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Christians Who DateWhere Is God in Suffering?For centuries, philosophers and theologians have been wrestling with the question: “If there’s a good God, why do people suffer?” Or the classic: “Why do bad things happen to good people?”We’re not here to tie this episode up with a pretty bow. We’re sitting in the tension of believing in a good God and experiencing grief.We talk about what it’s like to walk through grief, how to be there for people who are hurting (without saying all the wrong things), and why comfort doesn’t always c...2025-07-151h 07Christians Who DateIs Your “Ideal” Keeping You Single?A lot of us have a picture in our heads of what a relationship should look like.In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations, and how to know if your “ideal” is actually keeping you from seeing the good thing (or good person) right in front of you.If you’ve ever said, “It just didn’t feel right,” or “I’ll know it when I see it,” this one’s for you. 2025-07-011h 02Christians Who DateWaiting on God (When You’re Tired of Waiting)What does it mean for us to wait on God? What happens when we’ve been waiting a long time for our dreams for marriage and a family?In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share openly and honestly about seasons of waiting on God for dreams - whether that be a relationship, finances, or other desires of their heart.They share how they’ve handled “waiting fatigue” when you feel like you’ve been waiting a really long time and your hope is deferred. May this...2025-06-241h 05Christians Who Date9 Power Couples We've Learned FromWhat makes a good marriage? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk about 9 real-life (not celebrity) power couples that have given them vision for what they want in a marriage. They cover things like:Why marriage isn't the end goalInviting kids into the fullness of your life Being intentional about growthThe difference between “what can I get from this?” to “what can I give?”Whether you're single, dating, or married, may this episode leave you with some practical takeaways and long-term vision.2025-06-171h 02Christians Who DateControversial Takes: 5 Love Languages & EnneagramThe 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman has sold 20 million copies around the world. Millions of people have taken the Enneagram personality test (although Christians have been questioning its origins in the last couple of years). In what could be their most controversial episode yet, the Christians Who Date weigh in on these two personality frameworks. Are they helpful in dating? Do they oversimplify things? Have we used them so much now that they're a cliché? Listen to find out! To dig into these resources yourself: The 5 Love Languages by G...2025-06-1050 minChristians Who DateSet-Ups, Standards, and Intentional Dating (with Kerry and Dane Earl)What does it actually look like to date with intentionality?In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down with Kerry and Dane Earl as they drop all kinds of wisdom and practical tips on how to date well. They cover things like: How to create safety as a man in dating (lol, don't worry, Dane took this one)Why letting your friends set you up can work (if you do it right)How to separate non-negotiables from preferencesThe art of asking good questionsWhy it's ju...2025-06-031h 34Christians Who DateFrom Over-Spiritualizing Dating to Owning Our ChoicesAre there ways we over-spiritualize dating? How do we bring God into the process in a healthy way? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share their fails when it comes to over-spiritualizing dating and talk about what they do now instead. 2025-05-2756 minChristians Who DateDo Things Need to Happen Organically?Is wanting things to unfold “organically” holding you back? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea chat through the tension between letting things be organic and dating with intentionality. 2025-05-2055 minChristians Who DateHot Takes: Height, Love at First Sight, and Splitting the CheckDo women make too big of a deal out of height? How much does it actually matter? Does love at first sight happen? Is it legit? Is splitting the check ever the move? Is movie taste a deal-breaker? Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren jump into some hot takes on all the questions above. Let us know what you think in the comments. 2025-05-1333 minChristians Who DateGhosting, Good Morning Texts, and Getting Better at Communication (One Fail at a Time)How much do you communicate when you’re first starting to date? What about when things are getting more serious? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through things like:- All-day texting- The “Good Morning” Text- Defining the relationship- Communication fails2025-05-0658 minChristians Who DateWhat Makes a Fun Date... Fun?What are the markers of a fun date? Bungee jumping? Helicopter rides? Fancy outfits? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea break down some of the most fun dates they've ever been on and why they were fun. Feel free to steal any of these date ideas for yourself. Shout out to The Adventure Challenge. 2025-04-2950 minChristians Who DateWhen You're the Last One Single in the Friend GroupIf you've said "yes" to being a bridesmaid (or groomsman) 17 times, and there is not a man or woman on the horizon for you to date, this one's for you. Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea get real about what it's like to be the last one single in your friend group. They talk through questions like: • How do you navigate moments when being single feels so in-your-face? • If you keep getting invited to be a bridesmaid or attend yet another wedding, should you still go? • How do you balance holding hope with stayi...2025-04-221h 00Christians Who DateHow to Make Your Life Better (With or Without a Relationship)Whether you're single, dating, or somewhere in between, this conversation is all about owning your life—right now.Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea unpack what it looks like to stop looking for someone else to give you the life you want and start building it right now. The ladies talk through: - Taking ownership of your finances, future, and friendships- Shifting from “someday when I’m in a relationship” to “what can I do right now?”- Recognizing when you’re putting too...2025-04-151h 07Christians Who DateAre All The Good People Taken?"There are no good options out there. They're all taken." From the mountains of Montana, to the streets of LA, to the taco trucks of Austin, people everywhere are saying their city is the worst city to date in. BUT IS IT REALLY TRUE?!Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down to unpack why it's tempting to agree with this idea, but also challenge it with some cold, hard facts and fun stories about meeting good guys out in the wild. If you’re...2025-04-0852 minChristians Who DateDoes “The One” Exist?Is there one right person for everyone? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through their ideas about “the one” and how they’ve seen this idea play out in dating. 2025-04-0144 minChristians Who DateWhen & How to Bring Community Into DatingHow do you bring other people into the dating process? When do you introduce someone to your friends? Family? In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren unpack:Why it’s so important to invite people you trust into your dating lifeWhen to bring someone around your friends and family Why we don't always want to let people inHow to give and receive feedback with grace2025-03-2551 minChristians Who DateHow Much Does Attraction Matter in Dating?How much does attraction matter in dating? Do you have to be attracted to your boyfriend or girlfriend 24/7?In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea dive into all the questions about chemistry, attraction, and what to do when you’re just not feeling it. We talk about:- What attraction actually is (and what it’s not)- Why it’s normal for attraction to ebb and flow- How attachment style (and other things) play a role in attractionT...2025-03-181h 06Christians Who DateGetting Needs Met in Healthy WaysYou have needs. Physical needs. Emotional needs. Spiritual needs. But if you've ever felt like you should be "low-maintenance" or "not too needy," you're not the only one. In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren unpack how to identify your needs and get them met in a healthy way—whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship. 2025-03-111h 22Christians Who DateWhen & How Should I Bring Up Faith in Dating?How soon is too soon to bring up faith when you're dating? And how do you bring it up naturally instead of making it feel like an interview. In this episode, Lauren and Andrea talk through the real-life questions they ask to bring up THE most important thing in their life: their faith. It's what shapes their worldview. It's the lens they look at everything else through, and it's an ESSENTIAL conversation, but that doesn't mean they have to take a super intense deep-dive on the first date. From casual convos to discussing non-negotiables, Lauren an...2025-03-041h 04Christians Who DateHow to Set a Healthy Dating Pace (And Our Worst Pacing Fails)How slow or fast is a healthy speed to move in a dating relationship? What does building trust look like? Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk through their biggest pacing fails and what they've learned about setting a healthy dating pace. Resource: How to Develop a Relationship: The Intimacy Ladder with Jason Vallotton2025-02-251h 02Christians Who Date2024 Dating Wrapped: What We Learned & What's NextAndrea, Kalli, and Lauren sit down to recap the highs, lows, and unexpected plot twists of their dating lives in 2024—what worked, what flopped, and what they’re hoping for in 2025.The ladies talk about:The biggest lessons they learned from dating last yearWhat they’re looking forward to in 2025How they’re staying hopeful, intentional, and open to all that 2025 holds (dating-wise and for life in general) 2025-02-1856 minChristians Who DateWhy We Don't Hate Valentine's DayValentine's Day feels HIGH stakes. If you're dating, it feels like there are a lot of expectations. If you're single, it feels like you're 100% gonna be sad all day. But is it possible to have a Valentine's Day and just... enjoy it?In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about how even though they've spent a LOT of Valentine's Days single, they don't hate it, and you don't have to either.PLUS Lauren talks through the LA fires, Andrea talks about about going on a zillion first dates in the last three months, and...2025-02-111h 04Christians Who DateWhy Dating?3 best friends taking on the dating world with jokes and Jesus. 2024-12-0500 minChristians Who DateFun, Boundaries, and Dating in Community with Jess & B-Real Gulino (AKA The Honeys Do Love Talkin')The Christians Who Date sit down with arguably one of the most entertaining couples ever to talk about setting healthy boundaries, prioritizing fun in your relationship, and dating in community. Jess and B-Real Gulino share their dating story and the advice they would give their single selves. 2024-12-031h 30Christians Who DateKilling ComparisonWhat do you do when all your friends are getting married? Or finding relationships? Or moving into the next stage of life while you’re still single?
