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The Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem52 | Making Peace with Food and Your Feelings - with Nan Saysana - Part 2What if calming your nervous system could be simple… and nearly invisible?
In part two of this rich conversation, I’m back with certified life and weight loss coach Nan Saysana to move from awareness into action. Nan shares the gentle sensory regulation techniques she teaches her clients - practical tools you can use anywhere to quiet the stress response and feel more steady in your body in real time.
We also explore Nan’s personal journey to feeling calm and at peace around food, including the powerful mindset shift from self-judgment to curiosity. If you’ve...
2026-03-0518 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem51 | Making Peace with Food and Your Feelings - with Nan Saysana - Part 1What if your struggle with food isn’t actually about food at all?
In part one of this powerful conversation, I’m joined by certified life and weight loss coach Nan Saysana. She helps women who lift weights stop binge eating and feel proud of their bodies without deprivation, shame, or obsession. Together, we explore the emotional roots of overeating, what it really means to “people please with food,” and why so many highly sensitive women feel stuck in the all-or-nothing cycle.
Nan shares her personal journey from feeling out of control around food to the mind...
2026-02-2630 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem50 | Why Clarity on Your Needs and Preferences Changes Every Relationship You HaveIn this reflective post–Valentine’s Day episode, I explore how getting clear on your needs, preferences, and emotional desires can transform every relationship in your life - romantic, familial, and friendships alike.
Through personal stories and gentle self-inquiry, this conversation highlights the difference between vague traits and lived experiences, the power of identifying non-negotiable needs, and how clarity strengthens self-assurance. When you know what you truly want and believe you’re worthy of it, rejection feels less personal, communication becomes easier, and you show up more authentically as yourself.
This episode is a reminder that c...
2026-02-1915 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem49 | From Chronic Stress & Survival Mode to Self-Trust & Subconscious Healing - with Ashlea Dillard - Part 2In Part 2 of this conversation with Ashlea Dillard, firefighter-paramedic turned Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical & Transpersonal Hypnotherapist, we move from understanding stress and survival mode into what healing actually looks like.
Ashlea shares how people-pleasing often develops as a coping strategy, why so many women struggle to prioritize themselves without guilt, and what it truly means to advocate for your own needs. We also explore the role of the subconscious mind in shaping beliefs and behaviors, and how hypnotherapy can help create meaningful, lasting shifts.
This episode is about permission — perm...
2026-02-1230 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem48 | From Chronic Stress & Survival Mode to Self-Trust & Subconscious Healing - with Ashlea Dillard - Part 1What happens when a highly sensitive woman builds a career in one of the most high-stress, male-dominated professions and begins to realize her body is paying the price?
In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, I’m joined by Ashlea Dillard, firefighter-paramedic turned Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical & Transpersonal Hypnotherapist. We explore what it was like for her to navigate emotional depth in a culture that often rewards emotional suppression, and how years of emergency response impacted her nervous system, energy, and hormones.
This episode dives into the physiological side of sensitivity and why chronic st...
2026-02-0526 min
Women In...Women In... Episode 119: Allyssya Gossett - Highly Sensitive, Deeply PowerfulFor decades, Allyssya Gossett struggled to believe she was worthy of taking up space in the world. She listened to society’s rules for how she “should” be or feel, made herself small to accommodate others, and tried to put herself in a box just to fit in. Not embracing her true self led to years of debilitating anxiety and depression.Once she embraced who she is and how she was created, Allyssya learned to challenge those old beliefs, stop worrying so much about what others think of her, and step outside her comfort zone s...
2026-02-0443 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem47 | Letting Go of "Shoulds" and Goals That Aren’t YoursFeeling frustrated with yourself for not wanting what you’re “supposed” to want leaves you feeling drained and unsure of yourself. Recently, I had a moment that stopped me in my tracks: realizing a fitness goal I was pushing myself toward wasn’t actually my goal, it was a suggestion from a fitness app that I quietly adopted and then judged myself for not meeting.
This pattern may feel familiar. As Highly Sensitive Women, we are deeply attuned to expectations, praise, and unspoken standards, and over time it can pull us out of connection with what we g...
