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WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 160: IT'S TAKE-ACTION TIMEIt's a FEW against MILLIONS of us...
The time to do ANYthing and EVERYthing we can, no matter how small, is NOW!!
1. Do NOT OBEY in advance, they're counting on that
2. Stay focused. This huge sh*tshow is meant to paralyze us.
3. Do NOT COMPLY w/o resisting, make it hard to FW
4. SPEAK OUT, silence is acceptance
5. SHOW you can be COUNTED on / a FAFO attitude
6. Seek information and SHARE it with everyone
7. Undocumented or not, KNOW & EXERCISE your...2025-02-0530 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 98 - A FOREVER BOYFRIENDI think it’s possible to be married and still feel like we’re
living with our boyfriend of years gone by.
Here are five ways that have helped me do just that, and I’m
confident they’ll help you as well!
1. Remember the
beginning:
Anticipation, butterflies, dreams of the future, how you felt,
a dream come true… a dream come true, right?
2. Give up trying to
change him:
Try changing yourself
and see how hard that is… If you could change your bad habits, you’d m...2023-10-1027 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 97 - THE POWER OF VISIONDid you ever stop to think and appreciate that EVERY man-made
thing on this earth now started with a vision?
A vision of something in someone’s mind?
My husband loves to watch the show The (foods, toys, etc)
that built America… best example of people who had a vision, an idea and never
gave up on it… and we now get to enjoy the fruits of their labor.
Our vision is THE key in making our dreams a reality
What are your biggest dreams?
Is there...2023-10-0320 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 96 - RELENTLESS PURSUIT EQUALS SUCCESSFirst off, what is success?
Success is doing something you set out to do on purpose and
you are happy doing it.
If you look around you, you’ll most likely notice that successful
people become a certain type of
person before becoming successful.
They do a specific
thing that propels them to be successful… not 100 things all at once, not
being particularly good at any one thing.
It would be ok to be a crafter and do different things, such as rings,
earrings, bracelets, but it’s all jewel, an...2023-09-2620 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 95 - IMAGINATION TRUMPS KNOW-HOWCan we just pause for a moment and try to grasp the reality of
the world we live in is?
How everything around us was created?
Our homes, cars, airplanes, GPS, television, smart phones…
EVERYTHING started first in someone’s imagination… WHAT CAN YOU
IMAGINE CREATING?
People did NOT KNOW “how” it was going to happen… but they
had to rely on the PICTURE in their imagination in order to accomplish the
thing!
IT WAS ONLY IN THEIR MIND, THEIR IMAGINATION.
We are part of...2023-09-1918 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 94 - LIVE AND LET LIVEOne of the biggest problems/complaints a lot of people have
is “other people’s” behavior, and how that creates problems in our lives…
* What they do
* What they don’t do
* How they do it
* They do too much,
* They don’t do enough
* They do it wrong
*They visit too much
* They don’t visit enough
* They spend too much
* They spend their money on the wrong things (
* They’re too stingy…
I used t...2023-09-1222 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 93 - 7 THINGS COACHING CHANGED IN MY LIFEThese are just some of the ways in which coaching has
forever changed my life, and I hope there’s something here for you as well.
1. It opened my eyes
and mind to the idea that I alone can change anything in my life…
Not without help (we are an interdependent society), but not
to wait for someone else to do it for me.
But by taking initiative and having the desire to change.
2. That I’m not too late to start, no
matter my age
I became aware of the impact women of all ages and
backgrounds are making today… an...2023-09-0531 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 92 - ALTERNATE FUTURE POSSIBILITIESBack on Ep 63 (not 61, sorry!) – WHEN THE STUDENT IS READY…
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-63-when-the-student-is-ready/id1597656935?i=1000598422326
2nd correction: I have 7 grandchildren, not 8!! I was thinking how many kids my mom had... 8!
Ok, moving on!
I talked about being really ready to hear what we need to
hear, that will move us forward in a desired direction. Sometimes this is harder to do than we think.
After having listened to the below statements over 5 times, in
the Audible book Start Here by Ear...2023-08-2929 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 91 - THOUGHTS NOT TO HAVEThoughts not
to have… because they do not serve us.
And in fact,
they harm us!!
Thought: I
never catch a break!
First of all
NEVER is too long… and also not true, so why think this or say it? When we say
things like this our subconscious takes us at our word.
A better
statement or thought could be is “Life has ups and downs, it’s part of being
human, things will soon change for the better, I know it!”
Thought: When
it rains...2023-08-2222 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 90 - SELF-IMPOSED MISERYIt’s true that sometimes we are annoyed by what people do or say, how they
say it, but not only is it normal, it’s also optional.
We can be
annoyed, unhappy, even hurt, but for how long is up to us!
And it’s very important to remember that the ONLY reason we’re annoyed is
because of what we are thinking about it, what are making it mean!
No other
reason!
We also forget that too often we misinterpret each other… one person says an...2023-08-1521 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 89 - HOW NOT TO BE A WIMPY WOMANWimpy is defined as... weak, cowardly, feeble!
Feel you’ve been any of these things in your life, maybe in certain relationships or
situations and you feel bad, or maybe even mad about it?
I truly do not believe we as women are any of these things, ever!! There come times when we must make certain
choices, which is very different.
So if this is you, stop feeling bad… you did your best with what you were dealing with at
that time. We do our best, always.
So...2023-08-0812 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 88 - FALSE BELIEFSWhat false beliefs do we have about our evolving and self-development?
Often we believe
that in order to be successful you have to have a proper education and/or all our
"ducks in a row".
Education is
amazing, but if we for some reason missed the boat it doesn’t mean we’re out in
the cold forever!
We believe that
in order to be seen as successful you have to have a degree, experience, “proof”
or credentials, testimonials, blah blah. We let that hold us back!!
