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A Way Beyond the RainbowIntroduction: "Voices from Beyond the Rainbow" PodcastIntroductory episode to the new podcast series, "Voices from Beyond the Rainbow"."Voices from Beyond the Rainbow" podcast link here."Voices from Beyond the Rainbow" Sign-up Form"One Soul" Sponsorship program link here.Background music: "Pandemia" by MaxKoMusic (Creative Commons CC BY-SA 3.0)Send us a text2025-07-0416 minA Way Beyond the RainbowSequel Podcast: Voices from Beyond the RainbowA glimpse into the new sequel podcast series, "Voices from Beyond the Rainbow", starting summer 2025, inshaAllah.Voices from Beyond the Rainbow podcast websiteTo sign up as a guest: Sign-up FormBackground music: "Perfection" by MaxKoMusic (Creative Commons CC BY-SA 3.0)Send us a text2025-04-1804 min
Seeking RefugeDr. Sarah Waheed on Pakistan's Geopolitical LandscapeIn today's episode, Claire and Anusha are joined by Dr. Sarah Waheed, an assistant professor at the University of South Carolina specializing in South Asian history. Together, they explore the current geopolitical dynamics in Pakistan and their impact on Afghan refugees seeking safety in the country.
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Imam Tom Weekly, a Yaqeen podcastLiving with Same-Sex Attraction as a Muslim, with Waheed JensenAre sexual desires an essential part of who we are? No matter how the world shifts, Islam is clear about not allowing our desires to define us. So what then about feeling same sex attraction? Doesn't that automatically mean that someone is gay? Imam Tom Facchine invites Waheed Jensen to discuss his experiences living with same sex attraction while rejecting current narratives and labels, and how we can support individuals in our communities that struggle with these feelings.2023-07-021h 19A Way Beyond the Rainbow#88 - Podcast FinaleIn the podcast finale, we take a look at the entire journey across all five seasons and reflect on key take-home messages and memorable words from my guests and co-hosts. We wrap up with acknowledgments, a dedication, and final words and prayers.Link to A Way Beyond the Rainbow bookBackground music used in the episode:(0:39-4:14) Now We Are Free (theme from Gladiator), 2CELLOS(4:14-7:39) River Flows in You, Yiruma(7:39-13:51) Adagio in G Minor (Albinoni), HAUSER with the Zagreb Philharmonic Orchestra(13:51-17:21) The Lonely Shepherd (Georghe Zamfir and J...2022-03-251h 32A Way Beyond the RainbowBloopers!A blooper reel featuring many of the out-takes with my co-hosts, Amina and Aadam, that didn't make it to the final cut.Send us a text2022-03-2323 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#87 - For Imams, Chaplains and Community LeadersThis episode is a discussion with Imam Dawud Walid on the current challenges facing imams, chaplains and community leaders given the current global pro-LGBT socio-political climate, and how we, as Muslim communities, can help our imams and community leaders navigate these challenges so they can, in turn, effectively help their communities.What are some of the struggles that imams and community leaders face in their mosques and communities as far as issues related to same-sex attractions or gender dysphoria? Why are imams scattered when it comes to these matters and not unified in their stance? What is...2022-03-211h 50A Way Beyond the Rainbow#86 - For Teachers and EducatorsThis episode is a discussion with Br. Yahya Van Rooy on the current challenges facing teachers, educators and school administrators given the LGBT paradigm, and how Muslims parents and teachers can navigate them together.How can we provide the Muslim youth with firm footing so as not to be swayed by modern media and pop culture? How can we help students navigate challenges with regards to the LGBT narrative within their own schools? How can we support teachers and parents navigate those challenges? How do we, as fellow students, teachers and staff members, deal with students "coming...2022-03-181h 41A Way Beyond the Rainbow#85 - Ty and Danielle Mansfield's Story: Faith, Love and Vulnerability (Part II)This is part II of a two-episode series with Dr. Ty Mansfield and his wife Danielle where we talk about their personal experience with their mixed-orientation marriage.In this episode, we dive deep into spiritual themes, as well as how we can support men and women experiencing SSA or GD in our communities. How important is recognizing one's Divine purpose in our individual and collective journeys? What can Muslims learn from the Mormon experience in providing appropriate safe spaces and support systems for men and women experiencing SSA or GD? What are ongoing projects that we can...2022-03-141h 34A Way Beyond the Rainbow#84 - Ty and Danielle Mansfield's Story: Faith, Love and Vulnerability (Part I)This is part I of a two-episode series with Dr. Ty Mansfield and his wife Danielle where we talk about their personal experience with their mixed-orientation marriage.In this episode, we explore Ty and Danielle's personal journeys, how far Ty has come with his own journey of healing and growth, as well as Danielle’s perspective as a wife of a man who experiences SSA. We talk about spirituality and God's love, vulnerability, intimacy and growth. What are the challenges of going into a mixed-orientation marriage, and how can we navigate that? How can we cultivate more in...2022-03-111h 59A Way Beyond the Rainbow#83 - For Current and Potential SpousesThis episode is dedicated to current and potential spouses of individuals experiencing gender nonconformity, same-sex attractions and/or gender dysphoria.In this episode, I read out survey responses sent by members of the online Straight Struggle community addressing current and potential spouses, and we discuss pertinent themes for spouses and answer frequently-asked questions. Why didn't he/she inform me before marriage and wait until now? Will he/she ever change? How do I deal with other people's opinions and judgments, particularly those coming from family? How do I deal with my insecurity and jealousy from my husband...2022-03-071h 04A Way Beyond the Rainbow#82 - For Parents and Families (IV): On Community Healing and General FAQsThis is part IV of a 4-episode series dedicated to parents and family members of individuals experiencing gender nonconformity, same-sex attractions (SSA) and/or gender dysphoria (GD).In this episode, Aadam and I wrap up the discussion on healing with the topic of community healing, and then we answer frequently-asked questions from parents and family members of individuals experiencing SSA or GD. How important are therapists and mentors in the healing journey, and what are their responsibilities? Will my child ever "change"? If my child or sibling invites me to read their pro-LGBT material or attend their...2022-03-041h 48A Way Beyond the Rainbow#81 - For Parents and Families (III): On the Work of Relational HealingThis is part III of a 4-episode series dedicated to parents and family members of individuals experiencing gender nonconformity, same-sex attractions (SSA) and/or gender dysphoria (GD).In this episode, Aadam and I discuss practical tips and advice for parents and families of individuals experiencing SSA and GD, and we tackle proper communication skills and conflict resolution techniques. To what extent are time, touch and talk important in the lives of children, adolescents and young adults, and how can I offer that? How and why should the same-sex parent become more invested and the opposite-sex parent take...2022-02-281h 48A Way Beyond the Rainbow#80 - For Parents and Families (II): On Foundations for Relational HealingThis is part II of a 4-episode series dedicated to parents and family members of individuals experiencing gender nonconformity, same-sex attractions (SSA) and/or gender dysphoria (GD).In this episode, Aadam and I discuss the notions of gender confusion in childhood and highlight important considerations for