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Modern GaysBad B*tches Only: Owning It Like ‘House of Villains'In this Halloween-themed episode, Daniel and Garet dive into the season of spookiness and villains, exploring the idea of embracing your inner “villain” as a way of living authentically. With the season of costumes and haunted houses setting the tone, they ask: Why do we sometimes feel like villains for simply being ourselves? As they discuss everything from favorite Halloween characters to how villains in pop culture own their power, the conversation shifts to something deeper—how embracing confidence and setting boundaries can be perceived as “villainous” by others. They explore the balance between empathy and self-assurance, discussing their own experi...
2024-10-1520 min
Modern GaysHow to Handle Advice You Didn't Ask ForIn this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet open up about insecurities, plastic surgery, and how unsolicited advice can derail our self-confidence. From Garet’s experience with a recent surgical procedure to Daniel’s vulnerability about thinning hair, they explore the weight of personal insecurities and the judgment we often feel from others. Why do we care so much about what people think? They dive deep into the ways technology and social media amplify this pressure, while also challenging the instinct to offer advice when it’s not asked for. Can we truly walk in someone else’s shoes, o...
2024-10-0823 min
Modern GaysWhy is Everyone Gooning?Dive into the curious world of “gooning,” a term that’s swept both the queer subculture and mainstream conversations. Daniel and Garet break down its roots as a kink-focused term used to describe a trance-like euphoric state, and discuss how it’s now become a playful way to express intense excitement. From pop icon obsession to reality TV indulgence, the hosts unpack why gooning isn’t just for sexual exploration anymore—it’s become part of everyday language, humor, and pop culture. What does it say about queer subcultures when their unique terms break into the mainstream? And should we be cautious...
2024-09-2416 min
Modern GaysKissing Boys and Taking PrEP: Dan Harry’s Journey to LoveIn this insightful episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Dan Harry, star of I Kissed a Boy and a powerful voice in HIV and sexual health advocacy. Dan opens up about his experience on the UK’s first gay dating show, shedding light on the pressures of on-screen dating and the vulnerability that comes with reality TV. Beyond the entertainment world, Dan is making a significant impact in the LGBTQ+ community by participating in an HIV vaccine trial and hosting the BBC documentary HIV, PrEP & Me. Together, they explore the evolving conversations around HIV prevention, the importance of br...
2024-09-1726 min
Modern GaysCaught in the Middle: Selling Sunset & the Messenger’s BurdenIn this episode, Daniel and Garet unpack the complex role of the messenger, using Selling Sunset’s latest drama as a case study. From holding onto secrets to dealing with backlash, the hosts explore the fine line between being helpful and being perceived as stirring the pot. Is it ever okay to share private information if you think you’re protecting a friend? Or does the blame always fall on the one delivering bad news? Reflecting on both the show and their own experiences, the duo offers listeners relatable insights on trust, communication, and managing drama in their own rela...
2024-09-1018 min
Modern GaysNavigating Fatherhood and Visibility… with Triplets!In this heartfelt episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Jake and Sean from DaddiestoThree to explore the dynamic and sometimes unpredictable world of gay parenthood. From their initial desire to start a family to the unexpected news of triplets, Jake and Sean share the intimate details of their surrogacy journey, including the emotional impact of miscarriage and the joy of finally welcoming three healthy babies. As they navigate the complexities of IVF, surrogacy, and being visible gay parents, Jake and Sean open up about the importance of representation, the power of community, and the reality of daily life...
2024-09-0334 min
Modern GaysShort n’ Sweet Tips for Saying More with LessDaniel and Garet dive into the concept of “short and sweet,” discussing how brevity can enhance various aspects of life, from storytelling to relationships. They explore the balance between keeping things concise while still conveying depth and meaning, touching on personal anecdotes and larger cultural phenomena like the upcoming Gay Games in Melbourne. The hosts challenge the notion that longer is always better, proposing that sometimes the most impactful moments are those that are brief but memorable. How do we determine when to keep things short and when to dive deep? And what can the LGBTQ+ community learn from the...
2024-08-2723 min
Modern GaysBreaking Free from Your Comfort Zone with Margie HaberDaniel and Garet are joined by the legendary acting coach Margie Haber, who has helped shaped the careers of Hollywood stars like Halle Berry and Brad Pitt. Inspired by Margie’s book F*ck Your Comfort Zone, the trio dives deep into the paralyzing grip of fear and how to break free from it. Margie shares her journey of self-discovery and the importance of embracing discomfort to grow, offering powerful insights that go beyond acting. Whether you’re looking to change careers, come out, or simply live more authentically, this episode is packed with wisdom to help you say “f**k i...
2024-08-2032 min
Modern GaysCelebrity Love Lessons: Representation and the Power of VisibilityFrom the timeless romance of Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor to the unique dynamic between RuPaul and George LeBar, these couples teach us that love is not one-size-fits-all. The discussion spans across monogamous, open, and polyamorous relationships, highlighting the importance of mutual respect, admiration, and staying true to your authentic self. How do these relationships thrive despite societal pressures and personal challenges? And what can we learn from their journeys to apply in our own lives? Tune in for a conversation that celebrates love in all its forms. Key Highlights:Monogamy, Open, and Everything I...
2024-08-1325 min
Modern GaysIs Slowmance and LPDs for You?In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the ever-evolving landscape of modern dating, exploring new trends that are shaping how we connect and build relationships in 2024. They discuss the phenomenon of “beard fishing,” where profile pictures with misleading beard lengths cause confusion and disappointment in real-life encounters. The hosts also share insights on the rise of “soft starts” and “low-pressure dates” (LPDs), emphasizing the importance of a more measured and relaxed approach to dating. As they reflect on their own dating experiences and those of their friends, Daniel and Garet offer valuable advice for navigating the dating s...
