Shows
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 162 - SOCIAL PAIN AND HEARTBREAKS - Ikram & KristenWe’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct.
— (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing
— (16:44) Potential dangers in social space
— (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game
— (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up
— (29:47) Social is how we project our inner identities and shadows out into the world
— (36:18) Dysfunctional social sabotage and attachment dynamics
— (40:29) Our nervous systems are regulated by other people / the healing power of connection
— (49:30) Owning your own social danger and parasocial obsessions
— (1:08:33) Personal encounters...2023-08-171h 40
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 161 - THE ATTACHMENT SUPPORT GROUP - Josh LavineIntroducing the attachment support group, brought to you by Alexandra and Josh.
— (12:36) Why do attachment types need support?
— (14:18) A brief overview on what attachment types are
— (20:17) What accountability means for attachment types / waking up from self-abandonment
— (29:00) Attaching vs preference / the gift of attachment is flexibility
— (33:52) The value of a group that facilitates self-seeing and self-holding
— (40:17) A space to witness and acknowledge grief
— (42:30) BHE is a hexad support group
— (48:58) The goal isn’t to become like hexad types
— (55:05) The format and bullet point topics for the classes
For more on the Attachmen...2023-08-051h 08
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 160 - THE SO/SX & SX/SO ROASTATHONWe’re back roasting the crackhead and lovebomb babies of the enneagram.
— (22:17) Why do we call self-pres blinds babies? / Overly dependent on the attention of other people
— (26:24) Self-pres is self-regulation and self-containment. Not just paying your bills and taking care of yourself
— (29:54) Difficulty making long term choices / a blindspot for one’s limitations
— (34:18) Sp-blinds identifying with their capacity to be affected by others
— (37:30) Sp blinds still stuck in high school / connection and chemistry without animal reality
— (41:58) Slippery conversational amnesia
— (43:47) Hobosexuals and so/sx frivolous bling display / personality as a juicy social ornament
— (52...2023-07-291h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 159 - [LIVE POD] AN ORAL HISTORY OF BHE/EUWatch the live pod on youtube:
https://youtu.be/lhaDNCSuwW4
— (18:41) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram as a group
— (23:18) Josh leads us through piecing together the history of the group
— (37:44) DG’s instinct cards and the birth of the collage exercise
— (44:34) How Alexandra found the group and typing meltdowns
— (53:51) Courtney finding the group and her object relations contributions
— (59:12) How COVID led to the first zone and John met Alexandra
— (1:04:48) How did Josh find the group and began creating with the enneagram?
— (1:22:33) How Alexandra came to join the pod?
— (1:33:20) How t...2023-07-211h 49
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 158 - THE INSTINCT STACKING ROASTATHON - SP/SO & SO/SP— (10:40) Welcome to our roast of the sx-blinds
— (15:52) so/sp are way too serious and stuck-up about relational categories and context
— (21:40) so/sp’s do it with their gloves on in the museum
— (25:57) The power drive of so/sp / lineage and geneology?!
— (30:35) What we like about so/sp reluctantly
— (37:38) The roast of sp/so begins - the fixation on stuff
— (43:52) sp/so collectors and hoarders
— (49:30) sp/so’s killing the vibe with their day to day minutia and gross body stuff
— (1:03:16) What we like about sp/so
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram rea...2023-07-021h 14
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 157 - THE CATFISH ABYSS— (6:30) Peering into the catfish void and the starvation of connection
— (13:10) The failure of social in the west and the nuclear family / catfish as an internet age phenomenon
— (19:50) Soft white underbelly and the horrors that arise from a lack of community
— (23:42) What’s in it for the catfisher?
— (27:13) We’re all catfishing a little bit out of fear of rejection
— (31:15) The thirst to reveal ourselves to someone and falling in love with AI
— (33:18) Our wounds and missing pieces make us vulnerable
— (40:26) We’re doing an episode on the art of loving book
— (46:50) Akashic records and aliens...2023-06-2351 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 156 - WE GIVE YOU 3-WINGSOur reluctant cult leader finally decided to pick up where she left off.
— (12:24) Alexandra’s intro to 3w2 vs 3w4
— (16:06) 3w4 self as exemplary object vs 3w2 self as interpersonal star
— (18:07) 3w4 bitchy frustration vs 3w2 schmoozy rejection
— (32:00) Are 3w2’s better manipulators than 3w4’s?
— (38:00) 3w2 vs 3w4 singers / which is more of a cameleon?
— (40:49) Positive vs reactive wing
— (46:58) Superego offerings of 3w2
— (49:24) What cringes Nancy out about other 3w4s
— (52:50) 3w2s ask better questions
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnr...2023-06-1259 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 155 - THE LAST SHALL BE FIRST— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last
— (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts
— (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s
— (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood
— (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like
— (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable negotiators
— (48:56) Gut lasts are unhinged
— (50:42) Head lasts are impulsive creatures
— (54:40) Heart lasts are dead inside
Support and fund the new illustrated trifix book project by DG and Kristen and get your copy before time runs out:
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/inkstoryrebel/enneagram-trifix-book
Check out the SinSomnia pod...2023-06-0258 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 154 - LOVELINE BLINDERS— (1:27) Am I just attracted to 9s because they’re soft?
— (12:41) ♫ The softest place on earth ♫
— (16:53) What do people like about hooking up with 8s or 1s?
— (25:33) How do I help my 7 process grief?
— (34:08) The fixated 9 crusade around healing
— (39:38) Why are people so obsessed with image when image types are so rare? / what’s it like to have each center last?
— (52:33) Center lasts and different O.R. last episodes coming soon
— (54:48) Important philosophical discussions on milfdom
Check out Julie’s fall retreat, Alive in Your Medicine, at riverbendcoaching.com
Support and fund the new i...2023-05-261h 02
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 153 - S E X U A L instincity— (13:24) Noticing people from an attraction lens / sexual blind weird algebra
— (18:32) Trying to describe what attraction is without using social signifiers
— (25:09) The chemical infection of the sexual instinct and the drug analogy
— (28:03) What happens after the merging of sexual?
— (30:55) The mercurial growth element of sexual chemistry / sexual is seeking or creating polarities that remix boundaries
— (36:44) Gender neutrality vs polarity / Sexual is engaging the tension between various polarities
— (44:12) Disagreement and disruption as a form of sexual polarity
— (53:06) Your porn stash as a truth serum for your sexual instinct
Check out Julie’s fall retreat, Alive...2023-05-171h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 152 - SPRING HORMONES BE MOANINGSuper spreader hormoan instinct talks.
— (7:47) Nancy chimes in on instinct love languages and what men really want but won’t say they want
— (13:01) Sex work revealing missing needs and desires / strip club talk
— (20:28) What’s up with America’s hyper-sexuality vs sexual conservatism
— (25:52) Culture as an instinctual meme / Latin culture drawing from Aztec mythology culturally integrates more sexual instinct
— (29:06) Sex at Dawn and the creation of monogamy / the sexual threat of trans-racial mixing to culture, legacy and blood lines
— (42:32) Hookup chronicles and sp/so sexuality
Watch Nancy’s interview with Josh on What It’...2023-05-0752 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 151 - INSTINCT RELIGION ＜=＞ LOVE LANGUAGESDearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct
— (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct
— (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda
— (15:03) Zooming out and talking about the relationship meets non-negotiable needs of love / sp/sx wants a smaller and smaller intimacy cave
— (21:09) Overcoming the fear of the blindspot instinct / the analogy of social as light / ’socially slutty’
— (30:47) Social is seeing yourself as a three dimensional human. Personality and character traits, not jus...2023-04-2458 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 150 - 2 lone swordsmen telling instinctstoriesDeserted by the others, the two lone swordsmen continued into the abyss of the unknown. With only memories of forgotten ancient texts to guide them. These are their stories.
