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Low Demand ParentingWhat about the siblings?When you’re parenting a high-needs or PDA child, it often feels like their needs dominate the household. But what about the siblings? In this episode, I share five core truths that have helped me show up with compassion and clarity in the most impossible-feeling moments of sibling conflict. From managing competing needs, to navigating rupture and repair, to having real conversations about disability, this episode explores the messy, nuanced reality of raising multiple children in a low demand household. I’ll walk you through practical steps and hard-won insights, all rooted in deep love, radical acceptance, and the comm...2025-05-0529 min
Low Demand ParentingMailbag: Low demand partnershipsThis week, I’m answering your questions about partnerships — about how to talk to your spouse about low demand parenting, what to do when they’re not on board, how to respond when they’re getting really triggered by meltdowns or moments of being hit or yelled at, and how to support a PDA partner in sharing their emotions safely. I share how I approach partnerships: with radical acceptance, deep listening, and letting go of expectations that are too hard. I also name that this conversation is based on my own experience being married to the person I co-parent with — a...2025-04-2825 min
Low Demand ParentingFrom high-demand to low-demand: my journey of letting goThis is a deeply personal episode. I am in the guest seat to share my transformation from high-demand, perfectionist parenting to the radical practice of Low Demand Parenting. Interviewed by my dear friend Rabbi Shoshana Meira Friedman, I open up about the turning point in my parenting journey, how the collapse of old paradigms gave way to deep healing, and why letting go isn’t failure—it’s freedom. Together, we explore the spiritual depth of radical acceptance, the impact of privilege on parenting choices, and why practicing low demand is never all-or-nothing. This episode is a love letter to the...2025-04-2126 min
Low Demand ParentingFrom high-demand to low-demand: my journey of letting goThis is a deeply personal episode. I am in the guest seat to share my transformation from high-demand, perfectionist parenting to the radical practice of Low Demand Parenting. Interviewed by my dear friend Rabbi Shoshana Meira Friedman, I open up about the turning point in my parenting journey, how the collapse of old paradigms gave way to deep healing, and why letting go isn’t failure—it’s freedom. Together, we explore the spiritual depth of radical acceptance, the impact of privilege on parenting choices, and why practicing low demand is never all-or-nothing. This episode is a love letter to the...2025-04-2126 min
Self Directed114: Amanda Diekman | Radical Acceptance and Low Demand ParentingSend us a textIn this episode, we speak with Amanda Diekman about how her parenting changed when her six-year-old son went into autistic burnout. He lost verbal communication, stopped eating most foods, and couldn't follow basic routines. Faced with a crisis, Amanda chose to stop trying to fix him and instead removed demands to create safety.She explains how this shift became the foundation of low-demand parenting—an approach that prioritizes accommodation, reduces expectations, and gives children more agency. We discuss the fear many parents feel when stepping outside conventional norms, how control-based parenting da...2025-04-0350 min
Low Demand ParentingWhy motherhood is killing usIn this powerful and deeply moving conversation, I am joined by Ambreia Meadows-Hernandez of Free Black Motherhood. Together, we unpack what it means to mother freely within systems built to demand your erasure. Ambreia shares how she is deconstructing martyr-based motherhood, reclaiming her identity as a liberated Black mother, and moving toward a more expansive and embodied parenting practice rooted in presence, emotional transparency, and intergenerational healing. We talk about the impossibility of perfection, the false expectations placed on mothers—especially Black mothers—and how parenting can be a radical act of justice. If you’ve ever felt like you had...2025-03-3128 min
Low Demand ParentingMailbag: Should I pull my kid from school?I respond to a question from a parent navigating a painful dilemma: when a child is really struggling in school, how do we know when it’s time to pull them out? I explore two intertwined questions—how to recognize when it’s truly “too much,” and how to care for ourselves in the aftermath of such a big, life-changing decision. I share tools for tuning into our child’s nervous system, identifying red flags, and listening to our own inner knowing. I also talk about how to create sustainable routines, even in the chaos of burnout and unpredictability. This is an e...2025-03-2421 min
Low Demand ParentingWhat I Wish I Knew Sooner About My Kid's BrainIn this powerful conversation, I sit down with Robyn Gobbel, trauma therapist and author of Big Baffling Behaviors. Together, we explore how to talk to our kids about their brains, why it matters so much, and how understanding our nervous systems helps us parent with compassion and connection. Robyn shares her Owl, Watchdog, and Possum framework—a playful and accessible way to explain our brain states—and we dive deep into how nervous system science can transform the way we understand our kids’ struggles, our own reactions, and the path to healing for the whole family. This episode is for an...2025-03-1726 min
