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Wake Your Dream96 - Dealing with StressAnnaliese and Alan talk about how stress impacts your mind, body, and emotions — and how stressful events are different from being stressed. Annaliese shares ways to handle stress better in the moment so you don’t carry it with you long after the situation is over.
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What stress really is: It's a challenging event you experience that creates tension in your body, mind, or emotions in response to fear, frustration, or difficulty. When you fixate on what happened instead of calming and processing it, you pull stress along with you.
How...
2025-07-1640 minWake Your Dream95 - Healing StrongerAnnaliese and Alan open up an honest conversation about how past pain and wounds grow your courage as healing make you stronger than before. Alan shares how freeing it is to remind yourself you’re not perfect—and that’s part of your story. Those hard-won lessons stick with you and shape you. Annaliese encourages you to stop hiding from your pain and choose instead to face, process, and reflect on what you’ve really been through, so you can heal in ways that matter.
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You don’t have to pretend you’ve never...
2025-07-0233 minWake Your Dream94 - How To Plot Your CourseAnnaliese and Alan talk about how to begin looking at the path you're on in life and asking honestly: Is this taking me where I want to go? Annaliese shares how noticing what your current way looks and feels like—and planning for a more intentional, life-giving experience—is what helps you get the meaningful results you’re craving.
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How plotting your own course doesn’t have to mean a total life overhaul. Small tweaks to what’s become routine can lead to big shifts.
How to catch the mental roadb...
2025-06-1832 minWake Your Dream93 - How Do You Motivate Yourself?Annaliese and Alan dive into the everyday ways we try to motivate ourselves—and how that directly affects both our follow-through and how we feel about ourselves. Annaliese brings up why the way you treat yourself to “get motivated” might actually be what’s making it harder to take action and feel good about it. Are you connecting with why you want to act or behave a certain way? Or are you just trying to force or blindly hope your way into showing up? You don’t have to harm, ignore, or fight yourself to become who you want to be in y...
2025-06-0431 minWake Your Dream92 - How To Let Things GoIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk through the real-life challenge and inevitability of letting go. Annaliese brings up why it’s hard, how we make it harder, and what it takes to finally loosen our grip on what’s no longer serving us.
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Knowing you need to let go is not the same as being able to do it. Letting go takes awareness, honesty, and compassion for why it’s hard in the first place.
Holding on is often connected to our identity or what we care about most. To...
2025-05-2133 minWake Your Dream91 - How Your Thoughts, Feelings, And Actions Create Your LifeAnnaliese and Alan break down why we can feel stuck in the same patterns, no matter what we do. Annaliese shows how our beliefs shape our thoughts, which trigger feelings, which drive our actions, and ultimately create our results. If you want to shift what’s happening in your life, the best place to start is by looking at what’s going on inside you.
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How belief is the deepest level in you, setting off a domino effect that influences your thoughts, feelings, actions, and results.
Are you aware of bot...
2025-05-0730 minWake Your Dream90 - Finding What You LoveAnnaliese and Alan dive into the power of rediscovering what you love and creating more moments in your days where you truly feel like yourself. Annaliese shares why revisiting childhood joys or exploring your interests—without dismissing them as unimportant—is a key part of living authentically, feeling empowered, and making life more meaningful.
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How adulthood often shifts our focus to productivity, obligations, and efficiency—leaving little room for creativity, joy, and exploration. Prioritizing what lights you up (instead of just consuming content on social media or TV) helps you reconnect with what you’re m...
2025-04-2329 minWake Your Dream89 - Building Block or Bullying Block? Handling Life's ResponsibilitiesAnnaliese and Alan talk about how taking responsibility in life can bring up doubt, pressure, and anxiety—but it doesn’t have to! Annaliese shares how to feel more in charge of your life by shifting the ways you handle your responsibilities. Learn how to move yourself from feeling weighed down to feeling more confident, free, and in control.
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How the way you handle responsibilities is either a building block to strengthen you or a bullying block that's tearing you down. Want more energy, decisiveness, and joy? It starts with how you ap...
2025-04-0930 minWake Your Dream88 - How To Agree To DisagreeAnnaliese and Alan dive into why it’s so hard to agree to disagree in relationships—and why it’s essential for real connection. Annaliese unpacks how personal it can feel when someone disagrees with us and why making space for open, pressure-free conversations leads to deeper understanding rather than control or winning.
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How we confuse consensus with connection and why noticing how we react to disagreements is key to the communication we want.
Why we don't have to treat different opinions like a threat—and how respecting someone else’s viewpoint cr...
2025-04-0240 minWake Your Dream87 - Feelings Tool: Interview Your FeelingsAnnaliese and Alan explore a practical way to know you're processing your feelings better by “interviewing” your feelings so you can understand what they’re telling you. Being with your feelings this way helps you engage without as much overwhelm or avoidance. Annaliese talks you through how you can approach your feelings with curiosity and intentional steps, making it easier to process them in a healthy, constructive way.
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How to process feelings as an action step – Get to the root message behind your emotions instead of reacting or shutting them down.
Noticing your personal experience...
2025-03-2627 minWake Your Dream86 - How To Collect JoyAnnaliese and Alan share how to enjoy life more by shifting your focus from collecting negative evidence to intentionally collecting joy in your moments. Your brain won't naturally try to create more positive emotional experiences—it’s wired to keep life feeling familiar and safe. But true joy is what happens when you’re being fully yourself. Listen to learn how to train your brain to let go of negativity and gather more joy-filled moments instead.
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Joy as Your Most Authentic Feeling – When was the last time you truly felt joy? What small ways could you...