parents dealing with young boys and girls as well as adolescents experiencing gender nonconformity, SSA and/or GD. What are signs that my child or family member is experiencing gender identity confusion? What are some possible causes for this? When should I be worried? How can I replace cross-gender toys and...2022-02-251h 22A Way Beyond the Rainbow#79 - For Parents and Families (I): On Personal HealingThis is part I of a 4-episode series dedicated to parents and family members of individuals experiencing gender nonconformity, same-sex attractions (SSA) and/or gender dysphoria (GD).In this episode, Aadam and I read out survey responses sent by members of the online Straight Struggle community addressing parents and siblings, and we cover pertinent themes related to personal healing for parents and family members. What do men and women experiencing SSA or GD hope to get from their parents and family members? How can I, as a parent, sibling or family member of an individual with SSA...2022-02-211h 56A Way Beyond the Rainbow#78 - On Shar'i Perspectives: Gender Transitioning and Contemporary IssuesThis is part II of a 2-episode series with Sh. Mustafa Umar addressing Shar'i perspectives related to gender nonconformity, gender dysphoria and transgenderism.Is gender transitioning unconditionally prohibited in Islam or are there particular exceptions? How do we, as families and communities, deal with individuals undergoing gender transitioning? How do we deal with individuals who identify as gender non-binary or gender-fluid, particularly if they are Muslim? How do we deal with situations where we have to "declare our preferred pronouns"? These and other relevant questions are explored in this episode.Send us a text2022-02-1847 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#77 - On Shar'i Perspectives: Gender Roles and Gender NonconformityThis is part I of a 2-episode series with Sh. Mustafa Umar addressing Shar'i perspectives related to gender nonconformity, gender dysphoria and transgenderism.Are the gender roles defined by Islam rigid or flexible compared to modern Western notions of gender roles? If gender roles are, to a degree, socially determined, what are the permissible limits of not conforming to such gender roles? Where do individuals who identify as gender-fluid or gender non-binary fit in the Islamic paradigm? For individuals who imitate the opposite gender, what does imitation involve and what would be considered blameworthy? These and other...2022-02-141h 03A Way Beyond the Rainbow#76 - On Gender Dysphoria and Transgenderism: Contemporary ChallengesIn this episode, Br. Mobeen Vaid and I discuss the Islamic perspectives on gender-reassignment surgeries as well as the ripple effects of the modern day transgender movement.What are the major Islamic fatawa regarding sex-reassignment surgeries within Sunni and Shi'a Islam? On what grounds were such fatwas issued to begin with? Do communities like the Hijras in Pakistan and Bangladesh as well as the Warias in Indonesia represent legitimate "third gender" communities? What are the ripple effects of the modern trans movement on family units, schools and academia, Muslim scholarship, as well as our mosques and places o...2022-02-111h 38A Way Beyond the Rainbow#75 - On Gender Dysphoria and Transgenderism: Medical PerspectivesIn this episode, we dive deep into the topics of gender dysphoria and transgenderism from scientific and medical perspectives, by exploring the most recent research and developments on the topic.Are there biological factors that contribute to transgenderism? Is gender dysphoria one entity or are there different kinds of it? What is the genesis of gender dysphoria and how is it treated nowadays? Is the “affirmative model” healthy and appropriate for individuals struggling with gender dysphoria? These and other questions are explored in this episode.References used in this episode:- “And the Male Is Not...2022-02-071h 48A Way Beyond the Rainbow#74 - On Gender Atypical Individuals and IntersexIn this episode, we continue our discussion of gender nonconformity with Br. Mobeen Vaid, and we discuss the notions of gender atypical individuals from an Islamic perspective, as well as the concepts of intersex/disorders of sexual development from a medical perspective.What are the differences between al-khunthā al-mushkil (ambiguous khunthā), al-mukhannath al-khilqī (congenital mukhannath) and al-mukhannath ghayr al-khilqī (affected or non-congenital mukhannath)? Does khunthā represent a third gender? To what extent does Islam accommodate gender atypical individuals and guarantee their legal rights under Shari'a? Who is the verse in the Qur'an about "men who possess no sexua...2022-02-041h 50A Way Beyond the Rainbow#73 - On Gender and Gender NonconformityWith this episode, we begin a series of episodes addressing the topics of gender, gender nonconformity, gender dysphoria and transgenderism.In this episode, Br. Mobeen Vaid joins me in a discussion on gender and gender nonconformity in the modern world and from an Islamic legal perspective. Why are we witnessing an explosion of gender and sexual identities nowadays, and where is this expansion heading? Does Islam have a constructionist or essentialist view when it comes to one's gender? Does Islamic Shari'a allow flexibility in terms of our gender expression, or are we limited to strict and predefined “ge...2022-01-311h 22A Way Beyond the Rainbow#72 - On Contemporary Issues and Shar'i Perspectives (Part II)This is part II of a 2-episode series with Sh. Mustafa Umar addressing contemporary issues and Shar'i perspectives related to same-sex attractions and gender identity issues.Is Islam a "homophobic" or "transphobic" religion? Where do we, as Muslim communities, stand on "LGBT rights" and same-sex marriage? Is it permissible for me to attend a same-sex marriage? How do we deal with "progressive" or "reformist" Muslims pushing pro-LGBT agendas on our communities? How do we deal with Muslim reverts who identify as part of the LGBT community? How do we deal with particular workplace rules and regulations that...2022-01-281h 00A Way Beyond the Rainbow#71 - On Contemporary Issues and Shar'i Perspectives (Part I)This is part I of a 2-episode series with Sh. Mustafa Umar addressing contemporary issues and Shar'i perspectives related to same-sex attractions and gender identity issues.How can parents, family members and friends support and embrace individuals with same-sex attractions and/or gender dysphoria without compromising their values and Deen? How do we deal with men or women in our families/circle of friends who have "come out" as part of the LGBT community and are living the lifestyle? From an Islamic legal perspective, what are the punishments of same-sex sexual behaviors and some of the common...2022-01-241h 19A Way Beyond the Rainbow#70 - On Revisionist Arguments (Part II)This is part II of a 2-episode series with Br. Mobeen Vaid addressing revisionist arguments pertaining to homosexuality within Islam.In this episode, Mobeen and I discuss the punishments of sodomy according to Islamic Shari'a, to what extent Islam can be considered a "sex positive" religion, as well as the notions of marriage and celibacy for men and women who experience same-sex attractions. Under what conditions is sodomy punished by Islamic law, and why is there no consensus on this matter? Since a lot of homoerotic prose and poetry were written during the Islamic Golden Age, and...2022-01-211h 23A Way Beyond the Rainbow#69 - On Revisionist Arguments (Part I)This is part I of a 2-episode series with Br. Mobeen Vaid addressing revisionist arguments pertaining to homosexuality within Islam.In this episode, Mobeen and I discuss the sociocultural backdrop of this kind of revisionism, particularly within Islam, and we address relevant arguments related to terminology as well as the story of the people of Prophet Lut (PBUH). What are the broader assumptions taken for granted