saving them in a belief plan will help Bonnie with her goals. When self-doubt is slowing you down … build a better belief system to rev up your progress. (2 of 3 with Bonnie.)In this episode:Awareness of tensio...
2021-08-0930 minMidlife ConfidenceLeverage Your Midlife Advantage with Bonnie [50]Listen to some real-life coaching with my guest client Bonnie Porter as she gains confidence to share her experience as a career coach by creating a course for women. Some of her thoughts about her age and all the things that need to be done have slowed her progress. We talk about how to see herself as in the top 1% of people in her stage of life and how to be kinder to herself. When you feel your age is a drawback … see your experience as an asset.In this episode:3 questions to ask yourself to ge...
2021-08-0223 minMidlife ConfidenceThe Beach Meditation for Envisioning Your Future [Bonus for 49]This visualization was first shared in Episode 49. I’m republishing it here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need hope that everything works out for you in the future. Let's take a walk on the beach.
2021-07-2606 minMidlife ConfidenceTrue Identity = Dream Destiny [49]Purpose is integrating who you are with what you do. So the key to living a purposeful life is not just finding something you are passionate about – it’s also essential know who you are, so you understand what your role can be in that passion. Yet often in midlife women feel that they’ve lost themselves. Now is the perfect time to reenvision who you are and who you want to be so you can step into that personal legacy.In this episode:7 reasons why a clear sense of your identity can help you step into y...
2021-07-2625 minMidlife ConfidenceOvercome Overwhelm Through Simple Micro-Actions with Chris [48]Being overwhelmed doesn’t just happen to us – we create this feeling with our own thoughts. This is good news, because it means we can also get out of this state with the power of our thoughts. In today’s coaching session with my guest client, Chris, we dive into practical ways for her to stop feeling overwhelmed by all she wants to do around the house. Our brains are innately wired toward thinking about everything at once when tackling a project or problem, but this isn't always effective! It serves us better to focus on the smallest next step...
2021-07-1919 minMidlife Confidence5 Strategies for Making Confident Decisions with Chris [47]Most of us are afraid we'll make the wrong decision. In this coaching session with my guest client, Chris, she revealed how her fear of regret is keeping her paralyzed by indecision. You'll learn 5 ways we can confidently decide on our next step instead! If you want to feel better about making decisions, this is for you. (2 of 3 episodes with Chris.)In this episode:The wrong decision is obviousYou can decide not to regret your decisionsBuild confidence that you can handle regretShow notes:Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
2021-07-1220 minMidlife ConfidenceThe Puppy Meditation for Honoring Emotions [Bonus for 46]If there are emotions that you don’t like to feel and are avoiding, then you’re missing out on the healing release of those feelings. This visualization was first shared in Episode 46, and I’m republishing it here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need a reminder that all our feelings have value and deserve attention. So let’s take a break together and honor our divinely created emotions.
2021-07-0706 minMidlife ConfidenceGetting Out of Mess Stress with Chris [46]We all have some home project that we aren’t getting done! You’ll relate to this coaching session with my guest client, Chris. She’s wanted to organize and decorate her house for years, but she’s been stuck not making the progress she’d like. As we talk about why that might be, it becomes clear that emotional obstacles are keeping her from getting motivated. We finish this episode with a visualization that will help you with emotional awareness. (1 of 3 episodes with Chris.)In this episode:Using the CTFAR model to understand Chris’s fearsChris’s...
2021-07-0525 minMidlife ConfidenceSuccess with Something New in Midlife with Kristen Jenson [45]Have you ever felt like it’s too late to start something new and meaningful now? Listen to Kristen Jenson’s story and you won’t think that any more! When Kristen saw a need that wasn’t being met, she wrote 2 books for kids on a social issue. They became Amazon best-sellers and have been translated into 7 languages. This was a completely new thing for her, and she started it when she was past 50! Now she’s helped hundreds of thousands of children around the world. Now that’s a project with purpose. Kristen Jenson is the author of...