2025-03-2129 minWake Your Dream85 - The Comparison TrapAnnaliese and Alan piece apart why we compare ourselves to others, what we’re really seeking when we do it, and how to break free from the comparison trap to build a more fulfilling and grounded life. Annaliese unpacks how comparison often feels like it’ll help us get what we need—but instead leaves us feeling dissatisfied. The good news? You can shift that energy into investing in your own life in a way that truly supports you.
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Comparing “up” vs. comparing “down” – How we measure ourselves against others in different ways and what it reveals ab...
2025-03-1227 minWake Your Dream84 - What You Think About YourselfAnnaliese and Alan explore how your thoughts and beliefs about yourself shape your choices, habits, and overall life experience. Annaliese shares why becoming aware of these internal beliefs is the first step to changing them for the better, which will change your life!
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Your thoughts shape your life! What you believe about yourself directly influences your motivations, decisions, experiences, and how you show up in the world. Are you aware of the story about you running in your mind?
Your inner script is often hidden. The beliefs you hold about yourself can be hard to...
2025-03-0528 minWake Your Dream83 - How To Spend Time AloneIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the discomfort of being alone with your thoughts and why learning to sit with yourself—without distraction—can help you feel more connected and present in your own life. Annaliese shares how constantly filling quiet moments with tasks or distractions can actually leave you feeling more disconnected and not enough. Instead, noticing and practicing presence with your thoughts, even when it feels uncomfortable, is a game-changer for your self-trust and purpose.
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Owning when you avoid or distract yourself from feeling the discomfort of being present with your o...
2025-02-2625 minWake Your Dream82 - How To FailAnnaliese and Alan explore the hidden benefits of failure, how it affects us emotionally, and how to shift from seeing failure as defeat to using it as an opportunity to learn. Annaliese shares how to recognize the story failure is telling you, notice what you're believing about yourself, and how to practice perspective shifts that help you accept failure as a normal—and even valuable—part of life.
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The hidden benefits of failure—how it helps you understand more about how life works, what’s important to you, and how you want to show up in the...
2025-02-1930 minWake Your Dream81 - Learning To RestAnnaliese and Alan dive into the topic of rest—what it’s really for, why it can feel uncomfortable at first, and how to start practicing it in a way that actually works for you. Annaliese shares her personal journey of moving from a fast-paced, hustle mindset to learning how to slow down and truly recharge. Finding your own version of rest can change your perspective on life and help you better understand what you actually need.
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Why rest can feel uncomfortable at first—and why that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. Like...
2025-02-1230 minWake Your Dream80 - Building ConfidenceIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan talk about what it actually takes to build confidence. Annaliese brings up how confidence is not about finally becoming the ideal version of yourself—it’s about taking small, consistent steps. Confidence isn’t something you achieve once and for all; it’s something you build by developing a trusting and capable sense of yourself in real life, one day at a time.
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Confidence doesn’t mean perfection. It actually means being able to navigate life as your authentic self. Confidence feels like stability, trust, belief, and...
2025-02-0524 minWake Your Dream79 - Handling Self-DoubtAnnaliese and Alan explore how self-doubt affects the way we see ourselves and live our lives. They share practical, encouraging ways to handle doubt with self-compassion instead of guilt or wasted energy. Annaliese reminds us that self-doubt is a normal part of being human, but it doesn’t have to define us or block us from growth.
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Self-doubt as a normal human experience. It’s part of reality to have limits, struggles, and weaknesses—and it’s freeing when you practice accepting these truths instead of resisting them.
What happens when self-doubt goes unche...
2025-01-2925 minWake Your Dream78 - Feelings Tour Part 7: Emotional MaturityIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan talk about how important even really difficult feelings are to our quality of life, and how learning to feel them , listen to them, and navigate them grows our emotional maturity. Annaliese brings up how building emotional maturity is what helps you have inner stability in what you go through in life by practicing tolerating discomfort, recognizing a bigger perspective in the highs and lows of life, and letting that practice change how you’re handling it.
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Emotional maturity lifts you up and grounds you. It helps...
2025-01-2244 minWake Your Dream77 - Feelings Tour Part 6: SadnessIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore the often-overlooked value of difficult emotions, focusing on sadness. They discuss how sadness connects you to what truly matters in life and offer practical ways to embrace it with self-compassion rather than rushing through or discounting it. Annaliese explains how sadness feels in your body, the needs you have that it shows you, and how to show up for yourself during challenging times.
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Why sadness is valuable—it reminds you that your experiences matter. Instead of fast-forwarding through it, sadness invites you to be present and...
2025-01-1544 minWake Your Dream76 - Feelings Tour Part 5: Guilt and ShameIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into how even difficult emotions like guilt and shame are crucial to living a meaningful life. Annaliese shares how guilt and shame show up in your body, the stories they tell about who you are, and practical ways to handle them with compassion and empowerment for yourself instead of reacting automatically.
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Guilt and shame are tough to sit with because they carry powerful identity messages. They often tell stories like, “I’m a disappointment” or “I’m not good enough.” That’s why it’s important to appro...
2025-01-0835 minWake Your Dream75 - Feelings Tour Part 4: Anxiety and WorryPodcast Episode Summary
In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the vital role even tough feelings like anxiety and worry play in our lives. They explore how understanding and getting familiar with these emotions lead you to deeper self-awareness and personal growth, instead of derailing you or taking over.
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The power of repetition in processing emotions: feeling your feelings little by little can seem like it's not helping much, but that's what actually creates the progress you need inside you. Emotions like anxiety carry important messages about what matters to...
2025-01-0148 minWake Your Dream74 - Feelings Tour Part 3: AngerPodcast Episode Summary
In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how even challenging emotions like anger can bring value and insight to your life. They focus on what anger teaches you about your values and how to handle it with understanding instead of reacting impulsively. Annaliese discusses how anger feels in your body, what it can make you believe about yourself, and practical steps for processing it in healthier ways.
