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All of YouEp.68 When you don’t feel that chemistry anymoreAttraction isn’t static — it ebbs and flows depending on our energy, our connection, and what’s happening inside of us. In this episode, we talk openly about what happens when “the spark” feels like it’s fading, and how to tell if it’s really gone or just asking for your attention. We share how to discern whether a lack of attraction is about your own inner world or the dynamic between you and your partner, how insecurity and self-sabotage can make things worse, and why being with a secure partner matters. You’ll hear real stories from our...2025-08-1149 min

All of YouEp.67 Fighting about money part 2In this follow-up episode, Dave opens up more about the beliefs he formed around money growing up, and together we unpack how those early messages shape the way we approach money today. We explore the role of safety, control, and values in how couples relate to money, what habits have actually brought us closer, and why there’s no one right way to manage money in a relationship. Our hope is that this conversation helps you feel less alone and a little more equipped to talk about money with the person you love. R...2025-08-0454 min

All of YouEp.66 Fighting about money part 1In this first episode of our two-part series on money, Shiv shares how her old money beliefs were shaped by fear, scarcity, and survival—and how shifting those beliefs changed everything. We unpack the idea that couples aren’t actually fighting about money, but about the deeper stories and wounds attached to it. We also explore how someone's money behaviors—like overspending, withholding, or controlling—can create attraction issues, trigger power dynamics, and erode safety in a relationship. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood or disconnected when it comes to finances with your partner, this one’s for you. ...2025-07-2846 min

All of YouEp.65 Defensiveness: staying curious and confident in conflictIn one of our most listened-to episodes, we tackled defensiveness—and you asked for more. In this deeper dive, we explore how to stay open and grounded when your guard wants to go up. We share real stories from our own relationship, unpack why defensiveness shows up most with the people we love, and offer practical tools for staying regulated, curious, and connected—even in the heat of conflict! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min 2025-07-2242 min

All of YouEp.64 Our story: how it started and almost endedIn this episode, we’re sharing the real, raw story of how we met—and how it nearly all fell apart. From big reactions to small things, to feeling controlled and walking on eggshells, our relationship brought our triggers front and center. We’re talking about what made us give it another shot, how we slowly rebuilt trust, and what the work actually looked like (spoiler: it wasn’t cute or easy). If you’ve ever wondered if it’s possible to come back from a rocky start—this one’s for you. Ready to do the work and g...2025-07-1457 min

All of YouEp. 63 Why people pleasing is so effed upEver said yes when you wanted to scream no? Same. In this episode, we dive into the messy world of people pleasing — where it comes from, how it shows up in sneaky ways (even in marriages and friendships), and why trying to keep everyone happy might actually be robbing you of your real self. We dig into things like: 👉 Why is it so hard to disappoint people? 👉 Can you be fully yourself and a people pleaser? 👉 Does it actually hurt connection more than it helps? You'll walk away feeling seen, maybe called out (in the...2025-07-0747 min

All of YouEp.62 How we stopped a fight by understanding our feelingsIn this episode, we’re talking about one of the most underrated relationship skills: feeling your feelings before they explode into a fight. Shiv shares a real-life moment where she caught herself feeling irritated and chose to pause and go to bed — instead of picking a fight with Dave. That one small choice shifted everything. We talk about: How to recognize when you’re emotionally charged The power of becoming the watcher of your thoughts Why naming your feelings is one of the most disarming tools in conflict How le...2025-06-3044 min

All of YouEp.61 Single after 30: The good, bad and really uglyIf you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why hasn’t love happened for me yet?”—this episode is for you. Dave flips the script and interviews me about my experience being single until 32. I open up about the internal narratives I wrestled with, the societal pressure I felt, and the fears that made me question if real love was still possible for me. We talk about: • The sneaky ways our beliefs block us from love • What I wish I did differently • Why healing before dating matters • How to actually put yourself out there without...2025-06-2338 min

