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Marriage LabDifferent Flavors of Comfort in Families ( feat: Rosie Zint)In this episode, Jenna is joined by her nine-year-old daughter, Rosie, for a sweet and surprisingly insightful conversation about what comfort looks like in their family. Together, they talk about the different “flavors of comfort” each family member needs when big emotions show up—whether that’s physical touch, someone staying close, space to process alone, or quiet presence. Rosie shares how she prefers space before reconnecting, while Jenna reflects on how having someone in the room can actually make it harder for her to notice what she’s feeling.The conversation is tender, hone...
2026-02-0334 min
The Mentor's TableWhole-Body Gratitude 3/4 "Forming Habits That Stick" (feat. Jenna Zint)Send a textGood intentions fall short when choosing to form new habits, even a gratitude habit! Instead, we need concrete handholds that we can place around our new habit that will empower us to see it through until it becomes effortless. That's what we're talking about today with Jenna Zint--the habit queen! It's not about finding habits to incorporate; it's about naming the habits that are already forming us, and then choosing how we will be formed moving foward. Pull up a chair 🪑 SHOW NOTESEpisode 1 in the "Whole...
2025-11-1924 min
Let's Talk About ItI Just Found Out My Partner Has a Porn Addiction With Jenna ZintWhat do you do when you find out the person you love has been hiding something from you?In this painfully honest episode, Jenna Zint sits down with us to talk about discovering her husband’s porn addiction and what actually happens to your heart, your trust, and your identity when the truth comes out.If you have ever been hit with that gut-drop moment where you start thinking, “Wait… what else don’t I know?” this conversation is for you. Jenna talks openly about the messy parts: the insecurity...
2025-11-1854 minMarriage LabRethinking Relative VisitsFamily visits are supposed to bring connection… but sometimes they bring exhaustion, awkward expectations, and a drained bank account.In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when the way you’re visiting family isn’t working anymore — and how to get creative about connection without spending a fortune. We’ll share our own story (including a few hard lessons from our in-laws 😅) and offer practical alternatives for families who live far apart: meeting in the middle, combining trips, camping, even serving together.If you’ve ever felt torn between your budge...
2025-11-1131 minThe Mentor's TableWhole-Body Gratitude 1/4: Begin With Your Focus (feat. Jenna Zint)Send a textWe're trying something new this month--an interview with someone I have so much respect for, and I know you as listeners will love hearing her too. It's my life coach and fellow sister in Christ--Jenna Zint!SHOW NOTESCONNECT WITH JENNA:Instagram: @jennazintHabit Lab podcastMarriage Lab podcast with Jenna & Aaron Zint"Scientist vs Judge: Curiosity Over Contempt"--the principle that transformed my life and made me a devoted student of the Zint's teachings.Schedule a coaching...
2025-11-0528 min
BraveCo Podcast178: Addiction Series with Guest Aaron Zint: How P*rn Hijacks a Man’s Brain—and How to Break Free12 week : P*rn Recovery // Online Small Group, Starting late August Lead by Aaron Zint w/ 10+ years of experience walking men into Wholeness Sign up here: https://pillar.io/thezints/checkout/002cb6d0-5d07-11f0-a37f-93965abef48bIn this Episode Part 2 of our addiction series, Aaron Zint and I dive deep into the inner workings of addiction: not just the behavior, but the brain wiring behind it. Together we unpack dopamine, shame, neuroplasticity, and how porn becomes a super-normal stimulus that rewires a man’s reward system.I speak from...
2025-08-0446 minBraveCo Podcast177: Addiction Series with Guest Arron Zint: The Real Cause Behind Addiction & How to Fix It12 week : P*rn Recovery // Online Small Group, Starting late August Lead by Aaron Zint w/ 10+ years of experience walking men into Wholeness Sign up here: https://pillar.io/thezints/checkout/002cb6d0-5d07-11f0-a37f-93965abef48bI’m Jason Vallotton, and in this second episode of our Brave Co addiction series, I dive deep with my friend Aaron Zint—one of the most resilient men I’ve ever known. We trace his journey from childhood s*xual trauma and early exposure to p*rnography, all the way through marriage, relapse, and ulti...
2025-07-2846 minMarriage LabAvoiding Birthday Blues & BlowoutsBirthdays—love them or dread them, they can be a surprisingly tense topic in marriage. 🎂 From unspoken expectations to last-minute letdowns, these special days often carry more emotional weight than we realize. In this episode, we’re diving into the highs and lows of celebrating birthdays with your spouse, sharing our own birthday wins and major misses over the years.You’ll hear about: ✅ The silent pressure & expectations that often ruin birthdays ✅ Why no one should be the designated party planner for life 🎉 ✅ How to openly communicate what you actually want for your birthday (without disappointme...
2025-03-1636 min
Numb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessHabits of Sobriety: The Steps that Lead to Acting OutIn this episode, I walk through the steps that lead to acting out. With every slip or relapse, I like to ask the question, "Where did you lose the battle?" It certainly was not the moment you clicked on the link or when you chose to watch that movie. It was way before that. It was when you failed to take care of yourself by not processing pain and choosing to isolate. The goal is that we begin to recognize when we are in steps 1, 2 or 3 (which are before temptation even starts) and we follow the plan for taking...