While all
those things are good...2023-08-0114 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 87 - HOW OUR WORDS CAN HARM THOSE WE LOVEThese are just some of the ways in which our own words can hurt/harm those we love, if we
don’t choose with care what we say about them.
When we complain or talk negatively to anyone about our family or friends, we are downright
hurting them, their image, and their reputation at the very least.
When we say
someone is bossy, messy, lazy, a bad mom or dad, a bad husband or wife (in whatever
way), etc., we hurt them. I’m not
talking about having a serious discussion about a...2023-07-2525 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 86 - "IF YOU LOVED ME" YOU WOULD...How about if WE practiced, tried on, the thought “if I loved
YOU” I would allow you to BE who YOU are, and I would love you AS you are?
But honestly, this can be one of the HARDEST thing you (we’ll)
ever do.
BUT would that not be such a liberating a concept for all of
us to experience, and embrace when it comes to dealing with each other?
Like feeling really free to BE who we are, and DO what we
really want to do, WHEN we want to do it, IF...2023-07-1822 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 85 - NOTHING HAS GONE WRONGIf you've ever wondered why things in your life just keep going wrong… rest assured, nothing
has gone wrong!
The FIRST
problem, when everything (or things) seem to always be going wrong is… just us thinking that they are.
Let’s be
clear though that I am not talking about when something like an accident
happens (example) and you need to recover from injuries sustained, or something
similar, something temporary.
I’m talking
about when in general you just feel like things in your life always happen
that “shou...2023-07-1117 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 84 - YOU'RE RIGHT ON TIMEKnowing that nothing has gone “wrong” with your life is a huge deal!
It was for me,
when I became aware of this fact and started to understand my thoughts.
I used to think SO much had gone wrong
in life
__ (and sometimes
I still do if I let my guard down),
__ but it only
kept me from owning MY choices,
__ my power, from
using my gifts, from growing and deliberately evolving,
__ and from
moving forward as if everything in my life was EXACTLY as it wa...2023-07-0420 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 83 - WHAT DOESN'T KILL YOU MAKES YOU STRONGERThe reason we’re talking about this is because:
When we look at our pain/hardships in this more “positive” way…
-- things are
easier to overcome
-- life itself
is better
-- we don’t
pile all the “bad” up… “and my this, and my that… sigh”
Life is better because we’re thinking…
-- “even
though this is so hard, it’s happening for me” instead of why is this happening “to” me??
-- living
life in this more positive mindset produces a better life for us
...2023-06-2717 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 82 - YOU ARE WRONG, AND RIGHTWe can be either happy or sad, without
changing anything, except our thoughts.
Whether you think something is good or bad,
there will be others who think the opposite, and you yourself may change your mind
about it later, to the contrary.
I love having the knowledge that just by my thinking
I can improve my situation at any given moment!
“For there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” - William Shakespeare
I will strive all the days of my life to
embody/REMEMBER this truth, because...2023-06-2023 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 81 - MARRIAGE IS HARD, AND EASYHow long can one be perpetually contented anyway, or in a “perfect” anything? Like no darkness, only sunshine 24/7/365!
I love the Spring, but I wouldn’t give up all the other seasons and have it be Spring year-round.
We need change, even when it could mean extreme heat or cold. It’s nature.
How many couples do you know who have a “PERFECT” marriage 24/7 since day one? I don’t know a single one! Not even my marriage fits that description, even though it’s amazing!
Too often we fool ourselves (why?) into belie...2023-06-1326 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 80 - CIRCUMSTANCES BE DAMNEDExcuses we use/I’ve used to not do what we want to do.
Very often when we “have” to do something… like go do a
job we don’t like, we do it.
But then when we want to do something we let
circumstances get the best of us!
Here are a few:
Not enough time… this is my excuse when it comes to
reading “I read too slow” I tell myself… my solution, Audible!!
What’s your excuse, and what’s the solution?
Not enough money… one so...2023-06-0619 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 79 - ARE YOUR STORIES HOLDING YOU BACK?Are the stories of your life helping you grow or holding you back?
Some, not all, of our stories come mostly from our
upbringing, our relationships, and our circumstances.
And to a point, shaped our personality.
But in reality our personality does not need to be permanent… grumpy, short-tempered, rude, inpatient… etc.
So if you ever find yourself listening to stories like “I
can’t do that”, “I’m just not good at that”, “it was because”, “if only I had”…
stop and pay attention. Ask yourself if these statements are actually tru...2023-05-3021 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 78 - WATER YOUR OWN "GRASS"Be the ONE with the greener “grass”!
As we become disenchanted with our husbands, we start
thinking about the grass being greener elsewhere.
Try refocusing on what you love about your husband.
Wives often throw in the towel… they’re done too early.
Treat your husband ONLY as you want him to be, and there's no way he won't become it.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive marriage/relationship and feel you
are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Ho...2023-05-2314 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 77 - AS WITHIN, SO WITHOUTWish I had known long ago that my thinking (not on purpose)
was creating my life!
If you’re unhappy with any area of your current life, might
be for you.
Listen to find out more about:
Learning from your surroundings, in relationships, marriage,
professionally, or life in general.
Is anything in currently in your life (you can change)
contributing to you not being where you want to be?
I have work to do this too still… in many areas, and always will
as long...2023-05-1623 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 76 - THE WHEEL OF YOUR LIFEDid you know there’s a “wheel” where you can assess what’s
causing you problems in life?
I did not know that, but when I learned this it made so much
sense!
If you’ve been struggling in certain areas of your life,
this is for you.
When we look the areas that make our life what it is, we can
examine if we’re neglecting any of these areas, which in turn create problems
in other areas.
