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Do We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 16: 2025 in Review + What Surprised Us This YearWe look back on the moments and trends that shaped 2025, highlighting what mattered most and what caught us completely off guard. From unexpected shifts to key lessons learned, this episode reflects on the year that was and what it may signal for what’s ahead.Support the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/Follow DWHYA on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dwhyapodcast?_t=ZT-8vh1MWRkekg&_r=1. Follow Paula on Instagram: ...
2025-12-1948 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 15: Healthy Competition vs Envy vs JealousyWhat exactly are expectations, and why do they hold so much power over how we experience life? In this episode, we explore the connection between our expectations and the way we perceive outcomes.We unpack the difference between healthy standards and rigid expectations, and discuss how shifting from a mindset of control to one of curiosity can transform the way we navigate challenges, relationships, and personal growth.This is a conversation about perspective, flexibility, and finding freedom in letting go of the outcome.Support the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins...
2025-12-0552 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 14: Do Our Expectations Influence How We Perceive Outcomes?What exactly are expectations, and why do they hold so much power over how we experience life? In this episode, we explore the connection between our expectations and the way we perceive outcomes.We unpack the difference between healthy standards and rigid expectations, and discuss how shifting from a mindset of control to one of curiosity can transform the way we navigate challenges, relationships, and personal growth.This is a conversation about perspective, flexibility, and finding freedom in letting go of the outcome.Support the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins...
2025-11-2148 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 13: Sexual Trauma and Its Impact on Sexual Health in RelationshipsOf all the topics we could explore, this one feels both necessary and overdue. Sexual trauma touches so many lives, directly or indirectly and it’s time we create space to talk about it with honesty and care.In this episode, we unpack what sexual trauma is, how it shapes our relationships, our sense of safety, intimacy, and sexual expression, and how healing practices can help survivors reclaim safety, connection, and even pleasure in their bodies.This is a conversation about awareness, compassion, and the possibility of healing.Support the sh...
2025-11-0750 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 12: Inner Child Wounds and How We Can Identify ThemWe all carry wounds, many reaching back to childhood. Left unhealed, these wounds often follow us into adulthood, shaping how we think, feel, and relate to others. In this episode, we explore how to recognize the wounds of our inner child and uncover practical steps to begin the healing journey.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
2025-10-2449 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 11: The Importance and Impact of Taking Accountability ft. Ibrahim PopoolaIn this episode, we dive deep into why accountability feels so hard and why it matters now more than ever. Together with our guest, Ibrahim Popoola, we unpack what accountability truly means, why many of us resist it, and how a lack of it can quietly damage our relationships. Tune in for eye-opening insights and practical takeaways you won’t want to miss.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportFollo...
2025-10-1050 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 10: Understanding Attachment StylesAttachment styles are everywhere in the conversation right now, but what do they mean, and why have they become such a buzzword? In this episode, we break down the different attachment styles, how to recognize them, and the powerful role they play in shaping our relationships. We also dive into practical ways to cultivate secure attachment both within ourselves and with the people we care about most. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprou...
2025-09-1951 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 9: Why are Millennials Unhappy? ft. Faith OnyesomBeing a millennial isn’t easy, especially in today’s fast-paced, ever-changing world. In this much-anticipated episode, we explore the deeper roots of why millennials are often called the anxious generation. Joined by our inspiring guest host, Faith Onyesom of Good Faith Yoga, we unpack the ways stress and emotional exhaustion show up in millennial bodies and share simple, powerful practices to feel more grounded and connected. If you’ve been looking for clarity, calm, and a little encouragement, this episode is for you.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subsc...
2025-09-0552 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 8: Dating as a TherapistIn this exciting (and slightly jaw-dropping) episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it’s really like to date as a therapist. From the struggle of turning off our “therapist brain,” to the expectations we bring with us into relationships, to debunking the biggest myths about dating a therapist—we’re getting into all of it. Plus, you might hear a few firsthand stories from people who’ve dated us. Trust us… You don’t want to miss this one.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It hel...
