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The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Bare-Minimum MythWhen does a “quick text back” morph from courtesy into handcuffs? In this unfiltered round-table, Malcolm Traverse and the M3 crew probe the slippery world of bare minimums—those unspoken yardsticks that can make or break our sense of care. From birthday-gift price tags to the dread of a left-on-read bubble, we ask why modern love so often feels like an endless terms-and-conditions screen.Inside the EpisodeGeneration Ping: How constant connectivity rewired our expectations of instant replies—and why older and younger daters clash over it.Unspoken ≠ Universal: Why assuming everyone shares you...
2025-07-1127 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindCalling Out Spiritual BypassingWhen faith becomes an excuse, someone has to say “enough.” In this round-table discussion —recorded April 30, 2025—Malcolm Traverse sits with Greg, Devon, and Swag to pry open the glossy shell of “love-and-light” culture and ask the harder question: Is your spirituality actually helping you grow, or just hiding the mess?Across laughter, side-eyes, and a few black-church memories, we wrestle with:what “spiritual bypassing” really means—and why “everything happens for a reason” can be a velvet-lined cop-out;using faith as a launchpad and a crutch: where’s the line?;the uneasy marriage of mental health, trauma, and Sunday-morni...
2025-07-0428 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindJameson Joins the Den Are tweets a true town square or just neon static? In this M3 Bear Cast, host Malcolm Travers invites 22-year-old communications grad Jameson into a circle usually held by forty- and fifty-somethings. The result: sparks of insight across the age gap.Together they probe:Whether social media builds community or breeds counterfeit intimacy.How hope can be both lifeline and shackle in long-distance “situationships.”The performance of masculinity in queer spaces—and who gets to call it “real.”Coming-out tales that range from quiet inevitability to surprise plot twists.Workplace closets, generational blind spots, and the pri...
2025-06-2033 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindBalancing Energies and ResponsibilityIn this episode of the M3 Bear Cast, Malcolm Travers unpacks two deeply entangled topics: the duality of masculine and feminine energy, and our shared responsibility to one another in dating and beyond. From cultural hangups around tops and bottoms to the confusion many gay Black men face when navigating gender roles in same-sex relationships, the conversation is raw, funny, and revealing. We also explore a powerful question: do we owe each other honesty—even when it’s uncomfortable? With personal stories, lively dialogue, and plenty of shade, this episode challenges the status quo while offering a space for refl...
2025-05-2333 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindUseful Lies and Our Uneasy Grasp of the TruthIn this episode of the M3 Bearcast, host Malcolm Travers asks a deceptively simple question: Is truth always worth believing? — and discovers the answer is messier than it looks. Inspired by a TikTok deep-thinker’s take on conspiracy culture, Malcolm flips the usual inquiry (“Why do people swallow obvious falsehoods?”) into its mirror image: Why do most of us cling to truths at all, when well-placed fictions can be far more useful?Optical illusions set the stage. “The Dress” and a sneaky rotating-window trick show how our brains gladly trade accuracy for survival-ready shortcuts, heightening contrast or inventing 3-D depth whe...
2025-05-1632 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindSlop, Solidarity & Survival In this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers digs into two powerful topics: the intentional decline in product and cultural quality under capitalism (“slop”) and the grassroots power of mutual aid as a survival tool in a crumbling economy. Why do we accept cheap, disposable goods? What can we learn from countries like Rwanda about caring for the unhoused and maintaining dignity without money? Through livestream excerpts and personal reflections, Malcolm challenges the comfort trap, explores community-based alternatives, and calls for a radical rethinking of value, dependence, and resistance.🔗 Join the conversation. 🧠 Follow for r...
2025-04-1835 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindHell Loops and the Comforts of Being ControlledIn this episode, Malcolm Travers and the M3 panel explore a deeply philosophical concept called “hell loops”—cyclical systems that perpetuate suffering and control. Drawing from a TikTok video, they discuss how this idea applies not only to Western religious paradigms of God and Satan, but also to capitalism and personal belief systems. The conversation then shifts to why some people feel compelled to have others share their beliefs, and concludes with a reflection on the difference between trust and faith—particularly in the context of science versus religion.Thank you for tuning in to the M3 BearC...