And when we improve one area of our life, othe...2023-05-0918 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 75 - THE LAW OF RECIPROCITYEver felt indebted to someone because they did something
nice for you?
Or felt like someone didn’t do something nice for you in
return?
No worries, most of us do or feel that way at time… but
there’s a way to not do that any more.
The law of tithing talks about how we will be blessed by
obeying this law, but it does not say we will get back exactly what we gave,
from the same people we gave to.
It’s more like, we give and we receive...2023-05-0228 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 74 - TRUE LOVE ACTIONSOften you hear that it’s not what we say, but what we do
that shows our true feelings.
Often we focus on the pettiest of things, or on inaction,
to judge what others are feeling.
But too often we miss the important things (actions) that
mean true love.
But we can choose what we focus on.
What we focus on grows, IN us and AROUND us, so let’s
focus on what we want more of.
Focusing on others’ best qualities is the sure way to get
of what w...2023-04-2522 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 73 - THE GIFT OF GIVINGGift giving, and receiving in general, can be tricky, difficult, and sometimes even downright not a good experience.
Nowadays a lot of us are opting to have less “stuff” anyway.
People who truly know me know that I am NOT a good gift RECEIVER, or giver… I get overwhelmed by the process.
My “gift” expectation, from anyone, including my husband… is ZERO. If I ever need something I let people know, I’ll ask.
I also do not believe in “gift reciprocity”. I often give out treats, as I like to bake, and the receiver feels they have to give me something in ret...2023-04-1823 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 72 - THE ENDING IS UP TO YOU“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”
- C.S. Lewis (suggested by my husband for a podcast topic)
How do we go about changing our end? Have a listen… hope you like it.
I love this quote because it reminds us that all is not lost, and that we have a great deal of control over the shaping of our future.
The past plays a part in our life, but it does not have to dictate o...2023-04-1123 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 71 - EXPECT THE UNEXPECTEDA happily EVER after would only be possible, and very boring, if we could completely manipulate and control the other person… but WHO will do the controlling??
Come give this episode a listen and let’s see if you agree with me.
When we expect life and marriage to be 100% happy we set ourselves up for disappointment.
It would be like wanting to lie by the pool the entire summer and expect to never get splashed.
EVEN in movies… there’s conflict and making up.
I don’t know another co...2023-04-0419 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 70 – 7 REASONS TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE1) 22%-70% of single mothers live below the poverty line in the USA, compared to 4.2% of married families.
2) Children are more likely to experience emotional and mental health behavioral issues when going through a divorce.
3) Kids are more likely to be engaged in fighting and theft when being part of a divorced household.
4) Abuse is 6x higher in a blended family or when a step-parent is involved.
5) Women who cohabit experience more violence than married women.
6) Step-parents are more likely to abuse children than birth-parents.
7) Divorce rate only...2023-03-2820 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 69 - DIVORCE: 6 REASONS WHY MARRIAGES FAILYou’d think that the more experience you have in marriage, the better the chances of avoiding divorce, right?
Not so!
So here are the things I didn’t know back when my first marriage was falling apart, or when my second marriage seemed to be headed in the same direction and before I discovered life coaching… Not therapy or marriage counseling, but life coaching!
I had not read "The Vortex" by Esther Hicks, nor "The Ten Bridges of Transformation" by Marianne Williamson, and so much more!
But I’ve since discovered that WE are ALL damaged (been hurt) in some way...2023-03-2134 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 68 - 8 THINGS THAT WILL IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGEAll things I wish I knew before my first marriage ended in divorce.
You’re welcome!
1. ALLOW your husband to be the man he was born to be… what is innately manly, for him. Allow him to DO for you… open your door, pay for dinner, be a provider, be your protector.
2. Be in feminine energy, practice receiving any and all the things he wants to give you.
3. Don’t mother him… when we mother men, they become a man version of a child.
4. ALLOW your guy to be himself, to be...2023-03-1432 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 67 - WHAT I LEARNED FROM ZIG ZIGLAR ABOUT MARRIAGEHere are just a few of my takeaways on courtship after marriage… may your courtship never end!
It’s the little things that make a big difference – what you say to your spouse and how you say it
You can end up marrying the wrong person, but treat them right and you end up with the right person.
More important than marrying the right person is BEING the right person.
There are going to be difficulties along the way, but most can be overcome… you can have everything in life that you want, when you help others get what the...2023-03-0122 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 66 - HAPPY DOES NOT MEAN "PERFECT"Attention wives… don’t fall into the “perfection” trap in marriage. Happy doesn’t mean “perfect.”
If you have a “perfect” marriage, I am thrilled for you, and may that never end!
However, if the “perfect” in marriage thing has been lacking in your marriage, this is for you.
This happened to me, too, TWICE before, and it almost cost me a second marriage! I fell into the “perfection” trap!
Marriage is like life, it’s not always perfect… but it’s always worth fighting for it and giving it our all.
This is not to say t...2023-02-2822 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 65 - THE OBSTACLE IS THE WAYA life without obstacles is mundane, boring, uneventful, and who wants that?
It’s ACTUALLY life’s obstacles that grow us as humans. Adversity creates the best memories!
When we have a life without obstacles, even a “good” life, nothing to work through, no accomplishments, or nothing to overcome, it feels rut-like.
When you have an argument with your husband, aren’t you just so looking forward to the “making up” part? I know I am!!
The scriptures say that there’s no reward in loving those who love us… where’s the reward in liki...2023-02-2115 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 64 - HIS HEART'S UNDOINGYou, yes YOU… are still your husband’s heart’s undoing!!
In my 60 years of life I’ve seen plenty of evidence that men still love their wives even when the wives think otherwise.
In fact, in most divorces, it’s the wife that initiates the divorce, not the husband.
