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The Enough EffectWhy Your Self-Love Shouldn't Be Tied to Your ReligionWhen your self-love is rooted in your religious beliefs, that means it is conditional upon things like:Whether or not you’re following the “rules”If you’re spending your time wiselyIf you’re serving people enoughIf enough people love you (because that means you are righteous)Sound familiar? This podcast episode is for you. Listen to the episode to learn:How to untie your self-esteem from your religious beliefsHow religious discourse can affect your self-esteemHow to overcome the hurdles that come with developing a healthy self-esteemFor more information, check out this blog post: https://ww...
2025-10-3007 minThe Enough EffectHow Do You Know if God Has Forgiven You When You Have Scrupulosity OCD?You don't have to have Scrupulosity OCD to wonder if God has truly forgiven you for your sins. However, people with Religious OCD need to approach the question much differently.In this episode, we discuss how to respond when you find yourself wondering if you're truly forgiven. We also talk about:What feeling guilt means when you have Scrupulosity OCDHow to respond to intrusive thoughts about God's forgivenessWhat religious discourse surrounding God's forgiveness to avoid applying into your own live when you have OCDFor more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.co...
2025-10-2308 minThe Enough EffectWhen ERP For Scrupulosity OCD Feels Like a SinExposure and Response Prevention therapy (ERP) involves a person with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) completing tasks that are targeted to help them face the fears that are driving the OCD cycle.For those with Scrupulosity OCD, those exposures involve things like changing the way they pray, skipping church or doing other behaviors that they believe might offend God. It's no wonder that many individuals with Scrupulosity OCD feel like ERP is basically just purposefully committing sins. If you're in that same boat, this podcast episode is for you. We'll discuss:How to navigate ERP when i...
2025-08-0714 minThe Enough Effect5 Ways You Can Support Your Loved One Who Has Scrupulosity OCDScrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) certainly isn't a disorder that only affects the sufferer. And if your loved one has Scrupulosity OCD, it can be very difficult to know how you can best support them.In this episode, we talk about 5 ways OCD can affect relationships and 5 ways you can effectively support your loved one with Scrupulosity OCD. We also discuss:How to navigate when taboo topics come upHow you can ensure you don't encourage compulsionsThe best ways you can take care of yourself in the processFor more information on this topic, check out abbietabbilos...
2025-07-2919 minThe Enough EffectFeelings Aren't Facts - Especially When You Have OCDIt's common to think that if you don't feel happiness or peace, it means you have done something wrong and need to repent. Scrupulosity OCD can find tons of evidence for you to feel this way, and even though you can tell it's harmful for you to think this way, it feels so real!In this episode, we talk about how to address when emotions feel like evidence, and feelings feel like facts. In addition, you'll hear about: Pema Chodron's quote, "Pain is not a punishment, pleasure is not a reward" and how it applies to S...
2025-07-1007 minThe Enough EffectIs It the Spirit or OCD?If you've been diagnosed with Scrupulosity (Religious) Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), chances are you have been confused about whether you received revelation from God or if it was just your OCD talking.I understand that answering this question can be incredibly complicated, especially since many people eventually realize that some of their most treasured spiritual experiences were simply the reduction in anxiety that comes from completing the OCD cycle.In this episode, we cover everything you need to know about how to discern God's voice when you have OCD, including:Key adjectives that describe both...
2025-07-0317 minThe Enough EffectIs Worry a Sin? How People With Scrupulosity OCD Should View ItHave you ever wondered if worry was a sin? If you have, it's probably because a lot of people genuinely think it is. In fact, they often cite increased faith and/or prayer as the perfect antidotes to worry. However, for people with Scrupulosity/Religious Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), believing that worry is sinful can be incredibly harmful, not only because OCD sufferers don't have control over which worries come into their minds, but also because it encourages believers to monitor their thoughts for sinful content.In this podcast episode, we talk about the importance of m...
