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So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 56: Fall Feelings, Family Nonsense & Friendsgiving JoyOn this week's episode of So What Now?, Dex and I got honest about how the fall season can sneak up on your emotions and shift your whole vibe. I shared how getting outside, staying active, and even slipping in a little travel keeps the fall blues from knocking me off my game. We encouraged everyone to pick one short-term goal to finish by December and actually write the plan—because listen, accountability is peak grown-woman energy. And yes, I had to remind y'all that talking to a counselor or therapist is not a weakness; sometimes you need a pr...
2025-11-171h 00So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 55: One Year Later: So What Now?It's officially So What Now? one-year podcast anniversary! In this week's episode, we're taking a moment to reflect on the past year, the lessons we've learned, the challenges we've overcome, and the growth that's come along the way. Most importantly, we're saying a huge thank you to all of our listeners for being part of this journey with us. To celebrate, we answered a series of deep (and sometimes funny) questions to help you get to know us a little better. From exploring the "color" of our lives right now to sharing what we've learned about friendship, m...
2025-11-1248 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 54: Robots Are Coming! Automation, Innovation, and a Little ConfrontationThis week on So What Now?, your favorite duo dive headfirst into the tech takeover… and wrap things up with a dose of relationship drama you won't see coming. We kick things off with the viral story of two Harvard students who built a braiding robot designed to save time and reduce hand strain. But the big question remains: Is technology helping our culture or hijacking it? The ladies unpack what innovation means when tradition is on the line. Then, things heat up when Amazon's plan to replace 500,000+ warehouse jobs with robots comes up. Carla's al...
2025-11-051h 06So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 53: Let's Get Spooky! From Face Creams to Fatal AttractionsThis week, Dex spills all the details of her anti-aging skincare routine — and let's just say, it's not for anyone on a budget. If you thought that was crazy, wait till you hear her skincare goals inspired by Paris Hilton. From luxury serums to three-hour facials, Dex already has her regimen mapped out for when she hits that "Kim K money" era. Carla can't stop laughing (or calculating the price tag). Then, in the spirit of Halloween, we get into some real-life scary stories. We unpack the shocking case of Sakiyna Thompson, recently convicted of murdering her ro...
2025-10-2751 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP52: Not Sure If This Is an Ebb or a Flow, But We're Here for ItIn this week's episode of So What Now?, we dive into parenting highs, lows, and the unexpected in-betweens. Dex kicks things off by sharing her experience at a frat party with Mikaela – the drinks, the vibes, the "what am I doing here?" moments. Meanwhile, Carla continues her fight with the public school system to get the proper support Psalm needs — it's real, it's frustrating, and she doesn't hold back. The convo then takes a sharp (and fuzzy?) turn to Kim Kardashian's latest business move: faux-fur thong panties. Yes, you read that right. They're sold out, and we're aski...
2025-10-201h 05So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 51: The Math Ain't Mathin – Life Path Numbers & Listener LettersThis week, we dove into the mystical world of life path numbers said to reveal the road you're meant to walk in life. Carla walks us through how to calculate yours (warning: it's not as easy as it sounds!) and shares her eerily accurate reading as a Life Path 8. Then, things take a turn when we read a heavy listener letter from a woman dealing with the fallout of her husband's affair—and the unexpected arrival of his baby with the other woman. With no warning and no say, she's suddenly playing mom to a child she didn't ask fo...
2025-10-1349 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 50:Black Cat Energy: Is Dex Pivoting her Opinion on Men?This week on So What Now we are back with all the chaos, wisdom, and side-eyes you've come to love. Dex kicks things off with a hilarious (and low-key insightful?) update on dinner with her dad — who came with unexpected dating advice on where to find eligible bachelors. Spoiler: Dex is not taking him up on this advice. Then, Carla introduces the viral "golden retriever vs. black cat" dating theory — and it's clear Dex is a full black cat. We break down what your relationship energy says about you and how it shapes your dating patt...