— (5:25) The role of cultural differences in the expression of type / confrontational blunt 9s from other cultures
— (12:20) How our early life experiences and environment create an unexpected relationship with certain instincts / Emeka and food
— (22:01) Digging up John’s leftover concept of each instinct having a close vs distant optimal distance
— (28:28) The difference between 9s merging and sexual instinct merging / instinctual dynamics in relationships
— (36:45) Wild topic switch to so...2023-04-171h 06
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 149 - 2.STOLEN YOUTHPart 2 baby.
— (1:39) The grounded reality of this cult vs the ridiculousness of Holy Hell
— (7:45) We’re all vulnerable to sources of idealized parenting
— (19:25) The school was for outcasts primed to fall for a parental manipulator
— (28:35) 9’s attaching to a story as a form of maintaining psychological comfort
— (31:34) We should watch Holy Hell and Wild Country
— (39:08) Applications to become part-time BHE slaves are now open
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for thei...2023-04-0947 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 148 - 1.STOLEN YOUTHWatch Stolen Youth on Hulu and get into this.
— (5:13) Larry is an 8w9 862 Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly
— (9:18) What’s so compelling about a type like Larry?
— (13:00) The government and military as social hooks used to manipulate victims
— (24:43) Setting an attachment landscape and opening the door for alternative realities with ‘taking responsibility’
— (29:53) 8’s leveraging victimhood and why Larry is sp/so
— (44:29) Shaping reality with relentless alternative memories / attachment as a survival strategy
— (48:39) The seductive pull of a being given a scapegoat for why your life sucks / rejection creating parental dynamics
Check out Alexandra’s...2023-04-0353 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 147 - OPS INTERMISSIONCheck out our prior episodes on objective personality if you haven’t already. John - Ti/Se-CS/P(B) / Alexandra - Se/Fe-PB/S(C) / David - Te/Se-PC/S(B) / Emeka - Se/Te-PC/B(S).
Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu for next week.
— (5:59) 3 Playas vs John’s Play-last / What is Blast
— (10:28) Play is co-creative real time learning / PC vs PB
— (14:51) Blindspots and tidalwaves / Emeka’s Sleep-last
— (17:46) Alexandra and John’s Play vs Play-last relationship dynamic / Emeka’s Play and De as a reclusive 8 rejection type
— (21:00) Hopefully eventually the enneagram gets integrated into...2023-03-2630 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 146 - II.SCRATCH MY SOUL::IntercourseCont’d.
— (6:02) This is now a 9 enabling self-pres podcast
— (11:26) Become a hope machine / lift some weights
— (18:14) We should do an episode on the self-pres love language
— (21:11) John’s sleep vs Emeka’s sleep last as recluse cavemen
— (26:29) Tackling big life topics through the lens of the enneagram / most relationship advice is missing the thing it most needs - the sexual instinct
— (31:15) Finding your attraction orientation apart from what’s generally accepted as attractive
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s ne...2023-03-1941 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 145 - SCRATCH MY SOUL::IntercourseWe’re talking about love, relationships, and sex again.
— (4:34) Friendship jealousy and what causes it
— (13:38) The tension between expecting too much from a romantic partner and not expecting much at all
— (17:05) Western isolation puts more pressure on romantic relationships
— (20:25) The need to be seen in a relationship and what it means
— (24:26) All About Love by bell hooks defines love as an action to prioritize the other’s well-being
— (32:06) We can only love or see an other to the degree that we can see and care for our own well-being
— (38:44) Putting yourself aside for an other...2023-03-121h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 144 - alexa, play the wingsplainers on shuffleRiffing and winging it.
— (4:25) Josh’s new object relational theory of the centers and the superego triad
— (10:20) The hornevians might explain why certain types are next to each other
— (11:18) 8w9 vs 8w7 centralized vs decentralized leverage
— (17:06) 1w9 vs 1w2
— (30:25) 4w5/5w4 ephemeral self-invention
— (44:00) The hell of the double hexad types
— (47:43) Plans for more soul intercourse episodes
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first class — A Developmental View of...2023-03-0652 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 143 - NO LOVE LOVELINEHaven’t done one of these in a while. Applications to join the cult of cream are open today.
— (10:32) Someone had a lot to be sorry for
— (11:28) Borderline personality disorder, suicide, and 4 / mental illness and enneagram types
— (18:08) Our body impressions of the heart types
— (26:07) Heart types are rare / why are most people 6 or 9 and why are 4s so rare?
— (35:37) We’re the most unsuccessful cult leaders and grifters in existence / 49 reasons to join Alexandra’s cult of cream
— (45:12) Object relational affect of the wings and how they work with the types that cross centers
...2023-02-261h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 142 - PART2.DREAMWORK Therapy Hang - Kristen OberlyPicking up where we left off with Nancy’s homecoming. Then onwards to David and Alexandra.
— (8:04) David’s shares a haunting dream he had after his mother’s death
— (17:03) Kristen probes David for more and interprets what be might represented
— (36:41) Alexandra shares a dream she had about bleeding middle fingers on subways
— (41:27) Kristen draws the connections between middle fingers and saturn; which is associated with austere standards and discernement
To book Kristen for a dream interpretation you can reach her at:https://www.inkstoryrebel.com/services-1
Check out Courtney’s enneagram offeri...2023-02-201h 02
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 141 - DREAMWORK Therapy Hang - Kristen OberlyWe’re not crying you’re crying. Kristen is back to psychoanalyze our dreams and traumas. Starting with Nancy.
— (10:37) 9s sleeping all the damn time / hit up the Loveline if you’re an insomniac 9
— (15:38) Nancy tells us the story of her traumatic disaster move to the Netherlands
— (30:34) And how it directly relates to a juicy dream she had about a beheading
— (41:01) Kristen interprets the competency themes in Nancy’s dream
— (50:27) And being confronted with the feeling and disappointment of failure as a 3
To book Kristen for a dream interpretation you can reach her at:https...2023-02-121h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 140 - i n y o u r d r e a m s ( p a r t 2 ) - Kristen Oberly— (3:16) Nancy shares a dream with a recurring theme / what the unconscious is trying to tell us with a repeated dream
— (10:59) Compensatory dreams / John’s social last dreams and parasocial drama
— (23:32) Working with Kristen on dreams
— (31:39) Exploring how dreams are shaped by instincts
— (35:43) Alexandra’s persistent dreams about women
To book Kristen for a dream interpretation you can reach her at:https://www.inkstoryrebel.com/services-1
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first...2023-02-0545 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 139 - in your dreams (part 1) - Kristen OberlyOur dreamlord Kristen is with us this week to discuss exploring the corridors of our nocturnal psychodramas.
— (9:48) How Kristen got into dream interpretation
— (14:52) Dreams are a way to open up a dialogue with your unconscious and push the ego off its pedestal
— (19:14) Collective projecting from a lack of a transcendent function
— (21:48) What does dreamwork add to understanding your enneagram type?
— (26:41) Every person or object in a dream is an aspect of yourself
— (28:13) Emeka’s psychic dreams and how those work / John’s mundane counter-4 dreams
— (37:55) The significance of recurring dreams
— (40:51) How Kristen stays gro...2023-01-2950 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 138 - A NEW VARIANT OBJECT RELATIONS THEORY OF THE CENTERS - Josh LavineJosh is back to unveil his profound new model of the centers and object relations from a point of view of development. This is major.
— (13:30) Josh explains how his variant model of object relations and the centers came about / issues with the protecting and nurturing object relational framework
— (20:03) Ken Wilber’s holonic theory of consciousness and the centers as a sequence of development through sensation, gaze, and symbol
— (27:48) Object relational affects are oriented to the milieu of each center / frustrated, rejected, or attached to sensory impact, gaze & attention, or symbol & orientation
— (28:48) How this framework makes the c...2023-01-211h 34
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 137 - 2022 YEAR END WRAP PARTYJoin us on our annual end of year drunk pod looking back on 2022’s ups and downs.