2024-08-0628 min
Modern GaysWhat’s Really Behind Close Friends: Kinky Fun or Too Much?Who's in your "close friends"? Daniel and Garet dive deep into the intriguing world of Instagram’s Close Friends feature, discussing how it reshapes online intimacy and the dynamics within the gay community. From personal anecdotes about provocative posts to the broader implications of creating micro-communities, they explore the various ways people use (and sometimes misuse) this green-circled space. They also touch on current events, including the Paris Olympics and its impact on gay culture, along with the recent Grindr restrictions within the Olympic village. Tune in to uncover how Close Friends can be a platform for authenticity, a sp...
2024-07-3022 min
Modern GaysHaters Gonna Hate: Block the Shade and Sashay AwayIn this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet dive deep into the realities of facing hate and criticism as members of the LGBTQ+ community. Inspired by a recent episode of RuPaul's Drag Race Canada vs. the World, they discuss the pervasive issue of haters, both online and offline, and the unique challenges queer individuals face in today's political climate. The conversation touches on personal experiences, the intersection of social media and public perception, and the importance of resilience and support within the community. They also explore the nuances of hate versus criticism and offer strategies for dealing with...
2024-07-2327 min
Modern GaysCruising and Hookup Etiquette: Socks On or Off?From recounting personal stories of sweaty encounters to debating whether socks should stay on or come off during sex, Daniel and Garet provide a humorous yet insightful look at what constitutes good manners in intimate situations. They also explore the rules and excitement of cruising, the rise of Sniffies as a mainstream hookup app, and the essential etiquette tips everyone should know to ensure enjoyable and respectful experiences. Tune in for laughs, valuable insights, and a candid discussion that goes beyond the bedroom.Key HighlightsSweaty Encounters: Daniel's hilarious story of a steamy, sweat-filled hookup.Socks...
2024-07-1625 min
Modern GaysThe Gaymer's Playersexual DebateHosts Daniel and Garet delve into the concept of playersexuality in video games. They share nostalgic gaming experiences and discuss how modern games like The Sims have evolved to include diverse sexual identities. The conversation highlights the importance of inclusive representation in gaming, particularly for the LGBTQ+ community. The hosts analyze both the positive and negative aspects of 'playersexual' characters, emphasizing the need for deeper, more authentic character development. They also touch on the societal implications of gaming, how it fosters community and the growing trend of identifying as 'gaymers'. The episode concludes with a light-hearted discussion about potential...
2024-07-0927 min
Modern GaysDitching Digital Drama: Matchmaking is Making a ComebackJoin Daniel and Garet as they explore the concept of "sadfishing," where individuals post overly emotional content online to seek validation. They delve into the reasons behind this behavior and its impact on relationships and social media interactions. Moving away from the digital realm, they highlight the growing trend of matchmaking, sharing personal anecdotes and the value of human connection in finding love. The episode covers the advantages of matchmaking over traditional dating apps, emphasizing the desire for meaningful connections and the challenges posed by superficial interactions online. They also provide tips on navigating these evolving dating landscapes with...
2024-07-0228 min
Modern GaysExpress Yourself: How to Be Confident with TheeAlexanderJIn this episode of Modern Gays, we sit down with TheeAlexanderJ, a dynamic influencer known for his vibrant fashion and confident demeanor. We delve into his background, discussing the origins of his confidence and the motivation behind his viral content. Alexander shares experiences growing up, highlighting the challenges and triumphs that shaped his journey. He emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, breaking free from societal norms, and finding joy in one's uniqueness. The conversation also covers strategies for maintaining confidence in public spaces, dealing with negativity, and using social media as a platform for positivity. TheeAlexandeJ's insights on daily practices...
2024-06-2526 min
Modern Gays100% Delulu: Using Delusion to Get What You WantLet's talk about "Delulu," a term that started as a playful social media jab but has evolved into a powerful mindset for achieving your wildest dreams. Daniel and Garet discuss how embracing a bit of delusion can lead to setting and achieving audacious goals. Through personal anecdotes, celebrity examples, and practical tips, they explore the transformative power of believing in your dreams, visualizing success, and overcoming mental barriers. Join the conversation and learn how to harness your inner "Delulu" to create the life you desire.Overview:Personal Stories of DelusionThe Power of Delusion in Goal SettingVisualization...
2024-06-1826 min
Modern GaysDating, Friends and Competition (with Love Daddy Trev)Daniel and Garet are joined by love and relationship expert Trevor Kuhn from Love Daddy Trev. Together, they address common questions facing single gay men, such as why they might still be single, how to find the right partner, and navigating the complexities of dating in close-knit gay communities. The discussion also touches on the impact of Pride events on finding love, the competitive nature of dating among gay men, and the importance of self-love and authenticity in relationships. Trevor shares practical advice for dating, from engaging meaningfully with others to managing expectations on dating apps. The episode concludes...
2024-06-1124 min
Modern GaysPower in Gay Pride: Demanding the Love & Respect You DeserveIn this Pride edition of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the deeper meaning of pride beyond the celebrations. They discuss how truly owning and expressing your gay pride every day can lead to incredible personal and societal transformations. From the importance of visibility and acceptance to the ongoing fight for equality and the resilience needed to face challenges, this episode is a heartfelt and empowering exploration of what it means to live with pride. The hosts share personal stories, practical tips, and inspirational insights to help listeners embrace their identities and take action for a more inclusive...
2024-06-0422 min
Modern GaysLooking for Friends or FWB? (with Mindset Coach Kevin Kasir)Kevin Kasir, a gay mindset coach, shares his journey into self-development, emphasizing the importance of a positive mindset and self-love. The conversation covers recognizing negative thought patterns, the significance of taking small actionable steps towards self-improvement, and the impact of deep, supportive friendships. Kevin offers practical advice on overcoming laziness, the role of friendships in mental health, and how to make and maintain meaningful connections. The trio delves into the unique dynamics of LGBTQIA+ friendships, highlighting how deep, supportive connections can significantly enhance mental health. Kevin provides insightful tips on making new friends, maintaining meaningful relationships, and t...
