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Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Tionka Humphrey: Obstacles Don’t Block the Path, They Become Your StorySoul Searching with Tionka Humphrey: Obstacles Don’t Block the Path, They Become Your StoryWe wrap up this pandemic season’s soul searching interviews with a big dose of inspiration to help us develop leadership and resilience.Tionka gives tools to develop confidence. Her goal to become CFO is rooted in helping others “I want to be a beacon of hope for my community because we don’t see a lot of Black CFOs. How you speak can influence the world. I knew I needed practice to develop that necessary skill.” She knows “practice makes perfec...2021-06-1116 min
Soul SearchingLessons on Leadership from Human Resources, Teachers and CoachesLessons on Leadership from Human Resources, Teachers and CoachesWe can improve success at work and home when we make a stronger connection and apply best practices from all areas of our life. Here are 3 techniques to help you get results and peak performance from colleagues, customers and children. Core values: Let’s apply the same best practice that our companies use to create culture and foster empathy at home too. Creating family values appeals to noble motives, develops character and shared meaning.Let’s learn from teachers who dramatize the idea using props, songs...2021-06-0402 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Eric Roth: How to Win Family and Influence Kids in a PandemicThis heartbreaking and heartwarming interview will help you face some of the challenges of leading during a pandemic. Eric shares principles he used from How to Win Friends and Influence People with his 15-year-old to overcome difficulties with remote learning, gain cooperation from teachers, and create peace at home with his spouse. Try a new approach. It’s easy to fall into old patterns especially when we’re feeling pandemic fatigue ourselves.Avoid the argument by using a calm voice. “Hmm, looks like there are missing assignments.”Don’t say you’re wrong. “Maybe there’s a sync issue?”Give a fin...2021-05-2209 min
Soul SearchingEmployee Engagement, Jedi Parenting, Zen Moments & EmpathyEmployee Engagement, Jedi Parenting, Zen Moments & EmpathyHere are 3 techniques to help you improve relationships at work and at home:1) People support a world they help create. Brainstorming and asking questions to get others to offer solutions makes them feel empowered and they’re more likely to think it’s a good idea if they come up with it. This is a great antidote to apathy and the complaint, “Don’t tell me what to do!” 2) Are you analytical? “Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view” is the principle for you...2021-05-1403 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Tasha Westinghouse: Creating Connections During CovidTurning acquaintances into real friends can be hard in the best of times, much less while social distancing. Creating belonging on teams can challenge even the best of managers, much less while on boarding employees remotely. Turning small talk into meaningful connection can be hard for even the best of conversationalists, much less during this season of isolation. Tasha shares some tips on how she’s been able to thaw the Seattle freeze and help “make friends so when the worlds opens up again we can meet people in a different way.”Change our mindset: don’t assume people d...2021-05-0710 min
Soul SearchingGaining Cooperation with Fun, Socrates and Venting: Lessons from Family that Apply at WorkGaining Cooperation with Fun, Socrates and Venting: Lessons from Family that Apply at Work Here are 3 techniques to help you gain cooperation from colleagues, customers and children.Have fun. I’ve interviewed over 10,000 adults from all over the world who shared stories from their childhood. This research revealed memories of joy and play. Let’s apply this best practice to our leadership at work and engage employees with celebrations, gifts, and games.Socrates taught by asking questions to encourage problem solving. Dale Carnegie said, “get others to say yes to win people to your way of thinkin...2021-04-3003 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Theresa Francomacaro: The Science of Storytelling and ConnectionSoul Searching with Theresa Francomacaro: Neuroscience and Storytelling TipsWhether you are selling a product, pitching your ideas, leading a team or interviewing, stories help you communicate clearly. Presentation coach Theresa says, “Think ‘where do I want my audience to go’ and reverse engineer your story accordingly. Have a character that solves a common problem uncommonly well. Research shows we remember 22x better with a story than data alone.”Here is a framework to craft your story based on how you want to impact your audience based on the 5 neurological responses that stories create in the brai...2021-04-2320 min
Soul SearchingHow to Avoid Arguments and Build Trust at Home and WorkMy clients have discovered a paradox with applying these ideas. It seems like weakness to admit mistakes to our employees and kids, but others actually perceive it as strong leadership skills and emotional intelligence that builds trust. Here are 3 quick tips to help you avoid conflict at work and at home. 1) Avoid the argument: Most disagreements are triggered by the angry look on our face, the harsh tone of our voice, bad timing and saying “you should” which makes people feel defensive. 2) Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say “you’re wrong” Different doesn’t...2021-04-1703 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Amy McKinley: Changing our mindset from “I have to” to “I get to”Our guest this week inspires us to cultivate gratitude, resilience, and connection. She shares techniques she’s learned to find purpose and thrive despite challenges.As a mom of a special needs child she’s discovered the power of mindset: changing “I have to” to “I get to” as a tool to reframe is her top advice. “God had a lot of lessons He wanted to teach me and He brought this nugget of joy, passion and challenges. Just seeing the world in such a different light in his body and brain due to his genetic disorder. That’s the gre...2021-04-1021 min