— (7:13) Parasocial discord and drawing lines in the sand
— (15:23) Looking back on the vibe of 2022 and the growth of the pod
— (23:38) The year of Emeka slowing down / DG’s hot nerd creative updates
— (32:44) Revisiting Alejohndra conscious sex talk and the sexual instinct
— (50:51) Nancy getting married and moving halfway across the globe
— (59:26) Favorite episodes and ideas for 2023
— (1:07:04) John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school
— (1:16:59) Play vs play last OPS talk
— (1:30:44) Last call for 2023 plans
Che...2023-01-071h 42
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 136 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART II] - Josh LavinePicking up where we left off with Josh and Spiral Dynamics.
— (1:38) The conflict of what it means to help people with the enneagram from the worldviews of different stages of development
— (7:33) Yellow distinguishes between and integrates interior subjectivity and external objectivity
— (12:53) DG’s 7-fix ain’t got time for yellow
— (16:31) Yellow makes finer distinctions beyond Green’s assumption that everyone’s whole
— (20:43) The limitations of Yellow is the insistence that everyone can develop
— (25:57) Teal has an awareness of construct as a vantage point for meaning making
— (29:55) The way to develop is to reach the limits of y...2023-01-0353 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh LavineBHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh Lavine
Josh of What It’s Like To Be You is hangin with us this week.
He broke down how the enneagram is missing and needs a developmental* model (*Not Riso’s Levels of Development)
— (14:44) Our understanding of the enneagram evolves with the development of an introspective eye
— (16:51) The ability to see oneself is a developmental achievement / words have different interpretations and meanings for each stage of development
— (19:50) Riso’s levels of development is a measure of identification and awakening. It’s not a vertical deve...2022-12-2250 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 134 - THE 2 REJECTION EPISODE - Niklas WilkensNiklas joins us to dive more into the inner workings of our favorite type.
— (11:22) Niklas’ journey realizing and seeing his 2 rejection type structure
— (14:18) Emptiness is what ignites the 2’s rejection dynamic
— (17:38) The irritating penetration of 2 rejection / what’s behind the desperation of the possession dynamic
— (21:09) The all or nothing of rejection prevents seeing the dynamic / the instinctual blindspot as the gateway
— (27:54) The 2 and 8 oppositional relationship to life force / contending with the rejected shadow self
— (37:59) 2’s shutdown their autonomy to protect the relationship
— (41:43) The emotional landscape of 2 is tethered to the dynamic working with the other2022-12-121h 18
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 133 - WE GIVE YOU 2-WINGS - AlexandraOur favorite type finally got winged.
— (1:27) How much does the center of the wing play a role?
— (22:21) Contrasting the attachment 3-wing vs the frustration 1-wing
— (27:12) 2w3 as a mouth and emoji queen
— (38:09) Justifying Pride with the double image of 2w3 vs the superego of 2w1 / the assertiveness of 2s
— (42:37) Ego boundaries of assertive, withdrawn, and superego types / why superego types can seem very assertive at times
— (46:59) How the wings support the emotional leverage of 2
— (51:27) Frustration as a singular ideal makes 2w1 far more specific in their offering and unadaptable
— (59:19) Your back pocket type...2022-11-291h 13
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 132 - [LIVE POD] BROOKLYN BEDROOM EDITIONComing to you live from a brooklyn bedroom in the zone. A round the chat circle audience q&a pod. Watch the video pod here: https://youtu.be/cXMTPc5YIHo
— (1:27) Awkward soc-last attempts to kickstart the pod
— (9:50) How everyone got into the enneagram and what it has done for them?
— (11:58) Celia, a 6w5 middle manager, mistyped as an 8 before finding us
— (13:14) Sarah, a social 9 DJ, found the enneagram through evangelical christian content and mistyped as a 4
— (17:44) Kristen, a social 9 Bermuda, mistyped as a 5 before finding the pod and turning her life upside down
— (23:24...2022-11-171h 07
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 131 - DAHMER’S A 9Happy Halloween. Send in your questions and topics for the upcoming live pod.
— (3:38) Dahmer as an attachment type and death obsessed soc-blind
— (10:49) The hot serial killer phenomenon / serial killers as an aesthetic
— (15:31) The disconnection from death in the west as a lived experience creates a shadow death obsession
— (25:44) The social and type dynamics that allowed Dahmer to get away with it for so long
— (26:22) Dahmer fandom and serial killer fixation as an example of our collective lack of relationship to death
— (34:41) Alcoholism as self-medication for loneliness and social isolation
— (43:17) We should explore how to ma...2022-10-3159 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 130 - KALI IN THE HOUSE [PART II] - Julie HarrisPicking up where we left off with Julie of Riverbend Coaching and the archetypal feminine.
— (6:32) Julie starts us off with a short guided practice to bring us back into the space of the feminine
— (10:14) People are not in touch with their responses from the pelvis and genitals
— (12:10) The head center through the lens of the feminine
— (17:01) The panoramic vision of the feminine head center makes us aware of the whole and the emerging facets of the truth of what’s happening now
— (21:00) The multi-dimensional faceted learning approach we’ve brought to the enneagram has a feminine c...2022-10-201h 17
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 129 - KALI IN THE HOUSE [PART I] - Julie HarrisJulie of Riverbend Coaching is here with us to explore the archetypal feminine.
— (6:48) Why and how Julie connected the archetypal feminine and the enneagram’s 3 centers
— (9:04) The feminine in the body center — sacred form / the fertile matrix
— (14:45) The feminine in nature is an uncontrollable force that gives life
— (15:24) Could the goddesses be connected to the types?
— (19:59) The patriarchy compartmentalizes and the goddesses can both be sexual and nurturing
— (21:21) Developing the feminine: Being more in your senses and open to the experience / welcome the shadow / don’t seek certainty or stasis
— (25:42) The patriarchy perpetuat...2022-10-111h 10
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 128 - KILLING YOUR IDOLS - AlexandraYes, Dive in.
— (1:40) Sx types and Sx middles are most prone to delude themselves into thinking they’re going for what they’re passionate about or self-transforming
— (7:18) Social clout chasers with no genuine connection
— (8:51) The psychological penetration of sexual can be used to get cheap ego hits that avoids any risk and self-transformation
— (12:05) Discussions in John’s study group on using the instinct for ego vs using it to support the real needs of the body and inner life
— (14:32) It’s not just attachment types that get into relationships for the wrong reasons
— (20:04) You’...2022-09-301h 27
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 127 - THE COURTNEY REJECTION EPISODE [PART II]Picking up where we left off with Courtney and rejection.
— (1:46) The protection from vulnerability and transactional nature of relationships is true for all of us / But it’s more true for rejection types
— (3:24) The different flavors of separateness and intensity of the rejection types
— (8:21) How John and Courtney experience rejection in relationships as frustration and attachment types
— (14:21) How rejection types can redefine their self-concept in less narrow terms by sensing the automatic wall in the body
— (20:20) How to distinguish the not there-ness of rejection vs the not being there of 9
— (23:20) Rejection type possession swe...2022-09-2244 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 126 - THE COURTNEY REJECTION EPISODE [PART I]Courtney is with us this week to work her magic on rejection.
— (4:43) Courtney is here to bring the pain and hear rejection types suffer / What’s been opening up for Emeka?
— (8:49) How rejection types set the dynamic up so it doesn’t work — a pre-rejection frame
— (13:10) Courtney gives a recap/overview of object relations and why it matters
— (15:02) Our O.R. is a blueprint for how relationships need to be setup in order for us to feel like a person
— (16:24) What separates rejection from attachment & frustration is the cutting off from awareness of the original wou...2022-09-1750 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 125 - REJECTION IS POSSESSIONWe’re bringing the pain to rejection types. How penetrating the other becomes the replacement for connection.
— (2:08) The penetration and leverage of rejection is a possession of the other
— (4:25) Riffing on what sexual 8 possession really means / all the rejection types are doing possession through their centers
— (11:06) Possessing the other becomes a replacement for the connection the rejection type assumes is not on the table
— (13:46) Callback to soul intercourse and how that had a parental rejection dynamic for Emeka
— (16:51) Rejection types are tracking how much it matters to you / tiers of penetration
— (20:36) Rejection types needing...2022-09-081h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 124 - WE GIVE YOU 1-WINGS - AlexandraOk, fine. Wings are back with Alexandra. For now.