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share real life examples of feeling behind or less than and what they do to kick comparison in the face. 2024-11-2652 minChristians Who DateHow to Impress the LadiesGuys, this one’s for you. What are the ladies impressed by? How can you get to know someone if you’re interested? What are some tips for the first date? How about all the other dates?
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through what guys have done in the pre-dating and early dating stages that has really impressed them. 2024-11-191h 10Christians Who DateFrom Dating Anxiety to Happy Marriage (with Patrick and Katie Hern)As Christians, we're famous for putting a lot of pressure on dating. It makes sense, because we have a high value for marriage, but at the same time, it can hurt the dating stage when we feel like we need to figure things out ASAP.
This week, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren sit down with Kalli's sister and brother-in-law, Katie and Patrick Hern as they share their dating story and the perspective they have now, 7 years into marriage.
If you can relate to Katie's story at all, the Connected and Committed Podcast is a great resource...2024-11-121h 51Christians Who DateRelationship Readiness, First Dates, and DealbreakersIs there a way to know if you’re ready to be in a relationship? What questions do you ask on a first date? What makes a dealbreaker vs. something you work through?
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea tackle some of your top dating questions on the podcast this week. 2024-11-0544 minChristians Who DateShould Women Make the First Move?Should women ask guys on dates? What about breaking the ice? Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren pull from their own experiences to talk about what they've seen work and not work in the dating world. 2024-10-2954 minChristians Who DateHow Far Is Too Far?It's the question that always gets asked at youth group... how far is too far? When it comes to physical boundaries, where is the line?
This week, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren get very honest about how they've navigated this part of a relationship and answer questions like:
Is the church controlling people with all of this talk on physical boundaries?
Is God controlling people by making all of these "rules" around sex?
How do you talk to someone you're in a relationship with about physical boundaries?
What happens when you mess up?
Intimacy Ladder podcast with...2024-10-221h 10Christians Who DateShould We Move in Together?Statistically, it's more common than ever to live with your partner, whether you plan on getting married or not.
If you're NOT living together, what are you even doing? Following some antiquated set of rules? Overpaying for rent? Possibly even putting yourself in danger by not truly scoping things out before you tie the knot?
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea get a little controversial this week by sharing some counter-cultural ideas on a topic that most of America agrees on - cuz they're edgy like that.
Sources:
Pew Research Center's Key findings on marriage...2024-10-1548 minChristians Who DateFreedom from Porn (with Tim & Naomi Specht)Can you get free from porn ? How does porn affect your dating relationship? What are the practicals for breaking this cycle if you're stuck?
This week, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down with their friends from California who are currently youth pastors in Austin, Texas: Tim and Naomi Specht.
Tim shares honestly about his own struggle with porn and how watching a TedTalk led to a revelation of truth that ultimately set him free.
Note: This episode covers some topics that are for a more mature audience (unlike our other episodes which are...2024-10-081h 21Christians Who DateHow Following Jesus Shapes the Way We DateWhat does culture say? What does Jesus say? What does it mean to date as a Christian?
Andrea, Kalli, and Lauren talk through:
How dating has looked different for them because of their faith
How they've approached the topic of faith with the people they've dated
If they had it to do over again, would they follow the boundaries God outlines in the Bible?
Recommended Reading: Loveology by John Mark Comer2024-10-0157 minChristians Who DateWhat to Look For in a Relationship (Green, Yellow, & Red Flags)What should you look for in someone to date? What are the green flags? What are the red flags? What do you do with a yellow flag? Are orange flags a thing?
Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea dive into all of these questions and more in this episode.
P.S. Kalli is saying the word "flag," even though it sounds totally different. She's from Montana. 2024-09-2459 minChristians Who DateDismantling Common Lies About Being Single in Your 30sIf you’re feeling the pressure to get married, you’re not alone. Whether it’s from society or the church, it’s easy to feel like there’s a timeline you have to stick to. Some of the pressure may be real, but a lot of it is unnecessary.
Breaking up with the pressure to be married starts with dismantling common lies around being single. Join Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea as they talk through several common lies and challenge them with truth.