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}Ep. 212: Are We Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?One of the harder things to navigate when shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior is the feeling that a lot of the strategies seem like they are rewarding bad behavior.Strategies that invite regulation, connection, and felt safety are usually strategies that feel good.If our kids feel good after bad behavior, will they have MORE bad behavior??In this episode, you’ll learnWhat it might be signaling if you’re wondering if you’re rewarding bad behaviorHow to avoid unintentionally increasing the likelihood of dys...2025-03-1145 minThe Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}Ep. 211: Hard? Too Hard? For PARENTS!!!We talk a lot about hard very too hard for your kids (thanks Amanda Diekman for that hard vs. too hard language!).But have you considered applying that concept to yourself? This is intensive parenting! Far beyond when parenting is supposed to get less intensive, you’re still giving super-hero level scaffolding, supervision and co-regulation - and it’s a LOT!In this episode, you’ll learnHow to assess for when it’s just TOO hard- for YOU!The importance of making an owl-brain decision about things be...2025-03-0428 min
Low Demand ParentingWon't versus Can't: The mindset shift that changes everythingWhen I started practicing low demand parenting, it wasn’t because I read a book or found a perfect system. It was because our family hit a wall—and nothing else was working. One of the very first mindset shifts that saved me, and continues to guide me every single day, is this: shifting from won’t to can’t.
This episode is all about that shift—from believing our kids (or ourselves) won’t do something, to realizing they can’t in this moment. I unpack:
Where the “won’t” mentality comes from and why it’s so ingrai...2025-03-0318 min
Delight in Parenting with Dajana Yoakley45. What If You Could Drop the Parenting Demands That Don't Matter?Ever find yourself enforcing rules you're not even sure are important? Amanda Diekman discovered that most parenting expectations are optional when her six-year-old suddenly lost his ability to speak and move easily during what she later learned was autistic burnout.This crisis forced her to question everything she thought she knew about "good parenting." As a late-diagnosed autistic adult raising three neurodivergent children, Amanda realized our culture's obsession with high expectations and fear of being "too permissive" was damaging both her children's nervous systems and her own well-being.In our conversation...2025-02-2734 min
Low Demand ParentingMailbag: Toileting & body careToileting struggles, periods, and body care—these are some of the trickiest internal demands our kids face. When a child refuses to wear a seatbelt, smears poop, or struggles with managing their period, how do we support them in a way that respects their nervous system while still meeting real needs?
In this episode, I break down:
• What internal demands are and why they can be so distressing for neurodivergent kids
• How burnout impacts basic needs like sleep, eating, and toileting
• Why forcing solutions backfires—and how to approach these struggles t...2025-02-2422 min
Low Demand ParentingMarriage and PDA: Living the low demand wayHow do you create a low-demand partnership while raising neurodivergent kids? This week, I sit down with Lindsay and Daryl Flanagan—fellow low-demand parents—who share their journey of shifting from traditional parenting to a more intuitive, needs-centered approach. We explore how dropping demands for each other and for our children has transformed their relationship and family life.
In this episode, we discuss:
✔️ Letting go of traditional expectations in relationships and parenting.
✔️ Navigating marriage when one or both partners are neurodivergent.
✔️ The power of humor, shorthand phrases, and texting in low-demand communication.2025-02-1724 min
Your Kids Don’t Suck: Cultivating Closeness with your Kids through Non-Coercive, Conscious ParentingAmanda Diekman on Low-Demand Parenting & What Her PDA Kids Have Taught Her.In this episode, we sit down with Amanda Diekman, author of Low-Demand Parenting, to explore the intersection of PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), neurodiversity, and low-demand parenting.What We Cover:What PDA is and is not – Understanding PDA as a profile rather than a diagnosis, and clearing up common misconceptions.Why PDA is widely discussed today – How awareness of PDA has grown and why so many neurodivergent families relate to this profile.The Low-Demand Parenting approach – What it means to shift from high expectations to a more supportive, flexible, and attuned style of parenting.How a low-demand lifest...2025-02-141h 03
Low Demand ParentingTrusting Their 'No'In this heartfelt and insightful episode, I dive into the essential work of teaching our kids to trust themselves, even when the world tells them otherwise. Using real-life examples, I share how traditional parenting approaches—like pushing through discomfort or faking calm—can break trust and escalate stress. Instead, I advocate for dropping the demands, honoring a child’s “no,” and embracing co-regulation as a path to healing and connection.
