Shows
Time To Talk TFMRMultiple TFMRsHello and welcome to our final episode of season 10.We're talking with Claire about her experience of multiple (3) TFMRs, two for a rare genetic condition that both Claire and her husband carry recessed genes for, and one for Spina Bifida.Claire talks us through what happened and how it has impacted and changed her.This is a really lovely episode about resilience and learning how to live with the uncertainty of life.We really hope you enjoy this episode, that it gives you hope for the future, whatever may come.
2025-02-1145 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Nutrition and FertilityHello, and welcome to this episode with fertility dietician Anita Beckwith.Anita has been a dietician for over 20 years, having worked in the NHS and private practise. She and her husband have experienced infertility struggles and early miscarriages, and then in 2022, Anita had a TFMR.We talk about what 'good' nutrition means, how to think about nutrition when trying to maximise your fertility and support your body in a having a health pregnancy, and lastly how pregnancy loss may impact our eating behaviour. Anita mentions Beat, an eating disorder charity, you can find...
2025-01-1750 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: The First 6 MonthsHello and welcome to today's episode with Jessica in the US talking about her TFMR story.Please note, we recorded this episode before the outcome of the US election.Jessica had her TFMR for her first pregnancy in March this year and shares her experience of what it has been like for her within this first 6 months. Navigating baby showers, friendships, support groups, etc. She also talks us through the experience of learning her son had a neural tube deficiency and speaking with the medical team about what options were available to her son. We...
2024-12-2358 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: T21 PanelHello, and welcome to today's episode about T21.This is a panel episode, with three different guest, all of whom have experienced TFMR due to a T21 diagnosis.All three women share their stories of processing the impact of a T21 diagnosis, how they thought about what this meant for themselves, their babies and their whole family and how they feel about it now.Becky is a midwife and she talks about how the process was for her, then and now, as a medical professional working with pregnancy and birth. Loren found out...
2024-11-2449 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR and Advocacy - USA and IrelandHello, and welcome to today's episode.We're speaking with Kaitlyn and Erika from the US, and Claire from Ireland, about advocacy for TFMR (and abortion).Unless you have been on the moon (!) for the last 12 months, there's a US election about to be decided on the 5th November, and women's reproductive rights is a key issue.Kaitlyn and Erika tell us about their experiences with advocacy within the US. How and why they are doing it and how they are holding up. We hear from Claire about the formation of TFMR Ireland, their...
2024-10-3058 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR in PoliticsHello and welcome back to season 10!In this episode I am speaking with Jane fisher, Director of Antenatal Results and Choices about TFMR and abortion within the political sphere.Many do not realise how much ARC keeps up with the abortion debate within the UK and how they insure that politicians are informed and educated about TFMR. Unfortunately, we always need to be on our toes for those politicians seeking to lower the gestation age for abortion (24 weeks in the UK) and/or trying to ban women from being able to have a TFMR for...
2024-10-1341 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Fathers...grief and golfHello and welcome to today's episode. This will be our final episode for season 9, but we'll be back in the Autumn with season 10.Today, Kris joins me as we talk about his and his wife's experience of TFMR, men's grief and mental health and how golf has helped him in his grief story so far. You can find Kris's Golf Yourself Healthy website, blog and podcast details hereWe hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR.E...
2024-08-0446 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: T21 diagnosis and supporting each otherIn this episode I speak with Sara and Angela about their experience of TFMR last year for a T21 diagnosis. I really appreciate their candour about their decision making process and how they navigated this very difficult time as a couple.We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR.Email is TalkTFMR@yahoo.comThis episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them o...
2024-07-1452 minTime To Talk TFMRTime To Talk TFMR: Live at Camden Arts CentreHello and welcome to this special episode with a live audience and panel of great expert guests, recorded at Camden Arts Centre in London.It was a really fantastic opportunity to meet some of you, our wonderful listeners, hear your stories and connect over (copious!) olives. As well, of course, as hearing from a expert guest panel answering all your TFMR questions:Dr Brenda Kelly, Matrernal and Fetal Medicine ConsultantDagmar Tapon, Genetic CounsellorJane Fisher, Director of Antenatal Results and ChoicesA special thank you to ARC for organising and...