by revisionist narratives? Does the Qur'an explicitly and unequivocally prohibit same-sex sexual acts? What were the people of Lut (PBUH) condemned and punished for according to textual proof? Do the themes...2022-01-171h 09A Way Beyond the Rainbow#68 - Between Toxic Masculinity and Radical FeminismIn this episode, we tackle the notions of toxic masculinity and discuss the waves of opposing feminist movements with their ripple effects on the global community. We also highlight the importance of the Prophetic example in paving the way for God-conscious, healthy masculinity.What are the "Man Rules" and "Woman Rules" that we take for granted, and how do they contribute to toxic masculinity in our cultures? Are gender differences socially constructed? What does Islam say about the similarities and differences between the male and the female? How can we reclaim our masculinity in light of the...2022-01-141h 23A Way Beyond the Rainbow#67 - On Politics, Genderspeak and a Queer New World (Part II)This is part II of a 2-episode series that addresses the history and politics of the gay liberation movement, the influence of the LGBT movement on countless aspects of everyday life and how far things have progressed in a few decades.How has the LGBT movement influenced media outlets, religious discourse, school curricula and global corporations over the past few decades? Why and how did the American Psychological Association (APA) remove homosexuality from its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM)? How did we get to a point where any therapy other than gay- or trans-affirmative...2022-01-101h 37A Way Beyond the Rainbow#66 - On Politics, Genderspeak and a Queer New World (Part I)With this episode, we commence the fifth and final season of the podcast which focuses on sociopolitical and religious topics, themes related to gender and transgenderism, as well as broader topics of relevance to the larger community. The season premieres with a 2-episode series that addresses the history and politics of the gay liberation movement, the influence of the LGBT movement on countless aspects of everyday life and how far things have progressed in a few decades.How did the gay liberation movement start and progress over the past few decades? In what ways was t...2022-01-071h 38A Way Beyond the Rainbow#65 - On Self-Esteem (Part II)This is part II of a 2-episode series on the topic of self-esteem and becoming more confident in our lives.In this season finale, Aadam and I discuss imposter syndrome, how to deal with fear of rejection and criticism, as well as practical tips to boosting one's confidence. What are the different kinds of imposter syndrome and how can we overcome them? What's the difference between feedback and criticism, and how can I deal with the latter? How can I stop taking things personally in my life? How can I build my sense of self-confidence on a...2021-10-221h 10A Way Beyond the Rainbow#64 - On Self-Esteem (Part I)This is part I of a 2-episode series on the topic of self-esteem and becoming more confident in our lives.In this episode, Aadam and I introduce self-esteem and self-confidence, touch upon some relevant spiritual themes and dive into the six pillars of self-esteem. How does living consciously contribute to my self-esteem? How can I practice more self-acceptance on a daily basis and take responsibility for my life? How can I become more assertive and stand up for my rights and ideas? How does maintaining integrity in my life contribute to my self-confidence? These and other questions...2021-10-181h 15A Way Beyond the Rainbow#63 - On Self-Discipline (Part II)This is part II of a 2-episode series on the topic of self-discipline and building healthy habits.In this episode, Aadam and I discuss building atomic habits, overcoming procrastination and failure, and developing morning routines. How can I build healthy habits consistently and overcome some of my bad habits? How can I deal with distractions in my life and overcome procrastination? Why is a morning routine important and what does it constitute? How can I develop a contingency plan in case I fail? These and other questions are explored in this episode.References used and...2021-10-151h 34A Way Beyond the Rainbow#62 - On Self-Discipline (Part I)This is part I of a 2-episode series on the topic of self-discipline and building healthy habits.In this episode, Aadam and I outline the differences between self-discipline, motivation, willpower and self-control, highlight the benefits of self-discipline, and discuss practical methods to cultivating that in our daily lives. How can I prevent my "monkey mind" from taking over when I try to work or study? How can I develop practical goals, aspirations and strategies in my life? How can I start building more structure, focus and discipline in my life, and how can I develop more willpower...2021-10-111h 42A Way Beyond the Rainbow#61 - On Sexual Abuse (Part II)*TRIGGER WARNING: Episode discusses themes of sexual abuse, assault and rape* This is part II of a 2-episode series on the topic of sexual abuse, assault and rape. In this episode, we discuss the process of defining and processing sexual abuse experiences and outline stages of healing, practical work and different coping strategies. We also cover the topic of rape, as well as the intricacies involved with disclosing sexual abuse experiences to loved ones. We also offer tips to parents, spouses, family members and friends of individuals who experienced sexual abuse or rape. Wha...2021-10-011h 16A Way Beyond the Rainbow#60 - On Sexual Abuse (Part I)*TRIGGER WARNING: Episode discusses themes of sexual abuse, assault and rape*This is part I of a 2-episode series on the topic of sexual abuse, assault and rape.In this episode, we tackle some relevant definitions and statistics, discuss some reasons why survivors do not disclose their sexual abuse experiences, and highlight some of the psychological and emotional repercussions of sexual abuse. We also cover some facts and myths with regards to unwanted sexual experiences, particularly those relating to male sexual abuse.Why do many survivors of sexual abuse experiences keep such incidents...2021-09-271h 28A Way Beyond the Rainbow#59 - On Porn and Sex Addictions (Part IV)This is the fourth and last part of our 4-episode comprehensive series on understanding and overcoming porn and sex addictions. In this episode, we examine together relevant spiritual themes on the journey of sexual recovery, including patience, perseverance, surrender, repentance and going back to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. We also discuss many lessons from the story of Prophet Yunus (PBUH) in relation to sexual recovery.What are some gems that we can learn from Prophet Yunus (PBUH)'s story that are relevant to our journey of recovery from addictions and unwanted behaviors? How can my temptations, habits...2021-09-2445 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#58 - On Porn and Sex Addictions (Part III)This is part III of a 4-episode comprehensive series on understanding and overcoming porn and sex addictions. In this episode, we examine together the withdrawal period, potential pitfalls and mind games on the journey of healing and recovery, as well as practical tips and tools that we can use on our journey. We also talk about helpful apps, websites and support systems, how to deal with periods of difficulty, and how to disclose to people close to you, should you choose to do so.What would I expect to happen when I choose to quit my compulsive...2021-09-201h 17A Way Beyond the RainbowSOS Meditation (3): Turning Temptations into Divine ConnectionA 17-minute meditation that involves mindfulness, breathing and connecting with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala using some of His Divine Names, reorienting our being as we call unto Him and ask for His help.Background music from Benjamin Tissot (Bensound).Send us a text2021-09-1717 