2025-02-1720 minMarriage LabInternal vs External Processing StylesIn this episode, we talk about our respective styles of processing how we are feeling. Aaron is an external processor, needing to externalize what's he's feeling in order to understand it. Jenna is an internal processor, needing time to internally mull over what she's feeling in order to understand it. These two different styles can make conflict unnecessarily difficult unless you know how to work with them. We'll share the growth paths for each to avoid the common pitfalls in relationship.Links from episode:Attachment Styles EpisodeThat's What She...
2025-02-1637 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessHabits of Sobriety: Planning for Speed Bumps and BattlefieldsIn this episode, I talk about what it looks like to make a plan for all the areas in our lives where temptation starts to show up. As Benjamin Franklin said, "If you fail to plan then we plan to fail." Our passivity would tell us to wing it. Just hope that the next time you're tempted, it'll be easier. That's not a plan. Creating a plan looks like first naming the places we'll need it. I call those speed bumps and battlefields. Speed bumps are the unexpected moments of emotional dysregulation, visual/mental triggers, disrupted routines and rituals...
2025-02-1028 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessHabits of Sobriety: Cycles, Rituals & TriggersHumans are predictable because humans are habitual. Our repeated behaviors can be identified in series of cues, responses and rewards. As we continue to grow and mature, we can learn to identify our addictive cycles, the rituals within them and the triggers that start them. In doing so, we become adept at interrupting our cycles with well-laid plans. Name the trigger, Question it with curiosity, Share it with someone and Move away from it. --Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2025-02-0337 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessHabits of Sobriety: Environment, Routine & Consumption HabitsIn the throes of addiction, we most often lead ourselves into temptation rather than being caught completely off-guard. Therefore, it's important for us to identify how our environment, our routines and our media consumption contribute to our constant battles with temptation. Let's look at the habits we've created that may not be inherently bad but are ultimately unhelpful in getting us to where we want to go. --Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2025-01-2725 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Passivity: Gathering evidence that I am powerfulIn this episode, I talk about how we relieve our passivity of the old ways of doing things. We can do this by gathering evidence that what I've been afraid of is not actually going to bring me down or take me out. I begin to do the courageous act, to engage when I'd rather disengage, to be intentional when I'd rather rationalize my way into inaction and to take ownership when it'd be easier to blame someone else for my issues.--Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known...
2025-01-2033 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Passivity: Getting comfortable with discomfortIn this episode, I talk about our pursuit of comfort and what it's stealing from us. Our goal in working hard is not to arrive at a place of comfort but that we get comfortable with discomfort. Why? Because discomfort is the only way I grow and progress. Porn, and addiction in general, thrive on mindsets and behaviors that are either comfort-seeking or discomfort-avoidant. We can begin to change that in our own lives.--Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2025-01-1332 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Passivity: The good motivation but ineffective strategy of passivityIn this episode, I talk about how our passivity is just a part of us that has good intentions to protect us but ineffective strategies in leading us to where we actually want to go. The part of us that's passive doesn't need to "die". It just needs a new goal and a new strategy.--Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2025-01-0627 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Passivity: How it shows up, what it costs and what can we doThis episode kicks off a series on passivity: what does it look like in our lives, what does it cost us and what can we do about it.--Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2024-12-3021 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Pain: Emotional RegulationThis episode rounds out the series on pain. How do we find emotional regulation when we are feeling emotional dysregulation (pain)?Key points:1. Pain is not bad. It's a message2. Name it3. Get curious to find out its source4. Get connected aka co-regulate5. Self-regulation techniques--Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2024-11-2534 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Pain: Engaging Our StoriesIn this episode of Numb to Known, I dive into the power of engaging with our stories of past pain. Drawing on insights from Dan Allender, Adam Young’s The Place We Find Ourselves, Jay Stringer’s Unwanted, and my book Numb to Known, I explore how facing past hurts can transform our present lives. I’ll look at how brain science and scripture both reveal the importance of processing pain instead of burying it, breaking the patterns that fuel addiction and unhealthy behaviors. Tune in to learn practical steps for healing, the role of compassionate self-reflection, and how sharin...
2024-11-0416 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Pain: Curiosity over ContemptIn this episode, I’m diving into the idea of choosing curiosity over contempt—especially when it comes to recovery and dealing with temptations. Instead of beating ourselves up with shame, we can learn to get curious about our struggles and emotions, unlocking deeper healing in the process. I’ll talk about how neuroscience backs this up, share some insights from Jay Stringer’s book Unwanted, and explain how our sexual fantasies are often tied to past wounds. I’ll also give you some practical tools to use when you’re tempted or feeling overwhelmed. If you’re tired of letting sha...
2024-10-2118 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Pain: Self-Compassion vs ShameIn this episode of Numb to Known, I dive into the powerful practice of self-compassion and how it can help break the cycle of shame, especially in the context of porn addiction. I’ll explain how shame isolates us, blocking us from receiving God’s unconditional love and support from others, and share insights from Dr. Curt Thompson and Brené Brown on how self-compassion opens the door to true connection and transformation. I’ll address the fear of continuing in bad habits, explore why shame isn’t an effective motivator for change, and highlight how self-compassion aligns with God’s kindness...