2025-03-1439 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindExploring Justice, Karma, and Political DiscontentExploring Just World Fallacy, Karma, and the Psychology of Victim BlamingIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers presents three segments from the M3 live broadcast on February 26, 2025. The topics discussed include the just world fallacy, the fallacy of 'fuck around and find out,' and the concept of fairness through a psychological experiment. The episode also delves into the rationale behind victim blaming, the Western adaptation of karma, and how these coping mechanisms shape our worldviews. Additionally, it touches on voting behaviors, particularly around the 2024 U.S. presidential election, and explores themes of spirituality...
2025-02-2831 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindPerspectives, Culture, and IdentityIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers delves deep into various topics surrounding relationships, cultural influences, and personal perspectives. Malcolm explores how our viewpoints are shaped and defended, the impact of white supremacy on self-perception, and the delicate issue of maintaining old flames while in new relationships. He shares personal insights about living with bipolar disorder and how it affects his view of reality. Additionally, Malcolm discusses the subtle but pervasive effects of culture and social norms on behavior and identity, particularly within the context of black and white interactions in America. Tune in for an engaging...
2025-01-0737 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindBeauty, Homophobia, and Emotional RegulationExploring Beauty, Homophobia, and Emotional RegulationIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers delves into three topics. First, the philosophy of beauty is examined through the lens of historical dyes and modern AI, questioning how rarity and process affect our perception of beauty. Next, the conversation shifts to homophobia in mass media, discussing the viewpoint that there is a 'gay agenda' in entertainment, especially in the African-American community. Finally, Malcolm addresses emotional regulation and how to approach negative emotions, providing insights into self-judgment, control, and societal expectations.00:00 Welcome to M3 BearCast00:54 Exploring...
2024-12-1733 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindLevels of Complicity, Situationships and Letting Go to Have FunExploring Capitalism, Love, and the Concept of Don't Trade Fun for FunIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers of MaleMediaMind delves into various intriguing topics. The podcast starts with a discussion on the shooting of United Healthcare CEO Brian Thompson, highlighting issues of complicity in capitalism. Malcolm transitions into an analysis of the movie '500 Days of Summer,' examining themes of love and relationships. He also introduces the concept of 'Don't Trade Fun for Fun,' emphasizing the importance of savoring enjoyable moments without overcomplicating them. The episode concludes by inviting listeners to...
2024-12-1033 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindFleeting Moments, Vulnerability, and Our Need for Meaningful WorkEmbracing Fleeting Moments, Vulnerability, and Meaningful Work | M3 BearCastWelcome to the M3 BearCast hosted by Malcolm Travers. This episode delves into three thought-provoking topics: the transient nature of reality and the role of grief in appreciating the present, the importance of vulnerability in forming meaningful relationships, and the concept of 'bullshit jobs' and finding value in our work. Travers draws insights from books like 'Meditations for Mortals' by Oliver Beckman and 'Bullshit Jobs' by David Graeber, offering a deep dive into the psychology behind these essential life aspects. Tune in for a compelling discussion on embracing...
2024-12-0330 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindEmbracing Imperfection, Relationships, and Content CreationIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers introduces MailMediaMind, a grassroots organization that promotes community upliftment through meaningful conversations on self-development, spirituality, and relationships. Malcolm discusses different perspectives on happiness, influenced by insights from a TikTok creator on embracing inherent personality traits and the drawbacks of forced optimism. He also explores relationship red flags and challenges common assumptions about relationship longevity. Concluding with a segment on content creation, Malcolm shares his journey, emphasizing the importance of consistency over perfectionism and the value of genuine engagement with his audience. Listeners are encouraged to engage with the M3 community...
2024-11-2632 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindDating, Self-Love, and Post-Breakup FriendshipsIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers explores various issues within the gay community, particularly focusing on dating, body positivity, self-esteem, and post-breakup friendships. Featuring a segment on dating dynamics within gay relationships, the script delves into a personal story about a man's disillusionment with romantic pursuits. Malcolm discusses themes such as hookup culture, intimacy, and taking responsibility for one's actions. The episode also addresses a listener's struggle with body image and societal acceptance, offering advice on self-love and outward confidence. Finally, Malcolm examines the complexities of remaining friends after a breakup, especially in the context of...
2024-11-1932 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindPost-Election Reflections and Coping StrategiesIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers discusses the impact of recent presidential election results and his personal reaction to the re-election of Donald Trump. Travers shares his journey through depression after the 2016 election and his thoughts on the broader implications of political events. He emphasizes the importance of acceptance, community building, and self-care in the face of political turmoil. Travers also critiques various political narratives and calls for a new, unifying story that promotes both individual and collective well-being. He offers insights on the importance of mental health, resilience, and the roles that grassroots efforts play...