2025-10-0655 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 49: Did The Rapture Happen? + Cardi's Baby Daddy Drama & Platonic Marriage ProposalsWelcome back to So What Now, where the convos are chaotic and the wine is always flowing 🍷 In this episode, we're diving deep (and maybe too far 😭) into everything from Rapture Talk 2025 to Cardi B's new album, revenge baby, and messy baby daddy drama. We're asking the real questions like: – Did the Rapture already happen and we got left behind? 👀 – Can you repent on your way out and still make it to heaven? – Are all sins really the same, or are some just low-heat sins? 🔥 – And what's the meal prep plan before… b*** stuff? (Asking for a f...
2025-09-2953 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 48: Pop Culture, Probable Cause & Pretty Girl PreferencesIt's football season, y'all! And guess what? Carla and I are finally ready to dive in. We're trying to understand the hype, the rules, and maybe even pick a team (no promises though). From touchdowns to tight ends, we're figuring it out one game at a time. Then we pivot to pop culture, because of course we do and whew, let's talk about Dame Dash on The Breakfast Club. When are folks gonna stop trying to match energy with Charlamagne? That man lives for chaos! Carla and I revisit our favorite moments. Now buckle up...
2025-09-221h 18So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 47: Security Guards, Spoilers & Side-EyesWe kick off this weeks episode with a motherhood update. Carla opens up about new and uncharted challenges of motherhood this week. Her little one just started Pre-K. It's been a rough ride, and Carla's not sugarcoating it. The struggle bus is real, and Carla's driving it with no GPS. Then things take a sharp (and hilarious) left turn into pop culture: we dive into the Cardi B trial — yes, the $24 million lawsuit from a security guard that somehow made it to court. The drama! The absurdity! The joy! Carla turned to her bestie ChatGPT for a br...
2025-09-1546 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 46: AI Dating Concierges, $1K Pre-Date Deposits & Free UK Childcare?!This week, we're diving deep into the future of dating — and it's getting a high-tech upgrade. Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe Herd says AI could soon help you navigate dating anxiety, improve your communication, and even "date" other AIs to find your perfect match. Helpful or horrifying? We weigh in. Then, tennis pro Sachia Vickery has gone viral after revealing she requires a $1,000 deposit before any date. Is this setting boundaries or setting a new trend? And what does that conversation actually sound like? Also, are we okay with step-parents adopting kids when the biological parent is...
2025-09-0958 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 45: For Men Only: Proposals, Budgets & Back Door BusinessHey Friends it's Carla! Welcome back to another episode of So What Now? Let's get right into this week's wild ride! So Bella Thorne hopped on IG sharing that she proposed to her fiancé… after he already did it first. I'm sorry, what?? Nah. Ya'll know I have thoughts (spoiler: I am not out here getting on one knee, let's be so serious). And of course, Dex went off on one of her classic rants. This time about how some things are strictly "for men." Like proposing. Like budgeting. Like… anything that feels like work. According to her, w...
2025-09-0145 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 44: Brunch Budgets, Water Bill Nightmares & Khloé's CaretakingIn this episode, we kick things off with the hidden cost of friendship — turns out, staying social could be costing you over $250 a month in brunches, happy hours, and birthday dinners. Then we get into dating finances, where new data shows men are spending $15,000 more per year in relationships, largely driven by lingering provider expectations. How much is your man spending on you? Dex brings us a shocking story out of Brooklyn: a man lost his fully paid-off $800K home over a $5K water bill. She also shares a personal horror story about the hidden traps and pre...
2025-08-251h 07So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 43: Mailbag: Marriage Pressure, Broke Behavior & Too Independent?This week on So What Now?, I kicked things off with a few thoughts on all the buzz surrounding the Woman Evolve conference and shared a little bit about what the experience was like for me personally. We also wanted to catch up with y'all, so we took some time to dig into a couple of listener letters because let's be honest, our inbox is overflowing and these topics deserved some attention. One letter came from someone feeling the heat from her mom to get married ASAP, and we talked about how to honor your own timeline without blowing...
2025-08-181h 07So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 42: Wife Material & Mom Mode: We Can't Catch a BreakThis week, Dex came in hot with the age-old(and honestly, exhausting) question: Are you wife material? We broke down a xoNecole article where 10 men shared what makes a woman "wife" vs. "girlfriend" material and whew, some of these takes had me raising eyebrows and clenching my pearls. From emotional maturity to splitting bills to being "referred" like a LinkedIn job post, we had plenty to say. Spoiler alert: Dex absolutely flunked the wifey quiz. 😂 Then we had to pivot to check in with my mommas, because back-to-school season is no joke. We discussed another article that rem...