2024-10-1412 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Connection: God in AddictionIn this episode, I wrap up our series on connection by focusing on the most important relationship we can have—our connection with God. I'll talk about how discovering our identity in Christ, seeing God as a loving Father, and surrendering to His strength can help us in the journey to overcome porn addiction. I’ll also share practical insights from scripture and neuroscience to help you apply these truths to your life. If you're looking for real change and healing, I hope this episode gives you practical steps and reminds you that God’s love is what empowers true f...
2024-10-0722 min
Live Your Best Life with Liz WrightFreedom From Addiction w/ Aaron ZintAaron Zint of The Whole Man Project and author of Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn joins Liz for a vitally important conversation on freedom from sexual addiction. Aaron vulnerably shares his powerful story of getting free from porn-use and he unpacks the internal world of men who have this struggle. Aaron gives insight into what is really going on and that sexual addiction is really a ‘check engine light’ for deep underlying areas that need attention. Compassion heals and shame does not. Shame is a tactic from the enemy that tells us to isolate and that...
2024-09-3034 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Connection: How Emotions Hold the Key to Overcoming PornIn this episode Aaron discusses the role of emotions in porn addiction and how to understand and work with your emotions rather than ignoring or working against them. The process he shares is to Name it, Question it, Share it and Move it. In this process we name the emotion, we get curious about it, we get known in it and we take action.--Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2024-09-3031 minMarriage LabChange your marriage: what your spouse needs the mostIn this episode, Jenna and Aaron share the secret sauce to seeing change in your marriage. It's simpler than you think. Just more humbling. Support the show------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>> Become a sponor of our shows
2024-09-2636 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Connection: Do I need an accountability partner, small groups, mentors or friends?Our journey into wholeness requires that we get connected. How exactly do we do that? We all know about accountability partners, small groups and programs. We all wants friends and mentors. What direction should I head to get connected?This episode breaks down what to look for to get connected in the way you need.--Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2024-09-2332 minMarriage LabIs your spouse pushing your buttons? Conflict & Boundaries in ActionIn this episode, Jenna and Aaron talk through a conflict they had that morning. This particular one was not a new dynamic in their relationship and had created disconnection many times before. However, this time they successfully paused in dysregulation, intentionally moved towards connection and set some boundaries.Main takeaways:If your buttons are getting pushed, remember, they are your buttons and you are responsible for themIf you are the one unintentionally pushing buttons, it's not your fault that they have those buttons, but choose kindness and stop pushingBoundaries are meant to protect the connection, not...
2024-09-2344 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessOn Connection: The Risk & Requirement of VulnerabilityIn this episode of the Numb to Known Podcast, host Aaron Zint dives deep into the essential role of vulnerability in achieving true connection and healing. As men on a journey to become the wholest versions of ourselves, Aaron emphasizes that we cannot do this alone; connection is key, and vulnerability is the pathway to it.Key Points:Vulnerability vs. Honesty & Transparency: Aaron breaks down the distinctions between honesty, transparency, and vulnerability. While honesty and transparency are important, vulnerability takes things a step further by allowing others not only to see our...
2024-09-1618 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessWholeness & Freedom is an inside AND outside jobIn this episode of the Numb to Known podcast, host Aaron Zint delves into the essential process of pursuing wholeness and freedom, whether from porn addiction or other areas where you may feel stuck or desire growth. Aaron emphasizes the importance of addressing both the internal and external aspects of our lives. He explains that while internal work, like healing from isolation and reshaping belief systems, is crucial, it must be paired with external actions and habits to be truly effective.Drawing from his book, Numb to Known, Aaron shares how his own journey revealed the deep...
2024-09-0917 minMarriage LabBreaking Free from Passivity: Empowering Your Marriage with Intentional ActionTake 10 week to invest in building better habits with Jenna's Mastery Course Class starts Oct 1, 2024-Can passivity be the silent killer in your marriage? In this episode, Aaron and Jenna get real about their own struggles with passivity, sharing how ignoring, avoiding, or delaying discomfort led to feelings of being stuck. Through candid personal stories, they shed light on how this behavior can evolve into rationalizations and bitterness, affecting everything from relationships to personal growth. Aaron also provides insight into his upcoming online small group for porn recovery, where passivity is a...
2024-09-0935 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessDefining Freedom from PornChristians are fond of using the word "Freedom" but we might not all have the same definition of what that means, especially as it pertains to porn-use. Furthermore, we might not have very helpful definitions of the word. Freedom from porn is first of all, not zero temptation, perfection or a destination. So what is it? In this episode we explore helpful definitions of freedom.--Links--Online Small GroupOne-on-One CoachingBook: Numb to Known - the surprising path away from porn
2024-09-0221 minMarriage LabReconnecting Through the Everyday: Small Habits, Big ImpactTake 10 week to invest in building better habits with Jenna's Mastery Course Class starts Oct 1, 2024-In this episode of Marriage Lab, Aaron and Jenna dive into the realities of maintaining a strong connection in marriage, especially during transitions and busy seasons. They share personal stories and insights on how small, consistent habits can significantly impact a marriage's health. They discuss how even brief disconnects, like those experienced during family trips or shifts in routines, can affect a relationship. The couple emphasizes the importance of being intentional in creating connection points, even if...
