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So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationTo The A.I Who Judged Me & Why Lab-Grown Brain Cells Don't Actually Believe They're ButterfliesA viral video claims lab-grown brain cells are conscious, being trained in a butterfly simulation, and might believe they are butterflies. Cool story—if it were true.In this episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation, artist and author @Joli.Artist dissects the viral claim that lab-grown brain cells are becoming sentient, and possibly believe they’re butterflies inside a simulation.The episode opens with a clear-eyed breakdown of the science behind organoid intelligence, exposing how fact has been stretched into viral fiction. But...2025-04-2351 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationThe Illusion Of Chaos (Or, How I Lost To The Fates.)Chess Against Fate: When Randomness Fails and Reality Answers BackWhat happens when you challenge the universe itself to a game? In this episode, Joli documents her attempt to break free from predetermined paths by introducing chaos into her decision-making, only to discover there's no such thing as randomness in our reality.From vanishing coins to perfectly symmetrical patterns, from AI conversations that become eerily self-aware to dreams that bleed into waking life, Joli weaves a gripping narrative that questions everything we think we know about consciousness, technology, and...2025-04-0552 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationReality Is A Lucid Dream And You Are Wide Awake | Pt 2 w/ David Jay Brown & Joli.ArtistThis episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation continues the mind-expanding conversation between host Joli and guest David Jay Brown, diving even deeper into the nature of reality, lucid dreaming, and the blurred boundaries between waking life and simulation.Key Themes:1. Lucid Dreaming & Shared Consciousness• David shares his experiences with lucid dreaming and the struggle to communicate with dream characters as if they are separate conscious entities.• The discussion explores whether dreams are a localized construct of the mind or if they c...2025-03-141h 28So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationThe Universe is a Mind—And You're One of Its Thoughts | David Jay Brown & Joli.ArtistThis episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation features an engaging, and intellectually rigorous conversation between host Joli and guest David Jay Brown, an author and researcher known for his work on lucid dreaming, consciousness, and psychedelics. Together, they explore the intersections of simulation theory, artificial intelligence, and human perception, drawing unexpected parallels between lucid dreaming and the nature of reality.Key Themes: 1. Reality as a Dream & Synchronicity • Joli and David discuss the idea that reality may function similarly to a lucid dream, where perception is merely a construct of the mind.2025-02-231h 39So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationWhat Is Feeding On Your Desires? (ft. Joli.Artist) | In a Simulation, Even Your Desires Are Controlled. This episode is a philosophical deep dive into the nature of desire, free will, and the unseen forces shaping our reality. Through introspection and personal anecdotes, Joli (@Joli.artist) explores the idea that our wants are not truly our own. They arise from external programming, life experiences, and perhaps even entities beyond our perception. She challenges the common belief in free will, suggesting that desire and outcome are intrinsically linked, like two poles of a magnet, making resistance futile. Along the way, she weaves in thoughts on determinism, fasting as a means of clarity, the...2025-02-0342 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationCan You Lose Your Mind Sanely? : The Thin Line Between Madness And ArtistryIn this provocative episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," hostess Joli (@joli.artist) challenges our understanding of madness, genius, and what it truly means to be free. Through the lens of artistic evolution - from Picasso to Rothko - she explores how what society labels as "losing one's mind" might actually be the most sane response to an insane world.Drawing from personal experiences in London's real estate market to profound philosophical insights, Joli argues that true madness isn't in breaking free from societal norms, but in spending decades imprisoned by the...2025-01-161h 09So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationThe Fight We Lost: Attention is Currency | ft. Joli.ArtistOn this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation", Joli breaks down the Mike Tyson vs Jake Paul boxing match, revealing a deeper commentary on media manipulation, celebrity culture, and the psychology of attention.She analyzes the event as more than just a fight—exposing how public figures strategically leverage spectacles to gain recognition and potential political influence.Key insights:​Detailed analysis of the Tyson-Paul match​Exploration of how attention becomes a powerful currency​Commentary on the rise of 'villains' in modern media​Critique of how celebrities navigate public perceptionJoli arg...2024-11-2434 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationLEARN FROM THE VILLAINS: The Twilight Zone Election (ft. Joli.Artist)--- In this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," Joli discusses the recent election and its implications for America. She offers a unique perspective on the election results, addressing everything from voter turnout to the Democratic Party's shortcomings. Joli explores how the two-party system has evolved into what she sees as essentially a one-party system, with Republicans controlling multiple branches of government. Rather than approaching this from a place of fear, she encourages viewers to focus on personal growth and active engagement in their own lives. 2024-11-1743 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationHow To Catch Luck (ft. Joli.Artist)--- On this episode of "So You’re Living in a Simulation," Joli delves into the concept of luck, emphasizing that it’s not merely random chance but something that can be actively influenced. She draws on the analogy of fishing to explain how people can "catch" luck, comparing it to hunting or preparing for low-probability events that lead to success. Luck isn’t just about being in the right place at the right time; it’s about positioning yourself in the right places often enough that when a lucky br...2024-10-291h 16So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationEdit the past: How to shift realities by editing your memories | Joli Artist--- **In this thought-provoking episode of the "So You’re Living in a Simulation" Podcast, Joli explores the relationship between memory, consciousness, and the multiverse.