— (1:47) Insights from Josh’s type 1 interview with Alex /Putting the gut back into the 1’s frustration
— (8:15) Burning frustration and 9 vs 4
— (20:48) 1s are very rare / the distribution of types we’ve typed
— (25:33) 1w9 keeps the ideal more in the abstract / 1w2 brings the ideal into people’s hearts and out into the world
— (30:39) 1w2 is more of the stereotypical ‘reformer’ than 1w9 because of the rejection and pride of 2
— (36:49) 1w2s are more singular in their motives, while 1w9s tap into the universal abstract of what the colle...2022-08-311h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 123 - REJECTION LETTER ＜ADDENDUM＞ - JosephWe’re continuing our discussions on rejection. This time with the Enneagrammer/DAA typing team riffing on some new insights.
— (6:22) Lever points and what being indispensable means to a rejection type / Joseph’s impression of feeling used by rejection types
— (9:47) Emeka’s analogy of rejection types as limited persons born with missing limbs
— (15:38) Frustration is in relation/reaction to an ideal, while rejection assumes a baseline of being cut off
— (17:35) Rejection types see their offerings as transactional resources and indispensable commodities
— (22:29) What’s necessary to get 8s is to understand how they control potent leverage po...2022-08-251h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 122 - THE MISSING PIECES [PART 2] - AlexandraWe’re back to explore more missing pieces blindspots. But first, Sophie joins us to discuss upcoming Fourth Way talks organized by her and John’s group.
— (29:43) Exploring various polarities and opposites
— (36:43) John’s body last vs Alexandra’s heart last
— (41:07) The difference between using a polarity to grow vs using someone to outsource the needs of a missing piece
— (47:34) You must identify and become aware of the polarities at work in you so you can integrate those blindspots rather than outsourcing them externally
— (51:38) Couples make unconscious agreements to maintain their opposite qualities to ensure they don’t...2022-08-181h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 121 - REJECTION LETTERWe’re penetrating the untouchables this week. Strap in for a meandering dive into what rejection types are really up to.
— (16:32) The rejection separateness in sexual 8 display /Rejection types having a fractional sense of personhood
— (20:52) The micro-disengagements of rejection types / the intellectual intensity of 5s
— (27:17) DG’s instinct overlap schema for each rejection type
— (30:17) The psychic structure of rejection is shaped by penetration / why 2’s heart penetration feels so potent
— (37:06) Self-pres independence vs rejection separateness / rejection dynamics in our families
— (46:42) The cutting off of rejection is a retroactive amputation
— (57:32) How micro-disengagement shows up in 2s
...2022-08-101h 26
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 120 - WE GIVE YOU 9-WINGS - AlexandraWings are back with Alexandra. This week, the wings at the crown.
— (11:44) Overview riffs on nine wings / 9w8 is meaty
— (18:01) The 8-wing gives 9w8 permission to be more dissociated and messy
— (28:13) 9w1 has tension giving itself permission to relax / sensitive refined relaxation
— (31:10) 9w1’s often mistype as 4 because of their frustrated refinement and fussiness
— (36:00) The archetypal role of 9w8 and how rejection reinforces their 9ness / 9w8s are not angrier than 9w1s
— (39:40) 9w1 tone police vs 9w8 cutting off
— (42:53) 1-wing is idealist and philosophical
— (46:54) How frustration and rejection facilitates attachment to discon...2022-08-031h 16
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 119 - THE MISSING PIECESThe instinctual blindspot ain’t the only one you need to integrate. We explore how certain types, centers, and qualities that are missing in us become shadows.
— (6:42) How we’re attracted to those that embody typological qualities we’re missing
— (11:53) We’re drawn to and most affected by our last weakest center
— (15:40) Unaddressed blindspots become unconscious demons and quarter life - midlife crisis
— (23:40) Exploring the types that are missing for us / Emeka’s missing superego and 9
— (24:59) Nancy and DG are missing the rejection types 2/5/8
— (31:10) Extreme polarity is very attractive but unstable
— (35:56) What missing all the rej...2022-07-2747 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 118 - [LIVE POD] Q&A/AMAWe haven’t deserted y’all. Coming live to you from Brooklyn, NY answering your AMA questions. And we’ve got a small live audience with us. Link to the live video on Youtube: https://youtu.be/plnJ9a1pFUA
— (8:30) We’re all mistyped
— (9:55) Yes, you’re the toxic one if your 9 has checked out
— (11:58) Self-pres 9s carrying the weight of the world
— (15:44) 9s being mean and dramatic but nice in different contexts
— (19:16) Hexad types with attachment fixes and vice versa
— (29:13) Josh and the What It’s Like To Be You pod / what it's like to interv...2022-07-201h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 117 - WE GIVE YOU 8-WINGS - AlexandraWe’re back at it again with wings, starting with the most lovable 8s.
— (18:14) Intro to the body center and its purpose
— (20:28) 8w9 is the godfather/godmother
— (27:30) 8w9’s attachment wing makes them more controlling and sensitive to disrespect
— (32:23) Positive types fuel the immovable ego agendas of 8 and 1 — destruction and order
— (35:31) The lovable perfection of 8w7
— (41:06) How to distinguish the idealization of 8w7’s frustation wing and 8w9’s positive attachment wing
— (48:23) The extreme lengths a 9 might go to not do anything
— (55:35) We’re doing a Q&A/AMA live pod next week / send in your...2022-06-2458 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 116 - THE UPSIDE DOWN TRIANGLE / REFLECTIONS - AlexandraWe went off the deep end to explore the upside down hexagram triangle and David’s reflections between hexad and attachment.
— (12:08) Recapping what 3/6/9 represent for humanity vs the hexagram triangle
— (16:14) The hexagram triangle is the upside down of the 369 triangle
— (18:06) DG’s reflections and how the hexad types types are born of the attachment types (3>7/8, 6>1/2, 9>4/5)
— (26:33) The hexagram is out of sync with the cosmic flow
— (27:16) The line from 9 to the space between 4/5 is the everything to the nothing
— (30:04) John dives into the spheres of existence on the kabbalah / the tension between the everything and th...2022-06-171h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 115 - WE GIVE YOU WINGS [Part I] - AlexandraBirthday girl Alexandra CQ is here to bestow on us her insights on wings. Lots of food for thought.
— (5:23) Misconceptions about wings from various schools of the enneagram
— (9:00) Balanced wings aren’t a thing but you can sometimes access your other wing
— (10:38) 8w9s are more attached to the position of control than 8w7s
— (12:03) What happens with hexad types with attachment wings
— (14:30) 7w6’s attachment wing makes them more relatable and conservative / Both 7-wings are reactive types
— (19:53) Attachment types all have wings from different harmonics, while hexad type wings are of the same harmoni...2022-06-0855 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 114 - you should learn how to type / but why - Joseph SimoneThe Enneagrammer team explores why learning how to type is a must.
— (5:00) Learning how to type is a requirement for applying the enneagram
— (9:14) ‘Only you can type yourself’, as if you’re conscious of your *unconscious* motivations
— (12:30) To use and apply the enneagram you have to first start with accurate observations of how it applies
— (16:34) Typing is a practice of observing distinctions snapping into place and forming 3D architecture
— (18:26) Use the inherent bias of your type’s lens to identify your own relationship to each type
— (22:49) Every description you’ve ever read is a work-in-progress s...2022-05-2957 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 113 - LOVELINE // REBOUNDBouncing back into the swing of things with a light loveline.
— (1:27) Riffing on the spiritual role of the enneagram and inner work in society
— (9:06) New beginnings applying the discoveries from the last year
— (20:44) Can the enneagram be used widely long term as a developmental tool?
— (22:17) Reasons why it’s unlikely the enneagram undiluted will ever become a mainstream hit
— (24:36) Sherwin williams paint and the commercialization of the enneagram
— (28:55) How do we see someone relating to both hexad and attachment as a type 1? Can you be both?