2025-08-1238 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 41: Traci's Luggage, Kamala's Future, and Karrueche's DatingThis week, me, and Carla are comparing social media timelines and realizing just how differently our algorithms are built. Mine? Full of the usual celeb mess. Carla's? Somehow led us into a convo about butt sniffers. I'm still recovering. We get into the age-gap dating buzz between Karrueche Tran (37) and Deion Sanders (57)—is there a cutoff age where nobody cares anymore, or are we still side-eyeing big gaps? Then we talk about Kamala Harris—she's not running for California Governor, which has me wondering: is she over America or early 2028 presidential plotting? And per...
2025-08-041h 00So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 40: Multitasking, Mess, and a Little MayhemThis week on So What Now, we unpack a viral TikTok that challenges the usual checklist for choosing a partner. Sure, faith, finances, and fitness are great—but what about the ability to suffer well? Life will get messy, and having someone who doesn't fall apart in the chaos might just be the most underrated trait of all. Dex keeps it real and admits she's not built for bedside caregiving—she'll cut the check, but don't look for soup and soft words. And if she ever becomes the one in need? Her motto is simple: just take her out!
2025-07-2948 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 37: Are You Too Comfortable? Here's What That Could Be Telling YouHey Bestie, We're back! Listen… jetlag and schedule conflics are real. This week's episode is a catch-up at the house. I just got back from Bali, had a full-blown spiritual awakening (yes, there were tears in the ocean), and maybe met the love of my life… but he said he's not coming back to America soooo that's that. 😅 Dex has been going through it too. When it rains, it pours, okay? She took a little break from social because the doom scroll had her in a chokehold. She opens up about that, plus her qui...
2025-07-0944 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 36: Fasting, Ghosting & Pardoning – Just Another Week in AmericaOn this juicy episode of So What Now, Carla kicks things off by sharing her prep for Bali — a water fast that helped her shed six pounds (and gain three right back 😅). Still, she's feeling herself and ready for the beach! Meanwhile, Dex crowns the Woman of the Week: a queen who ghosted her man right after he handed her a winning lotto ticket. City girls up by a million 💅🏾💸 Then it's a hard pivot to politics as we unpack Trump's headline-grabbing pardons, including Todd & Julie Chrisley (fraud squad!), NBA YoungBoy, Kodak Black, and Lil Wayne. Carla shares what he...
2025-06-301h 00So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 35: Voicenote Devotionals, Selfie Request and The Last StrawWhew! Y'all… I'm out here trying to date and let me just say: it's terrible. This week I went on two dates — yes, two. One man is ready for a monogamous relationship immediately… and has absolutely no friends (red flag?). The other sends me unsolicited prayer voice notes every single morning and follows up with "send me a pic" all day long. I'm exhausted, and it's only Monday. 🙃 Meanwhile, Dex is convinced the internet is for girls only — specifically saying men should not be in The Shade Room comments. Honestly? I don't disagree. Go build a house or somethin...
2025-06-231h 04So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 34: Body Language, Dating Games & Big Beautiful BillsAlright y'all, in this week's episode we got real about body language in dating—yes, sis, that closed-off vibe might be why no one's stepping to you! A new study says most women think we look approachable, but we really out here serving "don't talk to me" energy. I put some of those body language tips to the test and let's just say... results were mixed. Meanwhile, Carla is back in these dating streets and using ChatGPT to help cut through all the awkward small talk on Hinge and honestly, it's working! you'll have to hear it to...
2025-06-1655 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 33: Single Mom to CEO: Jena Mehlberg on Faith and Raising BoysHey friends—Carla here! This week on So What Now?, Dex and I sat down with the fierce and inspiring Jena Mehlberg—entrepreneur, mama, survivor, and all-around powerhouse in the beauty world. Jena took us on a real ride through some of the toughest chapters of her life—becoming a single mom in her teens, losing a parent, navigating an emotionally abusive relationship, and the ups and downs of running her own business. And y'all, the way she speaks about resilience and faith? You feel it in your bones. She talks about the importance of existing outside yourse...