All of YouEp.60 Rebuilding after divorceIn this deeply personal episode, Dave opens up about something 50% of people face but rarely feel safe enough to unpack out loud: rebuilding your life after divorce. Dave gets raw and real as he shares what life looked like nearly six years ago, from the state of his mental health to what he wishes he could tell his past self during that painful season. We explore: What he regrets (and doesn’t) from those early months How he knew when he was ready to date again What helped him heal and find cl...2025-06-1639 min

All of YouEp.59 The art of repairRelationships aren’t defined by how well we avoid conflict—but by how we come back together after it. In this episode, we dive into the art of repair—what it really means to repair after disconnection, conflict, or misunderstanding. We talk about why repair is so essential for trust and intimacy, why so many of us never learned how to do it, and the common mistakes people make when trying to make things right. We also share tools, real-life examples, and reflective questions to help you navigate the messy, vulnerable, and beautiful process of repair—whether it’s with a par...2025-06-0938 min

All of YouEp.58 How to express your needs without criticizing your partnerIn this honest and vulnerable episode, we’re getting real about something that affects every relationship: expressing your needs without slipping into blame or criticism. We even rated each other (yep!)—Shiv gave Dave a score on how well he expresses his needs, and we unpack what makes this so challenging for both of us. Spoiler: the hardest part isn’t always the communication…it’s figuring out what you actually need in the first place. When we can’t express our needs, they go unmet—and that quiet disconnection builds resentment, shuts down intimacy, and keeps us from showing up as...2025-06-0248 min

All of YouEp.57 Grieving what you never hadIn this episode, we talk about a tender kind of grief that often goes unspoken — the grief of a life that didn’t happen. The future you imagined, the timeline you were hoping for, the version of your story that never came to be. Whether it’s a relationship that ended, a vision for your future that will never come to be, or a season that didn’t unfold the way you thought it would, this kind of loss is real — even if it’s invisible. And yet, so often, it’s not validated by the world around us....2025-05-2647 min

All of YouEp.56 Overcoming the pit of despair with author Tanner OrelIn this deeply honest and inspiring episode, we sit down with Tanner Orel—viral content creator and author of the thrilling dragon fantasy series Titan’s Nest.We dive into what it’s like to navigate the pit of despair, live with depression, and how anxiety can quietly become a safety blanket that holds us back. Tanner also opens up about the struggle to celebrate wins and find contentment when you’re not yet where you want to be. I f you’ve ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or quietly beat yourself up for not being “there” yet—this episode is...2025-05-1959 min

All of YouEp.55 Is it love...or emotional abuse?Love isn’t always what it seems. In this episode, we dive into the dark side of love — where emotional abuse, retaliation, and control can be mistaken for passion or commitment. If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that felt like love on the surface but left you feeling anxious, unseen, or constantly on edge, you're not alone. We're unpacking how love can become distorted… and what real love actually looks like beneath the surface. Whether you're healing from a toxic dynamic, questioning your relationship, or simply trying to love better — this conversation is for you...2025-05-1251 min

All of YouEp.54 Real love vs. romanceWhat’s the difference between real love and just being caught up in the romance? In this episode, we dive into the distinction between deep, lasting love and the sparkly thrill of infatuation or lust. We talk about the experience of falling in love, the challenges of modern relationships, and even touch on the “Peter Pan Syndrome” — when emotional immaturity gets in the way of connection. Tune in for an honest, insightful convo that will have you reflecting on your own relationship patterns and what love really means to you. Ready to do the work and go de...2025-05-0549 min

All of YouEp. 53 The blame gameIn today’s episode, we’re diving into something that we all do at times — the blame game. We’re breaking down why we’re so quick to blame others, how it can sneakily keep us stuck, and why it's one of the biggest blocks to real growth and connection. Shiv shares why blaming feels easier in the moment but ultimately holds us back from healing, how to spot when you’re stuck in a blame cycle, and what to do instead. We also talk about how taking ownership (with compassion) can change your relationships — and your life. I...2025-04-2848 min