2024-09-0229 minNumb to Known: Men Pursuing WholenessUnderstanding What's Behind Porn-UseFor men of faith, like myself, who've struggled with porn for years and years, it can be easy to look at our behavior and say, "I've got a porn problem." However, the truth is, you don't. You don't have a problem with porn. The truth is, you've found a solution in porn. A solution to what? To the problems that underly porn-use: isolation, passivity and pain. The solutions to these problems are found in connection, intentionality and healing. As we pursue these through new habits, new mindsets and courage, we can become the men we've always wanted to be...
2024-08-2617 minMarriage LabWill my needs ever get met? w/ Jordan & ClaireIn this episode our good friends, Jordan and Claire, share with us how they each grew in the ability to care for each others needs despite the fear that their own would never get met. Jenna and I (Aaron), have done a number of Couples Coaching sessions with them in which we witnessed a masterful use of the communication tools in the midst of processing pain and feeling defensiveness.They discuss how to properly validate, have compassion and help the other person feel seen and heard before passing "the talking stick". They also share how they've learned...
2024-08-191h 02Marriage LabControl in MarriageIt's been both our experience of ourselves and of many other marriages that we've coached, that there is one spouse who has a propensity towards Control. We define "control" as one person's attempt at manipulating the outcome through managing another person's actions. In this episode, Jenna talks about how control shows up for her and what is happening on a deeper level, namely with fear. She lays out the growth path for those who are struggling with trying to control their spouse and the pitfalls that line that path. Aaron talks about his experience of being on t...
2024-08-1246 min
The Authentic Way PodcastComing Alive Through Doing Hard Things: A Conversation with Aaron ZintAaron Zint is a public speaker, author, and incredibly genuine and inspiring man. I’ve had the honor of getting to know him during my time attending The Whole Man Project, a weekly men’s meeting which he leads here in Redding. In this conversation, we talk Enneagram and growth work, living intentionally, overcoming passivity, Internal Family Systems (IFS) and more. Aaron is a fellow Enneagram Social Nine, and shares clearly about what it looks like for this subtype to embrace deep inner growth work with intentionality and strength and to move from the passion of sloth to the virt...
2024-07-3158 minBraveCo Podcast124: How Comfort Zones will Lead to Failure with Aaron ZintIn this episode, Aaron Zint, leader of The Whole Man Project, and author of Numb to Known, joins Jay to talk about PASSIVITY and how to overcome it. Small steps take you to where you want to go. Anytime we dodge a challenge, ignore a problem, avoid weakness, or stay in our comfort zones, passivity wins. Passivity lies to us, saying that avoiding action is easier than facing regret. But, every moment of avoidance is a lost chance to grow.From difficult conversations, physical transformation, to business undertakings, and more, they all begin with tiny s...
2024-07-2944 minLet's Talk About ItWhy You're Not Getting Free From Porn - ft/Aaron ZintIt’s not uncommon to hear of men struggling with porn, but it’s less common to hear men NOT watching porn anymore. Why does it seem to be so complicated to get free? Maybe it’s because we’ve been trying to do it the wrong way.
In this episode, Aaron Zint, leader of the Whole Man Project, sits down and unpacks some key questions we knew were vital to this conversation.
👉They’re so many men struggling who don’t want to be, they think they’re working to get free…but why aren’t they...
2024-07-0238 minMarriage LabResentment vs Investment | What I wish I knew Part 3Don't be overwhelmed by your summer! You can balance all that's on your plate- while still hitting your hopes. Grab Jenna's mini course as your guide to: Set-Up Your Summer In this episode- Jenna & Aaron talk about how you can do the same thing but with a different motivation- and it can shift everything. What is your motivation? Are you telling yourself you are powerless & "have to do XYZ" because of your spouse? That's your sign your feeding resentment.What if you simply switched your self...
2024-06-1329 minMarriage LabDebunking "Don't go to bed angry" | What I Wish I Knew Pt 1Buy Jenna's mini-course: Setting-up Your Summer.Aaron and Jenna begin a series titled "What I wish I knew" sharing what they wish they'd learned early in marriage. This first part dives into the topic of "urgency." Most conflicts in the early stages of relationships feel urgent. They become very high stakes when they don't need to be. Why? Because it's possible to be connected even when there is no resolution to the problem. This brings us to the scripture from Ephesians 4:26 "...Do not let the sun go down on your an...
2024-05-3035 minMarriage LabPorn in Marriage Pt 2: Understanding Porn AddictionNeeding support in walking out of a porn addiction? Join Aaron's Online Small Group which is set up to help men struggling with porn to get connected and begin to bring attention to the areas in their life that makes porn feel like the best and only option.You can also check out Aaron's book, Numb to Known: the surprising path away from porn. In this episode, Aaron talks about how most porn addictions start at a young age and are sustained through adulthood through cycles of isolation, passivity and pain. This episode is mostly g...