— (33:23) Type 1s aren’t about being good as much...2022-05-2249 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 112 - [LIVE POD] PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENTAllow us to reintroduce ourselves. Coming to you live from Nothingville, Virginia. For the first time, watch the video version of this episode on our youtube page: https://youtu.be/wk62CguaO8k
— (2:11) Our response to the responses to the Ian Cron Episode
— (7:25) Reintroducing ourselves as a group that’s both irreverent and centered on inner work
— (11:25) The approaches to inner work you prefer are a reflection of your type’s point of view
— (17:45) Our provocative style reflects our personalities and is a much needed contrast to the generally accepted beige enneagram culture
— (21:38) American entit...2022-05-151h 09
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 111 - THE OBJECTIVE PERSONALITY DOWNLOAD [Part II] - Dave PowersWe’re picking up where we left off with Dave Powers of objectivepersonality.com, exploring similarities between OPS and the enneagram.
— (1:39) Function animals cont’d with John’s play last
— (6:57) How working on the last animal is similar to integrating the instinctual blindspot, and how to work on sleep and consume as last animals
— (15:47) How to work on the play and blast last animals
— (26:08) Consciousness as a collection of programs running us
— (33:08) Learning from experiences as we get older is how we develop beyond our worst patterns
— (37:28) Dave/Shan’s enneagram types and typing from diff...2022-05-0159 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 110 - THE OBJECTIVE PERSONALITY DOWNLOAD [Part I] - Dave PowersDave Powers of objectivepersonality.com is with us to dive into what the OPS system has to offer and explore its inner work similarities with the enneagram.
— (5:49) Dave tells us the story of how Objective Personality got started
— (10:40) How mapping Jung’s 8 functions to Tony Robbin’s human needs gave birth to the OPS coins
— (19:32) Observers vs Decider talk and the life paths and issues either side creates
— (22:59) How to decipher if someone’s an observer or a decider
— (28:25) Comparing our experiences typing people and the drama that ensues
— (33:05) Blindspots are painful to address and are...2022-04-231h 04
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 109 - THE IAN CRON EPISODEThis week we have on special guest Ian Cron, author of the Road Back To You. We’ve put aside our differences and tried to come to an understanding.
— (5:10) Introduction to Ian Cron and his work
— (8:49) Love and compassion are what makes us human
— (15:23) 4s are focused on the dark but are also envious of your happiness and light
— (22:44) We make amends for #nota4 and the emotional psychological trauma it has caused
— (28:66) The church has revolutionized the enneagram
— (33:69) The emptiness of our hearts have to be filled by his love
If you haven’t a...2022-04-0230 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 108 - THE TINDER SWINDLER - AlexandraThis week Emeka and Alejohndra are discussing the Netflix doc, The Tinder Swindler. The rest of crew has been held hostage by our road back to you haters in Prague. Please paypal $500 to bhepodcast@gmail.com or David and Nancy will die. Love you babies forever.
— (7:58) Overview/Summary of the premise and why this story is compelling from the POV of the enneagram
— (13:29) Attachment is the fundamental O.R. structure for everyone and people don’t really connect with each other
— (15:28) 3s are mirroring back to you what you find valuable and crafting an emotional landscap...2022-03-281h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 107 - THE BERMUDA ZONE - Courtney & AlexandraNancy hosts a bangin attachment talk with Alexandra and Courtney. Some magic happened in this Bermuda Zone.
— (3:24) Contrasting and comparing attachment to disconnect experiences from the perspective of 3/6/9
— (10:38) 3&9 vs 6 differences on revealing their location
— (18:54) Round robin impressions of the other attachment types
— (21:18) What’s scary about 9 for 3&6
— (24:16) What’s scary about 3 for 6&9
— (30:02) What’s scary about 6 for 9&3
— (36:41) 6’s need to earn it and are committed to life being difficult
— (40:11) Courtney’s experiences as an attachment parent
— (44:10) Nancy recalls what it was like to be parented by a hexad vs an attachment parent
— (48...2022-03-191h 34
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 106 - THE EGYPT EPISODEThe long awaited episode on John’s Egypt obsession is here. John has returned from the holy lands with much to share on the pyramids.
— (6:57) Why we should give a f**k about Egypt?
— (14:01) Egypt requires us to be present in all three centers
— (16:25) John Anthony West and the origins of symbolist egypt
— (21:42) Egyptians understood that the divine expressed itself with intentional metaphor
— (24:19) The law of 3 and inner work metaphor in Horus, Set, and Isis is at core of what Egypt represents
— (29:03) The Ennead of Heliopolis being a precursor to the origins of the enneagra...2022-03-111h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 105 - 3X9 RELATIONSHIP ＜0＞ COMPATIBILITYThis week we’re exploring the relationship chemistry between 3 & 9.
— (6:41) David’s impressions and romantic experiences with 3’s
— (16:55) Nancy’s impressions and romantic experiences with 9’s
— (26:21) Togetherness and the parenting philosophy of attachment vs hexad
— (44:33) The high and low sides of 3x9 relationships
— (54:12) The growth edges for a 3x9 pairing
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Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 104 - THE COSMIC THREEWAYGood luck following this freeform conversation on the law of three, relationships, and the polarity between 9 and the gap.
— (5:33) John’s visions of the law of 3 and why Pete Davidson gets girls
— (9:34) Attachment types being open and available on the frontend but unavailable on the backend
— (13:56) #Nota4 and the acceptance and thinking style of 9 vs the rejection at the gap
— (28:55) Everything is a threesome and how 9s must integrate non-integration
— (34:39) Attachment types are unconscious of their No’s, and hexad types of their Yes’s
— (42:17) Astrological mate selection and cosmic latte
— (52:42) There’s probably only...2022-02-121h 10
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 103 - HORMONAL ASTROLOGY ＜0＞ SYNASTRY - AlexandraThis week, Alexandra is here to help us delve into our hormonal astrological compatibilities.
— (3:37) Alexandra’s intro to composite and synastry compatibility
— (5:38) Nancy David
— (10:59) John Emeka
— (24:57) Emeka Nancy
— (32:21) David Emeka
— (40:05) John Nancy
— (47:46) David John
— (52:54) Alexandra Everyone and closing thoughts
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Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 102 - MOTIVATION // NOT BEHAVIORYour himbo grumps are back at it again, to pick apart an often repeated and incorrect adage, “movitation, not behavior”.
— (3:14) It’s both motivation AND behavior, and you don’t know your own motivation
— (6:26) The instinctual drives and other layers have to be considered in motivation
— (11:59) The motivation behind creating easily misunderstood catch phrases
— (15:42) Each type structure is very limited and ‘close-minded’
— (18:13) Attachment types not wanting to be pinned down and rehashing the conflict around the ‘real me’
— (30:58) The question of what do I do now and the blindspot as the key
— (37:10) Type isn’t what...2022-01-2754 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 101 - 2021 YEAR END WRAP PARTYJoin us with libations and your substances of choice to look back on the transformative year that was 2021.
— (9:32) The year of uncovering attachment and confronting our blindspots
— (19:10) Props, shoutouts, and accomplishments
— (26:17) John’s instincts book release
— (46:34) Dark Arts Academy
— (1:01:22) Plans for 2022
If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble:
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Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also emai...2022-01-201h 49
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 100 - LOVELINE // EPISODE 100 EXTRAVAGANZAWe’re responding to your loveline submissions for our 100th episode. Thanks for all your comments, questions, and feedback. We appreciate y’all sticking with us thus far.
— (6:04) The inaccessibility of the pod’s communication style
— (9:35) What drug would each of the hosts be?
— (13:22) Sex worker question for Nancy
— (18:05) Advise for christians who are interested in learning the enneagram
— (25:21) Why we get so much hate
— (39:46) Girthy request for more on the compartmentalization of the self-pres instinct
— (44:15) Request to explore connections between mbti and the enneagram. And factors that determine collage instinct typings.
— (48:00...2022-01-011h 10
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 099 - OBJECTIVE PERSONALITY THEORY [PART 1]This week we’re getting into a mbti personality system called Objective Personality (OPS). We ended up doing a rough intro into the basic concepts of OPS, and how we might explore connections between cognitive functions and the enneagram.
