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Meanderings with TrudyMeander Again: Grief Unleashed, Postlude, with Dina Bell-LarocheIn our final meander together with Dina, we explore the final chapter in “Grief Unleashed: Moving from the hole in our hearts to wholehearted.” This Postlude explores the work that Dina is confidently and humbling stepping into, the work of a Grief Doula, which she defines as companioning people in their grief journey. This is such big work, and such important work, as life is full of grief and loss, not just death but losses of all kinds. And learning how to manage grief as a normal, healthy and involuntary activity has been the focus of this book, and all...2024-08-1351 min
Meanderings with TrudyMeander Again: Grief Unleashed, Chapter 5 with Dina Bell-LarocheIn chapter five of Dina’s book, we’re looking at the gifts that come out of embodying our grief, of healing the wounds in a healthy way. I found this chapter a wonderful way of pulling together all the threads of learning in this book. In fact, the invited homework from the previous chapter on continuing bonds helped me with this too. The notion of post traumatic growth is a centrepiece of this chapter, and it is a much-overlooked reality of our effectively growing through our grief from a loss. This idea spotlights all the ways in wh...2024-08-0656 min
Meanderings with TrudyMeander Again: Grief Unleashed, Chapter 4, with Dina Bell-LarocheIn chapter four of Dina’s book, we’re looking at this idea of continuing bonds, of continuing our relationship with people who have died, by way of better owning, embodying, and coping with, our feelings of loss. The thing about death is that we often can’t accept the reality of our loss. Continuing bonds normalizes our desire to maintain a relationship with those who have died, and for this to be seen as a healthy way of coping. Continuing bonds can look like different things for different people – I like to invite my mom’s spirit to come and me...2024-07-3032 min
Meanderings with TrudyMeander Again: Grief Unleashed Chapter 3 with Dina Bell-LarocheIn chapter three of Dina’s book, we’re looking at the ways that we attend to our broken hearts. In this meander we show the shifts that Dina is still making in her own grief journey. How, after 22 years, she is finally making space for herself in this journey. It is such a beautiful way of appreciating how we embody grief and it nourishes our own experience in the world. And irrevocably changes us in the process.Invitations:Out of each episode this season, we are offering people ways to increase their grief literacy. This...2024-07-2353 min
Meanderings with TrudyMeander Again: Grief Unleashed, Chapter 2 with Dina Bell-LarocheIn chapter two of Dina’s book, we’re looking at reconciling loss. We start with last month’s exercise to look at our loss maps, and my extrapolation out, looking at belonging. It’s a great example of how to do the exercise and apply the learning to our own lives. Dina tells us that reconciling loss is about reasserting harmony in our experience, and with the insight from my loss map, I find more harmony inside myself when issues of belonging come up. Belonging, and so much more, is part of this episode.Invitations:Out of...2024-07-1651 min
Meanderings with TrudyMeander Again: Grief Unleashed, Chapter 1, with Dina Bell-LarocheIn this second episode in our book review, we look at chapter one, which is all about grappling with grief. The starting point is understanding that we all grapple in different ways. And that is absolutely as it should be. But most of us don’t know how we grapple, and don’t realize that others ways can be different. So that is where we start, and we meander from there. I hope you find this both helpful and informative.Invitations:Out of each episode this season, we are offering people ways to increase their grie...2024-07-0953 min
Meanderings with TrudyMeander Again: Grief Unleashed the Prelude Chapter with Dina Bell-LarocheIn this first episode in our book review, we’re exploring the information in the Prelude of Dina’s book, “Grief Unleased: Moving from the hole in our hearts to wholehearted.” The Prelude sets the table for the book, sharing her “why” in writing…. which is to dispel the myths around grief, to demystify it in service of living a more full life, so we can better embody our experience and grow as a result of it. At the core, Dina knows that grief is an internal response to a severed attachment. The process of grieving effectively provides nutrients that builds ou...2024-07-0252 min
Meanderings with TrudyMeanderings with Trudy, "The Joy Diet" Chapter 10: FeastingFeasting… author Martha Beck tells us that feasting has three essential elements: celebration, nourishment and gratitude. That’s what we talk about today in this final episode of the book, and of this 2024 spring season.I will be on break until October, but offering a “Meander Again” set of episodes, recasting my six conversations with Dina Bell-Laroche and her book, which takes us to mid-August. After that, I will go silent until October, a real break during which my creative juices will marinate. Thank you for your good company! See you in the fall!Feel fr...2024-06-2524 minMeanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Unleashed, Postlude, with Dina Bell-LarocheIn our final meander together with Dina, we explore the final chapter in “Grief Unleashed: Moving from the hole in our hearts to wholehearted.” This Postlude explores the work that Dina is confidently and humbling stepping into, the work of a Grief Doula, which she defines as companioning people in their grief journey. This is such big work, and such important work, as life is full of grief and loss, not just death but losses of all kinds. And learning how to manage grief as a normal, healthy and involuntary activity has been the focus of this book, and all...2024-06-0451 minMeanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Unleashed, Chapter 5 with Dina Bell-LarocheIn chapter five of Dina’s book, we’re looking at the gifts that come out of embodying our grief, of healing the wounds in a healthy way. I found this chapter a wonderful way of pulling together all the threads of learning in this book. In fact, the invited homework from the previous chapter on continuing bonds helped me with this too. The notion of post traumatic growth is a centrepiece of this chapter, and it is a much-overlooked reality of our effectively growing through our grief from a loss. This idea spotlights all the ways in wh...2024-05-0756 minMeanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Unleashed, Chapter 4, with Dina Bell-LarocheIn chapter four of Dina’s book, we’re looking at this idea of continuing bonds, of continuing our relationship with people who have died, by way of better owning, embodying, and coping with, our feelings of loss. The