So what happens for us to think that?
… Maybe we forgot, or better yet we never knew that truly we were, and still are his heart’s undoing.
Was such an eye-opener for me and felt I had to share this mes...2023-02-1422 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 63 - WHEN THE STUDENT IS READY...If you’ve ever found yourself not being happy with your current life, or areas of your life, and you have wondered...
“What can I do about my current situation?” This is for you. Or if you’re like I was… do you even know to ask yourself the right questions?
I didn’t know I had options in my life! Too many of us feel we’re…
Not educated enough… a lot of people think this ·
Feel trapped, maybe financially · See no options to take ·
Have physical/health challenges ·
Can’t...2023-02-0731 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 62 - WHEN WE MAKE LOVED ONES OUR ENEMYEver known people who seem to often be grumpy, moody, easily fly off the handle, blame everyone for everything all the time? They’re rude to the waitress, the cashier, have road rage?
So are THEY the problem, or are his circumstances the problem?
So let’s apply this to when LOVED ones become OUR problem…
We don’t usually have a problem when excited about something… why??
Sick or unhappy thoughts bring the body illness… if you pay attention to people who are always complaining about life, they are also complaining...2023-01-3118 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 61 - MARRIAGE: INTENTIONAL THINKINGI too used to be unaware (like 95% of the population) that I was creating my own, unpleasant life circumstances by not intentionally thinking about what I was doing.
I just thought that everything I didn’t like in my life was “happening to me.”
So, today I want to focus on a COUPLE of intentional things we can think about as far as what kind of marriage we want to have.
(Do we want a marriage where we not only lead, but also thrive, or one where we’re not happy and blame only our...2023-01-2425 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 60 - WHAT IS SUCCESS?Have you ever asked yourself if you are successful?
In the book, The Strangest Secret, by Earl Nightingale being successful is defined as “The progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”
Realization: 2 the fulfilment or achievement of something desired or anticipated.
Progressive: Developing in gradual stages, step by step
If you examine your life, based on the questions posed here, and IF you come to the conclusion that you’re not succeeding… get to it!
That’s what happened in my life 3 yrs ago… I heard questions being asked of me that I ha...2023-01-1715 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 59 - GIVE OTHERS THE GIFT OF YOUR OWN HAPPINESSAre there people in your life that leave you exhausted when you talk to them?
For whom the sad awful stories ever end!
Being unhappy is not good for anyone, especially for the unhappy person.
Give people the GIFT of your own happiness… so no one in your life ever has to worry about “making” you happy, or you not being happy.
Make a list of people in your life who EXHAUST you and another list of those who DELIGHT you…
What makes these two people different, how do you feel after spending time with them?
Which one do you prefer t...2023-01-1022 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEP 58 – I LOVE YOU ALL THE MOREIn Ep 55 - Happy Wife, Happy Life, I talk about how we find “faults” with our husbands after we marry them and begin to want to change them… basically loving a different version of them, but not them as they are.
I believe most of us have deep secrets we’ve never shared with another soul, for whatever reason, that affects deeply not just who we are but, also how we react in life to protect ourselves.
For EXAMPLE what if someone got to know you completely, even the parts of you you’re afraid others will know, and after knowing al...2023-01-0316 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 57 - Be Your Own Hero, RevisitHappy Holidays, friend.2022-12-2314 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 56 - When Choosing to LeaveSome times in marriage, you have to choose to leave… but how do you know when that time has come?
In my training as a life coach, and by looking back at my previously failed marriage, I’ve learned the following, very valuable lessons:
* I thought of myself only as a blameless “victim” in the relationship. Looking back, I was wrong.
* I had been a co-creator of my circumstances, but thought of it completely as my husband’s “doing this to me.”
* I didn’t have the tools needed to help my marriage succeed, but I th...2022-12-2022 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 55 - Happy Wife, Happy LifeHow do you think men feel about the statement, “Happy Wife, Happy Life?"
What if we, women, had to deal with something similar… maybe something like, “Happy Husband, Happy Household,” and it was up to US to make sure our husbands were happy, or else?
What an unpleasant thought, and I think I feel bad for our husbands for having burdened them with that the thought, that our happiness was THEIR responsibility.
What about the fact that our happiness is 100% our responsibility and no one else’s? Now there’s an empowering thought, don’t you th...2022-12-1321 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 54 - How to Know You Have an Amazing HusbandHow to know if your husband is amazing… you married him, that’s how!
That’s how I know MY husband is amazing… I married him!
And in case you’ve forgotten just how amazing your husband is, here are 7 simple things you can use to remind yourself and test my theory! Listen on…
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WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 53 - Marriage: End 2022 in LoveMarriage? How can we help our beloved, and our self?2022-11-2933 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 52 - Upper Limit CeilingHave you ever thought about whether you’ve unconsciously set a glass ceiling for how successful you can be in life? Today we’re going to look into self-imposed upper limit ceiling! Let’s dive in!
In his book The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks talks about how we as humans have an “upper limit”, the threshold if you will, and how we sabotage ourselves when we hit that limit, bringing us back down.
But what happens when we ourselves (unconsciously) set a low ceiling of upper limit to begin with, by our thoughts, as to how high t...2022-11-2224 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 51 - Holidays: Loved Ones, and PeaceWith the holiday season around the corner, are you feeling anxious at the thought of family get-togethers?
You’re not alone! It happens to a lot of us, and there are plenty of movies and real life examples of the things that can go wrong, or what happens when “we lose it” at family gatherings… SO, let’s talk about it!
Ideally, holidays should be a time for celebrating and having fun. Although at times, we’re very likely to end up stressed out, overwhelmed, and often tension during gatherings can put a damper on things.