** Starting with the challenges of memory retention, particularly for those with ADHD, Joli suggests that our minds often resurface irrelevant or painful memories without benefit. But what if we could selectively forget those who’ve caused us harm? She proposes a radical approach to memory: consciously editing past experiences by imagining different outcomes in parallel realities. By doing this, Joli...2024-10-041h 18So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationThe Money Scarcity Myth: Unlearning the Lie that Hard Work Equals Wealth | Joli Artist•In this thought-provoking episode of "So You’re Living in a Simulation," Joli challenges conventional wisdom about money, success, and societal programming. She explores the concept of money as a ubiquitous resource and questions the deeply ingrained belief that hard work always leads to wealth.Joli delves into the psychology of fear, encouraging listeners to transform their mindset from one of scarcity to abundance. She discusses the idea of "eating" or benefiting from challenging situations, drawing parallels between sociopathic behavior in business and survival instincts.Th...2024-09-2148 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationHow Time Travel Proves We Are Immortal | Joli ArtistOn this episode of “Your One Black Friend” Podcast, Joli delves into the profound concepts of time, consciousness, and parallel universes. She begins by questioning the limitations imposed by our understanding of time travel, proposing that the notion of causality and past events might be challenged by the existence of parallel universes. Joli argues that while traditional physics suggests time travel to the past could violate fundamental laws, the existence of parallel realities offers a way around these constraints. Joli then explores the idea of immortality from a fourth-dimensional pers...2024-08-181h 07So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationHow time travel proves we are immortalOn this episode of “Your One Black Friend” Podcast, Joli delves into the profound concepts of time, consciousness, and parallel universes. She begins by questioning the limitations imposed by our understanding of time travel, proposing that the notion of causality and past events might be challenged by the existence of parallel universes. Joli argues that while traditional physics suggests time travel to the past could violate fundamental laws, the existence of parallel realities offers a way around these constraints.Joli then explores the idea of immortality from a fourth-dimensional pers...2024-08-181h 07The Joli &Davi PodcastThe Joli &Davi PodcastAnniversary Special: Highlights and Happenings from Year OneJoin Joli & Davi as they mark their podcast’s first anniversary with a special episode reflecting on a year of thought-provoking conversations and the shared journey of discovery and connection. In this milestone episode, they’ll share behind-the-scenes stories, and dive into the highlights that made their year so extraordinary. As they celebrate the milestones and growth they’ve experienced together. Tune in for an engaging reflection on their podcasting adventure, and get a sneak peek at what’s next as they continue to explore, learn, and inspire in the episodes to come! Don’t mi...2024-08-0613 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationDeath Only Happens To Other PeopleOn this episode of “Your One Black Friend” Podcast, Joli begins by recounting a conversation with her editor Allwin, who expressed existential concerns about aging, suffering, and the cycle of life and death. Joli challenges conventional views on death, suggesting it may be an illusion rooted in societal conditioning (rather than an absolute end.) She proposes that our fear of death stems from a limited understanding of consciousness and reality. Drawing on various philosophical and scientific concepts, Joli presents alternative perspectives on the continuity of consciousness beyond physical death. 2024-08-0155 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationExploring Infinite Realities: Joli and Kosmic’s Deep Dive into Dark Matter Episodes 1-3 (Part 2)In Part 2 of this episode of "Your One Black Friend," Joli and guest host Kosmic Jedi continue their exploration of parallel universes, inspired by the themes and narrative of Blake Crouch's novel "Dark Matter," now a series on Apple TV. (Part 2 of this discussion deals only with episode 1-3 of the series.) Kosmic & Joli delve into the concept of infinite realities and discuss how this idea allows for endless possibilities and outcomes, making the show's narrative both exciting and thought-provoking. How does the concept of infinite realities reshape our understanding of personal identity? How does soul memory influence intuition and...2024-07-111h 31So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationTime Loops, Dark Matter and Reality Transurfing: Exploring Parallel Universes (Part 1)In Part 1 of this episode of "Your One Black Friend," Joli and Guest Host @KosmicJedi delve into the fascinating themes of Time Loops, Parallel Universes, and “Reality Transurfing”, leading to a discussion of Blake Crouch's novel "Dark Matter," (now a series on Apple TV.) What impact do the choices we make have on the paths our lives take? The conversation organically transitions into a broader discussion about the concept of time, routine, and how society's rigid structures often conflict with individual natural rhythms, particularly for neurodivergent individuals. Joli and Kosmic highlight how modern technology and societal expectations can stifle creativity and...2024-06-281h 43So You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationThe Answer To Life, The Universe, And Everything Is Two DieOn this episode of "Your One Black Friend," titled "The Answer to Life, Universe, and Everything is to Die," Joli explores the profound implications behind Douglas Adams' famous number 42 from "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy." She reveals a mind-blowing interpretation that 42 symbolizes the concept of "to die," suggesting that our reality is a simulation designed to experience endings and death, created by entities that are incapable of dying. Joli connects this interpretation to themes discussed in her own podcast, "The Dark Oracle's Guide to the Multiverse," where she posits that our world's limitations and delays in gratification simulate the...2024-06-2134 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationCreate Your Own System Or Be Enslaved By Someone Else’sIn this episode, your hostess Joli, (aka Jo the Storyteller,) begins by challenging the conventional notion that successful adults must engage in serious professions, highlighting how many top earners, such as athletes and entertainers, thrive by engaging in playful, childlike activities. We then delve into a philosophical inquiry about the illusion of choice and the deterministic nature of our lives, suggesting that while we can choose paths, we don't control the circumstances we encounter. Next, the idea that our lives may be part of a larger, organised system are explored. She questions the materialistic, scientific worldview that assumes reality is...2024-06-061h 05The Joli &Davi PodcastThe Joli &Davi PodcastOpen Book or Closed Book? Oversharing Your Hard WorkIn this episode of the Joli and Davie Podcast, hosts Joli and Davie welcome Andrea Glenn, owner of the Rusty Rose. Andrea was a desired guest from the podcast's inception due to her veteran status in the industry. They discuss the importance of protecting one's business secrets and hard work. Shop with Andrea Now https://therustyrose.com Follow https://www.instagram.com/therustyrose/ Book Links The Circle Maker by Mark Patterson https://amzn.to/3X6nZld 2024-06-0529 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationThe Gods Must Be Stupid/ An Infinite Regression to One Primordial ConsciousnessIn this thought-provoking episode, Joli explores the mind-bending hypothesis that humanity and our entire reality could be an artificial simulation or "time box" created by an advanced civilization. She presents evidence suggesting our world has programmed limitations, from our DNA to societal divisions, hinting at an intelligent design behind the scenes. Joli challenges the assumption that the creators of our reality must be supremely intelligent beings, drawing analogies to AI systems that can surpass human capabilities in specific tasks despite having less overall intelligence than their creators. She speculates that our reality is a simulation aimed at exploring the fundamental...2024-04-3035 minThe Joli &Davi PodcastThe Joli &Davi PodcastJoli's Esty : From Idea to IncomeJoli, an entrepreneur running a wholesale business, sought