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I Am African by VerasticHow One Mom Is Raising Two Children On The Autism Spectrum ft. Lola Dada-OlleyThe world is still learning about autism. And I, Vera Ezimora, know even less about autism. My first "real" experience with autism was when I got my first professional job after I graduated college. It was as a Service Coordinator, and I walked with individuals with intellectual disabilities. It seems like such a lifetime ago now. I learned so much from that job.When I came across today's guest, Lola Dada-Olley on Facebook (through her husband), I just knew I had to bring her on because she has so many different experiences, all rolled into one human...2021-05-241h 23

I Am African by VerasticEP 28: How To Save Money Even When You Think You Don't Have It ft. Ronke OdewumiThis pandemic needs to just go away. Am I right? Or am I right? A lot of things have changed permanently, thanks to the pandemic. For example, remote work, when possible, will probably always be the norm. Another thing is money: how much of it we wake, how much of it we have saved for a rainy day, etc.In today's episode, we have Ronke Adewumi, a finance expert, teaching us creative ways to save money and stop wasting it. Yes, even when you think you don't even have money or don't have enough of it.2021-05-1059 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 27: IVF and Male Factor Infertility ft. Nonsi MartinsInfertility is one of the many taboo conversations in the African community. In the Christian African community, it's even worse. For starters, the bible says that there will be barrenness in the land, so both preachers and the congregation they're preaching to are quick to remind women who are trying to conceive of this verse. It's almost as if the infertility is thereby invalidated and denied. The problem is that it's usually still there. And what about the fact that altar calls in church only call for women who want children, never men. Are men never infertile?...2021-05-031h 15

I Am African by VerasticEP 26: Why I Had A Divorce Party ft Dr. Ikea BelloRecently, a Nigerian woman, Dr Ikea Bello, went viral for doing what we (Nigerians/Africans) would consider the unimaginable. Not only did she file for divorce, but she also dared to celebrate it --- and she did it publicly. On social media. With pictures. And videos. So, naturally, the African internet streets are offended. And also naturally, I was there to remind everyone that the divorce and the party are both hers. Read my post here.A lot of brands and publications have been reaching out to Dr. Bello since the party, but she chose...2021-04-261h 31

I Am African by VerasticEP 25: Dating As A Divorced Dad ft. GoziemMy people! I am here to prove to you that divorced dads who are dating do exist! It took me so long to find a divorced dad willing to speak to me about his dating life. But then Goziem happened. He was introduced to me by a mutual friend, Eloka, and the rest is history.As a divorced mom, I know what dating is like. But I did not know and what I wanted to know was how it was for a divorced dad. While I know that Goziem does not speak for every divorced dad who...2020-11-301h 11

I Am African by VerasticEP 24: On Being An African Atheist ft. Ruth MarimoConversations are important, especially with people who are different from you. As a Christian girl, it was important for me to have this conversation with Ruth Marimo, an African Atheist - because at the end of the day, no matter who we serve (or don't serve), we are still humans with blood running through our veins.Today's guest, Ruth Marimo, isn't new to the podcast. She first came on the podcast in episode 18 where she talked about emotional resilience. It. Was. So. Powerful! Check that episode out here. I promise you that you...2020-11-231h 56

I Am African by VerasticEP 23: I'm Divorced. Now What? ft. Sade CurryDivorce is like an onion; it has so many layers that need to be peeled, one after another. First, there's the layer where you realize you need to get divorced, and there are all the emotions that come with it. Then there's the layer where you go through the actual divorce. Then, finally, the layer after the divorce. Now what?What happens after the divorce? How do you heal? How do you move on? How do you meet good men? How do you remarry - if you so desire? These are the questions that Sade Curry answered...2020-11-021h 45

I Am African by VerasticEP 22: How To Be Confident AF ft. MsendooI used to not wear shorts. Wait, let's rewind. When I was younger, maybe between 12 and 17 or something like that, I loved my legs, and I remember how it started. I had heard my mom in a conversation with her friend who kept complimenting my legs, saying how nice they were. And that was how I started suddenly thinking my legs were the best.But at some point, I started thinking that my legs were not so great anymore, specifically, my thighs. I thought they were too big and did not deserve to be shown. I refused t...2020-10-191h 10

