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Divorced Muslim Dad 🐻S2:Ep7 - Resilience: The Only Way Is Up 🔝🧗♀️ w/ Alyas KarmaniIn this episode Alyas Karmani (activist, therapist, counsellor, imam) and I have a meandering conversation about subject of Resilience. Essentially our ability to bounce back from adversity. As usual our discussion take us to unexpected places and we revisit historical events such as apartheid in South Africa, the civil war in Sierra Leone as well as the Crusades, the Battle of Uhud and the Conquest of Mecca.
You might not get all of the answers you are looking for here but thats not the point; you definitely walk away with better understanding of what resilience is, why we need it...2022-08-151h 10Divorced Muslim Dad 🐻BONUS EP - How addiction is impacting your relationships 😳🧐Following on from publishing the ‘Addiction:Just Say No’ episode I set off to take a break on an organic dairy farm in Amsterdam. Whilst sat in the idyllic dutch countryside I was finishing off Dr Gabor Mate’s book ‘In the realm of hungry ghosts: close encounters with addiction’ when I came across a section that forced me to recognise my own addictive behavioural traits and how they negatively impact the relationships in my life.
In this short bonus episode I read an extract from the book describing Dr Gabor’s own addictive tendencies, how they manifest, the destructive impact they’...2022-08-0619 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻S2:Ep6 - Addiction: Just Say No? 💉💊 w/ Alyas KarmaniIn this episode Alyas Karmani (Imam, Therapist, Activist) and I discuss the oft misunderstood psychological phenomenon of addiction. Many of us are unaware of what addiction actually is, why it happens and how its impacting our communities. Worryingly society’s attitude to addiction is leading to already traumatised vulnerable people being ostracised, neglected and plunged further into despair.
In our conversation we cover a host of issues starting with what addiction is, how and why it manifests, who’s susceptible to it, whether or not addicts are responsible for their behaviour, how addiction presents in the Mulsim community, its long term...2022-07-2859 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻S2:Ep5 - The Power of Love ❤️🔥❤️🩹 w/ Tafazal Mohammed (Coach)Really excited to share this episode with you! I got to speak with Tafazal Mohammed who is an award winning professional relationship coach based in the UK. Normally my guests offer either a personal story or professional advice but here we get both.
Listen to Tafazal’s incredible personal story and the events that led him to get married (for a third time) to someone totally out his context but very much in tune with his soul. You’ll here about the unconventional way he found his wife and coaching service they both decided to set up after a cup of t...2022-07-191h 16Divorced Muslim Dad 🐻S2:Ep4 - Islam on Abortion ✅ ❌ w/ Alyas KarmaniOn a road trip to Edinburgh part-time Imam and relationship councillor Alyas Karmani and I decided to discuss the potential impact of the ‘Roe vs Wade’ abortion ruling in the USA on Muslim communities living in the west and address the one question everyone seems to be asking ‘What does Islam have to say about abortion?’
Apparently, quite a lot!
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Tw/Insta: @moiazam2022-07-0558 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻S2:Ep3 - Boys Will Be Boys 🥸😡 w/ Alyas KarmaniAlyas is back in the hot seat and this time he’s got a bee in his bonnet about…the Manosphere! Never heard of it? Well in short it represents an online global movement of disenfranchised men who wish to reassert there masculine identity through misogynistic rhetoric, extreme ideology and violence.
Alerted by a distraught Muslim mother who felt her son was being groomed online to hate women Alyas undertook an 18 month deep dive in to the dark heart of the Manosphere. And what he found left him shaken to his very core...
Pls contact us here with your comments and...2022-01-261h 17Divorced Muslim Dad 🐻S2:Ep2 - Dating the Divorced 😱 w/ Shemsah Farooq 🎓When’s the last time you changed your mind? I don’t mean about what to have for breakfast but changed your mind about a deeply held belief? Its not an easy thing to do but by challenging our assumptions we can sometimes see the world more clearly.