2024-05-0150 minBraveCo Podcast111: How to Master Your Emotions with Jason Vallotton and Guest Aaron ZintLet’s debunk the saying that there are “bad” emotions. Emotions just are! We experience them all on some level every day. In this episode, Aaron Zint, leader of The Whole Man Project, and author of Numb to Known, joins Jay to talk about mastering your emotions.Connect with Aaron:Website: https://aaronzint.wixsite.com/website Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aaron.zint Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zintmarriagelab/?hl=en Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-lab/id1559373076Book: https://www.amazon.com/Numb-Known-Surprising-Path-Away-ebook/dp/B0BDW3TLGJ Jason's In...
2024-04-2952 minMarriage LabHow to Stop Fighting Over Stupid StuffHave you ever said, "We got in a big fight about something so small and stupid!" It happens in every marriage when there is emotional pain behind a "small and stupid" logistical problem. In this episode, Jenna and Aaron reverse engineer their fight about a toothbrusher charger and how something so small and stupid had the potential to create a lot of disconnection but didn't. Support the show------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>> Become a sponor of our shows
2024-04-1530 minMarriage Lab7 Unhelpful Beliefs About Sharing PainJenna and Aaron share 7 unhelpful beliefs people have (they themselves used to have) about sharing pain with your spouse. Stay tuned for an episode on the helpful beliefs!Here is a review of those 7 unhelpful beliefs:Tell them everything I’m thinkingReveal to them how they hurt meGet them to see how they failed meI can resolve my hurt by hearing an apology/admission of guiltThis is urgent. Don’t go to bed angry (two sleepy dysregulated people are horrible communicators)
2024-02-0628 minMarriage LabBreakthrough IS Possible : w/ Anna & Alan MullikinIn this episode, we interview our friends Anna & Alan Mullikin who share about the breaking of a ten year cycle. We were so encouraged by their story and know that this testimony is for everyone who's felt hopeless in their own cycles of pain and hurt in their marriage. You can follow Anna at Please rate, review & share the podcast!>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows?
2024-01-291h 01Marriage LabPastoring a Church Together in Marriage w/ Joaquin & Renee EvansWe interviewed our friends Joaquin and Renee Evans pastor a church called Bethel Austin in Austin, Texas. In this episode they share about what it requires of them to co-pastor a large church while staying connected in their marriage and in their family life. They hit on:BoundariesIntentionalitySigns of disconnectionTime to get away just the two of themStaying connected to mentors and peersPlease rate, review & share the podcast!>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? >> Become a sponor of our shows
2024-01-2254 minMarriage LabGenuine Apologies in MarriageIn a previous episode, we when into depth about no requiring an apology from your spouse when you felt hurt from them but rather focusing on sharing your heart in order to be known. This is one side of the coin for us. And an important one at that. The other side is that due to not requiring apologies from each other, we wind up giving way more genuine apologies than ever before. In this episode, we talk about how the lack of requiring an apology from each other and the grace that accompanies that allows for...
2024-01-1635 minMarriage LabForgiving Your SpouseChoosing a spouse is choosing the person you'd like to offer the most forgiveness to of anyone else over a lifetime. Why? Because the intimacy in marriage creates more opportunity for hurt than any other relationship. Therefore, to have a thriving marriage, we must lean into the heart of Jesus and forgive each other like He forgave us. Generously, for the big and the little trangresses, without measure. Especially when we feel we've been hurt by our spouse so often or so deeply, it can feel like an injustice to offer forgiveness. It feels unfair. Like they...
2024-01-0328 minMarriage LabPart of Me Feels...While Another Part Feels...Have you ever been trying to honestly explain what you're thinking or feeling and say the words "Part of me feels..." or "Part of me thinks..."? Most people do intuitively. In this episode we talk about how to utilize this phrase into our communciation with our spouse to give the most accurate picture of what's happening inside of us. We also explore how this is used in therapy and how you can use it to bring more compassion and connection within yourself. Please rate, review & share the podcast!------------------------------------------------------------Join Jenna's life-changing...
2023-12-1132 minMarriage LabTools for Connection: Joy Memories & AppreciationIn this episode we break down a couple tools for connecting with your spouse even when you're in the middle of conflict or have something unresolved between you both.Please rate, review & share the podcast!------------------------------------------------------------Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!Registration for next round begins January 3, 2024.------------------------------------------------------------Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out his book on the same subject. Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.------------------------------------------------------------For more on wh...
2023-12-0620 minMarriage LabCreating a Refreshing Weekend: what it means to truly rest with familyHave you ever been looking forward to the weekend only to find that what was intended to be restful and relaxing, never actually filled you up? Have you ever headed back into your workweek feeling like you wasted an opportunity to take good care of yourself and your family?We definitely have! In this episode, we talk about the shift that's happened in the last year that has transformed our weekends, especially with young kids, into times of true rest, rejuvination and connection.Please rate, review & share the podcast!Join Jenna's life-changing Habit...
2023-10-2832 minMarriage LabThe Growth Path of Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles w/ Serena AngeliIn this episode we talk with our friend Serena Angeli who has gone on her own journey around awareness, understanding and growing in her attachment style. Interestingly, she began her journey with an avoidant style and later with an anxious style. Jenna and I, Aaron, talk about how our avoidant and anxious styles, respectively, seem to perfectly trigger each other. Each of us talk about the growth paths we've identified for our specific styles. Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have t...