2025-06-091h 01So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 32: Pro-Choice, Pro-Chaos, Probably ProblematicThis week's episode of So What Now gets into some pretty spicy and controversial territory—so let's jump right in. We started things off light: I came across a study that says spending money on your best friend can actually boost your mental health. So Carla, just know—I'm always here to support your wellness journey… especially if it includes buying me lunch. #SelfCare 😌 Carla let us know a few of her exes are trying to "spin the block," and baby, she is not impressed. That got us thinking: would you ever take an ex back? Car...
2025-06-0249 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 31: What She Wore vs. What He Did: The Real IssueFriend, this week was juicy and necessary. First off, I gave y'all some homework—yes, homework. Go listen to Atomic Habits and please, if you're struggling with your mental health, talk to a therapist. We love healing over here. Dex gave us all the feels with her recap of her Cowboy Carter trip with her daughter—bonding, Beyoncé, boots and Black girl joy. In our Womanhood segment, we had to touch on B. Simone getting dragged again. This time it's 'cause she wore coochie cutters in church. The internet lost its mind. But let's be real—why is she...
2025-05-2659 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 30: Babies on Board, Husbands at Risk & $5K Ain't ItFriend… this episode was pure chaos—in the best way. We started off with Porsha from Real Housewives of Atlantathreatening to sleep with a castmate's husband after an argument. Yes, the same Porsha who already married her ex-friend's man. The audacity is clearly on clearance and she bought the whole rack. Me and Carla had to break that all the way down, because girl… what are you even doing? Then we shifted gears to Amina Butterfly and her daughter straight-up refusing to go to school. No bullying, no issues—just vibes. The internet had opinions: some dragging Amina's...
2025-05-191h 02So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 29: Serving Hottie Sauce, Auntie Vibes & Labor GlamHey friend, it's me, Carla! 💋 This week on So What Now, we're giving flowers (and maybe some biscuits) to our Woman of the Week—Megan Thee Stallion—for opening her own Popeyes franchise and dropping that delicious "Hottie Sauce"! I LIVE for a business-savvy baddie, okay?! 💅🔥 Now, let's talk "auntie"... because Dex is still not over it. We get into what it really means when people start calling you that—respect, shade, or both? After some laughs (and a little dragging), Dex might be warming up to the title—as long as nobody expects her to be a role model, LOL...
2025-05-121h 03So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red FlagsHey y'all, it's Carla! My birthday's coming up, and let's just say I've been in my feelings. In this episode I shared how I've been mourning parts of my younger self and wishing I could go back and change a few things. Dex reminded me that aging isn't just loss — it's also growth and new beginnings, and honestly, I needed to hear that. We also unpacked a wild episode of Dear Future Wifey where a pastor's wife said she used to iron her man's clothes so he could go see his side chick. Yes, you read that ri...
2025-05-0557 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness?Hey friend, it's Dex, and we're back with another episode of So What Now? — where the convos are deep, the laughs are loud, and the side-eyes are always earned. This week, we kicked things off with a little life catch-up. I ran a Hyrox race (yes, me — running, sweating, questioning my life choices), while Carla was out here being the hostess with the mostess for Easter. Deviled eggs were served, auntie gossip was flowing — it was fabulous. Then we got into that trending Traci Ellis Ross interview. Traci said, "I grieve the things that I thought...
2025-04-281h 19So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma BondsHey friends, it's Carla and this week's episode of So What Now was a whole mix of "wait, what?" and "absolutely not." We kicked things off with Ayesha Howard, who recently responded to the backlash around her decision to keep her baby. And listen… her response didn't move me. At all. I said what I said, and I still feel the same way. Then we got into this Florida city trying to roll out a 4-day school week, which sounds cool until you realize... parents still work 5. So who's watching the kids on that fifth da...
2025-04-2149 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla's in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes!We made it to 25 episodes, y'all! Our little podcast baby is all grown up, and to celebrate, Carla and I decided to do something fun (and slightly chaotic): 25 questions to help you get to know us on a whole new level. No rules, barely any filters—just vibes, hot takes, and some lowkey oversharing. Carla went in on cancel culture, mental health, and the whole open relationship thing 👀. I opened up about monogamy, childhood stuff, and a few things I've been too scared to try (yet). It's been a wild ride getting here, and whether you'v...