2024-06-201h 07Time To Talk TFMRTFMR: Australian Organisations Pink Elephant Support Network and Red Nose AustraliaIn today's episode, Hayley is speaking with Keren Ludski CEO of Red Nose Australia and Amanda Tipping, General Manager of Pink Elephant Support Network. Our first Australian episode!Keren and Amanda talk about how their organisations support women and couples who have terminated a wanted pregnancy. They also share a little about their personal experiences with pregnancy and baby loss.More information about both organisations can be found here:Pink Elephants Support NetworkRed Nose AustraliaWe hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you...
2024-05-2654 minTime To Talk TFMRRoe vs. WadeHello and welcome to this episode talking to four women and their experiences of TFMR just before and after the fall of Roe vs. Wade.Roe vs. Wade was the five-decade old supreme court decision to uphold a woman’s right to obtain an abortion. In June 2022, the supreme court overturned this decision, sending abortion rights and access across the United States into a crisis.We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR.Email is TalkTFMR@yahoo.com
2024-04-281h 13Time To Talk TFMRTFMR: Returning to Exercise with Casey Thomas HardestyHello, and welcome to the start of Season 9!We're kicking it off with an epsiode about exercise. It's something that a few of you have asked for over the years, and to be honest, I've always felt mixed about. In a society that tells mothers to 'bounce back' after full-term, live births - the pressure for bereaved mothers can be crushing.Thankfully, we have Casey to talk to us about healthy re-engagement with fitness and how to look after your post-partum body. Casey is passionate about core and pelvic floor health, any exercise you do...
2024-04-0747 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR Surgical Termination with Dr Rachel FogginHello, and Happy New Year!In today's episode I am speaking with Dr Rachel Foggin from BPAS (British Pregnancy Advisory Service) about surgical termination. Many of you wrote in with your questions about surgical termination and we tried to get as many of these answered as we could. This is a very open, honest and frank conversation about what surgical termination in the U.K., and we are very grateful to Rachel for sharing her expertise with us.I hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think.
2024-01-0744 min
Conversations in Fetal MedicineIn conversation with Hayley Manning (Time To Talk TFMR)Send us a textWelcome to the third episode of season three of Conversations in Fetal Medicine, where we talk to Hayley Manning, host of the brilliant podcast Time To Talk TFMR (Termination for Medical Reasons). Hayley Manning: Hayley is a counsellor and therapist, who after her own termination for medical reasons (TFMR), went on to create the podcast Time To Talk TFMR to explore the issues surrounding this often not openly discussed subject. Guests range from others who’ve experienced TFMR, to health professionals working with this patient group.
2024-01-0247 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR Fathers (North America) Thank you for joining us today. In this episode, Nick Embleton (consultant neonatologist) joins me as co-host for this episode talking to a group of Fathers about men's grief after TFMR. The Fathers joining us are Brian, Kenneth, Justin. They are all joining us from the USA and Canada and all have experienced TFMR due to foetal anomaly. RTZ Hope is spoken about in this episode and they can be found here: https://rtzhope.org/This is the third and final episode in our series talking to father's about their grief and experiences.
2023-12-171h 11Time To Talk TFMRTFMR: Antenatal Results & Choices - 35th Anniversary with Jane FisherIn today's episode, I'm speaking with Jane Fisher, the Director of Antenatal Results and Choices (ARC). It's ARC's 35th anniversary this year and we thought it's be a good idea to hear from Jane about ARC's history, why it was created, how and by whom. I also wanted to hear about what has been most present for ARC in our most recent times and where they are headed for the future.Jane is a very dynamic charity Director. I don't think there are many that happily (eagerly) man the helplines! And this is what makes ARC so...
2023-11-2844 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: PAL with Natasha WilliamsToday joining me to talk about pregnancy after loss is Natasha Williams. Natasha is a highly experienced CBT and EMDR trained Psychotherapist, who has over 20 years’ experience of working with women and their partners. She specialises in working with women who have experienced fertility issues and pregnancy loss, and she is a member of the Parenthood in Mind team.I asked Natasha your questions about the difficulties of pregnancy after loss for TFMR, and she shares her knowledge of anxiety and trauma with us.If you liked this episode, why not have a listen to ha...