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-Anger is like a signpost pointing you to something you care deeply about or value. What are the main si...
2024-12-2541 minWake Your Dream73 - Feelings Tour Part 2: FearIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore the value of even the hardest emotions, focusing on the role Fear plays in your life. Annaliese points out how Fear, while deeply uncomfortable, is an important signal that reveals what you value, need, or prioritize. By learning to feel and interpret Fear, you can stop reacting impulsively and start supporting yourself with intention.
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How Fear serves a purpose: it’s your mind and body’s way of drawing your attention to something important. Feeling it fully helps you understand why it’s there.
Why Fear fee...
2024-12-1842 minWake Your Dream72 - Feelings Tour Part 1: Feeling Your FeelingsIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan dig into the transformative yet often uncomfortable process of feeling your feelings. Annaliese highlights how becoming emotionally self-aware improves your life in meaningful ways, and that you're capable of slowing down, sitting with your emotions, and learning to notice and name them.
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How emotions act as signals, pointing to what you might not be seeing clearly in your life. Feeling them starts with being willing to “be in the room” with them.
Why describing for yourself the physical sensations connected to emotions might seem small, but is a g...
2024-12-1134 minWake Your Dream71 - Building Your Own Growth ProcessIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how to build a personal growth process that keeps you engaged every day, not just when motivation is high. Annaliese shares how seeing growth as a journey instead of an arrival can help you stay committed and supported along the way.
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Internal vs. External Growth Goals: Shift your focus from chasing outcomes to prioritizing deeper, more authentic daily experiences. Growth isn’t about checking off a list but realigning your time and energy to be more who you want to be.
Normalizing Setbacks: Growth includes forward steps and...
2024-12-0431 minWake Your Dream70 - How Do You Handle Life Transitions?In this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk about navigating life’s tricky transitions—those times when moving, health challenges, or loved ones’ changes upend your routine. Transitions can feel overwhelming, but there are practical ways to manage the weight and complexity while staying grounded.
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How transitions happen both externally and internally, reshaping our lives and our sense of self. Reflecting on past changes can remind you of your ability to adapt and grow.
Why reframing transitions as “normal” instead of “problems” can ease your experience. Seeing change as part of life helps create inner sta...
2024-11-2727 minWake Your Dream69 - Practical GratitudeIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how to practice gratitude in ways that feel genuine, helpful, and realistic—without turning it into just another “should.” Annaliese explains how gratitude can transform your perspective, especially during stress or struggle, by opening you up to see more of what’s already present in your life.
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-Making gratitude practical: Let yourself let go of the idea that gratitude needs to be idealized or perfect! Instead, discover for yourself simple, everyday ways to let gratitude more naturally flow through your life.
-Gratitude and honesty coexist: Practicin...
2024-11-2026 minWake Your Dream68 - Why Daily Reflection Is PowerfulIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how life-changing the habit of daily reflection is, especially for those who are always on the go. Annaliese shares how taking just a few minutes to reflect each day helps you recognize key insights from your experiences, decisions, and your overall quality of life. Slowing down lets you notice patterns and ultimately empowers you to make intentional changes that align with the life you truly want.
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- How skipping reflection means you might miss important information about your daily experience, limiting your ability to make po...
2024-11-1326 minWake Your Dream67 - Ugly Truth or Beautiful Lie?In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the “beautiful lie” versus the “ugly truth”—why we often choose a comforting delusion over a hard reality, and how facing the truth can drive real growth. Annaliese explains that sometimes, the truth you most need is the one you’re avoiding. But learning to face it, even when it feels uncomfortable, is key to navigating life’s challenges with the resilience you want.
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-Why We Avoid the Truth: Choosing a beautiful lie may seem easier, but it tends to distance you from the information yo...
2024-11-0624 minWake Your Dream66 - Be Patient, You Have Plenty Of TimeIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk about what it feels like to grow personally and how it often takes more time than we expect. Annaliese highlights the importance of practicing patience and recognizing the person you're becoming along the way. Meaningful growth takes time, and it's important to remind yourself that you have that time to give!
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- Growth, like anything beneficial, takes time to build. Remembering this helps you practice patience and stay on track like you want to.
- Personal growth happens through small, consistent steps. While it may...
2024-10-3025 minWake Your Dream65 - Treating Yourself Like A FriendIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how stress and overwhelm can affect your relationship with yourself. When things start piling up in life, it’s easy for your brain to become harsh and critical, which directly impacts how you handle stress and solve problems. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of pausing and noticing your own experience—because your self-talk is making a bigger impact than you realize.
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- How your brain tends to be more critical when life gets tough, even when things are out of your control. Your thoughts, whether positive or nega...
2024-10-2322 minWake Your Dream64 - When People Don't Support YouIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan discuss how much influence others have on our personal goals and self-perception. Annaliese highlights the challenges of feeling unsupported by others, how this can impact our sense of progress in life, and how to help ourselves get more of what we need, no matter how other people are showing up.
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-Noticing where you depend on others for validation: Annaliese walks you through how to recognize areas in your life where you may rely too heavily on others for support and approval, and why you might feel th...
2024-10-1626 minWake Your Dream63 - Enneagram Series Part 5: Energy Stances (Types 1-9)In this episode, Annaliese and Alan wrap up their Enneagram series by diving into the three Energy Stances: Assertive, Dependent, and Withdrawing. Each Enneagram Type fits into one of these stances, which deeply influences how they navigate life, make decisions, and interact with others. Annaliese explains what it feels like to be each Type, in each stance, and how these default patterns impact and shape daily life.
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- Understanding the energy behind your Enneagram Type can deepen your self-awareness and improve your growth journey. Discover how balancing your own body, mind, and heart...