2021-05-1725 minMidlife ConfidenceFind Your Authentic Voice in Midlife [44]Women over 40 have so much to offer because of our life experience, but sometimes we're still trying to find our authentic voice and have the courage to speak up both in personal relationships and in public. Let's talk about how you can find your voice at any age. Speak up for yourself, trust yourself, and be authentic about who you are. How will you start nurturing your own one-of-a-kind voice?In this episode:Do you feel worthy to speak?You have a voice. Your voice is powerful, and it needs to be heard.Speaking up gives...
2021-05-1021 minMidlife ConfidenceLifelong Learning: Investing in Yourself When You’re 40 and Beyond [43]The best asset we have to make a contribution and live a purposeful life is our own mind. We have so many options for learning new things now! But it can also feel like a big decision because of the time and money commitment, as well as fears about being able to succeed when we’re a little farther on in life. Here are some good questions to ask yourself as you consider your options. Investing in yourself is always a wise use of time!In this episode:What are you hoping to feel as a re...
2021-05-0325 minMidlife ConfidenceJoy, Resilience, and Self-Discovery through Creativity - with Brad Teare [42]Creativity is a form of growing and self-expression. We learn more about who we are, what we love, and what we're capable of through being creative. Art of any kind changes us in the process of creating it. My guest, Brad Teare, is an accomplished landscape artist who believes that the creative process is also a way to transcend grief and loss in life. Listen in to learn why creativity can be an integral, fulfilling aspect of living your purpose in midlife. In this episode:We all have deep desires to create. It’s never too late...
2021-04-2624 minMidlife ConfidenceYour Guide to Saying No So You Can Say Yes to What Matters [41]If we say yes to anything that doesn’t help us make progress on our goals, our values and our purpose in life, then we are giving away the time and energy we could be using on the things that matter. Thinking through what is worth your time is the first step. Then we need to be bold enough to say no to two persuasive people – other people that we care about, and to ourselves. Saying no to yourself is being brutally honest about what you’re doing with your time and if it’s in your best interest to keep d...
2021-04-1925 minMidlife ConfidenceRelax! Life is Running Right on Schedule [40]A midlife crisis is actually a time crisis. Some of the most limiting thoughts we have in this life stage are “I'm behind,” “I wasted time,” and “It's too late.” But don’t worry! God built in extra time for you to go through all the setbacks you’ve experienced and still fulfill your purpose. In this episode, discover new ways to think about your time journey that will bring you peace, energy, and motivation. You’re right on track!In this episode:We can’t surprise God.All that mess was not diversion. It was preparation.We create...
2021-04-1207 minMidlife Confidence4 Reassuring Rules for Parenting Adult Children Part 2 – Visualize and Center [39]Continuing on from episode 38 about our purpose in as parents of adult children. A powerful practice that changes how you feel about your children and how you show up as a parent is being able to envision a future when it all works out for them. We can trust that even the challenges in their lives are leading them to a bright future. Along with that, if our life is centered on our children then we will be on a roller coaster of emotion depending on what they are doing. We can serve them better by being centered on...
2021-04-0520 minMidlife Confidence4 Reassuring Rules for Parenting Adult Children - Part 1 Love and Influence [38]If you’re a parent, then caring for your kids has been an important and sometimes consuming purpose in your life. Once they've reached the status of adults, our challenge is to figure out that paradox of how to be connected and supportive and at the same time let go of judgment and control. In part 1 of this discussion, learn what unconditional love is, and why we can offer influence - but not impose it. When you’re wondering how to support your grown up kids … taking a step back can be just what they need.Links:The...
