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Can you see what I see?What is a TRUE apology?There is no one size fits all for most situations...... but really getting the ENERGY of "Sorry" is very empowering - and creative! Coming from a place of vulnerability in our hearts when we say sorry, is actually putting us in a place of "the birthplace of creativity and change" (to quote Dr Brene Brown!)To connect with Grace please visit choosinggreater.com To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/online-zoomy-zoom-zoom-roomFor oth...2022-06-2034 minCan you see what I see?Is it our need, or are we being needy?What does it mean to be needy? Anxiety and constant worrying can leave us feeling needy and insecure.What are some of the signs of being needy?Are we confident that we can find the words to express our own needs? And then to make sure we have boundaries around them.How can we stop being insecure and build self-esteem?To connect with Grace please visit choosinggreater.com To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/online-zoomy-zoom-zoom-roomFo...2022-06-2039 minCan you see what I see?My Life - My ProjectWe cannot do it in isolation - we have a basic need of interdependence, and that involves Respect and Trust.There are many "smaller projects" within our Project Life - but each of them have things in common:being clear on what our vision is, what it will look and feel like when we have achieved it, and understanding WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO US???take time to plan and prepare - being clear on what our goals, actions and milestones are going to be, who can empower or assist us, what might be some of the things that might...2022-06-2051 minCan you see what I see?What do YOU know?How many times have you thought "I knew that didn't feel right when I did/said it!"What if we are all here for our own unique journeys, and they are not meant to look and sound and feel like someone else's?Does it feel "light" for you to pursue SUCCESS as we are currently encouraged to see it...... the pursuit of money, position, status, power, possessions, holidays, cars, caravans, boats....????"You are not your mother, your father, your history, or your cultural influences. You are uniquely and originally You. Be bold and daring and fearless and unconventional. Be willing to...2022-06-2032 minCan you see what I see?Possibilities of 2022our different "personality" parts have a knack of showing up when we are under pressure, they all want to get into the driver's seat of our lives. Christmas can be a time for all of them to show up together :( it is our thoughts, feelings and emotions that can indicate to us we are operating from a "personality" part.what if we aren't our "personality" parts, but a beautiful BEING that only knows peace and harmony and possibilities?and what about that "inner critic" that also shows up - it is different from a "personality" part.how stifling is judgment???? and...2022-06-2034 minCan you see what I see?AbundanceThe opposite of abundance is scarcity....... how do you feel when you come from the energy of "scarcity", and how would you be thinking mentally when you come from the energy of "abundance".Beliefs can influence whether we look at life through the eyes of Abundance vs Scarcity.Some ways to create an abundance mindset: recognise the power of your thoughts; practice gratitude, surround yourself with people who have an abundance mentality......."No Bad Parts" by Richard C. Schwartz, PhD.To connect with Grace please visit choosinggreater.com To attend Grace’s...2022-06-2031 min
Can you see what I see?I Gotta Tell Ya: You Got This KidAvailability of Beck's book:https://www.amazon.com.au/Gotta-Tell-Ya-You-This-ebook/dp/B08CMZRR63 https://www.ebay.com/p/8039276145 Peter Levinehttps://traumahealing.org/ To connect with Grace please visit choosinggreater.com To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/online-zoomy-zoom-zoom-roomFor other podcasts with Grace please visithttps://www.theunseenadvantage.com/podcast-roomTo read our terms and conditions and di...2022-06-2043 min
Can you see what I see?Is Social Conditioning Running Our Lives?There are many advantages of social learning - we all use it naturally every day, consciously and unconsciously. But sometimes it can be used in ways that is not in the best interests of us or others. "Social condition" has been defined as characteristics of both social and physical environments at the individual, household, and community levels that are potentially modifiable - so that includes homes, schools, workplaces, and neighborhoods that could be shaped by policies (at least in theory, but as we know, without political will it isn't going to happen).Media and marketing industry is probably responsible for on...2022-06-2040 minCan you see what I see?Our Addiction to JudgmentYoutube Dr Gabor Mate "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07nOScAHnXIYoutube CPTSD Procrastination by Crappy Childhood Fairy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ykZiTugimFU Book by Dr Gabor Mate: When the Body Says NoTo connect with Grace please visit choosinggreater.com To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/online-zoomy-zoom-zoom-roomFor other podcasts with Grace please visithttps://www.theunseenadvantage.com/podcast-room...2022-06-2035 minCan you see what I see?How Awareness helps us live our PurposeDr Deepak Chopra on how to be more present, and not be overwhelmed with life...... Deepak is interviewed by Jay Shetty who has a Podcast "On Purpose" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJoeh6itLUA Simon Sinek has very reasonable programs about "finding your Why"..... www.simonsinek.com The Good Life: What Makes a Life Worth Living? (Hugh Mackay)Take Charge of Your Life: how to get what you need with Choice Theory Psychology (William Glasser, MD)To connect with Grace please visit choosinggreater.com To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms p...2022-06-2025 minCan you see what I see?Values - what are they really?Is it a value, or is it a belief? Sometimes they are intertwined/confused.What if we just needed to work on our Awareness which would make us making conscious choices in every moment about what would create greater for us and others?The Good Life: What Makes a life worth living (Hugh Mackay)Take Charge of Your Life: how to get what you need with Choice Theory Psychology (William Glasser, MD)Dr Lynette Maguire www.nowgeneration.com.au To connect with Grace please visit choosinggreater.com To attend...2022-06-2039 min
