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Not Anymore!Episode 25: How To Overcome Negative ThoughtsEver feel like your own thoughts are working against you? Yeah, me too.In this episode, I’m sharing how one book—Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Dr. Daniel Amen—sparked my obsession with understanding the brain and finally gave me language for something I had battled for years: Automatic Negative Thoughts, or what Dr. Amen calls ANTs.You’ll hear about the six most common ANTs, how they show up in my everyday life (like assuming a ruined pie ruined Thanksgiving 😅), and how I’m using these tools to teach my kids to recognize an...2025-07-1224 minNot Anymore!Episode 24: Comparison Is The Thief Of JoyEver find yourself scrolling, spiraling, and suddenly feeling like you’re not doing enough, being enough, or achieving fast enough? You’re not alone. In this honest episode of Not Anymore, I’m pulling back the curtain on the messy middle—the space most people skip when they tell their transformation story.We’re diving into the trap of comparison, how it messes with your mental health, fuels imposter syndrome, and leaves you chasing someone else’s version of success. I walk through the TEAR model (Thoughts → Emotions → Actions → Results), share stories from my own life (including a track meet and a Santa...2025-07-0619 minNot Anymore!Episode 23: Give The Gift To You, Not ThemFor years, I did everything for everyone else—trying to be the perfect mom, the supportive wife, the “good woman.” I ran myself ragged, hoping someone would notice… and feeling invisible when they didn’t.But everything changed when I stopped doing things for recognition—and started doing them as a gift to myself.In this episode of Not Anymore!, I’m sharing my honest journey out of people-pleasing and into emotional freedom. If you’re an overwhelmed, overthinking mom who feels burned out, stuck in resentment, or tired of waiting for praise that never comes—this episod...2025-06-3023 minNot Anymore!Episode 22: Validation - The One Thing Everyone Is Desperate ForHave you ever just wanted someone to say, “Yeah... that makes sense. I’d feel that way too”?In this episode, I’m talking about the invisible sign we’re all wearing—“Do you see me? Do I matter?”—and how the answer we all crave is found in one word: validation.I’m sharing real-life stories—from a college freshman homesick and scared, to a moment when I was sobbing in the kitchen and just needed Cody to listen. I talk about how validating your kids, your spouse, and even yourself can change everything.You’ll hear how I...2025-06-1924 minNot Anymore!Episode 21: T.E.A.R. Model: Reframing Your Thoughts To Show Up Your BestIn this episode, I’m sharing one of the most impactful tools I’ve used to take back control of my thoughts and emotions—something I learned from Jody Moore and Brooke Castillo that completely changed the game for me. When we moved to St. George and Cody left for HXP, I was alone, overwhelmed, and spiraling mentally. That’s when I found coaching and learned a model that helped me shift everything. I’ve simplified it so it’s easy to remember—and I call it the TEAR model (Thought, Emotion, Action, Result).This model helped me see that it...2025-06-1425 minNot Anymore!Episode 20: It Always Works OutLately, I’ve added four little words to the end of my journal entries, and they’ve completely shifted the way I think, act, and trust: It always works out.In this episode, I open up about how I used to let fear, anxiety, and worst-case scenarios take over my thoughts. I’d create full-blown Hollywood productions in my mind about how badly things could go. But then I decided—Not Anymore!Inspired by the powerful story in the book Surrender, I reflect on what it truly means to trust life—and to trust God. From infer...2025-06-0318 minNot Anymore!Episode 19: Reignite Your Imagination and Dream Bigger Than EverWhen was the last time you let yourself really dream? Like, the kind of dreaming you did as a kid—limitless, fearless, and a little bit crazy? Today, I’m giving you full permission to reconnect with your inner 5-year-old and imagine a life without limits.Remember those preschool “What do you want to be when you grow up?” moments? Why do we stop doing that as adults? Not anymore! In this episode, I’m walking you through the power of big dreaming and visualization—backed by science. From Disneyland’s endless imagination to groundbreaking studies on mental rehears...2025-05-2822 minNot Anymore!Episode 18: Most Generous Interpretation - How to Stop Reacting and Start ConnectingEver felt hijacked by frustration when someone triggers you—your child yelling, your teen snapping, or a stranger driving painfully slow in front of you? You’re not alone. But what if there was a simple mindset shift that could change everything?In this episode, I share one of my favorite tools I learned from Dr. Becky at Good Inside—MGI: Most Generous Interpretation. It’s a game-changing practice that softens your body, opens your heart, and rewires your thoughts toward compassion instead of conflict.You’ll hear real-life examples—from parenting teens under pressure, to navigatin...2025-05-2116 minNot Anymore!Episode 17: It's Only A Problem If You See It As A ProblemWhat if the thing you’re calling a "problem"… isn’t actually a problem at all?In this episode, I share how your thoughts—not your circumstances—create the drama. Whether it’s running late, dealing with your kids, or facing unexpected challenges, you have the power to reframe the story.Imagine the peace you could create if you simply stopped labeling everything as a problem and started seeing it as an opportunity instead.It’s not the traffic, the schedule, or the kids—it’s the story you tell yourself about them.