That’s what Shemsah Farooq did by re-examining her beliefs about who she might like to marry. As a never previously married high flying professional Muslim woman she had always thought she should try to find a spouse of a similar status; but all that changed a couple of years ago on the ev...2021-10-2356 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻S2:Ep1 - Will your lawyer talk to God? 👨⚖️👩⚖️ w/ Sarah Khan Bashir MBEIn this episode I speak with Sarah Khan Bashir, a Muslim lawyer based in the UK. Sarah runs SKB Law; a specialist Family Law firm providing services to the Muslim and South East Asian community. Its a fascinating meandering conversation where we shoot the breeze about:
- Whether you really need to get lawyers involved when splitting up
- Why Muslims are getting divorced these days
- Intra-family marriage dynamics
- What ‘Vata Sata’ is (?!)
- Navigating the grey area between therapy and legal advice
- Balancing commercial goals vs providing a community service
Sarah was super to speak with and...2021-07-292h 21
Divorce Coaching PodcastDivorced Muslim Dad Podcaster talks w/ x2 Divorce CoachesDivorce, Separation, Relationship Break-Up or any other label that suits your situation, can happen to literally anyone!It can affect any family, any individual, at any time in life, no matter where you live, what you do for a living, what your religious beliefs are or are not. Divorce and separation does not discriminate against your age, ethnicity, societal life status, sexual orientation or indeed against anything!In this episode (9) of the Divorce Coaching Podcast, Fay & I talk to my new Insta & Clubhouse BFF, Imran Azam, aka "Divorce Muslim Dad" podcaster.I...2021-06-2945 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻#muzmatchisghetto: my reaction 🥸Last night #muzmatchisghetto was trending number 1 on UK Twitter. The tweets were commenting on a real-time discussion taking place on the audio sharing platform Clubhouse about the extreme experiences of some Muslim women using online dating services. What I heard was both shocking and saddening. This is my take...2021-01-1219 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep13: Why won’t she change? 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏽♀️ w/ AnonymousWhilst I’ve been publishing this podcast series over the last 12 months a number of listeners have emailed me about their relationship dilemmas. In this episode we hear from ‘Naeem’; a young, educated, articulate Muslim guy from India who takes his faith seriously. He’s keen to get married and has met someone Jess fallen in love with. At the beginning things are great between them but as time goes on the cracks begin to appear. Should he try to hold it together or call it off? If you want to comment on anything you’ve heard in this episode please use...2020-02-0424 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep12: A Guide to Online Dating 🤡 😇I've been dating since my divorce in 2011; trying to navigate the new world of online dating whilst adhering to the tenants of my faith has been the trickiest of balancing acts. I've made a tonne of mistakes over the years meaning wasted time, money and emotional energy. Although I'm yet to find success online it hasn't made me a relationship sceptic; if anything the amazing women I've met along the way have given me hope for the future. In this episode I discuss what it was like to date after a ten year marriage, the challenges of Muslim dating, why...2020-01-051h 01Divorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep11: Your Emotional Maturity 🎭🤒It's clear that the quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our relationships. If that's the case then it makes sense to assess how we behave with people we care about; especially when they act in a way we find hurtful.
Is our reponse constructive or destructive?
Do we seek to engage and resolve or hide away?
Are we prepared to be honest, brave and vulnerable?
In this short but essential episode you'll find out how to assess your own level of emotional maturity and why embarking on the journey towards improving it makes for happier healthier...2019-11-3020 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Insights: A Spiritual Awakening 💆♀️💆♂️ w/ Alyas KarmaniGood looks? Check. Great job? Check. Good Muslim? Check. Shared interests? Check. Great family? Check? Emotionaly healthy? Check. Now if you manage to find someone to marry that ticks all these boxes then you've hit the jackpot right? Well not necessarily. There's another dimension you really should consider that's absolutely crucial; spiritual compatability.
In this episode of Insights Alyas and I discuss what 'spirtual compatability' is, how it should manifest in a marriage, how it differs from religious compatability, why searching for 'a good Muslim' isn't enough and what we can do to develope our spiritual nature.