You’ll learn:
Why your child’s meltdowns are not your fault and how to reframe them as panic responses.
The power of honoring your child’s body cues and...2025-02-1029 min
Low Demand ParentingMailbag: Coming Out of BurnoutEpisode Resources:
Aligning with Yourself Course: Designed to help you shed perfectionism and show up in your truth, this course supports you through tough seasons like burnout. [Learn more here]
Episode 11: Burnout Doesn't Last Forever.
In this listener mailbag episode, I tackle the tough questions about phase two of burnout recovery—what I call Curious but No Capacity. This is the messy middle where your child starts to re-engage with the world but lacks the skills or energy to follow through fully. I explore:
Differentiating “hard” vs. “too hard” and why it matters
How to honor your chil...2025-02-0321 min
Low Demand ParentingThe Hard Stuff: Parenting grief and shameIn this honest and heartfelt conversation with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Emma Svanberg, known online as the "Mumologist," we explore the intersection of grief and parenting. Emma shares her journey from studying attachment theory to supporting parents in navigating the overwhelming pressures of modern parenting. Together, we unpack the grief that arises when reality doesn’t match our idealized parenting fantasies, the importance of slowing down, and the power of self-compassion.
Emma and Amanda discuss:
How parenting grief reshapes our identities.
Signs of unprocessed grief in parents, including resentment, disconnection, and autopilot living.
The...2025-01-2726 min
Low Demand ParentingUntigering and Low Demand ParentingIn a lovely and inspiring conversation on The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, Amanda Diekman sits down with Iris Chen, founder of Untigering, to discuss her journey from authoritarian parenting to a radically respectful and connected approach. Together, they explore:
Detoxing from authoritarian and fear-based parenting
Breaking free from the "good girl" and "good mom" identities
Letting go of obedience as a measure of success
Building meaningful relationships across generational and cultural divides
Embracing radical acceptance in parenting and beyond
Iris shares her personal story, the challenges of parenting in countercultural ways, and the importance of living your...2025-01-1323 min
Low Demand ParentingBurnout doesn't last forever.Burnout can feel endless and all-consuming, both for children experiencing it and for the parents navigating it alongside them. In this solo episode, I’m sharing four key steps to understand and support your child’s journey out of burnout. We’ll tackle common misconceptions, unpack what burnout truly is, and explore how to create a healing cocoon of safety and love. I’ll also outline the stages of recovery and offer practical tools to meet your child where they are. Burnout is challenging, but it’s also transformative—and together, we can embrace this journey with compassion, hope, and acceptan...2025-01-0626 min
Low Demand ParentingEmbracing Our "Spiky-Profile" KidsIn this episode of The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, Amanda Diekman welcomes Debbie Reber, founder of Tilt Parenting and author of Differently Wired. Together, they delve into the unique challenges and strengths of raising twice-exceptional (2E) kids—children who are both gifted and neurodivergent. From understanding asynchrony to fostering self-advocacy and embracing parenting as activism, this episode offers invaluable insights for parents navigating the complexity of 2E parenting.
Episode Highlights:
What it means to be twice-exceptional (2E) and how to recognize it.
Understanding the asynchrony between giftedness and lagging skills.
How parents can reframe per...2024-12-3019 min
Low Demand ParentingHoliday Mailbag: Santa secrets, food woes, and surviving the seasonIn this special Holiday Mailbag episode, Amanda Diekman answers listener questions about navigating the holidays as a low-demand parent. From food struggles to Santa dilemmas, and handling judgment in public, Amanda offers compassionate insights and practical strategies for making this season work for your unique family.
Key topics include:
Supporting kids with PDA who struggle with eating.
Navigating the Santa conversation when siblings are at different stages.
Handling partner disagreements about parenting approaches during high-stress times.