2021-03-2925 minMidlife ConfidenceMake Challenge Your Path to Purpose with Trina Limpert [37]Our biggest challenges often lead to finding a deeply purposeful way to serve others. That’s definitely true for my guest, my very own sister Trina Limpert. She’s achieved a remarkable 25-year career in tech while being a working mom, getting through a divorce, navigating a new marriage and blended family – oh, and throw in a recession and major health scare, too! Now she helps women transition into valuable tech careers through a journey of self-discovery. You’ll love hearing Trina’s inspiring experience discovering her life mission. You can read more in her bio below. [Purpose series 4]Links...
2021-03-2230 minMidlife Confidence7 Questions to Tie Up Loose Ends and Finish Feeling Fulfilled [36]What feels incomplete, unfinished and unfulfilled to you? Let’s talk about those open loops in your life and how to be sure you close them up! When you integrate all the parts of your life with your purpose, you’ll be ready to steer away from regret and toward satisfaction and pride in a life well-lived. When loose ends make you feel unfinished and incomplete ... tie them up with intentional action. [Purpose series 3]In this episode:7 QuestionsHow could I complete or make progress on things I started but haven’t finished yet?How co...
2021-03-1521 min
From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody SteurerHow a group of young adults are changing the conversation around sex and shame - Reach 10 - Episode 83Today’s young adults in their 20s were born as the Internet was gaining momentum. They’ve never known what it’s like to live life offline. Some have described them as the first digital natives. They also are also the first generation who were able to stream pornographic videos before they even had their first kiss. This cohort of adults have heard the porn lectures since they were teens and many of them know it’s a problem, but the big question of “now what?” leaves many of them without answers. Vauna Davis is my guest today and she noticed...
2021-03-1156 minMidlife ConfidenceYour One Thing That Makes Everything Else Ok [35]A life well-lived starts with a meaningful purpose. Let’s start with a foundational purpose – your deepest, highest desire. You’ll know you’ve found it when it feels like if you made progress on it, your whole life would be worthwhile and everything would be ok. Next, getting clear on your unique values can guide how you show up in life. [Purpose Series 2]In this episode:Why you don’t have to worry about finding your specific divinely-created destiny.Deep purpose can come through serving many or serving just a few.We can build on things we’...
2021-03-0816 minMidlife Confidence7 Needs You Must Meet to Rock Your Life Purpose [34]Midlife is often a time for reconsidering what we’re spending our precious time on. Having a meaningful purpose in your life is transformative, especially when it involves helping others. But what is it that we’re really seeking when we’re longing to find our purpose? When we get down to it, there’s something we want to feel. Clearly defining what that is can help us choose the right dreams and stay the course instead of burning out or losing interest. [Purpose Series 1]In this episode:7 human psychological needs that we can fill through living a...
2021-03-0123 minMidlife ConfidenceDecision Confusion: 4 Mental Blocks and How to Get Through Them [33]When you feel stuck and can't move on because you aren’t making a decision ... free yourself with a choice. In midlife there are big decisions to be made. But we can get stalled by four thoughts that stop us from making choices. Learn some ways to get through these blocks and get on with your decisions!In this episode:The wrong choices are obvious How you know you made the right decisionYou don’t need to know everything, you know enough to decideIf you did know, what would the answer be?Show notes:Let's...
2021-02-2218 minMidlife ConfidenceAwakening Your Ageless Spirit [32]What does it mean to love and care for our mind, body, and spirit in midlife? While age and time affect our mind and body, our spirit is eternal and limitless. It expands as we give it care and attention. If we have a desire to connect with the divine Creator and sense the meaning of life, honoring our spirituality is the way. When you sense your mind and body slowing down … it’s a good time for your infinite spirit to take the lead.In this episode:What is spirituality, religion, and the spirit part of o...
2021-02-1521 minMidlife ConfidenceThe Surprising Midlife Marriage Boost [31]One of the best things you can do for your marriage is to be responsible for your own emotions and not give another human being the job of making you feel happy or secure. My husband Mike and I are celebrating 38 years of marriage this month! Listen in on some of our journey to a better marriage. Life coaching has had a unexpectedly big impact on our relationship. When you show up willing to learn to be best person you can be, it can't help but elevate the marriage.In this episode:The (subconscious) marriage manualSomething...