minA Way Beyond the RainbowSOS Meditation (2): Breathing and Body ScanA 13-minute meditation focused on breathing and a full body scan to practice mindfulness and demystify triggers.Background music from Benjamin Tissot (Bensound).Send us a text2021-09-1713 minA Way Beyond the RainbowSOS Meditation (1): Grounding and BreathingA 10-minute meditation focused on grounding and breathing to practice mindfulness and demystify triggers.Background music from Benjamin Tissot (Bensound).Send us a text2021-09-1709 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#57 - On Porn and Sex Addictions (Part II)This is part II of a 4-episode comprehensive series on understanding and overcoming porn and sex addictions. In this episode, we discuss many practical techniques to help us demystify sexual triggers and overcome the urges of sexual "acting out". How can I communicate with my "inner addict" and deconstruct my urges? How do mindfulness and conscious awareness exercises help me overcome my sexual triggers? What are some practical tools that can be used when I experience intense urges to watch porn or act out sexually? How can all of this be transformed into acts of worship? These...2021-09-171h 10A Way Beyond the Rainbow#56 - On Porn and Sex Addictions (Part I)This is part I of a 4-episode comprehensive series on understanding and overcoming porn and sex addictions. In this episode, we discuss what addiction is, from physiological, emotional and personal perspectives. We also look at the damaging effects of porn and the horrifying realities associated with the porn industry.Do I have a compulsive sexual behavior disorder? How does compulsive porn use, masturbation or sexually acting out affect the physiology of my brain and nervous system and lead to addiction? Other than physiology, what are other important aspects of addiction to take into account so we can u...2021-09-131h 04A Way Beyond the Rainbow#55 - On Masturbation: Thinking Beyond Black and WhiteIn this episode, we explore the topic of masturbation comprehensively, from its legal (fiqh), physiological and psychological angles, taking into consideration particular complexities and nuances relevant to men and women dealing with same-sex attractions. We also discuss practical tips and tools to help us keep masturbation in check in our lives.Under what conditions can masturbation be considered haram or halal? What are the benefits and harms of masturbation? If a single man or woman dealing with same-sex attractions needs a "sexual release", would masturbation be safe and acceptable? How can we deal with compulsive masturbation? What...2021-09-1047 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#54 - On Islamic Sexual Ethics and Gender NormsIn this episode, we explore together some of the ripple effects of the sexual revolution and gay liberation movement, discuss the nature of morality in Islam, and introduce relevant sexual ethics and gender norms within Islam based on the male-female dichotomy. What are some of the tangible effects of the sexual revolution that we witness nowadays? How do we understand morality, sexuality and gender norms within an Islamic framework, and how does that contrast with the modern Western paradigm? Are there Islamic legal exceptions or special considerations for men and women dealing with same-sex attractions and/or...2021-09-0646 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#53 - On Setting Boundaries (Part II)This is part II of a 2-episode series on setting boundaries. In this episode, Amina and I discuss setting boundaries with people who have narcissistic tendencies, how to prepare mentally for any pushback, and how to avoid being pulled into the arena of what many psychologists call "pathological narcissists".What are some characteristics and behaviors of "pathological narcissists", and how might they behave when we start setting boundaries with them? How do I deal with parents, relatives, partners, friends or colleagues who have narcissistic and manipulative tendencies? How do I avoid being manipulated by them? If my...2021-08-201h 01A Way Beyond the Rainbow#52 - On Setting Boundaries (Part I)This is part I of a 2-episode series on setting boundaries. In this episode, Amina and I discuss what boundaries are, how to define your own boundaries, communicate them and maintain them, as well as techniques on how to say "no" and how to clearly communicate your needs with others in your life.Are my boundaries loose, rigid or flexible? What are the three main types of boundaries, and how can I assess these boundaries in my life? What is the difference between emotional dumping and venting? How do I communicate boundaries, say "no" to others and t...2021-08-161h 40A Way Beyond the Rainbow#51 - On Healing Codependency and Emotional Dependency (Part II)This is part II of a 2-episode series on healing codependency and emotional dependency. In this episode, Amina and I discuss how to reclaim our place and power in relationships, how to help men reclaim their masculinity, how to reconnect with our path and purpose, as well as how to begin to heal emotional dependency.How do I feel more secure in my friendships and romantic relationships? How can a cost-benefit analysis help me continue with or sever a relationship? How can men dealing with codependency and/or same-sex attractions reclaim their sense of masculinity and feel...2021-08-131h 28A Way Beyond the Rainbow#50 - On Healing Codependency and Emotional Dependency (Part I)This is part I of a 2-episode series on healing codependency and emotional dependency. In this episode, Amina and I discuss how codependency shares similar traits with addiction, and we explore some of the goals, expectations and practical tips on the healing journey, starting with reclaiming our personal power.How can I stop people pleasing and focus on my own growth instead? What aspects of self-care help me overcome codependency and emotional dependency? Why are expressing feelings and boundary setting important on the healing journey, and how can we practice them in a safe environment? How can w...2021-08-091h 11A Way Beyond the Rainbow#49 - On the Characteristics of Codependency and Emotional DependencyIn our second episode in the series on attachments, codependency and emotional dependency, Amina and I discuss the mental, emotional and behavioral characteristics that many individuals dealing with codependency and/or emotional dependency tend to exhibit. What is the difference between caring and care taking? Why do I avoid confrontation and resort to people pleasing? Why do I hide my mistakes and have an attitude of perfectionism? Why do I enjoy giving but struggle with receiving? Why do I struggle with being too enmeshed in my relationships or too avoidant? What's the difference between codependency and genuine...2021-08-061h 27A Way Beyond the Rainbow#48 - On the Origins of Emotional Attachments and CodependencyIn a series of episodes on emotional attachments, dependency and codependency, my friend Amina joins me to discuss the origins and characteristics of these themes as well as relevant and practical healing and recovery work.In this episode, we talk about the origins of attachment styles in adulthood, the four styles of adult attachment, and we introduce the topic of codependency. Why am I anxious in my relationships with others? Why am I avoidant of commitment and intimacy? What is codependency and where does it come from? These and other questions are addressed in this episode.2021-08-0258 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#47 - On Inner Child Work and ReparentingAn important theme along the healing and recovery journey is inner child work and re-parenting. In this episode, we dive into childhood attachment theory, introduce the inner child, inner parent and inner adult, as well as the inner child archetypes, and we talk about practical tools of inner child work and the reparenting process.Who is my inner child and how