Faith and Family Trailblazer PodcastHealing and Managing Emotions for a Beautiful, Peaceful Marriage With Shiv MartinellWelcome to the Faith & Family Trailblazers Podcast! In today’s episode, we’ll talk about how healing those deep-rooted wounds can help create a more peaceful, loving, and understanding connection with your partner.Shiv Martinell is a women’s innerwork coach. She helps women heal, manage their emotions, cultivate healthy relationships, and find peace in their lives.Connect with Shiv Here: @shivmartinell @allofyoupodcasthttps://allofyou.kit.com/triggersGrab th...2025-04-2114 min

All of YouEp.52 The most important conversation you will ever haveThe way you speak to yourself shapes everything—your confidence, your relationships, your choices, your entire life. In this heartfelt episode, Shiv and Dave dive deep into the lifelong conversation we all have with ourselves. They open up about their own inner dialogues, how self-talk has impacted their journeys, and what they've done to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion. If you've ever struggled with that voice in your head, this one’s for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https...2025-04-2147 min

All of YouEp.51 Emotional IntelligenceIn this episode, Shiv and Dave get real about their journeys with emotional intelligence—aka tuning into the feelings in our bodies (not just thinking our way through life). They share how they've each learned to connect more deeply with their emotions, what it’s looked like in their relationship, and why it's been a total game-changer. Dave even takes it a step further by nicknaming his tougher emotions (yes, really), and introduces us to the little crew he carries around inside. It’s honest, funny, and deeply human. If you've ever wondered how to better...2025-04-1449 min

All of YouEp.50 Our 50th EpisodeIt’s been a whole year of showing up, learning, growing, and hitting record. In this special anniversary episode, Shiv and Dave share a life update and reflect on everything that’s changed over the past year—personally, professionally, and in their relationship. They also open up about the biggest lessons podcasting has taught them and what they never saw coming. Whether you’ve been here from day one or you’re just joining the journey, they’re grateful you’re here. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation...2025-04-0745 min

All of YouEp.49 What is emotional connection?Emotional connection is at the heart of every meaningful relationship. In this episode, Shiv and Dave explore what it truly means, when we feel most connected, and how it shapes their own relationship. Tune in for an honest, insightful, and heartfelt conversation! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Emai...2025-04-0147 min

All of YouEp. 48 Navigating StressStress is inevitable, but how we handle it makes all the difference. In this episode, we open up about some of the most stressful moments in our lives—the ones that pushed us to our limits—and how we navigated them. We share what worked, what didn’t, and the mindset shifts that helped us regain control. Plus, we dive into practical ways to manage stress so it doesn’t manage you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmar...2025-03-241h 00

All of YouEp.47 Denial part 2As it turns out, Shiv and Dave weren’t quite done discussing denial after last week’s episode. While last week dove into how to help someone who is in denial, this week they cover denial through the lens of someone that is in it. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.c...2025-03-1747 min

All of YouEp.46 Who’s in denial?How often have you thought, 'Wow, that person is in denial?' Probably more times than you've thought, 'I’m in denial.' It’s always easier to see in others than in ourselves. In this week's episode, we explore why denial happens and how to help someone face reality—without pushing them away. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.c...2025-03-1049 min

All of YouEp.45 Trust Issues & the Lively vs. Baldoni SagaDid Shiv convince Dave to dive into the Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni saga this week? Yes, she did! What started as a lighthearted take on celebrity drama ended with a deep conversation about trust in relationships—plus, Dave’s surprising take on Ryan Reynolds. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyo...2025-03-031h 03

All of YouEp.44 Interview: Naushad GodrejThis week we are joined by our good friend Naush. He’s a men’s coach, breathwork facilitator, and lover of all things movement and wellness. Tune in as he shares his healing journey, relationship lessons, and how he got stuck during the covid lockdown with his grandma in India, which turned into an unexpected journey in healing. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ In...2025-02-251h 09

All of YouEp.43 It starts with youThis week, Shiv and Dave are getting back to the basics of healing—the real, deep kind. They’re breaking down why true change starts with you, how your triggers are actually pointing you to the wounds that need healing, and why holding onto your power is everything. If you're ready to do the inner work and level up, this one’s for you! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min 2025-02-171h 05

