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Hard Times No More Relationship PodcastYou Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup: Simple Habits to Feel Like Yourself Again- Ep. 50Feeling stretched thin, burnt out, or like you’re running on fumes? You’re not alone. In this episode, host Allesanda Tolomei-Hard (aka Mrs. Hard) shares simple but powerful tools to help you refill your energetic cup so you can feel like yourself again—without needing to run away from your life.Whether you’re a caregiver, a people-pleaser, or someone who naturally takes on too much, you’ll hear:-Why burnout cycles are normal (and how to recognize them early)-A 3-step check-in to know whether a responsibili...
2025-09-0632 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastThe Grief That Doesn’t Have a Name (But Lives in Your Body) Ep.-49If you’ve been feeling heavy, anxious, or emotionally drained—but you can’t explain why—this episode of the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast is for you.Grief isn’t always about losing a loved one to death. Sometimes it’s about emotional pain you carry when someone changes, when life doesn’t turn out the way you planned, or when you’re navigating big transitions.In this powerful episode, wellness and relationship coach Allesanda Tolomei-Hard explores how unprocessed grief lives in the body, and how women—especially caregivers and high-achievers—can...
2025-08-0328 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastSupporting Your Child, Trusting Yourself: A New Approach to Parenting with Joanna Whitely -Ep. 48Parenting is a journey filled with unknowns, especially when you're supporting a neurodivergent child or a teen navigating gender identity. In this episode, I sit down with Joanna Whitely, founder of Sounds Like Sunshine Parenting, to talk about how parents can stay grounded, set healthy boundaries, and cultivate trust—without falling into the trap of control or fear.Joanna shares her personal journey of leaving a high-control religious upbringing, learning to trust herself, and ultimately becoming a coach for parents who feel isolated. She brings powerful insights into the neuroscience of teenage brain dev...
2025-02-2850 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastHealing After The Fire: Staying Grounded Through Grief, Fires, & Uncertain Times -Ep. 47In this heartfelt episode of the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast, host Allesanda Tolomei-Hard shares her personal journey of loss and resilience after losing her home to the Atlas Fire in 2017. As Los Angeles faces the Eaton Fire, Palisades Fire, and others, Allesanda offers guidance, hope, and practical tools for those grieving or feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty. Whether you're coping with the direct impact of wildfires or navigating other forms of grief and anxiety, this episode provides a compassionate space for healing and transformation.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Allesanda’s personal st...
2025-01-1850 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastA People-Pleaser’s Guide to Managing Holiday Stress- Ep. 46Are you a people-pleaser who dreads the overwhelm of the holiday season? In this episode, we explore how you can set boundaries, practice acceptance, and reconnect with your feelings to reduce stress and find more joy. The holidays don’t have to drain you—they can be a time of peace and connection when you prioritize what truly matters.Listen to hear how to:>> Create essential holiday boundaries.>> Say no without guilt.>> Inspire others to care for themselves.>> Replace over-commitment with simple, rest...
2024-12-0727 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastBeyond Burnout: How to Move from Awareness to Action with Peace of Mind- Ep. 45Feeling burnt out from having too much on your plate? Are there people who need you constantly—whether at work or in your family? Trust me, you’re not alone. Setting boundaries can be hard, and taking time for self-care can feel next to impossible when time is short. It can feel like pushing through is the only option, hoping the universe will eventually hand you a break.Today, I want to share a few reminders to help you create more peace and acceptance in your life right now. Let's make space for what tr...
2024-11-0521 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastPresent, Grounded, & Free: Yoga as the Path to Inner Peace with Jodi Shields -Ep. 44In this episode, I’m joined by my dear friend and office roommate, Jodi, who has been a massage therapist for almost 20 years and is also a dedicated yoga teacher. Jodi shares her wisdom on how yoga and massage therapy can help us become more present in our lives, relieve stress, and cultivate a loving relationship with ourselves. Tune in to learn more about how tuning into your breath, body, and mind can support your well-being and lead to a calmer, more balanced life.We also talk about our upcoming Awaken Retreat with Dr. Debbie Vi...
2024-09-281h 00Hard Times No More Relationship PodcastFinding Calm Amidst Chaos: Stress Relief and Spiritual Tools with Dr. Debbie- Ep. 43In this episode, Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, a.k.a. Mrs. Hard, is joined by Dr. Debbie Victoria-Seale, an intuitive healer and holistic chiropractor. Together, they explore the powerful connection between your physical and spiritual selves, offering insights into how you can navigate the chaos of everyday life with greater calm and clarity.Dr. Debbie shares her expertise on the importance of grounding and resetting your energy systems, especially during times of heightened stress and uncertainty. She explains how running your energy can help shift your body from a state of fight-or-flight to one of rest and digest, promoting...
2024-09-121h 08Hard Times No More Relationship PodcastRewiring Your Brain for Worthiness & Joy -Ep. 42Join Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, a.k.a. Mrs. Hard, as she explores the transformative power of embracing your worthiness and living a life of joy. If you’ve ever struggled with self-worth or found yourself waiting for external circumstances to change before you allow yourself to experience happiness, this episode is for you. Mrs. Hard shares her personal stories, practical insights, and powerful techniques to help you rewire your brain and cultivate a deep sense of worthiness and joy in your life, regardless of external situations.Episode Highlights:>> The Power of Wor...