2024-11-1229 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindElection Day ReflectionsElection Day Reflections and the Burden of FreedomIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers addresses the complex and often tumultuous relationship he has with presidential politics, especially in light of the upcoming election. Travers delves into topics such as the philosophical concept of freedom, the consequences of voting for third-party candidates, and the intricate dynamics of political and social oppression. He also explores the psychological factors that drive people to support authoritarian figures and reflects on the impact of the Trump administration on his mental health. The episode serves as a poignant commentary on...
2024-11-0527 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindPerfectionism, Jealousy, and CriticismMastering Life: Money, Relationships, and Personal Growth - M3 BearCast CompilationJoin Malcolm Travers and the M3 BearCast panel for a comprehensive exploration of perfectionism, money management, and relationship dynamics. Drawing inspiration from Oliver Berkman's 'Meditations for Mortals,' the hosts discuss overcoming perfectionism, practical financial strategies, and personal finance systems. The episode also delves into jealousy and attachment styles in relationships, the importance of trust, and managing criticism and positive reinforcement. The conversation highlights the frustrations of offering advice, the emotional toll on friends, and strategies for setting boundaries. Tune in for thoughtful insights on self-development...
2024-10-2936 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindSelf-Love and GrowthNavigating Self-Love, Political Dynamics, and Reinforcement Strategies in Modern TimesIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, host Malcolm Travers explores the intricate balance between self-improvement and self-love, emphasizing body positivity and challenging societal norms around weight loss. Travers critiques the self-help movement for its often contradictory messages. The episode also delves into political discourse, examining the complexities of third-party voting, the impact of Donald Trump's presidency, and the challenges Kamala Harris faces in maintaining a Democratic coalition. Travers discusses the need for unity among left-leaning and centrist voters to prevent Trump's re-election. Additionally, the episode covers...
2024-10-2232 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindManaging ExpectationsNavigating Expectations: From Societal Pressures to Personal GrowthIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, host Malcolm Travers explores themes of societal expectations, particularly for gay Black men, and discusses the impact of unrealistic expectations on mental health. Travers shares insights on relationships, highlighting the need for realistic goals and open-mindedness in dating. He touches on the importance of emotional catharsis and therapy, the challenges of initiating social interactions, and the significance of self-reflection and personal development. The episode also includes discussions on the utility of negative emotions as motivators for change and the potential pitfalls of...
2024-10-1531 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Resistancen this episode of the M3 BearCast, host Malcolm Travers delves into the theme of resistance inspired by 'The War of Art,' exploring its connection to writer's block and personal growth. Travers shares his experiences and insights on overcoming fear to pursue meaningful pursuits, and discusses interactions with neurodivergent individuals in personal and professional environments. The episode also examines the dynamics of narcissism in friendships and how they can both hinder and foster personal development. Travers uncovers the complex relationships between existential thoughts, societal norms, and personal identity, especially within the context of LGBTQ+ discussions. Tune in for...
2024-10-0828 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindOvercoming RejectionOvercoming Rejection and Dating Woes: Conversations on M3 BearCastIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, host Malcolm Travers continues his discussion with G.H. from the Bent Quarter Podcast about dating, rejection, and learning to love again after a significant breakup. The episode includes a call from a podcast detailing a woman's emotional journey of sudden rejection and betrayal by her military husband. Various topics such as dealing with trauma, the impact of exes on current relationships, and the changing landscape of dating for older individuals are explored. The episode concludes with ideas for future podcast...
2024-10-0128 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindSynchronicities, Projection, and ValuesExploring Synchronicities, Projection, and Personal ValuesIn this episode of the M3 Bearcast, host Malcolm Travers delves into the concept of synchronicities, originally introduced by Carl Jung, and how it relates to manifestation and projection in psychology. Travers questions the metaphysical aspects often attributed to synchronicities and underscores the importance of personal interpretation of these coincidences. The segment includes a discussion with GH about the influence of personal values and societal perceptions, followed by a deeper dive into understanding projection. Travers and GH explore how projections shape our interactions and relationships, highlighting the balance between self-awareness and...