2021-02-0827 minMidlife Confidence4 Simple Ways to Break Free from Approval Addiction [30]When you’re constantly in other’s people’s heads trying to control what they think of you … step back into your own head and make it a safe place for yourself. It starts with realizing that realizing that how other people respond to you tells you about them, not about you. We can decide to like our reasons for what we do, be ok with other people being wrong about us, and focus on connecting with others instead of impressing them. Links:Tara Mohr, Playing BigShow notes:Let's connect on Instagram!Set up a cal...
2021-02-0114 minMidlife ConfidenceWhy We Have So Much to Do in So Little Time [29]Time decisions are one of the most important skills we learn in life. God set us up on purpose! Because we can’t do everything we want to, we’re forced to choose. Our choices show what we love and create who we become.Show notes:Let's connect on Instagram!Set up a call with me.Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
2021-01-2516 minMidlife ConfidenceHow to Buckle Up and Be a Hero in Epic Times [28]What if 2020 was just a warm-up for legendary times to come? If you don’t think you can take any more, let’s get ready so you’re confident that you can rise to meet any challenge that comes. I learned some things from a river rafting adventure that totally apply to the high, deep, and fast times we’re in now. It all starts with zipping up your life jacket. When you're not sure you can handle more uncertainty ... be so ready that you know you'll get through anything.In this episode:Our river rafting taleTrad...
2021-01-1828 minMidlife ConfidenceHonoring Commitments to Yourself [27]When you doubt that you’ll really do what you decided to do … learn to honor commitments to yourself. You know what feels great? Knowing that you will do what you planned to do for yourself! Self-trust is fundamental to feeling good about yourself and your life. In this episodeSelf-trust is more important than the immediate goal!Start with small steps that are so easy you can’t failWe’re terrified to disappoint someone else and yet we disappoint ourselves all the timeUnderneath is the relationship with have with ourselvesShow notesLet's connect...
2021-01-1119 minMidlife ConfidenceMidlife Check-In: Are You as Happy as You Thought You'd Be by Now? [26]When you’re in a midlife slump … get clear on what you need for a 5-star life. How did you think your life would be when you got to this point? Your values have changed through life experiences, so now is a good time to reenvision the life you want now. What do you want to start, stop, and continue?In this episode:5 signs of a midlife slump 5 elements of a 5-star lifeYour keeper listShow notes:Let's connect on Instagram!Set up a call with me.Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
2021-01-0416 minMidlife ConfidenceChristmas Reunions Past, Present, and FutureChristmas is a time to be together with loved ones … sometimes that isn’t easy or possible now, like this year during a pandemic. Join me as I think back on a couple of sweet memories that make the miracle of Christmas even more precious. A future reunion with our loved ones is certain because of the birth of Christ.Show notes:Let's connect on Instagram!Set up a call with me.Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
2020-12-2113 minMidlife ConfidenceThe Secret to Dealing with Unfinished Business [24]When you’re discouraged about things you haven’t finished yet … learn to love the process. Having things you haven’t finished feels terrible - because your brain is designed to nag you until you get it done. Of course finishing things when we can is a solution, but it’s just as important to lean in and accept that life is always unfinished business. It’s all about loving the process as much as the completed goal!In this episode:Even God is never finished with His work!See the process as the purposeWho we are becoming...
2020-12-1416 minMidlife Confidence4 Steps for Processing Emotions – Letting the Storm Pass [23]When an emotional storm is brewing … let it pass through and clear out. “Processing emotions” is a buzzword, but what does it really mean? How do you do it, and what’s the end goal? Accepting and allowing emotions is a basic but powerful skill that can be learned and practiced as often as needed. The opposite is resisting emotions which causes its own problems. We can find peace in the reality that life is an emotional journey. In this episode:The 4 main dysfunctional results of resisting emotionsThe 4 steps to processing emotionsHow to know when you’ve done eno...