2026-01-2915 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem46 | Less Friction, More Flow: Listening to Your Intuition in Money and in Life - with Erin GrayMany highly sensitive women carry an unspoken tension around money - feelings of overwhelm, guilt, or inner conflict that don’t seem to respond to traditional financial advice.
I’m joined by Erin Gray, host of the Your Money, Your Rules podcast, for a deep and compassionate conversation about sensitivity, intuition, and money. Erin shares her personal journey of reclaiming her sensitivity as a strength, how it shapes the way she makes financial decisions, and why highly sensitive women often need a very different approach to money than what we’ve been taught.
We explore how gu...
2026-01-2237 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem45 | Imperfect Still Counts: Escaping All-or-Nothing ThinkingIf you’ve ever thought, "If I can’t do it the right way, I won’t do it at all," this episode is for you.
Today, I’m unpacking how all-or-nothing thinking quietly keeps us stuck — not because we don’t care, but because we care so much that anything less than ideal feels like failure.
I share a recent experience at the gym where my workout didn’t look impressive on paper (no sweat, barely elevated heart rate, only twenty minutes from the moment I walked in the door until I walked out) yet ended up b...
2026-01-1513 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem44 | Stuck, Overwhelmed, or Drained? Your Home May Be Part of the Story - with Lisa MortonYour home is more than a place you return to at the end of the day. It’s an energetic partner in your well-being.
In this episode, I sit down with Lisa Morton to explore how our spaces impact our nervous systems, emotions, and ability to move forward in life.
Lisa shares her personal journey as a highly sensitive woman, how she intuitively used her bedroom to self-soothe as a child, and how those early instincts eventually shaped her life’s work. We discuss Feng Shui, energetic space clearing, clutter, stagnation, and why small shifts, not...
2026-01-0832 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem43 | New Year, Same You: Choose Self-Acceptance and Let Change FollowA new year often arrives with an unspoken message: be better, do more, change faster. For highly sensitive women, that pressure can feel especially heavy.
I am offering a different invitation.
Instead of trying to reinvent yourself, I explore what becomes possible when you choose self-acceptance and allow change to follow naturally.
Inspired by the French quote “I accept the great adventure of being me,” this conversation reframes self-acceptance as an active, courageous choice rather than resignation or giving up. I talk about why sensitivity isn’t the problem, how self-criticism quietly blocks change...
2026-01-0110 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem42 | Simple Isn’t Easy: When Awareness Meets Real LifeWe’re often told that once we know better, we’ll do better.
But real life doesn’t work that way.
In this episode, I’m sharing an honest reflection on how even with awareness, tools, and experience, I overextended myself. Not because I didn’t know my limits, but because knowing something doesn’t automatically make it easy to live.
I explore:
🩵 Why awareness doesn’t instantly translate into changed behavior
🩵 The shame that creeps in when you “know what to do” and still struggle
🩵...
2025-12-1812 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem41 | Beyond Labels: Thriving as a Sensitive Introvert, Ambivert, or ExtrovertIntrovert. Extrovert. Ambivert.
We hear these words all the time, but if you’re a highly sensitive woman, those labels often feel too small to capture your lived experience.
In today’s episode, I explore how sensitivity and social energy intersect and why so many highly sensitive people assume they’re introverts when what they could really be navigating is nervous system overstimulation.
This conversation was sparked by a recent dinner where someone casually referred to me as an introvert and it was a moment that unexpectedly brought up old stories about what “introver...
2025-12-1116 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem40 | Nervous System Healing & the Journey Back to SelfWhat does it mean to lose yourself… and then find your way home again?
In this deeply personal birthday episode, I’m celebrating turning 47 while honoring the layered emotions this milestone brings. My grandmother passed away at this same age, and reaching it has stirred a combination of grief, purpose, and a sense of arrival.
I also share the deeply personal reality that ten years ago, I spent my birthday in a mental health treatment facility. At the time, I’d lost touch with my body, my intuition, and my sense of self...
2025-12-0415 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem39 | A Thanksgiving Letter to the Woman I Was and the One I’m BecomingIn this special Thanksgiving episode, I’m slowing down and sharing a deeply personal reflection on gratitude - gratitude for the people who have supported me, for the hard seasons that shaped me, for the parts of myself that protected me, and for the body that carried me through years of struggle and transformation. I simply want to honor the journey and the people that helped me survive and grow into the woman I am today.