2024-09-2430 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindA Slow and Gradual DisappointmentNavigating Dating as Middle-Aged Gay Black MenIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, host Malcolm Travers speaks with G.H. of the Bent Quarter Podcast about the challenges and nuances of dating as middle-aged gay Black men. They discuss the concept of 'slow, gradual disappointment' in relationships, dealing with misconceptions and fantasies, and the differences in dating dynamics across age groups. Travers shares personal experiences and reflections on dating older and younger partners, the impact of social media and dating apps, and the importance of self-awareness and boundary-setting in romantic pursuits. The episode also touches on...
2024-09-1730 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindHappiness Through ControlNavigating Political Conversations, Happiness Through Control, and Gratitude for Societal LaborIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, Malcolm Travers shares his thoughts on the effects of online political meme posting during the election season, particularly inspired by a controversial meme about Kamala Harris. He delves into his personal philosophy on political discourse, the importance of shared values, and the idea of maintaining diverse friendships. Travers transitions into discussing 'The Reverse Law' and how difficult tasks can simplify life, emphasizing control as the key to happiness. He further explores the often unrecognized labor behind everyday conveniences and...
2024-09-1026 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Heresy of ParaphraseThe Heresy of Paraphrase, Engaging Political Conversations, and the Pitfalls of NostalgiaIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, host Malcolm Travers delves into the concept of the 'heresy of paraphrase,' inspired by a TikTok video discussing the experiential context of ideas. He examines why simply being right isn't effective in communication and the inherent challenge of conveying ideas without shared experiences. Travers also explores the difficulty of discussing politics online, emphasizing the importance of context and listening to others' perspectives. He reflects on engaging with people on a deeper level to better communicate liberal ideas...
2024-09-0329 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Limits of KnowledgeIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, host Malcolm Travers delves into the concept of 'meta modern patriotism' inspired by a TikTok creator. He explores how liberals can reclaim patriotism from conservatives and discuss the roots of this idea in postmodernism. Travers also reflects on his personal experiences with patriotism during the Obama campaign. The episode shifts to topics on mental health and personal growth, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging the limits of one's knowledge and the paradox of choice. Travers highlights how having too many options can lead to less satisfaction and shares strategies for focusing on what...
2024-08-2722 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindChoosing Your DiscomfortFollowing Your Dreams, Honest Obituaries, and Relationship AdviceIn this episode of the M3 BearCast, host Malcolm Travers discusses the challenges of following one's dreams while balancing a day job. The episode reflects on a conversation from a previous M3 live broadcast regarding a woman struggling with not being an artist, and a TikTok creator's response about finding joy in menial jobs. Malcolm also delves into an unconventional obituary that sparked controversy due to its honest portrayal, exploring themes of legacy and social expectations. Finally, the episode touches on relationship advice, particularly the complexities and emotional struggles...
2024-08-2026 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindEconomic Theories and Political Ideologies w/ GregEmbark on a journey through the entangled realm of economic theories and political ideologies with Malcolm Travers and co-host Greg. This week's episode peels back layers of complexity, revealing hidden connections between libertarian and progressive beliefs and their surprising influence over party lines. As we critique the impact of tax policies on the national debt and probe the murkiness of political allegiance, I unfold my own political metamorphosis, highlighting the importance of recognizing the fluid nature of public opinion towards public funding and institutions.Strap in for a candid discourse on the shifting landscape of presidential approval...
2024-02-131h 05The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindNavigating Uncharted Political Waters w/ GregWhen the political landscape shifts beneath our feet, it's those unshakable moments that define us. Greg and I, Malcolm, found ourselves in the throes of such a seismic event after Trump's staggering victory in the Iowa caucuses. We wrestle with the implications of his win, particularly across liberal counties, and scrutinize the possible reshaping of GOP's strategies post-Roe v. Wade reversal. The discussion doesn't shy away from the sensitive topics either; we're digging into the incumbent advantage, the notion of a shrinking Republican base, and the looming legal troubles that could sway Trump's chances in 2024.Voter apathy...
2024-02-071h 07The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindConfronting Mental Struggles w/ GregEmbarking on a journey through the thorny paths of mental health is never simple, and it's a trip I, Malcolm Travers, along with my perceptive comrade Greg Drayden, know all too well. As we unravel the tangle of emotions and fears that can deter individuals from seeking therapy, we confront the stigmas and the daunting task of recognizing symptoms. Our dialogue touches on the raw honesty needed to face the discomfort of self-examination, the art of harnessing one's anger constructively, and the role faith can play in the healing process. We weave in a deeply personal narrative, recounting experiences...