🎧 Listen now...2025-05-1426 minNot Anymore!Episode 16: You Can’t Outthink a FeelingIn this episode, I’m diving deep into something we all try to do at some point—outthink our feelings. But the truth is, emotions don’t go away because we analyze them. Like a bleeding cut, you can’t fix it by just thinking about it—you’ve got to tend to it. You’ve got to feel it.I share real stories from my life, like how getting pulled over used to trigger my body into panic, and how learning to feel my frustration has helped me stay grounded and calm. I also talk about why our nervous syst...2025-05-0725 minNot Anymore!Episode 15: Boundaries: The Best Decision I Ever MadeFor most of my life, I believed that being like Jesus meant having no boundaries. I thought love meant always saying yes, always being available, and putting everyone else's needs before my own—until it broke me. In this episode of Not Anymore!, I open up about my personal journey from burnout and resentment to peace and empowerment, all through the life-changing lens of Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.You’ll hear the real story—my wake-up call moment, the powerful mantra I now use (involving a simple ring and a shift in mindset...2025-05-0231 minNot Anymore!Episode 14: Sticky Note It – What Your Brain Remembers, Reacts To, and AttractsIf you’ve ever felt behind, invisible, or stuck in survival mode—this episode is for you.In today’s episode, I’m sharing a powerful mindset shift I call “Sticky Note It.” It’s based on brain science, but I break it down simply: your brain is constantly tagging your experiences—what to fear, what to avoid, and what to believe about yourself.Most of us don’t even realize we’re carrying around sticky notes that say:“I’m not doing enough.”“No one sees how hard I try.”“I’m too much.”“I ca...2025-04-0421 minNot Anymore!Episode 13: Life Happened… Now What? The Truth About Failure, Habits & Starting AgainAfter moving into our new home, traveling for work and spring break, and completely falling out of all my routines — I found myself feeling off, frustrated, and disappointed. I had dropped my 5 non-negotiables: workout, 1 hour student, healthy food, journal, meditate. But instead of staying stuck, I chose to reflect, reframe, and rebuild.In this episode, I’m sharing what it really means to fail — and how failure is actually the beginning of mastery. You'll learn how to get back up, re-establish your habits, and shift your mindset so you’re not stuck in shame, but moving forward with sel...2025-03-2824 minNot Anymore!Episode 12: Seeing Life Through a New LensEver had a moment where your perspective completely shifted in an instant? In this episode, I share a powerful story from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People about a subway ride in New York that changed the way I see others forever. I also dive into my own experiences with my spouse, kids and delayed cabinets where I chose to see things through their lens. What if we stopped judging people by their behavior and started seeing life through their eyes? What if we believed that everyone is doing their best and just wants to be loved and...2025-02-0224 minNot Anymore!Episode 11: Love Starts With You: Building Self-Love, Boundaries, and TrustIn this episode I'm diving into the transformative power of self-love, inspired by Jay Shetty’s 8 Rules of Love. Discover practical ways to nurture self-compassion, self-care, and authenticity through reflection and actionable tips.Explore how boundaries are a powerful act of love, why saying “yes” to yourself can change your life, and how trusting yourself strengthens your relationships. I share personal stories and scales to assess where you stand in areas like self-worth, resilience, and forgiveness—and how to make self-love a daily habit.This episode will empower you to invest in the most important relations...2025-01-2329 minNot Anymore!Episode 10: The Power of Daily Habits: How to Turn Your Dreams Into RealityHappy 2025! New Year, new dreams—but how do you make them last beyond "Quitter’s Day"? Research shows most people give up their New Year’s resolutions in just 9 days, but why? It’s because change is hard—it’s messy in the middle and only gets easier with consistent action. In this episode, we explore why relying on willpower won’t cut it and how daily habits are the true secret to lasting change.We’ll break down how dreams—whether it’s losing weight, writing a book, learning a new language, or improving relationships—can only come true through...2025-01-1129 minNot Anymore!Episode 9: The Freedom in Letting Go: How to Find Peace by Releasing ControlHappy 2025! As we approach the table end of Christmas Break, I've been reflecting on something big: the peace that comes from letting go of control. Whether it's managing holiday chaos, trying to get everything “just right,” or dealing