2020-12-0717 minMidlife ConfidenceWhere Did My Motivation Go? 15 Reasons Why You’re Not Taking Action [22]When you don’t know why you aren’t getting things done … stop and uncover what’s derailing you.In midlife, we’re all wondering why we aren’t doing the things we say we want to at times. Here are 15 questions to ask yourself to understand what’s getting in the way. You have real reasons that make perfect sense when you understand them. In this episode:15 questions to dig deeper into your motivation strugglesKnowing what’s going on is the first step to restoring the motivation you want to have!Pay attention to w...
2020-11-3014 minMidlife ConfidenceGet Clear on Your Goals and Desires for 2021 [21]When you’re ready to close out this year and start fresh … understand what you deeply desire to have, do, and be. Think how great it will feel to start the next year off with a simple and powerful list of the things you really want to create in your life. Your desires are calling out to be made real! You can start with something you want to have, something you want to do, and something you want to be. In this episode:Make New Year’s decisions instead of resolutionsThe value of wanting to have things...
2020-11-2323 minMidlife ConfidenceNo More Waiting for the Confidence Fairy [20]When you’re waiting for the universe to let you know you’re worthy … take the wand and grant yourself confidence. Confidence is a powerful emotion that can help us take action and create the things we want in our lives. Especially when we stop chasing evidence to show us we can be confident, and just decide to be confident now. It’s so much easier to get things done from confidence than from self-doubt!In this episode:Confidence comes from thoughtsRecognize and appreciate the things you’re already confident in now4 tips for building confidence Show note...
2020-11-1618 minMidlife ConfidenceUnconditional Peace in an Uncontrollable World [19]When your mind and your heart are spinning … rest in the sweetness of peace. Good news, the world doesn’t need to calm down and you don’t have to get your life together before you can be at peace. We can learn how to feel it and hold on to it more often. So put that heavy load down and take a rest in peace even in a messy and uncontrollable life.
2020-11-1120 minMidlife ConfidenceUnconditional Peace in an Uncontrollable World [19]When your mind and your heart are spinning … rest in the sweetness of peace.
2020-11-0900 minMidlife ConfidenceElection Resilience: You and God are Still in Charge [18]The US Presidential election and the country’s response to it are creating a lot of uncertainty for us now. No matter who wins or what happens after, we still have the power over the experience we want in our lives. If you aren’t happy about where we’re headed, the ultimate act of defiance is to live well anyway.In this episode:What is always in your controlGetting out of threat and into opportunitySwitching from worst case scenario to best case scenarioThrive through anything with spiritual creation – imagining the details of how you want to show u...
2020-11-0216 minMidlife ConfidenceEmotional Resilience in Midlife: Why Level Up Now? [17]Pandemics, civil unrest and elections don’t mean that your personal stuff gets to take a break for awhile. That’s why emotional resilience is so critical. Building resilience is essential for your own journey – how you want to show up in extraordinary times – and because of the influence you have. People are looking to you for reassurance in tough times!In this episode:We've already increased our emotional capabilities through life experienceA story of a seed’s journey3 tracks of personal growthOur emotional education and updating it now – a midlife relightShow notes:Le...
2020-10-2618 minMidlife ConfidenceHow Can I Stay Centered When Life is Anything but Routine? [16]When your usual schedule is disrupted … stay grounded and peaceful even in disorder. In midlife you’re pretty sure to have times when you’re off-schedule and can’t run your life as usual. Trips, visiting family, and holidays are just a few things that come up. While we love these events, we can also get disoriented and lose energy when we can’t keep our usual routines. Here’s 5 ideas for staying grounded and enjoying the time. In this episode:
My wonderful messy road trip with my daughter and 3 young grandchildren
Balancing our needs for certainty...