2024-08-2335 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastBEST OF: Detaching With Love: Navigating Stressful Relationships- Ep.41In this impactful episode, host Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, a.k.a. Mrs. Hard, explores a simple yet powerful approach to managing stressful relationships with grace and compassion. This episode is particularly beneficial for anyone dealing with challenging relationships, whether they are familial, romantic, or professional.We are going to talk about...How detachment doesn't mean disconnecting but maintaining healthy boundaries while caring for oneself.Exploring the concept of loving detachment and its importance in reducing stress and improving well-being.The common signs indicating a need for detachment, such as obsessing over others' needs and feeling...
2024-08-0731 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastEmbrace Your Worth & Cultivate Confidence for Entrepreneurs & Caregivers- Ep. 40In 2016, I had a wild adventure on the Pacific Crest Trail that led me to start my own business. I elaborate on this unexpected event in this podcast episode. The short story is that burnout from pushing too hard on the trail ultimately led me to start my first business as a massage therapist. Being in business has brought up many parts of myself that have been hard to look at: anxiety, perfectionism, self-worth issues, codependence, and other unexpected challenges.Though it’s been a journey, working through these issues has enhanced my rela...
2024-07-2533 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastThe Art of Balanced Living for Business Babes with Lisa Fonville Ep.-39I’m super excited to have my good friend, business collaborator, and photographer, Lisa Fonville, on the show today.Lisa is much more than just a photographer and branding expert—she creates soulful art through deep connections with her clients. Her ability to capture their true essence comes from the journey she undertakes with them before they even step in front of the camera.In this episode, we talk about:- What Lisa, as a branding expert, sees women struggling with the most when it comes to self-promotion.-T...
2024-07-1156 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastTransformative Meditation Techniques For Stress Relief- Ep. 38If you have ever struggled with meditation, this is for YOU!Sitting with your thoughts can be hard, and some people believe meditation is all about having a clear, thoughtless mind, in a totally serene environment, and feeling totally at peace within.From my experience, that idea is a little unrealistic. Sometimes a meditation session is peaceful, but more often, your mind is all over the place, telling you not to forget to call your client back or reminding you of the GIANT list of to-dos waiting for you. Your mind tells you there definitely...
2024-06-2624 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastSecrets To Managing Anxiety For Caregivers -Ep. 37I’ve got two questions for you:1. Are you a caregiver?2. Do you struggle with anxiety?If you answered “YES” to either of those questions, this episode is for you!Anxiety and caregiving have been huge parts of my life. As you may know, I was a caregiver for my father for over ten years and cared for my mother when she was dying of cancer. My whole life, I’ve been drawn to helping others.And if you’ve been a car...
2024-06-1132 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastBEST OF: Are You Enabling Or Helping Others In Your Relationships?- Ep. 36Have you ever wondered if the energy you're putting into your relationships is actually helpful, or if it's just making you the one they always rely on?If your answer is “YES!”, I’ve got a treat for you this week—a special “BEST OF" podcast episode! This one is a fan favorite, and it's all about a topic that you, as a generous soul, may struggle with: helping versus enabling.In this episode, we'll dive into how you can truly help others without sacrificing your peace of mind. Be...
2024-05-2125 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastBEST OF: Clairvoyant Guidance For Anxiety Relief With Dr. Debbie Victoria-Seale -Ep. 35This world has been feeling a bit chaotic lately, and it’s understandable if you’ve been overwhelmed. I’m right there with you.That’s why I have asked Dr. Debbie Victoria Seale, chiropractor and clairvoyant, to join me on the podcast this week to talk about anxiety and stress relief during these challenging times. Listen to...Receive a healing for anxiety from Dr. Debbie.Discover how to heal yourself and help others.Understand what to do when you feel hurt or under pressure.Get a guided heart connection meditation from Mrs. Ha...
2024-05-0440 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastA Meditative Practice For People-Pleasers to Call in Abundance, Health, Wealth & Energy -Ep. 34In this episode, we're diving deep into a transformative meditative practice (it’s not quite a meditation but has similar vibes) designed to help you call in abundance and release stress and chaos.Because lately, things have been a bit crazy for myself and so many people I know. Mercury is almost out of retrograde but its impact is still lingering, and this may or may not have created a larger IRS bill for you than you expected, car trouble, your health insurance to end suddenly, a sprained ankle, your dog or cat to ha...
2024-04-2526 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastTrusting Yourself Guided Meditation -Ep. 33In this episode, I'm switching things up a bit by sharing something special with you. I've had a few requests for it, so I'm excited to introduce a guided meditation session aimed at helping you build a stronger, more trusting relationship with yourself.This meditation isn't your typical podcast episode; it's a journey towards boosting resilience and finding inner peace amidst life's ups and downs. By practicing this meditation, you'll tap into a wellspring of strength and optimism that can infuse your daily life with a sense of calmness.And speaking of empowerment...