2024-01-3054 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindIdentity, Loss, and Love w/ GregHave you ever wondered how a public persona intertwines with the private intricacies of daily life? This week, my co-host Mr. Drayden and I, Malcolm Travers, peel back the curtain on the dichotomy of podcasting fame versus personal reality. We're taking you on a candid journey through the maze of online expression, the weight of ancestral history on our shoulders, and the sometimes humorous, sometimes complex, encounters that come with being recognized from our show.Navigating the waters of sexual identity can be like trying to translate a language you've only just begun to learn; it's intricate...
2024-01-231h 02The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindSocial Hygiene and Self-Esteem w/ GregBouncing back from adversity isn't just for superheroes; it's a skill we all need, and Devon's recent tech debacle is a prime example. With resilience as the day's watchword, we navigate the snags and triumphs of creating content that deeply connects with our listeners. Alongside Malcolm Travers and the astute Mr. Draiden, we dissect 'social hygiene,' pondering how to foster healthy relationships amidst the clamor of digital noise. We examine the art of hosting guests that enrich our community, spotlighting the delicate dance between sharing the mic and maintaining our cherished values.Have you ever swiped...
2024-01-161h 02The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindCrafting Self Identity w/ KostnerStruggling to navigate the complex web of social media's influence on our personal lives? Join Malcolm Travers and his guest, Kostner Guyton s we dissect the profound impact of digital platforms on mental health and relationships. Together, we peel back the layers of how online interactions can be both a blessing and a curse, shedding light on how the relentless pressure to maintain a perfect image online is warping our sense of self and connection with others. This episode promises revelations and strategies for fostering authenticity in an age where screens often dictate our social norms.As...
2024-01-091h 03The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindAttraction, Judgement, and Social Expectations w GregWhat if you found yourself swept up in a wave of attraction towards someone behind bars, someone who has committed acts you find abhorrent? Just as perplexing is the public uproar over a group of smartly dressed black men. Accompany your hosts, Malcolm Travers and Mr Draven, as we peel back the layers of societal judgment and personal attraction, sharing our own experiences and perspectives on this unexpectedly controversial topic.Between deciphering the drama of dating in the gay and straight communities, to the drawing of battle lines between introversion and extroversion, we find ourselves caught in...
2023-12-1258 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindInsecurities and Embodied CognitionDo you find yourself acting in ways that you think will earn you love, only to end up driving people away? Let's unravel the intricacies of insecurities and the lies we tell ourselves in our quest for connection. In this fascinating discussion, we dissect a TikTok video of a young man who felt he had to be funny to take up space and explore the consequences of seeking validation through humor. We also dive into a podcast episode that sheds light on emotional monitoring, a sign of insecurity and trauma, and how therapy can help heal these wounds.
2023-06-1331 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindAccepting Dark GiftsIn Episode 38 of the M3 Bearcast, I reflect on my complicated relationship with accepting the darkness and confronting the painful aspects of life rather than avoiding them.I discuss my pessimistic worldview and its validity, as well as the role of optimism and delusion in coping with rough times. We need a balance between realism and positivity. I also touch on fear, treating it with compassion, and the significance of emotions as indicators of our needs.Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live...
2023-05-3033 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindMade By MistakesIn episode 37 of the M3 bearcast, Malcolm discusses serial monogamy, particularly as a male pattern of leaving one relationship only to face the same issues in the next. He highlights the importance of taking responsibility for one's actions and learning from past mistakes. Travers emphasizes the discomfort of being wrong and the defense mechanisms people employ to protect their ego. He suggests that a little delusion can be beneficial, but it's essential to acknowledge and accept one's wrongness in order to grow and improve. Serial monogamy can hinder personal growth as individuals fail to work through problems in relationships. M...
2023-05-2331 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Problem with PrivilegeIn Episode 36 of the M3 Bearcast, Malcolm concludes his thought-provoking conversation with Greg about Frederick Joseph's book Patriarchy Blues. Delving into the discussion of privilege, Malcolm and Greg explore their experiences as disabled individuals who also navigate privilege within their respective disability communities. They delve further into the concept of white privilege, examining Greg's aspiration to attain a portion of the advantages enjoyed by white people. The conversation takes an intriguing turn as they touch upon the need for men to feel accepted, even when they make mistakes.Patriarchy Blues: Reflections on Manhoodby Fredrick J...