2023-11-0549 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR Fathers (Maternal Health)In today's episode, I'm talking with two dad's who have gone through the experience of TFMR due to their partner's health. Avi from Western Canada and Jack from the UK join me, and my visiting co-host, Consultant Neonatologist, Nick Embleton, discussing what it has been like for them trying to support their wives while also grieving at the same time.This is the second in our series talking to father's about their grief and experiences. Episode 45 is the first in this series with my co-host Nick, speaking to four dad's from the UK. We also have Episode 31...
2023-10-1549 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Returning to Working with Alannah RossAlannah Ross, from We Seek Care, joins me in today's episode talking about returning to work after having a TFMR. Alannah had an abortion nine years ago and found she struggled both physically, mentally and emotionally afterwards. Feeling unsupported in her own recovery, she set about setting up We Seek Care, a platform focussed on aftercare. Originally, Alannah thought Seek would support individual women and partners, but she soon found she had businesses knocking on her door. We discuss what women need from their employers after a TFMR, how to approach your manager and what you can...
2023-09-2436 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: T21 Down Syndrome with Emma ParsonsWelcome to today's episode: TFMR for a T21 (Down Syndrome) diagnosis with Emma Parsons. Emma had her TFMR in 2009. After having her 20 week anatomy scan, she was informed there was a high chance her son, Isaac, had T21. This was later confirmed by further genetic testing. Emma talks to us about her decision making process, how she felt quite lonely, the effect on her mental health and how her grief has evolved over time.She is very open and honest, and we know that many mums out there who have been dealt this particular TFMR ca...
2023-09-0344 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR Fathers (UK)Welcome to today's episode: TFMR Fathers.I'm so grateful that four dads were willing to come and speak with us. I also had an awesome guest co-host this episode, consultant neonatologist Nick Embleton.Our four dads are:Alex, Ethan, Sam and JohnAll are base here in the UK and all went through termination due to foetal anomaly. They were all amazingly open and honest about their experiences, how they were impacted, what support they received and what they felt was needed, not just for them, but for their partners as well.
2023-05-141h 07Time To Talk TFMRTTC after TFMR with Julianne BoutalebHello, and welcome to today's episode.I’m joined by Julianne Boutaleb of Parenthood in Mind. Julianne is a Chartered perinatal psychologist, with over 20 years in the NHS and private practise. We’re discussing trying to conceive after TFMR – but also stopping TTC after TFMR.This is a really good follow on episode from our Sex and Intimacy after TFMR that was released a few weeks ago.Julianne mentions a few places to get extra support from, including:Tommy Pregnancy HubMaternal OCD Org.and of course you ca...
2023-04-2356 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR Research - What Parents' Need with Suzie HeaneyHello and welcome!In today's episode I'm speaking with Suzie Heaney. Suzie is a midwife and holds a Phd from Queen's University Belfast. She carried out research (called The Bluebell Study) looking into the healthcare needs of women and families going through TFMR (specifically termination for fetal anomaly) in Northern Ireland and Ireland. We know that the laws surrounding terminations/abortions have changed in both of these countries recently, to allow access to essential healthcare. But how have these changes impacted women going through terminations for fetal anomalies? Suzie is also ARC's coordinator in NI.
2023-04-0954 minTime To Talk TFMRSex & Intimacy After TFMR with Petal's Director Karen BurgessIn today's episode, I'm speaking with Karen Burgess from Petal's Baby Loss Counselling Charity and Sally Kelly, a specialist midwife in bereavement care, about returning to sex and/or intimacy after a TFMR.It's such an important topic...and we just don't talk about it - me included!We talk about how to connect with each other again - because the trauma and grief explodes the relationship in many ways, for many people. Communication is key, being honest with each other, which can feel very very difficult when you are already at your most vulnerable.
2023-03-2547 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Secondary Infertility with Psychotherapist Tracy Gilmore-NimoyHello, and welcome to the start of season 7!Today I'm speaking with Tracy Gilmore-Nimoy. Tracy is a psychotherapist based in California, USA. She had her own 3rd trimester TFMR three years ago. The difficult labour ended up seeing Tracy haemorrhage, the resulting physical trauma of interventions to save her life has meant she's been left with Asherman's Syndrome (scarring of the uterus). Tracy has unfortunately had a further miscarriage from a spontaneous pregnancy, and then a further miscarriage after trying IVF.She shares a bit about her experiences and how she's dealing and...