different is he/she from my inner adult? What does this kind of work have to do with the healing and recovery journey? How can I communicate with my inner child? How can I manage my...2021-07-231h 28A Way Beyond the Rainbow#46 - On Healing Complex TraumaThis is part 4 of a four-episode series on understanding the origins and characteristics of complex trauma as well as paving a holistic path of healing.In this episode, Aadam and I talk about a holistic approach to healing complex trauma using the bio-psycho-social-spiritual model, wrapping up our series on complex trauma.How do proper nutrition and sleep impact my healing and recovery? What are some grounding techniques that could help me deal with my triggers? How can relationships help me heal my old wounds? Is a spiritual connection a necessary component of the healing process...2021-07-191h 35A Way Beyond the Rainbow#45 - On the Effects and Characteristics of Complex Trauma (Part II)*General trigger warning: episode involves discussion of traumatic events and may be triggering to some listeners*This is part 3 of a four-episode series on understanding the origins and characteristics of complex trauma as well as paving a holistic path of healing.In this episode, Aadam and I continue our talk on the effects and characteristics of complex trauma by discussing interpersonal and relationship aspects. We also cover the topic of trauma bonds developed by Dr. Patrick Carnes.How does complex trauma impact my relationships with family, friends, colleagues and romantic partners? Why do...2021-07-161h 28A Way Beyond the Rainbow#44 - On the Effects and Characteristics of Complex Trauma (Part I)*General trigger warning: episode involves discussion of traumatic events and may be triggering to some listeners*This is part 2 of a four-episode series on understanding the origins and characteristics of complex trauma as well as paving a holistic path of healing.In this episode, Aadam and I talk about how complex trauma impacts our self-identity and self-perception, contributes to a shame narrative, and leads to a myriad of emotional, cognitive and behavioral effects and characteristics. How does complex trauma lead to the narrative that "I am unworthy, unlovable and not good enough"? In...2021-07-121h 52A Way Beyond the Rainbow#43 - On the Origins of Complex Trauma*General trigger warning: episode involves discussion of traumatic events and may be triggering to some listeners*My friend Aadam joins me on a four-episode series that focuses on understanding the origins and characteristics of complex trauma as well as paving a holistic path of healing.In this episode, we talk about the definition of complex trauma and factors that lead to it, the survival brain and the fight-flight-freeze response, as well as the different parental or caregiver dynamics that may give rise to complex trauma during childhood. What is the difference between simple...2021-07-091h 51A Way Beyond the Rainbow#42 - On Self-AwarenessIn this episode, we begin our series on healing and recovery work by covering the basics of conscious self-awareness and mindfulness. We discuss how most of our time is spent on auto-pilot mode and how we can bring our minds back into the present moment through simple daily practice. We also talk about the importance of knowing ourselves and our histories, as well as what to expect on the journey of healing and recovery.Why do I feel stuck on my journey and how can I overcome this? How will mindfulness, meditation and conscious awareness help me...2021-07-0554 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#41 - On Words and a Vision of HealingWith this episode, we commence season 4 which is dedicated to healing and recovery work. In the season 4 premiere, we examine the effects of words; there are words that hurt and words that heal. We also present a working vision for healing that will pave the way for the myriad of topics to come this season, inshaAllah.What are some words that ought to be revised in our conversations, particularly with those on their healing and recovery journeys? How do we, as individuals, families and communities, listen to, love and care for those of us struggling with same-sex...2021-07-0254 minA Way Beyond the RainbowTeaser - Seasons 4 and 5A glimpse into the topics coming up in seasons 4 and 5 of the podcast, inshaAllah.Send us a text2021-05-2405 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#40 - Alan's Story: "Making Peace with My Painful Past"In the last episode of this season, my friend Alan joins me and shares with us many gems from his journey of healing, recovery and overcoming same-sex attractions, attachments and codependency. Alan shares with us how support systems have helped him in his journey of healing, and he shares lots of advice on relationships, marriage and intimacy from his 40+ years of marriage.*Trigger warning: this episode covers topics that are emotional and sexual in nature, and it has been flagged for explicit content*Links to resources mentioned in the episode:- Brothers Road webpage2020-11-232h 37A Way Beyond the Rainbow#39 - On Marital Intimacy and Sex (Part II)*General trigger warning: Episode involves discussion of intimacy and sexual relations with graphic details. This episode is flagged for explicit content.*This is part II of a 2-episode series on marital intimacy and sexual relations, answering frequently asked questions on these topics, with a focus on men and women experiencing same-sex attractions. Joining me in both episodes is sex therapist Dr. Rana Khaled, MD/PhD.In this episode, we discuss ways to improve sexual relations between spouses in quantity and quality, and how to cultivate emotional intimacy with one's spouse. Special focus is given on...2020-11-201h 22A Way Beyond the Rainbow#38 - On Marital Intimacy and Sex (Part I)*General trigger warning: Episode involves discussion of intimacy and sexual relations with graphic details. This episode is flagged for explicit content.*This is part I of a 2-episode series on marital intimacy and sexual relations, answering frequently asked questions on these topics, with a focus on men and women experiencing same-sex attractions. Joining me in both episodes is sex therapist Dr. Rana Khaled, MD/PhD.In this episode, we discuss challenges to intimacy and sexual relations in general, as well as those involving men and women dealing with same-sex attractions. We explore sexual relations beginning...2020-11-161h 48A Way Beyond the Rainbow#37 - On Marriage and Celibacy (Part II)This is part II of a 2-episode series on marriage and celibacy, answering frequently-asked questions on the topics, with a focus on SSA-related matters.In this episode, we focus on SSA-related questions within the context of marriage, and we address the topic of celibacy as a legitimate life choice. Is it honest of me to get married without telling my spouse about my SSA? What are some recommendations if I would like to disclose my SSA to him/her? If I had a same-sex sexual encounter before marriage and repented, should I disclose this to my potential...2020-11-131h 07A Way Beyond the Rainbow#36 - On Marriage and Celibacy (Part I)This is part I of a 2-episode series on marriage and celibacy, answering frequently-asked questions on the topics, with a focus on SSA-related matters.In this episode, we address general questions and misconceptions about marriage. What are the legal rulings on marriage, and when would it actually be discouraged or haram? What if I am pressured by my family and/or community to get married, how do I deal with that? Does marriage "heal" one's SSA? How do I know I’m ready to be sexual and intimate with my spouse, if I’ve never had experience in t...2020-11-091h 18A Way Beyond the Rainbow#35 - Chris's Story: "Stuck on 'Step Minus One'?" The Medical Aspects of Sexual RecoveryIn this episode, Chris joins me again from Melbourne, Australia, to talk about his own journey of healing, relapses and recovery, involving decades of therapy and being part of support groups, as well as findings answers and help in the fields of neuroscience, biology and functional medicine. He shares with us insights and wisdoms gained throughout six decades of life, after having left the gay lifestyle and sought a path of healing and celibacy.