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Losing Our ReligionWhat Happened to the Podcast?: Zac GandaraThere hasn’t been a new podcast episode for six months. What happened? Where is the show going now? Will it continue? How is Zac doing? What has Zac been doing? There is a lot to catch up on. Most importantly, there is a new episode coming out tomorrow with Bryan Storkel! Bryan is a director and producer known for his featured works on Netflix, HBO, ESPN, Fox, and more. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: HBO DOCUMENTARY: Alabama Snake COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Vi...2020-12-0825 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable: Luvvie Ajayi: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. This is an excerpt from TEDWomen Talk in 2017. Luvvie Ajayi isn't afraid to speak her mind or to be the one dissenting voice in a crowd, and neither should you. "Your silence serves no one," says the writer, activist and self-proclaimed professional troublemaker. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: TEDWomen Talk: Luvvie Ajayi COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release ...2020-06-1113 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Where Does Empathy Come From?: Zac GandaraI am not the first person to reiterate that we have an empathy crisis in our world. We’ve created walls of privilege to shielded ourselves from the pain and struggles of humanity. The only way to understand is to embrace, and listen while feeling uncomfortable. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: WHITE HOMEWORK COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES & OTHER CONTENT Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! SH...2020-06-0916 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: The First Step to Becoming an Ally to Fighting Racial Injustice: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. It seems like so many people are finally waking up to the reality that has been going on for centuries. We have a big problem with institutional racism. How can you help? It begins with one thing... MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Ac...2020-06-0412 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Why Are Christians Finally Speaking Up About George Floyd and Black Lives Matter: Zac GandaraRacism has been prominent in America for centuries. But when Colin Kaepernick kneeled at football games most of American Christianity mocked him in anger. Now George Floyd, another black human in a long list of dead black Americans murdered at the hand of the police has seemingly awoken some Christians to finally wake up and publicly engage the problem. “Racism isn't getting worse, it's getting filmed.” - Will Smith MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: WHITE HOMEWORK COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and...2020-06-0222 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: The Theory of Cultural Determinism: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. When you’re ready for change is when change is possible. When you want it and can let go of the things that are holding you back from the life you want, this is when the dreams will begin surging out of you, and the life you want will take shape. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Rele...2020-05-2811 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Change When Everyone Else Says You Can’t: Zac GandaraThe Theory of Cultural Determinism states that we as humans are either infinitely malleable and able to change, or we are programmed by our culture and cannot move outside of that programming. I think both are true. What do you think? Can you change, or not? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES & OTHER CONTENT Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! SHOW NOTES: ...2020-05-2614 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: The Part of You You've Hidden Away is You: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. The shadow self is spoken about by Carl Yung, Richard Rohr, June Singer and so many others in the spiritual and psychological world. It is the part of us we've suppressed to fit in. The part of us that Christianity confused with "sin nature." The part of us that needs to be embraced, nurtured, and cared for if we ever hope to be free. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA...2020-05-2109 min
Losing Our ReligionHow to Embrace Change and Make Changes: Zac GandaraAlan Watts said, “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” We talk about how to do this and how to handle both changes we can control and changes we cannot. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES & OTHER CONTENT Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: How...2020-05-1913 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Stop Betraying Yourself for Them: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. So many of us come from upbringings where we were taught to ignore our feelings & bodies. Growth meant the suppression of both. This messed a lot of us up. Your feelings are important, they need attention & nurturing. Your body is important it needs attention & nurturing. Growth means being in tune with our emotions, body, and giving ourselves the attention we need. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA WEEKLY-ISH EM...2020-05-1412 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: We Don’t Need to Honor Those Who Are Not Honorable: Zac GandaraMany of us grew up with the obligation to honor parents, authority, family members simply because it was the culturally pressured thing to do. This led to a lot of silenced abuse. I no longer believe we need to honor those that are not honorable. Love and forgiveness are for us, honor is for those who have earned it. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES & OTHER CONTENT Your...2020-05-1208 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Why am I not Progressing Like I Was?: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. With COVID-19 we have been thrown into a situation we cannot control. Many of us are struggling. We’re waiting, hoping for things to get back to “normal.” We used to have the energy to grow and change, and now we can barely get up in the morning. What’s the answer? How can I get the energy back? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching...2020-05-0712 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Why Are They Threatened by My Story?: Zac GandaraIf your story threatens the life someone else has built to protect themselves from knowing their own trauma, not only will they rewound us by rejecting our story, but they will rearrange the story to fit their narrative so they can remain safe. Is their safe healthy? No. It’s denial. Written by Nate Postlethwait. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Post by by Nate Postlethwait COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES & OT...2020-05-0505 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How to Change Your Life: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. You never know what tomorrow will bring. But you do know what steps you can take today to move towards the tomorrow you want to come. What step can you take today? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Me...2020-04-3004 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: There Is No Such Thing as Being Too Sensitive: Zac GandaraIf someone ignores or shames you for your reactions, that person might be capable of gaslighting you. That’s the person you don’t want around. Also, we take a call from a fellow Loser, Robert who wants to encourage us and share a bit of his story. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release 2020-04-2820 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Am I Being Selfish?: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Often, when we are healing, we can become confused. We aren’t used to tending to ourselves and our own needs. This makes us question if we’re doing things “right.” We may feel like we are being selfish or wrong for doing this. Maybe close friends or members of our family are accusing us of being selfish. Thankful for the work of Dr. Nicole Lepera whose work inspired this episode. MENTIONED IN THIS EP...2020-04-2311 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Why Are We Protesting Social Distancing?: Zac GandaraHave you seen these protests against social distancing? Signs that read, “Social Distancing is Communism.” Is this real life? What are we doing? How can we help one another? Can we get better? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES & OTHER CONTENT Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Why Are We Protesting Social Distancing?: Zac Gandara "You own...2020-04-2113 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How to Know When You’re Healing: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Growth is seen when we’re simultaneously angered by someone’s actions while also being able to look within with curiosity to see why were angered. What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! 2020-04-1610 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Some Days We Need to Pull Back and Cry. Other Days We Need to Press Harder While We Cry: Zac GandaraHealing isn't easy. Growing, changing, transforming all things we want. Well, some of us want. It's not easy. Some days we just need to pull back and cry, other days we need to press through while we cry. Only you know the difference. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES: 2020-04-1408 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Indoctrinated Parenting Vs. Liberated Parenting: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. How to parent my kids while deconstructing and deconverting. One of the most common questions I receive is, "How do I parent my kids after leaving religion?" Deconverting and deconstructing are hard, doing so with children is even more difficult for us because we don't want to hurt them. Here is an answer for you to think about. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Indoctrinated Parenting Vs. Liberated Parenting COACHING WI...2020-04-0914 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Why are Religious Services Being Exempt from Quarantine?: Zac GandaraWe chat about a satirical article that has real news behind it. Some southern governors in America have exempted religious services from their shelter-in-place orders, arguing that COVID-19 won’t harm Christians. When we all just realize that there is only one team we’re all on no matter what we believe? Team human. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Southern Governors Argue Covid-19 Good Christian Virus That Wouldn’t Dare Spread During Church COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your A...2020-04-0712 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Let’s Talk About Tiger King: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. I’m not kidding when I say the Tiger King documentary on Netflix was triggering. Not in a religious PTSD way, but in a way that reminded me of how cults operate. What do you think/ MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES!2020-04-0215 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Things We May Be Grieving at the Moment: Zac GandaraIf you’re being extra hard on yourself during this period of uncertainty, I hope you show yourself compassion and kindness. Grief is tough because you can’t force it. Grief processes on its own timeframe. The only productive way to heal grief is to focus on the basics of being present with it? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! WEEKLY-ISH EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Upda...2020-03-3120 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How to Survive Quarantine with a Narcissist or Toxic People: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. We’re quarantined. Some of us are in better situations than others in this current reality. Here are some ways to help yourself and others survive during this time while laughing at me in the process. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release VIDEO TRAINING SERIES!2020-03-2616 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Ran Out of Toilet Paper and My Butt is Still Clean: Zac GandaraDo we really need to be hoarding toilet paper? Are our butts that important or are we having zero-risk bias? While it's true that COVID-19 includes diarrhea amongst its symptoms, so does Taco Bell, and way more people get that every day. Why the sudden urgency? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The real reason people are hoarding toilet paper. By Tom Meisfjord NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. ...2020-03-2414 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: One Way We Can Thrive on the Coronavirus Pandemic Changes: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Healing our own pain and trauma that leads to anger is hard enough, but when someone is projecting theirs onto us in anger it’s tough to respond constructively. We’re seeing this as we go through this new transition of life with Coronavirus. Covid 19 has created transition and we’re in the storming, forming, norming, and then soon to be able to be performing in this new reality. How are you feeling? MENTIONED IN THIS...2020-03-1911 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Jim Bakker, Snake Oil, Corona Virus, and Finding Peace: Zac GandaraThis is a crazy time, we’re all feeling it, f*ck the snake oil salespeople that would take advantage of us. Here’s some hilarious meltdown about it all with some encouraging words and daily help. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Televangelist Jim Bakker Sued Over Fake Coronavirus Treatment : NPR NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Rele...2020-03-1718 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: I Don't Want to Talk About Covid 19 Coronavirus but: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. The fear is real for many. I know we are hurting, let us do so in ways that heal and create spaces of comfort and peace for ourselves and others as we find our way through this. Let's talk about it. What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: #1439. Michael Osterholm is an internationally recognized expert in infectious disease epidemiology. He is Regents Professor, McKnight Presidential Endowed Chair in Public Health, the di...2020-03-1211 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Heal Anger and Grief from Time Lost in Religious and Childhood Trauma: Zac Gandara“I’m Angry and Grieving the Life I Wasted!” Fellow Loser and listener Natasha wrote in asking how to get rid of the anger and grief she is feeling the time religion and trauma has stolen from her. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDO...2020-03-1020 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How to Combat Enmeshment and Codependency: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Growing up religious many of us where taught enmeshment and codependency not an autonomous partnership in our relationships. The idea of “two becoming one” is toxic relationship math. One person plus one person does not equal one, it equals two. What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDAR...2020-03-0512 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: We Can’t Please Everyone, But We Should Listen if They’re Hurt: Zac GandaraBeing you is hard enough, it’s even harder when being you somehow trigger's someone else. We can’t change how people perceive us, but when we hurt them unknowingly, no matter how they react, they deserve to be heard. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELT...2020-03-0319 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Be Encouraged, You’re Not Alone in Your Healing: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. You are unique. Your struggles are not. We are universally bound to each other and face and deal with the same struggles. As we face our internal struggles we begin to have more compassion for the struggles of others. Keep going! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break gl...2020-02-2713 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Change is Hard, But So is Not Changing: Zac GandaraThere’s no way around it. Change is hard. Taking ownership of your life and self-care is hard. But life is hard anyways so you might at well engage your dreams and change! It's time to leave your abusive or toxic situations. If it's not serving you well anymore why continue engaging it? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Up...2020-02-2510 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How to Get Through an Emotional Trigger: Dr. Nicole LePera: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. The things that trigger our traumas are the very things that point us to what to heal in our lives. Traumas form our lives and if we don’t heal them we don’t grow or have significant reasons why we can’t grow. What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: How to Get Through an Emotional Trigger: Dr. Nicole LePera NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Depro...2020-02-2012 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: The Inward Work of Healing: Zac GandaraThe journey inward is hard at first. It’s counterintuitive and certainly countercultural. But after waking up to the realization of the layers of programming others have put on us we begin the journey of accepting ourselves, hearing ourselves, and healing ourselves. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES: ...2020-02-1814 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: When Results, Expectations Change Our Mood: Yung Pueblo: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Ever try to force something to happen? Make someone like you? Yung Pueblo says, “If we are trying to force something to happen, we are acting with craving and attachment, meaning that our state of being is filled with the tension that often blocks the fulfilling of our desires.” Do you find this to be true? What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Yung Pueblo on Expectations, Attachments, and Goals. NEW...2020-02-1311 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Valentine's Day Narcissism and Obligation: Zac GandaraValentine’s Day is upon us, and many of us feel the pressure to feel a certain way or be a certain way. Well, guess what? You don’t! Should our lives be lived out of obligation? Should obligation guide our love lives and relationships? What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Trai...2020-02-1117 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: When We Heal We Open Ourselves up to Stronger Personal Power: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Many of us have had abusive encounters with narcissistic leaders, family members, or partners. Once we wake up from those experiences and heal, we learn that the only freedom will be to love them from afar and no longer give them voice or place in our life and turn that energy into self-care and self-love. What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on De...2020-02-0614 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Empowered Sex Super Bowl!: Zac GandaraInstead of talking to me about sex on tv, my parents would just shame it, and then yell at me to turn it off and not to watch that! Well, that way of dealing with things has led to being developmentally delayed in our sexuality and relationships. What’s the alternative to shame? TEACHING! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, an...2020-02-0410 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Can We Be Both Angry at Kobe’s Rape Abuse and Have Empathy for His Fans and Family?: Kobe Bryant: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Thank you, fellow Loser and listener Brittany who has been a victim of sexual assault, for writing in to give voice as a victim to the Monday Meltdown episode regarding Kobe Bryant. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. WE...2020-01-3014 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: When Our Hero’s Fail: Kobe Bryant: Zac GandaraI posted a quote from Kobe Bryant this weekend as I heard about his & his daughter's tragic accident with seven others in a helicopter. I’m not a basketball fan and didn’t even know that Kobe was accused of rape in 2003. A couple of you were upset feeling I was “ok” with his being a “rapist.” I am most certainly NOT. So I talk here about my personal struggle with continuing to carry anger against my abusers. "What has happened is tragic. I am heartbroken for Kobe’s family. He was a sports hero. He was also a rapist...2020-01-2819 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Things Get Better: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Today's episode is about when things get better. When you get to the point, you're ready to heal, to grow, to let go, and to throw two fingers to the air and go for it. Have you been there? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings an...2020-01-2310 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Antidotes for Fear: Zac GandaraDr. Martin Luther King Jr, from his sermon, Antidotes for Fear, stated, “Normal fear protects us; abnormal fear paralyzes us. Normal fear motivates us to improve our individual and collective welfare; abnormal fear constantly poisons and distorts our inner lives. Our problem is not to be rid of fear but rather to harness and master it.” Let’s talk about that! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. ...2020-01-2115 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Sweden Bans The Religious Indoctrination Of Children: Zac Gandara: Andrew HallThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Thanks, Bryan, for sending us this article. It seems other articles might say that they are banning religious schools. But it seems to be the narrative coming from that part of the world. Should childhood religious indoctrination be regulated like alcohol? What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZA...2020-01-1607 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Sending Nudes and Sexy Pics: Zac GandaraFellow loser and listener Laura feels she’s too old for nudes and sexy pics. Is there an age limit? I like him, but I don’t know if I am comfortable with this. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Sending Nudes and Sexy Pics: Zac...2020-01-1408 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Embracing the Things That Scare You: Jonathan Bowles: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. We grow up being told what is true and what isn’t. As we grow, we learn to find our way. When we really grow, we learn to smile at fear because the thing behind the fear is more growth. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceil...2020-01-0928 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Repair a Ruptured Relationship: Jonathan Bowles: Zac GandaraWe have a guest on the show today! Jonathan Bowles is an entrepreneur with a megachurch pastor past. We take this time to talk about a rupture we had in our relationship and how we worked to repair it. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: JONATHAN BOWLES NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES:2020-01-0724 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Why Do We Kiss? Let’s Make Out!: Xulin Wang: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Why do we make out? Do you like kissing? Where did it come from? Here is some science behind why we push our lips together and stick our tongues in other people's mouths. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Why humans kiss, explained: A comic about the cultural and scientific reasons we love making out. By Xulin Wang NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Wa...2020-01-0212 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Change is NOT hard, Healing is: Zac GandaraWe all grew up being told and believing due to our own experiences that “changing” is hard. Our weight, our addictions, you name it we’ve all tried. Here is a jumpstart to your 2020 goals. Change can be easy! But healing is hard. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: It's time for change. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES: ...2019-12-3116 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Toxic Positivity: The emotional toll of trying to be happy all the time: Tracey Anne Duncan: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Writer Tracey Anne Duncan suggests there is a point where too much positivity is toxic for us. Do you believe this? What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Toxic Positivity: The emotional toll of trying to be happy all the time by Tracey Anne Duncan NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GA...2019-12-1918 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: No One Get’s to Tell You How to Feel: Zac GandaraWe've all heard someone explain to us how we should feel, according to them. Well, you are the one who gets to say what hurt, what wasn’t good enough, and what you didn’t deserve. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NEW VIDEO TRAINING SERIES! 12-week Video Training on Deprogramming & Transformation, Your Access is Waiting! Become a Member Now! COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELT...2019-12-1710 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Ego Love vs. Authentic Love: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. We can have ego love with family, friends, or partners. We have it subconsciously until we learn what it is, wake up to its toxicity, and embrace healing work to live out authentic love. Do you believe we can learn to love authentically? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: @the.holistic.psychologist : Ego love is fear-based. COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. WEEKLY EM...2019-12-1210 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Clues You May Be Dealing with a Narcissist: Zac GandaraMany of us have encountered narcissists in our lifetimes that used and abused us. Once we learn of their control over us, it’s essential to break the tie and begin setting boundaries. How do you recognize a narcissist? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. WEEKLY EMAIL: Coaching, News, and Updates on New Video Training Release SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Clues You May Be Dealing with a Narcissist: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to...2019-12-1012 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: The Monkey Mind and How To Tame it: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. According to Buddhist principles, the “monkey mind” is a term that refers to being unsettled, restless, or confused. It is the part of our mind that holds us back the most. What do you think about the Monkey Mind? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Three Ways to Tame the Monkey Mind by Sharon Danzger THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: The Monkey Mind and How To Tame it: Zac Gandara LOSER...2019-12-0514 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Are Your Relationships Serving You Well, Self-Love: Zac GandaraSo often, we cause ourselves needless suffering by expecting someone to give us all of the love we need. Not to mention how much stress it puts on our relationships. What if you could cultivate the love you needed? Self-Love is real, and it comes as we heal. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. ONLY 1 SPOTS LEFT! BOOK: Inwward by Yung Pueblo SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Are Your Relationships Serving You Well, Self-Love: Zac Gandara "You own...2019-12-0311 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: 10 Ways to Be a More Grateful Person: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. It’s Thanksgiving in America if you’re listening to this on the day it came out. Even though the origins of this holiday are more about conquerors taking over indigenous people, I’ve decided to instead focus on the positive. LOL! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 10 Ways to Be a More Thankful Person THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: 10 Ways to Be a More Grateful Person: Zac Gandara LOSER DEALS:2019-11-2817 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: The Shattered Glass of Belief: Zac GandaraNew listener and Fellow Loser Kelley wants to know if I still believe in the Jesus they told me he was? Maybe it’s all just shattered glass? Perhaps we need a broader view of spirituality, of humanity. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. ONLY 1 SPOTS LEFT! SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Shattered Glass of Belief: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should ha...2019-11-2614 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Kanye West is Spreading the Gospel of What?: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Kanye West is now visiting Mega-Churches like Joel Osteen’s with his tour, and it’s triggering. He says he’s the greatest that God created; Trump said the same thing of himself. Maybe Narcissists need their own church? Perhaps they already have it? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Kanye Is Spreading the Gospel of Conspiracy Theories THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: Kanye is Spreading the Gospel of What?: Zac Gandara L...2019-11-2112 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: How Do You Make Life Changes Without Hurting Others: Zac GandaraFellow Loser Phee, sends in a recorded message asking how we go about “coming out” of the religious closet while knowing it may hurt people's feelings? People that have looked up to us, people we have led. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: Break glass ceilings and transition through tough shit. ONLY 2 SPOTS LEFT! SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: How Do You Make Life Changes Without Hurting Others: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them...2019-11-1922 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Do We Attract Certain People in Our Lives?: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Fellow Loser and podcast listener Jeremiah writes in and asks: Do we attract certain people in our lives? Is there any way to un-attract people into our lives? Do these things move us into action and propel our future in ways that we don’t know? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: What is Your Attachment Style? Why Do People Have a Type?: Why do we keep winding up in the same relationship with...2019-11-1418 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: The Holidays are Coming, Will You Act Like Nothing is Wrong?: Zac GandaraThe holidays are almost here. Are you ready for all that comes with that? I’m not; I’m not ok going another year acting like everything is ok. How can we engage this holiday season knowing that things are not “ok.” MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: COACHING WITH ZAC GANDARA: break glass ceilings | transition through tough shit. ONLY 2 SPOTS LEFT! SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Holidays are Coming, Will You Act Like Nothing is Wrong?: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted y...2019-11-1216 min
Losing Our ReligionBONUS EPISODE: Is This All There Is? There Must Be More. A Special Announcement: Zac GandaraWe stay in jobs, relationships, and communities that we're unhappy with simply because we’re scared of what we may lose by moving on. What if you could guarantee that your next move would be worth it? Would you take the next step, then? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 1:1 Coaching with Zac Gandara SHOW NOTES: BONUS EPISODE: Is This All There Is? There Must Be More. A Special Announcement: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about th...2019-11-0819 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How to Reconnect with a Person From Your Trauma: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. After traumatic life events, we often need to set boundaries and disconnect with people involved in the experience. Setting those boundaries is key to our healing, but do we ever open the doors to someone from that place again? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: No materials mentioned in this episode, ask Zac a question. THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: How to Reconnect with a Person From Your Trauma: Zac Gandara ...2019-11-0714 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Life Cycles and Feeling Lonely: Zac GandaraWe have good times and bad, but sometimes they're awful, and we feel alone. We feel alone in a crowded room. We feel alone in bed with our loved ones. We feel alone even though we have a gang of friends and family by our side. How can we heal this loneliness? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-8255 SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Life Cycles and Feeling Lonely: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you...2019-11-0516 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Who Am I? Finding Yourself: Zac Gandara:Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Natasha asks, "I'm curious how you went about building a sense of self during/after deconstruction." In this episode, we talk about how we find ourselves so we can begin to raise our sense of self and get our lives back. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Natasha asks a great question. THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: Who Am I? Finding Yourself: Zac Gandara LOSER DEALS: Save 50% on QuickBooks Online an...2019-10-3113 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: The REAL Seven Deadly Sins: Zac GandaraIf you grew up in Christianity, you were told that blasphemy of the Holy Spirit would damn you for sure, but you better not do these sins either. Here is one person's version of the REAL seven deadly sins, and they’re not what you think. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Real Seven Deadly Sins sent in by @UpShift-BRZ via Instagram SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: The REAL Seven Deadly Sins: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly ab...2019-10-2918 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: My Inner Child?: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Do you believe in an inner child? Does it need to be healed? Dr. Nicole LePera says children have three core desires: to be seen, heard, and fully expressed as the unique individuals they are. Do you still feel that as an adult? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: INNER CHILD BY @the.holistic.psychologist BOOK: THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: My Inner Child?: Zac Gandara...2019-10-2412 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Change and Attachments Suck: Zac GandaraChange is always hard. By nature, we often want to keep things the way there are because we love the way they are. But what happens when change comes? Does it often involve anguish and suffering? Can we get better? Do we have to feel like this during transition? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Is pain from change or is it from my inability to let go? @Yung-Pueblo SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Change and Attachments Suck: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If...2019-10-2211 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: What Does it Mean to Be Yourself?: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. We’ve always heard the old adage, “Be yourself!” What does that mean? Can we ever really do that? What about when we are choosing not to be ourselves at work so that we can make a living? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Nothing Today: Contact Zac! THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: What Does it Mean to Be Yourself?: Zac Gandara LOSER DEALS: Save 50% on QuickBooks Online and QuickBooks Self-Emp...2019-10-1710 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: Zac GandaraMany of us have been caught in the web of a narcissistic boss, family member, friend, or partner. It took us too long to recognize the signs, now we have. How can we begin healing? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 10 Steps to Getting Your Life Back After Narcissistic Abuse by Soul GPS @narcissistic_abuse_is_real CALL IN: 206-395-5608 WRITE IN: zacg@losingourreligion.org SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories...2019-10-1518 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Religion is What We Created To Distract Us From Ourselves: Zac Gandara: Chögyam TrungpaThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Chögyam Trungpa, the founder of Shambhala, a form of Tibetan Buddhism, believed that religion and modern-day entertainment were created for those wanting to distract themselves from themselves. What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Chögyam Trungpa BOOKS: Smile at Fear: Awakening the True Heart of Bravery By Chögyam Trungpa THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: Things You Don’t Realize You Are Doing Because You Wer...2019-10-1012 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Waiting for a Savior or Making It Happen: Zac GandaraHave you ever felt like there is a glass ceiling hanging over you? Is it stopping you from stepping out towards your dreams? What is that? How do we get rid of it? Are we a victim waiting for a savior? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: No books to reference today. CALL IN: 206-395-5608 WRITE IN: zacg@losingourreligion.org SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Waiting for a Savior or Making It Happen: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted...2019-10-0810 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Things You Don’t Realize You Are Doing Because You Were Abused By A Narcissist: Zac Gandara: Shahida ArabiThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Narcissistic abuse plagues us long after we recognize the damage and break off the relationship. Are you doing things that are sabotaging your life without knowing it? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 9 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’ve Been Abused By A Narcissist By Shahida Arabi BOOKS:Nothing Mentioned Today THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: Things You Don’t Realize You Are Doing Because Yo...2019-10-0319 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: F*ck It! If it Helps You, Do it!: Zac GandaraOne of the downfalls of losing your religion is you often lose your coping mechanisms that came along with it. Even though they may have been unhealthy, can you reincarnate them to be better tools for your health? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope by Mark Manson CALL IN: 206-395-5608 WRITE IN: zacg@losingourreligion.org SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: F*ck It! If it Helps You, Do it!: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your...2019-10-0118 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How 'One Nation' Didn't Become 'Under God' Until The '50s Religious Revival: Zac Gandara: Kevin KruseThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. The words "under God" in the Pledge of Allegiance and the phrase "In God, we trust" on the back of a dollar bill haven't been there as long as most Americans might think. Perhaps we never were a "Christian" nation formed on "Christian" principles? What do you think? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: NPR FRESH AIR: How 'One Nation' Didn't Become 'Under God' Until The '50s Religious Revival. BOOKS: One Na...2019-09-2608 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: We Can Stop Feeling Bad for Needing Things to Help Us: Zac GandaraAfter leaving religion or cult-like ideologies, we often feel bad for needing aspects of them again. We should feel free to go back and pick up the rituals that revive us. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope by Mark Manson CALL IN: 206-395-5608 WRITE IN: zacg@losingourreligion.org SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: We Can Stop Feeling Bad for Needing Things to Help Us: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you...2019-09-2412 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Attachment Theory: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. We often ruin current and future relationships by emotionally blaming our partners for the past trauma we feel coming up from inside of us. Can we stop doing that? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Psych Alive: What is your attachment style? BOOKS: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment by Amir Levine MD and Rachel S. F. Heller BA Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Je...2019-09-1918 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: The Health Insurance and Greed Dilemma: Zac GandaraA fellow Loser writes in to vent about their Christian boss who gives hugs but doesn’t pay a livable wage or provide healthcare for his employees. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope by Mark Manson CALL IN: 206-395-5608 WRITE IN: zacg@losingourreligion.org SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Health Insurance and Greed Dilemma: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved be...2019-09-1710 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: So Sick of Teams: Zac Gandara: Joe Rogan: Penn JilletteThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. After I left Christianity, I realized that post conservative dogma; I hadn’t changed much in terms of my mentality of “Us Vs. Them.” I was now just in a different boat; I was now in the liberal boat. Can we truly live without picking teams? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Joe Rogan Experience #1343: Penn Jillette THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: So Sick of Teams: Zac Gandara: Joe Rogan: Penn Jillette ...2019-09-1213 minLosing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Conversion Therapy Founder Comes out as Gay and Leadership Dualism: Zac Gandara“Conversion therapy is not just a lie, but it’s very harmful,” McKrae Game said. Game is one of several former conversion therapy advocates who have come out as LGBTQ and condemned the practice of conversion therapy. So many leaders live dualistic lives have you seen it in your world? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: USA TODAY ARTICLE: Conversion therapy organization founder comes out as gay: 'Please forgive me' EPISODE 169: The Guy “Praying My Gay Away” Had a Boner: Brian Steen aka Merry Lubealot CALL IN: 206-395-5608 WRITE IN: zacg@losingourr...2019-09-1009 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Moral Panic: Zac Gandara: Dr. Patrick Markey: Adam ConoverThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Professor of Psychology at Villanova University and author, Dr. Patrick Markey talks about whether or not video games are the cause of school shootings. We jump on their conversation of Moral Panic that is interesting and has affected many of us. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Truth About Violent Video Games (…They Don’t Cause Violence) with Dr. Patrick Markey: Factually! with Adam Conover THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: Moral Panic: Zac Ga...2019-09-0513 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Beating Ourselves Up: Zac GandaraWe are often are most harsh critics, and when we perceive that we mess up on something we can get into a cycle of beating ourselves up over it. How do we break this cycle? How can we become more compassionate with ourselves? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Nothing today but you can call or write in! CALL IN: 206-395-5608 WRITE IN: zacg@losingourreligion.org SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Beating Ourselves Up: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people...2019-09-0308 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How to Work Through Feelings and Emotions: Zac Gandara: Melody BeattieThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. As we grew up, our feelings and emotions were often suppressed by authority figures and parents. So many of us don't know healthy boundaries in dealing with our, and other's emotions. "While we work through our feelings, we do not have to expend unnecessary energy reacting to each feeling we or others have." - Melody Beattie MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for CodependentS by Melody Beattie...2019-08-2910 min
Losing Our ReligionBEST OF: Welcome to the Freak Show. Host Zac Gandara's Story from Four Years Ago.This episode is a repeat of 000, but it had so many downloads we made it a "Best Of!" It's hard to believe how far we have all come and how much has changed since my (Host Zac Gandara) story posted four years ago this month. I am grateful that my story and the stories of hundreds of others have been so wonderfully therapeutic for us all to hear. I used to be a Christian Pastor, what am I now? CONTACT THE GUEST: ZAC GANDARA FULL SHOW NOTES: BEST OF: Welcome to the Freak...2019-08-281h 17
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Stoicism and Why am I So Triggered by Facebook: Zac GandaraEd calls in to share his experience with stoicism and even going back to church with his parents. Tricia writes in and wonders if it’s time to end Facebook after being triggered by family members improper scriptural hermeneutics and interpretations. “Why am I doing this? Why do I care? I don’t believe any of this anymore.” MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Nothing today because Ed called in and Alicia wrote in. CALL IN: 206-395-5608 WRITE IN: zacg@losingourreligion.org SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Stoicism and Why...2019-08-2714 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Attachment Issues and Blending in with the Crowd: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Growing through our traumas is hard. Changing is hard. Realizes that we have issues is hard. What is the answer? Is there one answer? Do I need to bring my inward change outward? This stoic thought is something to discuss and put through our critical thinking machine. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living: by Ryan Holiday, Stephen Hanselman THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: TH...2019-08-2212 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Make it Through Transitions: Zac Gandara: Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D.Transitions in this life are really hard. Death, divorce, job changes, job loss, breakups, moving, how do we make it through these tough changes and overcome the anxiety and often depression. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 10 Ways to Make It Through Your Life’s Transitions By Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D. SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Make it Through Transitions: Zac Gandara: Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D. NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION HOTLINE: 1-800-273-8255 "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted yo...2019-08-2021 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Ask Andrew W.K.: My Dad Is a Right-Wing Asshole: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. So many of you sent me this article, Ask Andrew W.K.: My Dad Is a Right-Wing Asshole. I knew I had to address it. Thank you for sending it! It has been a reminder to me of how vital the work of our podcast is. It also has reminded me that while I am currently struggling to walk in love, it is my life's aim. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ask Andrew W.K.: My...2019-08-1514 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Can We Disagree Politically and Still Be Friends?: Zac Gandara: DL HughleyFellow Loser Lilith posted this clip, "If You So Christian Forgive Me" from DL Hughley discussing his challenge with Christian Conservatives and their allegiance to Trump. He brings up some good points, particularly about racism and The Satanic Temple. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: DL Hughley - If You So Christian Forgive Me SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Can We Disagree Politically and Still Be Friends?: Zac Gandara: DL Hughley "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should...2019-08-1316 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Strait, White, Single, Male, Existential Babblings About Capitalism: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Sometimes we feel trapped. We feel trapped by our past decisions, by our relationships, by our government, by our…whatever. We feel freaking trapped. Maybe there’s a different perspective, and maybe there’s not. These are ramblings, leave it alone, and listen and think for your freaking self. THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: Strait, White, Single, Male, Existential Babblings About Capitalism: Zac Gandara LOSER DEALS: Save 50% on QuickBooks Online and QuickBoo...2019-08-0817 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: The Danger in Fake Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing: Zac Gandara: Vanessa Smith BennettMany of us grew up in religions, ideologies, or families that didn't allow the embracing of our humanity, our emotions. We were taught to suppress them with positivity, or not to engage them at all. Here is a healthy alternative. Let's talk about it — Thank's Loser Laird Young for sending this in. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Danger in Fake Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing: Negative emotions and experiences allow us to grow. By Vanessa Smith Bennett SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Danger in Fake Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing: Zac Ga...2019-08-0614 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Self-Deception and the Work to Heal: Zac Gandara: Duncan Trussell: Joe RoganThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. I’m a fan of Duncan Trussell. So I listened to Episode 1313 of the Joe Rogan Experience with him. He went on a beautiful tirade about human suffering, the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism, Self-Deception, and the work we can do to become more gentle people. Let’s talk about it. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: JOE ROGAN EXPERIENCE #1313 - Duncan Trussell THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: Self-Deception and the Work to Heal...2019-08-0121 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Kissed My Dating Book Goodbye: Joshua harris: Zac GandaraMany of you sent in this CNN article about Joshua Harris, the author of the book, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.” He is getting divorced and no longer calls himself a Christian. That book hurt many of us; let’s talk about it. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Joshua Harris, a former pastor who wrote relationship book, says his marriage is over and he is no longer Christian - CNN SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Kissed My Dating Book Goodbye: Joshua harris: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your s...2019-07-3016 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Capitalism is Destroying the Earth?: Zac Gandara: George MonbiotThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. Fellow Loser Brian sent in an article. Capitalism is destroying the Earth: We need a new human right for future generations by George Monbiot. We take a look at it and put it in the critical thinking machine. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Capitalism is destroying the Earth: We need a new human right for future generations by George Monbiot. BOOKS by George Monbiot. THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES:...2019-07-2514 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Will I Ever Be Accepted? How Can I Cope?: Zac GandaraFellow Loser Austin writes in while he’s sitting in church. The Pastor is talking about homosexuality and Austin, shaking, wonders if he’ll ever be accepted. Is he crazy? How can he cope? SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Will I Ever Be Accepted? How Can I Cope?: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better." - Anne Lamott LOSER DEALS: Save 50% on QuickBooks Online and QuickBooks Self-Employed Monday Melt...2019-07-2310 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: How Religion Turned American Politics against Science: Zac Gandara: Kurt AndersenThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. A Fellow Loser sends in a Big Think video featuring Kurt Andersen talking about how the Christian Right has seriously harmed the perception of science American politics. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Fantasyland: How America Went Haywire: A 500-Year History by Kurt Andersen THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: How Religion Turned American Politics against Science: Zac Gandara: Kurt Andersen Thinking Thursday: Thinking Thursday is about learning ho...2019-07-1814 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: Dealing with Difficult People and Leading Without Being a Dick: Zac GandaraFellow Loser Nick, calls in to talk about his new position at work, wondering if it’s possible to work alongside difficult people and lead them while not being difficult himself. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Dealing with Difficult People (HBR Emotional Intelligence Series) by Harvard Business Review,Tony Schwartz, Mark Gerzon. SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: Dealing with Difficult People and Leading Without Being a Dick: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have be...2019-07-1622 min
Losing Our ReligionTHINKING THURSDAY: Do We Have Control Over Anything?: Zac GandaraThinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together. I once was told that the only things we have control over are our thoughts and energy/effort. I have since added our focus, and time to the list. What do you think? Do you agree that we have control over these things? Let’s talk about it! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: First Things First Paperback by Stephen R. Covey THIS EPISODES SHOW NOTES: THINKING THURSDAY: Do We Have...2019-07-1116 min
Losing Our ReligionMONDAY MELTDOWN: The Mail Bag: Thoughts and Questions: Zac GandaraWe get emails or messages from fellow Losers every week sharing with us what the show means to them and how it’s helping them. It’s past time that we hear those emails on the show. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Confessions of a Funeral Director: How the Business of Death Saved My Life by Caleb Wilde SHOW NOTES: MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Mail Bag: Thoughts and Questions: Zac Gandara "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they shou...2019-07-0920 min
Losing Our ReligionWelcome to the Freak Show: Zac GandaraHi, I'm Zac Gandara. The host of Losing Our Religion. I am a former evangelical mega-church pastor. Although I was baptized catholic as an infant, then as a protestant in elementary school, then as a pentecostal in High School. Now? I'm trying to heal after my traumatic exvangelical exit from institutional religion. How have I healed since my exit from religion in 2011? Very irregularly. If you keep listening to this podcast, you're going to hear my story of healing and transformation, as well as hundreds of other humans. I urge you to listen with empathy...2015-08-051h 18