2023-03-0542 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Christmas & Other Celebrations with Suzie Jay GoldsmithHello and welcome to our last episode of 2022.I'm speaking with Suzie Jay Goldsmith, photographer, mentor, author and mum. Suzie had two TFMRs , and after her second one, she decided to write a book exploring how creativity can help us navigate our grieving process and ease trauma. The Rallying Cry is part autobiography, part research and part workbook.Christmas is a difficult time of year for anyone who's grieving. Really, this episode could be listened to for any time there's a big cultural celebration that brings families, friends and communities together, as it's at these...
2022-12-1859 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Maternal Health with Rachel and GeorgiaIn today's episode I'm talking with two women, Rachel and Georgia, about their TFMRs for maternal health reasons.Rachel had a TFMR due to preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome and Georgia experienced an 'eccentric' pregnancy and Asherman's Syndrome which put her at serious risk of uterine abruption.This year, we featured TFMR for maternal health reasons during baby loss awareness. I learnt from speaking to many of you that it can feel that your experience isn’t valued in the same way, or that you aren't included within the TFMR community in the same way.
2022-12-041h 12Time To Talk TFMRTFMR: Genetic Counselling with Dagmar Tapon and Jane FisherHello! In today's episode, we're talking with Dagmar Tapon, a genetic counsellor and Jane Fisher, Director of Antenatal Results and Choices, about genetic counselling.We talk about the technical stuff, like the difference between genes and chromosomes, the limits to testing, options for future pregnancies, the emotional and mental load that both testing and coping can bring...and much more.Dagmar mentions the HFEA as a resource for statics about IVF in the UK:Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority gives impartial, accurate information about IVF, clinics and other fertility treatments from the UK g...
2022-11-2256 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Disability & AbortionHello, and welcome to today's episode.Our guest is Mara Clarke. Mara is an abortion activist, mum and disabled woman. She founded Abortion Support Network which supports those who need to travel for an abortion from across Europe.We discuss Channel 4's documentary titled Disability and Abortion: The Hardest Choice, aired at the end of the summer.Does ending a pregnancy due to detected fetal abnormality amount to disability discrimination? No, of course not. Once again, this is a case of trying to simplify a complex and nuanced situation.Mara and...
2022-10-3056 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: FriendshipHello! And welcome to Season 6!Today's episode is all about how our friends can support us through TFMR and beyond.We're really grateful to Jess and Atiya for coming on and discussing their experience so openly. This is a really moving episode about how friendship can be such a powerful support for those facing this terrible loss.Get in touch and let us know what you think. Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR and Twitter @TalkTFMREmail is TalkTFMR@yahoo.comThis episode is supported by Antenatal R...
2022-10-0954 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Well-beingToday we're speaking with Lucy Livesey again, all about well-being, including mindfulness meditation, for those going through baby loss.Lucy is a mental health nurse, hypnobirthing instructor, mindfulness teacher. She and her husband Rick lost their daughter, Ellie, in a TFMR a few years ago.After her experience, she went on to develop the Ellie's Gift App as a resource for others to help them through the birth of a baby they know has died, or will die.The app has been developed in conjunction with the NHS. It has just had a...
2022-07-2842 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Stopping TTCIn today's episode we hear from Janelle Ramsey. Janelle is a befriender for SANDS Leeds and runs a support group for parents who, for them, their baby who died is there last child. This could either be because a decision has been made to stop trying for children (or more living children), or the decision has been made for them due to medical negligence, for example. Janelle is a TFMR parent herself and while she was seeking support after her loss, she thought of the idea of setting up a group for those that find th...
2022-07-1040 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Roe v Wade Special EpisodeWelcome, hello and thank you for listening.We've brought this episode together very quickly and I'm grateful to all of our guests for jumping on to this with me at short notice.My guests are:Jane Armstrong @TFMRsocialworker (Instagram) based in TexasMelanie Zamenhof @mzamenhof (Instagram) based in New YorkClaire Cullen @TFMR_Ireland based in IrelandWe are talking about our stories, how we feel about the overturning of Roe vs Wade, what impact this has for TFMR parents and what we can do about it.