2025-06-2606 minThe Enough EffectAvoiding Fear-Based Obedience in Scrupulosity OCDIf you have Scrupulosity/Religious Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) there's a big chance you may have had difficulty deciphering whether or not the religious behaviors you participate in are because of your faith, or because your OCD is talking.For example, you may feel an overwhelming need to repent for a sin you committed, but you are unsure whether that is because you actually made a mistake, or your OCD wants you to find certainty that you are in good standing with God.Or, you may be excessively concerned about missing a day of prayer or...
2025-06-1911 minThe Enough EffectManaging the Everyday Exhaustion of Intrusive ThoughtsWhen I asked my followers what they wanted to hear me speak about on a podcast episode, they said "How to manage the everyday exhaustion of intrusive thoughts." And if you have OCD, you know that if you had to pick one adjective to describe living with the disorder, "exhausting" would be near the top of the list!In this episode, we talk about what everyday life dealing with OCD intrusive thoughts can look like and how you can cope with exhaustion while expressing self-compassion. In addition, we'll talk about:- What showing up everyday...
2025-06-1215 minThe Enough Effect"I Blame My Church for My Scrupulosity OCD"Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is already complicated enough before you consider that it isn't much of a stretch for the OCD sufferer to develop complicated feelings towards their faith.In my journey with Scrupulosity OCD, I've asked myself questions like:- If I wasn't raised in a religious household, would I still have developed OCD?- Is it worth it to remain an active member of my religion?- Is my religion making my OCD worse?It's painful to consider the idea that maybe I wouldn't have suffered so much if I was...
2025-05-2312 minThe Enough EffectWho Am I Without OCD?Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is really good at making a person question everything about who they are.For example, Scrupulosity OCD may heavily impact a person's religious identity by making them unsure of what they believe or what mistakes they may have made. Relationship OCD can blur the lines of what a person's thoughts and actions mean and how others might perceive them – and that's only scratching the surface.If you've asked yourself, "Who am I without OCD?" then this podcast episode is for you. We'll discuss: How to come back home to yourself when you...
2025-05-0208 minThe Enough EffectHow to Recover from OCD When You're Mentally and Emotionally ExhaustedLiving with OCD is incredibly exhausting. So how do you find the energy to apply the skills and tools to recover from the very mental illness that is creating mental and emotional exhaustion?In this episode, we discuss the small steps you can take towards recovery, even when you are mentally and emotionally exhausted. In addition, we'll cover: - How OCD recovery doesn't always have to be hard work- How to cope when you are struggling and overwhelmed with OCD- Strategies for starting small- How it's as exhausting to get b...
2025-04-2407 minThe Enough EffectHow to Have Self Compassion When It Feels ImpossibleI don't know anyone who struggles with their mental health that doesn't suffer a mental health relapse from time to time. And perhaps one of the most difficult parts of those relapses is the fact that it can be extremely difficult to have self compassion. In this episode, we'll discuss 5 ways you can show yourself some compassion, even when it feels impossible. In addition, you'll learn:What a mental health relapse can look likeWhat to do when you start to winder if you even deserve to feel betterHow to take the first step to recovering from a...
2025-04-0312 minThe Enough EffectYour Life Might Not be Better Without Mental IllnessMental illness can take so much from you – relationships, self-esteem, experiences – even simply the ability to feel joy, or feel anything at all. That's why it's no wonder that people who suffer from OCD (or anxiety, or depression, or anything in between) may sometimes think to themselves, "If I just didn't have anxiety, I could be happy." Or, "If I just didn't have OCD, my life would be incredibly different."These feelings are VALID and INCREDIBLY real, but what do you do with them once you've felt them? How do you move forward?In...
2025-03-2709 minThe Enough EffectOvercoming the Fear of Feeling AnxietyWhen you get anxious, you have two options: resist it, or lean into vulnerability. In this episode, we'll discuss how rather than letting anxiety harden you into resistance, you can let it soften you. You can stop fearing anxiety. In addition, we'll discuss:Resisting anxiety is natural because you are trying to protect yourselfAlthough anxiety is extremely uncomfortable, it cannot hurt youYou can learn how to embrace all human emotion through mindfulnessFor more information on how you can apply mindfulness for anxiety, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/overcoming-the-fear-of-feeling-anxious ...