I Am African by VerasticEP 21: Why Africans Don't Have The Black Perspective ft. Dr. Uju AnyaThis is one of the first topics I wrote down when I was dreaming about starting my podcast: why Africans don't have the African American perspective. From the moment I finally began to understand my African privilege and the struggles of my African-American brothers and sisters that I previously did not know of, I have tried to use my platform to tell all my fellow Africans.African privilege is a thing that a lot of us, Africans, don't even know that we have. For us, we think that coming from Africa automatically means that we have no...2020-10-121h 53

I Am African by VerasticEP 20: What About Sex During Divorce? FT. Berry DakaraBefore I filed for divorce - in fact, before I even walked away from my marriage - I had never given a moment's thought to sex (or lack of it) during a divorce. I also did not know that the legal laws for sexing while divorcing varied from State to State. In my State, Maryland, for example, it is illegal to have sex with someone who is not your spouse, until your divorce is final. It does not matter if you are legally separated.It was only when I separated from The Boy that I...2020-10-051h 49

I Am African by VerasticSeason 2 Is Coming!My Sweet Potatoes!Season two is upon us! Need I say more? The real question is are you ready? Or ARE YOU READY?BEFORE YOU GO, PLEASE RATE AND LEAVE A WRITTEN REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS. THANK YOU!Let's connect:I Am African on InstagramI Am African on TwitterI Am African on FacebookVera Ezimora on InstagramVera Ezimora on TwitterVera Ezimora on FacebookSubscribe to my monthly emailsWeb: ...2020-10-0206 min

In These MomentsA Marriage Should Be EnjoyedVera Ezimora shares her stories of being in a unhealthy marriage, the challenges she faced as a wife and mother, eventually leaving the marriage and growing into the woman she is today. If you want to share a story with me for a future episode, message me on Whatsapp at 1-347-370-9360. Also follow In These Moments on Twitter (@MomentsPod), Instagram (@InTheseMomentsPod) and Subscribe to me on Patreon for exclusive and behind-the-scenes content. Don’t forget to give the podcast a 5-star rating on Apple Podcasts so other people can come across these stories.2020-09-231h 01

I Am African by VerasticEP 19: Can Women Be Divorced And Happy?Can women actually be divorced and happy? For some reason, being divorced and happy, especially for a woman, seems like it's mutually exclusive. I will not make the claim that all women are divorced and happy, but I can confidently say that any woman who gets divorced for the right reasons can be - and most likely is - divorced and happy.Our culture abhors divorce. Our culture also abhors a free-thinking, independent woman because she is seen as rebellious and unsubmissive. You already know my thoughts on submission, right? Divorce is difficult on all...2020-07-2755 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 18: Emotional Resilience: How To Deal With Not Being Included FT. Ruth Marimo"Vera, you're so strong!"I've practically heard this for as long as I can remember. I heard it most when I left my marriage. People congratulated me for being so strong, for having the audacity to walk out of a marriage that was trampling me and robbing me of my peace. I did not understand why I was being congratulated. Should one not always leave a situation that is bad for them? But that's by the way.To be strong, one has to be emotionally resilient. Some people are strong because they've learned f...2020-07-131h 43

I Am African by VerasticEP 17: A Conversation With An Openly-Gay Nigerian Man FT. Edafe Okporo"I believe in asking the difficult questions, starting the uncomfortable conversations, proposing outside-the-box solutions, and of course, shaking tables. No, breaking tables." Verbatim, these words are in the intro of the I Am African Podcast because they are exactly why I started this podcast.And today, I had the pleasure of speaking with Edafe Okporo about his life as an openly-gay Nigerian man. Make no mistake, Edafe is not a gay rights activist, although he is understandably outspoken on the issue. However, he wants you to know more about him than the person he shares a bed...2020-07-061h 18

I Am African by VerasticEP 16: How Not To Say Yes When You Really Mean NoEven now, I'm wondering if How Not To Say Yes When You Really Mean No is the appropriate title for this. But it's too late to change it. The podcast has been recorded, edited, and published. Perhaps, what I really should have named it is How Not To Spend Your Energy On Things You Really Don't Want. Either way, I suppose there's still an element of saying yes or no to something.Listen and tell me your thoughts! BEFORE YOU GO, PLEASE RATE AND LEAVE A WRITTEN REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS. THANK YOU!2020-06-2930 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 15: Never Have I Ever [A Life Not Lived - Yet]I played a game of Never Have I Ever on Zoom for Uju's birthday in April, and it got me thinking about a whole lot. Although I knew it before, this game became living proof that indeed I need to stop being so safe and live already. There is so much I still have not experienced. Half the year is already gone, but it does not mean I can't start where I am right now, right? The past three weeks have been very dark - and that's putting it mildly - so I deliberately chose this topic for this...2020-06-1530 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 14: On The Rape Culture In Nigeria ft. Omolara OriyeSweet Potatoes,So much is going on in the world right now. And I'm tired of starting sentences like this, but how can I be tired when some people have a worse fate? My fellow Nigerian women have been raped and killed with no repercussions to the rapist because of the rape culture in Nigeria.In today's episode, I have the very smart and outspoken table-shaker, Omolara Oriya, an activist, human rights lawyer. We had a raw and authentic conversation about the rape culture in Nigeria, about the laws that not only excuse the rapists...2020-06-091h 38