2024-09-171h 13Christians Who DateShould I Try Online Dating?Does downloading a dating app mean you're not trusting God? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through common hang-ups people have when it comes to online dating and give their best tips for meeting the kind of person you want. 2024-09-101h 13Christians Who DateHow to Handle Uncomfortable Conversations in DatingAre you avoiding uncomfortable conversations in dating? This week, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about how they went from basically train wrecks to mostly clear & kind communicators.
They'll talk about:
How a lot of the dating culture we have today is the result of people avoiding uncomfortable conversations
Why trying not to hurt someone's feelings is often more painful in the long run
Why hard conversations done well lead to better connection
Practical tools for your next uncomfortable conversation
To all the boys mentioned in this episode, they're so sorry, and they hope you're doing...2024-09-031h 09Christians Who DateBreak-Ups, Disappointment, and Moving On (Part 2)How can you be kind to yourself after a breakup? What makes breaking up harder or easier? As a people pleaser, how can you distinguish what you want from what everyone else wants?
In Part 2 of Break-Ups, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk through some of the biggest things they've learned from breakups and dealing with disappointment in dating.
They talk through things like:
How breaking up can trigger feelings of failure
Not living for the opinion of other people
How people pleasing and codependency can show up in...2024-08-2731 minChristians Who DateBreak-Ups, Disappointment, and Moving On (Part 1)How do you handle disappointment in dating? Whether it's the end of a relationship, rejection, or unmet expectations, what can you do to heal and move on?
Lauren, Kalli, and Andrea talked through everything they've learned from past break-ups and dealing with disappointment in dating.
They talk through things like:
Why you can't put a timeline on healing
The stages of grief at the end of a relationship
How to celebrate others stepping into their dream of marriage when yours hasn't happened yet
Practical tips for healing from heartbreak and moving on
This...2024-08-2045 minChristians Who DateDon't Let Anxiety Run Your Dating Life (with Grace Clibourn)Andrea, Kalli, and Lauren sit down with Grace Clibourn (Andrea's former roommate and Tennessee's newest, most-eligible bachelorette).
In high school, Grace avoided dating at all costs. Listen to find out how she started going on dates, breaking the ice, and creating connection.
The ladies talk about:
How Grace went from being a terrified dater to confronting her dating anxiety head-on
How understanding her attachment style gave her a roadmap for healing
Ways Christians can over-spiritualize dating and how to stay grounded
If you've ever dealt with dating anxiety, this one's for you! 2024-08-131h 06Christians Who DateDating WinsWhat does success look like in dating? Does it have to end in marriage to be considered a success? This week, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren share some dating wins to make up for all the dating fails they shared last week.
2024-08-0639 minChristians Who DateDating FailsKalli, Lauren, and Andrea meet up in Kalli's home state of Montana to share some of their most memorable dating fails - both big and small.
Next week, they'll share some of their dating successes in the second part of this conversation. 2024-07-3039 minChristians Who DateHow to Get a Date (Part 2)The Christians Who Date continue their conversation on how to get a date.
This week, Andrea talks about how addressing her core beliefs was a game-changer for her in the dating world.
The conversation wraps up with some tips for the guys and answers questions like:
1.) What are the ladies looking for?
2.) What are some ways guys have totally killed it (in a good way) in the initiation/pursuit/dating phases?
3.) What character traits are super attractive in a guy?
Scripture Reference: Numbers 13
2024-07-2337 minChristians Who DateHow to Get a Date (Part 1)The Christians Who Date talk about how to actually get a date.
Lauren kicks it off with a story about her middle school crush.
As the queen of initiating/breaking the ice, Lauren shares her strategies for meeting new people.
Kalli talks about celebrating small wins in the dating world.
Kalli shares some flirting stories and tips for how to flirt without changing your personality.
Next week in Part 2...
Andrea will share about how looking at her beliefs changed the dating game for her.
AND the ladies finally share some tips for the...2024-07-1626 minChristians Who DateWhy Dating?Woohoo! Welcome to the Christians Who Date Podcast!
Join 3 single ladies in their 30s as they navigate the ups and downs of dating while staying true to themselves and their values.
After a year of keeping their dating fails and successes exclusively on a group text, they're bringing the group text to you.
In this episode, get ready to talk about:
- Why the struggle is real when it comes to dating
- How growing up in 90s church purity culture shaped their views on dating
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