2022-06-281h 18Time To Talk TFMRTFMR: Creative Expression/ConnectionHello! And welcome to today's episode.I'm speaking with Buff about her TFMR last year. We open the episode with Buff reading one of her poems that she wrote after Forest died. Creative writing, journal writing, spoken word and poetry are all ways that Buff has used to support herself through this.Our last episode, we spoke to Rasmus, Buff's husband. Here, we hear Buff's perspective.We can hear how they processed their grief differently. Their differences of how they made meaning of what was happening.They are based in Portugal...
2022-06-2655 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: A Father's Grief with Rasmus IlsoHello, and welcome to today's episode!I'm speaking with Rasmus about his experience of TFMR as a dad. Father's are often neglected in the TFMR conversations, and the wider baby loss topics, so I am so grateful to Rasmus for coming to chat with me.Rasmus speaks with so much eloquence and emotion about his son, Forest. He is honest and raw, and I am sure many of you, like me, will appreciate his vulnerability.Hopefully, our dad listeners out there will hear something that resonates with their grief in Rasmus's words.
2022-06-0556 minTime To Talk TFMRTime To Talk TFMR Live!Well this is exciting! Welcome to our first ever podcast recording with a live audience! This even was brought to you in conjunction with Antenatal Results and Choices.And what a fantastic event it was! We loved meeting some of our listeners in real life and getting to know some of them a little better.Our panel of experts, Dr Brenda Kelly Consultant Obstetrician, Jane Fisher Director of ARC and Sally Kelly Specialist Bereavement Midwife, answered all our audiences TFMR questions.These ranged from the place for more scans in later pregnancy to...
2022-05-2256 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Faith/ReligionHello and welcome to our final episode of Season Four! That went fast!Don't worry though, we'll be back soon with Season Five before you know it and we have some great episodes planned for you.Today's episode is about how TFMR impacts someone's religious faith.Chelsey was raised with Catholicism taking a central focus in her life and most of her family are active members of the church. After her TFMR, everything change. This has left Chelsey with a secondary loss, the loss of her faith. Still a very spiritual person however...
2022-04-1055 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Maternal Health Reasons - Hyperemesis GravidarumIn today's episode we hear from Ja'Nai Wilkes describe her journey with hyperemesis gravidarum.Often described as severe sickness, HG can be a debilitating illness. Ja'Nai has been effected by HG in all of her pregnancies. She managed to make it through her first two pregnancies and give birth to two healthy babies, but when she got pregnant for a 3rd time, she knew things were going to be much, much worse.Ja'Nai went on the end three of her pregnancies due to HG. Her babies Dahlia, DeWayne and Rose are forever loved and missed.
2022-03-2740 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: ResearchToday, we're chatting with both Jane Fisher from Antenatal Results and Choices and Professor Caroline Lafarge from the University of West London. Caroline is a Professor of Psychology with an interest in maternal health.After going through her own termination, Caroline decided to focus her masters and Phd in psychology in this area of research. She has undertaken many research projects to look into how women cope with a termination for fetal abnormality and the way coping relates to women’s post-termination psychological changes. ARC has funded some of Caroline's findings, most notably in the importance of ch...
2022-03-2542 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: 3rd Trimester Loss & Pregnancy After LossHello! Welcome to today's episode. It is Pregnancy After Loss Awareness month and so we are pleased to bring you Susan's story.Susan tells us about her experiences of a third trimester TFMR and pregnancy after loss. These are two subjects we know many of you have been waiting to hear more about.Most TFMRs happen in the second trimester, usually after the anomaly scan at approximately 20 weeks gestation. However, when what is picked up isn't clear and further tests are needed, this can take women into the third trimester. Or, there are times, as...
2022-03-1357 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Genetic CarriersThis episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.We've added a Patron account to the podcast. We'd be so grateful if you'd consider supporting the podcast with a monthly donation. Pledges start at only $1 per month. Head to our Podbean page and click on the 'Become a Patron' button at the top right to learn more.In today's episode Hayley's chatting with Kelsey. Kelsey and her husband are both carriers for 3C Syndrome. They only discovered this after...