This episode is a gentle space to breathe, reflect, and reconnect with your own gratitude, resilience, and becoming.
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2025-11-2712 min
The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 140 - Being a Highly Sensitive Woman with Allyssya GossettIn this episode, I talk with coach and host of The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast, Allyssya Gossett. Sensitivity has shaped Allyssya’s life and how she moves through the world, and now she helps other highly sensitive women understand that nothing is “wrong” with them, but that there’s actually incredible strength in the way they’re wired. Today, we talk about what it means to be highly sensitive and how embracing your sensitivity allows you to live more authentically. Here’s what we cover:The definition of a highly sensitive person and how to recognize th...
2025-11-2639 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem38 | Leading With Courage: Breaking Barriers, Boundaries & Becoming Alcohol-Free - with Toni WillIn this deeply empowering conversation, I sit down with trailblazing leader, author, speaker, and the first female general manager in the history of the ECHL’s Kalamazoo Wings, Toni Will. Toni has spent more than a decade leading in a male-dominated industry while simultaneously building a movement around empowered living, alcohol-free lifestyle choices, and intentional personal growth.
Together, we explore what it really looks like to lead with confidence, stay emotionally grounded under pressure, and break free from the belief that sensitivity is a weakness. Toni opens up about her own journey - from unhealthy cop...
2025-11-2032 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem37 | Stop Shaming Your Nervous System - with Sara Bybee FiskWhat happens when a lifetime of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and performance keeps you from honoring your sensitivity? In this episode, I sit down with Sara Bybee Fisk, a coach, mentor, and expert in helping women unlearn rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency. Together, we unpack what it means to reclaim your sensitivity after years of being told to toughen up, give more, and need less.
Sara shares her journey from being programmed as an extrovert in a large, service-focused family and religious culture to discovering the quiet power of her sensitivity. She opens up about the grief that comes...
2025-11-1335 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem36 | From Resistance to Reverence: Embracing My Sensitive NatureThere was a time when I would’ve done anything not to be so sensitive, when every emotional reaction or physical discomfort felt like a flaw I needed to fix. But over time, something shifted. Today, I hold my sensitivity with reverence.
This episode is all about that transformation - the honest, often messy journey that took me from resistance and resentment to eventual acceptance, and what it really means to embrace your sensitive nature.
Over the past few months, I’ve heard from so many of you about your experiences with sensitivity and your feed...
2025-11-0617 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem35 | Stretch, Don’t Shatter: 4 Ways to Bolster Self-EsteemThere’s a certain kind of discomfort that comes with growth, but for many highly sensitive women, that discomfort can feel like too much, too fast. When our confidence is low, we often convince ourselves that the only way forward is to change everything at once… to become someone louder, bolder, or less sensitive. But that approach often backfires, leaving us retreating into self-doubt, convinced we’ve failed yet again.
This episode is an invitation to do it differently. You’ll learn how to nurture confidence that grows roots and holds steady, even when life tilts a l...
2025-10-3012 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem34 | The Power of Regulation: How Managing Your Energy Expands Your LifeThere was a time when even leaving the house felt like too much. Fast forward to now, I can attend a social event, connect with people, and come home still feeling calm and energized.
In this episode, I’m sharing what changed: the power of regulation. We’ll explore how learning to manage your energy and senses doesn’t just help you cope, it expands your ability to live, connect, and enjoy more of what you love without burning out.
You’ll hear how this progression unfolded for me and I moved from...
2025-10-2317 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem33 | When No One’s Asking But You’re Still PleasingSometimes we don’t even realize we’re people-pleasing because it’s happening automatically. It’s not about trying to impress or gain approval anymore; it’s about the deeply wired instinct to anticipate and adjust for others before they even ask.
In this episode, I share a personal story that opened my eyes to just how quietly this habit can shape our choices. We’ll explore:
🩵 Why people-pleasing can become an unconscious survival pattern
🩵 How to recognize when you’re accommodating out of assumption, not need
🩵 Simple ways to pause, check in, and re-anchor...