All of YouEp. 42 It's safe to be weirdWe’re all a little weird in our own way, but how comfortable we are showing our weirdness to the world varies. In this episode Shiv and Dave share the ways they are comfortable being weird, the ways they aren’t and tips on how to reveal your authentically weird self. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ Ti...2025-02-101h 00

All of YouEp.41 Interview: BC SernaThis week we're joined by BC Serna. He’s been a mentor, friend, fellow coach, and one of the most authentic voices in the healing space on social media. We discuss masculine and feminine energy, relationships, embodiment, and what it's like putting yourself out there online. We loved this conversation with BC and hope you do as well! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ I...2025-02-031h 01

All of YouEp.40 Authenticity - removing the maskWhat was intended as an episode on the importance of authenticity turned into Shiv and Dave being really authentic about where they are at and how they are doing, because sometimes we need someone to just go first. This episode is a window into their current struggles and an invitation for you to join them in becoming your most authentic self. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min 2025-01-271h 12

All of YouEp.39 The mental loadWhen it comes to responsibilities managing a household we want it to be 50/50 all the time, but the reality is it's challenging to measure and the constant keeping score can add to the stress and lead to conflict. In this episode Shiv and Dave share their struggles with this and Dave expounds on his belief that this is all a trap! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min...2025-01-201h 27

All of YouEp.38 Compassion’s role in healingThe journey of self growth and healing is filled with daunting obstacles, challenges, some highs and a lot of lows. It takes courage and strength to be in the pursuit of the best version of yourself. With growth it is often two steps forward and one step back, but when we are taking that step back it’s hard to not be critical of ourselves. This is where the importance of self compassion comes in. In this episode we discuss how giving ourselves compassion is essential on the journey to healing and how it can have a powerful impact wh...2025-01-1358 min

All of YouEp.37 The wall of resentmentResentment, it’s the ultimate connection killer. In this week’s episode Shiv and Dave share times they have harbored resentment in their relationship and how easy it is to let little bricks of resentment turn into a massive wall where they can no longer see each other. Tune in as they explain how through curiosity and commitment to seeing each other they have learned how to break the resentment wall down. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/d...2025-01-0659 min

All of YouEp. 36 Are we Christians?Tune in for another episode that Shiv swore she would never do, talk about faith and religion. While Shiv and Dave were both raised in the Christian church, their faith journeys are far from simple and they have both deeply wrestled with what they believe. From religious trauma to deconstruction to how they listen to God, this episode shares a new side of Shiv and Dave. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: ht...2024-12-301h 03

All of YouEp.35 Handling red flags in relationshipsGet a little philosophical with us this week as we discuss what we believe red flags are. Whether you are newly dating or have been with your partner for 20 years and are just starting to see the red flags in your relationship, this episode dives into ways to talk to your partner as well as keep yourself safe. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡...2024-12-231h 00

All of YouEp. 34 Sex lifeYep, we went there. In this week’s episode we dive into a topic that’s often taboo to talk about, but is so central to connection: sex and intimacy. Dave shares his journey of unlearning the scripts he was handed growing up about sex and gets candid about how he healed and shifted his mindset in order to create a foundation of trust in their relationship that ultimately led to a better sex life or as Dave would call it meal sex instead of ice cream sex. Whether you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, unsatisfied in your sex li...2024-12-1659 min

All of YouEp. 33 The ego’s role in changeChanging can feel like a death of your ego and is often so uncomfortable that it feels like it’s wrong. In this episode Shiv details the ways she has changed over the last year and how she was able to tell if she was changing into a more authentic version of herself or not. When we grow it is not always accepted by those around us, tune in to hear how to overcome others perceptions of you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us...2024-12-0953 min

All of YouEp. 32 Battling DepressionThis week, Shiv and Dave open up about their personal experiences battling depression and share their perspective on what they believe depression is. Dave shares his holistic point of view on healing from depression and goes into detail on how he healed. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Emai...2024-12-0359 min