2020-10-2119 minMidlife ConfidenceHow Can I Let Go of Parenting Regrets and Mistakes? [15]When parental regret is shadowing you – envision a bright future for your children. Every parent is guaranteed to have some things they wish they had done better. As our children grow up, we might think some of their challenges are our fault because of our mistakes. But our kids can thrive not only in spite of our failings but because of them! Here are two ideas to help you move past regret.In this episode:
One of my regrets with one of my sons
Sometimes we provide our kids exactly what they need: hard times and op...
2020-10-1211 minMidlife ConfidenceHow Can I Be the Hero of My Past? [14]When you think your past should have been different … reimagine a legendary story. You know all those things in the past that you feel like went wrong in some way? You’re right, that was hard. Now you can choose to see yourself as a hero who made it through hard times and came out stronger and wiser. That’s much more powerful than constantly thinking things should have been different.In this episode:God can take every single thing that happened and turn it to our higher goodHow to take charge and reframe your past storie...
2020-10-0519 minMidlife ConfidenceHow Can I Rewrite My Past Story That I’m Not Good Enough? [13]When you think your past tells you who you are … change the story and meet your best self. If we have created limiting beliefs about who we are based on past experiences, it’s time to clean those up and create stories that help us show up as who we want to be now. You have superpowers to bring to the world. In this episode:3 ways the past gets in our way nowAn imaginary story of a ranch woman and the mysterious garden of the pastMy shy story and how I got to a new story of my...
2020-09-2916 minMidlife ConfidenceRelax into Radiant Spiritual Energy [12]When your spiritual light is low … rekindle your divine glow. Spiritual confidence is assurance that you and God are working together to co-create your highest self. As we grow into being able to seek inner spiritual radiance we feel more peaceful, clear, warm, light, open, and expansive. In this episode:Faith as an intelligent, powerful force we can plug in toA story of God’s graceA morning celebration routine that cultivates spiritual energy for the dayHow can we relax into God?Links:When You Have the Spirit vs. When You Don’t Have the Spirit...
2020-09-2120 minMidlife ConfidenceBoost Your Physical Energy in Midlife and Beyond [11]When your body is dragging … get motivated to refuel your energy with food, rest, and exercise. Ready for an energy makeover? You already know food, rest, and exercise are the answer to a healthy lifestyle and more energy, but whenever we want to do something better our mind has a habit of getting in our way! Let’s talk about not only what to do, but how to get our most motivating thoughts on board.In this episode:Facts + thoughts = powerful new habits.Some facts about exercise, food, and sleep that can inspire us to live a he...
2020-09-1522 minMidlife Confidence3 More Ideas to Raise Your Mental Energy Level Part 2 [10]When you’re mentally drained … revive your energy level by understanding how your thoughts create your feelings, getting out of “Have To” energy, and tapping into other people’s energy. Low mental energy isn’t something that just happens to us, it’s a result that we created with our thoughts and feelings. That means we can recharge our energy with some new thoughts if we want to! Here’s a few ideas for how to create a more energizing mindset. In this episode:The process of how our thoughts create our feelings and results.We don’t have to do...
2020-09-0724 minBreaking the SilenceHow Can I Forgive My Parents for Being Weird About Sex and Pornography? with Vauna Davis [37]No one is perfect. Not even our parents. And that is a great thing to remember when you evaluate the sex education your parents passed onto you. This week, Creed and Crishelle talk with Vauna Davis about how you can take your experience learning (or not) about sex from your parents and move beyond any embarassment or shame you may have inherited.
In this episode:
There is no “one size fits all” for sex education.
Conversations about pornography and sex are awkward for your parents, too.
Your parents did the best they could, and they care for...