...2022-11-1518 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 50 - Creating Life on PurposeEver woken up and asked yourself, “How in the world did I end up here, in this situation?”
I have.
And according to what I was thinking then… I HAD NO CLUE!!
Today we’re talking about being intentional when creating our lives from here on out.
Hey Beautiful!!
How’s that possible… but it happens to all of us, and to some of us more than others.
Going forward, I want to invite you to join me in creating our life ON PURPOSE!!
Which means thinki...2022-11-0821 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 49 - Are Your Surroundings Inspiring You?What surroundings inspire you to be the best version of you?
Is it a lovely clutter-free home, a very organized closet or desk, a clean car, a beautiful garden? A light room, a dark cozy room, maybe a fireplace?
We all thrive under different conditions and we’re all inspired by different things, and people.
I get so inspired when my house is in order, especially all papers (including my crafting papers), I hate junk mail, and I love having a beautiful lush garden to walk out to in the morning and in th...2022-11-0125 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 48 - Our Thoughts Create Our RealityLooking at the world as “all this was created just for me”…
The trees, flowers, the air we breathe, the sun, your home, your bed, your sheets, gas to heat your home, electricity, hot clean running water, the internet, amazon.com, smart phones, Facebook… on my phone, GPS… on your phone!
Instead of “I never catch a break”… can really change one’s life
Changing thoughts like
“I’m a magnet for losers” to “I know a wonderful man is out there waiting just for me” would feel so much better, if we believed it!
“This...2022-10-2527 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 47 - The Movie of Your LifeIf someone made a movie about your life, and you went to see it, would it inspire you, make you sad, happy, would you cry happy tears? How would you feel leaving the theatre after having watched the movie of your life? What’s your favorite movie, and why? What movies about women inspire you? Movies mimic real life, even if we aren’t always aware of it. Would your movie become a classic movie that people would still want to watch long after you leave this earth? There are two reasons to ask ourselves these questions… one is that w...2022-10-1818 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 46 - Fighting What IsHaving a problem in your life, with what IS?
When our thinking is constantly going to what other people should do, or not do, it creates big “problems” for us!
“He works too much,” “he’s so lazy,” “he’s so messy,” “she’s OCD,” “they should mind their own business”….
Thinking that what is happening should not be happening, but doing nothing about it when things are within our control, can ruin lives.
Thinking that things that just happen shouldn’t be happening, is a losing and toxic battle.
Thinking people shouldn’t be say...2022-10-1116 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 45 - There's Only One YouHas there ever been a certain someone in your life that did something wonderful for you or someone you know, that you never forget?
Something ONLY THEY could’ve done the way it was done, and did it when it was needed?
Just like them, each one of us has divine gifts only we possess, and we’ve been chosen and called to share them with others.
Is there something BIG inside of us we can do for others, especially those we love the most?
Something SO HUGE that we have neve...2022-10-0415 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 44 - Question EverythingToday let’s discuss why we have so many beliefs that don’t serve us, and questions why that is.
Like…
The meaning of having or not having money
How we make money
What’s the most money we think we can make
What our limitations are, depending on our level of education and background, our social status
We must start thinking how we can change our limiting beliefs…
Like not long ago we used to think/believe that you had to be young, thin, and tall to be a model...2022-09-2722 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 43 - You Are the Secret SauceIf there’s anything currently in your life, not to your liking… the secret sauce to fixing it is YOU!!
It’s all inside YOUR brain!!
Today we’ll be discussing how to improve marriage/relationships, and how you’re the secret sauce to that.
Focusing specifically on love/marriage relationships.
I want you to pay attention because if YOU are having tumultuous/difficult relationships, especially with different people in your life… YOU are the common denominator here, and you must start leading in the right direction.
I once heard these...2022-09-2025 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 42 - Strengthened by TrialsToday I’m inviting you to do a few things with me…
1) To pay attention (to observe, not judge) the dialogue of those around you, TV, social media, who constantly complain about trials, past and present.
And pay attention as to what people complain about MOST, and who are these people?
What’s the contrast against which they (us) see these trials?
2) What happens when we focus on and complain about the not-so-great things in life? Everyone wants to sympathize and be understanding, it’s our nature… It’s a “being in the same boat” kind of...2022-09-1323 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 41 - Life's Golden HandcuffsAre we living life in golden handcuffs?
This term Golden Handcuffs, when I originally heard it, referred to an employer paying its employees a salary just big enough to keep them from quitting, but not as much as they were worth.
Today I want to apply this concept to whether WE may be handcuffing ourselves to a life less than we desire, less than we are worthy AND capable of, by the thoughts we’re thinking, or not thinking.
It all starts with our thoughts and we create from there.
Often im...2022-09-0617 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 40 - The Power of *Personal* PowerAnother way of saying “personal power” is... “we can do hard things!”
Not all things are easy or hard for everyone. What may be easy for you, because of your circumstances, may be hard for me because of mine… and vice versa.
* Often we get too caught up in noticing other people’s circumstantial power, ignore their personal efforts, and do the opposite with ourselves… by focusing on our “lack” of circumstantial power and not being aware of our personal power.
* When we get hold of our personal power, we become an example for all others lik...2022-08-3020 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 39 - Walking Through the FireAt times when people we know won’t understand, or will judge us, or both… rely on someone else who’s been there before, to walk with you!
Let’s connect on...
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021
https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenrisingtogether20212022-08-2312 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 38 - Breaking Unwritten "Rules"What unwritten rules have kept you from really spreading your wings and taking flight in your life?
Such as I need a certificate, a website, biz cards, I’m too young, I’m too old, I don’t have…
Where is it written that we can’t use our life experiences and our scars as credentials?? Nowhere, that’s where!
Experience is experience, and you can use yours to help other women going through what you’ve gone through in your life, if you just decide to.