2025-10-1613 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem32 | Stop Saying Sorry: Reclaiming Your Words and WorthHow often do you catch yourself saying “I’m sorry”? Maybe it slips out when you miss a call, ask for something you need, or simply take up space. While “sorry” can be powerful when it’s sincere, over-apologizing can quietly chip away at your confidence and sense of worth.
In this episode, I uncover:
🩵 Why “sorry” has become a reflex for so many of us
🩵 Three common ways we misuse apologies
🩵 The difference between a true apology and a habitual one
🩵 Simple swaps that replace “sorry” with gratitude or honesty
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2025-10-0915 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem31 | Struggling to Know Who You’re Meant to Be? Practices to Help You Find PurposeEver wondered, Who am I really meant to be? For many highly sensitive women, societal “shoulds” and outside expectations drown out our inner voice, leaving us unsure of our true purpose.
In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I share a gentle reframe to help you rediscover who you truly are and uncover the purpose that’s been waiting inside you all along. Together, we’ll explore why identity and purpose can feel so elusive, the cost of losing connection with yourself, and simple practices that will help you find your way back to alignment...
2025-10-0218 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem30 | The Secret to Feeling Safe When the Tears FallHow often has it felt risky to show up as your true self? For many highly sensitive women, all emotions spill out in tears. While that can feel vulnerable or even “too much,” your tears aren’t a weakness; they’re proof of your authenticity.
The three key practices that help highly sensitive women feel safe being their true selves:
🩵 Redefine what tears mean: they’re a release valve
🩵 Create inner safety first: learn simple practices to ground yourself and calm your nervous system
🩵 Communicate with others: naming your emotions...
2025-09-2516 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem29 | Constantly Feeling Overwhelmed? 3 Tips to Protect Your Energy and Limit Sensory OverloadIf you’ve ever walked into a room and felt your senses go into overdrive - the noise, the chatter, the energy - it can feel like too much. Before long, your body is overwhelmed, your inner critic is loud, and you leave drained and disappointed.
In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I’m sharing a personal story from a women’s retreat and three practical tips to help you protect your energy, manage sensory overload, and approach these moments with more self-kindness.
You’ll learn:
✨ How to notice an...
2025-09-1813 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem28 | How Self-Criticism Is Quietly Draining Your ConfidenceHave you ever tried to use the wrong tool for the job? It might work for a while, but eventually things fall apart. The tool itself isn’t broken; it’s just being used in a way for which it wasn’t designed.
That’s exactly what happens for highly sensitive women when we try to operate like the other 80% of the population. Instead of honoring the way we’re wired, we push ourselves to fit in, and when it doesn’t work, we turn on ourselves with criticism.
In this episode of The...
2025-09-1113 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem27 | How Weak Boundaries Create Resentment in RelationshipsHave you ever agreed to something you didn’t want to do, stayed quiet when something bothered you, or found yourself overexplaining your “no” just to soften the impact? These small moments might seem harmless, but over time they can lead to frustration, disconnection, and deep resentment in your relationships.
In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I’m exploring how weak boundaries quietly create resentment, and why strengthening your boundaries is actually a pathway to more authentic, fulfilling connections.
You’ll learn:
🩵 Why resentment is often a signal o...
2025-09-0417 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem26 | 4 Perspective Shifts to Calm Inner ConflictSometimes the smallest change in how we see things can make the biggest difference. What if someone’s sharp tone wasn’t about you at all? What if “different” didn’t mean “wrong”? Our perspective can either weigh us down or set us free.
In this episode, I’m sharing 4 gentle perspective shifts that will help you lighten your emotional load and bring more peace to your daily life.
I’m discussing:
✨ Why noticing subtle cues is a gift and how to stop carrying meaning that isn’t yours
✨ A freein...
2025-08-2816 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem25 | Becoming Who You’ve Always BeenHave you ever been complimented on something - an outfit, a choice, a way of being - and deep down thought, “This isn’t even me”?
As highly sensitive women, we’re often praised for the roles we play: the versions of ourselves carefully constructed to gain approval, keep the peace, or fit in. But what happens when the life you’re living doesn’t actually feel like yours?