2020-09-0131 minMidlife Confidence3 Ways to Recharge Your Mental Energy Level Part 1 [9]When you’re mentally exhausted … recharge your energy level by finding your why, sparking momentum, and resetting your mindset.We need mental energy to accomplish what we want and create the life we dream of. But strong emotions and decisions can drain that energy and leave us feeling depleted. Learn some practical ways to amp up your mental energy level. This is the first in a series about mental, physical, and spiritual energy. Let’s get out of those energy dips and get going!In this episode:
Things that cause mental fatigue
Find your why –...
2020-08-3117 minMidlife ConfidenceFreedom from Fixing Other’s Feelings [8]When you get stuck trying to manage everyone’s emotions … let them have the human experience they came for. Do you have the illusion that you can and should control how others feel? Or maybe you hold back your thoughts because others won’t like them? We all do this sometimes. When we’re always trying to make others feel better, we unintentionally don’t allow them to express their true emotions - and we don’t share our authentic selves either. Learn what true unconditional love is and how it can be better for everyone in the relationship.In this...
2020-08-2420 minMidlife Confidence4 Soul-Searching Questions for Parents of Adult Children [7]When you’re wondering who you are now that the kids are grown up … find joy in finally having time to finish your own growing up!Are your kids growing up or already in adulthood? When raising young kids, a lot of your identity and value came from caring for your family. When that stage is over, it can be a challenge to reimagine a new purpose for life. In parenting your job was to get them started and then let them take over – now you get to spend more time working on your own growth. It’s time t...
2020-08-1017 minMidlife ConfidenceMind Your Movement [6]We’re designed to move, and we’re healthier and happier when we do. But sometimes our thoughts get in the way - especially as we notice signs of getting older. You can be aware and change them up so you have the inner motivation to take care of your body. The most important part is to create the right identity and focus more on building a habit than on the immediate results. Then the benefits will definitely come in time.In this episode:Stop the compare and despair trap with your own past self.A stor...
2020-08-0321 minMidlife ConfidenceSurfing Uncertainty: How to Know You’ll Be OK [5]When the world is falling apart … know you have what it takes to keep it all together. We’ve had lots of unexpected chaos in just a few months already. Let's talk about uncertainty, even though you're probably feeling much better now than you were at the beginning of all this. Guess what? We’ll face surprising, unexpected and even threatening conditions again and again. So we might as well get good at it.In this episodeWondering – is this the beginning of the global upheaval and disasters predicted in the scriptures?What is uncertain about the futu...
2020-07-2720 minMidlife ConfidenceHealthy Grown-Ups Keep on Growing [4]When you’re bored, restless, and discontented with life as it is … understand you’re starting a normal midlife developmental stage. Just like babies and teens go through natural developmental stages, so do adults! Unfortunately sometimes that stage is called a midlife crisis! It’s designed to motivate you to keep making progress. We don’t want to push those feelings away, instead we can listen to them and hear what they’re trying to tell us.In this episode:
What do you think is causing your feelings of your life not being quite enough right now?
What is...
2020-07-2020 minMidlife ConfidenceYou’re Closer Than You Think [3]When you think you should be farther along by now … realize you’re almost there! We’re so good at compare and despair – looking around at everyone else and thinking we’re behind. Let’s question that! You’ve already done a lot of valuable living. You aren’t starting from scratch. All the things you’ve done count. You’re so close!In this episode:What do you think you should have figured out by now? The Unexpected Race storyGetting past limiting thoughts like “I’m so behind” and “I wasted time.”3 powerful thoughts:I’m so closeEverything that didn’t...
2020-07-1015 minMidlife ConfidenceYour Midlife Quest [2]When you're yearning for something else but don't know what it is … set out on your midlife quest. Give yourself permission to discover what that missing piece is. It can be a wonderful journey if we aren’t in a hurry and demand all the answers now. Sometimes we need to go in a room and turn on the light to see what’s there, then decide if we want to stay or not!In this episode:
The Missing Key story
3 questions that rise up in middle years of nearly every woman’s life:
Who am I now, a...