2024-05-2834 min
Modern GaysThe Dating Age Limit & Cross-Generational RelationshipsIn this lively and intimate episode of "Modern Gays," hosts Daniel and Garet delve into the complexities of dating across significant age differences within the LGBTQIA+ community. They discuss everything from the cultural concepts of "daddies" to the emotional and social dynamics that come with large age gaps in relationships.Episode Highlights:Topic of age differences in relationships, setting the stage for a discussion filled with personal insights and broader cultural reflections.Play "Top, Bottom, Flip," selecting celebrities to humorously discuss their preferences in a playful reimagination of the classic game.Daniel and Garet share their...
2024-05-1424 min
Modern GaysThe Gay Guide to Travelling with Nomadic BoysExplore the nuances of LGBTQ+ travel with Stefan Arestis from Nomadic Boys, who along with his partner Sebastien Chaneac, has turned their passion for travel into a powerful platform for advocacy and visibility. This episode covers everything from the safest places for gay travelers, navigating cultural challenges, to the power of supporting local LGBTQ+ communities in conservative countries.In-Depth Overview of Topics Discussed:The Journey of Nomadic Boys: Stefan shares the origin story of their blog and book, detailing how personal experiences shaped their journey into global gay travel experts.Travel Challenges and Triumphs: Insight into...
2024-05-0741 min
Modern GaysStop Cheating on Yourself and Build Honest RelationshipsGet into the nuanced world of modern dating and relationships in this eye-opening episode of Modern Gays. Daniel and Garet chat about the intricacies of flirting, the importance of setting healthy boundaries, and the crucial role of self-worth in forming meaningful connections. Whether discussing the controversial takes of RuPaul on monogamy or the timeless dilemma of revealing too much too soon, this episode is packed with candid insights and laughter. What You'll Learn:Flirting Techniques and Styles: Discover diverse flirting styles—from eye contact to playful touches—and how they can signify interest and b...
2024-04-3029 min
Modern GaysVibrate Higher and HarderHow do vibrational frequencies influence our lives, relationships, and personal growth? We discuss everything from the scientific underpinnings of vibrations to personal anecdotes about outgrowing friends and aligning with energies that uplift and inspire. Join us as we explore how to tune into your own frequency and make meaningful connections that resonate with your true self.Key Topics:Vibrational Frequency Basics: Understanding the science behind how everything around us—including ourselves—vibrates at certain frequencies.Cultural Interpretations: A look at how different cultures understand and utilize energy, featuring concepts like Chi, Prana, and Chakras.Personal Vibration Mana...
2024-04-2329 min
Modern GaysGay AI Boyfriends and IntimacyUnpack how the evolving role of artificial intelligence in shaping our social interactions and personal perceptions. From AI enhancements on dating platforms like Grindr to the cultural implications of AI-generated images, this episode explores how new technologies are redefining norms within the queer community. The discussion also touches on the implications for privacy, the potential for perpetuating stereotypes, and the exciting yet sometimes intimidating prospects that AI technologies might hold for our future. Key Moments/Highlights:[01:00] Discussing the challenges and pressures of gym culture within the gay community.[06:00] Grindr's introduction of A...
2024-04-1627 min
Modern GaysBuilding Relationships: Go Deeper and Cut The Small TalkThe art of fostering deeper connections in queer relationships is asking better questions. From first-date stories to a candid discussion on love languages and the dynamics of friendships with exes, this episode dives into how to cultivate intimacy, understand one another on a profound level, and navigate the complexities of love and relationships.Highlights:First-Date Insights: Enjoy relatable anecdotes and laughter as the hosts recount their own first date, offering listeners a glimpse into their personal lives and the foundation of their connection.Queer Dating Dynamics: Discover how astrological signs might influence dating preferences and relationship d...
2024-04-0926 min
Modern GaysThe Future of Dating: Insights into 2024's Dating TrendsIn this special one-year anniversary episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet return to the heart of the podcast—discussing the intricacies of love and relationships. They dive into the evolving dating landscape of 2024, decoding the fresh lingo and trends that define modern love. From "Canon-Bailing" to "VBD" (Vision Board Dating), they break down the terms you need to know. Plus, a detour into their recent escapades, including their thoughts on Beyoncé's latest album and the virtues of a relaxing getaway. Join them as they explore what these developments mean for seeking connection and understanding in today's fast-paced wor...
2024-04-0231 min
Modern GaysDon’t Make It Awkward: Dealing with Past & Undefined Relationship Run-InsFrom awkward encounters with exes and former friends to fleeting connections on social media, they explore the emotional landscape of recognizing and interacting with people from our past. Through personal anecdotes and reflective insights, Daniel and Garet discuss the importance of treating these encounters with respect, understanding, and perhaps a simple head nod. Join them as they unpack the nuances of LGBTQIA+ relationships and the journey towards inclusivity, respect, and a united community. In This Episode, You’ll Learn About:The various types of past connections and how they impact usStrategies for acknowledging or not...
2024-03-2629 min
Modern GaysRadical Optimism: 6 Steps to a Brighter Queer TomorrowHosts Daniel and Garet kick off the episode by diving into the concept of Radical Optimism, inspired by Dua Lipa's new album of the same name. They explore what it means to maintain a hopeful and positive outlook as a queer individual in today's world. The conversation covers the importance of happiness, storytelling, and the narratives that shape our experiences within the LGBTQ+ community. Key Topics:1. The Power of Radical Optimism:Discussion on how radical optimism can empower the LGBTQ+ community to navigate challenges with grace and positivity. Highlighting the history and im...
2024-03-1932 min
Modern GaysPeter Pan Syndrome: Are We Afraid to Grow Up? (with Angel Serrata)Join us as we unravel the mysteries of Peter Pan Syndrome—a journey that many gay men find themselves navigating, caught between the allure of eternal youth and the inevitable call to grow up. But what if growing up didn't mean letting go of the wonder?Episode Highlights:Hosts Daniel and Garet open up about personal encounters with adulthood and the allure of eternal youth, setting the stage for a deeper dive into overcoming Peter Pan Syndrome.Special guest, Angel Serrata, founder of Uplift Fitness, shares his inspiring journey from battling personal demons and societal expectations to...