2022-02-1345 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: CouplesWelcome back! We're excited to announce that Antenatal Results & Choices is now a proud supporter of the Time To Talk TFMR podcast!ARC is the only UK, nationwide charity, offering non-directive, individualised information and support to parents who are making decisions around antenatal screening and diagnostic testing. They also provide specialized bereavement care for those who experience termination for medical reasons.For more information or support, please call ARC on 020 7713 7486In today's episode, we are speaking with Amy and Rachel. Rachel carried and birthed a healthy baby boy for the couple...
2022-01-3049 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Post Traumatic GrowthHere it is, season 3 finale!And it's a great episode. Dr Julie Bindeman joins us from Maryland, USA. She is the co-founder of Integrative Therapy of Greater Washington and she specialises in reproductive and maternal mental health. Julie has had two TFMRs herself and she is especially interested in the phenomenon of Post Traumatic Growth.In order to talk about PTG, we had to talk about trauma and grief, and Julie gives us some really great insight into both of these human experiences and how they can play out in TFMR.W...
2021-11-1444 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Mental HealthLucy Livesey is joining us today to talk about Mindfulness meditation and well-being during and after loss. Lucy is a mental health nurse and well-being practitioner and set up Relax with Lucy & Co. in 2017 after experiencing the death of her daughter Ellie in a TFMR.Just a little heads up, Hayley goes off on one and lets loose a couple of F-bombs - sorry about that! She was pretty pissed to hear how some people refuse to accept that ANYONE can be effected by baby loss (of any kind) and has a right to be well supported...
2021-10-3159 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: CouplesHello! We have another episode with a couple for our guests.This time it's with Mark and Angela Deeks. You hear from both of them about how the loss of their daughter, Laurie, to a TFMR effected them individually and as a couple.One of the things they speak so clearly about is how different their responses were to the news that Laurie was very poorly and that they would need to make a decision about whether or not to continue with the pregnancy. Angela seemed to accept, or understand better, the options available to...
2021-10-3144 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Surgical TerminationIn this special episode for Baby Loss Awareness Week, we're focussing once again on surgical termination.We're speaking with Jane Fisher from Antenatal Results & Choices (ARC) and Dr Patricia Lohr, Medical Director for the British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS) Also joining us are Sabrina Fletcher @thetfmrdoula, Emma Belle from @tfmrmamas and Paige Wissam @paigewissam. All three women have experienced a surgical termination.Jane and Patricia tell us about how BPAS took on the task of creating a TFMR pathway for those wanting/needing to access a ST and how there are more specialist h...
2021-10-1053 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR in a Multiples PregnancyPregnancies with multiples are automatically classed as ‘high-risk’. It’s important to highlight the heartbreak that these parents go through. There can be problems found with one or more babies, or the mothers health is at risk and they may be told to 'reduce the pregnancy', which is a TFMR.Priya joins us to talk about her and her husband, Ricky's, experience of finding out that they were expecting triplets - an exciting and joyous thing - to then finding out that the pregnancy was at risk and that they could lose all babies if they didn't make a...
2021-09-1247 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR Aftermath: Listener QuestionsHello! Thank you for joining us again.Today's episode is all about the immediate aftermath of TFMR.The emotional, physical and mental challenges.We're joined by Jane Fisher from Antenatal Results and Choices (Instagram @arcantenatal) and our resident specialist midwife, Sally Kelly AND several listeners of the podcast to ask their questions to the experts.Questions range from genetic testing to regrets surrounding surgical termination.This is the first time we've done an episode with so many voices and we think it works really well. It's great to open...
2021-08-291h 01Time To Talk TFMRTTC after TFMRIn today's episode we're talking about trying to conceive (TTC) after TFMR with Dr Erica Rozmid.Erica is a clinical psychologist and uses cognitive behavioural and dialectical behavioural therapies (CBT & DBT) to help her clients with a range of mental health issues.Erica lost her daughter, Shayla to TFMR a few months ago and so has begun to use the techniques she teaches others on herself to help her through her TTC journey.This episode is full of laughing and a bit of swearing. Not because the subject is funny (it isn't, we...