2020-07-1012 minMidlife ConfidenceCure a Midlife Crisis with Confidence [1]When you realize you’re in a midlife growth stage … cultivate your confidence. Do you feel like something is trying to happen in your life? Midlife is a time of change and opportunity for growth. On this first episode, get started being aware of what midlife is trying to tell you. Let’s gather a tribe of powerful, wise women who are ready to thrive in challenging times!In this episode:Introducing the host - a little about me and my midlife journey.Why midlife is a stage more than an age.What keeps women stuck in con...
2020-07-1017 min
Media Savvy MomsKids, Screens & Mom Guilt with Vauna Davis, Life Coach Moms, listen up! You know the challenges of raising kids in a media saturated world. You’re constantly thinking about your kids and worrying about how they’re doing online. You’re concerned about filters, parental controls, making room for open communication, and creating safe places to talk. But when was the last time you stopped to think about how you’re doing? Is there a chance that you’ve let mom guilt take over? Maybe just a little? Okay, we know dads feel all these feelings too; but today we’re focusing on mom. Emotions surr...
2020-05-0635 min
Mothers Who KnowBreakfast with Karen--"The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Children is Your Own Peace and Happiness" with guest Vauna DavisThis is an incredibly powerful episode with guest Vauna Davis! Karen interviews Vauna who is the Founder of Reach 10. Vauna shares specific ways mothers (and fathers) can find JOY and why that is so important to their children. Here ultimate message to us: you are worth the time it takes to keep expanding your emotional life. She talks about 3 ways your own peace and happiness will serve your child, the difference between healthy emotional management and unhealthy emotional distress, and how to have greater influence and stronger relationships with your children. Vauna uses personal experience as well as research...
2019-11-071h 09
From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody SteurerHow to bring up pornography concerns when dating - Vauna Davis - Illuminate Podcast Episode 25Geoff Steurer and Vauna Davis discuss how couples can respectfully address the issue of pornography when dating. She also shares a free resource to help couples navigate this conversation to build more honesty and growth in their relationship. You can learn more about Reach 10 on the website at reach10.org Vauna Davis has been involved in the cause opposing pornography for many years. She is founder and director of Reach 10, a nonprofit that empowers young adults to speak, teach, and lead on the issue of pornography. She also is happy to be working with Protect Young Minds as the...
2018-11-2533 min
From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody SteurerHow to bring up pornography concerns when dating - Vauna Davis (part 2) - Episode 25If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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2018-11-2533 min
From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody SteurerHelping Young Adults Change the Conversation about Pornography - Vauna Davis - Episode 24In this episode I interview Vauna Davis, the founder and director of Reach 10, and organization that helps young people start healthy conversations about the impact of pornography on individuals and relationships. We discuss: * How to take pornography from being a punchline to a productive conversation. * What young people can do beyond recognizing that this is a problem for individuals and relationships. * How to create real solutions using “courage, compassion, and connection.” * How dealing with this issue builds stronger people and how not talking about this produces more self-criticism and shame. * What loved ones can do to offer immediate support to y...
2018-11-1031 min
From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody SteurerHelping Young Adults Change the Conversation about Pornography - Vauna Davis (part 1) - Episode 24If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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2018-11-1031 min
The Matt Townsend ShowDemocratic Party Crisis, Pornography, Relationship GuaranteeDemocratic Party Crisis (18:26)
Musa al-Gharbi, Ph.D. is a Paul F. Lazarsfeld Fellow in Sociology at Columbia University and a research associate with the Heterodox Academy based out of New York University. When President Obama first took office, the Democratic Party was a place for young, college-educated, minorities, and women. It was predicted that this would be the progressive party of the future as minority voices multiplied and as white votes declined due to immigration and interracial unions. Since then, the demographics have not changed, endangering the Democratic party. Musa al-Gharbi shares the data.
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