2024-03-0529 min
Modern GaysLiving Authentically: Building Your Values Through FluencyDaniel and Garet dive into the essence of living authentically in a world where the concept of authenticity is often overused yet misunderstood. They explore what it means to be fluent in your true self, share personal anecdotes about their journeys, and discuss how everyone's authenticity is uniquely defined. Join us as we unpack the layers of being authentically you, with insights from our lives and listeners' questions that touch on everything from communication styles to dealing with daily challenges in staying true to oneself. Topics Discussed:Introduction: Daniel and Garet kick off the e...
2024-02-2730 min
Modern GaysThe Advantages of Dating a KinksterLet's talk about kinks. From discussing the historical perspective and societal shifts around kinks to diving deep into the non-sexual perks of being or dating a kinkster, this episode is all about demystifying and celebrating the kink community. Plus, the "Only Whispers" segment addresses real listener questions, providing thoughtful insights into navigating kinks in relationships.Highlights:Taylor Swift's Melbourne Takeover: A brief but lively discussion on the impact of Taylor Swift's concert in Melbourne and its connection to embracing one's true self.Kink 101: An exploration of what kinks are, their possible genetic links, and the shift...
2024-02-2027 min
Modern GaysDon't Ignore The Signs: How to Get the Honeymoon Phase BackDo you wish the intoxicating world of the honeymoon phase in relationships would last longer? This episode explores the science behind why we feel so head over heels during those early days, whether this euphoric feeling lasts forever, and practical tips on keeping the love alive. Featuring personal anecdotes, a playful game of "For Love or Money," and insightful advice on maintaining communication, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand or extend their relationship's honeymoon phase. Key Takeaways:The honeymoon phase is a unique period of euphoria and intense attraction in a...
2024-02-1324 min
Modern GaysSecret Sweaty Science: Armpits, Pheromones and YouExplore the fascinating realm of pheromones as Daniel and Garet discuss how these chemical signals shape sexual attraction and personal preferences. They explore everything from the role of body odors in arousal to the significance of scent in determining compatibility. The conversation also touches on personal hygiene preferences, exploring the divide between attraction to natural scents and the appeal of cleanliness. Additionally, the hosts answer listener questions in their "Only Whispers" segment, addressing topics ranging from balancing casual sex with seeking serious relationships, to fun hypotheticals about relationship superpowers, and advice on booty care.Key Topics:...
2024-01-3020 min
Modern GaysOpenly Gay Debate: Media's Role in Shaping LGBTQ+ ViewsLet's get into the nuances of being "openly gay" and how language shapes LGBTQ+ identity. Host's Daniel and Garet dissect the term's implications, weigh its historical context, and its evolving significance in 2024. The episode also features the popular segment "Only Whispers," addressing listener queries on deepening first-date conversations, navigating dating apps, and a lively discussion on RuPaul's Drag Race Season 16 series. This episode not only questions the language we use in the LGBTQ+ community but also celebrates the progress and representation achieved so far. Key Discussions:The Openly Gay Debate: Delving into the cultural a...
2024-01-2325 min
Modern GaysDealing with Rumors and Nastiness: Saying Yes, And?Explore the intricate dynamics of rumors and outside noise through the lens of 'Real Housewives of Salt Lake City' and Ariana Grande's latest hit "yes, and?". The episode dissects how public perception and unsolicited opinions can affect personal and professional lives, especially within the LGBTQ+ community. The discussion includes an in-depth analysis of 'Yes, And?', listener questions on relationship dynamics and financial management, and strategies for embracing authenticity and resilience. Key Topics:Reality TV and Public PerceptionEmpowerment and Self-Advocacy in MusicNavigating Personal RelationshipsFinancial Harmony in RelationshipsAuthenticity and Resilience in the LGBTQ+ Community ...
2024-01-1629 min
Modern GaysClear Communication: Being Heard and UnderstoodDeep dive into the complexities and subtleties of interpersonal interactions. Hosts Daniel and Garet share their personal experiences and insights, tackling the challenges of miscommunication, the detrimental effects of playing the blame game, and the crucial balance of maintaining individuality while fostering a thriving sexual and emotional bond in a relationship. They discuss the impact of multilingual abilities on understanding, the role of family and childhood experiences in shaping communication styles, and provide practical strategies for breaking negative patterns. The episode also features a listener engagement segment, 'Only Whispers,' addressing real-life queries about relationship dynamics.
2024-01-0925 min
Modern Gays2024 Ins and Outs, Hot Topic Dating Advice & Secret OnlyFansWe explore the Ins and Outs of 2024, share our personal resolutions and introduce a new segment that we'll feature in every episode in Season 2 of Modern Gays for 2024. Our unique blend of humor, insight, and audience engagement makes this episode a must-listen for those interested in LGBTQ+ culture, lifestyle, and relationships. Daniel and Garet share their personal growth goals and resolutions, reflecting on the lessons from 2023 and setting an optimistic tone for the new year. The episode also dives into community trends for 2024, featuring insights from "Out Magazine." Don't miss our new weekly segment, "Only Whispers", which a...
2024-01-0231 min
Modern GaysModern Gays Season 2 TrailerWe're Daniel and Garet, your hosts of Modern Gays. We lead conversations on LGBTQ+ culture, lifestyle, sex, and relationships. We're your knowledgeable gay besties, leading the way through our vibrant world together. From spotlighting influential figures in our community, engaging in expert interviews, to keeping you informed about the latest in media and advocacy – we approach each episode with charisma, uniqueness, nerve, and talent. We're here to explore, educate, and entertain. Whether untangling complex issues or spilling some juicy gossip, we go in deep. Our special segment, "Only Whispers," turns your questions into rich, engaging dialogues, making you...