*Trigger warning: discussion involves sexual abuse, sexual addictions and behaviors as well as relapses throughout a recovery journey*N.B. This e...2020-11-061h 23A Way Beyond the Rainbow#34 - On Support Systems: "Mankind Project" and the "Noble Man"In our last episode on support systems, Br. Ali Jaffery joins me again as a guest speaker and talks to us about the Mankind Project with its different services, like the New Warrior Training and integration groups, as well as a separate initiative called the Noble Man.How does the Mankind Project help men in general with their growth, healing and masculine identity? What is New Warrior Training weekend, and what does it involve? How does the Noble Man deal with the feminine dimension, and what does the weekend involve? These and other questions are explored in...2020-11-021h 05A Way Beyond the Rainbow#33 - On Support Systems: "Joel 2:25"In this episode, Jeremy Schwab from the US and Alan Alencar from Brazil join me as guest speakers and talk to us about "Joel 2:25" and the international initiatives associated with the organization.What does "Joel 2:25" stand for? How has "Joel 2:25" evolved throughout the years, and what are some of the services provided for individuals who experience same-sex attractions? How can one be verified and admitted into the different support groups available? These and other questions are explored in this episode.Links to resources mentioned in the episode:- Joel 2:25 webpageSend...2020-10-301h 03A Way Beyond the Rainbow#32 - On Support Systems: "Brothers Road" and the JourneysIn this episode, Mr. Richard Wyler from the US joins me as a guest speaker and talks to us about Brothers Road and the services offered by his organization.How has "Brothers Road" evolved throughout the years from "People Can Change"? What are "Journey into Manhood" (JIM) weekends, and what do they involve in terms of bonding and healing work? What are other journeys offered beyond JIM? These and other questions are explored in this episode.Links to resources mentioned in the episode:- Brothers Road webpage- Journey Into Manhood...2020-10-261h 01A Way Beyond the Rainbow#31 - On Support Systems: "Homosexuals Anonymous" and the 14 StepsIn this episode, Robert Gollwitzer from Germany joins me as a guest speaker and talks to us about Homosexuals Anonymous and the 14-step program.How are the 14 steps different from the 12 steps, and what do they entail? What is the focus of Homosexuals Anonymous, and how does it help individuals struggling with unwanted same-sex attractions? These and other questions are explored in this episode.Links to resources mentioned in the episode:- Homosexuals Anonymous website- Robert’s website - Joe Dallas’s website- "The Search For Significance: Seeing Your...2020-10-231h 06A Way Beyond the Rainbow#30 - On Support Systems: 12-Step Programs and Sexual Recovery ProgramsIn this episode, Chris from Australia joins me as a guest speaker and talks to us about 12-step programs as well as sexual recovery programs, like Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), among others.How did 12-step programs evolve throughout the years and what do they entail? Who are "sponsors" and how do they support us with our recovery? What are some of the different sexual recovery programs out there, and how do they help us in our journeys of abstinence from sex, masturbation and/or pornography? These and other questions are explored in...2020-10-1953 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#29 - On Support Systems: "Straight Struggle"In this episode, Br. Yousef Salam from Canada joins me as a guest speaker and talks to us about the online support group Straight Struggle. How did Straight Struggle evolve throughout the years from the "Yahoo!" to "Discord" platforms? What are the services that the online support group provides? What are the demographics of members who benefit from such services? These questions and others are explored in this episode.Links to resources mentioned in the episode:- Br. Yousef’s article, “From a Same-Sex Attracted Muslim: Between Denial of Reality and Distortion of Relig...2020-10-161h 05A Way Beyond the Rainbow#28 - On Support Systems: "Strong Support"In this episode, Br. Ali Jaffery from the UK joins me as a guest speaker and talks to us about his organization, Strong Support, which aims to help Muslims experiencing unwanted same-sex lust.What is the mission and vision of Strong Support? What are the services that it provides? What are the demographics of members who benefit from such services? These questions and others are explored in this episode.Links to resources mentioned in the episode:- Br. Ali’s podcast interview on The Muslim Vibe - Strong Support homepage- St...2020-10-1248 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#27 - On Support Systems: Friends, Family and Local Support GroupsWith season 3, we begin a series of episodes that address different kinds of support systems and the ways they can help us on our journeys of growth and healing. In this episode, we address local support groups, including friends, family members and colleagues, and we answer some frequently asked questions. What are the different kinds of friendship with the same sex that one can cultivate, and what values do they have? Should I disclose my same-sex attractions to a close friend, and if so, how can I do that? What if I find myself attracted to a f...2020-10-091h 18A Way Beyond the Rainbow#26 - Amina's Story: "Coming Home to Allah From a Same-Sex Marriage"In this season finale, my friend Amina joins me as a guest speaker to share with us her story, from same-sex relationships and marriage, being on “spiritual life support” as she calls it, and living the “progressive lifestyle”, to returning back to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and changing her life for Him. *Trigger warning: the episode covers deep emotional topics like abandonment and divorce, as well as issues related to childhood sexual abuse*Send us a text2020-09-182h 30A Way Beyond the Rainbow#25 - On Spiritual Awakening (and a Wrap-Up!)In our last episode on spiritual reflections, Hashim and I revisit the topic of repentance, and we discuss spiritual awakening, the characteristics of that station and some things to watch out for when we're experiencing the "highs" as well as the "lows". We also wrap up and summarize the spiritual themes discussed during season 2 of the podcast.What is spiritual awakening and why is it temporary? How is it that a spiritual high is a test as much as a spiritual low? And how is this relevant in our individual journeys, particularly when dealing with same-sex attractions...2020-09-111h 08A Way Beyond the Rainbow#24 - On Shahawat and Curbing DesiresIn this episode, Hashim and I talk about desires and shahawat: their different kinds, the wisdom behind them, and the many ways to help us curb them in our journeys, particularly for individuals who experience same-sex attractions.Is it only Shaytan that whispers to us to inflame our desires? What are the different degrees of the nafs (self), and how are they relevant to our journey in life? What can be done individually and collectively to help us control our desires in a healthy manner? These and other questions are explored in this episode.Send...2020-09-111h 33A Way Beyond the Rainbow#23 - On the Story of the People of Lut (PBUH)In this episode, Hashim and I discuss the story of the people of Lut (PBUH) and reflect on many relevant themes, with a focus on our struggle as men and women experiencing same-sex attractions in this day and age who are committed to staying true to Allah and His deen. We