2023-05-1630 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindPatriarchy Blues w/ Greg Part 2 In episode 35 of the M3 Bearcast, Malcolm continues his conversation with Greg about the book Patriarchy Blues by Frederick Joseph. The discussions and readings have been monumental in understanding oppression and privilege, specifically dealing with ableism and being disabled. Malcolm reflects on his own privilege among blind people and how it has affected his perspective on the world. He talks about the healing process and the importance of being comfortable discussing mental health issues with professionals. This episode is part two of their discussion on Patriarchy Blues, and it's so in-depth that there will be a part three. Don't f...
2023-05-0934 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindOn Patriarchy Blues w/ Greg Part 1In episode 34 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss the book "Patriarchy Blues" by Frederick Joseph with Greg. We view oppression through the lens of intersectionality. I talk with Greg, about being bullied as a kid and getting into fights. We share our thoughts and feelings on the topics covered in the book. We discuss how understanding different forms of oppression and the intersectionality of identities is key to making progress in social justice issues.Patriarchy Blues: Reflections on Manhoodby Fredrick Joseph https://amzn.to/41oOKkdSubscribe to...
2023-05-0238 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindOur Narrative MindIn episode 33, I discuss narrative theory and how stories shape our identity and guide us through life. I highlight the over-emphasis on conflict, villains, and agency in stories, which are not necessary for actual living. I discuss the concept of the Ego as our self-concept, made up of "I am" statements. Stories are a tool for living, but they can also lead us astray by assigning agency to everything, even natural disasters.Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams.INSTAGRAM...
2023-04-2532 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindAlways Choose Hope w/ GregIn Episode 32 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss the difference between hope and optimism with Greg. Throughout our friendship, he's often been a voice of optimism. it wasn't until recently that pessimism and optimism existed alongside hope as a way to orient myself to the world. Optimism is how good or bad we estimate the outcome of an endeavor to be. In contrast, hope exists separate from optimism and is about what we believe is right to do regardless of how it turns out,Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn...
2023-04-1831 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Happiness Paradox In episode 31 of the M3 Bearcast, host Malcolm Traverse explores the relationship between happiness and capitalism. He argues that the epidemic of depression and anxiety in industrialized nations is a feature of late stage capitalism, and discusses three different angles on how to find meaning and purpose in life. The first angle examines the idea that the brain is not a happiness machine, but a problem-solving survival mechanism. The second angle discusses paradoxical thinking, where two opposite ideas can coexist, and the third angle explores finding purpose through culture, art, religion, science, and pursuits such as video games.
2023-03-2836 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindI Don't Have AnswersI discuss attachment theory and the importance of authenticity and connection in relationships. I argue that in the queer community need to create our own norms and standards for relationships based on attachment theory I talk about how evolution has designed humans to survive rather than be happy, but advancements in intelligence, culture, and society may be part of natural selection. Imperfections are necessary for improvement, as our struggles may ultimately lead us to a better future.Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our...
2023-03-2127 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindAuthentic ValidationIn episode 29 of the M3 Bearcast, I delve into the concept of validation. I explore the pitfalls of seeking validation online and how it can come from people who do not genuinely care for us. Validation gives us a sense of purpose and significance. Yet, we see people who seek it as lacking self-confidence. Being authentic is how we develop true self-confidence. I also discuss the idea that evolution is not a linear process and that the way we perceive reality is only a sliver of The Truth. Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make...
2023-02-2833 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindAn Inside JobIn episode 28 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss three topics that surround prioritizing mental constructions over outward situations. First, how you think about your goals matters much more than the goal itself. Second, if you don’t believe in god or new-age spirituality, it’s still essential to think about existence and the nature of the universe. And finally, we lack imagination about changing the status quo in political and economic systems and why we need to open our minds to revolution instead of reform.Tik Tok Video Creeditsfatlosscoach ...
2023-02-0736 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindNever Beg for LoveIn episode 27 of the M3 Bearcast, I explore three topics on love and relationships. First I talk about how love and relationships are essential to our well-being and why journaling can help you get to know yourself and make you a better relationship partner. Then I do some myth-busting about communication skills being the key to a healthy relationship. What you see in couples that communicate well is a solid base of trust. The last topic is about setting boundaries with yourself in relationships. Never begging for love, never longing for someone who isn’t thinking about you, and se...