All of YouEp. 31 Working through fears of blending our family and getting married (again)Getting married a second time can bring up a flood of emotions, fears, and doubts. In this episode, Dave opens up about the personal blocks and anxieties he faced as he prepared to take this step again. Shiv shares her own vulnerable journey, navigating the complexities of marrying someone with children and the inner work it took to build trust and feel ready to say "I do." Together, they explore the challenges of blending their lives and families, offering hope and inspiration for others on a similar path. Ready to do the work and go d...2024-11-2557 min

All of YouEp. 30 The impact of a father or lack thereofIt goes without question that our parents and caregivers make a lasting impact in shaping who we become. This episode explores the impact of fathers who choose to not be present in their child's life physically or who might be physically present, but emotionally absent. Dave gets personal about the wounds that he has had to heal and the journey to healing them. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/s...2024-11-1851 min

All of YouEp. 29 Red, white, and triggered: Reflections and tools in response to the electionPolitics is a highly triggering topic—one that can divide families and prevent friends from showing up as their authentic selves with one another. In this episode, we draw parallels between managing triggers in relationship conflicts and handling political triggers, with the aim of maintaining healthy relationships even with those who see things differently. In light of the recent election, if you’re feeling sensitive, please take care of yourself and feel free to turn this episode off if it becomes too triggering at any point. Ready to do the work and go deepe...2024-11-1153 min

All of YouEp.28 Our Wedding Energy: What Worked, What Didn't, and Why It Matters.We’re officially married and ready to let you in on all the learnings and lessons from this wild season! In this episode, we discuss the most important thing we wanted to bring to our wedding day which was the right energy. Tune in to hear the ways we did this well, not so well, and why we think energy is soooo unbelievably important! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com...2024-11-0454 min

All of YouEp.27 Talking all things anxietyAnxiety is an emotion we all feel from time to time. Some of us experience it more often than others, but I think it’s safe to say none of us enjoy it. In this episode Shiv and Dave talk about their experience with anxiety and how they choose to move through it. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/all...2024-09-1854 min

All of YouEp.26 Navigating defensiveness in relationshipsArguing with someone who is defensive is exhausting and oftentimes pointless. Being someone who is defensive is harmful to yourself and everyone close to you. This week’s episode Shiv and Dave share the ways that defensiveness has hurt their relationship and Shiv details the work that she has done to become less defensive. If you or someone you love struggles with being defensive (wink-wink that's almost all of us) you won’t want to miss this one! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us:2024-09-041h 01

All of YouEp. 25 Sitting in the discomfort of new shoesIf you’re anything like me (Shiv here), sometimes you crave your comfort zone like a kid craving their baby blanket. Growth can be incredibly uncomfortable and in this episode we share how we sit with the discomfort…sometimes very well and sometimes not so well. Along with facing discomfort we also share how we handled some recent setbacks and let you in on Dave’s most recent breakdown! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min S...2024-08-2957 min

All of YouEp.24 Second hand traumaWhen Shiv lost her brother it was traumatic in a very obvious way. However, the lack of compassion and understanding by her teachers after her loss was also traumatic, in an entirely different way. Tune in to learn about how our experiences imprint onto us and how bottling emotions can affect you. This episode is both an invitation and a warning for you to reflect back on your own school experience and how it may have affected you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with u...2024-08-2248 min

All of YouEp. 23 How do we define success?Everyone has a different definition of success, in this episode Shiv and Dave define what it means to them and the lengths they will go to achieve their vision of success. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com 2024-08-1547 min

All of YouEp. 22 Healing insecuritiesWe all have insecurities because we have all been wounded. In this week’s episode Shiv and Dave talk about how to heal from insecurities and how to navigate insecurities in a relationship. Is it your job to heal your insecurity or your partner's job to cater to it? Tune in to find out our hot take on this! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min 2024-08-0951 min

All of YouEp.21 Abundance & scarcity mindsetThis week's episode shines a light on how shifting your mindset to one of abundance versus scarcity will actually bring you more. Shiv and Dave share how having an abundance mindset was not something they always have had, but how this change has radically impacted their lives and they feel more blessed because of it. Oh and there is also a wild tangent on how this affects the dating scene, buckle up! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.c...2024-08-011h 02