2024-01-0101 min
Modern GaysHow Gag City Slayed Twitter and Threads Snatched The CrownIn this episode, we're diving into the vibrant and imaginative world of Gag City, inspired by Nicki Minaj's "Pink Friday 2" album. We discuss how Gag City has become a symbol of inclusivity and LGBTQ+ pride, igniting a resurgence on platforms like Twitter. We also tackle the shift in digital spaces, examining the decline of Gay Twitter and how Threads is emerging as a new haven for community building. This episode is a mix of pop culture deep dive, digital community analysis, and reflections on the future of online interaction. Whether you're a Barb, a tech enthusiast, or someone passionate...
2023-12-1928 min
Modern GaysThe Sexual Fluidity Flex: Identifying As Heteroflexible, Bisexual or Bi-CuriousJoin us as we navigate the often misunderstood and under-explored territory of heteroflexibility. In a society increasingly embracing the fluid spectrum of sexuality, this episode offers a deep dive into the heart of what it means to identify outside traditional labels. We bring personal anecdotes, cultural insights, and a touch of humor to demystify and celebrate the complexities of sexual identity. Whether you're well-versed in LGBTQ+ topics or new to the conversation, this episode provides a fresh perspective on the evolving landscape of human sexuality. Key Discussion Points:Defining Heteroflexibility: How it differs from b...
2023-12-1223 min
Modern Gays2023 Wrapped: The Best of Modern Gays Season 1Thank you for being a part of our journey. We only have two more episodes planned for this year, and are releasing lots of exciting episodes in Season 2 launching January 2nd! Timestamps:[02:00]: The Evolution of "Modern Gays"[03:15]: Top Episodes and Why They Resonated[13:15]: Highlighting Memorable Interviews [16:00]: Answering Listener Questions:[19:00]: Most Fun Moments of 2023 Featured Episodes:"Am I the Drama? Am I the Villain?""Unapologetically Standing Tall""Pride Unveiled""Finding Home: Queer Insights on Home Design and Numerology""Booty Care 101""We Got Ghosted""Your Era and You""Exes and Ohs!"
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2023-12-0522 min
Modern GaysLisa Rinna Realness: Be Honest, OWN IT! and Move OnWe chat about the significance of being honest, owning it, and the art of moving on. Explore these themes through personal anecdotes, reflections on family dynamics, and parallels drawn from "The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills." The conversation underscores the importance of honesty in personal growth and relationships, especially within the LGBTQIA+ community. Topics Discussed:The balance between honesty and empathy in relationships.How family upbringing influences one's approach to honesty.The contrast between characters like Erika Jane and Sutton on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills in handling honesty.The role of authenticity in L...
2023-11-2828 min
Modern GaysCan Sparks Predict Long-Lasting Love? (with Love Daddy Trev)Hosts Daniel and Garet, along with special guest Love Daddy Trev, dive deep into the complexities of sparks, chemistry, and building lasting connections. They explore the nature of the "spark" in relationships, the evolution of attraction, and the significance of maintaining individuality and communication within a partnership. Topics Discussed: Understanding the Spark: What is the spark in a relationship, and is it necessary for a lasting connection? The discussion sheds light on how sparks and chemistry play a role in the initial stages of a relationship and their evolution over time.Physical Attraction vs...
2023-11-2132 min
Modern GaysIVF Daddies: Starting Your Journey to ParenthoodIn this heartening episode of Modern Gays, we delve deep into the emotional and practical aspects of IVF and surrogacy for LGBTQ+ families. Joined by our insightful guests, Richard Westoby and Julio Gaggia of IVF Daddies, we explore the highs and lows of creating a family, discussing everything from choosing the right IVF clinic and surrogacy agency to the legal intricacies involved. This episode is not just a guide; it's a beacon of hope and understanding for anyone on or considering this path. Topics Discussed: Choosing the Right Clinic and Agency: The im...
2023-11-1427 min
Modern GaysA Guide to Meeting the Family: Thanksgiving EditionToday's episode dives into the intricate dance of introducing your partner to your family and friends, a pivotal moment for many in the LGBTQ+ community. We explore the nuances of making a good first impression, handling potential conflicts, and the importance of post-meeting reflections. Meeting the family or friends of your partner can be a mix of anxiety and excitement, but it's a journey worth navigating for the growth and depth it adds to a relationship. Key Points Discussed: Prep Talk: The significance of a 'prep talk' before meeting the family, setting ex...
2023-11-0731 min
Modern GaysScorpio Season Spells & Halloween's LGBTQ+ MagicIn this spooktacular episode, Daniel and Garet dive into the transformative energy of Scorpio season and its impact on the LGBTQ+ community. They also explore why Halloween is often referred to as "Gay Christmas." Plus, celebrity astrologer Kyle Thomas shares his insights on what to expect this Scorpio season. Listen to the full Scorpio Season clip by Kyle Thomas on our Modern Gays website here. Highlights:The transformative energy of Scorpio season and its impact on the LGBTQ+ community.Why Halloween is often referred to as "Gay Christmas."Special horoscope updates for each Zodiac s...
2023-10-3127 min
Modern GaysGay Math: Cracking the CodeJoin Daniel and Garet as they decode the viral sensation of "gay math," a playful yet thought-provoking lens on LGBTQIA+ culture, relationships, and stereotypes. From navigating relationship red flags to the ethics of Pride merch, this episode is a whirlwind of chuckles and enlightenment. This episode promises a rollercoaster of laughter, a-ha moments, and soul-searching reflections. So, grab your calculators and your sense of humor, because we're about to crunch some numbers and shatter some stereotypes, all while celebrating the fabulous diversity of the LGBTQIA+ community. Key Topics Discussed:The birth and impact of "ga...
2023-10-2425 min
Modern GaysGiving and Receiving: The Balancing ActDaniel and Garet explore the intricate dynamics of giving and receiving in relationships. From friendships to dating and even in the bedroom, they delve into how the balance—or imbalance—of giving and receiving can shape our connections and emotional well-being. Topics Discussed:Strangers: A simple smile or nod can make a big difference.Friendships: The balance of giving and receiving should be closer to 50/50.Dating: Early stages may involve financial giving, but emotional investment is key.Sex: The best experiences involve both partners giving and receiving.Long-term Relationships: Multiple facets of giving and taking...