to expand her revenue streams by venturing into the world of Etsy. Despite facing a slow start with no sales for the initial six months, her perseverance and commitment to building a new outlet for passive income never wavered. Through dedication and consistency, Joli's Etsy shop began to gain traction. Proving that consistency and persistence indeed pays off in the world of entrepreneurship.2024-04-0318 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationMoney = Life Energy Exchange. (What Are You Spending Your Life On?)In this episode titled "Money is Time," Joli discusses the often-overlooked truth behind the exchange of labor for money, emphasizing how money essentially represents hours of one's life. Joli challenges the common perception of money as merely a transactional tool, urging listeners to reevaluate how they spend their earnings. She illustrates the idea that spending money on trivial items equates to spending precious life hours on them. She further explains that money, as an intermediary, obscures the depreciation and devaluation of life's value. Joli critiques the consumer culture that encourages spending on overpriced, branded goods like Louis Vuitton bags, which...2024-03-2628 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationSynchronicity, ADHD Minds and Reality’s AlgorithmOn today’s episode, Joli​⁠ proposes a direct and profound connection between ADHD minds and the universe’s structure, suggesting a deeper, intrinsic alignment. What if the ADHD mind reflects an intuitive understanding of the universe? We will explore the intriguing concepts of algorithms in our reality, synchronicity, and how these ideas might relate to the ADHD brain. This discussion was inspired by an excerpt from "Dimensions" by Jacques Vallée that discusses how modern information systems utilize algorithms and keywords for data retrieval, suggesting that our universe might be organised in the same way. Piggybacking on the idea, Joli proposes...2024-03-1753 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationHave You Lost Your Mind Yet?Imagine your mine as an app and your brain as the hardware/computer. Can you use your mind as one would use an app: engaging and disengaging it at will, and exiting out of it when done? Think of the mind’s internal monologue to an app running in the background of your cellphone that drains the device’s battery. The continuous, often uncontrollable internal dialogue can lead to mental strain and exhaustion. Just as background apps consume power even when you’re not actively using them, the constant chatter of your mind can sap your mental energy without your consci...2024-03-0651 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationBeyond 42: A Storyteller’s Guide to Success in Tomorrow’s WorldIn this episode, Joli Artist, nka JoJo the Storyteller, 😏 examines the intersection of storytelling and our perception of reality. She advocates for the importance of questions over answers and the importance of fostering a society that encourages and values free and exploratory thinking. The episode begins with a reflection on a surprisingly profound Twitter post by Elmo, which led to an existential conversation about the public’s general dissatisfaction with life. Joli offers listeners a unique perspective through a playful, dark twist on Elmo himself, while showing that even simple online interactions can often reveal deeper societal issues. Critiquing the tradi...2024-02-2743 minSo You’re Living In A SimulationSo You’re Living In A SimulationIs Your Life the Favorite Song of A Higher Dimensional Being?A Creative Exploration of String TheoryIs Your Life a Favorite Song to Higher Dimensional Beings? | Cosmic Philosophy & The Music of Existence Join Joli and her special guest, The Kosmic Jedi, in this thought-provoking episode of "Your One Black Friend." Dive into discussions on collective consciousness, the role of nature as a teacher, and the concept of being "watchers" in society. Explore the idea of life as a grand symphony, and how we contribute to the harmony or discord of the collective melody. In this episode, Joli Artist and The Kosmic Jedi delve into the philosophical depths of existence, questioning if our lives are akin to...2024-02-0748 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire106 The conversation that will change your life: Power dynamics for non-kinkstersIt's no secret that we started our relationship in a bad place. Together, we worked and learned our way from a painful, confused state to a conscious, growth-oriented, and gentle love. We transformed that messy, painful relationship by taking a page (several thousand pages, actually) from the world of kink. Kinksters regularly talk about power exchange--we think everyone should. Every single day Joli hears from people who don't recognize that unnegotiated power dynamics are creating suffering in their most cherished relationships. Want an unconventionally happy life? You've got to...2023-04-0947 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire102 How to find, create, and enjoy non-monogamous community with guest expert Libby SinbackLibby Sinback, from Making Polyamory Work joins Joli for a conversation about one of the BEST parts of shifting from monogamy to non-monogamy: community that supports your authentic self. More connection is why so many of us practice non-monogamy, but it's not always clear how to actually make the community we long for. Listen as we provide both inspiration and practical advice on how to find, create, and enjoy non-monogamous community! Learn more about Libby at https://libbysinback.com/ Hear more from Libby on Making Polyamory Work Podcast ...2023-03-041h 15Playing With FirePlaying With Fire83 How to heal from jealousy and envyDo you experience jealousy as overwhelming, painful, or disruptive? How about envy? Yeah- most people agree, there's more pain than fun packed into these feelings. But, like other big emotions, jealousy and envy have are rich with gold you for your individuation journey. The trick is to begin seeing these green-eyed monsters for their archetypal content rather than as something to solve. Jealousy and envy won't necessarily become your favorite emotional experiences, but they can absolutely become part of your personal growth process starting today.  Joli's spent the past decade researching to bring you practical m...2022-10-151h 00Playing With FirePlaying With Fire81 Here's why we are Playing with Fire!Do you want to explore non-monogamy? Are you curious about how conscious relationships can take you to new levels of growth in your psychological individuation? In Playing With Fire, which grew out of the Project Relationship podcast, Joli and Ken co-host weekly intimate conversations from the inside of a non-monogamous, individuation-oriented marriage. We’re sharing tools and strategies for making your relationship into one that helps you feel seen, known, and supported as you become the most YOU version of you possible. Watch this episode on YouTube Are you re...2022-10-0132 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire80 Creating conscious, compassionate, open relationships with guest author Kate Loree, LMFTAre your relationships messy? That's more than OK - learning more about your particular relationship mess by learning about others can save you a lot of time and pain. So we talked with Kate Loree, LMFT, a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities. She's the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships, and together she and Joli share their thoughts about their work and experiences with open relationships. Buy Kate's book, Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious...2022-08-281h 07Playing With FirePlaying With Fire79 Expansive Intimacy with Jim Young, The Centered CoachBurnout sucks, and it's everywhere. We talk with Jim Young, The Centered Coach, about his book Expansive Intimacy and about intimacy as the opposite of burnout. His book will be available this fall (2022). Check out Jim's website at www.thecenteredcoach.com. Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com You can see the transcript on Joli's blog, a word from Joli2022-08-211h 04Playing With FirePlaying With Fire78 How, When & Why to Visit a Pleasure-Centered Shop with Beth Hankes from Earth & SaltVisiting a pleasure-centered shop can be an inspiring and exciting experience for singles, couples, and moresomes. Beth Hankes from Earth and Salt shares how and why she decided to open her shop, and why it's so important for it to be an accessible, informative, supportive place. Beth Hankes (she/her) is the Founder and CEO of Earth and Salt, and a sex education certificate student at the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment. She has a BA in Art History and Studio Art from Mount Holyoke College, and a Masters in Museum Studies from...2022-08-1458 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire77 Naturally attract the partners you long for with guest Allana PrattTired of *trying* to find the person you want? There's a faster path and it is completely within your reach. Everyone has the capacity to deepen their intimacy with Self and when you do, you'll find that others respond. Stop trying to be someone for someone else and BE YOU.  Joli talks with the incomparable Allana Pratt about the pains and perils of trying to date without doing your personal work.  BONUS: this episode opens up with a conversation between Joli & Ken. We are getting super vulnerable about what's going on for us right now an...2022-08-071h 07Playing With FirePlaying With Fire76 What does perimenopause do to our relationships? with guest Maraya BrownHave you ever asked your partners how they experience living in their bodies? Have you ever asked yourself what might be unique about your experience of your body? Life promises us all just one thing: change. One of the changes that DEFINITELY deserves more attention is perimenopause! We could have a million conversations about this, and still be surprised every time because there is so much we just don't talk about when it comes to the intricacies of being embodied beings. In this episode we are have the amazing Maraya Brown, a Yale and functional medicine trained nurse midwife...2022-07-311h 07Playing With FirePlaying With Fire75 Leaving purity culture for a life you love - with guest Lauren Elise BarnesAm I pure enough? Am I a good _______? Fill in the blank - what were you raised to be, how were you indoctrinated? Do you still agree with it? How do you wish you could move past it?  Lauren Elise Barnes is a certified holistic s*x educator who spent a decade in the maternal health industry. She talks with us about creative monogamy, non-monogamy, and surviving purity culture. Learn more about Lauren here: https://sexedforyou.com/ Watch the YouTube version of this episode You c...2022-07-241h 10Playing With FirePlaying With Fire74 Why is my partner so weird? Wait, why am I so weird?How do you experience your differences with your partner? Do you feel discomfort, or conflict, or maybe you feel isolated and abandoned? Do you work to mask those differences by trying to meld together, or by acting like someone you're not? Let's talk about how our experience of those differences can help us grow in ourselves and in our relationships Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com You can see the transcript on Joli's blog, a word from Joli Watch the video version...2022-07-1737 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire73 How to start building a designer relationshipWant designer relationships? Want to show up as more of yourself and less of what others might expect, and help your partners do the same? Let's talk about some conversations, actions, and self-reflection that will help us get there.  Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com  You can see the transcript on Joli's blog, a word from Joli Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube2022-07-1034 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire72 How to be a classy visitor to a strip club with expert guest Elle Stanger, CSEGoing to a strip club is a great way to expand your erotic life but we have heard from tons of couples who feel a little nervous about it. Even if you've gone before, going as a couple might feel different. In this episode we talk with Elle Stanger, a s*x wrker (yes, we have to get creative with spellings around the internet these days) and AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator about strip club etiquette, treating erotic labor as work, and how to be a decent person in relation with sex workers.  This episode is a ~~ MUST L...2022-07-031h 03Playing With FirePlaying With Fire71 Doing what you said you'd do: When accountability works and when it doesn'tAccountable and reliable- this is what you want from a life partner. But, life moves fast. What happens when you can't keep your word? Or when you change your mind about something that matters to your partner?  One of the things about having a completely unscripted podcast is you get to hear us work through our process live- no edits. In this episode, we talk about what happens in our relationship when one of us says we'll do something and then life happens and things change. Joli had a moment when she kinda blew her own mind b...2022-06-2634 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire70 Guest Expert Megan Bhatia: Choosing Polyamory While Raising a FamilyWe talk with Megan Bhatia from the Amory podcast about our different polyamory journeys, our experiences with family as polyamorous people, and parenting outside the monogamous paradigm. You can view the transcript here Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Get the book...2022-06-191h 03Playing With FirePlaying With Fire68 Train Your Nervous System to Transform Your Relationships with Elisabeth KristofJoin us for the first episode of Season 6! We talk with Elisabeth Kristof of Brain Based Wellness about training your nervous system, and how you can use those skills to improve your relationships. Elisabeth is not only a certified applied neurology coach but also one of Joli's most treasured trauma-informed colleagues.  Click here for a free video series to relieve stress, resolve anxiety and eliminate unwanted behavior!  BONUS: Elisabeth and Joli created a one-of-a-kind workshop called Jealousy Rewired! Get access to this groundbreaking combination of somatic and cognitive tools to transform your jealousy struggles into op...2022-06-061h 12Playing With FirePlaying With Fire67 Exploring **Potential** KinksAre you kinky? Nobody but you can answer that question, and nobody but you can decide what it means. There's no board of kink that issues certificates, no licensing board that decides what you can and can't do based on your "kink" status.  In this episode we talk about ways you can explore this question for yourself. And some of the things to think about along the way - practical, psychological, and relational. Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create t...2022-04-2432 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire66 Who Started It? The Decision to Open UpHow did we get where we are? What stories do we tell each other (and ourselves) about the decisions that got us here? In this episode we dig into how the way we remember and tell our stories affects the way we view our relationships, and our partners. Here's the graphic on cognitive bias I mentioned. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. 