2023-10-091h 07Marriage LabWhen Your Spouse is StuckIn this episode Aaron & Jenna talk about what to do when you feel like your spouse is stuck in life. the common mindsets the pop up when you recognize your spouse is stuckwhat to avoidthe best ways to helpJoin Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health with Jenna and Aaron, and check out Aaron's new book Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Aw...
2023-09-281h 01Marriage LabCreating Habits of Connection in Your Marriage with Autumn & AndrewIn this episode we interview our friends Autumn and Andrew Elliott. They saw a major turn in their connection after some counseling revealed a need for a "baseline." This baseline served as their way to stay connected on the most basic level so that the small conflicts that used to tank them before were no longer pulling them down. Another possible name for this "baseline" are "connection habits." It was a few simple, basic habits they put in place that got them out of the red and to a good baseline from which they could get through the craziness...
2023-09-181h 09Marriage LabGrowing Individually to Grow Together w/ Ryan & JessicaIn this episode, we interview our friends Ryan & Jessica Casey about how their individual journey's of growth, risk and healing contirbuted to their ability to connect as a couple.Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health with Jenna and Aaron, join the waitlist for Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course and check out Aaron's new book Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn. Aaron also run's online small groups...
2023-09-111h 07Marriage LabCrisis of Faith: my story of choosing God while uncertainIn this extra vulnerable episode, Aaron shares his journey walking through a crisis of faith and Jenna shares her experience walking with him in it.Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health with Jenna and Aaron, join the waitlist for Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course and check out Aaron's new book Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn. Aaron also run's online small groups for men wanting to...
2023-09-011h 05Marriage LabSelf-Compassion: Why it's necessary to live in wholenessIn this episode, we talk about what self-compassion is, the importance of it and the impact of it in our lives. We both have our own journey learning we needed it and walking it out for ourselves. There is no finish line. It's an ongoing part of what makes it possible for us to not only love ourselves well, but to love each other, our kids and everyone else well.Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or...
2023-08-1753 minMarriage LabHabits of Health: Fitness in MarriageIn this episode we dive into the habits of physical health that have been slowly but surely building in our lives over the past couple years. We share our journey about pain felt when one spouse is pursuing fitness and the other doesn't want to join. We also talk about ways to create life-long habits of health.Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health with Jenna and Aaron, join the...
2023-07-2544 minMarriage LabFeeling Lonely in Household Chores Pt 2: Post Therapy DiscoveriesJenna and I had a few therapy sessions which help shed some light on the triggers that came up in our last hard conversation. We begin to unpack those in this episode. It's not all resolved but we're still moving forward. Little bits of better over a long period of time. Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health with Jenna and Aaron, join the waitlist for Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery...
2023-07-1847 minBraveCo Podcast069: Breaking Addictive Cycles with Aaron ZintBreaking out of addictive cycles is so much more than just grinning and bearing it until the desire passes. Aaron Zint, who leads the Wholeman Project at Bethel Church, explains the source of addiction and how to truly break out of addictive cycles. Get to the source of your pain, get connected, and step into the liberated life you were made to live.Foundations of Masculinity Small Groups: https://www.smallgroups.braveco.org/Foundations of Masculinity For Your Church: https://www.church.braveco.org/Jason's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayvallotton/CONNECT...
2023-07-101h 02Marriage LabFeeling Lonely in Household Chores: Aaron & Jenna's Hard Conversation Pt 1In this episode Jenna and Aaron share their recent conflict that is still not fully resolved, though they are staying connected in the midst of it. This conflict has surfaced many times throughout their marriage: Jenna feels lonely with the household chores, as well as family responsibilities and family connection; Aaron feels sad and fearful that he will never be able to do enough to help Jenna feel different.This episode is a recap of how the recent series of conversations went. The connection was maintained throughout those conversations, even in the midst of the pain, because...
2023-06-271h 00Marriage LabHow to Vacation Well in MarriageHave you ever felt like you've "failed" at vacationing? Like the very thing you've been looking forward to for so long winds up disappointing or becoming even more disconnecting than normal life? Jenna and I (Aaron), have been here countless times in our decade and a half of marriage and in this episode we talk about what we've learned over that time that has helped shape our vacations into times of rest, rejuvination and reconnection. Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where...
2023-06-2233 minMarriage LabNavigating Friendships in Adulthood Pt 2 w/ Eli & Michelle (our besties)In this episode, Jenna and I (Aaron) invited our besties Eli Leedy and Michelle Thompson. This is our first interview with a non-couple. Eli is single (as of the release date......ladies) and Michelle is married. We've got at least 10 years of history with each of them individually and we've each experienced our share of highs and lows. In this episode we answer these questions:What's a painful situation we've had to navigate?What is something we've had to grow in as friends?What role does this friendship play in your life? What needs does our f...
2023-06-131h 07Marriage LabNavigating Friendships in Adulthood Pt 1I don't believe we have any children listening to our podcast, so I think it's safe to say, you are an adult and you fall into one of these categories:You have great friends and would love to sustain themYou don't currently have many friends and want moreYou have friends but would love more depth/time/funIn this episode Jenna and I (Aaron) talk about our journey of navigating friendships in adulthood. This is a time in our lives when it requires a lot of intentionality to start, build and maintain good, deep friendships. We don't...