This episodes was...2019-11-031h 06Divorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep10: I'm Getting Divorced 🧔🏽💔🧕🏻It's taken a bit longer than expected but in this episode I'm finally talking about my divorce: how we went about it, the emotional journey I've undertaken and some of the lessons I've learned. You'll also hear why I believe emotional compatibility between couples is more important than having common interests, why you're probably wasting your time looking for a soulmate and why 'til death do us part' is highly unlikely. This one's probably best listened to when you have done quiet time to yourself. Chk it out. Listen I do love hearing from you so don't by shy, get...2019-10-2248 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep9: Finding Love After Divorce 💔💘 w/ Tariq RasulTariq is a dear friend; someone I've known for over 20 years. He married in 1996 and 16 years and 4 kids later he experienced the anguish of a painful divorce. Remarkably only 12 months later he found love again in a far away land. As someone who has been single after divorce for many years I wanted to hear first hand how he overcame the heartache and trauma and how he was able to find the capacity to love again. I thought I knew everything about Tariq's story but whilst recording this episode he opened up like never before and laid his soul bare...2019-09-2848 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Insights: The Wedding Night 😏💋 w/ Alyas KarmaniA newly married couples first experience of intimacy togther is a critical moment that sets the tone for the immediate and perhaps long term future of a relationship. In this episode Alyas Karmani (imam, psychologist, sex therapist) and I speak candidly about intimacy problems Muslim couples experience, the increasing prevalence of psychosexual disfunction, the impact of pornography on sexualities health and the path to a happy sex life. It's a frank and open episode so if you're of a sensitive disposition you might want to give it a miss but I'd encourage you to 'lie back and think of England...2019-09-0847 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep8: Muslim Dad Syndrome 🕺🏽👳🏽♂️Becoming a father is straight forward. Being a dad is not. Add to the mix the desire to bring up your children as Muslims at a time when Islam is under the spotlight doesn't lighten the load. In this episode I talk about my experience of becoming a father and my sometimes painful transition to embracing parenthood. I talk about helping my kids to forge their Islamic identity in a hostile environment, the difference between managing kids and parenting and why living your life through your kids is a recipe for disaster. Check it out. Enquiries: Tw/Insta: @moiazam / divorcedmuslimdad...2019-08-211h 14Divorced Muslim Dad 🐻Insights: Demanding Women 🧕💪 w/ Alyas KarmaniIt's summertime here in the UK and that means one thing...wall to wall weddings! You just can't move for invitations. But something strange had happened over the years with the simple wedding transformed into incredibly elaborate and extravagant affairs with no expense spared and nothing left to chance. But what about the actual marriage itself? How much marriage planning had gone in to ensuring the happy couple stands the best chance of remaining happy? As usual Alyas Karmani (Imam, Psychologist, Counsellor) had a great deal to say on this episode: why the Islamic marriage contract (Nikkah) reflects long term...2019-07-2255 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Insights: Pram Wars 👶🏴☠️ w/ Alyas KarmaniAs the birth of our first child approached we did what any excited couple would do…we went pram shopping! But little did we know what this seemingly innocuous event would reveal so much about ourselves and our relationship.