tackle the topics of pride and remorse, the ways in which we may be similar to and different from the people of Lut (PBUH), how chastity is a cornerstone of our faith, and how grounding ourselves in Him and standing our ground for Him SWT is the way...2020-09-041h 30A Way Beyond the Rainbow#22 - On Adam and Eve, Temptation and Repentance (Part II)This is a 2-episode series where my friend Hashim and I dissect the story of Adam and Eve, peace be upon them, as well as temptation and repentance and offer many reflections on how this story is relevant to us as men and women experiencing SSA.In part II of this series, we talk about how to use Allah's provisions to repent and go back to Him, starting with remembrance and prayer, the importance of never losing hope or giving in to despair or shame and of reflecting on the mercy and love that Allah SWT bestows...2020-08-281h 09A Way Beyond the RainbowEpisode 22 - On Adam and Eve, Temptation and Repentance (Part II)This is a 2-episode series where my friend Hashim and I dissect the story of Adam and Eve, peace be upon them, as well as temptation and repentance and offer many reflections on how this story is relevant to us as men and women experiencing SSA.In part II of this series, we talk about how to use Allah's provisions to repent and go back to Him, starting with remembrance and prayer, the importance of never losing hope or giving in to despair or shame and of reflecting on the mercy and love that Allah SWT bestows...2020-08-281h 09A Way Beyond the Rainbow#21 - On Adam and Eve, Temptation and Repentance (Part I)This is a 2-episode series where my friend Hashim and I dissect the story of Adam and Eve, peace be upon them, as well as temptation and repentance and offer many reflections on how this story is relevant to us as men and women experiencing SSA.In part I of this series, we go back to the origin of the creation of mankind: how God glorified man and destined him for greatness, how the devil lurks in the background and uses our desires against us, glorifying sin and temptation, and how Adam PBUH is a model for...2020-08-281h 13A Way Beyond the RainbowEpisode 21 - On Adam and Eve, Temptation and Repentance (Part I)This is a 2-episode series where my friend Hashim and I dissect the story of Adam and Eve, peace be upon them, as well as temptation and repentance and offer many reflections on how this story is relevant to us as men and women experiencing SSA.In part I of this series, we go back to the origin of the creation of mankind: how God glorified man and destined him for greatness, how the devil lurks in the background and uses our desires against us, glorifying sin and temptation, and how Adam PBUH is a model for...2020-08-281h 13A Way Beyond the Rainbow#20 - On David and Jonathan, Shams and RumiIn this episode, we explore together the concept of love for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, presenting the examples of two pairs of giants: David (PBUH) and Jonathan, as well as Shams and Rumi. Pure love between members of the same sex can be very profound, healing and uplifting, such that even poetry fails to describe its magnitude.What was the kind of love that these two pairs shared such that its legacy still stands until this day? Were any parts of this love sensual or physical, or was this love spiritual and beyond? How...2020-08-2157 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#19 - On Gifts, Divine Openings and Role ModelsIn this episode, we talk about gifts and talents, as well as Divine openings that come along with SSA. Whether spiritual openings, emotional intelligence or extraordinary talents across different fields, men and women with SSA have God-given gifts, which, when used wisely, can end up changing the world. We also explore some stories of men and women throughout history, among whom some had strong and platonic same-sex friendships, others had SSA and kept themselves chaste, while others, unfortunately, acted upon their desires -- from leaders like Alexander the Great and Emperor Hadrian and artists like Michelangelo and T...2020-08-1458 minA Way Beyond the Rainbow#18 - On Attachments and SurrenderIn this episode, Aadam and I discuss the topic of attachments, fear of letting go, and sacrifice for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. We dissect the story of Ibrahim, Hajar and Isma'il (peace and blessings be upon them all), looking at their trials from that particular lens. We also examine the statement of Tawheed (monotheism): "There is no god but Allah" from a lens of shedding all worldly attachments and redirecting things towards Him.What are some things to which we are attached in this life, that leaving them would send us on a downward...2020-08-071h 25A Way Beyond the Rainbow#17 - On Hardships, Trials and Tribulations (Part III)In our third and last part of the three-episode series on hardships, trials and tribulations, we talk about how trials and hardships purify us, the rewards hidden in them and how challenges in life lead to self-improvement and the development of gratitude and contentment. We end this series of episodes by synthesizing all themes discussed and reflecting on the story of Prophet Yusuf/Joseph (PBUH).How does pain purify us and bring us back to Allah? What is the difference between bearing things, being patient and being content and happy with tribulations? And how is the story...2020-07-311h 01A Way Beyond the Rainbow#16 - On Hardships, Trials and Tribulations (Part II)We continue with our three-episode series on hardships, trials and tribulations, and in this second part, we talk about how struggles bring about sincerity, humility and patient forbearance, as well as many rewards from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. We also explore the notion, "With every hardship comes ease", as we present glimpses from the lives of Moses, Maryam and Asiyah, may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon them all, and contextualize our struggle with SSA in relation to these profound themes.How are trials and tribulations a sign of Allah's love, and how do they...2020-07-241h 21A Way Beyond the Rainbow#15 - On Hardships, Trials and Tribulations (Part I)My friend Aadam joins me in a three-episode series where we discuss hardships, trials and tribulations and contextualize our struggle with SSA in the larger scheme of things. In this episode, we talk about the problem of evil and suffering, the story of Moses (PBUH) and Al-Khidr, the story of Ayyub (PBUH) and his wife, and how everything in life is a test from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.Why do "bad things" happen to "good people"? Why are we tested? Can things that appear as "bad" conceal "good" things in them? These and other questions are discussed...2020-07-171h 20A Way Beyond the Rainbow#14 - Reflections on Divine Love and MercyWith this episode, we begin a series of episodes tackling spiritual aspects relevant to struggles, trials and tribulations. We explore together what many of us have been through, or are still going through, namely, what seems to be "layers of darkness within an unfathomable sea", and our search for Light. The episode is based on Surat al-Fatiha, The Opener and Inaugurator of the Qur'an, and it is an invitation to let go of one's anger, baggage and preconceived notions for a tiny amount of time and to see Allah through Allah, as He describes Himself, subhanahu wa t...2020-07-101h 06A Way Beyond the Rainbow#13 - Pause. Rewind. Play.In this season 2 premiere, I address some of the questions and comments received and misconceptions that arose with regards to topics addressed in season 1 of the podcast, inviting everyone to pause, rewind and hit play, both literally and spiritually.Do we all fit the trauma-based models? Does therapy work for everyone? What is meant by "healing" in the context of SSA, and is there any such thing to begin with? And most importantly, who is in charge of your life, choices and