2023-06-0757 minMarriage LabADHD in Marriage: navigating differences in time management, memory recall and focusIn this episode, Jenna shares what it's like having ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder) and how the differences in her how brain works affects her ability to perceive time, the way she stores and retrieves information and how it affects her ability to focus. Aaron talks about what it's like being married to someone with ADHD and how to navigate it with grace.Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health...
2023-05-2544 minMarriage LabStories of Life Change from the Habit Lab with Stacey & Tyler CookStacey Cook took Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course last semester and joins us with her husband to talk about the life change both she and he have experienced as a result of implementing (keyword) the tools learned from the course. In this episode you'll hear them talk about:the transformation of debunking the all-or-nothing mentalitythe power of processing emotion with regularityhow someone who is already disciplined and structure can find new life and connection using relational habitsThe Cooks also share with us how they started implementing the "That's What She Said" tool from episode 18 and what...
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Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons14. The Habit Lab for Relationships with Aaron and Jenna ZintIn this episode, Jason and Lauren host a conversation with their good friends, Aaron and Jenna Zint. Aside from the wisdom and street cred that come from 14 years of marriage and three little kids, Jenna and Aaron have years of professional experience in the relational health arena that make them excellent resources on the topic! Together, they offer couples coaching and host an excellent podcast called The Marriage Lab (link below). Aaron is an author and also offers emotional, relational and sexual wholeness coaching while Jenna offers health, life and habit coaching. Most recently, Jenna launched The Habit Lab...
2023-04-121h 06Marriage LabBlame or Shame: The Nuances of DefensivenessIn this episode, Jenna and Aaron talk about the nuances of defensiveness when two people are communicating pain. The biggest struggle in learning to express emotion on a regular basis has been the defensiveness that inevitably arises as the result of our partner sharing pain that we caused. Aaron shares that playing the role of the victim typically results in defensiveness that is blaming. "If I feel sad, then that means you are bad/guilty/wrong/etc." Jenna shares that playing the role of the rescuer typically results in defensiveness that is internally focused shame. "If you feel sad...
2023-04-0435 minMarriage LabKeeping Your Heart Soft in a Hard Conversation w/ Aaron & JennaIn this episode we talk about the difficulty and necessity of keeping your heart soft in the middle of a hard conversation. This is one of the most difficult things to do when you are triggered, but it's the only path to connection in conflict. Jenna describes our recent car-buying experience and all of the strong emotion that arose with it and how she navigated the difficulty of it while keeping her heart soft. Aaron had his own work to do in the midst of it to keep his own heart soft.Your situation may not have...
2023-02-2816 minMarriage LabThat's What She Said: a tool for regulating by telling yourself a better story w/ Jenna & AaronIn this episode, we review a tool Jenna created (and Aaron named) called That's What She Said. It's a tool for when you're dysregulated because of something your spouse said. Wives, feel free to change it to That's What He Said. Aaron shares how he used this tool a couple times recently around their sex life. You can do this by yourself (self-regulating) or with another person (co-regulating). Here is the gist of the tool. Write down what he/she actually said (the literal words). Write down what you heard them say. This is co...
2023-02-2137 minMarriage LabFrom Volatile to Vulnerable w/ Chris and Morgan NicholsonWe had our friends Morgan & Chris Nicholson on to talk about how they went from a volatile first few years of marriage to a thriving couple today. They share their experience of years of disconnection and hurt and the transformation that came from bringing others into their process and taking ownership for making change within themselves individually. Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health with Jenna and Aaron, join the...
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Hope for Today with John BatesHope for Today with Aaron Zint - Conquering PornographyAaron Zint is an author, coach, leader, and podcaster. We discuss the impact of pornography on our society and how you can find hope and freedom for yourself and your loved ones! Not only is our conversation insightful, Aaron presents practical means to change that could very well transform your life!
2023-02-1027 minMarriage LabPursuing Dreams in Marriage w/ Sam & Rebekah LaRobardiereThis week we interview our friends Sam & Rebecca LaRobardiere. Sam owns a local award-winning coffee shop and roastery called Theory. Rebecca is a certified Sex Coach. Both of these pursuits happened during marriage with young kids. We watched as they both pursued the dreams that were on their heart while maintaining connection with each other and as a family. As they share in this episode, it was done perfectly and they learned a lot along the way.Please rate, review & share the podcast!For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad...
2023-02-0754 minMarriage LabThe Obstacles & Practice of Vulnerability w/ Aaron & JennaIn this episode, Jenna and Aaron take some time to define vulnerability and talk about what it looks like to practice vulnerability in relationships. Vulnerability is the act of revealing your internal world to another person, giving them access to affect you. This act is inherently risky but it is the only way to invite safety into the relationship. They also dive into the common obstacles to practicing vulnerability.For one-on-one or couples coaching, go to ZintSquad.com. Check out Aaron's book Numb to Known on Amazon. Support the show------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>>
2023-01-1741 minMarriage LabIntentional Movement into Change, Growth & the Unknown w/ Aaron & JennaJenna and Aaron review the growth and change in 2022 and discuss the keys to moving into the new year that is sustainable. Rather than attempting to change the parts of ourselves we don't like, we can attempt to love ourselves in those areas and experience the change we wanted all along.Check out Jenna's Habit Mastery Course coming up in January 2023! Sign up before registration closes.Check out Aaron's book, Numb to Known: the surprising path away from porn, on Amazon now! Support the show------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>> Become a...