with personal frustrations, I’ve spent years trying to control outcomes to feel better. But here's the truth – real freedom comes when we stop trying to control everything around us.In this episode, I’ll share how shifting my mindset has been a game-changer for my peace of mind. I explore why we’re wired for instant gratification and how that can...2025-01-0725 minNot Anymore!Episode 8: Unlock Your New Identity: The Power of Choice and BeliefIn this episode I dive into the transformative power of your beliefs and the stories you tell yourself. Did you know you can choose to become the person you want to be? Whether it’s embracing a love for dogs, becoming a Disney enthusiast, or conquering self-limiting thoughts, it all starts with one powerful decision: Not anymore!Join me as I share personal stories of shifting beliefs—from hating dogs to becoming a dog person, and from dreading Disney trips to loving the magic of it all. Discover how I rewired my thoughts, collected new evidence to supp...2024-12-2621 minNot Anymore!Episode 7: Why are you getting triggered?In this episode of Not Anymore!, I’m sharing a personal story that taught me one of the biggest lessons about emotional triggers and how to handle them. Have you ever felt like a simple question or comment set you off, leaving you angry, defensive, or overwhelmed? You’re not alone—and those moments are actually packed with powerful opportunities for growth.We’ll dive into why triggers happen, the emotions hiding beneath them (hello, shame!), and how to respond with curiosity and self-compassion instead of reacting like it’s an emergency. I’ll share insights from my own exper...2024-12-2024 minNot Anymore!Episode 6: Limiting Beliefs Are Holding You BackHave you ever stopped to consider how your beliefs—both conscious and subconscious—are shaping your life? In this episode of Not Anymore!, I dive deep into the power of beliefs and how they influence everything from your relationships to your achievements.I share the unforgettable story of a man, some cookies, and a surprising moment of self-reflection that will make you rethink your assumptions. Plus, I explore how our brains pull evidence from the past to reinforce limiting beliefs—like "I’ll never be good at this"—and how to flip the script to create empowering beliefs ba...2024-12-1224 minNot Anymore!Episode 5: What Is the Definition of Success?What if success wasn’t tied to the outcomes but instead came from the way we show up every day? In this episode of Not Anymore!, I dive into the concept of redefining success on our own terms. Whether it's how we navigate challenging situations or what it means to live authentically, we’re breaking free from the societal pressures of perfection.I’ll walk you through the "PLAYS" framework—five steps to skillfully navigate any moment with intention and compassion: Present: Stay fully in the moment with others, strengthening emotional connections through simple actions like eye conta...2024-12-0626 minNot Anymore!Episode 4: Be Present - Be Where Your Feet AreIn this episode of Not Anymore!, I share my personal journey of breaking free from the myth that “the good life” is about perfectly balancing work, family, and endless responsibilities. Instead, I’ve learned that the true good life is about being fully present—living in the moments we have, where and when we have them.I dive into how I’ve shifted my focus from worrying about the future or dwelling on the past to cherishing the simple, everyday experiences. Whether it’s rocking my daughter Harper when she’s sick, playing a game with my kids, or even...2024-11-2726 minNot Anymore!Episode 3: A Platter of EmotionsIt's November, the month of Thanksgiving and gratitude and LOTS of platters of food. In this episode I talk about a differnet platter. A platter of emotions and how we can choose how we want to feel, reverse engineer it by choosing the thoughts that create the outcome we want. Giving us ownership of our emotions. I also walk you through how to feel your emotions and make peace with them. 2024-11-1934 minNot Anymore!Episode 2: You Get Out of Life What You TolerateToday I dive into the power of curiosity and the impact it can have on your life. In this episode, I share my journey as a naturally curious soul, recounting childhood stories that shaped my relentless drive to ask questions and explore life’s complexities. I believe that curiosity isn’t just a personality trait—it’s a powerful tool that fuels growth, change, and the courage to say, “Not Anymore!” to the things that no longer serve us. Tune in to discover how embracing your own curiosity can help you transform the life you tolerate into the life you truly de...2024-11-1426 minNot Anymore!Episode 1: Why did I start a podcast?Starting a podcast is scary, uncomfortable and vulnerable, so why am I doing it? After failing miserably over a zoom call, I decided there was a need for me to grow and be more comfortable speaking my thoughts out loud. My first solution was to comfortably record a private video daily stored safely in a hidden folder on my phone for no one to see. Then I told myself, "Not Anymore!" I'm not taking the comfortable, safe route. I'm heading into the unknown and figuring this out! So...NOT ANYMORE! was born. Ready or not world (and me😳), here I c...2024-11-1308 min