2023-10-1728 min
Modern GaysNavigating the Maze of Social Perceptions and Genuine SelfThe intricate web of perceptions, authenticity, and the impact of empty promises in our social interactions. Daniel and Garet explore the concept of "faking it till you make it" and how it intertwines with our self-presentation, especially in the realms of social media and personal interactions. The discussion meanders through the nuances of maintaining authenticity in various scenarios, from casual meet-ups to professional settings, and how perceptions can sometimes cloud our judgments and interactions. The hosts also touch upon the cultural shifts in social commitments and the importance of genuine connections amidst the sea of superficiality. ...
2023-10-1026 min
Modern GaysComing Out vs. Coming In: Trading Validation for Self-AcceptanceIn this heartfelt episode, we discuss our personal coming out stories and the challenges we faced. Talking about the concept of "coming in" as a celebration of one's authentic self, rather than seeking external validation - can we switch the language and take more ownership of our story? Throughout our chat, we emphasize the importance of sharing experiences, fostering understanding, and promoting acceptance within the LGBTQ+ community and society at large. Topics Covered:The tradition and challenges of revealing one's LGBTQ+ identityPersonal Journeys of AcceptanceIntroducing 'Coming In': The celebration of self-identityCrafting one's narrative and t...
2023-10-0328 min
Modern GaysGay Dinner: You're Invited!Dive into the myths surrounding the "bottom's diet" and the intersection of food, body image, and sexuality within the LGBTQ+ community. The hosts debunk misconceptions, emphasizing the importance of a balanced diet and self-care for intimate well-being. They explore the concept of "gay dinner," redefining it as a celebration of community, inclusivity, and self-love. The episode is a feast of insights, aiming to empower listeners to embrace their authentic selves and build a supportive community.The conversation touches on personal experiences and societal pressures around body image, particularly in the gay community. The hosts share their own...
2023-09-2624 min
Modern GaysYour Life, Your Timeline: Breaking Free from Societal PressuresEver felt the pressure to stick to a timeline that doesn't resonate with you? Whether it's career goals, relationships, or personal milestones, we're here to tell you that it's okay to rewrite the script. Tune in to discover how to live life on your terms, free from societal expectations. In this episode, we're diving deep into the concept of life timelines and how they can be both liberating and limiting. We share our personal journeys of setting, achieving, and readjusting our own timelines, and how we've learned to relieve the pressure and embrace change. This is a conversation about...
2023-09-1926 min
Modern GaysQuest for The One: Dating Tips with Love Daddy TrevCertified love and relationship coach joins us, Trevor Kuhn, popularly known as Love Daddy Trev on social media. Get ready to explore the intricacies of dating, the taboos, the stigmas, and the age-old question: should you have sex on the first date? We're not just talking about dating; we're exploring the journey of finding authentic love. From the pressures of the dating scene to the importance of self-awareness and authenticity, Trevor shares his insights and personal experiences to help navigate the complex world of modern relationships.Topics Covered:The challenges of the modern dating scene.The...
2023-09-1234 min
Modern GaysHow To Make Your Gay Dreams Come TrueAre you ready to turn your gay dreams into reality? We're here to guide you through the maze of barriers and into a life you love. In today's episode, Daniel and Garet explore the concept of "gay dreams" and how to make them come true. We discuss the importance of identifying your dreams, overcoming barriers, and setting achievable goals. Whether it's career aspirations, relationship goals, or personal milestones, we've got you covered. Topics Covered:What are "gay dreams" and how do they differ from other dreams?Internal vs. External Barriers: What's holding you back?T...
2023-09-0529 min
Modern GaysBooty Care 101: Queer Sexual Health with Doctor CarltonWe explore the intersection of healthcare and the LGBTQIA+ community with Dr. Carlton, a gastroenterologist based in San Diego. From the importance of sexual health to the nuances of queer healthcare, Dr. Carlton shares his expertise and personal journey in a way that's both educational and relatable. Topics Covered:Dr. Carlton's journey into gastroenterology and queer healthThe importance of sexual health awarenessThe "Clock Method" for anal relaxationThe role of social media in queer health educationThe impact of healthcare inequities on the LGBTQIA+ communityVaccinations and preventive measures for STIsThe concept of Doxy Pep and its potential b...
2023-08-2923 min
Modern GaysShine Bright Like a Hollywould Star [Interview]Silence!! Bring back our girl... Hollywould Star! RuPaul's Drag Race Down Under Season 3 contestant Hollywould Star joins us for an exclusive Modern Gays' interview! We chat about her start in drag, moving to Australia and how to find the support you need to succeed. Topics Discussed:Hollywould Star gives us an exciting insight into her journey in drag, illustrating the significance of living in the moment and shaping the new era of drag.We discuss behind-the-scenes details about the current season of RuPaul's Drag Race Down Under and the experience for Hollywould and her c...
2023-08-2239 min
Modern GaysEmbracing Change: The Spark That Ignites EvolutionThe profound subject of change and evolution... From personal stories of self-discovery to practical strategies for embracing change, this episode is a heartfelt exploration of growth and identity. Whether you're seeking inspiration or looking to understand the dynamics of change in your life, this episode promises to be a thought-provoking journey.In this episode, Daniel and Garet discuss the intricate relationship between change and evolution, sharing their personal experiences and insights. They explore the catalysts that spark change, the challenges and triumphs along the way, and the beautiful process of becoming who you are meant to be...
2023-08-1525 min
Modern GaysDisappointing Others to Stay True to YourselfDrawing from their personal narratives, Daniel and Garet share intimate experiences and insights about the fear of disappointing others, particularly in the context of coming out and embracing their authentic selves. They navigate the delicate balance between accommodating others and prioritizing their own needs, highlighting how this equilibrium significantly shapes their sense of control, happiness, and overall well-being.Through their conversation, Daniel and Garet underscore the importance of self-care and setting boundaries, demonstrating how these practices can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life. They challenge listeners to reflect on their own lives, encouraging them to...