2025-04-141h 06So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 24: The Parenting Debate "Do Kids Need Their Own Room?" + Friendship Breakups? We Went There!Hey Friend! Quick update: Carla's allergies are finally under control, and I'm feeling better too—my back's on the mend, so no more grandpa groans when I bend over. Small wins, y'all. Now, onto the episode. We dive into a topic that's real for any of us with kids who split time between two homes—should children have their own bedroom at the non-custodial parent's house? Carla, with her money grows on trees mentality, thinks it's a must. Like, we all have the luxury of giving each kid their own room, right? But I'm out here s...
2025-04-0737 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can't WinHey Friend! First of all, let me just say Ozempic had me in a chokehold, and for what? We kicked off this episode talking about the shortcuts we've tried on the road to health and how most of them left us worse off than when we started. And yes, I fully admit I was out here thinking a shot would do what discipline and patience are supposed to. 😩 Meanwhile, Ruthie's out here running half marathons like a champ, and our pastor had the nerve to call us out mid-sermon about our lifestyle choices. Rude but also accurate.
2025-03-3155 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies?First of all, we are old. Like, what is happening?! My allergies are out here fighting for their life, and Dex's back is giving up on her. If y'all have any remedies for allergies that don't involve me living in a bubble, let me know because I am struggling. But let's get into it—this week, we had a very heated debate over Ayesha Howard and Anthony Howard. Listen, I just have questions—like, is it okay to still be making major mistakes at 38 when choosing who to have a baby with? Because at some point...
2025-03-241h 02So What Now? with Carla and DexEP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be SeriousAlright y'all, this week's episode is a rollercoaster. First up, Carla has big feelings about Casey Anthony's latest rebrand as a legal advocate. Yea, you read that right. And let's just say, she has some thoughts. Then, we get into Gayle King going to space with Jeff Bezos' wife. Carla thinks it's cool. Me? Absolutely not. Why are rich people so obsessed with space? It's not like you can actually get out and explore. Somebody make it make sense. And speaking of nonsense, Omarion is out here saying he doesn't take women on dates—he ta...
2025-03-171h 04So What Now? with Carla and DexEP20: Why You're Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOSOoooh, friend, buckle up 'cause this episode is packed with Aha! moments and truths that'll hit you straight in the chest. We had our second-ever guest, the fabulous Coach Netra, a lifestyle and nutrition coach who's all about women's health. And you KNOW we had a ton of questions for her. Now, who remembers when we could hit the gym for just a week in our 20s and come out snatched? Yeah, baby… those days are long gone. I'm over here tryna figure out why I crave chocolate around my cycle, and Carla's out here wondering if it...
2025-03-1057 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is WildHey Friend! Its me, Carla! Whew, this episode was a ride! Dex is officially a Cowboy Carter ticket holder (Beyhive, stand up!), and I've been auditing my top five closest people—we'll see who makes it and who's getting cut real quick. Our Woman of the Week is the one and only Joy Reid—because duh, she's amazing and I really want her to win. And shameless plug, I'd LOVE to work with her!!! Meanwhile, Dex, who was supposed to be focused on creating this episodes outline, went down a whole Neyo rabbit hole (thank you, Shaderoom), and...
2025-03-0351 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 18: Is Gentle Parenting Making Our Kids Soft? and Would You End a 20-Year Friendship Over a Man?In this episode of So What Now, hosts Carla and Dex dive into a thought-provoking discussion on parenting. They explore whether "gentle parenting" methods are truly benefiting children or inadvertently preventing them from learning valuable life lessons. Reflecting on their own upbringings, they share how their experiences with discipline and independence shaped their views. The conversation shifts gears as they unpack the evolution of "girl code." Carla and Dex examine whether the rules of girl code change as we get older. Would you end a 20 year friendship over a man? The fun escalates as they play a rapid-fire round...
2025-02-241h 01So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 17: Red Flags & Maternal Regret: Are We the Problem?In this episode Carla and Dex dive into the controversial topic of maternal regret. Some women openly admit to regretting having children—are they just being brutally honest, or is this a sign of deeper societal pressure? Carla and Dex unpack the complex feelings surrounding motherhood and why it's such a triggering subject. Shifting gears, Carla and Dex tackle the question: Are women actually the problem in relationships? The conversation takes a hilarious turn when they play a green and red flag game to figure out if they're toxic. Spoiler alert: Dex discovers she might just be a walking re...
