Justin Stoddart
Hello and welcome back to the Think Bigger Real Estate Show. I'm your host Justin Stoddart, very excited about today's episode I have with me an individual who's going to unlock for you why maybe you're 2019 isn't quite what you've wanted it to be, maybe some of you are in that category, and how to be sure that 2020 is the year that you want it to be. There are some amazing parallels with 2020 meaning perfect clarity, perfect vision. It's a great year. It's a brand new decade. It's a great time for all of us to hit our stride and become the people that we know we can become. Today's guest is going to do exactly that. I want to invite everybody who's listening if you are not yet signed up to get the weekly summary emails you're totally missing out. This week is going to even feature Grant Cardone. Many of you saw that interview, and several other amazing people, including today's guest. So, please do yourself a favor, go to thinkbigger.realestate, sign up to get the weekly summary emails, they'll make your life a lot easier and will be sure that you don't miss out on some of the amazing people that I'm bringing on to the show like today's guest.
Justin Stoddart
Her name is Dr. Amanda Barrientez, her PhD is in sociology and she specializes in human behavior and performance. What a perfect topic and what it's perfect guest for us to be delving into this time of the year when we know that that's things that we're doing right now in October are going to pay in 2020. So welcome to the show, Amanda. I'm really, really excited to have you here.
Amanda Barrientez
Hey, thanks for having me.
Justin Stoddart
Yes, my pleasure. And out of Boulder, Colorado, where there are four inches of snow on the ground, folks.
Amanda Barrientez
Yeah, that's quite a surprise. Really.
Justin Stoddart
My wife is from North Dakota and she jokes about how all of her Halloween costumes always had to be made to fit over her snow suit.
Amanda Barrientez
Exactly. You pretty much decided your Halloween costume based on the weather and and yes, always always. It was like I have this great one year. I remember I was a cat and I had this amazing outfit that you and I had a one piece snowsuit. You can't see any of it.
Justin Stoddart
I'll bet it was cute before though and all of a sudden you look like the State Puffed Marshmallow Man.
Justin Stoddart
Let's get into this. Amanda I'm excited about this topic because again, now is the time for people to act not to think about acting, not to be planning for 2020 because the reality is the things that we're doing right now, again, are not going to pay until 202. Give us this help with mindset effect, if you wouldn't mind tell us the name of your company, and maybe how the branding and name of that company helps you on this very topic or helps your clients and your audiences on this very topic.
Amanda Barrientez
Yeah, yeah, so my the name of my company is NFA coaching which stands for No Fucking Around and you know, I love it because it captures a wide variety of mindset behaviors performance, but also the self care, you know. So I think about the way that we run our businesses from a very holistic perspective and it really starts with mindset, you know. Do you have a no fucking around approach to taking care of yourself, to building your business to treating it like a business, to your relationships to the way that you create your personal power, your sense of self confidence, how you set your goals, all of those things, I really, you know, I talked about it as the NFA attitude or the NFA mindset and it's really a radical responsibility approach to knowing that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. And if you don't like what's going on in your outer world, you got to change yourself. And so it's this radical responsibility where you go. Okay, I'm going to step into a new game, I'm going to step into a new version of myself and become what I want to become because anything's possible.
Justin Stoddart
Isn't it interesting Amanda of how the tendency for all of us and I'm not pointing fingers at all, I mean, most of the fingers are pointing back at me is that when something doesn't quite go right, we are quick to look to our circumstances to other people. Why do we do that?
Amanda Barrientez
Because it's so much easier. You know? Um, well, there's multiple reasons. I mean, one reason is whenever we're blaming other people, it keeps us in a disempowered position, which in some ways, we think, Oh, awesome. If I blame them, then I don't really have to do anything. But the challenging part of that is if you blame them, you can't you don't have any power to change your reality. So the moment you start to shift the perspective and go, Okay, how can I learn lessons from this? How can I see my responsibility responsibility in it, then I have the power to choose. I have the power to get conscious and change my circumstances. So for me, I was on food stamps three years ago, and I shifted, you know, broken relationships on food stamps on the floor crying and I had this really epiphany moment where I was sitting there going, I'm the center of my reality, and I'm the one that needs to change and so I started doing everything I possibly could to change myself. And I really, I mean, people will talk to me all the time about how serious I am about about personal development. And I'm like, well, here's the deal. If you are empowered in yourself, you can create anything you want in your life or business. And I really started to see that happen for myself. And so it just, you know, NFA fits me so well.
Justin Stoddart
You know, I love how you said that because it is interesting that it feels good for the moment, right? We're comfortable in the moment to say what market was really off this year, right? Or my teammates really let me down my company let me down like for a moment where it is in fact, I was sitting in a class yesterday and we actually discussed this topic about how it's comfortable in the moment boy that ends up happening as it transpires into discomfort down the road because we stay in that same spot. Yeah. If we can say get really uncomfortable and say, my, my circumstances are 100% a result of my actions and my choices. then guess what? It's very uncomfortable. Not very moment. Yeah, we can then empower ourselves, like you said, to make the changes to where we can get comfortable later on. Yeah, you know what you're highlighting. So we're animals basically. And we live by the pleasure pain principle. And it's based on survival. We want to avoid threat in the current moment. And and we're always tracking for threat and we're tracking for survival. And the interesting thing is, we don't have to do that when we step into our executive functioning, we can go okay, I can, I can tolerate pain in the moment so that I can have pleasure in the long run. But most of us are very short sighted. And if we don't train our brain that way, we actually will then want to blame other people not take responsibility, be comfortable in the moment. But you'll notice all great leaders, all great thinkers, all great business owners, people who are really balanced in their life, they're able to offset pleasure in the moment and go, Okay, I can, I can struggle through this. I can do the work right now. Because I see in the future, I'm going to have a better outcome. Voice brilliant and I'm again, I'm reminding you what
Justin Stoddart
You're saying is resonating with some of the greats that I've actually listened to this week. I mean, obviously, Grant Cardone 10X is all about that, right? Like the 10X Rule, like you own it, buddy. Yesterday, I sat through a class here locally that h...