— (10:16) What is the objective personality approach to MBTI?
— (19:21) The function animals and how they work (Blast, Consume, Play, Sleep)
— (23:55) Function animals are like instinct stacking (Info vs Energy)
— (42:35) What are cognitive functions and how is a mbti type structured?
— (48:40) Sensory vs Intuition
— (51:26) Saviors vs Demons functions and animals. How to develop the blindspot
— (1:08:21...2021-12-271h 24
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 098 - so you’re still confused about your instincts [part 1]This week we’re exploring and explaining the parts of instincts that continue to confuse and trip people up.
— (6:12) Where did the idea of a blindspot come from and is the blindspot really blind?
— (14:27) Overestimating your sexual instinct when you’re sexual blind
— (17:24) Sexual is penetrating and flipping polarities moment to moment
— (23:26) How Nancy was able to see her sexual blindness as truly blind. Sexual as hooks and tension.
— (30:46) Being self-pres dominant and also being terrible at self-pres
— (41:08) How can I be a social type if I don’t like people? How social types are s...2021-12-2055 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 097 - ATTACHMENT TO DISCONNECT [Bermuda Edition PART 2] - Courtney & CzanderContinuing where we left off with Courtney and Czander and attachment to disconnect from the 3-6-9 Bermuda Triangle.
— (9:26) How does a good attachment form for attachment types if attaching is based on not being seen?
— (17:13) 9s needing contrast and negation to find themselves and resisting being located
— (22:52) Attachment types exist in shifting context, which makes them resistant to pinning down self-location and identity
— (29:58) How 9s are open but ‘not there’ in their attachments, and how that gets in the way of relationships
— (46:58) Courtney explains how a healthy attachment for a 6 helps affirm and trust her...2021-12-111h 16
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 096 - #NOTAN8This week we're tackling type 8 misconceptions and misinformation that lead so many to mistype and idealize type 8.
— (10:26) Emeka’s overview of often overlooked aspects of the 8 type structure
— (15:22) 8 is dissociating to reject and stay separate but involved by embodying the protecting function
— (19:40) 8s are separate and expansive in ways that dehumanizes themselves and others
— (23:18) 8 control is about setting boundaries and terms of engagement, not telling people what to do or being angry
— (28:48) 6 and 9 superego’s trying to make type 8 into a good person with ‘protecting the underdog’. And what 8’s are really protective of
— (40:53) The...2021-11-281h 27
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 095 - ATTACHMENT TO DISCONNECT [Bermuda Edition PART I] - Courtney & CzanderThis week Courtney and Czander are with us to attempt to uncover the mysteries of attachment to disconnect from the 3-6-9 Bermuda Triangle.
— (13:30) Courtney’s take on how the 3 is committed to remaining slippery and disconnected
— (17:02) 3’s maintain a disconnect by assuming people only want their palatable selves instead of their genuine selves
— (26:59) The 3’s attachments are a prop for how their original caregivers defined value
— (40:17) The crafted persona that the 3 presents will always be disconnected from the true self so the 3 never feels validated
— (43:49) The 6 remains slippery because they’re trying to garner support...2021-11-211h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 094 - THE BHAVACHAKRA RECAPWe’re wrapping up our Bhavachakra instinct discussions riffing on David’s insights and odds & ends.
— (9:42) The Bhavachakra and Buddhism are a philosophy of psychology
— (14:45) The scarcity of attraction for sx/sp compared to sx/so
— (19:48) The ‘star’ principle of sx/so and how this appears in Egyptian cosmology
— (25:57) The overarching message and takeaways DG wants you to get from the Bhavachakra’s instinct mandala
— (32:12) Nancy’s take on the sp/so beast realm and existence revolving on having baseline needs met
— (35:08) Contrasting sp/so and sp/sx with dogs and cats (again)
— (45:17) The i...2021-11-111h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 093 - SO/SP & SO/SX - Alexandra & JosephWe’re continuing our discussions on instincts, joined by Joseph and Alexandra, to get into the social stackings and DG’s insights with the Bhavachakra.
— (5:24) David’s intro to his SO/SX and SO/SP correlations on the Bhavachakra
— (18:21) The social types weigh in on the contrasts between their stackings
— (30:34) How so/sp experiences so/sx and vice versa
— (48:46) How social dominants get triggered by social middles and finding ease with social-lasts
— (1:08:58) The contrast in how the social stackings approach ideology and politics
If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or ba...2021-11-041h 22
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 092 - LOVELINE #5 // Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram EditionThis week we’re discussing and answering your submitted loveline questions on John’s instinct book.
— (3:21) What might it look like when a type is faced with a situation that exemplifies the loss of essential quality?
— (22:10) A critique about John’s use of the word individuation and hormonal comments about his hotness
— (31:18) How is the instinct stacking determined and why does one instinct become dominant over another?
— (43:56) What is the distinction between the loss of self of sexual and spiritual dissolving of the ego?
— (48:44) What does secondary self-pres for sx/sp look like for people who a...2021-10-291h 10
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 091 - SX/SP & SX/SO - BethWe’re continuing our discussions on instincts, joined by my bb Beth, to get into the sexual stackings and DG’s insights with the Bhavachakra.
— (6:39) David’s intro to his SX/SO and SX/SP correlations on the Bhavachakra
— (14:35) Beth’s experience as a sx/so attachment type in contrast to social types and sx/sp
— (26:21) What distinctly makes sx/so a sexual type
— (35:30) Contrasting sx/so with so/sx
— (49:54) Hungry ghosts (sx/sp) and Gods/Goddesses (sx/so)
— (57:40) Personality and social genres as an attraction hook for sx/so
If you haven’t alread...2021-10-211h 17
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 090 - SP/SO & SP/SXThis week we’re continuing our discussions on instincts with a dive into the self-pres stackings and DG’s magical abstractions with the Bhavachakra.
— (3:47) Intro to SP/SO, SP/SX, and David’s instinct discoveries with the Bhavachakra
— (11:32) What exactly is the Bhavachakra and how is it a map for the instincts and stackings?
— (19:00) The 6 instinct stackings are real and the collage exercise is an aesthetic manifestation of them
— (23:07) David’s discovery of how each instinct overlays the triangle on the enneagram symbol and each stacking on the hexad
— (25:28) SP/SO correlating to type 8 and SP/SX to...2021-10-131h 01
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 089 - ATTACHMENT TO DISCONNECT - Czander TanThis week we’re joined by Czander to delve into his illuminating insight on the disconnect of attachment types.
— (8:56) Czander shares his comment on attachment and discusses his thought process on how he figured it out
— (20:54) How attachment types make themselves feel not seen and supported so they can adapt
— (37:15) Integrating the blindspot is the key to go from functioning (adapting) to being
— (44:18) Attachment types seeing themselves as the problem and martyring themselves to persevere in difficult circumstances
— (1:00:02) Attachment types projecting disconnect on others because they’re disconnected from themselves
— (1:07:04) Attachment types having amnesia se...2021-10-061h 24
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 088 - INTEGRATING THE BLINDSPOT PT.3 [BOOK/LAUNCH]We’re back at it discussing John’s new instincts book, continuing where we left off with how to integrate the blindspot.
— (4:57) The social approaches
— (25:10) Practices for integrating the self-pres blindspot
— (37:48) Practices for integrating the sexual blindspot
— (58:02) Practices for integrating the social blindspot
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Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about John’s book at (323) 696-0647 today. Or yo...2021-09-261h 21
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 087 - INTEGRATING THE BLINDSPOT PT.2 [BOOK/LAUNCH]We’re continuing where we left off with integrating the blindspot.
— (6:00) Hitting the soc-last pain back walls harder exploring our toxic traits
— (26:18) Introduction to the instinctual approaches and needs
— (40:20) Self-pres approaches
— (51:20) Sexual approaches
Stay tuned for more book launch content this month. And if you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about John’s book at (323) 696-0647 today. Or...2021-09-201h 08
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 086 - INTEGRATING THE BLINDSPOT PT.1 [BOOK/LAUNCH]We’re continuing to discuss John’s new instinct book. This week we’re getting into the instinctual blindspot.