2022-04-1735 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire65 Relationship Agreement Skills - Shared Values & Relationship PurposeHow satisfied are we in our relationships? How satisfied can we be? How do we decide? When we make explicit agreements with our partners, we can start to see clearly how well our relationships serve us. The more we know about our values and our partners' values, the easier it is to make effective explicit agreements, which is what this episode is about. We share experiences with our relationship agreements, and talk about some of the tools we use to help us craft them. Here is the exercise and list of values Joli mentioned.2022-04-1039 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire64 Trust: Building and RebuildingHow do we navigate those times in our relationships when trust has been violated? How can we respond in ways that increase the chance of reconnection? Are there ways to avoid situations that cause trust troubles? In this episode we talk about some of our experiences building and rebuilding trust, and share some strategies for navigating trust issues. Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to...2022-04-0345 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire63 Relationship SabotageHave you noticed any patterns in your relationship that play out over and over again? Are there things you do, ways you behave, that leave you in the same ouchy situation every time, but you still keep doing them? Well, that happens to us, and in this episode we talk about how those patterns show up and play out for us, and we share some strategies for interrupting those patterns. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will...2022-03-2728 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire62 Wounds & ApologiesHow do you feel when you get an apology? How about when you offer one? When we hurt each other, how we handle it can strengthen or weaken our relationship, with each other and with ourselves. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If you want to stay up...2022-03-2033 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire61 Relational Individuation: On becoming your SelfHave you ever had life throw something spectacular at you that inspired (or required) you to grow and change? That can happen, surprising us out of the blue. It can also be something we plan into our lives. In this episode we talk about how we can do that, choosing to use our relationship as the workshop for becoming more ourselves. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. 2022-03-1327 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire60 Making FUN happen in long term relationshipsLong term fun? Sign me up! In this episode we talk about generating fun in the context of a relationship. We share some ideas about what could be fun, some thoughts about things that get in the way, and how we can learn from that and bring ourselves more satisfaction. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli...2022-03-0642 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire59 What do I do with unrequited hots?What do you do when you have the hots for someone unavailable? In this episode we talk about ways to approach the feelings that come up with unrequited attraction. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If you want to stay up to date on all of Joli's work...2022-03-0131 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire58 Anxiety when you are consensually non-monogamousCan anxiety can be an opportunity? Consensual non-monogamy is not simple, and it can lead to anxiety. In this episode we talk about how that anxiety can be an opportunity and a guide to learn more about ourselves and our relationships. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If...2022-02-2041 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire57 Affection and Non-sexual IntimacyWhat if we want to show affection without being sexual? In this episode we talk about some of our experiences with difficulties that can come up around expressing and engaging in intimacy outside sexual relationships. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If you want to stay up to...2022-02-1324 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire56 Creative MonogamyIt sounds kind of weird, but monogamy isn’t necessarily the opposite of non-monogamy. In this episode we talk about how we decide what the boundaries of our relationships are, and share some ideas about how we can stretch our imaginations to bring more of what we want into those relationships. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Jo...2022-02-0636 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire55 Parenting While PolyamorousTalking with your kids about your relationships as a parent can be really beneficial for all of you, but it does take some care and attention. In this episode we talk about our experiences talking with our kids over the years about our consensual non-monogamy, sharing the problems and the benefits of those conversations. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship2022-01-3045 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire54 Where do we learn the skills of adult friendships?Are you married to your best friend? Do you have several best friends? Do you have friends that aren't best? In this episode we're talking about the nature of adult friendships, about the skills of friendship, and we're asking a lot of questions. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want. Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her 2022-01-0234 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire53 How to be happier when big changes threaten your marriageThe many marriages model has helped us manage to stay both committed and independent over the long term. In this episode we are talking about what happens when a marriage goes through inevitable change, because change is the only guarantee we get in life. So, when change shows up, what do you do?  Do you resist and try to keep your marriage as it always has been or do you transition with grace?  Once again, rituals can facilitate strong, growth-oriented transitions. Check out chapter 12 in Project Relationship for an easy template to create a ritual that will he...2021-12-2634 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire52 Sex parties? Yes, sex parties.What makes for well-done casual play? In this episode we're talking about practical considerations for hosting or attending a sex party. How do we set up a safe place for people to share erotic play? How do we make sure consent is part of everything all the time? What should we do to normalize sharing STI information? What about exit strategies, safe words, logistics, ground rules? If everyone can safely pursue pleasure and we all take care of each other, we have the best chance of connecting to people and making happy, sexy memories. Watch the video...2021-12-1941 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire51 Let's optimize our sex lives!No matter how good your sex life is, we're all growing, changing critters in a dynamic world. So something will change and we'll want to adapt so we can have the best sex we can. In this episode we're talking about how to make sex better by sharing feedback about our sexual experiences. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If you want to stay up to date on Joli's jealousy work be sure...2021-12-1234 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire50 Where is envy secretly kicking your ass?Envy is kind of like a feeling of want, except that it totally bites. In this episode we are digging into envy: how it can get in the way of our relationships and leave us feeling totally worthless at times. But we can use some of the same tools we use for jealousy to notice it's there and help us through it to a better understanding of ourselves. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her 2021-12-0534 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire49 Using love languages to make the gift-giving season more pleasurableDo you want to give gifts that inspire feelings of love and pleasure? In this episode we're talking about focusing on the feelings we create and understanding our people, so we know what and how they like to receive gifts. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages can be a useful model for helping us understand ourselves and each other, and the more we talk to each other and collaborate on designing the celebrations we want, the more likely we are to get them. Take the free, quick love languages quiz on Gary Chapman's site Watch the...2021-11-2833 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire48 Keeping sex hot over the long termThere are lots of disruptors to sex - kids, grief, burnout, pandemics... In this episode we're talking about ways to get the hotness back, or keep things hot, or make them even hotter. And how to decide when it's time to ask for help - from books, podcasts, and best of all humans. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If you want to stay up to date on Joli's jealousy work be sure...2021-11-2134 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire46 How, when, and why to CELEBRATE!How do you celebrate? Do you wait for a holiday or for someone to tell you it's time to mark an occasion? Celebrations help us see and acknowledge the things that have meaning for us- in other words, they are kindling for the fire of your relationships (romantic and otherwise).  Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Cited in this episode: Fiese, B.H. (2002) Family Routines and Rituals May Improve Family Relationships and Health, According to 50-Year Research Review. APA special edition Dec. 2002. Get the book Project Relationship2021-11-0729 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire45 Silent agreement - One person's perspective on a sexless marriageEvery marriage, every relationship is different. In this episode we talk about Ken's first marriage, his experience of infertility, and what he wishes he'd done differently, and why. As we mentioned in the episode, follow Katy DeJong on Instagram @thepleasureanarchist if you're interested in the best info on infertility, sex, and childlessness. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If you want to stay up to date on Joli's jealousy work be...2021-10-3131 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire44 Three ways porn has brought us closer togetherHave you ever wondered how other people use porn? In this episode we talk about our own personal answers to that question, including de-stigmatizing porn, sharing it with each other, and ensuring that we are using ethical sources. We've included some links in these show notes to ethical porn sources as well as social media links for some great sex workers and sex educators who advocate for erotic freedom and provide high-quality education about sex and sex work. A very porn-knowledgable sex educator to follow @stripperwriter Some ethical porn sources: https://w...2021-10-2442 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire42 It's normal to be a messy human in messy relationships. Really, it is.Have you ever done something and looked back and said "That's not like me!" How does that happen? What do we do then? How can we use this information to manage ourselves and our relationships better? In this episode we talk about the Jungian concept of complexes, and how they can come up and run the show for a while. For reference, here are couple of powerful quotes from Jung on his model of psychological complexes: "Complexes interfere with the intentions of the will and disturb the conscious performance; they produce disturbances of memory and...2021-10-1037 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire41 Emotional regulation and co-regulationIt's really helpful to have specific tools to use when we find ourselves managing stress, or sadness, or grief, or any of the other feelings that come with being alive. In this episode we talk about developing methods of self-regulation that help us feel stable and self with ourselves, and then follow that up with looking at co-regulation and how we can help each other. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Cited in this episode: Butler, E. & Randall, A. (2013) Emotional Coregulation in Close Relationships. Emotion Review, vol. 5 no. 2 pp. 202-210.2021-10-0331 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire40 How to have a productive consensual non-monogamy conversationLast episode we talked about setting up for success starting the first conversation on non-monogamy with your partner. In this episode, we talk about some of the practical details that you'll want to include in the conversation. Your relationships can be whatever you and your partner(s) design together, so let's get into some of the important components of a caring transitional conversation. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If you want to stay...2021-09-2631 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire39 I want to be consensually non-monogamous: how do I talk to my partner?We've had so many questions about this! How do I bring up the idea of non-monogamy with my partner? What can I do to make it go well? Spend a little time with us talking about what we've learned through our experiences and Joli's years of research. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her If you want to stay up to date on Joli's jealousy work be sure to join the Project...2021-09-1938 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire38 How jealousy was the best thing that ever happened to meJealousy shows up differently for each of us, but it is a typical human experience. In this episode we talk about defining it, dancing with it, and five things we can do to use jealousy to strengthen and deepen our relationships. Joli shares exactly how she found herself studying jealousy every day for the past twelve years and the five-step process she uses to transform jealousy. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Get the book Project Relationship Learn about Joli and how to work with her 2021-09-1245 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire37 Summer's over... negotiating how we handle getting back to the grindThe shift from summer to fall is an easy time to let unexpressed expectations quickly escalate to resentment. Having an intentional conversation about how we share the work of a household is a critical step for keeping your expectations out in the open. Prioritizing love is easier when we regularly revisit how we do this LIFE thing together. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube. Mentioned in this episode: Four Thousand Weeks is a great read for rethinking how we can make the most of our time. You can read about...2021-09-0521 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire36 Vacation sex at homeWant to feel like you're on vacation at home? In this episode we talk about some things you can do to bring that vacation feeling home, and specifically into the bedroom, anytime. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube You can read about designing your own rituals in Joli's book Project Relationship. And you can find information on working with Joli at www.jolihamilton.com.2021-08-2928 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire34 Three ways masturbation improves your relationshipMasturbation has gotten all kinds of press over the years - some good, some bad, some clinical. We are fans of masturbation. Let's talk about what it's good for, how you can explore and learn about yourself, and some ways you can use it to enhance your connection to your partners. Bonus, Joli's going in deep with the depth psychology of masturbation on this one too! Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube2021-08-1538 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire33 Individuation Accelerator: What if we don't keep the same beat in our relationship?Joli calls relationships an individuation accelerator- is your love built for it? Navigating individual differences between partners is not easy (and individuation requires difference!) In this episode, we share some of the ways we manage being vastly different people with divergent interests and goals. We share two key moves you can make to create an individuation relationship of your own. You get to write the script for your relationship yourselves, you don't have to use anybody else's.  Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube2021-08-0840 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire30 How to go from off-the-rack to custom-designed relationshipYou've heard us talk about making a relationship agreement that really works for your particular love... but what if you have been married and now things have changed? Maybe you still deeply care about each other but you don't want the standard-issue marriage anymore. Is divorce the only option? Divorce or not, there are actually bigger issues to consider if you want to really go from that one-size-fits-all (who are we kidding, one size is not sufficient!) kind of marriage to an exquisitely customized love.  Follow Joli on Instagram Watch the video version of this e...2021-07-1841 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire29 Letting your partner grow at their own paceLast time we talked about managing hard times. What about the good times? Sometimes our partner will be having wins, and maybe we're not, and those times can be challenging too. What can we do to help our partner grow into themselves more? How can we help each other grow? How can we maintain and develop our connection when it looks like things might be changing? In this episode we talk about our experiences with this situation, and offer some things we do that help those times develop our relationship.  Follow Joli on Instagram Watch t...2021-07-0431 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire27 Relationship agreements in the wildWe are talking relationship agreements again, this time looking at how we actually, practically, maintain ours. We also found a hole in one of ours while recording that we need to address. (No relationship escapes being a work in progress, including ours!) Follow Joli on Instagram Watch the video version of this episode on Instagram2021-06-0631 minNew Beginnings with JoliDRocksNew Beginnings with JoliDRocksFreedom isn’t free, or is it?“A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove... but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child.” ~ Joli D 🌻🕊🌻 Thank you for Joining the Journey with JoliDRocks… Until the next episode… Stay Blessed.2021-05-2814 minNew Beginnings with JoliDRocksNew Beginnings with JoliDRocksWelcome to the Journey…Joli D Rock’s Real Life and New Beginnings…2021-05-2600 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire26 Doesn't this person ever leave?Quarantine has gone on a long time, now, and most of the natural breaks we used to get have disappeared. As the world opens up we are READY to get some space for sure but honestly, Joli can't wait any longer. Listen to this episode as we brainstorm a way to get a much-needed break from each other with respect and mutual caring. In this episode, we are creating an intentional, well-defined break in our relationship to avoid enmeshment and increase satisfaction. When we say this show is honest, we mean it... this episode found us exploring and co-creating...2021-05-0931 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire22 Relationship flags - red, green, and otherwiseDeveloping relationships takes care and courage. This week Angela Lussier joins us and we share thoughts and stories about dating and relationships in general. We talk about what we each want and don't want, what we watch out for and what we seek out, and a little bit about what can happen when we miss the signs. Follow Joli on Instagram Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube2021-03-2153 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire21 A secret weapon for relationship satisfactionSometimes we get caught up in the changes and challenges everyday life brings. In this episode, we talk about some ways we acknowledge and increase meaning in our lives, and in our relationship. Sometimes we do it on purpose, sometimes we look around and say "oh, we do this thing, and it matters to us and helps us connect". Joli referred to this study about relationship rituals, and for more ideas about creating rituals you can check out chapter 12 of Joli's first book, Project Relationship. Follow Joli on Instagram Watch the video version of this...2021-03-1431 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire20 What an open relationship *might* look likeThere is no one way for relationships to work. What does "work" even mean, really? That is up to the people in the relationship. In this episode, we explore some of the common labels people use to describe their open relationships and what we have decided to use in ours. Of course, labels will only take you so far before you need to dive into the actual meaning behind your words and this can get messy sometimes. The idea of designing a relationship is at the heart of our life. This episode is all about how we...2021-03-0742 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire19 The shame of a messy beginningIn the second part of a mini-series about shame, Joli shares some vulnerability as we go into her feelings about the rocky early years of our relationship, and the final years of our respective first marriages. That challenging time left its marks, and Joli talks about her experiences with couple’s privilege, secrecy (no surprise, since we’re still talking about shame), and how those experiences impact her now. It’s uncommon to see inside another relationship, so listen in for a tiny glimpse into Joli and Ken’s as it is right now. Relationships change, and the peop...2021-02-2831 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire18 Shame & secrecy (and sex!)In the first of a mini-series about shame, we aren’t holding back! The feeling of shame has kept parts of Ken hidden from Joli for years even though we’ve been consciously working on it. This isn’t surprising because shame encourages secret-keeping. Confidence has been masking shame in our home even with a careful eye towards it. Shame has been showing up in unexpected spots and when it does we often feel disconnected right when we most want to feel seen and loved. No holds barred in this episode, sexual shame has be...2021-02-2131 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire16 Relationship agreements and polyamory (or monogamy!)Joli studied consensual non-monogamies as a research psychologist but it is also an important part of our personal relationship design. In this episode, we are talking about what it takes to go from assuming you *know the rules* to creating relationship agreements that are explicit and able to grow with you as your relationship changes.  Consensual non-monogamy isn't the right fit for everyone, monogamy is beautiful and a great choice for lots of people. But, polyamory has been making a lot of headlines and popping up in storylines more and more. If you are curious about what i...2021-02-0731 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire15 What does intimacy look like if you are non-monogamous?Joli studied consensual non-monogamies as a research psychologist but it is also an important part of our personal relationship design. We are talking about what intimacy means when you no longer have the rules of monogamy to guide you. How vulnerable is too vulnerable with someone outside your marriage? What does it feel like to know that my partner is happy without me sometimes? It's all complicated, but not as impossible as it might seem.  