2021-08-1548 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: CouplesWelcome back!In our opening episode for season three we speak with Emma & Gareth about their experience of a TFMR in October 2020. Many of you may already know Emma from her work through the @tfmrmamas Instagram page and website she created.We hear how Emma and Gareth have each dealt differently with their anxieties around having an IVF pregnancy, finding out that something was serious wrong with their baby, Willow and their subsequent grief in losing her. Gareth describes everything from his utter devastation, feelings of helplessness, through to his guilt at 'not being as...
2021-08-0151 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR and The Anti-Choice Campaign (High-Court case special)In this special episode we're joined by Jane Fisher from Antenatal Results and Choices (ARC) to talk about the High-Court case heard last week (August 6, 2021) brought by three people against the UK government. They want a change in the abortion law to restrict access in post 24 week terminations for those fetus's/babies found to have a non-fatal disorder and specifically, those found to have Down syndrome (DS).We talk about the emotional impact seeing and hearing these views in the media and how a balanced view is often missing from these reports. We speak about why DS...
2021-07-1547 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR & The Wider Baby Loss Community with Dr Jessica ZuckerIn today's episode we're talking with Dr Jessica Zucker. Jessica is a psychologist, writer and author specialising in reproductive and maternal mental health. She started the I Had A Miscarriage campaign in 2014 on Instagram after having her own second trimester miscarriage in 2012. She has just published a memoir of the same name.We talk to Jessica about her work with TFMR parents, how she feels about those who question her unwavering support and inclusion of TFMR as baby loss and why the wider baby loss community needs to include TFMR.Jessica tells us about her...
2021-06-1354 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Surgical TerminationHello and thank you for listening.In today's episode we are speaking with Sally Kelly, a specialist midwife in bereavement care and Steph Cunningham a TFMR mum who had a surgical termination in 2019.Steph tells us her story and her feelings around having a ST both then and now. Sally talks us through when and how a ST is offered and what her role is.We consider this episode the first of many covering this topic. Frankly, if we'd tried to cover it all in one episode, you'd be listening for a week...
2021-05-301h 06Time To Talk TFMRTFMR & Going Public with Lou ConranHello and welcome to our latest episode.Our guest today is the comedian, writer and performer, Lou Conran. Lou had a TFMR in 2016 after she found out that her daughter, Emma, wasn't developing properly. Emma had a rare skeletal condition and at 21 weeks, Lou delivered her.A year later, Lou wrote and performed her comedy show, I Love Lou C to live audiences at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival. The show is all about her experience of becoming pregnant (after being told she was infertile) with a man who was less than ideal (understatement) and just...
2021-05-1651 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR & IVF with Dr Shema TariqHello and thank you for listening!In this episode of Time To Talk TFMR we're talking to Dr Shema Tariq about her personal experience of termination of an IVF conception. Shema shares her story of infertility and the journey of needing to chose to use donor eggs and after finally becoming pregnant with her son Altair, the devastating consequences of her waters breaking early. This lead to her needing to induce labour in order to protect her own health. Shema is open and honest about her IVF and TFMR experience and tells us about the ef...
2021-05-021h 00Time To Talk TFMRTFMR in IrelandIn today's episode we are joined by Jen Ryan. Jen is a campaigner for TFMR Ireland and LMC Bereavement Support. She is a mum who has experienced her own TFMR in 2012, before the laws changed, allowing women to access abortions up to 12 weeks of pregnancy.We talk to her about her personal experience of having to travel to England to have her TFMR and what impact this had on her grieving process. We explore that although Ireland changed their laws 3 years ago to allow for terminations up to 12 weeks of pregnancy, for any reason (fatal or non-fatal...
2021-04-1850 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: In discussion with Dr Brenda Kelly, Consultant Obstetrician and Fetal Medicine SpecialistHello and thank you for listening!In today's episode we are joined by Dr Brenda Kelly. Brenda is a Consultant Obstetrician and Fetal Medicine specialist at Oxford University Hospitals Trust. She has over 20 years of experience of working with women and families.Often, when a problem is detected on a scan or through blood tests, there isn't a clear answer about what is wrong with baby. In this episode Brenda explains how a medical team work together to complete the 'jigsaw puzzle' when either a genetic or structural problem is detected.Catherine tells...