— (3:17) How we’re invested in not understanding or grasping what the blindspot really is
— (5:17) Our experiences of our blindspots
— (14:18) What happens when you start to see your blindspot
— (17:52) How each blindspot threatens the dominant instinct
— (28:55) Self-pres blind
— (33:37) Sexual blind
— (43:28) The blindspot instinct as the most practical linchpin for transformation and accessing the heart
— (53:12) You know you’re hitting your blindspot when you experience acute aversion and ignorance with that instinct
Stay tuned for more book...2021-09-111h 04
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 084 - SOC::HELL [FACE/OFF] - Alexandra oxo JosephWe’re back with two contrasting social types thrust into a social hell in this surprise face/off between Koala CQ Alexandra and Untouchable Prince Joseph.
— (2:39) Social attachment vs social hexad
— (5:36) How does Joseph navigate being social as a negative 4
— (13:56) Comparing and contrasting so/sx and so/sp
— (31:15) What does closeness mean and what is the aim of social?
— (39:22) What causes social anxiety and stress? The social 9 vs social 4 dynamic
— (49:30) The social meta of this call and social types revealing themselves as a person
— (58:19) Reputation, rumors, and macro-social stress around how you’re perceived...2021-08-261h 39
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 083 - SP:x:HELL [FACE/OFF] - Nancy oxo DavidWe’re descending into the hell of the self-pres instinct with this face/off between Dominatrix Nancy and Cult Daddy David
— (5:20) The hellish fear vs the comfort stages of self-pres
— (9:09) The friction between the pursuit of money for a certain lifestyle and actually getting to live that lifestyle
— (11:11) Nancy’s cottage core bi-sexual farm lifestyle goal
— (19:37) Pushing the body to extremes is a self-pres high
— (24:46) Energy conservation and keeping the blinders on to get the goods
— (31:53) Creating a sense of home and why self-pres attachment types overwork
— (38:03) How capitalism and self-pres sustainability sha...2021-08-1156 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 081 - HEXAD VS ATTACHMENT UNDRESSED III - Courtney Smith (2/2)Continuing where we left off with Courtney on hexad vs attachment.
— (1:26) How do frustration types relate to one another?
— (5:18) How attachment gets in the way of relating to others
— (7:46) Hexad vs attachment perspectives and reactions to the typing process
— (20:50) How attachment yes/no shows up in 6s
— (27:16) Differences in how and why 6/3/9 override the other centers to make decisions
— (36:59) The differences in what each attachment type needs to create an attachment
— (54:56) Attachment and hexad from the perspective of the instincts
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at...2021-07-261h 13
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 080 - HEXAD VS ATTACHMENT UNDRESSED III - Courtney Smith (1/2)Courtney joins us to lend her insightful point of view to the hexad vs attachment discussion in this two part conversation.
— (1:26) An overview of Object Relations and what hexad and attachment mean
— (10:40) Why is attachment triggering to hexad types
— (12:54) Attachment types figuring out who they are through relationship to someone or something else
— (17:22) The limited box of hexad types addicted to frustration and rejection
— (30:20) The yes/no dichotomy is a closed hexad point of view that isn’t open to what might unfold beyond the self
— (32:44) The phenomenon of attachment types taking on feelings exp...2021-07-181h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 079 - HEXAD VS ATTACHMENT UNDRESSED [PART CONT’D]We’re back with new insights to share continuing our hexad vs attachment series.
— (1:26) Revisiting the curious case of David Gray and his hidden very weird attachment
— (9:09) Reviewing the last episode’s insights on the individuated vs attachment yes and no
— (12:40) The premature yes of attachment vs the premature no of rejection vs the ‘yes, but no’ of frustration
— (16:50) Emeka’s experience of the severing of rejection and ‘no’ as a baseline
— (21:47) Nancy’s reaction and how the grass isn’t greener on the hexad side
— (30:36) The latest on John’s book release and Courtney joining us n...2021-07-1034 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 078 - 9X9 ATTACHMENT FACE/OFF - David oxo AlexandraWe’re continuing our explorations of attachment with a face/off between Cult Daddy David and Undignified CQ Alexandra. Venture into this double 9 labyrinth and you *might* emerge from the mist with insights from below and above attachment.
— (7:26) An examination of the internal yes/no tug of war from the perspective of attachment types
— (15:42) Ideas on how attachment types might find their location sooner rather than later
— (24:33) Alexandra and David’s complaints about hexad types
— (34:25) Differences between Alexandra and David’s attachment and How ‘familiar’ attachment showed up for David as a young f*ckboi
— (41:44...2021-07-051h 07
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 077 - HEXAD VS ATTACHMENT UNDRESSED [PART I]We’re landing on major discoveries exploring hexad vs attachment. Undressing the invisible assumptions of attachment explains so much about how the world functions, and how oppositional hexad and attachment orientations are.
— (2:41) Parasocial relationships as a manifestation of attachment
— (8:38) Hexad inflexibility and self-containment is not attachable
— (11:44) Agreement and meeting halfway as a feature of attachment
— (29:51) How David’s does attachment online as a soc-blind
— (39:13) Comfortable attachment as a starting point to real attachment, but settling for what’s good enough for now
— (44:42) The suffering of hexad types is the inability to adapt from their vision...2021-06-261h 13
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 076 - ATTACHMENT DEMONS [PART CONT’D]We need to talk about attachment some more. Interesting new questions and insights about attachment have emerged as a result of our soul intercourse series. Let’s spin.
— (4:03) Inner disagreement and ongoing friction fueling attachment
— (9:24) The implications of attachment in politics and group dynamics
— (14:44) The mechanics behind the hate/love relationship attachment types have with us
— (20:42) How Nancy and DG self-locate their preferences
— (33:15) Hexad vs attachment on arguments and disagreement
— (40:57) Attachment types coming to terms with how they’re giving away their autonomy
— (46:56) Putting it all together with how and why attachment types get...2021-06-1956 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 075 - SOUL::INTERCOURSE: Attachment Demons [Part 2/2] - AlexandraContinuing where we left off with our beloved CQ Alexandra joining us to excavate the challenges attachment types face in love, intimacy, and sexuality.
— (4:17) Attachment types individuating by facing fear, leaving ‘home’, and being alone
— (14:37) Attachment types having to individuate by finding their soul family
— (21:33) Attachment types finding themselves by locating what moves and affects them and responding to it
— (28:28) How humbling and exposing it is to be wanted just as you are vs what you’re manufacturing
— (38:01) How DG relates to the attachment type struggle
Call the Loveline with your comments and thought...2021-06-1245 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 074 - SOUL::INTERCOURSE: Attachment Demons [Part 1/2] - AlexandraThe soul sex saga continues. Our beloved CQ Alexandra joins us to excavate the challenges attachment types face in love, intimacy, and sexuality.
— (1:27) Addressing excuses and deflections
— (7:49) What social blinds are missing and how that can be detrimental in love
— (11:33) Sexual blinds seen as uncool by sexual blinds
— (22:37) How attachment types hook others by seeing themselves through their eyes
— (29:28) The dynamic of the pod needs more Nancy
— (38:00) What's wrong with not having any attachment?
— (43:18) Attachment types remaining unaffected by chasing ‘gold stars’ in relationships they barely care about
Call the Loveline with your...2021-06-0551 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 073 - SOUL::INTERCOURSE: Loveline EditionThis week we’re responding to your comments on our soul intercourse series. It’s gonna get spicy.
— (2:59) Can we discuss this topic from the queer perspective?
— (5:48) David’s favorite stripper with mother issues has an amazing sex life
— (9:53) Confused rambler with nothing to contribute has some shit to say
— (22:39) Is what we’re sharing triggering insecurities?