2025-08-2255 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 7: Common Controlling Behaviors ft. Dustin BarnesIn this powerful episode, we’re joined by the one and only Dustin Barnes, Founder and Lead Clinical Social Worker of Dustin Barnes Therapy. Together, we unpack common controlling behaviors that often appear in our relationship dynamics—sometimes subtly, sometimes overtly. We dive into how to identify early warning signs, understand the impact of these behaviors, and explore practical ways to manage and shift our patterns if we recognize them within ourselves. It’s an honest and necessary conversation about accountability, awareness, and building healthier connections.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your suppor...
2025-08-0843 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 6: Do We Give People Space to Grow—With or Without Us?Sometimes, relationships shift, and growing apart can be one of the hardest changes to face. In this episode, we explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that a relationship may have run its course. We also dive into how to hold space for someone’s evolution while still honoring your own boundaries and emotional well-being. It’s about change, acceptance, and learning when to release with love.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256...
2025-07-2550 min
Photographer Life CheckBlack Magic Rodeo Residency Recap | 024In this special collaboration with Story Time by Adam Davis, three of the four Black Magic Rodeo Residency women artists — including our host, Qurissy — come together to reflect on their time in Tulsa, Oklahoma. This episode centers the voices of Black women as they share their unique experiences and perspectives on the Black rodeo and its cultural legacy.Artists Da'Shaunae Marisa and Amber Aisha open up about their personal connections to the rodeo, the challenges they encountered, and the deep bonds formed through collaboration. The Black Magic Rodeo Residency brought together six photographers in total to explore, docu...
2025-07-1458 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 5: Why Do People Avoid Therapy ft. Funmto OgunbanwoIn this exciting episode, we welcome our first guest to the Do We Have Your Attention? space—the incredible Funmto Ogunbanwo, founder and lead Clinical Mental Health Therapist at Ibi Ayo Therapy and Wellness Limited. Together, we unpack some of the most common myths about therapy, explore why people often avoid seeking support and share practical steps for navigating therapy—whether for yourself or when supporting a loved one. It’s an honest, empowering conversation about mental wellness, community care, and normalizing the journey toward healing.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your suppor...
2025-07-1150 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep 4: Is Closure Overrated?In this episode, we're unpacking the ever-elusive concept of closure, especially in the context of relationships. Do we need it to move on, or is it overrated? We explore the different ways people seek and experience closure, challenge common beliefs around it, and reflect on whether healing always requires a final conversation. Tune in as we dive into the gray area between letting go and needing answers.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzspro...
2025-06-2043 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep.3: Communication Differences Between GenerationsWhy do communication clashes between generations seem so recurring—and so hard to resolve? In this episode, we dig into the root causes of generational conflict and the biggest barriers to meaningful connections across age groups. From unspoken expectations to shifting cultural norms, we explore what’s getting in the way—and how we can begin to bridge the communication gap with empathy, curiosity, and intention.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/su...
2025-06-0644 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep.2: Why Do We Struggle With Giving Ourselves Compassion?Why is it so hard to show ourselves the same grace, kindness, and respect we freely give to others? In this episode, we explore the deep-rooted reasons behind our struggle with self-compassion. We unpack how our upbringing and early conditioning shape the way we prioritize our wellness—and often, how they hinder our ability to treat ourselves with care. Tune in as we reflect on what it means to extend compassion inward and begin rewriting those internal narratives. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow...
2025-05-2350 minDo We Have Your AttentionS2 Ep.1: Do You Want To Be Right or Do You Want To Be Happy?Welcome back to Do We Have Your Attention? for the premiere of Season 2! In this episode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home: why do we often prioritize being right over being happy? We explore what happiness truly means, how ego can cloud our decision-making, and the inner tug-of-war between holding firm to our boundaries and learning when to let go. Tune in as we unpack the balance between self-protection and emotional freedom.🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conve...
2025-05-0947 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp 16 - The Many Faces of Existential BurnoutIn this episode, we discuss the impact of existential burnout and the factors contributing to someone feeling existential burnout. From careers, relationships, and even ourselves, we identify helpful strategies that can be considered when navigating our lives better 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhya...
2024-12-2046 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.15 - What Happens With Our Unresolved Trauma?In this episode, we explore the true meaning of unresolved trauma while attempting to understand how it affects our mental health and emotional well-being. From our personal to professional experiences, we identify coping mechanisms and tools for managing unresolved trauma. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instag...