2023-01-3126 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindGrowing Up AgainIn episode 26 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss three ways we parent ourselves as adults. Many have found a chosen family after their family of origin no longer serves them. Depression is the result of stubborn pessimism that we have to guide ourselves away from. And learning how to show affection when you were never shown affection as a child can be a hard lesson to learn. All of these require that we learn from some painful realities.@cfstory https://www.tiktok.com/@cfstory?_t=8Z3vrK3ANNW&_r=1@zermanzane https://www.tiktok.com/@zermanzane...
2023-01-1533 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindSink or Swim w/ Gregory DraytonIn Episode 25, of the M3 Bearcat, I speak with Gregory Drayton about how we form our identity. We talk about the role self-esteem plays in shaping our perception of self. We also talk about how being different from our peers forces us to have high self-regard fall into despair and, how gay men hide being insecure and how it has shaped the dating scene in the community. Video credits https://www.tiktok.com/@small_asagiant?_t=8YruEk2zhhW&_r=1https://www.tiktok.com/@bigthighthescienceguy?_t=8YruNa9k...
2023-01-1031 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindFeelings Aren't FactsIn Episode 24 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss three ways our feeling get mistaken for facts. First, I discuss why some people will perform happiness to try to feel better or as propaganda to make things seem better. The second is about intelligent design and how it plays on our emotional need for order and warps facts to meet our emotional needs. The third is about how we confuse feelings and facts when evaluating the quality of a relationship.video creditsTopic 1@joymarilie https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRb5Mnmo/ Topic 2...
2023-01-0333 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindRethinking Money, Love, and FriendshipsIn episode 23 of the M3 Besrcast , I discuss how emotional intelligence can be helpful in three areas of life. Our relationship to money is more emotional than a spreadsheet might reveal. If you don't know how you like to give and receive love, you could be making relationships harder than they need to be. And in the gay community, what boundaries get blurred that are much clearer with straight friends?Feleciaforthewin Discusses her relationship to moneyhttps://www.tiktok.com/@feleciaforthewinMrhoward365 on how love languages affected his...
2022-12-2728 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Myth of Objective MoralityIn episode 22, I discuss the difficulty of being raised to believe that being good entitles you to good things. I talk about how you can begin a conversation with someone with different beliefs and invite them to see the world as you see it. I then discuss how being outraged by someone’s behavior doesn’t entitle you to tell them how to behave. TikTok videos credited to:@kobecampbell_ https://www.tiktok.com/@kobecampbell_?_t=8Y8LPptaoNa&_r=1@maryrobinettekowal https://www.tiktok.com/@maryrobinettekowal?_t=8Y8LTg6C6yB&_r=1@nyjo.brennen http...
2022-12-1328 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindA Theory of LonelinessIn Episode 21 of the M3 Bearcast I talk about how the internet has played a role in making people more divided and lonely. Then I talk about our parasocial relationships and why it can be difficult to separate from people who do mess up things in public. I talk about intergenerational relationship trauma and why monogamy probably messed up a lot of people in the past, but now it can be the type of secure relationship some people may need to feel safe. @tellthebees on Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR44MJRr/
2022-12-0629 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindLove Can Be A Difficult ThingIn episode 20 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss how self-love shows us how difficult it can be to love another person, the feminine flavor of narcissism called pick-mes and how it can be dangerous, and the fetishization of black men’s bodies in porn and popular culture. Love is Hard from @iamtorireid on Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRC5J851/Pick Mes are Dangerous from @firstoffinmyopinion on Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRCPGpc7/T...
2022-11-2930 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindMind Your BusinessIn episode 19 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss how to love yourself and find happiness through recognizing how our identity is based on what we think others think about us. Many of our self-esteem problems come from trying to compete with others when in reality the path to happiness comes from contributing to others. I also discuss ghosting in the modern age of dating and how the stories we tell about why they don't like us can set us up for failure or success in our next dating experience. And I discuss the concept of faith deconstruction and...
2022-04-121h 09The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindFinding Balance in Sex and RelationshipsIn episode 18 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss how to make relationships work whether it is a friends with benefits hookup or a long-term relationship, finding the right balance of familiarity and mystery is key to keeping things interesting while also clearly stating your needs. I talk about the ten questions you should ask yourself before having sex, the 4 times long-term partners feel costest to one another and some of the common pitfalls of open relationships.If you would like to support M3, participate in our Amazon affiliate program by purchasing Mating in Captivity...