Make a list of all the reasons...2022-08-1621 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 37 - Watch Your Language, Brain!When your brain tells you, “You can’t do that," tell it to be quiet!!
Your brain will offer so many excuses as to why you can’t do something, but don’t believe it… it’s lying to you! My brain lies to me all the time, too! Let’s keep going!!
Your brain will tell you that if you dream too big, out loud and publicly, people will laugh at you… so what if they do? Some actually will, but most importantly, others will be inspired by you!
Fact is, some people already la...2022-08-0923 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 36 - Why Not You, Right Now?Ever see other women achieving amazing things in life, and you don’t think you can do the same?
Why not? Why not you, and why not right now?
If your most impossible, secret dream even, could come true, what would it be? It doesn’t cost anything to dream… So, what’s your most amazing dream that you wish could come true for you?
It can be anything you desire, maybe even seemingly impossible! Maybe something no one you actually know has ever done.
What if you dared go after your drea...2022-08-0221 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 35 - Empowered by ChoiceToday we’re talking about the power of making choices in life… past, present, and future!
Understanding the freedom we have to make our own choices, and also acknowledging that we have made our own choices in the past, is very powerful.
Too often we tend to tell ourselves that bad or unfortunate things just happened to us, when in fact it was a result of the choices we made, even when we don’t like the outcomes that our actions produced.
When we tell ourselves that we had no choice in how we got...2022-07-2612 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 34 - Enjoy the JourneyThe only final “destination” of our human experience is when we leave this life behind.
Otherwise it’s always just a most amazing JOURNEY!
Stop often and take in all the small things and don’t just wait for the “whens” in life.
Plan for the future as if it's already here… because if we do that, it already IS.
Resources
Ep. 27 - Manifest From Your Future... Now
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-27-manifest-from-your-future-now/id1597656935?i=1000564737787
Let’s connect (Addie's Social Media):
INSTAGRAM - https://www.in...2022-07-1919 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 33 - When Women BreakIn this episode we explore what happens when we are broken in Spirit, forgetting our worth, forgetting our value to our family and to society as a whole – a true travesty.
For too long women have been oppressed, without a voice, and the chains that hold us are similar to an undertow not visible on the surface, but keep pulling us under.
The centuries’-old undertow reaches deep and wide and has deep roots in …
* Not equal rights
* Not equal pay
* Men can dictate our lives, still exists in many countries
* Boys prefe...2022-07-1219 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 32 - It Happens FOR You, Not TO YouTune in this week and let’s ponder the idea that, just maybe, everything does happens for a reason… FOR us, not TO us.
Ever thought of that… especially long after something you went through in life that you thought was devastating at first, only to later see it was meant to be?
Could be a life-altering observation.
References
Amy Purdy - Wikipedia
Let’s connect (Addie's Social Media):
INSTAGRAM - https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
FACEBOOK FREE private group - Women Rising Together | Facebook...2022-07-0524 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 31 - What Choice Do I Have?Unless we’re in prison (and even then), or someone is holding us hostage at gunpoint… we are able to make our own choices from the moment we wake up until the moment we go back to bed.
Each day, in fact, is a fresh new start.
Maybe you can’t change your destination overnight (your "now"), but you can change the direction overnight… you can change the trajectory!
We have endless resources at our disposal. Life for most of us has never been easier than it is right now. For goodness sake, we have t...2022-06-2817 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 30 - Self-imposed ImprisonmentHow much of your current life do you acknowledge having created yourself?
Too often we dream of an “ideal” life for ourselves… but doubt we could make that happen.
We see others living a life we desire, but down deep we don’t really believe it’s for possible for us.
Why not??
Who said we (all of us) can’t live a life we truly desire?
We keep going to a job (or two) we don't like (don't like the hours, the commute, the conditions, the pay... the boss!).
...2022-06-2114 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 29 - Fail Forward, FastBenefits of failing… improvement, confidence, more knowledge, less afraid of failing at something we want to do!
Failing in school is considered bad… why?
Failing in sports is not great either, but does it make us a better player in the long run? You bet!
How many times did all the greats fail?
In fact, in order to BECOME great at anything, we have to have failed ENOUGH!!
So why do we look down on failing?
I’m here to say that if we want to become great a...2022-06-1415 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 28 - Losing a PetAm sharing today's episode in an effort to save you and your pet the awfulness I'm now experiencing over losing our beloved rooster, Mars. Our grandkids named him.
He was as majestic and brave as can be. Right now it feels like I'll never stop crying over the image of how he died.
I'm sharing this experience in hopes to help prevent that from happening to someone else. Had I known this, I would have known what action to take before it was too late!
Be well and take care of those precious p...2022-06-0709 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 27 – Manifest From Your Future… NowYou are a manifester.
We are all manifesters… Everything we see around us that’s man-made, it was first created as a vision in someone’s mind, which they then manifested into physical reality.
You manifested your current life, just as I’ve manifested mine. Which not long ago, I did not fully know.
Think of what you have created in your life… a lot of it perhaps not intentionally or with a full understanding.
Most likely you chose your partner, where you live, your job, your car, and you decide what you e...2022-05-3127 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 26 - Negativity Blocks AbundanceWhen we’re complaining, we’re in negative energy, attracting even more negative energy.
Have you ever had these thoughts, or heard anyone else say them?...
• My life sucks
• I hate my life
• I hate my body
• My family is awful, they’re all dysfunctional
• No one in my family supports me or loves
• Everyone hates me
• I never catch a break
• I have bad luck
• People always take advantage of me
• I’m a magnet for losers
• I’m cleaning my “friends” list
• I wish I had a better job
• I wish...2022-05-2419 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 25 - Coloring Outside the LinesDoing things how they've always been, not stepping outside the box, or coloring inside the lines, has gotten us to where we are today.