2022-12-3041 min
Dear Young Married CouplePORN is not the PROBLEM w/ Aaron ZintVulnerability can be risky, but it can also be life-giving! Join Adam + Karissa as they chat with Aaron Zint from Marriage Lab on porn recovery!Recommended Resources:Zintsquad.comConnect on IG:@zintmarriagelab@jennazintStay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2022-12-1350 minMarriage LabI can be in pain & no one is to blame w/ Jenna & AaronIn this episode, Aaron shares a recent experience of some painful emotions piling up and that even though other people, like Jenna, were part of the triggers, none of them were to blame. Furthermore, the fact that Aaron had some irrational beliefs were no reason to shut down what he was feeling. Some key points from this processing were:We can be in pain and no one is to blameYour emotions don't have to be rational to be valid. They just need to be feltThe best way to address painful emotions is to process them with othersL...
2022-12-1359 minBraveCo Podcast039: Numb to Known with Aaron ZintIn this episode, Aaron Zint joins Jay to talk about the journey from Numb to Known. Whether it's porn or another addiction, Aaron is providing tools for freedom and purpose. Check out his book below to learn more.Numb to Known by Aaron ZintBraveCo Conference 2023: https://www.braveco.org/eventsFoundations of Masculinity: https://www.braveco.org/foundationsJason's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayvallotton/CONNECT WITH BRAVECOWebsite: https://www.braveco.org/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/braveco.menInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/braveco.men/...
2022-12-121h 19BraveCo Podcast038: Becoming a Whole Man with Aaron ZintThis is episode is from a session from our BraveCo conference in 2021. Aaron Zint, leader of The Whole Man Project, speaks about his journey with porn and what helped him get freedom. If this has been something that has plagued you in the past or currently, this episode with give you language and hope for the future.BraveCo Conference 2023: https://www.braveco.org/eventsFoundations of Masculinity: https://www.braveco.org/foundationsJason's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayvallotton/CONNECT WITH BRAVECOWebsite: https://www.braveco.org/Facebook: https://www.facebook.c...
2022-12-051h 01Marriage LabMoney in Marriage: finding a place of steady even when your finances are not w/ Aaron & JennaCheck out Aaron's new book, Numb to Known, available on Amazon now!In this episode we share about the tough financial year we've had. Within that time we felt stress, fear, disappointment, new hope, excitement, new passions and a deeper connection than ever before. We share what it was like to be on the receiving end of generosity and the complicated feelings that arise as the result. Support the show------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>> Become a sponor of our shows
2022-11-0256 min
The Kris Vallotton PodcastCultural Catalysts with Aaron Zint || Why Your Addiction Isn't the ProblemIn this week's episode of Cultural Catalysts, Kris Vallotton sat down for a conversation with Aaron Zint about removing the roots of addiction. In their conversation, they discussed the power of vulnerability, the importance of being known and finding solutions to the problem of pain.
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Kris Vallotton is the Senior Associate...
2022-10-1231 minMarriage LabNo Bad Parts: getting to know our internal protectors w/ Aaron & JennaIn this episode, we talk about what we've learned from Internal Family Systems (a therapeutic modality created by Dr Richard Schwartz) and the value it's brought in allowing us to bring compassion and curiosity instead of contempt to the parts of us that have damaging or unhelpful behavior. If we can learn to do this for ourselves, we will actually have compassion and curiosity for our spouse instead of leaning towards contempt when we feel hurt by them. Support the show------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>> Become a sponor of our shows
2022-10-0437 minMarriage LabFreedom to Choose w/ Aaron & JennaIn this short but sweet episode, Aaron & Jenna talk about the small moment between stimulus and response (as Steven Covey puts it) when you have the ability to choose. This comes into play especially when we feel defensive in conflict with our spouse. Between feeling defensive and our reaction to it, we have the ability to choose to listen without defending ourselves, regardless of what we feel. This takes time and practice but it essential to creating a marriage in which it is safe to share your heart. Support the show------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>> ...
2022-09-2727 minMarriage LabFrom Rescuer/Victim to Powerful/Powerful with Angelo & McKenzieIn this episode we interview our friends Angelo & McKenzie who vulnerably share with us the roles they played in their marriage for a number of years in which Angelo was the victim and McKenzie was the Rescuer (synonymous in this episode with "hero"). They share how these roles created some sense of comfort and yet kept them both stuck, Angelo without learning how to be powerful and show up in strength and McKenzie without learning that she had any needs at all.Though they are both still in the process of growing into the powerful people they...
2022-09-201h 24Marriage LabQuestioning Our Normals As Absolute Truth w/ Aaron & JennaIn this episode we talk about how our personality and culture have shaped our normals and how those normals feel like absolute truths. The problem with viewing our normals as absolute truths is that it's a recipe for judgment and disconnection. We take this time to confess our own normals and how we've had a tendency to see the other's actions as value statements.We talk about how we've learned to navigate addressing those normals and the pain that tends to be behind it.At the end of the episode, Jenna talks about her upcoming...
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