2024-12-0642 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.14 - The Psychology of People PleasingIn this episode, we examine the habit of people-pleasing and its common root causes. We also discuss the short-term and long-term consequences of prioritizing others over one’s well-being. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/Follow DWHYA on TikTok: https...
2024-11-2244 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.13 - The Impact of Parental Trauma on Our Mental HealthIn this episode, we discuss “parental trauma” from understanding how it manifests to identifying common behavioral patterns we might inherit from parents who have unresolved trauma. Our goal is to highlight ways in which we can approach conversations with our parents to encourage healing 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram...
2024-11-0845 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.12 - Understanding ForgivenessIn this episode, we discuss the impact of forgiveness and the lack of forgiveness in our daily functioning. By examining some of the myths around forgiveness, we identify practical steps that can be helpful for those who may struggle with forgiveness. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://w...
2024-10-2546 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.11 - Cognitive Mind TrapsIn this episode, we discuss common distorted thinking patterns, also known as “cognitive mind traps”. From personalization to jumping to conclusions to overgeneralization and filtering. We examine the various ways in which they influence our quality of life and identify ways in which we can address these mind traps. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Fol...
2024-10-1143 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.10 - Vulnerability: A sign of courage or weakness?In this episode, we examine the importance of vulnerability in our overall well-being and the well-being of our relationships. We discuss what it means to be courageous in showing vulnerability and the impact of societal pressure on our willingness to be vulnerable. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram...
2024-09-2741 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.9 - Conflict in RelationshipsIn this episode, we attempt to understand conflict better through the lens of the 5 most common conflict styles, such as competing, collaboration, compromising, avoidance, and accommodating 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/Follow DWHYA on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.co...
2024-09-1342 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.8 - Why Consistency is ImportantIn this episode, we share our knowledge of the importance of consistency. Using the three 3C’s confidence, competence, and consistency, we identify how implementing small disciplines on a daily basis can improve one’s mental health and wellbeing 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/F...
2024-08-3039 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.7 - I Am a Woman and My Health Matters TooIn this episode, we use our real-life experiences to explore the disparities and disadvantages experienced with healthcare of women from sociocultural factors, underdiagnosis, disbelief, and undertreatment of women’s pain, etc 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/Follow DWHYA on TikTok:
2024-08-0240 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.6 - Do We Attract What We AreWe ask the question “Do we attract what we are” by exploring the connection between our societal expectations and the types of relationships and opportunities we attract in life. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/Follow DWHYA on TikTok: https://ww...
2024-07-1944 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.5 - Workplace ToxicityIn this episode, we define workplace toxicity and the impact it has on mental health wellness. Using their individual experiences Aisha and Paula identify ways in which we can strengthen our mental health regardless of our work environments 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhya...
2024-07-0549 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.4 - Is Comparing Success with Others Healthy?Rumor has it comparison can be a thief of joy, in this episode we explore if the rumors are true. Aisha and Paula embrace their vulnerable experiences to explain the thin line between healthy and unhealthy comparisons of success. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.insta...
2024-06-2144 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.3 - What Has Anxiety and Fear Cost YouAnxiety Anxiety!!! one of the most common buzzwords today. In this episode, we take more of a clinical approach to understanding the debilitating condition that anxiety is. From narrating personal experiences of dealing with anxiety to significant life choices that can be impacted when anxiety is left untreated. Aisha and Paula break down the science behind understanding the emotions, behaviors, and distorted thinking patterns stemming from anxiety 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzs...
2024-06-0744 minDo We Have Your AttentionEp.2 - Therapy and The Importance of Mental HealthIn this episode, we discuss the impact of therapy on strengthening our mental health. Burning questions from common misconceptions to cultural stigmas about therapy and mental health will be discussed. Aisha and Paula will take you on the path to identifying compassionate ways to encourage conversations surrounding mental health with your loved ones. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHost: Paula Bamgbose...
2024-05-1738 min
Do We Have Your AttentionEp.1 - Get to Know UsGet ready for unfiltered discussions with Paula Bamgbose-Martins, LPC, LCPC, LPCMH, and Aisha Popoola, LPC, two culturally hybrid licensed mental health therapists, on a mission to dive deep into the topics that touch us all as humans. In this premiere episode, we get to know both co-hosts through games, laughs, and fun conversation. Welcome to the DWHYA Podcast!🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/supportSupport the showHos...
2024-05-0336 min