In this episode Alyas and I chat about conflict in relationships and the lost art of negotiation and compromise. This is the fourth episode in the ‘insights' series: a deep dive in to specific aspects of relationships as viewed and experienced through the prism of being UK born Muslims. Gotta question: divorcedmuslimdad@gmail.com / tw/insta: @moiazam2019-07-0640 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Insights: Don't Ignore Mental Health 😣 w/ Alyas KarmaniIn this episode Alyas and I discuss how mental health can impact relationships and conversely how relationships are impacted by mental health. This is the third in the 'insights' series: a deep divie into specific aspects of Muslim relationships provided by counselor Alyas Karmani. Check it out. tw/Insta: @moiazam2019-05-3147 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Insights: 8 tips for a happy marriage 💑 w/ Alyas KarmaniThis is the second in the 'insights' series: a deeper dive into specific aspects of Muslim relationships provided by counselor Alyas Karmani. In this episode Alyas offers 8 behavioural traits - based on extensive research and experience - that lead to nurturing and sustaining a successful marriage. Always super fun talking to Al. Check it out.2019-05-1431 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep7: It's Over?! 💔How do you know when a relationship is over? Like really over? Throughout my 10 year marriage there were countless moments I thought we shouldn’t be together but we endured oblivious to the walls slowly crumbling around us. I guess what I'm asking is; at what point you should call it day even though you’re not 100% sure why? Email: divorcedmuslimdad@gmail.com tw/insta: @moiazam2019-04-2646 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Introducing the 'Insights' series w/ Alyas Karmani 👥Remember Alyas Karmani? Of course you do! On one of my previous episodes he spoke passionately about his experiences of counselling Muslim couples over the last 25 years but painted a bleak picture of the future if the quality of relationships in the community didn't change for the better asap. It got me thinking: how can we start to affect change? 'Insights' is a new series of conversations that delve deeper in to relationship topics that impact the lives of Muslims and offers some practical advice. In this first episode Alyas and I discuss the subject of compatibility: how Islam describes...2019-04-0530 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep6: Fear & Loathing 😨The vast majority of Muslims who live in the UK are people of colour. Many, if not all, have suffered some form of racism at some point in their lives and - with the rise of Islamophobia - are left feeling anxious and fearful. The ability to process these emotions healthily may be the only thing that stands between you and a failed relationship. Email: divorcedmuslimdad@gmail.com tw/insta: @moiazam2019-03-3030 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Update: So Intense 😣An update on this podcast...2019-02-1302 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻BONUS Episode: The Front Line w/ Alyas Karmani ⛑Following on from ‘Ep5: Couples Therapy’ this is a special bonus episode that I’m sure you’re going to love listening to.
Alyas Karmani is a highly qualified relationship therapist who primarily works with the UK Muslim community. A few days ago we took some time out to chat about what he has learned from 25 years of counselling Muslim couples and uncover what it’s really like to be on the front line of Muslim relationship problems.
Remember I really do love hearing your thoughts, comments and questions. If you’d like to get in touch pls email or content via...2019-01-2349 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep5: Couples Therapy 👫We quickly found out that there was a major difference between the idea of being married and actually being married: we were both young, unemployed, poor and emotionally clueless. We were clearly going to need a lot of help if we were going to make it work... email: divorcedmuslimdad@gmail.com tw/insta: @moiazam2019-01-1548 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep4: The Jesus Complex 🙏Christmas time was always a contentious time of year for us. From the very beginning I couldn’t understand why it was such an important time of year for her. For me ignoring Christmas was something I needed to do. But when the kids arrived something had to give... email: divorcedmuslimdad@gmail.com tw/insta: @moiazam2018-12-2525 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep3: Playing The Field 🧕🏻Only two things mattered to me after graduation: getting a great job and finally finding a wife. These were the two pillars I wanted to build the next stage of my life on...but it was never going to be that simple... twitter/insta: @moiazam divorcedmuslimdad@gmail.com2018-12-1154 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep2: Dating Games 🙅🏽♂️Getting married at the age of 24 with no job, little money and even less relationship experience doesn’t sound like the best of ideas but that’s where I found myself in 2001.
The question is: how did I reach that point?
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divorcedmuslimdad@gmail.com2018-11-2642 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Ep1 - Grand Gestures 🤩Ever been in a relationship where you’re just not getting on and you really don’t know why? I mean if you don’t know why then what can you really do to fix it?
Well we reached that point in 2007 after 2 kids and 6 years of marriage...and I had no idea what to do...
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#dmdad2018-11-1522 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Intro: This podcast is a GOOD bad idea 😶Sharing stories from my failed 10 year marriage via a podcast doesn’t sound like one of my brightest ideas but something in the back of my head tells me it is absolutely the right thing to do. And as I rate the back if my head quite highly here we are. I can’t put my finger on exactly why it might be absolutely the right thing to do but I think it’s got something to do with ‘helping’. Helping me perhaps and I guess if it might help me then it might help someone else. That’s as far as my br...2018-11-0703 minDivorced Muslim Dad 🐻Divorced Muslim Dad 🐻 (Trailer)2018-11-0600 min