2025-02-171h 07So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 16: Ex-posed: When Outing Your Ex Goes Too Far & Unpacking Love Themes in Classic Black CinemaIn this week's episode of So What Now, Carla and Dex dive into the tricky topic of whether it's ever okay to air intimate details of past relationships, discussing the drama surrounding Royce Reed and Dwight Howard's public feud. The love theme continues with a deep dive into iconic black love stories from classic films. Carla and Dex go head-to-head over Love and Basketball. While Carla believes it's one of the greatest love stories, Dex argues that Monica might've "settled" for her man. The conversation also touches on other beloved films like Poetic Justice and Boomerang, exploring...
2025-02-1059 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 15: Roses Are Red, Kirk's Lies Never End, Cleo Had Drama, Here's A Playlist We RecommendIt's officially the month of LOVE, and in this episode Carla and Dex dive into some most infamous love stories—from the drama-filled relationship of Kirk and Rasheda to Cleopatra and Marc Anthony's empire-shattering romance. They explore what happens when love becomes larger than life and, in some cases, leads to downfall. But it's not all about toxic love flames! With Valentine's Day approaching, the duo discusses how to romanticize your own life, especially when it feels like everyone else is celebrating a relationship. Carla and Dex share why it's important to cultivate your own sense of jo...
2025-02-0355 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP14: Hookah, Hookups, and Hopes for Something MoreIn this episode Carla and Dex dive deep into the evolving landscape of modern relationships and what it really means to partner up in today's world. They unpack the idea of non-traditional relationships, questioning whether the paths they once thought they wanted are actually the ones that align with their true desires. Is Sheryl Lee Ralph's unconventional situation with her husband a model of modern love, or is it just plain weird? Dex reveals her unique perspective on love and relationships. Meanwhile, Carla shares an update on her 2025 commitment to get back into the dating scene, from...
2025-01-2759 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP13: Beyoncé Cancels, Carla Confesses, and LA's CrisisIn this week's episode Carla and Dex to catch you up on all the current events. We kick things off with Beyoncé's surprising move to cancel her highly anticipated announcement, leaving fans buzzing. Plus, we reflect on recent actions from political leaders and the messages they're sending. The conversation heats up as we discuss the devastating LA fires and how natural disasters continue to disproportionately impact marginalized communities. Carla makes a surprising confession about her recycling habits (or lack thereof), sparking a meaningful discussion on environmental responsibility. And finally, the ultimate question: is it e...
2025-01-2051 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP12: What is Closure??While Carla takes some time to recover from the flu, we're rewinding to one of your favorite episodes from the Sh*t I'm 30 archive! This week, Carla and Dexty dive into the drama-filled world of relationships, tackling breakups, makeups, baby mamas, and the ever-controversial topic of break babies. It's raw, it's real, and it's packed with the laughs. Don't miss this trip down memory lane! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en
2025-01-1345 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP11: Libido Low, Vibrator on High: Moms Need Lovin Too!This week we're diving headfirst into the spicy (and hilariously awkward) world of sex in your 30s and 40s! From scheduling "sexy time" to uncovering why your libido might be MIA (spoiler: social media could be to blame), we're spilling all the tea. And if that's not enough, Carla and Dex are bringing wild, laugh-out-loud stories that'll leave you cringing, cackling, and maybe feeling a touch of secondhand embarrassment! 🚨 Disclaimer: This episode is NOT kid-friendly. Unless you want to explain what a sex dungeon is or why vibrators shouldn't double as microphones, listen solo! CONNECT WITH...
2025-01-061h 05So What Now? with Carla and DexEP10: Goodbye 2024: We Came, We Saw, We Hit RecordDisclaimer- Beyonce Bowl discussion ends at 20:57 In this episode of So What Now, Carla and Dex reflect on everything 2024 threw their way—spoiler alert: it wasn't all vacations and TikTok dances. Dex admits that fear of losing stability had her out here playing it way too safe. Carla drops gems about showing up as your real self (even when your real self is tired) and the financial discipline it takes to buy a house without letting your Pinterest boards dictate your budget. But it wasn't all wins—Dex opens up about how 2024 almost broke her, revea...