Advocating for your parenting style and setting boundaries in public.
If you’re looking for ways to drop the pr...2024-12-2321 minThe Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}REPLAY: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3Cues of safety, danger, or life threat come from three places- inside, outside, and between.In part 3 of this series on felt safety, we are exploring felt safety from between- from relationship!In this episode, you’ll learnHow availability of connection is a cue of safety or dangerHow neuroception can tell the state of the other person’s nervous system (connection or protection?)Why nervous systems are contagiousHow ‘between’ cues of safety eventually become ‘inside’ cues of safetyHow you can increase your own experience of safety even when you are parenting children in...2024-12-1950 min
Low Demand ParentingRewards and punishments don't work.In this episode of The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, Amanda Diekman breaks down why the dominant parenting paradigm of rewards and punishments isn’t serving our kids—or us. Grounded in brain science and personal insight, Amanda shares how focusing on connection and attunement unlocks long-term trust, regulation, and growth in our children. Through real-life examples and a compassionate lens, Amanda encourages parents to step away from control-based strategies and embrace the transformative power of safety and belonging.
Low Demand Reset: Reflect, Release, Realign
A gentle guide to closing the year with intent...2024-12-1619 min
Low Demand ParentingMailbag: Aggression, name calling & meltdownsIn this deeply empathetic mailbag episode of the Low Demand Parenting Podcast, Amanda Diekman answers two listener questions about navigating the challenges of dysregulated kids:
Physical Aggression and Meltdowns: What do you do when your child is physically aggressive, whether toward you or siblings? Amanda shares strategies for:
De-escalation: Dropping demands in the moment to reduce tension and prioritize safety.
Co-regulation: Staying grounded so your child can borrow your calm to find their own.
Practical tips for balancing priorities like safety versus expectations, and the importance of repair after meltdowns.
Name-Calling and Emotional Pain: How...2024-12-0921 min
Low Demand ParentingIntersectionality and Low Demand ParentingIn this deeply engaging episode of The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, Amanda Diekman sits down with Morénike Giwa Onaiwu—an activist, advocate, and thought leader in neurodiversity and intersectionality. Together, they unpack how intersectionality informs low demand parenting, highlighting the overlap of privilege and marginalization in parenting and life.
From understanding how societal norms rooted in white supremacy affect neurodivergent families to exploring the complexities of unmasking for marginalized communities, this conversation challenges us to reflect on how our identities shape the demands we place on ourselves and our children. Morénike shares practical insights on navi...2024-11-2525 min
Low Demand ParentingThe Myth of Permissive ParentingPermissive parenting has been labeled the boogeyman of modern parenting—but is it time to rethink what "permissive" really means? In this episode, I unpack the history of parenting styles, challenge the fear and judgment around permissiveness, and explore why flexibility, collaboration, and permission might just be the tools we desperately need to raise thriving, neurodivergent kids. Join me as we dig into neuroscience, attachment theory, and real-life parenting moments to rewrite the rulebook for a new generation of families.
00:35 The Permissive Parent Myth
02:27 Historical Context of Parenting Styles
06:04 Reevaluating Permissive Par...2024-11-1827 min
Thriving with The Bovinos!Navigating Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA): A Mother's Journey with Stephanie MyungIn this episode, we reconnect with a former colleague to discuss her personal journey navigating Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) with her son. We delve into the challenges of understanding and managing PDA, a nervous system disability characterized by an extreme sensitivity to demands. The discussion spans from her initial realizations, the impact of societal norms, difficulties with traditional behavioral analysis methods, to the unique struggles faced by families dealing with PDA. We also touch upon the broader implications for education, community safety, and the need for greater awareness and understanding. This emotional and enlightening conversation offers valuable insights into...2024-11-121h 20
Low Demand ParentingMailbag: How do I get my own needs met?
In this mailbag episode, I answer listener questions about one of the things I get asked most: How to balance adult needs with low demand parenting. We dive into what to do when your family isn’t on board with low demand and how to meet your own core needs when your kid can’t leave the house for months. From finding support as a low demand parent to managing a PDA child’s need for closeness, we’ll explore how to identify our true needs and disentangle them from specific expectations. Tune in for real-life strategies, deep insi...2024-11-1119 min
Low Demand ParentingParenting With the Nervous System In MindIn this episode, Amanda speaks with Dr. Megan Anna Neff, psychologist and co-host of the Neurodivergent Conversations podcast, to discuss how understanding the nervous system changes everything about parenting. They explore how stress responses affect both parents and children, the power of co-regulation, and why meltdowns are more than just big emotions. Dr. Neff shares insights on the autonomic nervous system, practical strategies for supporting neurodivergent kids, and the science of repair after ruptures. Tune in for a conversation on finding compassion and resilience, even in the most challenging parenting moments.