2024-10-0933 minWake Your Dream62 - Enneagram Series Part 4: The Head Triad (Types 5, 6, 7)In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore the Enneagram’s Head Triad (Types 5, 6, and 7), focusing on their similarities and differences. Annaliese shares key insights on each Type, including their core fear, desire, strengths, struggles, and the core messages they need to hear. You'll discover how understanding these Types—even if they aren't your own—can help you live more authentically and understand others on a deeper level.
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- How each Enneagram Type sees life through their own unique lens and how that affects how they relate to themselves and others.
- The He...
2024-10-0229 minWake Your Dream61 - Enneagram Series Part 3: The Heart Triad (Types 2, 3, 4)In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore Enneagram Types 2, 3, and 4, focusing on their similarities and differences. Annaliese unpacks each Type’s core fear, desire, strengths, struggles, and the key message they need to hear. She explores how understanding these Types—even if they aren’t your own—can help you live more authentically as you, and build deeper connections with others.
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- How each of the 9 Enneagram types has a distinct perspective on life and how paying attention to other viewpoints can expand your understanding.
- The Heart Triad (Types 2, 3, and 4) is highly...
2024-09-2527 minWake Your Dream60 - Enneagram Series Part 2: The Gut Triad (Types 8, 9, 1)In this episode, Annaliese and Alan start exploring the Enneagram Types, focusing on The Gut Triad, Types 8, 9, and 1. They talk through their similarities and differences, and Annaliese breaks down the core fear, core desire, top strengths, struggles, and essential messages that each Type needs to hear.
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- The 9 Enneagram Types each represent unique perspectives on life. For Types 8, 9, and 1 (the Gut Triad), their focus is on fairness, rightness, and reacting to their environment.
- Each Gut Type handles anger uniquely: 8s express anger outwardly, 9s suppress it, and 1s control and deny...
2024-09-1825 minWake Your Dream59 - Enneagram Series Part 1: IntroductionIN THIS EPISODE:
Annaliese and Alan introduce the Enneagram, a personality tool designed for personal growth, deeper self-awareness, and better interpersonal dynamics. Annaliese explains how she uses it in her life and coaching practice, offering insights for those interested in learning to use it in practical, helpful ways to grow and change in their lives, personally and professionally.
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- How each Enneagram Type has its own strengths—there are no “bad” Types. Understanding your core Type's traits and how you impact others frees you up to live more authentically and purposefully.
- How...
2024-09-1125 minWake Your Dream58 - Handling ProcrastinationIN THIS EPISODE:
Annaliese and Alan explore the common reasons we procrastinate and share actionable strategies to help us follow through on our commitments more consistently. Annaliese emphasizes the value of becoming aware of our personal procrastination patterns, recognizing why we avoid tasks, and reminding ourselves that we have what we need to take action and stop procrastinating.
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- Procrastination is a stress coping reflex that encourages avoiding action instead of moving forward.
- How fear and feelings of inadequacy can trigger procrastination. Where might this be the reason behind your d...
2024-09-0430 minWake Your Dream57 - How Do You Navigate Fear?In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into why we experience fear and how our responses to it shape our lives. Annaliese sheds light on the purpose of fear, what it shows us, and how tackling fear's “what if” questions with more curiosity and confidence empowers us to navigate challenges more effectively.
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- The importance of noticing your own fear triggers. Whether it’s facing a serious conversation or trying your new riding lawnmower, recognizing what triggers fear in you helps you identify the areas you care about most and where you need a supp...
2024-08-2828 minWake Your Dream56 - Trade-offs And Choices: How To Live From Your ValuesIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into how to live a more fulfilled life by aligning your choices with what you truly value, rather than just sticking to what’s familiar. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of pausing to reflect on your routine decisions, helping you identify which choices drain you and which ones help you thrive.
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- Life is full of tradeoffs. What are your “normal” choices, and are you okay with the costs? Start basing your decisions on what brings satisfaction, not just convenience. Are you giving yourself room to experiment with n...
2024-08-2126 minWake Your Dream55 - The Power Of Choosing Your Thoughts**In This Episode:**
Annaliese and Alan delve into how your thoughts can either propel you forward or hold you back. Discover the power of taking intentional control over your mindset to make a more significant impact in your life.
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- **Differentiating Thoughts:** Learn to distinguish between automatic, emotion-driven thoughts and those you consciously choose based on your true beliefs and aspirations.
- **Mastering Doubts and Fears:** Understand how recognizing doubts, frustrations, and fears as unintentional thoughts gives you the power to interrupt them and decide your response.
2024-08-1432 minWake Your Dream54 - What It Takes To GrowIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the practical side of personal growth. They share real-life examples of daily efforts and the tangible steps that lead to meaningful change.
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- Personal growth requires conscious, intentional steps and different actions. Shifting your focus helps you spot opportunities for change and encourages a growth mindset.
- Growth means doing things differently than you've been doing them. This involves you making intentional tweaks starting here and now, not waiting for perfect circumstances or more motivation. Regular self-check-ins and adjustments to your schedule and your...
2024-08-0724 minWake Your Dream53 - How Self-Awareness Transforms Your GrowthAnnaliese and Alan discuss how gaining more self-awareness can significantly improve your results on your growth journey. Annaliese highlights the importance of understanding your own experiences and motivations to better identify obstacles and find true support for your growth.
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- The difference between improvement and growth. Are you focusing on performance, or seeking healthier ways to be yourself? Are you aiming for more achievements, or more maturity?
- True growth is when you build skills, perspectives, and new beliefs. Knowing more about who you are makes your own growth process more effective.