In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers of people-pleasing and performance to help you reconnect with the real you, the one who’s been th...
2025-08-2120 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem24 | Beyond Perfect: Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone with CourageAre you stuck in “just one more” podcast, book, or course, waiting until you feel perfectly ready? As highly sensitive women, we often love to be prepared, and we’re really good at it.
In this episode, I'm talking about how perfectionism keeps highly sensitive women playing small, and the gentle, doable steps you can take to grow… even when it feels messy.
You’ll walk away with tangible tools, reflection prompts, and a reminder that courage isn’t about being ready; it’s about moving forward even when you’re not.
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2025-08-1417 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem23 | Overstimulated? 6 Tactical Ways to Calm Your SensesHave you ever been in a space where everything suddenly feels like too much? The lights. The noise. The energy. As a highly sensitive woman, sensory overload might not be occasional — it might be part of your daily life.
In this episode, I’m sharing six nervous system-friendly tools you can use in the moment to soothe your senses and bring yourself back into regulation without needing to push through or shut down. These aren’t the same tips you’ve heard over and over… they’re simple, accessible, and truly effective.
If you’ve ev...
2025-08-0711 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem22 | Set Boundaries and Unlock PeaceDo you feel guilty saying “no”? Are you constantly putting other people’s needs ahead of your own? As a highly sensitive woman, you might be caught in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing, unclear boundaries, and inner turmoil. But here’s the truth: setting healthy boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s the key to protecting your energy and creating the peace you’ve been craving.
In this episode, I’m breaking down:
Why highly sensitive women often become people-pleasers.
The real cost of living without boundaries—resentment, stress, and emotional exhaustion.
What healthy boundaries really look like (hi...
2025-07-3118 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem21 | Why Being Highly Sensitive Is Actually a GiftIn this heartfelt and empowering episode, I’m getting real about what it means to be a highly sensitive woman. From personal experiences to powerful insights, I’m sharing why sensitivity is not something that needs to be fixed, but rather, something to be celebrated.
We’ll explore how the world has conditioned many of us to believe our deep emotions and big feelings are flaws, and I’ll offer a different perspective: one where your sensitivity is your strength.
What You’ll Learn:
🩵 The truth behind emotional depth and why i...
2025-07-2411 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteemThe Highly Sensitive Woman is taking a breakBecause sometimes we all need a moment to catch our breath, The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast is taking a break. I'll be back on July 24th with new episodes.
Until then, listen to some of your favorites or get caught up on episodes you may have missed.
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2025-07-1709 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem20 | How People Pleasing Is Preventing Genuine ConnectionHow often do you let other people decide how your time together will unfold — what you’ll do, when you’ll do it, even what you’ll talk about? You show up, but you leave feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected — like you can’t fully be yourself. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on how this subtle form of people-pleasing keeps you from building the deep, meaningful connections you truly crave — and what to do instead.
In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked ways people-pleasing shows up — by constantly deferring to what others want...
2025-07-1009 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem19 | Confidence Boosters for When You Feel Not Good Enough - Part 2We all experience those moments when self-doubt creeps in — sometimes it’s triggered by a specific event, and other times it shows up uninvited, with no clear reason at all. The important part is what happens next. Do we let that doubt take over, or do we make a conscious choice to shift toward confidence? In this episode, we’re diving into practical ways to help you do just that.
In this Part 2 episode, I’m sharing five more simple, yet powerful tactics you can use today to boost your confidence and reignite your self-belief. Whether you’re stuck i...
2025-07-0310 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem18 | Confidence Boosters for When You Feel Not Good Enough - Part 1Do you ever feel like you aren’t good enough? We all have those moments, sometimes because something happened and sometimes there’s no explanation for it, but it’s what we do next that determines if we continue down the low-confidence spiral or shift in the other direction with confidence boosters. In Part 1, I’m sharing 5 tactics you can do today to invigorate you and foster a sense of self-assurance.