2024-04-1013 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastOvercoming Self-Sabotage: The REAL Reasons You Feel Stuck -Ep. 32Tell me, have you ever found yourself in these situations?Have you ever made a commitment to cut back on sweets or alcohol, only to end up bingeing late at night and feeling guilty the next day?Have you ever strayed from your health plan mid-day, thinking, 'I'll start fresh tomorrow,' instead of forgiving yourself and moving forward?Have you ever ghosted someone in a relationship because things were going too well, and you were afraid of getting hurt? Or felt like you...
2024-03-2627 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastFrom Struggle To Strength: Step-Mom Life, Perfectionism, & Personal Empowerment with Laishafit -Ep. 31Let’s talk about the raw challenges of stepmom life, the REAL secret to having a perfect body, and the battle with perfectionism.This week on the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast, I have my good friend and personal trainer Laisha Ames on the show.Laisha's not just a personal trainer—she's also a stepmom extraordinaire and a pro at helping women tackle body image issues, perfectionism, and the juggling act of self-care.Join us as we take a deep dive into the raw challenges of stepmom life, what...
2024-03-1549 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastHow To Stop People-Pleasing Without Guilt -Ep. 30Tell me, do you ever catch yourself saying "YES" when you really want to shout “NO WAY!” And run in the opposite direction because someone has asked you to take on ANOTHER COMMITMENT or help them out, and your plate is already beyond full? But you can’t bear to say “no,” even though you know you should. …You don’t want to let them down.Or…You know it will just be easier if you do it. And, once again, someone else’...
2024-02-2729 minHard Times No More Relationship Podcast5 Ways to Release Perfectionism and Cultivate Self-Love -Ep. 29It’s easy to get caught up in showing love to others. But what about you?I’m not a mind reader, but there’s a good chance you're a natural giver, spreading love and support throughout the year. But amidst all that giving, are you taking time to show yourself some love too?In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, this podcast episode is all about self-love—made just for you to help you cultivate a deeper con...
2024-02-1323 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastDetaching With Love: Navigating Stressful Family Relationships- EP. 28Do you have a family member who triggers you? Or unresolved tension with your significant other?If the answer is “YES!” this episode is for you.In this podcast episode, Detaching With Love: Navigating Stressful Family Relationships, you’ll learn a simple and powerful approach to navigating hard times in your relationships with grace.ANNDD at the end of this episode, I’ll guide you through a short exercise you can use TODAY to create energetic boundaries with anyone who causes yo...
2024-01-3128 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastWhat Is Your Anxiety Telling You? -Ep. 27Do you ever struggle with that uncomfortable feeling—the kind that refuses to let you take a relaxing deep breath?This week on The Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast, we're diving into a topic that affects more than 20% of people in the U.S.: Anxiety.Your Inner Ecosystem: Anxiety is a symptom on the surface of something much deeper. Find out why anxiety sticks around and how you can embark on the journey to lasting relief because, trust me, I’ve been there.In this episode, I open up about my j...
2024-01-1629 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastThe Transformative Goal-Setting Blueprint For Your Most Fulfilling Life- Ep. 26Have you ever made a New Year's resolution and found yourself overwhelmed and feeling like a failure on February 1st?You started excited with a lot of momentum, but things got hard, and your inner critic told you, “You don’t have the time, the money, or the energy, so you might as well quit now.” You gave up and reverted to your old ways, feeling stuck in your patterns, even though your heart desired change. Instead, on December 31st, 2024, imagine yourself reflecting over the past year… You not o...
2024-01-0342 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastSimple Tips For A Stress-Less Winter Season With Dr. Nina Beatie -Ep. 25Remember those childhood pinky promises, swearing to always be friendsor never tell a secret? Well, this week, we're bringing a grown-up version of this to tackle winter stress with Dr. Nina Beatie, and we'd love for you to be a part of it!Dr. Beatie is not just a chiropractor; she's a true go-getter, always exploring and eager to get to the heart of any issue.In this episode, Dr. Beatie shares insights from what she observes with h...
2023-12-1335 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastQ&A Special: Your Burning Questions, Mrs. Hard’s Answers - Ep. 24As promised, the Q&A podcast episode is ready for your ears. 🎧 In this episode, I’ve tackled your relatable questions, addressing topics ranging from... >>>Seasonal depression.>>>Handling family members struggling with alcoholism.>>>Adjusting to BIG life challenges.>>> Leaving toxic relationships.>>>Deciphering hidden messages beneath health issues.>>>Navigating grief.>>>And calling in positive life changes.If you're riding the waves of life and could use some insights, laughter, and a sprinkle of wisdom, this episode is for y...
2023-12-0537 minHard Times No More Relationship PodcastThe Control Freaks Dilemma- Ep. 23Today's episode could be a game-changer for you. It's packed with insights that can shift the way you perceive and handle control in your life.In this episode, Mrs. Hard dives deep into key questions to ask when you're feeling stuck in the realms of control. It's not just about strategies but a profound exploration into the roots of control, addressing fears, red flags, and finding peace of mind amidst life's chaos.Here's a sneak peek at what you'll discover:>>> How to tap into the feminine divine energy and go with...
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