12 Days of Low Demand Hol...2024-11-0420 min
Low Demand ParentingHow Low Demand Parenting Will Change Your LifeWhat it's about:
In this episode of The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, I’m diving into what low demand parenting really looks like. As an autistic adult, mom of three, and someone who’s been on this journey myself, I’ve seen firsthand how letting go of traditional parenting pressures opens the door to more trust, connection, and joy in our families. Inspired by Ross Green’s Collaborative and Proactive Solutions, I share how releasing control and truly respecting our kids’ boundaries can change everything. We’ll talk about how meltdowns are a form of communication, how to build genu...2024-10-2816 min
Low Demand ParentingWhat Is Low Demand Parenting All About?What it's about:
In this very first episode of The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, I share the story behind my journey into low demand parenting. It all started when my middle child faced autistic burnout during the pandemic, and I realized that traditional parenting approaches were breaking us down. Through this episode, I explain how letting go of expectations and embracing trust, connection, and safety changed everything for our family. I also give a glimpse into what future episodes will cover, including interviews, mailbag questions, and more real-time reflections on parenting, neurodiversity, and behavior.
...2024-10-2117 min
Low Demand ParentingTrailer: Low Demand Parenting - The PodcastWelcome to The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, where we drop the pressure, find the joy, and thrive—even when life feels like it’s stuck on level 12 hard. I’m Amanda Diekman, author, autistic adult, and mom of three. But more than anything, I’m a fellow traveler on this wild parenting journey. if you’re ready to parent with more joy, less pressure, and a whole lot of compassion for yourself and your kids, then I’m so glad you’re here. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts and let’s do this together. We’ll laugh, we’ll learn, and we’ll...2024-09-2402 min
Talking With Tech AAC PodcastAmanda Diekman: Lowering Parental Demands to Increase Connection and CalmThis week, we share Rachel’s interview with Amanda Diekman! Amanda (@lowdemandamanda)is an autistic adult and parent of three neurodivergent children who advocates for a shift away from traditional parenting models that prioritize control and demands. She suggests that accommodating children's needs and reducing expectations can foster better emotional connections. The interview underscores the significance of empathy, patience, and the need for adults to reflect on their own emotional responses to better support children in navigating their challenges!
Before the interview, Rachel and Chris discuss some recent work that Rachel is doing on a yet...2024-09-2059 min
Mindful As A MotherS4e24; Interview Amanda Diekman Author of Low Demand ParentingWe are in our low demand era....
Amanda Diekman, author of Low Demand Parenting, shares her transformative approach to raising children. Discover how letting go of unrealistic expectations and embracing radical acceptance can create a calmer, happier home for everyone. Learn how to prioritize rest, reduce demands, and find joy in the journey. Remember, it's okay if every day isn't perfect – small steps lead to big changes!
Low Demand Parenting is a game-changer for parents, especially those with autistic children. Tune in to hear how Amanda's insights can transform your family life.