2024-12-301h 27So What Now? with Carla and DexEP9: Parenting Without Help: Defiant Teens, Deadbeat Dads, and the Fight for ControlThis week Carla, Dex are joined by Ariel B. The group dives into the complex world of parenting teens. As kids grow older, parenting styles and relationships need to shift, and the group explores how they are navigating these changes. Carla talks about her struggle with managing expectations, while Ariel reflects on the challenge of losing control as her children begin making their own decisions. The conversation touches on what happens when older kids break the rules, with Dex sharing her own experience of poor decision-making due to a lack of open communication with her parents. Carla and Ariel...
2024-12-231h 13So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 8: The Real Cost of Influencing: Plastic Surgery & Keeping up with the JonesesOn this week's episode Carla and Dex are diving into everything from aerial yoga (spoiler: they're not as flexible as they thought) to the real costs of being an influencer. First up, the ladies share their thoughts on Halle Berry's latest venture—an intimacy gel for menopausal women—and celebrate her mix of business smarts and vulnerability. Then, things get juicy in the Motherhood segment with a discussion on influencer culture, including the bizarre case of Influencer Marlena Velez, who got arrested for stealing from Target. The duo debates what crime they'd commit (just for fun, promise) and why it's...
2024-12-161h 02So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 7: Holiday Drama, Traditions, and Boundaries: Surviving Toxicity During the HolidaysThis week Carla and Dex dive into the chaos and comedy of navigating toxic family traditions during the holidays. From Carla's journey of estrangement and her search for new holiday magic with friends to Dex's big family and the pressure to make everything "perfect," they share hilarious and heartfelt insights on surviving family dysfunction. Carla reflects on the bittersweet loss of old traditions while creating new ones, and Dex opens up about her childhood trauma (cue the villain origin story—spoiler: it's all about that Barbie Dream House). The duo also tackles how to deal with negative family members an...
2024-12-0942 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 6: Burnout Diaries: Navigating Motherhood and Rediscovering JoyIn this lively episode of The So What Now Podcast, Carla and Dex tackle everything from neighborhood drama to the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood. Carla shares her escalating battle with the local "cat lady," sparking a hilarious yet relatable discussion about boundaries and suburban chaos. Meanwhile, the duo dives into mom guilt—whether it's Carla juggling life with a toddler and a grown daughter or Dex navigating communication in a long distance relationship with her daughter. With raw honesty and a touch of humor, the hosts reflect on burnout, personal growth, and finding unex...
2024-12-0251 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 5: It's Giving Thanks: Gratitude, Ambition & the "Miracle Baby"This Thanksgiving episode is all about reflecting on what we're thankful for, finding balance with gratitude and ambition and also Miracle babies. Carla and Dex kick things off by honoring Jenna as Woman of the Week. In the Motherhood segment,we're diving into the controversial tale of a miracle baby conceived by two Miami Dade inmates who passed semen through a vent. Should they face additional charges? Listen in for the full discussion! In the Womanhood segment, we talk about being thankful for the small moments, the lessons, and the people in our lives—even if...
2024-11-2559 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 4: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids & The Power of Saying NoIn this episode Carla and Dex discuss raising emotionally intelligent children—what it really takes to help kids develop self-awareness, empathy, and strong communication skills. We dive into the tools and practices for fostering emotional intelligence. How do we know if we're doing it right? We'll explore how EQ impacts behavior and relationships, and why it's essential for kids' long-term success. Next, we switch gears to talk about the power of saying no. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries—whether in relationships, work, or personal life. Carla shares her journey from employee to boss and how sett...
2024-11-1858 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 3: Still Processing RejectionIn this episode, Carla and Dex share their raw reactions to the 2024 Presidential election. With no outline or segments, it's a heartfelt, off-the-cuff conversation as they process the results and how they're personally navigating the aftermath. From coping with the outcome to confronting the challenges of moving forward in a divided world, this episode is a rollercoaster of feelings and reflections. Tune in for a real and honest discussion, as Carla and Dex work through it all—together. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Election Shock and Disappointment: The hosts express disappointmentover Trump's re-election, with sur...