All of YouEp.20 Forgiveness & resentmentWhen we don’t forgive, resentment builds. In this week’s episode Dave takes us on a deeply insightful and personal journey into how and why he has learned to forgive. We dive into how resentment is created in relationships, how it keeps us from connecting and how forgiveness can release our mental tension in order to feel lighter. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ...2024-07-2449 min

All of YouEp.19 Releasing other people’s opinions of youShiv found herself level 10 triggered after reading an instagram comment and this episode is peeling back the curtain on how she used her trigger as an opportunity to heal and set boundaries to keep her peace. While others' feedback can be incredibly helpful in order to mirror our blindspots to us, it’s only helpful when we deeply trust the person providing the feedback. Dave shares how he discerns which mirrors he trusts and the importance of those mirrors in his life. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a c...2024-07-1748 min

All of YouEp.18 (Un)Fulfilled and All of You CollabIn this episode, Shiv and Dave are joined by Camille Cook, host of the (Un)Fulfilled Podcast for an important conversation on how to find fulfillment. We each share parts of our stories that we regret, how we started doing innerwork to begin living a more aligned life, the importance of listening to your intuition and how to move beyond discomfort to get the life you want. (Un)Fulfilled Podcast can be found here: https://open.spotify.com/show/7pTkb9QoFa5H8Jdl2x5Scj?si=3c1b115840c84b4b ...2024-07-1053 min

All of YouEp.17 Imperfectly working through perfectionismWe all struggle with trying to be perfect at times, but for some of us it can feel much more debilitating. Especially for Shiv, who opens up about the ways that her perfectionism has held her back. This episode highlights the struggles of being a perfectionist and how to approach yourself with compassion when stuck in a cycle of perfectionism in order to overcome it. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://c...2024-07-0354 min

All of YouEp.16 Regulating our nervous systemsThis week Shiv and Dave dive into how learning to regulate their nervous system has helped them make better decisions, feel better in their lives, and has improved how they parent. They share the tools that they use that are simple to integrate into everyday life along with sharing their thoughts on attachment styles! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.insta...2024-06-2746 min

All of YouEp.15 Living in AlignmentThings get personal in this episode, Dave and Shiv share updates on recent life decisions and how they make decisions in alignment with their values. Even when we think we know what our values are, it’s still easy to become double minded and make decisions that are out of alignment. Shiv opens up about past decisions she made that she wouldn't make now. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com...2024-06-2249 min

All of YouEp.14 True love has low expectationsWarning: If you have high expectations for others this episode could be triggering, but with an open heart and mind it could also be just what you need. Tune in as Shiv and Dave discuss how to achieve mental peace by having low expectations and watch out for the unexpected twist as Dave throws the 5 love languages under the bus! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min 2024-06-1354 min

All of YouEp.13 Our thoughts create our realityI talk to myself and no I’m not crazy, you do it too. We all talk to ourselves and in this episode we dive into the impact our self talk has on our reality. We share thoughts that have hurt us in the past, thoughts that kept us stuck, and how we have changed our thoughts in order to have more peace and live in alignment. In order to change your thoughts, you have to become the watcher of your thoughts and in this episode we teach how to start practicing this! Ready to do...2024-06-061h 00

All of YouEp.12 ShameIf I could heal the world of just one thing, it would be shame. Most roads of pain lead back to shame and we go down many of those roads in this episode along with sharing stories of ways we have experienced and passed on shame to others. We mention a book called Healing the Shame that Binds you by John Bradshaw in this episode. I highly recommend reading it! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: ht...2024-05-3152 min

All of YouEp.11 The journey homeInspired by a trip to Shiv’s parents house, this episode takes you through the twists and turns of how to come back to the person you are deep within before things outside of you, shaped you. Shiv shares the blocks that she has had to work through on her journey that kept her from beginning to heal and how she has changed her perspective on views that were once deeply held within her. Healing isn’t linear and everyone’s journey will look different, but our hope is that this episode resonates with you wherever you’re currently at. ...2024-05-2247 min