thing about death is that we often can’t accept the reality of our loss. Continuing bonds normalizes our desire to maintain a relationship with those who have died, and for this to be seen as a healthy way of coping. Continuing bonds can look like different things for different people – I like to invite my mom’s spirit to come and me...2024-04-0232 minMeanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Unleashed Chapter 3 with Dina Bell-LarocheIn chapter three of Dina’s book, we’re looking at the ways that we attend to our broken hearts. In this meander we show the shifts that Dina is still making in her own grief journey. How, after 22 years, she is finally making space for herself in this journey. It is such a beautiful way of appreciating how we embody grief and it nourishes our own experience in the world. And irrevocably changes us in the process.Invitations:Out of each episode this season, we are offering people ways to increase their grief literacy. This...2024-03-0553 minMeanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Unleashed, Chapter 2 with Dina Bell-LarocheIn chapter two of Dina’s book, we’re looking at reconciling loss. We start with last month’s exercise to look at our loss maps, and my extrapolation out, looking at belonging. It’s a great example of how to do the exercise and apply the learning to our own lives. Dina tells us that reconciling loss is about reasserting harmony in our experience, and with the insight from my loss map, I find more harmony inside myself when issues of belonging come up. Belonging, and so much more, is part of this episode.Invitations:Out of...2023-12-0551 minMeanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Unleashed, Chapter 1, with Dina Bell-LarocheIn this second episode in our book review, we look at chapter one, which is all about grappling with grief. The starting point is understanding that we all grapple in different ways. And that is absolutely as it should be. But most of us don’t know how we grapple, and don’t realize that others ways can be different. So that is where we start, and we meander from there. I hope you find this both helpful and informative.Invitations:Out of each episode this season, we are offering people ways to increase their grie...2023-11-0753 minMeanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Unleashed the Prelude Chapter with Dina Bell-LarocheIn this first episode in our book review, we’re exploring the information in the Prelude of Dina’s book, “Grief Unleased: Moving from the hole in our hearts to wholehearted.” The Prelude sets the table for the book, sharing her “why” in writing…. which is to dispel the myths around grief, to demystify it in service of living a more full life, so we can better embody our experience and grow as a result of it. At the core, Dina knows that grief is an internal response to a severed attachment. The process of grieving effectively provides nutrients that builds ou...2023-10-0352 min
Meanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Busting with Dina Bell-LarocheThis is our fifth episode in this “Grief Busting” series with special guest and expert on grief and bereavement, Dina Bell-Laroche. You’ll remember Dina from her chat with me back in November, 2022. Today we meander all round myths relating who and what can help grieving people. We start by talking about Dina’s newly released book on grief and loss called “Grief Unleashed: Moving from the hole in our hearts to whole-hearted.” Dina has written this book into being over the last decade, and over the twenty-two years since the death of Tracy, her sister. She talks about ho...2023-06-061h 09
Meanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Busting with Dina Bell-LarocheThis is our fourth episode in this “Grief Busting” series with special guest and expert on grief and bereavement, Dina Bell-Laroche. You’ll remember Dina from her chat with me back in November, 2022. Today we meander all around myths relating what is grieve-able. We start with a very tender topic of miscarriage and still-birth of children and how we grieve these losses. Dina makes a critical distinction for us: that grief is an internal reorientation of our inner world after a severed attachment; mourning is when we make the grief public. When a child is conceived but lost, we...2023-05-0252 min
Meanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Busting with Dina Bell-Laroche, on BehaviourThis is our third episode in this “Grief Busting” series with special guest and expert on grief and bereavement, Dina Bell-Laroche. You’ll remember Dina from her chat with me back in November, 2022. Today we meander all round myths relating to behaviour… how we behave when we are grieving, and when we are supporting someone who is grieving. We walk through our common ways of coping with grief. For example, tears are cathartic and curiosity is helpful; grief, like emotions, have an arc they follow and it’s important to respect the arc in order to support the effectiv...2023-04-0453 min
Meanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Busting with Dina Bell-Laroche, on EmotionsThis is our second episode in this “Grief Busting” series with special guest and expert on grief and bereavement, Dina Bell-Laroche. You’ll remember Dina from her chat with me back in November, 2022. Today we meander all round myths relating to emotion. English doesn’t serve us well here – in English, grief is both an emotion and an experience. Viewing grief only as an emotion limits us in unhelpful ways, but seeing it as a verb – grieving – makes it an experience, one we can work with more readily…. It becomes a gateway to living with grief, moving with grief, and ma...2023-03-071h 04
Meanderings with TrudyMwT: Grief Busting with Dina Bell-Laroche, Setting the TableThis is our first episode in this “Grief Busting” series with special guest and expert on grief and bereavement, Dina Bell-Laroche. You’ll remember Dina from her chat with me back in November, 2022. For her, the death of her sister Tracy was life-changing and we heard about that in our first meander together. In this new series, we tackle some of the common myths around grief, in service of accessing our joy.Today we are setting the table for our subsequent meanders in this series, talking about why effectively moving through our grief matters. I share a few sto...2023-02-071h 01
Meanderings with TrudyMeander with Dina Bell-LarocheChapman Coaching Inc.Dina’s company is Grief UnleashedAttachment TheoryTheory of LossMegan Devine and Refuge in GriefWhat's Your Grief a website about grief and loss5 Love LanguagesShe mentioned the wonderful BC poet Caroline MiskenackRoyalty free music is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaPlease send thoughts and comments to meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com
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