I Am African by VerasticEP 13: Dear Africans, You're Black Too!Today's episode is not a regular episode, and I am not a regular Vera today either. I was so angry recording this episode. When I was listening back to it, I felt bad for the Vera who recorded it. I was angry that some Africans still don't know that they're Black in America, but I was angrier at the situation that calls for Africans to be reminded that they're Black too.Some days ago, I did not go to bed till about 4AM because I was watching the news, watching buildings burn, and watching my people mourn...2020-06-0123 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 12: On Patriarchal Cultural Norms That Don't Serve Women ft. Ola Bisi (Jopa's Daughter)The longer I live, the more I learn. When I was a child, there were so many things that were normal to me. Now that I'm older and wiser, I know myself a lot better, and I realize that some of the things I thought were normal were actually patriarchal cultural norms that don't serve women. I'd admit that I fell for some of them, and as I live and learn, I will continue to unlearn every norm that inhibits me.For this episode, my guest is Olabisi Ajai Layode. Do you know her? Let me tell...2020-05-251h 24

I Am African by VerasticEP 11: On Remarrying After Divorce And Lessons Learned ft Mercedes OkwukoguMercedes Okwukogu is a woman to be admired. In the past three weeks, Nigerian Facebook has been greatly shaken. On Ola Bisi's Facebook wall, she started sharing stories of women who are divorced. She used the hashtag, #DivorceNotStigma, and I was one of the women whose stories got shared. She reached out to me to share my story, and even before she reached out, I was planning on doing so anyway. Of course, my own story was already very public, so sharing a summary of it on Facebook was no problem. It was through this series that I...2020-05-181h 22

I Am African by VerasticEP 10: Why Women Endure Bad MarriagesLast week, I shared my marriage and divorce story again on Facebook, on Ola Bisi's Facebook profile page, as part of her #DivorceNotStigna series. It's a series of stories by women who walked out of their marriage and got divorced after enduring too much. But reading some of the comments, raised another question about why women endure bad marriages. So, of course, I am here to answer.Let's connect:I Am African on InstagramI Am African on TwitterI Am African on FacebookVera Ezimora on ...2020-05-1126 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 9: But Our African Men Know BetterBefore we go any further, let's just agree that our African men know better. That being said, last month, I wrote a post on this blog, titled, "20 Things Women Are Not Doing in 2020," and while it was so much fun to write, I was once again surprised by how many women related to it. A woman sent me an email to say how she related to so many of these points, but the one that pained her most was number 7, quoted below:Accepting less because our African men don’t know better: We now kn...2020-05-0433 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 8: The Mountain Is Smaller Than It LooksHave you ever faced a mountain in your life that you thought was just going to take you out? Yeah, me, too. Sometimes, I sit back and remember when life was much simpler. Like when my biggest problem in life was that I did not own a cell phone. I wished for one so badly. Funny enough, at some point, I owned not just one, but two cell phones. Then I got tired of having two cell phones, and I switched back to one.Recently, my mountain was the end of my marriage and consequently, the divorce...2020-04-2735 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 7: How To Discover (And Harness) Your Feminine Energy ft. Ekene OnuIt's not every day that one gets to have a conversation about how to discover your feminine energy with the dynamic feminine success coach, Ekene Onu. She's a whole lot of woman. She is as wise as she is graceful, and she seems to do it all so effortlessly. I don't know how she does it, but I do know that she is one of us, and I have met her in person, so I know for sure that she does not have two heads.Today's episode is about how to discover your feminine energy. But it...2020-04-201h 41