All of YouEp.10 We got codependentWe live and breathe all things mental health and healing so when it comes to finding and fixing our patterns, we are always on the hunt. With that said, it’s humbling to fall back into past patterns and in this episode we open up about how that happened this week. The pattern we fell into was one of major codependence and we dive into what that looks like. If you have ever felt like you aren’t okay if someone else isn’t okay then this is the episode for you! Ready to do the wor...2024-05-1548 min

All of YouEp.9 Set those boundariesIn honor of Mental Health Awareness month Shiv and Dave share some of the ways they maintain their mental health. This episode starts with small tricks and tips that are easy to implement and then dives deep into the hard stuff like setting boundaries with yourself and others. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https...2024-05-0947 min

All of YouEp.8 How triggers kill connectionTriggered…you’ve likely heard this term tossed around before. I know I had, but I didn’t always know what it truly meant. Early in our relationship triggers were impacting us in a major way, but at the time we didn’t understand that it was our triggers since we didn’t know what triggers were. This episode will help you understand what a trigger is and how to work through your triggers so that you can show up better in your own life and for those you love! Ready to do the work and go deep...2024-05-011h 01

All of YouEp.7 How our core beliefs hold us backThrough life experiences we all develop our own set of core beliefs. Our core beliefs then become the rules that we choose to live by. While subconsciously we believe that our beliefs are good, this is not necessarily true. In this episode, which has more of a therapy vibe than a podcast vibe, Shiv opens up about a deeply ingrained core belief that she held that was creating pain and tension in her life and ultimately how she was able to let go of this belief. The episode ends with Dave discovering a belief of his own and is...2024-04-2359 min

All of YouEp.6 Meditating through uncertaintyWe’re getting real, real quick in this episode. With life throwing us a big curve ball with Dave’s career there is a lot of uncertainty on the horizon. Navigating this time isn’t easy, but through maintaining our mindsets and daily meditation we know we have what we need to weather the storm and keep our peace. 2024-04-171h 03

All of YouEp.5 Had to healSome of us are unaware that we carry emotional pain inside us that impacts or day to day lives, not to name names (Shiv) and then there are those like Dave that know they are weighted down with pain. Wherever you are on the spectrum this episode shines on a light of how to know if you’re in pain and ways to heal it. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://cal...2024-04-1135 min

All of YouEp.4 What is inner work?“Do the work” is a common phrase we’ve all heard a thousand times. In this episode we have an open discussion on what we believe it means to do the work and how we arrived at the conclusion that we needed to work on ourselves. Dave vulnerably shares the advice that he would have given his younger self and Shiv admits to getting fired from her therapist. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv...2024-04-021h 01

All of YouEp.3 Can we change?Wanna grow? Then it’s time to embrace that really scary thing called change. Shiv, a natural born hater of change, reflects on her own experiences grappling with big life changes she made this past year, highlighting the internal struggle of deciding if her emotions were urging her to flee or encouraging her to persevere in the direction her intuition was telling her to go. We’ll also be dishing out some how-tos when it comes to sitting with the scary emotions change brings about…cue the anxiety! Whether you're facing a major life transition or simply seeking to adopt...2024-03-2636 min

All of YouEp.2 Our feelings on feelingsGet ready because we’re about to spill the beans on how feeling your feelings can lead you to more connected relationships, greater self awareness, and ultimately help you unlock your personal recipe to a content life. As someone who ran from their not so pleasant feelings for years, it was a messy process when I was learning how to feel them and listen to what they were telling me. Ultimately the more I leaned in and felt my feelings the more clearly I began to see myself. Learning to understand myself was the key I needed to better em...2024-03-1857 min

All of YouEp.1 Intro to All of YouWhen you hear the words “all of you,” what comes to mind? Join us as we dive deep into what this means for us personally and how our fragile egos hold us back from seeing the reality of who we really are. From the ways this has harmed us to the transformative power of owning who you are, get ready to broaden your perspective. And oh, you’re in for a treat as Shiv drops her bold take on why she believes this work is nothing short of revolutionary. Ready to do the work and go deep...2024-03-1229 min