To change that, if we want to, we need to go color outside the traditional lines of doing life. We have to ignore the teachings and norms we’ve been following… IF we desire change.
What do you think of when you here things like: “Minimum wage, working hours, vacation weeks per year, scheduled breaks, sick hours, sick leave?" They’re all inside the lines, or box.
Who here listening w...2022-05-1720 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 24 - Embracing Life's Ups & DownsShout Out to my dear friend, Sandy Hayden!
Sandy is a wonderful example of the Women Supporting Women concept!! She’s never afraid that another woman’s success will diminish hers, or that supporting other women will in some way take away from what’s meant for her. Sandy, thank you for supporting me in whatever I do! It means the world to me, and I hope you know that you also have my support in anything you want to go after in life. I’m here for you, whenever you need anything.
The quote…
“For...2022-05-1021 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 23 - Write Your Own StoryShout out to:
Ann Parry… you have made such a huge difference in my life, and I want you to know that.
Thank you for being an example of how to treat other women in the workplace. Today my life is better because of you. You believed in me, you treated me with kindness, and you uplifted me. You were an example of not just how to treat other women, but also of how to be a woman who believes in herself, a woman of conviction. I will never forget that. I hope to pay it forward for as lo...2022-05-0316 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 22 - Ignite Your DreamsYou ever wonder what it would be like if all your dreams came true?
Like actually thinking in detail, all the things you would like to change, but then did nothing about it?
I was listening to Jim Rohn’s Ultimate Library on Audible (yet again for like the 4th time!)… and he talks about taking action while the dream is alive and vivid in our minds, lest we forget!
I’ve always been a big dreamer, and an entrepreneur at heart! How about you??
I think anyone who knows me could...2022-04-2714 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 21 - Unnecessary SufferingIs all suffering necessary, or do we suffer unnecessarily at times, and for too long?
Good question, right?
When we think for too long about something that brings us unhappiness, we prolong our suffering. Ever thought of that?
One of the things to be aware of is our thoughts or judgement, of our surroundings and/or circumstances, past or present.
Most often (always, really!), our thinking about a particular event/comment/situation creates our reality… for better or worse.
If it was always for the better, I would not be writing this. But I’m writing (or recording this podcast) for th...2022-04-1915 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 20 - Bloom Where You're PlantedWhen does a plant bloom? And what does it mean to “bloom?” Do we bloom, like a plant out in nature? A plant blooms when it receives all the necessary nutrients, and when it is in the right, or good enough, environment. So of course, like plants, we also bloom… that’s our nature. But not all conditions produce the same quality of flowers. The same is true for humans. We are a lot like plants… the quality of our environment can have a huge effect on what we produce, and the condition of our body and mind. One big differe...2022-04-1218 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 19 - Change Your Thoughts, Not the WorldWe don’t react to events, we react to our judgment of them… and the judgement is up to us.
When we change our thoughts, everything “changes” for us!
It’s almost always not what people say, do, or when or how they do it. It’s OUR interpretation that matters!
This is great news because it means we can improve OUR state of being, at any time. What a freakin’ relief!
No more “they should/should not”…
Because in fact people can do what they want, and they WILL!!
We can most alw...2022-04-0517 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 18 - Our Perception Creates Our RealityPerception is the interpreting of something… like how we interpret a particular external circumstance.
What reality is your perception or interpretation of things creating for you in your life?
If there’s something in your life you’re not particularly pleased with, I invite you to examine your thoughts about it, in detail.
What is your reality of that circumstance?
Too often it’s our perception, our thoughts about a particular thing we need to look at, and not the actual circumstance.
I say that usually 99% of our results are created by our imagination, and too often to our detriment or unhap...2022-03-2917 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 17 - The Power of DecidingEver sat in indecision before, agonizing as to what action to take, and afraid of making the “wrong” choice??
Sometimes in life we will make choices we’ll end up not liking, but that’s better than staying stuck in an unwanted situation because we can’t decide, and never knowing what could've been. At least in my life whenever I’ve made a choice, it was either a good choice or I learned from it as what not to do next time.
The greatest minds of our time made many choices, only to find out they nee...2022-03-2213 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 16 - The Power of EmotionsHave you ever held back tears or anger in your life?
I know I have, but eventually it's better for our emotional and physical health to let them flow through, so eventually they can move past, and in the process heal us long-term, both mentally and physically.
When we hold emotions inside, they have so much power, even if we don't know it.
Even the power to make us physically sick years later. Because our subconscious can hold on forever to our emotions... like hate, anger, guilt, or regret.
Eventually, possibly m...2022-03-1519 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 15 - Be Your Own HeroWho is your hero, if you have one, and why?
Have you ever thought of yourself as the hero of your own life?
I know I haven't, but I'm now suggesting we become the hero of our own lives.
That's right, and here's why... there isn't a hero out there who's coming to our rescue any time soon. And if there was, say a knight in shining armor... we would still have to prepare ourselves to not just meet him, but also attract him to us.
Bottom line is, if we want our fu...2022-03-0814 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 14 - Beating the OddsHave you ever Beaten the Odds at something in life?
YES, YOU HAVE!
The fact that you are here, having this human experience, is absolute proof that you have in fact beaten the odds... at being born!
And in fact, that's the most important odd to beat thus far... and you DID IT! You are here.
Today we're exploring Beating the Odds at this human thing we call “life”... life experiences, accomplishments, and at pushing ourselves in order to produce success/results not normally thought of as possible for someone like "us".
Someo...2022-03-0126 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 13 - The Fires We FeedWhat fires are you feeding in your life?
Are they burning you, and others, or keeping you warm and cozy?