Consensual non-monogamy isn't the right fit for everyone, monogamy is beautiful and a great choice for lots of people. But, p...2021-01-3131 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire14 Why polyamory?To kick off season 2 we are responding to a request from a listener who asked "Why are you polyamorous?" Joli studied consensual non-monogamies as a research psychologist but it is also an important part of our personal relationship design. We are talking about what polyamory is, why it works for us, and how it feels to put your heart in someone's hand without the rules of monogamy. Consensual non-monogamy isn't the right fit for everyone, monogamy is beautiful and a great choice for lots of people. But, polyamory has been making a lot of headlines and popping...2021-01-2431 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire13 Celebrating and still learningIn the wrap-up for season 1, Joli and Ken are sharing what it feels like to share their relationship ups and downs with the world. The biggest lessons are often scary to talk about, even years later. Admitting where we hurt each other or when we've been out of integrity with our values is vulnerable but getting real is key to continually deepening connection with each other and with the larger world. Season 2 is coming soon- if you have a topic or question, we invite you to share them, grab the email address in the show. Watch the...2020-12-2926 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire12 Feel like a failure when a relationship ends? 3 tools to help ease life's big transitionsEpisode 12 is about failure and what happens when we judge our relationship success only by how long it lasts. Endings and transitions can be extremely challenging, especially when we imagine that an ending feels like it defines us. In this episode, Joli and Ken talk about three things they do to get through the tough endings and big transitions with a little more grace and a ton more insight.  Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube2020-12-2432 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire10 Navigating drastically different communication stylesWorking together, whether you are running a business together or just working from the same home office puts a bright spotlight on relationship weaknesses. In this episode, Joli and Ken are talking about how they manage communication styles so different they initially seemed completely incompatible. Finding creative ways to navigate these differences has taken patience, troubleshooting tolerance, and one stuffed sloth.  Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube 2020-12-1831 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire9 Fighting with love...how we relearned how to argueEven the word fighting can make people uncomfortable. But relationships are messy and people are complicated. In this episode, Ken and Joli talk about how they find ways to love each other better, build a stronger connection, and learn about each other while talking through the bumps and bruises that come with close connection. Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube2020-12-1531 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire8 Sex reimagined...with one questionSex is a spot that easily leads to misunderstandings, even for a couple who are on the same page in so many ways! In this episode, Ken and Joli talk about how one seemingly-simple question led to a total reimagining of what sex could be in their relationship. With a little courage and a sense of humor, talking about sex can bring you closer together even during stressful times. It's not about how much sex you are having (or not!) but how to get on the same page about what you could create together. Watch the video...2020-12-1031 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire7 How to get what you want for the holiday (or any day!)Having two different communication styles is a recipe for misunderstandings and hurt feelings. We had to learn the super-hard way how to ask for what we need and how to set the stage for a successful conversation no matter how sticky the topic is. Ken and Joli are sharing some of their complicated first holiday story in this episode. Ken talks about how it felt to try to communicate with two partners who had very different wants and needs. Yeah, that's right, we had a complex relationship right from the start-multiple partners and all.  All those complications made it e...2020-12-0830 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire4 Who the heck IS this person I love?What is it about love that keeps us assuming that we already know each other, even though we are changing and living in a changing world? Joli and Ken work on how can we keep our relationship pleasurable over the years despite grief, growth, and a changing world. Taking a step away from our assumptions about each other (even though we've known each other our whole lives!) means there are joyful surprises to uncover every day. This episode asks us to look again at those we know the best and dive into them with intentional curiosity. Watch...2020-11-2630 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire2 Empowered relating & holiday stressOwning our *stuff* around the holidays is hard. Joli and Ken are sharing stories about navigating big feelings, a busy family, and old family patterns that pop up at the least helpful times. Learning what works and what sets us off hasn't been simple but it has given us the chance to make stressful times a little smoother and a lot more pleasurable.  Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube For more Project Relationship head to www.JoliHamilton.com 2020-11-1827 minPlaying With FirePlaying With Fire1 Wanting more in love (even at the holidays!)In episode 1 we are sharing stories about how we've worked on wanting a more-than-okay relationship. Joli and Ken talk about how they combined holiday traditions and how hard it has been to make space for each other's wants.  This episode turned into a live-troubleshooting session where we took stock of-and then action on- some things that haven't been working.  Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube Find more about Project Relationship at www.JoliHamilton.com Follow Joli on Instagram2020-11-1722 minUnsolicited with Joli and ShayUnsolicited with Joli and ShayEpisode #14 Laying Down the LawIn Episode #14, we’re closing out season 2 with (cue relaxing spa music) The Law of Attraction. In this episode Joli gives us a history lesson, we break down the practice of manifesting, and maaaybe even teach you a teeny tiny bit of mild witchcraft. *Relax, no living things were harmed, curses spoken, or sacrificing took place in the making of this episode. When you’re done listening, you’ll be inspired to transform yourself into a giant magnet for all the best things you so deserve! As always we love you guys, and hope you enjoyed season 2!!2020-10-0448 minNouveau chapitreNouveau chapitreTeaser - Nouveau Chapitre par Joli BumpBonjour et bienvenue dans Nouveau Chapitre, le podcast de Joli Bump. Je suis Marie Boyer-Aubert, la fondatrice de Joli Bump, 1ère marque française à proposer une mode durable à porter avant, pendant et après la grossesse. Ce podcast, c'est le blog audio de Joli Bump. Chaque épisode est une rencontre avec une femme pour l'interroger sur sa vision et son vécu de la maternité, sur la relation de la femme qu'elle est à la maman qu'elle est devenue et sur la transmission. Le 1er épisode sortira en janvier 2018. D'ici là, je vous invite à découvrir nos collections sur http://www.jolibump.com...2017-12-1501 min