— (31:57) Social 2 shares her experience making a soul connection with her partner
— (33:50) Appreciative type 2 caller loves this topic and misses having this type of connection
Don’t be scurred (lol), call the Loveline with your comments and thought...2021-05-2946 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 072 - SOUL::INTERCOURSE [Part DG]: The Curious Case of David GrayWe getting all up in DG’s grille this week. What’s his deal with sexuality and relationships anyway?
— (2:32) David unpacks his significant age gap kink
— (7:01) DG’s childhood and how that influences how seriously he takes himself as a partner
— (14:03) The most intense soul level attraction DG ever experienced
— (22:06) Is this too spicy for this pod or even relevant to ‘soul intercourse’? [soc-lasts clumsily attempt to read the room]
— (30:18) How we’ve approached meeting the soulmate and David’s challenges with this idea as a 9
— (41:57) The insecurities of 9 and other attachment types getting in the way of lo...2021-05-221h 06
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 071 - SOUL::INTERCOURSE [Part 1]We’re getting all up in your soul g-spot this week, exploring the different dimensions of sexuality and chemistry. How to meet someone energetically during sex.
— (4:02) Emeka’s revelation about his sexuality
— (9:32) How Nancy senses a sexual partner’s energy and soul
— (16:10) Soul level attraction and introverted vs extroverted sexuality
— (27:14) What makes good sex good?
— (28:08) The feminine sexuality of being penetrated and taking someone’s energy in
— (30:36) Nancy’s experience of having soul intercourse with her partner
— (34:57) How to deeply meet someone sexually
— (37:44) Self-love to deepen a sense of your body’s arousal
— (42:57...2021-05-1455 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 070 - LOVELINE #4: Sexual Kinks And FantasiesThis week we’re getting hormonal with your submitted horny kinks and sexual fantasies. Hide yo kids, it’s about get hot in here.
— (3:56) David’s ‘Daddy who buys shit for stockholms’ kink
— (10:14) Breeding kink and sexual selection
— (21:30) Uncontrollable desire for a woman who loves her hubby
— (23:52) Being forced to watch my partner have sex with someone I hate
— (27:42) Animal magnetism and sex matching my energy
— (35:26) Service topping 8
Don’t be scurred, call the Loveline with your secret kinks and fantasies at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com with a voice n2021-05-0141 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 069 - ‘TERRIBLE’ TWOS - Alex & FayThis week we’re joined by two twos, Alex Giroux and Fay Willow, to unpack our negative bias against 2s. We attempt to atone for our sins. Forgive us for we shall sin again.
— (10:06) The collective shadow that type 2 represents culturally
— (19:40) Emeka and John reacting to their mothers being 2s
— (29:58) How Alex experiences her own neediness as a social blind 2
— (38:00) 2s feeling like they have to offer something to justify their existence as rejection types
— (43:40) How our 2s interpret the notion that their love is conditional and is giving to get
— (53:27) The friction betwe...2021-04-241h 28
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 068 - COUNTERTYPE IS DUMB [Part 2]We’re picking up where we left off unpacking how terrible and misleading Countertype is.
— (4:11) How Countertypes create the wrong implications about the types
— (10:57) Self-pres 4 Countertype - “Tenacity”
— (19:41) The horrendous sexual 4 description
— (25:30) Sexual 6 Countertype - “Strength/Beauty”
— (31:50) Sexual 5 Countertype - “Confidence”
— (39:10) Social 7 Countertype - “Sacrifice”
— (46:59) Why are we criticizing this material?
Don’t forget to leave a voicemail for the Loveline with your type specific kinks and sexual fantasies. The number is (323) 696-0647. Or you can email a voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com.
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Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 067 - COUNTERTYPE IS DUMB [Part 1]This week we’re unpacking Countertype, a deplorable concept plaguing the enneagram.
— (1:26) The origin of subtype
— (5:43) What is Countertype?
— (11:23) Social 9 Countertype - “Participation”
— (16:37) Instinct is the basis of the personality
— (18:15) Social 8 Countertype - “Solidarity”
— (26:56) Emeka hates everything about the sexual 8 quote
— (30:51) Sexual 1 Countertype - “Zeal”
— (39:10) Self-pres 3 Countertype - “Security”
— (46:44) Self-pres 2 Countertype - “Privilege”
Don’t forget to leave a voicemail for the Loveline with your type specific kinks and sexual fantasies. The number is (323) 696-0647. Or you can email a voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com.
2021-04-0854 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 063 - LOVELINE #3 // Undressing Archetypes & Bullsh*tWe’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine Q/A episode.
— (2:22) What archetypes and myths do we each identify with and how does the shadow show up in relationships?
— (33:16) Criticism that we could end up going off the rails with the potential for bullshit
— (55:10) Trifix essential qualities
— (59:49) How to tell the difference between an 8 with a 6 fix from a 6 with an 8 fix
— (1:08:03) Is Countertype legit?
To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email in a pre-recorded voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com
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Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 058 - #NOTA5As promised, this week we’re diving into the nuances of #nota5 in response to one of your voicemail questions.
— (3:46) Why people mistype as 5 and the common misconceptions
— (9:28) The contrast between the intellectualism of 9 and 6 vs 5
— (11:33) 5’s obscure discovery vs 6’s referential truth
— (18:14) 6’s orientation to intellectual integrity
— (26:30) 5s are not always smart or intellectual
— (30:41) David and Emeka’s body type impressions of 5
— (41:00) Queen’s Gambit as a fictional example of 5 detachment and disconnect
— (43:06) 9s and 6s relating to the detachment of 5
— (47:23) The pain and suffering of 5
— (50:57) Famous examples of 5s and #nota5s (Einst...2021-02-031h 07
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 057 - LOVELINE #2 // Thirst Spotting & Inter-stack MatingWe’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine episode.
— (2:19) How can sexual blinds recognize when someone is attracted to them?
— (28:02) What is it like to date your instinct stacking and the other stackings?
— (50:09) What type would say yes to marriage for a green card and will Nancy accept his proposal?
— (56:44) Can we do a riff on #nota5? YES, we’ll devote of all the next episode to it.
To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email in a pre-recorded voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com.
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Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 056 - Vehicles of Essence - Shepherd HoodwinWe’re wrapping up our Michael Teachings talk with Shepherd by diving into the overleaves.
— (2:37) Action axis // Warrior and King roles
— (8:54) The bossiness of the King role in a normal person
— (12:36) Goal of acceptance
— (16:15) Goal of flow
— (17:16) Goal of discrimination
— (25:17) Goal of dominance
— (27:51) What are sliding overleaves?
— (28:54) Goal of submission
— (31:01) Spiritualist Attitude
— (32:30) Nancy/Emeka/John having the skeptic attitude
— (42:07) The idealist attitude
— (44:20) Reserve and Passion mode
— (48:08) Caution and Power mode
— (51:52) How different overleaves cause friction in relationships
— (54:19) What it’s like for a role to have high frequency
—...2021-01-201h 12
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 055 - THE CHANNEL - Shepherd HoodwinThis week we’re diving into the nuances of channeling and souls with Shepherd.
— (6:06) How is channeling different from intuition? The difference between channels, mediums, and psychics
— (9:34) The different planes one can channel from
— (12:14) How does Shepherd know he’s channeling Michael
— (18:49) How does Shepherd get information when he’s channeling the Michael Charts
— (21:30) What is the Akashic Record?
— (25:45) Why don’t we remember what our soul chose?
— (30:04) Is channeling something anyone can learn to do?
— (36:38) What role does bias and discernment play?
— (43:36) Channeling entities other than Michael
— (46:01) What’s the felt experience o...2021-01-131h 31
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 37 - Object Relations Daggers to the Heart [Part 2] - Courtney SmithOh does it hurt so good. Continuing where we left off with Courtney bringing the object relations pain, starting with type 5. Then the attachment types 3 (17:05), 6 (37:43), and 9 (60:25). We get into an interesting theory on why attachment types are more common. Why attachment types have a disconnected use of their home center. And how attachment O.R. is a false individuation. Eat up pain piggies, and we’ll be back with more O.R. stabbings in Part 3.
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