Justin Stoddart 0:00
Hey, welcome back to the think bigger real estate Show. I'm your host Justin Stoddart where my mission and passion are to help you think bigger so that you can have the business that you want in the life that you want. And you know, I am more than excited today to introduce a good friend of mine, Josh Friberg, who is fabulous at helping people have it all. Can you have it all, right? That's kind of the big question we're going to solve today. I believe that you can be in a dedicated family man and a dedicated professional. Today's topic is very near and dear to my heart. So let me give an intro for those of you that don't know Josh Friberg. First of all, let me say, Josh, thanks for being on the show, man.
Josh Friberg 0:34
Yeah, my pleasure. Really happy to be here with you.
Justin Stoddart 0:39
Good stuff. So for those that don't know, Josh, his background, he has actually was just recently on the executive team of an organization. Five doors that we want Inc 5000 top fastest growing privately held companies number 113. On that played a very critical role in helping them grow to the level that they did Justin has been a real estate agent and is now the abundant agent, somebody who's helping agents again, have it all. So excited to delve into this topic. As I said, that's very near and dear to my heart of how do you not neglect your family and still build a great business? So Josh, thank you, my friend. Appreciate you being on here talking about this incredibly important topic.
Josh Friberg 1:18
Absolutely. Yeah. You know Justin it's so interesting. Like, as I travel around the country teaching in brokerages and, and at associations, like over and over again, I find that real estate agents got into this business to take care of their families. And then now that their businesses are doing great now that their businesses are growing, they find out that their families are suffering, right, they look back over at the family and go, Oh, something's broken. And what many people don't understand is it actually only takes about getting takes getting three things, right. And if you can nail those, you can have amazing results. It's really about figuring out like, where your biggest contribution is really mapping your priorities, and then having an execution plan that works and, and the results are, you know, it's honestly just amazing. You know, we've walked agents through like doubling and tripling their businesses and reporting back, oh, I have more time with my spouse, I have more time with my kids and better relationships than I've ever had. So that's really what we're doing with the abundant agent is helping people really tap into that part of their real estate, businesses, and lives.
Justin Stoddart 2:23
You know, at the core of who I am, I'm a family guy. And, but I don't necessarily want to have a lousy career because I have a big family because family is important to me. It's It's interesting. I meet with agents all the time. A lot of times, it's moms, they kind of raise their hand and they say, I'm torn inside. I don't know how to do this. Because some days I wake up in fact, this is a quote from a client. She said, You know, I wake up some days and I just want to kill it. And I'm just so excited, fired up to go build my business. She said other days, I just want to be a mom, I want to foreclose, I just want to. And so there's this like kind of schizo Franek, like, Who do I want to be. And, you know, me myself self was raised in a family, where I had a mom who was a very successful entrepreneur, and yet, she was the best mom I could have ever imagined. And I think she came to grips with the fact that she could be where she needed to be when she needed to be there by owning her own business. Right, actually gave her the freedom to kill it during certain work hours, and then step out and be at all of our games, travel around the state to watch our football games, etc. And so I think that you can't have it all. I've seen it I was raised in an environment of, of entrepreneurs and family members who pursued both and and and were great parents at the same time. So let's start with Josh, what advice would you give, whether it be a busy mother? And or a maybe even a busy father, but like, what are some of the tactics that you see some strategies that you teach, to help people to, you know, not neglect the family while still building their business?
Josh Friberg 3:56
Right? Well, first of all, I want to put huge Asterix on this, this is where talking if we are talking to moms, right like that, we don't know that you and I do not understand their world, right, and the responsibilities that are on them. And so anything that I say I say with like great caution, and great like, just, hey, apply this as you can. And I know that I don't fully understand your world. The first place, you know, you mentioned and I thought this was really good is to be where you are, is to actually like, it's really interesting. I was in a class in a yoga class actually once and they said, you know, your body can only be in the present, right. And we would all agree with that, like I can't have my body be in the past in my body can't be in the future, it can only be in the present, yet our minds can be in the past, our minds can be in the present, or our minds can be in the future. And so this person said it was really just an interesting thing is they said, just let your mind be where your body is right now.
And so, you know, even now, like you and I have the ability, while we're having this conversation to be thinking about what we're having for lunch today to think about that weird thing we said Yes, today, right? Like, there's all these things, but to just be present where you are. The other thing is, there's, there's this old, there's this old saying in comedy, which is leaving wanting more, right. And I started applying this in my business, because I'm like, your friend, your client that said, you know, some days, I just want to go into work, and I just want to kill it. For achievers, there's actually something really gratifying about the 14 hour work day not as a lifestyle, right. But as a like a day where man, you're just hitting on all cylinders, and you're able to give it your all, you're able to pull an all-nighter. And really like at the end of the day, say I did something.
And you can do that for a day or a week or maybe even a month. But that's not a lifestyle, right? One of the things that I do when I'm coaching achievers is put a limit on it. And it's like, on those days when everything's going right. Like, put in the three hours that you have in your schedule, do it are the five or whatever it is. And when you come to the end of it stop.
Because that energy will have you ramped up, I had the experience of that this weekend where I could not wait for Monday to start because I was so pumped about the activities I was going to do for work. And I committed to honoring my time with family on Sunday and helping my son with his science project, right. So like, set limits on when you're going to work and stick to those. Now there's another piece to that. Because then there are days when Hey, I just want to stay home, I just want to it's sunny out, I want to take the kids to the zoo, or Boy, you know, families having a rough day I will I didn't really need to do. Maybe Today's a day I need to call in sick and stay at home. And I literally just got a text this morning from one of my coaching clients that said that exact same thing. Hey, I didn't make my commitments that were because we really needed a family day.
And it might be okay once but boy, that becomes a habit that's really dangerous for your business. So what I say is, create a schedule and do it whether you feel like it or not. An...