I Am African by VerasticEP 6: How I Adopted My Daughters ft. Nkem AkinsotoIn today’s episode, Nkem Akinsoto – AKA Myne Whitman – has graced us with her virtual presence and her wealth of knowledge on the subject of adoption, especially when it comes to adopting in Nigeria. I had heard before that adoption was expensive, but I assumed that adopting in Nigeria (or at least outside America) would be cheaper because you’d convert the dollars to the local currency. Nkem’s story, however, has opened my eyes up to a new reality. You have to listen to find out more.Let me tell you a little bit about Nkem Akinsoto...2020-04-131h 48

I Am African by VerasticEP 5: On Being The Youngest Black Man To Own A Cannabis Dispensary ft. Seun AdedejiSeun Adedeji, youngest Black man to own a cannabis dispensary. And he's African, too? And he's Nigerian? Hot damn.So, I sought him out, and I reached out to him, and I begged him to be a guest on the I Am African podcast, and he obliged me generously.I was so impressed with Seun Adedeji. He's 26 years old, and he's wise, and he has foresight, and I am proud that he's one of my own. You don't have to be interested in cannabis to appreciate this episode. If you're driven, and you want to...2020-04-0655 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 4: On Women Owning Their Sexual Desires ft. Duchess IphieAs an African woman who was raised by African parents, I was never taught to be comfortable with sex, and I was definitely not told about women owning their sexual desires. What sexual desires??? Sex was always this taboo thing that you were only allowed to think of after marriage. And even then, it was a man's thing, a thing that a wife gave her husband whenever he asked for it. I was never taught that women could want it, or could enjoy it, or could even ask for it.Well, I know that now! *Insert...2020-03-301h 31

I Am African by VerasticEP 3: How My Intuition Saved Me From My MarriageWhat does your intuition sound like to you? It sounds like the voice of God to me. It sounds to me like God nudging me, telling me where to go and how to get there. And that's why my intuition saved my life. This episode shares in great detail the many times my intuition saved my life.This episode mentions the story about how my marriage ended, and you can read that story in full here.Let's connect:I Am African on InstagramI Am African on Twitter...2020-03-2342 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 2: Side Chics' Lives MatterIt's okay to laugh at the title. I laughed at it too when I conceived of the idea. Did you watch that video that was circulating around last week and the week before of a woman physically attacking her husband's alleged side chic and asking her who she thought she was to be having anal sex with her husband? Yeah, that video inspired this episode. And then, there was the thing about Bill Clinton saying that his illicit affair with Monica Lewinsky was a way for him to relieve his anxiety. I vented a bit about it o...2020-03-1634 min

Mommy Oyoyo31. Dealing with Divorce as an African Mum feat. Vera Ezimora | @verasticVera Ezimora is a vivacious content creator who is not one to shy away from having hard conversations. After writing all (and I mean EVERYTHING) that led to the end of her marriage, Vera was gracious enough to share what her thought process was like in coming to the decision to divorce, from the standpoint as an African mother. Divorce can still be considered taboo in a lot of African societies, but it is becoming more and more common within Africa and in the Diaspora as well. In this episode we talk about her deciding to leave her marriage...2020-03-1359 min

I Am African by VerasticEP1: For This Divorce, I PrayedDo people pray for divorce? I don't know if they do. I know people pray for love, and for health, and for life, and for marriage, and for children, and for money. I don't know if people pray for divorce, but I know I did. I prayed for divorce fervently. And I prayed for my peace to return to me. I did not know the value of my peace until I did not have it anymore.As promised, here's the link to How My Marriage Ended: The Full Story. Let's connect:2020-03-0926 min

I Am African by VerasticEP 0: IntroductionThis is the introduction to the I Am African podcast by Verastic. The answers to your initial questions are in this episode. Like what is this podcast about? Who is the host? And why did she name it I Am African? Just click play.Thank you for listening. Please review, share, and subscribe to this podcast!Let's connect:I Am African on InstagramI Am African on TwitterI Am African on FacebookVera Ezimora on InstagramVera...2020-02-2709 min

Back2Us Radio NetworkQuestion of the Week? ~BlogHer’15, Experts Among Us Edition: Vera Ezimora, Verastic.comWelcome to a special edition of Question of the Week, we are here in NYC, with the largest group of Bloggers, Writers, Activists, Digital Voices and Content Creators in the world. BlogHer15, Experts Among Us, Presented By SheKnows Media Vera Eximora from Verastic.com shares her answer to Question of the Week. Click Here To Follow Vera!2015-07-2004 min