2022-03-2957 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindCreative People ProblemsIn episode 17 of the M3 Bearcast, I talk about problems plaguing intelligent, creative, and sensitive people. Many creatives have difficulties feeling like their work meets their standards. It's been coined the imposter syndrome, but I argue that it's not a disorder in the classic sense. Everyone suffers from it, especially those pressured to rise to the top of their fields. Another significant issue is searching for meaning in work, life, and spirituality. I argue that the meaning isn't something you find. It is something you create. Lack of meaning is the most significant contribution to mental health problems of c...
2022-03-1553 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindA Price Gladly PaidIn episode 16 of the M3 Bearcast I talk about the costs associated with positive personality traits and why we have to embrace the downsides of our deepest gifts. I talk about how pain helps give us meaning in life and how we can come to associate the struggle with success. I talk about how the cost of being a good listener may be that you give up on what you were going to say. This is my first episode of the podcast flying solo, but I plan on having more guests in the future.If you would...
2022-01-1854 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Narssissim Epidemic w/ Jeff and XavierIn the 15th episode of the M3 Bearcast I speak with Jeffery Roman and Xavier Spann about the book The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement. We have had many discussions of narcissism on M3 Before, but in this discussion, we tackle the reasons why narcissism has been such a hot topic. The authors of this book talk about how the culture shifted towards individualism and away from collectivism. We discuss the role of consumerism in bolstering narcissistic personality traits. And we end by trying to see what lessons we can learn from narcissistsIf...
2021-12-071h 00The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindCritical Thinking w/ Kostner GuytonIn the 14th episode of the M3 Bearcast, I speak with Kostner Guyton about critical thinking, vaccine hesitancy, critical race theory, forgiveness vs acceptance, and how critical thinking can be encouraged. His background in science education gives him a wealth of experience to draw from to talk about how to walk a think line between making complex information accessible without talking down to people who hold misinformed beliefs. If you would like to support M3 participate in our Amazon affiliate program by purchasing The Narcissism Epidemic https://amzn.to/3sFEIdO and The Lonely Century: How to Restore Hum...
2021-09-281h 18The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindForgiveness w/ Jeff and XavierIn the 13th episode of the M3 Bearcast I speak with Xavier Spann and Jeffery Roman about what it means to forgive and how we do it. The two of them bring a great deal of experience working as mental health professionals and in their personal lives. I'm hoping that this discussion can help anyone who is dealing with resentment and considering forgiveness as a way of dealing with it. If you can't forgive someone I hope this episode gives you perspective as to why that is and why you don't have to feel guilty about it. If you...
2021-09-141h 11The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindRejection and Resilience w/ Jeff and JeremyIn the 12th Episode of the M3 Bearcast, I speak with Jeffery Roman and Jeremy Jeager about rejection and how we deal with the emotional wounds of life. What are the best ways to deal with rejection? What are some of the reactions to rejection that no longer serve us? We discuss some of the techniques shown to improve your self-esteem and confidence laid out in Emotional First Aid by Guy Winch Ph.D. To learn more and support M3 you can purchase the book through our affiliate link https://amzn.to/3DIDRyf check...
2021-09-0753 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindMy Philosophy of Dating w/ Jeff and WoodyIn the eleventh episode of the M3 Bearcast, a conversation about dating multiple people spawns many other topics about what it means to date. Do you allow someone to try to buy your affection with material things? If you are dating someone who is seeing other people does that make you feel like you're in competition with those other people? All of these questions come up as I try to explain my philosophy of dating. Jeffery Roman and Woodrow Thompson help me hash out these issues and a lot more in this episode. The issue of Boundaries comes up q...
2021-07-2048 minThe M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindMusic Therapy w/ Jeff and EJIn the tenth episode of the M3 Bearcast, I speak with Jeffery Roman and EJ Flavors about the power music has to evoke memories and put us into another mindset. We talk about our early influences and how they shaped our personalities over the years. Have you ever had a song's meaning changed for you over time? Why did the meaning of the song changed for you? Help M3 out by being a part of our book club check out The Source of Self Regard by Toni Morrison is my book selection for July https://amzn.to/3h8W912
2021-07-131h 00The M3 Bearcast from Male Media MindThe Velvet Rage w/ Xavier SpannIn the 9th episode of the M3 Bearcast, I speak with Xavier Spann, who is a mental health professional, about the book The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs. The book is an exploration of the shame that gay men hold from their sexual development and how it can manifest in destructive behavior in adulthood. It's one of the first books I've read that explores the quick and dirty hookup and cruising culture that gay men have participated in and why it might be at the core of unstable relationships. not to mention that gay men have some of the hi...
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