2024-07-3136 minWake Your Dream52 - Why We Look For AnswersIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore why we tend to go into "answer mode" when we go through challenges in relationships, personal life, failures, goals, and uncertainties. Annaliese explores how to shift unhelpful ways we think about answers and control, and use our energy more effectively to achieve true satisfaction and security when life is unpredictable.
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-The Pitfalls of Answer-Seeking:
Constantly seeking answers can lead to you feeling ineffective or hurt in life's experiences. Notice how living in "answer mode" isn't helping you handle your life and experiences confidently or satisfyingly.
2024-07-2428 minWake Your Dream51 - Is Self-Care Selfish?In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the common misconception that self-care is selfish. They unpack how to differentiate between selfishness and genuine self-care, encouraging you to redefine your standards and give yourself permission to care for your well-being.
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-Exploring "Selfish": Discover what "selfish" means to you and how this current perception influences how you treat others and yourself. By understanding your own definition, you can approach self-care more openly and freely.
-Recognizing Avoidance: Identify what you're avoiding out of guilt or pressure when it comes to self-care. Do yo...
2024-07-1732 minWake Your Dream50 - Deciding What's "Enough"Annaliese and Alan talk about the idea of being satisfied and genuinely feeling like you’ve done “enough” in your life. Annaliese highlights the challenge and importance of giving yourself permission to let go of perfectionism and shows how to decide your efforts are sufficient.
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- Identifying your own experience with not feeling satisfied or feeling like what you’ve done isn’t enough. See more reasons why you feel that way instead of just thinking you're not measuring up.
- Noticing when you’re measuring “enough” by things you can’t control. Holding a...
2024-07-1025 minWake Your Dream49 - Your Own Version Of Self-CareAnnaliese and Alan explore the concept of self-care, which often feels like a buzzword and inaccessible. They discuss practical ways to think about and use self-care more in your daily life, making it truly beneficial and not just another task to strive at. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of giving yourself permission to enjoy small self-care steps daily, fostering a sense of support and joy.
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- Making self-care decisions that genuinely benefit you, without making it another chore.
- Identifying what you need more of in your day to pick small, supportive se...
2024-07-0328 minWake Your Dream48 - How Honesty Impacts Your LifeIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the transformative power of honesty, especially when it feels risky. Annaliese shares her personal journey in embracing honesty and offers practical tips on how to let go of people-pleasing to become your true self across all areas of life.
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- The fear we each have of being more honest, and how facing it helps build your self-trust as you accept and embrace your reality.
- How when you contribute your authentic self more in your interactions, you feel more assured that others are experiencing...
2024-06-2631 minWake Your Dream47 - How Self-Compassion Brings Real, Lasting GrowthIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan explore a simple, important building block for making your growth lasting and real. Annaliese highlights the transformative power of building your growth on the foundation of self-compassion, which helps you thrive and trust yourself beyond just hitting goals.
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-The myth of doing “more” or “enough” might be a reason change hasn’t stuck for you. Discover how pushing yourself less and supporting yourself more is what helps you move forward while growing your self-belief.
- Using self-compassion to change:
1. Check that no goal you make over...
2024-06-1934 minWake Your Dream46 - What Makes It Hard To Communicate? (And What Can Help!)In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the challenges of effective communication and explore how to have more productive conversations. Annaliese shares practical tips to enhance self-awareness and improve your interactions with others, leading to smoother and more meaningful exchanges.
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- How misunderstandings happen without us realizing it, and strategies to stop the negative narratives in your mind. Practicing self-awareness in communication helps you respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively, making you feel proud of your interactions.
- The benefits of planning your key points before a conversation and being mi...
2024-06-1228 minWake Your Dream45 - Healthier Habits For Your Day: Part 2
Annaliese and Alan unpack their own experiences more, and talk through practical ways to check in with yourself when you feel your daily experience needs a shift. They share their personal steps and offer insights on how you can implement these practices to create meaningful changes in your life.
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Notice What Works for You: Give yourself permission to experiment with different check-in methods, such as physically slowing down, focusing on your breath, placing your hand on your chest, or clenching and unclenching your hand to notice your feelings.
Daily Check-In Practice: Learn how...
2024-06-0537 minWake Your Dream44 - Healthier Habits For Your Day: Part 1Annaliese and Alan talk about how to begin healthier habits by recognizing and understanding your daily experiences so you can make new choices that work better for you. Annaliese shares actionable tips on how to begin helpful change by choosing different little ways to handle your day. They emphasize that meaningful, proactive living begins with small, intentional steps to grow your awareness.
You’ll Hear About:
- How when you notice your daily experiences, it can seem like “it is what it is,” but reminding yourself that awareness is the first step toward any healthier changes you mi...
2024-05-2936 minWake Your Dream43 - Are You Succeeding At The Wrong Things?Annaliese and Alan walk through idea of succeeding at the wrong things in life and what truly brings you satisfaction and fulfillment. Annaliese highlights the difference you feel when you focus on who you’re being and becoming, rather than just chasing external success.
You’ll Hear About:
- The myth of what you’re “supposed to” be doing and pursuing. True fulfillment comes from recognizing if your goals are genuinely satisfying and purposeful.
- How meaning and purpose are what should drive your actions. Outer achievements can't create inner peace and satisfaction.
- Identifyin...
2024-05-2234 minWake Your Dream42 - Core Values Part 2: Bring Yourself More DirectionIn this uplifting episode, Annaliese and Alan delve deeper into the transformative power of Core Values, pointing out the freedom and clarity you gain when you use your Core Values to help you live a more purpose-driven life.
You’ll Hear About:
Alignment with Purpose: Discover how recognizing and embodying your Core Values leads to a profound sense of purpose and fulfillment inside you in your daily life. You'll hear how to live in more alignment with your values so you can be you more authentically. In these ways, you get to express your true se...