Can you see what I see?It's Time for a Different Conversation About TraumaWhat Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)When The Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)The Divided Mind: The Epidemic of Mindbody Disorders (Dr John E Sarno)The Mind-Gut Connection: How the Hidden Conversation Within Our Bodies Impacts Our Mood, Our Choices, and Our Overall Health (Dr Emeran MayerI Thought It Was Just Me (But It isn't) (Dr Brene Brown)To connect with Grace please visit choosinggreater.com To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to 2022-06-2026 min
Can you see what I see?Is Kindness Always a Virtue?True Kindness is being in a space of no judgment, offering assistance ONLY when it is requested or agreed, and delivered in a way that it can be received, rather than telling the other person your point of view. Bastardised kindness is when there are hidden agendas, an intent to control, there is an ulterior motive, and particularly when it leaves the other person with a twisted feeling in their gut. Gas lighting happens in everyday life, in the workplace, not just in a DV relationship.... when it causes us to question our own reality - what we know to...2022-06-2034 min
Can you see what I see?Grandparents Raising GrandchildrenIf grandparents take this responsibility on from a place of conscious choice, there is a "cleanness" around it...... and this usually comes from an awareness that it really does take a village to raise a child.But if the choice is from a place of necessity.... "I have to do this, there is noone else"...... it is a form of martyrdom, and it limits other possibilities.By getting into the centre of "your flower" (episode 1), and asking the question "would it generate and create greater for me to do this?" could have a very different impact on both the grandparent a...2022-06-2025 min
Can you see what I see?The Magic That We Hide From OurselvesIt has been encouraged and accepted as "natural" over lifetimes that we human beings are in competition with each other, or are being compared with others to make a judgment as to whether we are "successful" or "worthy". We have all been indoctrinated to some extent by our parents, school, media, society, workplaces etc. This has set up a polarity of good/bad and right/wrong...... which makes someone right and someone wrong. As a result, separation occurs - within ourself, in relationships, workplaces, in all aspects of life. It stops us from being ALL of the magic that...2022-06-2032 min
Can you see what I see?Why We Separate - From Ourselves And From Each Other"Trauma is about loss of connection - to ourselves, to our bodies, to our families, to others, and to the world around us. This loss of connection is often hard to recognise, because it doesn't happen all at once. It can happen slowly, over time, and we adapt to these subtle changes sometimes without even noticing them." (Peter Levine)We see that loss of connection as a separation from ourselves.Our choices become limited as we avoid certain feelings, people, situations and places. The result of this gradual constriction of freedom is the loss of vitality and potential for the fulf...2022-06-2047 min
Can you see what I see?Joy and Laughter - the antidote to pain and sufferingRegardless of whether it is a myth that it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, smiling makes us feel happier. Smiling and laughter help to temporarily reduce cortisol and adrenaline levels and stress - which improves our mood and energy levels.. Laughter yoga has the same effect as Pranayama breathing.With the pandemic, it has become hard for people to laugh these days. Fear can push us into exhaustion and into a dystopian world - where we imagine a place in which EVERYTHING is unpleasant and bad. This is a drip-feed of trauma - and we know...2022-06-2038 min
Can you see what I see?Boundaries - do they always serve us?Everyone should have healthy boundaries".... and Cloud & Townsend guide us on what that might look like in all areas of our life, including family, friends, spouse, children, work, the digital age, and even ourself.If we don't have those healthy boundaries in place, it can be for many reasons including a fear of guilt, not being liked, losing the love or connection or approval of someone we care about.Sometimes we confuse "boundaries" with a perception that someone or some experience has not met a need we have (even if we don't name it like that!), and...2022-06-2042 minCan you see what I see?Control - both a negative and a positive, you choose....Control is both a noun (the power to influence or direct people's behaviour or the course of events), and a verb (determine the behaviour or supervise the running of).....How "nice" people can control you..... sometimes without even consciously knowing that is what they are doing."I'm only raising this because I'm concerned about you".... which for teenagers it MAY be OK, but for adults it is not appropriate and is a form of shaming and trying to control someone else in doing what YOU think they should do....Then there is COERCIVE Control..... which causes trauma for individuals..... and...2022-06-2048 min