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2025-06-2612 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem17 | The Real Reason You Feel Resentment and How to Change ItI used to go through life with an undercurrent of irritation all of the time, and didn’t really understand why. Then I heard this quote from Neil Strauss: “Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.” The concept was enlightening, and I also wasn’t sure how to start saying what I wanted because I’d rarely done it.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
🩵 How to check in with yourself before speaking up
🩵 The importance of expressing your desires up front
🩵 Why stating things clearly matters
🩵 What asking for the other...
2025-06-1911 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem16 | Behind the Scenes of Being HumanWhen old thought patterns creep back in, try not to panic because it’s a totally normal part of life and you're just learning to dance to the new soundtrack you’re creating for yourself. In this episode, I’m going behind the scenes of being human and reminding you that you are not alone when it feels like you’ve stumbled backward. In truth, a stronger, more confident you is emerging.
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2025-06-1206 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem15 | Tired of Being Guarded? It’s Time to Take Risks to Create Relationship Trust.Have you felt misunderstood your entire life, so you stay guarded when interacting with people, waiting until you feel safe to open up and show them the real you? Being rejected is painful, and so is going through life guarded, pretending to be a version of yourself that isn’t entirely authentic.
Letting your guard down is risky, and you might get rejected. There’s also the possibility that by showing others who you really are, you create an opportunity for relationship trust and the type of connections you crave.
In this episode, I offer tips...
2025-06-0514 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem14 | Expand Your Capacity by Protecting Your EnergyDo you ever say No to an invitation because you fear you won’t have enough energy to do it, even though you would rather say Yes? What we do before and during an activity makes a huge difference in our enjoyment of the experience.
In this episode, I’m sharing how you can expand your capacity to do more by offering ways to protect your energy, because when you preserve your energy, you get to have experiences you never thought were possible.
Listen in as I discuss:
🩵 Creating a morning routine that feels ri...
2025-05-2920 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem13 | Why Your Comfort Zone Is Actually Causing You DiscomfortMost of us go through life trying to avoid the pain of rejection, judgment and failure, not realizing that our comfort zone isn’t so cozy, and that by not pushing beyond those limits, we are guaranteeing rejection, judgment, and failure.
Inside this episode, you’ll discover there’s discomfort outside your comfort zone and there’s a lot of discomfort inside your comfort zone too, and we’ll begin exploring what could be possible if you allowed yourself to tolerate the discomfort that comes outside those self-imposed boundaries.
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2025-05-2214 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem12 | 4 Reasons to Stop Ruminating Over Everything You SaidIf you spend hours, days, weeks, or maybe even years replaying conversations and interactions in your mind, you are not alone. In this episode, I share how ruminating robs us of time and so much more.
Key takeaways:
🩵 Ruminating takes a TON of energy
🩵 We are innately selfish creatures, and that’s not a bad thing
🩵 You are already living your worst fear
🩵 Ruminating robs you of the connection you are craving
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2025-05-1518 min
Heal Depression with God24-Feeling Isolated? How Being Vulnerable Heals Our Pain with Allyssya Gossett, part 2Have you ever felt isolated in depression, feeling no one cared? You are not alone. You may hide your suffering, not wanting to be a burden. It can be scary to share your sadness. But opening up to others can also bring healing. Once hiding her despondency, Allyssya Gossett took a risk to be vulnerable, sharing her deepest secrets. What she discovered is a beautiful gift of connection. Join us for a poignant and touching episode, 24-Feeling Isolated? How Being Vulnerable Heals our Pain with Allyssya Gossett, part 2
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2025-05-1329 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem11 | Discover How the Discomfort of Expressing Your Needs Can Bring Internal PeaceAre you someone who rarely, if ever, expresses your needs because the thought of it makes you uncomfortable? Do you worry that you might upset someone or be a burden?
In this episode, I candidly share:
🩵 What unspoken expectations actually create
🩵 How resentment feels like you are angry at another person, but that anger is misdirected
🩵 The truth about the discomfort that you feel when you express your needs
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2025-05-0815 minHeal Depression with God23-Feeling Broken? From Despondent to Confident Coach with Allyssya Gossett, part 1Once believing she was broken, Allyssya struggled with depression for decades, plummeting into despair which crippled her ability to function. Through therapy and self-acceptance, taking one step at a time towards healing, she now encourages others in their healing journey. Listen to her interview on today’s episode! 23-From Despondent Depression to Confident Coach with Allyssa Gossett, part 1.