2024-05-1530 minWake Your Dream41 - Core Values Part 1: Bring Yourself More JoyAnnaliese and Alan talk through how knowing your Core Values is so powerful for your life! Uncovering and embracing them more proactively helps you experience greater joy and satisfaction in your life.
Discovering Your Core Values:
When you identify and name your Core Values, you're essentially pinpointing what truly matters to you. These values resonate deeply, making you feel authentic and aligned with your true self. By keeping these values at the forefront of your mind, you naturally gravitate towards experiences and connections that bring you joy and fulfillment.
Living Authentically:
Embracing your...
2024-05-0824 minWake Your Dream40 - How To Take Charge Of Your Thoughts (Be "On To" Yourself)Annaliese and Alan talk more about the topic of self-awareness, sharing practical tips to understand your thoughts and take control in the moment. Annaliese shares one of her favorite phrases for this, "be on to yourself," highlighting the significance of viewing your thoughts as optional. This mindset helps you stay present and connected with yourself in the hustle and bustle of everyday life.
You'll hear about:
-Practical Self-Awareness: Discover how being more self-aware in your everyday moments can boost your confidence and decisiveness.
-Being "On To" Yourself: Uncover the sneaky tricks your brain plays...
2024-05-0159 minWake Your Dream39 - How To Make The Best Boundaries For YouAnnaliese and Alan explore both the frustration and freedom of making and communicating boundaries in relationships. Annaliese underlines the best things about boundaries: they're not barriers to keep people out but pathways and guideposts for your authentic self to thrive in your life and relationships.
YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT:
-Boundaries Help You Grow: Boundaries serve as a great foundation for nurturing safety and support within yourself, and give you the ability to transform the dynamics of any relationship you have.
-Alternatives To People-Pleasing: Setting boundaries helps you uncover your people-pleasing habits, and empowers you to...
2024-04-241h 03Wake Your Dream38 - How Holding Yourself Accountable Helps You Be Your True SelfAnnaliese and Alan describe more about the personal experience of living from inner accountability and how it shapes our daily lives. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of practicing inner accountability in light of growing your own relationship with yourself, and getting to feel more authentic because of it's profound impact on personal growth and goal achievement.
YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT HOW:
- Inner accountability fosters decisiveness and self-trust, enabling us to take consistent steps towards our goals while remaining open to experimentation and change.
- Slowing down and tuning into our thoughts throughout the day allows us...
2024-04-171h 06Wake Your Dream37 - Healthy Decompressing Habits At The End Of The DayAnnaliese and Alan discuss how and why our evening routines have such an impact on our emotional well-being. Annaliese brings up how to become more self-aware and navigate your emotions better at night so you can choose better ways to unwind that make you feel safe in that “everything’s done, now what?” part of your day.
You'll Hear About:
-Self-Awareness at Night: Take stock of how you typically spend your evenings. Are you content with the results, or do you feel there's room for improvement? Often, our routines are shaped by emotions we're trying to avo...
2024-04-101h 06Wake Your Dream36 - The Satisfaction Of Holding Yourself AccountableAnnaliese and Alan discuss the importance of inner accountability in achieving personal goals. They explore how relying solely on external factors can block your progress and how paying attention to your thoughts and desires along the way builds self-support and benefits your decision-making.
You'll Hear About:
-Your Relationship with Yourself: Annaliese emphasizes that much of your growth comes from within, highlighting the significance of nurturing a healthy self-relationship during your goal pursuit.
-Inner Accountability: It's about recognizing your worth and authority in making choices that align with your aspirations. You have the power to...
2024-04-0348 minWake Your Dream35 - Why Perfectionism Is Unhelpful: How To Accept Your ImperfectionsAnnaliese and Alan talk through some reasons we try to be perfect through life's twists and turns, and how it actually works against us. Annaliese brings up the importance of slowing down to reflect on our experiences and catching where we're holding unhelpful standards of perfectionism over ourselves instead of living more fully and freely as we are.
Here's more of what you'll hear:
-Discover your unhelpful standards:
Ever felt the weight of pursuing perfection without even defining what it means to you? This is a common struggle! You can help yourself set better...
2024-03-271h 08Wake Your Dream34 - 3 Surprising Things That Help A RelationshipJoin Annaliese and Alan in this episode as they uncover the hidden gems of relationship growth. They'll show you how simple, everyday actions can deepen connections in your life.
You'll Hear About:
-Noticing More: Learn to pay attention to how others experience you. By tuning in, you'll discover what truly builds connection and where to invest your energy for maximum impact.
-Authentic Listening: Explore the art of active listening. By fully engaging with others, you can understand their perspectives and strengthen your bonds. Discover the joy of being fully present in your interactions.
2024-03-2058 minWake Your Dream33 - 3 Surprising Things That Hurt A RelationshipAnnaliese and Alan get real about the ups and downs of relationships, shining a light on behaviors that might be holding us back without us even realizing it.
You’ll Hear About:
Treating Relationship Issues Like Physical Issues:
When we tackle relationship problems head-on, just like we would with any physical issue, we give ourselves a chance to help our relationships get better in ways we might not have thought possible. By digging deep and addressing the root causes, we can build stronger, healthier connections.
Practicing Self-Awareness:
It's so important to be...
2024-03-131h 06Wake Your Dream32 - Your Child Self And Self-Compassion: Being Your Whole SelfIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how much impact childhood experiences have on shaping our adult identities and the ways we think about ourselves and our lives.
You'll Hear About:
-Understanding Your Inner Narrative: Explore the stories from your past that influence how you currently think and behave. Recognizing which stories come from your child self can help you better navigate feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.
-Managing Insecurity and Anxiety: Learn to identify when your inner child is feeling overwhelmed and overly responsible. Allow your adult self to step in to remind...