How to...2024-07-3142 min
Reframing Neurodiversity - ADHD Support For Women20. Reparenting Ourselves Through Low Demand Parenting with Amanda DiekmanIn this episode, I chat with Amanda Diekman, the author of Low Demand Parenting. If you've ever felt exhausted by the daily demands of parenting—especially if you're raising a neurodivergent child—this episode is for you!What you'll learn in this episode:What Low Demand Parenting is and why it’s a game-changer for neurodivergent kidsThe connection between Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), ADHD, and high-masking autismWhy traditional parenting strategies often fail kids with high demand sensitivityHow dropping non-essential demands can actually help kids (and parents) thriveThe difference between fake dropping demands vs. truly creating a suppor...2024-07-1847 min
THE AUTISM ADHD PODCASTIncreasing Emotional Regulation With The Window of Tolerance in Neurodivergent Children & TeensJoin Amanda Diekman, an Autistic author and parent coach, and me as we chat about the importance of identifying and understanding the window of tolerance and how to support increased emotional regulation in Autistic, ADHDer, and AuDHD children. In this rebroadcast, we share real neuroaffirming strategies that you can start using today! ❤️ Holly- The Mom/Psychologist Who Gets It Get FREE resources here Get neurodiversity-affirming continuing education for therapists Learn about Holly's private practice in North Carolina Learn more about Amanda's Low Demand Parenting book & her services Join...2024-07-1034 min
Drive Time NebraskaAmanda Diekman / Mrs. Nebraska America 2024Doug is honored to have Mrs. Nebraska America 2024 Amanda Diekman join him on the show. They talk about her pageant journey, 2024 Mrs. Nebraska America Win, bust through some misconceptions about the pageant world, and find out more about GUT IT OUT, a non-profit founded by Amanda and her husband, New York Mets Pitcher Jake Diekman.
https://www.gutitoutfoundation.org2024-07-0441 min
Complicated KidsLow Demand Parenting with Amanda Diekman Amanda Diekman, author of the book Low Demand Parenting, joined me today for some "yellow bubble" time. Our conversation ran the gamut from autistic burnout, the problems with masking, and how our children are not empty vessels to be filled to how to think differently about the relationship with ourselves and our children while also dropping demands. This was a powerful conversation that you won't want to miss! To find out more about Amanda and her work, find her on FB and IG @lowdemandamanda and at www.amandadiekman.com.2024-05-2836 min
Complicated KidsLow Demand Parenting with Amanda Diekman Amanda Diekman, author of the book Low Demand Parenting, joined me today for some "yellow bubble" time. Our conversation ran the gamut from autistic burnout, the problems with masking, and how our children are not empty vessels to be filled to how to think differently about the relationship with ourselves and our children while also dropping demands. This was a powerful conversation that you won't want to miss! To find out more about Amanda and her work, find her on FB and IG @lowdemandamanda and at www.amandadiekman.com.2024-05-2836 min
The ADHD Women's Wellbeing PodcastPracticing Low-Demand Parenting with ADHDBefore starting today's episode, why not check out Kate's ADHD workshops and free resources here?Ever since reading about the concept of 'low-demand parenting,' which is helping many neurodivergent parents regulate their neurodivergent kids, I've been desperate to talk about this on the podcast. It was a revelation to learn that there is an actual practice where we can intentionally drop the external pressures and societal conditioning and intuitively parent our children according to their needs, energy, and nervous systems. I'm delighted to welcome this week's guest, Amanda Diekman, an autistic adult, parent coach, and author in the neurodiversity s...2024-05-2347 min
ADHD Women's Wellbeing PodcastPracticing Low-Demand Parenting with ADHDBefore starting today's episode, why not check out Kate's ADHD workshops and free resources here?Ever since reading about the concept of 'low-demand parenting,' which is helping many neurodivergent parents regulate their neurodivergent kids, I've been desperate to talk about this on the podcast. It was a revelation to learn that there is an actual practice where we can intentionally drop the external pressures and societal conditioning and intuitively parent our children according to their needs, energy, and nervous systems. I'm delighted to welcome this week's guest, Amanda Diekman, an autistic adult, parent coach, a...2024-05-2348 min
EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids113 | the art of low demand parenting: redefining connection and shifting expectations with Amanda DiekmanABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay and Amanda Diekman discuss:what a low demand lifestyle isthe three layers of a demand how to find joy in this parenting journeyRESOURCES⚡️ connect with Amanda DiekmanInstagram @lowdemandamanda Facebook @lowdemandamandawww.amandadiekman.comGet the book⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism⚡️ learn from me...2024-05-1545 min
Leveraging Thought LeadershipBridging the Gap Between Academia and Industry in STEM | Dr. Amanda Diekman and Jayshree Seth | 565In this episode, we dive into the often-discussed but seldom addressed divide between academics and practitioners in the STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics) field. We welcome two esteemed guests: Dr. Amanda Diekman, Professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences and Associate Vice Provost for Faculty and Academic Affairs at Indiana University, and Jayshree Seth, Chief Science Advocate and Corporate Scientist at 3M. Dr. Diekman acknowledges the existence of a gap between academia and industry, suggesting that it persists partly because people believe it does. However, she emphasizes that the divide can be bridged through effort, communication, and setting clear...2024-04-2846 min
Begin with ShaolinAmanda Diekman: Dropping Demands, Understanding Needs and Discovering Low Demand ParentingI’ve always been an avid reader of parenting books and learning about various parenting styles. So, getting to chat with Amanda Diekman, the PDA Autist and author and founder of "Low Demand Parenting” was such a treat!!