Let's talk about how our thoughts are like logs we add to a fire, when it comes to situations in our lives... be it our relationships with our kids, parents, siblings, in-laws, co-workers, living situation, etc.
The fires we feed have an effect not just us personally, but also on other people's lives. The lives of the people we love. We're building those fires with our thoughts, our actions, and with the conversations we hav...2022-02-2223 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 12 - The Best Year YetAre you living your life on purpose, or by default?
Sometimes there are things in our lives, that we do not like... we complain about them a lot, but do nothing about changing them.
If there is something in your life that you do not like? Picture your life at the end of this year, or maybe even 5 years! Will anything be different?
If we do nothing about what we don't like, other than complain about it and seek sympathy from others, nothing will ever change. So let's DO something about it!
...2022-02-1510 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 11 - Who Am I To...The question is not Who Are We To.... The questions is... Who Are We NOT To?
Out there in the world someone is waiting for YOU, and for ME, to get off our butts and come help them with something they're going through in life. Come and let's lead. Come and let's be an example.
There are SEVERAL women in my life who've shown up (some in real life and some I've yet to meet). They showed up even BEFORE they knew me or knew I needed them, and got going so they could be r...2022-02-0820 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 10 - Stop StagnationWhat does the word 'stagnant' bring to mind when you hear it or think of it?
Too often we let ourselves get into a stagnant phase that lasts way too long and hurts our lives now, and affects the trajectory of our future, and very possible that of our posterity.
If we're not vigilant as to our state of being, growing, and evolving is at all times, and keep tabs on our brain as what it's dictating us to do, or more importantly, not do, we could be slowly sliding into permanent stagnation. ¡¡No bueno!!...2022-02-0115 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 9 - You 2.0Are you the best version of you possible? If not, let's change that starting right now!
I personally don't think we ever stop evolving... Just like an iPhone or an Android phone evolves to newer better versions, so can we. We just have to have a desire to do so. It may not always be easy, but it will always be worth it!
Please enjoy my rant on the subject, and I hope you end up with a takeaway or two!
Let's connect on INSTAGRAM!!
Featured: The Ultimate Library by Jim Rohn, ...2022-01-2518 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 8 - Dream BIGIf you’ve ever looked around and thought, “Is this all there is?” then come along with me, on a journey to change our current circumstances.
We’re the only ones who can change what is, into what will be.
And as we embark on this journey of becoming our best selves, perhaps we can be an example to those around us, of what’s possible.
Let’s dare to change the trajectory of our future, by changing what we do about it today.
Let's connect on INSTAGRAM!!
2022-01-1817 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 7 - Happiness Lives WithinThe day I learned that happiness did not come from outside of me changed my life forever... Don't ask me how old I was!
Why didn't someone tell me this when I was young, and hoping "someone" would come a long and make me whole... or "complete me"?
Thank goodness I was wrong, because I could've been waiting for a very long time! And although it's work, lots of work to grasp this concept, it is work so worth doing!
I encourage you to embrace this concept, and if you already know it, mo...2022-01-1120 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 6 - How Do You Tell Your Story?When you tell your story, to others or to yourself, are you a victim or a fighter?
It matters so much that we take a good look at what we've overcome to get to where we are.
Playing the victim role over and over again, does not serve us. So if at all possible, depending on your circumstances, viewing ourselves as strong and resilient for having gone through hard things, can be so much more empowering.
Let's chose more carefully the story we tell ourselves from now on.
Let's connect on I...2022-01-0424 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 5 - BecomingWho will you become in the achieving of a goal?
As we set goals, the "how" is usually something that we'll figure out in the process, but who we become in the process, can start now.
As we embark on a new journey, the 'becoming' part doesn't have wait until get there... it can, and should begin now, no matter the degree. Because as we step into our new reality, the becoming starts taking place.
What we feel helps us live a new reality the moment we start believing it.
A b...2021-12-2816 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 4 - Embracing Our UniquenessIt's incredible how much we both want to fit in, and at the same time admire uniqueness in others! It's our human nature to not be seen as odd or weird, while at the same time wanting to maintain our own personality...
It's really hard to do!! Why? Well, maybe because deep down we want to do both, but are afraid to be different and being criticized for it.
In this episode we talk about daring to stand out and embracing what makes us US! May this episode resonate with you if you have been not...2021-12-2117 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 3 - Need vs. DesireIn this episode we explore the differences between when we need something vs. when we just want more, when we just have a desire for extra!
Too often we may think that just having enough, or what we "need" is good enough, and may even criticize those who exhibit an outward desire for excess or luxury.
But having more is not the just for the sake of having something excess, it is also a desire to want more and better than just enough, or just the very basic necessities.
In fact, when we...2021-12-2110 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 2 - EvolvingIn this episode Addie talks about stepping outside our comfort zone in order to become the best version of ourselves we possibly can.
Even when our brain tells us it's too scary to risk being criticized, which is its job, if we want to grow and become a better version of our current self, we have to override this fear and jump in.
So maybe next time you're trying to take chances and your brain tells you it'll be too hard, you'll have the courage to push through the fear and march forth towards your...2021-12-2125 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKEp. 1 - IntroductionIn this episode you'll get to know your host Addie Scharff Helbling a little more, and get a glimpse of what her goals for this podcast are
Her idea is to not edit episodes, in order to give you, the listener, a taste of what it's like to start something new, without having to be perfect at it!
On this podcast, especially the first few episodes, you'll get a beginner's version of how to start something new, even when you are full of doubts. Proof that the only way to become good at something is t...2021-12-2110 min
WE'RE NOT GOING BACKPodcast TrailerA podcast for women who feel they're meant for more, and who desire to go after their BIG dreams. Evolve, become, rise, inspire, and contribute.2021-12-2001 min