2024-03-0658 min
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2024-03-0439 minWake Your Dream31 - Why Blame Doesn't Help: How To Handle Hurts & Setbacks BetterAnnaliese and Alan delve into the relatable but unhelpful patterns of blame, uncovering why we do it and how it ultimately fails to provide the relief we're looking for. Blaming at first can feel like we're asserting power, but in reality, it strips away our choices and control. Annaliese highlights the importance of understanding our emotions and motivations, steering away from actions of blame towards actions of self-support and healing.
You'll hear these highlights and more:
You don't get resolution through blame, instead seek how to comfort and heal yourself versus assigning fault.
How to recognize...
2024-02-281h 09Wake Your Dream30 - The Goal Of Growth Isn't To Fix You, It's To Empower YouAnnaliese and Alan dive into the sometimes frustrating journey of personal growth, inviting you to reflect on your own ups and downs, and see your experiences with new insights. Here's some of what you'll discover as you listen:
Exploring Growth as a Process:
- Reflect on how your personal growth journey is actualyl like you having a toolbox filled with practices you can do daily, and helpful insights to remind yourself of.
- You'll hear how to embrace growth more as a series of practices, insights, and decisions rather than a final destination.
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2024-02-2157 minWake Your Dream29 - How To Stop Stereotyping Your MarriageAnnaliese and Alan discuss the importance of nurturing your marriage beyond society's stereotypes (and stereotypes you might have in your own mind), emphasizing that when you personalize and get more intentional about your actions, it strengthens the bond between you and your partner.
You’ll Hear About:
-Don't Outsource Solutions:
Instead of turning to quick fixes from friends or the internet, Annaliese and Alan suggest digging deeper into the unique dynamics of your relationship. Those oversimplified solutions can miss the mark, and leave you feeling more disconnected than ever.
-Embracing Growth Together:
There's al...
2024-02-1453 minWake Your Dream28 - Asking Questions To Get UnstuckIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan dive deep into the transformative power of asking questions to gain more confidence in understanding and navigating your life situations and making better decisions, personally, professionally, and relationally.
Unveiling Assumptions:
We explore the idea that sometimes we get stuck because our minds are operating on assumptions that might not be accurate. By asking questions, you can unravel these assumptions and gain clarity on your thoughts, setting the stage for self-awareness that feels more authentic and helpful to you.
The Power of Curiosity:
Asking powerful questions not...
2024-02-071h 11Wake Your Dream27 - Facing Your Weaknesses Empowers YouIn This Episode:
Join Annaliese and Alan in this enlightening episode as they delve into the challenges and unexpected advantages of facing your weaknesses head-on. Annaliese emphasizes the transformative power of self-compassion on the journey of personal growth, highlighting the profound impact it can have on your life.
You'll Hear About:
-Understanding Your Weakness:
Annaliese encourages you to slow down and truly understand your weaknesses. Instead of avoiding or feeling guilty about them, she suggests that you can embrace self-compassion as a game-changer.
-More Choices:
By not running away from...
2024-01-311h 01Wake Your Dream26 - Better Ways To Keep Your Commitments And Live IntentionallyAnnaliese and Alan delve into the experience of making and following through on commitments, and the essential role your thoughts and actions play in staying true to them. Annaliese emphasizes that your daily routines either help you engage with or avoid your commitment journey.
Key Things You'll Hear:
1. Emotional Awareness in Commitments:
Annaliese highlights the impact of emotions on you following through on your commitments. Negative feelings can slow down and block your follow-through, but connecting to hopeful thoughts about your commitment can be a game-changer.
2. Aligning Actions with True Desires:
...
2024-01-2458 minWake Your Dream25 - Daily, Practical Ways To Stop People-PleasingIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan explore practical ways to people-please less and experience genuine change in your daily life. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care and understanding that people-pleasing doesn't serve you. It's time to care for yourself just as much as you care for others.
You'll Hear About:
- The key to people-pleasing less is to notice you have a choice of how to act. Start replacing unhelpful thoughts and actions with ones that better support you and what you need too.
- Embrace the idea that the goal isn't to...
2024-01-171h 03Wake Your Dream24 - People-Pleasing: Why You Do It And How To Do It LessIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan unpack the common habit of people-pleasing, something so many of us do without realizing it. Annaliese highlights that even though we don't notice it sometimes, recognizing when we fall into this pattern and understanding its impact can guide us towards living more authentically and get better results personally, professionally, and socially.
You’ll Hear About:
- Unconscious Merging: People-pleasing shows up when we blend in with others without thinking, putting a strain on our connections because we're losing ourselves. By recognizing when we're doing it and how it feels wh...
2024-01-101h 06Wake Your Dream23 -Your Christian Faith: A Relationship And Foundation For Personal GrowthJoin Annaliese and Alan in a down-to-earth conversation about the powerful role Christian faith plays as a foundation and anchor in our everyday lives. Annaliese opens up about her personal journey, navigating the ups and downs with God and life. This episode explores practical ways to integrate faith more naturally in your day as you let it shape your priorities, habits, and goals.
Key Takeaways:
Unpacking Faith in Daily Life: Reflect on what faith truly means for you and notice how it subtly influences your thoughts and actions each day. Your spiritual beliefs have a more...
2024-01-0351 minWake Your Dream22 - Navigating The Negative For Growth, Truth, And Better ResultsIn this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk through how it feels to handle negative feelings and life's problems. Annaliese sheds light on the idea that while your instinct might be to minimize or avoid negativity, if you acknowledge and learn from it in the moment, it paves the way for being your true self and moving forward in the direction you want.
What You'll Discover:
Why Not Minimizing Negative Feelings?
Jumping to downplay negative feelings instead of actually feeling them can stop you from learning and pivoting like you'd want to in the moment.