Soul SearchingHow to get a promotion using evidence and diplomacyDo you need to be more convincing? Do you want to negotiate effectively? Do you want to ace an interview or make a sale?Try this communication framework that builds trust:1) Evidence: Instead of just stating your opinion with “I think” use these 7 forms of data to make a compelling case: Demonstration, Example, Facts, Exhibits, Analogies, Testimonials and Statistics. This helps you tailor the evidence to align to the other person’s influence style.2) Ask for what you want: “This evidence shows I’ve earned a promotion.”3) Make them your ally: “Thank you for your support.”...2021-04-0305 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Angela Harris: Change Your Mindset, Change Your JobOur guest this week shares her journey of self-discovery of her talents, passion and insights gained from her job change. How can we overcome imposter syndrome? “You have to change your inner mentor. I saw a lot of transferable skills. Although my entire career has been on the tech side of the house, a lot of the work I do outside by day-to-day job in the professional organization I support qualifies as marketing experience. Ask yourself “what gives me joy on the job? What do I want to learn?” Reframe I’ve never done that to How have I done tha...2021-03-2612 min
Soul SearchingHow to inspire social change, create connection and manage upLearn 2 of the top principles from How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. You'll create a more meaningful connection with others so they are inspired to act and think differently. You'll motivate people and teams to perform at their highest level, create a stronger culture, and accomplish shared goals. Try these approaches to be a more effective leader, colleague, mentor, activist and parent.
These principles can help you gain support of social, political and environmental causes to inspire volunteers and donators. These techniques help you connect with people on an emotional level, especially when...2021-03-1904 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Carol Li: Work Hard, Play Hard, Find JoyOur guest this week takes us on an uplifting journey of how to find joy during challenging times. As she was finding a way to stay healthy during the pandemic, she remembered the delight she had in her childhood from singing and dancing. She recalls a defining moment from her childhood when she won a performance competition “that really changed my life.” She joined with friends from the social group she started to “create my own stage” to let her natural talent and happiness show, watch it here: https://youtu.be/_fOs5QBvZ9M?t=11
Her tips to refra...2021-03-1319 min
Soul SearchingUse This Approach So You Can Motivate PeoplePeople are naturally thinking “what’s in it for me?” So, when we think about the other person’s point of view and how to solve their problems, we build trust. When we position our request to show them exactly how they will benefit by doing the thing we suggest, we create a win-win.
Try these simple changes:
Stop saying: “I want” “my team needs” “you should” “you need to” “this is due”
Start saying: “so you” “your team will get” “this will help you” “you’ll save time” “the benefit to you is”
This technique motivates managers, employees, customers...2021-03-0602 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Katy Flaherty: Loss, Grief, and Helping Others During the PandemicOur guest this week takes us on a heartbreaking and heartwarming journey. She opens up about the pain of her sister’s death. “Losing someone during the pandemic, grieving while social distancing, it is so hard. Hugging is part of the healing process.” She shares what she learned at the beginning of the pandemic, from just having started a new role, to taking on the daunting task of acquiring PPE for Microsoft employees and donating supplies to first responders, to supporting her employees. “All of us have had to adapt, our motto was: stay agile.”
She also found strength i...2021-02-2717 min
Soul SearchingHow to Win Family & Influence Kids: 9 Parenting Tips to Help You Have a Happier FamilyOne way to improve our work life balance is to apply leadership lessons from work and apply them at home. Here are 9 best practices that strengthen relationships with our loved ones, from toddlers to teenagers, and significant others and in-laws. Join my free work life connection workshop on Feb 24 for more ideas to help you improve your work life balance and feel happier https://linktr.ee/nikkikloeppel These are based on How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Don’t Criticize: 10 phrases to avoid like “you should”
Give appreciation and an example like “thanks for being th...2021-02-1911 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Matt Norman: Choosing healthy thinking, relationships, ego and operationsOne shift is around our ego. He quotes Journal of Management research that found “humility in CEOS leads to increased collaboration, flexibility and developing strategies.” He also shares a source of confidence “my faith whispers that I am loved and I have potential.”
Improving patterns of relationship, he advises “strategic vulnerability, it endears others to us. And name the emotion versus just showing it. For example, to say ‘I am feeling embarrassed’ instead of ‘I’m feeling attacked’.”