Allyssya’s contact information
Check out her podcast, The Highly Sensitive Woman
Connect with her at info@lifecoachallyssya.com
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2025-05-0629 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem10 | Living Beyond Self-Doubt and Believing You Are WorthyWhat we believe about ourselves determines the actions we take. Do you struggle with self-doubt and the belief that you are worthy of something more? Something better? Something different?
Today, I’m opening up about a time when I believed I was not worthy of different circumstances and the frustration we feel when we’re in a season of transition from who we used to be into who we are becoming.
I encourage you to:
🩵 Celebrate the win
🩵 Thank the woman you used to be
🩵 Be prepared when self-doubt creeps back i...
2025-05-0116 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem9 | 3 Ways Perfectionism Is Preventing You From Keeping Promises to YourselfEver felt like you don’t follow through with things you desire over and over again, but don’t know why? In today’s episode, I’m diving into how perfectionism is playing a role. Many people think perfectionism comes from a place of arrogance, but that is far from accurate.
Key Takeaways:
The root of perfectionism
3 ways perfectionism prevents you from saying, doing, and producing what you want
An empowering phrase that shifted things for me and could be a game changer for you, too
Listen in as I embrace imperfection in real time and keep a...
2025-04-2420 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem8 | Feeling Low on Energy? Indecision Could Be the CulpritIf you ever find yourself needing a nap while it feels like everyone else has limitless energy, this episode is for you! I’m being open about how my energy was low and some things I did to conserve it. I’m also sharing how a friend and I navigated evening plans when both of us were struggling to make decisions and the vulnerability we had with each other.
Want to learn more about letting go of shame and showing others the real you? Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com to schedule a complimentary consultation.
2025-04-1713 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem7 | Why You Can’t Find Inner Peace and How Setting Boundaries Will Change EverythingI used to believe I was destined to live a life void of inner peace because, as much as I tried to find it, I continued to experience constant inner turmoil. It wasn’t until I started setting boundaries that I got a glimpse of what was possible, and everything changed.
If inner peace is eluding you, don’t miss this week’s episode as I teach a practical exercise to begin the process of setting boundaries, whether with a complete stranger or those closest to you. It can be scary because sometimes those boundaries can lead to the...
2025-04-1020 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem6 | The Secret to Self-Acceptance as a Highly Sensitive WomanIf you’re like me, as a Highly Sensitive Woman, I went through life feeling like I was broken because I didn’t fit in a box. It took me years to realize that I was not innately broken, but by trying to contort myself to fit in the box, some pieces of me did break.
In this episode, I share the secret to self-acceptance as a Highly Sensitive Woman and offer an exercise to try over the next 30 days to begin a journey of celebration.
If you would like a partner along that journey, messa...
2025-04-0310 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem5 | A Game Plan for Connecting With Others Even Through the TearsAre you someone for whom all emotion comes out in tears? And do those tears prevent you from connecting with others?
I am a “crier” and for decades I hated that characteristic. My crying often led to frustration, feeling misunderstood, and consequently, I held back from telling people what I was thinking and feeling. When I finally accepted the tears and stopped resisting them or shoving them down, I discovered that acknowledging them and being honest with the other person created a deeper connection.
Today I’m sharing techniques I use when the...
2025-03-2718 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem4 | If You’re Tired of Feeling Depleted, It’s Time to Pause Before Responding. 4 Slow-Down Tactics for ProcessingDo you find yourself feeling depleted because you overextend yourself? Do you spend a lot of time and energy ruminating and perseverating on what you said or wish you’d said?
I used to agree to things immediately, then later regret making that commitment. I’ve also spent countless hours replaying conversations and wishing I’d had the “right words” in the moment.
In this episode, I share tactics I use to pause and give my brain and body time to communicate before responding.
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2025-03-2015 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem3 | Don’t Let Overwhelm Steal Your Joy. 6 Strategies to Increase Distress Tolerance and Reduce AnxietyHave you ever been so overwhelmed that you couldn’t enjoy an experience with your family or friends? Did you have to leave early or find yourself choosing not to go at all?