2023-08-0821 min
Modern GaysFinding Home: Queer Insights on Home Design and NumerologyCheck out this heartfelt and humorous journey as we explore the concept of "home" from a uniquely queer perspective. From feng shui and house numerology to the importance of community and self-expression, this episode dives into what makes a house a home. Whether you're moving, settling in, or just reflecting on your space, this episode is packed with insights, laughs, and a touch of fabulous flair. Tune in and find your "success corner" with the Modern Gays!Daniel and Garet share their personal experiences with house hunting, moving, and creating a space that reflects their authentic selves...
2023-08-0122 min
Modern GaysMind Your Business: Are You Oversharing Too Much or Not Enough?We venture into the gray areas of oversharing and personal boundaries, setting the stage for a compelling conversation. Will you discover you're an oversharer or someone who keeps things close to your chest?In this episode, we navigate the landscape of today's oversharing culture. From reality TV celebrities spilling intimate life details to our social media feeds filled with minute-by-minute updates, the line between sharing and oversharing has been blurred. We’ll explore the effects of oversharing on our personal relationships and mental health, and how it can impact our sense of self.Adding a po...
2023-07-2526 min
Modern GaysEmbrace Your Inner Barbie and Unleash Your Authentic PowerHave you heard these myths about Barbie as a role model for self-acceptance and empowerment? Myth 1: Barbie is only for girls. Myth 2: Barbie only promotes unrealistic beauty standards. Myth 3: Barbie lacks substance and is just a pretty face. But what if we told you that the truth is far more empowering and inclusive? Stay tuned for the eye-opening truth about Barbie's role in fostering self-acceptance and empowerment for all genders.Topics Discussed:Discover Barbie's transformative journey that has made a significant impact on social norms and ideals.Uncover how Barbie can act as a catalyst...
2023-07-1818 min
Modern GaysThe Value of Gay Friendships and Diverse ExperiencesAppreciate the profound impact of a diverse pool of friends on broadening your horizons and empathic understanding. Sail through the intricacies of forming and maintaining friendships within the landscape of being gay. Reveal how shared understanding among the gay community acts as a fulcrum that strengthens bonds. Recognize the necessity of defining boundaries and expectations to sustain healthy relationships among gay couples. Gauge the worth of friendships through the lens of mutual support and encouragement. Chapters:00:06 - Why You Need Gay Friends03:31 - Difficulty in Making Gay Friends05:39 - Ways to Make Friends09:50 - H...
2023-07-1127 min
Modern GaysWasted Time: Ain’t Nobody Got Time For ThatHave you ever caught yourself wondering where your day went? Or how did your perception of time drastically change from your twenties to your thirties? We have, and we're here to tell you it can feel like a whirlwind, but it doesn't have to. We'll share our personal experiences and discuss how being intentional with our time can improve happiness and fulfilment. It's all about finding the right balance and channelling our time towards activities and people who enrich our lives. So, buckle up and join us on this journey to truly understand the value of time and how...
2023-07-0422 min
Modern GaysWriting Your Own Wedding Rules with Megan WatsonWe had the privilege of sitting down with Megan Watson, Australia's leading celebrant, who shared invaluable insights on everything from attraction versus true love, to connecting with wedding vendors, and the transition from dating to marriage. Our own wedding photographer, Katie Harmsworth, played a significant role in our special day, and Megan helped us understand how that connection was based on genuine emotion and the importance of such connections in creating a memorable wedding experience. The conversation touched on the evolution of weddings since the legalization of same-sex marriage in Australia, the impact of inclusive language on modern ceremonies...
2023-06-2726 min
Modern GaysModern Families: Exploring Adoption and Surrogacy for LGBTQ+ CouplesWe explore the concept of "DINKS" - Dual Income No Kids - and the idea of forgoing having kids in favor of living a life of potential luxury and adventure. Listen in as we discuss the challenges many gay couples face when considering starting a family and how a lack of education and resources may influence their decision. We also look at the adoption and surrogacy process for LGBTQ+ families, discussing the difficulties and legal challenges that may arise. Hear our thoughts on balancing the DINKS lifestyle with parenthood and how we'll try to navigate it. Lastly, we share...
2023-06-2025 min
Modern GaysLove or Lust at First Sight?We deep-dive into the complexities and nuances of love, questioning the notion of love at first sight and exploring the roles of attraction and lust in relationships. Through personal anecdotes and societal expectations, hosts Daniel and Garet provide a well-rounded understanding of love, especially in the context of queer relationships. They discuss love languages, the differences between attraction and genuine love, and the impact of representation in reality television. This episode offers a heartfelt and insightful conversation about love in all its forms.Key Highlights:Understanding Love at First Sight: Exploring if it's truly love or...
2023-06-1324 min
Modern GaysPride Unveiled: A Journey Through Celebration, Freedom and LoveWe deep-dive into the various dimensions of Pride, a term often oversimplified by commercial festivities and flamboyant parades. Drawing from personal journeys, hosts Daniel and Garet share heartfelt letters to their younger selves, triggering a powerful conversation on Pride’s multifaceted significance. Beyond the rainbow glitter and party spirit, this episode reveals the real essence of Pride: celebration, freedom, community, self-love, sexuality, gender euphoria, intersexuality, and the continuous fight for rights. It’s a vivid narrative that explores both the joys and challenges of the LGBTQIA+ community, serving as a reminder that Pride is not just a once-a-year event but...
2023-06-0628 min
Modern GaysThe Illusion of Inclusion: Calling Out Rainbow WashingExplore the discussions on the symbolism of the rainbow flag, the monetization of LGBTQ+ pride celebrations by corporations, and the concept of 'rainbow washing'. Understand personal experiences of workplace inclusivity, and delve into the examination of brands' performative allyship. Learn about the implications of the commercialization of Pride and the significant role of consumer responsibility in supporting genuinely inclusive brands.Key Highlights:Rainbow Flag Symbolism: Understanding the evolution and marketing use of the rainbow flag.Monetization of Pride: Examining how corporations target the LGBTQ+ community during Pride.Case Study - Target: Insights into Target's Pride collection...