2021-04-0458 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR: Being Apart and The Healing Power of MusicHayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Sara Vincini. Sara is Italian and lives in London with her husband and son. She has been through a late term TFMR, as well as miscarriage. To raise awareness, she regularly writes about baby loss, both on social media and on her blog: O Baby Where Art Thou.We talk to Sara about the difficulty of being away from friends and family while grieving and how music helped her through. Sara struck up a friendship with Idles frontman Joe Talbot, who's daughter was stillborn. Her...
2021-03-2142 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR and Bereavement Care with Petals CharityHayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Karen Burgess, the founder and director of counselling at Petals, The Baby Loss Counselling Charity. In this episode we talk about the complex grief that can follow a TFMR and how Petals helps parents to navigate their feelings around guilt and shame. Please contact Petals on their helpline 0300 688 0068 or email counselling@petalscharity.org. You can also find them on Instagram @petalscharity. Under the Additional Support support tab on their website, you can find links to various support groups and resources: www.petalscharity.org...
2021-03-0737 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR and Being a Bereaved Mum/Midwife and Training Health ProfessionalsHayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Steph Wild. Steph is a the founder of Beyond Bea Charity, a practising midwife and the mum the Bea , who she lost due to TFMR.In this episode, Steph tells us how she began her training to be a midwife at 18 and undertook to support bereaved parents from the beginning. When she became pregnant in 2017, the unthinkable happened while at her 20wk anomaly scan. After a further MRI scan, she and her partner were told that their baby was missing parts of her brain. At 23 + 4 d...
2021-02-0749 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR and Parenting after lossHayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Sue Clachers, a bereavement support practitioner with the national charity Child Bereavement UK.Today we are talking about parenting after loss. We discuss with Sue about navigating the tricky questions about death our children may ask – how do we achieve ‘age appropriate’ answers? We also explore explaining death to children and how to cope with our own grief while trying to be parents.Whether you have living children or not, we are all still parenting after loss. How does this look for you? We dis...
2021-01-2446 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR Language, Different TFMR Procedures and Healing Grief RitualsHayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Sabrina Fletcher, host of Our TFMR Stories on YouTube, a pregnancy loss doula and TFMR parent.Hello again! Thank you for choosing to listen to us, we’re so glad you’re here. In this episode we cover quite a lot of ground! From TFMR experiences in Mexico & the USA, where women's reproductive rights and the abortion debate is so much more polarised, to healing grief rituals.Today, we speak with Sabrina about her TFMR experience in Mexico (she is an American currently livi...
2021-01-1038 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR and Creative Self-CareHayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Suzie Jay Goldsmith, a photographer, mentor and author of The Rallying Cry and two time TFMR parent.Thank you for choosing this episode! It’s one full of inspiration and hope and we so enjoyed speaking with Suzie.We talk about creative self-care after a TFMR. What does your creativity look like for you? Are you a journaler? A baker? A flower arranger? Do you even consider yourself a creative person? Suzie talks about her own experiences with TFMR and how creativity helped he...
2021-01-0449 minTime To Talk TFMRTFMR and The Role of a Bereavement MidwifeHayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Sally Kelly, a midwife, specialising in bereavement care, within the NHS.Hello! And welcome, we are so glad you are joining us for this episode of Time To Talk TFMR, termination for medical reasons. In this episode we are speaking to Sally Kelly, an experienced midwife, specialising in bereavement care of women and families that suffer the loss of their babies. She is particularly passionate about women being given appropriate and compassionate care when it comes to TFMR. She’ll also tell us abo...
2021-01-0451 minTime To Talk TFMRTermination for Medical Reasons: an IntroductionHayley Manning & Catherine Mousley present Time To Talk TFMR with their guest Jane Fisher, Director of Antenatal Results and Choices.We are so glad that you have found us, although this most probably means that you, or someone very close to you, has experienced a termination for medical reasons (TFMR). We hope that you will find comfort, support, information and hope by listening to what we have put together for you.In our very first episode we introduce ourselves and each talk a little about our personal experiences with TFMR. We are then joined by...
2021-01-0446 min