For many years, I struggled with overwhelming anxiety in social settings and everyday activities. And then it became a cycle of being overwhelmed at the event, so I became less inclined to go to another one, which led to more anticipatory anxiety, so I went into the event heightened, then I would get overwhelmed at the event, and so on.
2025-03-1313 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem2 | How Stepping Outside My Comfort Zone Became My Favorite Strategy to Build ConfidenceDo you lack or have limited self-confidence? Have fear of trying something new? Tell yourself “I could never do _____”?
For years, I tried to change how I am wired, and ended up depressed and a shell of myself. I became fearful of almost everything. I rarely left the house, and wasn’t honest with those closest to me about my thoughts and feelings. I had no confidence to be myself.
Eventually, the pain of putting myself in that box became greater than the pain of doing and saying the things I wanted...
2025-03-1316 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem1 | Instead of Staying Stuck, Try These 4 Tips to Finally Find Your PurposeHave you spent years focusing on other people’s needs, wants, desires, or expectations of you and feel like you don’t know yourself or your true purpose? When you try to figure it out, does your brain go blank and you feel stuck?
Several years ago, I found myself completely disconnected from what I liked, who I was, or my purpose in the world. And, at first, the idea of figuring it out seemed so daunting, I was paralyzed by overwhelm.
Time was passing, and I didn’t want to find myse...
2025-03-1321 minThe Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteemWelcome to The Highly Sensitive WomanWelcome to The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast. Do you have a hard time accepting yourself? Have trouble fitting in and think there’s something wrong with you? Do you feel misunderstood, especially when your emotions are heightened?
My name is Allyssya, and I’m a Highly Sensitive Woman. For decades, I lacked the confidence to be myself. I worried so much about what everyone else thought of me and constantly felt anxiety from fear of disappointing others. I wanted to set boundaries, feel understood by the people in my life, and experience inner peace. But I kept tell...
2025-03-0602 min
Warrior Words | Stories of Hope | Finding Beauty After Battles & Thriving After Surviving Trauma62. Comfort Zone Box ~ Kick Anxiety & Depression Out with Allyssya GossettWelcome to Episode 62 of the Warrior Words podcast!
Have you ever felt like part of your life, or maybe even your whole life, was being chosen for you? Have you ever felt like you couldn't make your own decisions, not in an abusive way, but in a people-pleasing kind of way?
That's how Allyssya felt for a large part of her life. The life she was living was not what she would have chosen for herself. But she is a Highly Sensitive Woman and one of the characteristics is people-pleasing.
This c...
2025-02-1137 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 70 - "I am so F*cking Proud of Myself" - Conversations with Women Who Have Stopped People PleasingSend us a textI am so grateful to have had the opportunity to sit down with Allyssya Gossett, Abby Wolfson, and Jayne Newman to dig into what it's like to be a woman programmed to people please—and what it's like to be a woman who stops. Allyssya is an educator and life coach who helps women step outside their comfort zone and into confidence so they can live the life they imagine. Abby is a child sleep coach, a parent coach to single moms by choice, a former pediatric nurse practitioner, and a mom...
2024-07-1054 min
Authentically You Podcast38: Allyssya Gossett ON Transforming Mere Existence into Authentic LivingWelcome to the Authentically You Podcast, where we celebrate the beauty of embracing one's true self.
Join us as we dive into captivating conversations and inspiring
stories that explore the journey to authenticity, self-discovery, and personal growth.
Each episode brings you thought-provoking insights, practical tips, and heartfelt discussions, empowering you to live a life that is unapologetically genuine and authentically YOU. Each episode will also leave you feeling inspired and motivated to embrace your true self, unapologetically. Get ready to be inspired, challenged, and uplifted as we embark on this transformative quest together. Tune in a...
2023-12-2248 min
Innovate, Adapt, and Grow - The WVS PodcastEpisode 014 - Supporting Students Who Need AccommodationsLarissa Zompolas from WVS and Allyssya Gossett from Indiana Online join the podcast today to talk more about how online programs help students succeed when they need additional accommodations.
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Music:
Funkorama by Kevin MacLeod
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2022-10-0716 min