decisions? These and other questions are explored in this episode.Links to resources...2020-07-031h 05A Way Beyond the Rainbow#12 - On Richard Cohen's Four Stage ModelIn this season finale, Mr. Richard Cohen, author of Coming Out Straight: Understanding Same-Sex Attraction joins me in an intense yet heartwarming discussion of the four areas and four stages of healing that he outlines in his book, as part of a comprehensive and holistic plan to healing and growth. We dissect, in details, the different stages from grounding and transitioning to healing homo- and hetero-emotional wounds, in line with the the psychology of SSA covered in previous episodes. We also address commonly-asked questions towards the end of the episode, with some uplifting messages from Richard to men and...2020-04-172h 26A Way Beyond the Rainbow#11 - On Reintegrative TherapyIn this episode, Mr. Michael Gasparro from Dr. Nicolosi's Breakthrough Clinic joins me to talk about reintegrative therapy. We discuss cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), body work, how to navigate the gray zone and the scenario preceding the homosexual enactment, as well as grief work and the reintegrative therapy protocol. Would therapy help me address my same-sex attractions? How different is reintegrative therapy from what is known nowadays as conversion therapy? What resources are available for me online to access therapy? We examine these and other questions in this episode.Links to resources mentioned in the episode:...2020-04-101h 10A Way Beyond the Rainbow#10 - On Female Same-Sex AttractionsIn this episode, we tackle the origins, development and characteristics of female same-sex attractions (SSA). We dive again into childhood family dynamics, defensive detachment, gender non-conformity, trauma and sexual abuse, as well as poor peer relations and body image. We explore together dynamics of female-female relationships and discuss emotional dependency and enmeshment. How similar and different are male SSA and female SSA? What are the four profiles of women with SSA? How do attachments, high emotionality and dependency manifest themselves in the lives of women with SSA? We will explore these and other questions in this episode....2020-04-031h 55A Way Beyond the Rainbow#9 - On Shame, Narcissism and AssertionIn this episode, my friend Fares and I discuss characteristics and experiences common to men and women experiencing same-sex attractions (SSA). We revisit shame and discuss anticipatory shame, and we explain some of the psychological defenses that we exhibit, mainly false selves and narcissistic thoughts and behaviors. We also dissect the notion of homosexuality being a repetition compulsion and tie it to addictions, and we look into some of the inherent deficits of homosexual relationships. Finally, we end by introducing the notions of grief work and the importance of vulnerability and assertion in resolving the repetition compulsion. What are...2020-03-272h 01A Way Beyond the Rainbow#8 - On the Genesis of SSA (Part II)In part II of our discussion on the genesis of same-sex attractions (SSA), we tackle the topics of poor peer relations, social wounds, body image and the masculinity/femininity inferiority complex. We also go into the roles of society, media and culture, as well as the potential effects of separation from parents and negative events in-utero. The second half of the episode is dedicated to the topic of sexual abuse. We consider research findings, consider a personal account, and offer advice and take-home messages to survivors, their loved ones and the community at large.Are feelings of...2020-03-201h 22A Way Beyond the Rainbow#7 - On the Genesis of SSA (Part I)In part I of a discussion on the genesis of same-sex attractions (SSA), we tackle the extent to which genetics, temperamental predisposition as well as different family dynamics are associated with the development of homosexual inclinations. In addition, we talk about narcissistic parental relations and their impacts on children, the concept of defensive detachment as well as how homosexuality can be seen as a reparative drive. Is there a gay gene? Am I predisposed to developing SSA? What roles do my father, mother and siblings play in this? We will explore these and other questions in this episode.2020-03-131h 57A Way Beyond the Rainbow#6 - Sinan's Story: "From Devastation to Tranquility"In this episode, my dear friend Sinan joins me to share his personal story. A journey from a place of complete darkness and devastation to a place of wholeness and peace.*Trigger warning: episode includes vivid recollection of severe depression, death wishes and passive suicidal ideations*Send us a text2020-03-062h 10A Way Beyond the Rainbow#5 - On History, Media and the Gay IdentityIn the first part of this episode, I present some historical facts on changes within the psychological profession with regards to the classification of homosexuality. I also present some history about the gay liberation movement as well as popular misinformation circulating nowadays, with some scientific studies to disprove some of these misconceptions. Furthermore, we explore the palpable role played by media and pop culture in the confusion of today's youth, as well as the term "homophobia" as it is perceived today. In the second part of the episode, we examine the essentializing vs. non-essentializing paradigms and the difference between...2020-02-281h 20A Way Beyond the Rainbow#4 - Q and A SessionIn this Q and A session, Aadam and I answer some of the questions and comments that we received by e-mail or came across on social media, with regards to the first three episodes, as well as the recent event that took place in Texas entitled, "LGBTQ+ Balancing Our Faith with Civil Rights" in which I was a speaker.Links to sources mentioned in the episode:- The Event at EPIC Mosque and CenterSend us a text2020-02-211h 23A Way Beyond the Rainbow#3 - On Self-Compassion, Shame and Vulnerability (Part II)In the second part of our two-episode series, Aadam and I continue the discussion on self-compassion, shame and vulnerability. In this episode, we talk about connection, shame, feeling worthy and a sense of belonging, vulnerability, and what it really means to be courageous, and then we tie all of these concepts to the struggle of individuals living with SSA. Do you believe you are worthy of love, connection and belonging? Is there a difference between the person you think you should be and the person you really are? Are you willing to remove your masks for a while and...2020-02-141h 17A Way Beyond the Rainbow#2 - On Self-Compassion, Shame and Vulnerability (Part I)My dear friend Aadam joins me in a two-episode series where we discuss self-compassion, shame and vulnerability. In this episode, we talk about self-love and compassion, how these topics are crucial to our well being and growth, and the difference between shame and guilt. How do you treat yourself on a daily basis? What is it like with your mental chatter? Do you feel worthy of love? These and other questions are presented in this episode.Links to sources mentioned in the episode:Option B, by Sheryl SandbergSend us a text2020-02-071h 17A Way Beyond the Rainbow#1 - IntroductionIn this episode, I introduce myself and give an overview of the current global narrative, highlighting the scarcity of resources in Muslim communities to help individuals struggling with SSA and airing out some of the frustrations that most of us feel. I also give a glimpse into what the podcast is about, who the target audience is, and what to expect from this series.Links to sources mentioned in the episode:- Waheed's article- Br. Yousef's article- The Straight Struggle online group- Susan David's TED talk, "The Gift and Power...2020-01-3142 minA Way Beyond the RainbowPodcast TeaserA summary of the goals of the podcast and a glimpse into the myriad of topics coming up in the series, inshaAllah.Send us a text2020-01-0305 min