He shares his favorite principle in parenting is don’t criticize and he created a don’t complain challenge with a reward for the kids...2021-02-1219 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Kate Snowise: How to surrender stress and find more happinessOur guest this week is an expert on avoiding burnout. She shares practical tips to manage stress and personal wisdom on gaining peace.
“Differentiate between pressure and stress. We aren’t helpless victims.” We can interrupt the process and choose our reaction.
Problem focused coping: “We need to be really smart about how we put routines back together. Adding structure, creating a map of the week is calming to our minds to know what’s coming next.”
Emotion focused coping mechanisms: “Getting emotional reserve that bolsters our ability to cope and helps us surrender.” She likens this to care instruction...2021-02-0523 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Elaine Chang: Embracing Work Life Integration with GraceOur guest this week leads Conversational AI product development at Microsoft, is a D&I leader and speaker, founder of the Asian Leadership conference and chair of the Asian employee resource group and mother of 2. She offers insight from soul searching during the pandemic, “I was so exhausted. I gave myself time to ponder what is essential for me and what changes I’m willing to make. I had a mindset shift from struggling with work life balance to embracing work life integration with grace.”
Self acceptance “It’s ok if a project, homework or housework aren’t done. I’m go...2021-01-2221 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Jamie Cabaccang: How to spend our time and energy on the meaningful thingsSoul Searching with Jamie Cabaccang: How to spend our time and energy on the meaningful things
Our guest this week is a lead at Pinterest, the founder of Techies and Wellness, and was recently published in the bestselling book “Miracles of Healing from Around the World.”
A serious illness led to soul searching, learning about energy work, and prioritizing what’s important in life. She shares how she went from doctor recommended chemo for life to holistic healing that put her in remission. She shares an analogy of energy being like water: “Like when rocks block the path of...2020-12-1120 min
Soul SearchingFree Mindset Training: Get Lucky: 5 Steps to Manifest Abundance & SuccessFree Mindset Training: Get Lucky: 5 Steps to Manifest Abundance & Success December 15th from 12:30p-1:30p PST
My mom grew up poor: in a refugee camp and an immigrant.
Unfortunately, her experience created a mindset of scarcity. Trying to protect me from feeling disappointed, she taught me that “money doesn’t grow on trees” and “there’s no such thing as free lunch."
I had to unlearn this limiting mindset. I learned about the Law of Attraction, watched the movie The Secret, studied Hill, Peale, Chopra, Dyer and tested the principles. Dale Carnegie said his deepest be...2020-12-0500 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with 16-year-old Andrew Kloeppel: Blessings in Disguise and Developing OptimismOur guest in this week’s family friendly episode is my inspiring son who gives reassurance to all parents struggling during the pandemic with supporting their kids with virtual school. “It’s not as bad as it can seem. You guys have done great!”
He also shares his soul searching from a very unlucky break, literally, when he fractured his hip playing basketball on Dec 30. “Breaking my hip was a blessing in disguise. Going to Children’s Hospital and seeing all the kids there…it’s important to see your bad things in a light and understand there are people suffe...2020-11-1309 min
Soul SearchingSoul Searching with Corey Perlman: Tips for Maximizing Social Media and Keeping PerspectiveSoul Searching with Corey Perlman: Tips for Maximizing Social Media and Keeping Perspective
Our guest this week is the author of Social Media Overload
He offers practical tips:
Prioritize the platform your customers are using
Create useful content: “what questions do you get all the time from your clients? Answer those questions to help them.”
Use video: “especially now, we’re unable to meet in person, video is a powerful tool of connection.”
Limit your time on social media: “it can be a tool or a drug.”
“Choose whatever you feel most comfortable with and enjoy: video, podcast o...2020-10-3027 min
Soul SearchingBe confident of your value: how to let go of criticismBe confident of your value: how to let go of criticism
One of my favorite analogies to remind us that we are priceless is money. If someone disrespects a $20 bill, compares it negatively to other currency, even rips it, it still is worth $20. Likewise, if someone criticizes us, compares us or hurts us, we are still valuable.
Here’s a video from the “good old days” of a live keynote from a corporate event so you can feel the energy of this awesome audience and get inspired.
Take 5 minutes to recalibrate your confidence:
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Soul SearchingSoul Searching with CEO Joe Hart: Strategies for a successful business, family and mindsetSoul Searching with CEO Joe Hart: Strategies for a successful business, family and mindset
Our guest this week, CEO of Dale Carnegie, shares how his mentor (Ford and Boeing CEO) Alan Mulally’s Working Together framework can transform business. “The cornerstone is live to serve. Listen, appreciate, be transparent, have integrity, hold people accountable and create a safe space and you’ll deliver results. The CEO sets the tone.” (5)
When I shared I battled imposter syndrome approaching the CEO, worried he’d decline being a guest on this show he said, “It didn’t dawn on me. These things w...2020-10-1330 min