2024-11-1345 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexEP 2: Motherhood in the Digital Age & Evolving FriendshipsIn this episode, we're diving deep into the impact of social media on motherhood and how it's shaping our children's lives. We'll share our personal beliefs about kids and social media, exploring how it influences their upbringing and our parenting choices. From parents who make a business out of sharing their kids' lives to the balance of protecting privacy and staying connected in a digital world, we're talking all about it. Next, we dive into how friendships change after motherhood. Dex reflects on her evolving friendships as her child grows into adulthood, while Carla talks about juggling...
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So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 1: GUESS WHO'S BACK! The Official ReunionGuess who's back?! Yep, it's us—Carla and Dex—and we're kicking off a new chapter with a fresh start. In this episode, we're opening up about what the podcast means to us as we navigate some big life transitions and, let's be honest, try to figure out what the heck is next. First, we're diving into motherhood, picking up right where we left off in 2018. Carla's juggling two kids at very different stages of life, while Dex is adjusting to parenting from a distance (aka, "My kid is gone, and I'm not sure how to feel abou...
2024-11-1149 minSo What Now? with Carla and DexSo What Now? Coming 11:11Get ready for laughs, life lessons, and all the vibes! Hosted by best friends Carla and Dex, So What Now? dives into the messy, magical, and maddening moments of motherhood, womanhood, and everything in between. With Carla juggling entrepreneurship and new motherhood, and Dex stepping into life as a new empty nester with her quick wit and real talk, this podcast is your go-to for fresh takes on life's biggest (and smallest) moments. Tune in for raw conversations, endless laughs, and a reminder that none of us really have it all figured out—but that's half the fun...
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So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 229: Overcoming Challenges with Hope and HumorWelcome back, my loves! As summer winds down, join me for an engaging check-in where we cover a lot of ground. From recent experiences with Florida's hurricane season to the peculiar incident of a million dollars' worth of cocaine washing up on a Miami shore during Hurricane Debbie, Switching gears, I open up about my mental health journey and the challenges of virtual therapy. My trips to Miami and Mexico with Dex provided a much-needed break, but the struggle continues as I search for a more accessible therapist. Additionally, you'll hear about my son Psalm's daycare experiences, from potty...
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So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 228: Miami Madness and Real Talk (Feat Dexty)Guess who's BACK! My girl Dex is here on the Pivot with Purpose couch, and Oh sh*t, she's 40! It's a celebration! Join us as we recap our amazing trip to Miami for Dexty's birthday. Apparently, there's a thing about not going on a girls' trip to Miami, but we quickly found out why. We'll also touch on a few key things happening with the presidential election, encouraging listeners to find reputable sources to stay informed and vote thoughtfully, rather than relying on social media clips. In Florida news, you won't be...
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So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 222: Fitness, Fun, and Family Feels ft DextyEver tried to juggle health, career, and a vibrant social life all at once? We've been there too. Join us as we catch up with Dex, who shares her workout routine and recent weight loss journey. We also get into the holiday spirit, planning our girls' trip to St. Lucia and debating the merits of learning Creole and French versus just sticking with English. Plus, hear all about Dex's TikTok adventures and our creative plans for some hilarious content. We also chat about the importance of authenticity, the value of true friendships, and personal growth. W...
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So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 210: Embracing Identity, Building Boundaries, and Paternity Tests feat DextyI've always believed that if opportunity doesn't knock, build a door. This episode with Dex swings that door wide open as we revel in the tales of our entrepreneurial spirit, which took root in childhood candy sales and blossomed into career advancements achieved through sheer tenacity. We share a laugh over our methods of carving out our own spaces and touch on the not-so-secret ingredients to success: emotional intelligence and networking. A simple reminder that playing the cards we're dealt with strategic thinking and assertive action can lead to creating the opportunities we seek. we...
2024-02-081h 09So What Now? with Carla and DexEP 175: Airport Lounge Access Granted feat Dexty Dex is back in the hot seat and the ladies laugh for the entire episode! They start by reminiscing on their girl's trip to New York and break down the rules of a successful girl's trip. Then, they shared how they were too tired to go to "The Read's" after party and were so happy that they were both on the same page. Next, Carla and Dex talk about Carla's solo trip and Dex has some interesting suggestions for what activities Carla should do. The ladies also share funny stories on raising their teenagers and how this n...
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