2023-05-3022 min
Modern GaysUnapologetically Standing TallLet's unpack the enigmatic social phenomenon known as Tall Poppy Syndrome. Ever felt undermined for your success? Garet shares his striking experiences with this syndrome upon his move to Australia, revealing how it shaped his self-expression. Meanwhile, Daniel, from the dance community's perspective, takes us through his journey of maintaining individuality amid conformity. They delve into the potential pitfalls of this syndrome, offering empowering strategies to rise above. From understanding its origins to gauging its prevalence across nations, they leave no stone unturned. The episode peaks as it underscores the paramountcy of personal growth, authenticity, and uplifting those around...
2023-05-2327 min
Modern GaysGaybourhood News with Ben Grubb [Interview]Delve into the vibrant LGBTQIA+ scene of Sydney with Ben Grubb, an influential journalist and editor at The Sydney Morning Herald and founder of Gay Sydney News. The episode explores Ben's transition from traditional journalism to social media platforms, highlighting the rise of digital news tailored for Gen Z and millennials. Ben shares insights into Sydney's gaybourhood and nightlife, comparing it with Melbourne's queer spaces. He discusses significant LGBTQIA+ stories, including the groundbreaking Grindr data breach report and upcoming narratives. The conversation also covers Ben's creative project documenting drag queens' transformations, offering a unique perspective on the intersection of...
2023-05-1626 min
Modern GaysThe Evolution of Bathsheba: Melbourne's Iconic Drag QueenIn this episode, we delve into the vibrant world of Bathsheba, a prominent figure in Melbourne's drag scene. The conversation begins with a quickfire challenge, revealing fun insights about her life as a drag queen. Bathsheba discusses the origin of her name and her inspiration from misunderstood villains like Maleficent and Elphaba. She elaborates on her creative process, including her annual aesthetic refresh, and gives a sneak peek into her upcoming evolution. Bathsheba offers valuable advice for aspiring drag queens, emphasizing the importance of reading the room and adapting performances. The episode also covers her experiences during an underground...
2023-05-0931 min
Modern GaysExes and Ohs! When Can You Be Friends with an Ex?Exploring the delicate terrain of remaining friends with ex-partners, this episode shares personal experiences and perspectives on the challenges involved. Topics include the impact of lingering sexual connections, navigating friends-with-benefits zones, and recognizing when to end a relationship early. The discussion highlights the prevalence of run-ins with exes in the gay community and the use of the friend zone as an exit strategy. Emphasizing self-worth and the importance of trusting the process of life, the hosts offer insights on maintaining healthy boundaries post-breakup and when friendship might be feasible.Key Highlights:Defining Friendships with Exes: Exploring...
2023-05-0223 min
Modern GaysWe Got Ghosted: Getting Closure in BreakupsThis episode dives into the phenomenon of ghosting, examining its impact on relationships and emotional well-being. The hosts share personal stories, including Garet's experience of being ghosted in New York and Daniel's "slow ghost" tactic as a go-go dancer. They discuss ghosting in various contexts, such as dating, friendships, and even professional situations, and introduce the concept of "pre-approved ghosting" on hookup apps. The conversation covers the emotional toll of being ghosted by close friends and unexpected guests, and concludes with advice on improving communication and the significance of closure in moving forward from relationships.Key Highlights:
2023-04-2521 min
Modern GaysYour Era and You: The Power of Self ReflectionIn this episode, the hosts delve into the meaning of eras and their significance in our lives. They discuss how to recognize, reflect on, and extend one's era, with insights from Natasha Graziano on manifesting. The conversation covers the fun side of eras, with examples from pop culture, and addresses the serious "Fighter Era" of the LGBTQ+ equality movement. The hosts explore the role of astrology, the history of drag performers, and the issues they face today. Emphasizing the importance of unity and support, they encourage listeners to identify their eras and set future goals while supporting the LGBTQ+...
2023-04-1827 min
Modern GaysAm I The Drama? Am I The Villain? Being Your Authentic SelfHosts Daniel and Garet delve into the concepts of drama, villainy, and authenticity in relation to the LGBTQ+ community. They discuss the significance of embracing one's true self, navigating societal expectations, and finding the right balance in self-expression. Starting with a humorous story about an unexpected encounter on their way to dinner, they explore the idea of drama in self-expression and examine how to remain authentic while being outwardly expressive. The discussion includes adapting personas based on different environments, balancing drama with avoiding becoming a villain, and the impact of cultural icons like RuPaul's Drag Race on LGBTQ+ visibility...
2023-04-1122 min
Modern GaysQueer A.I. and AlgorithmsJoin hosts Daniel and Garet as they navigate the intriguing intersection of artificial intelligence (AI) and the LGBTQIA+ community. They discuss AI's origins, its role in digital interactions, and its influence on content curation and advertising. The episode covers the debate around AI's ability to identify sexual orientation, the potential benefits and fears associated with AI, and the implications for identity and representation. Featuring insights on Chat GPT and OpenAI, surprising AI facts, and a teaser for next week's episode on the viral "Am I the drama?" trend, this episode offers a blend of thoughtful analysis and entertaining anecdotes.
2023-04-0419 min
Modern GaysWelcome to the Gayborhood: Los Angeles and MelbourneIn this engaging episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the vibrant LGBTQ+ landscapes of Los Angeles and Melbourne, sharing personal stories of moving, finding love, and building community. They discuss the nuances of dating, explore the concept of the "Modern Gay," and offer humorous anecdotes from one-night-only gay bars. The episode features a playful debate comparing the "gaybourhoods" of each city and imagines choosing a mayor for their ideal gayborhood, with a fun showdown between Sasha Colby and Moira Rose. The episode wraps up with a teaser for next week's discussion on artificial intelligence and its...
2023-03-2823 min