2025-03-0609 minThe Enough EffectUtilizing Wise Mind for Emotional RegulationDo you ever feel like your emotions take over, clouding your judgement and making it hard for you make decisions?If so, this week's episode is for you! We're going to be discussing the Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) concept of Wise Mind, which details how you can find the right balance between rational mind and emotional mind to healthily regulate your emotions. Plus, we'll discuss:How hormone fluctuations can affect mental health The difference between rational and emotional reasoningHow you can live a more emotionally balanced life, even when emotions are highFor mo...
2025-02-2809 minThe Enough EffectOvercoming Black and White Thinking in Scrupulosity OCDAfter an individual is diagnosed with Scrupulosity OCD, they may question EVERYTHING about their past religious beliefs because they realize many of the times they thought they were experiencing God's love was just the reduction in anxiety that comes from participating in the OCD cycle. That's why I said in Episode 2 of The Enough Effect that as a Scrupulosity OCD sufferer, it felt like my entire religious past was a phony and I didn't know where to go from there. I've been thinking a lot about that, and I realized that was just another way OC...
2025-02-2009 minThe Enough EffectOvercoming Mental Health ShameI'm not sure I've met someone who struggles with mental health who doesn't feel shame about it from time to time. But why is that the case?Whether you're worried about being a burden on people you love or struggle giving yourself permission to slow down and feel your emotions, you're not alone. In today's episode, we're discussing how you can overcome the shame that often surrounds mental health difficulties and learn to give yourself compassion in any scenario - because you are worthy of love and acceptance, no matter your past or present struggles.
2025-02-1311 minThe Enough EffectWhat It Means to Accept AnxietyIf you are a person with anxiety, then you've definitely heard someone say something like, "Resisting anxiety only strengthens it. You just have to accept your anxiety and then things will get better." But so often, those people don't explain what accepting anxiety actually means!In this episode, we'll dive into everything you need to know about how to accept anxiety's presence in your life WITHOUT submitting yourself to a bleak, anxiety-filled future. In addition, we'll cover:What it really means to accept anxietyHow to be more open and flexible with your emotionsHow to c...
2025-02-0615 minThe Enough EffectTechniques for Dismissing Intrusive ThoughtsToday we're discussing a bit of a harsh truth for those of us who have mental heath difficulties: eventually, we have to take responsibility for what goes on in our minds.This is especially true for those of us who deal with intrusive thoughts. Although we can't control what thoughts we get, we can control what we do with those thoughts and how those thoughts affect us. In this episode, I share an analogy to help you feel empowered to take on your intrusive thoughts in a way that makes you feel empowered, rather than v...
2025-01-2310 minThe Enough EffectHow to Have Faith When You Have Scrupulosity OCDScrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a condition where the individual suffers from persistent, unwanted thoughts, intense anxiety and drives to do compulsive behaviors centered around matters or religion or morality. Like many subtypes of OCD, it is also characterized by excessive doubt and fear of uncertainty.I have suffered from this condition nearly all my life, but was only accurately diagnosed in late 2023. In my healing journey, one question has been at the forefront of my mind: how do you have faith when you have Scrupulosity OCD?Although it is difficult, it is not impossible...
2025-01-1612 minThe Enough EffectWhat is OCD?Whether you have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), think you might have OCD, or love someone with OCD, this episode is for you. OCD is an incredibly misunderstood disorder, often used as the punch line of jokes or as a way to define "quirks" or personality traits. But it's important to understand OCD for what it is, both so that we can understand what may be going on in our own brains and so that we can extend understanding to those we love who may be suffering from this disorder. That's why I'm breaking the OCD cycle down to the very...
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