2023-12-271h 04Wake Your Dream21 - Managing Your Anxiety Better (Even While You’re In It)Annaliese and Alan dig into the everyday challenges of living with anxiety, sharing insights that have helped them and others in handling anxious thoughts. As Annaliese experiences anxiety during this episode, she walks you through her real-time strategies for catching it, managing it, and staying empowered while you handle it for yourself differently.
You'll Hear About:
Little Choices of Power: Practice making small choices throughout your day to think about yourself in ways that reinforce your capability. Feel yourself pick to steer away from the feeling of helplessness and toward the feeling of confidence even...
2023-12-2054 minWake Your Dream20 - Judge Yourself Less And Stay Present (Use Your Micromoments)Annaliese and Alan talk about how to help yourself stay present and embrace daily challenges and frustrations as you try to live intentionally. Annaliese shows you the significance of micromoments, those tiny pockets of time scattered throughout your day, and how you can use them to choose more acceptance and gain the peace you need.
What You'll Discover:
Impact of Focused Moments on Growth: Learn how even the smallest shifts in your focus during these micromoments can significantly impact your personal growth.
Riding the Highs and Lows: How you can accept the reality that...
2023-12-1358 minWake Your Dream19 - Speaking Your Needs In Your MarriageIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan dive into the intricacies of addressing your needs inside your marriage and relationships. Annaliese underlines the importance of trusting yourself, embracing honesty, and navigating growth openly—especially when it's different from your partner's path and experience.
What You'll Hear About:
- Discover the key to maintaining balance and connection by trusting and accepting yourself more.
- Learn how to navigate change within your relationship by openly sharing your experiences, even if your partner may not fully understand.
- Understand the natural differences in needs between partners and th...
2023-12-061h 02Wake Your Dream18 - You Can Change The Story In Your HeadIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan talk about how your thoughts are creating a story in your head (all the time) to make sense and meaning of what you’re going through. Annaliese highlights the profound impact your thoughts have on creating a storyline in your head. This internal narrative is the main impact on whether you approach situations feeling unsure or confident. Understanding the thoughts story forming behind the scenes in your brain empowers you to take control of your inner world, no matter what's happening in your outer world.
You’ll Hear About:
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2023-11-291h 02Wake Your Dream17 - Update Your Definitions To Live Like You Really Want ToIn This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan dive into the powerful impact of the definitions we hold in our minds, often subconsciously, and how they're shaping what's important to us. Take a real look at your definitions of goal-pursuing words like "organization," "success," and "productivity." Are these definitions working for you or against you? Annaliese emphasizes the transformative effect of taking charge of your thoughts, words, and definitions, showing you a path to live authentically and not let the past hinder present desires. The key takeaway? Take charge yourself to refresh and update the rules that are leading your...
2023-11-2257 minWake Your Dream16 - People-Pleasing, Procrastination, And Prioritizing YourselfIn This Episode: Annaliese and Alan explore the profound impact of procrastination on your own confidence, and really show the significance of following through and living more from your core values. Learn how to live in more freedom from people-pleasing and start prioritizing yourself.
You’ll Hear About:
Procrastination's subtle yet negative effects on your identity and trust in yourself.
Doing less people-pleasing so you can stand in your own authority to make choices that genuinely matter to you.
Identifying your own core values and acting in more ways that support them.
Practicing the empowering exercise of...
2023-11-151h 07Wake Your Dream15 - Use Helpful Words In Your Self-Talk (Even In Hard Circumstances)Annaliese and Alan dive into the power of your words, and how they shape your personal growth journey. They emphasize the importance of the language you're using in your self-talk and how it impacts your ability to make progress. Annaliese highlights that the story you tell yourself can either empower you or stress you out. It's all about recognizing and adjusting your thoughts to steer your choices more intentionally, free from external pressure or the old standard you've been used to.
You’ll Hear About:
You're telling yourself a story in your mind. Does it feel em...
2023-11-081h 03Wake Your Dream14 - Update Yourself: The Simple Tool For Meaningful GrowthAnnaliese and Alan talk about how when you’re working to make changes, it’s good to be aware that the ways you think about yourself make a huge impact on your new behavior, words, and thoughts, and your results.
Annaliese brings up a mental tool that she’s created for herself and her clients called “Update Yourself”. This is the practice of thinking about yourself in a more empowered and capable way than you have before, which reshapes your self-image and helps you make change possible.
In this episode, you'll learn ways to:
Unlock Y...
2023-11-0154 minWake Your Dream13 - Recognize Your Wins: Celebrating Everyday Small StepsAre you giving yourself credit for even your smallest, daily steps? Annaliese and Alan talk about how this helps your confidence because you know you're going where you're trying to go. When you don't credit your progress, you'll feel stuck more quickly, believing there's an obstacle to where you're going and who you want to be.
Crediting each step helps you think more capably and confidently and feel like you matter and you're creating things you want for your life.
You'll Hear About:
The difference between who you are and who you want to...
2023-10-2557 min
In Progress66 - Time Together (with Annaliese Seaborn)In this episode, Alan is joined by his wife Annaliese to talk about the importance of spending time with your spouse. They give some practical ways that they’ve spent quality time together even when time and/or money were in short supply.
Intro music: “CubanLinks” by Corey Makaih; makaihbeats.net
2019-09-0950 minIn Progress52 - When Your Spouse is Hurting (with Annaliese Seaborn)In this episode, Alan’s wife Annaliese joins him to talk about her experience throughout his health journey. She shares about how to be there for people who are dealing with pain and how those in pain can take steps to let other people in on what they’re dealing with.
Intro music: “CubanLinks” by Corey Makaih; makaihbeats.net
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Intro music: “CubanLinks” by Corey Makaih; makaihbeats.net
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