Despite a prestigious academic background, her life took a pivotal turn when her son experienced severe autistic burnout in 2020, leading to her own breakdown.From this emerged a radical approach to parenting rooted in acceptance over demand.
In our conversation, we explore her book, delve into the genesis of low-demand parenting, and discuss navigating new parenting styles with our partners. Join us a...2024-04-2351 min
Radical Learning Talks67. Dropping Demands w/ Low Demand AmandaIn this episode we chat with Amanda Diekman, also known as Low Demand Amanda - an autistic adult, parent coach, author in the neurodiversity space and leading voice in the movement for low demand parenting practices.
Amanda shares about the low demand approach to supporting neurodivergent kids by dropping demands, centering their humanity and moving away from ableism.
We talk about so much including stepping away from societal “norms”, authenticity, embracing neurodivergence, PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy), privilege and more!
You can find Amanda here:
www.amandadiekman.com
...2024-04-121h 00The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}REPLAY: Low Demand Parenting with Amanda DiekmanMaking Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up! Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about...2024-04-121h 03
THE AUTISM ADHD PODCASTLow Demand Parenting for Neurodivergent Children & Teens With Amanda DiekmanRebroadcast Amanda Diekman, autistic parenting coach, joins us today to talk about low demand parenting. We cover so much in this important episode such as - *Identifying hard and harder *Autistic burnout *Building trust and connection *Low demand versus no demand *Being a safe parent and educator *Preparing children for the future *Mental health and more:) ❤️ Holly- The Mom/Neurodivergent Therapist CLICK HERE for Holly's ONE STOP RESOURCE - Social Success Guide, Behavior Guide, and MORE! Learn more about Holly's private practice in North Ca...2024-04-0335 minMindful As A MotherS4ep9; Radical Acceptance
What comes to mind when you hear Radical Acceptance? As humans, we spend a lot of time being upset about things that aren’t in our control. Radical acceptance is taking the concept that we can’t change what’s happening, so how do we navigate the challenge? We talk through why this is important in parenting neurodivergent children and how to implement this concept to create a smoother experience in your parenting journey.
For Reference:
Supporting Autistic Girls and Gender Diverse Youth, by The Yellowbugs (pg 82, 93, 273)
Low Demand...2024-04-0336 min
Calm the Chaos ParentingLow Demand Parenting Explained: A Conversation with Amanda DiekmanEpisode 46: In this eye-opening episode of The Calm the Chaos Parenting Podcast, join Dayna as she sits down with Amanda Diekmann, the visionary author behind "Low Demand Parenting." Dive into a conversation that illuminates the struggles many children face with everyday demands and expectations, revealing insights into a parenting approach that's changing lives by reducing stress and building stronger, more connected families.Amanda shares her personal journey, the science behind demand sensitivity, and practical tips for parents to navigate the high-expectation world we live in. Whether you're a parent to a demand-sensitive child or simply l...2024-03-2651 minCalm the Chaos ParentingRedefining Connection: How to Communicate with PDA ChildrenEpisode 45: Today we are diving into the heart of parenting neurodivergent children with a focus on Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Our guest, Amy, shares her personal journey navigating the complexities of raising two neurodivergent children, shedding light on the often misunderstood topic of PDA. Discover how Amy transformed her approach to communication, moving beyond conventional parenting strategies that often led to frustration and disconnect. This episode offers a deep dive into the strategies that foster genuine connection, understanding, and empowerment for both parents and children facing similar challenges.Key Takeaways: Understanding Neurodivergence and PDA [00:02:00] - A...2024-03-1324 minMindful As A MotherS4e6; Differences in Parenting Styles (pt.2)
This week, we continue the conversation about parenting styles. Specifically, we’re talking communication, creating a united front, attending appointments together, showing the why and so. much. more. Tune in to hear real-life examples of dropping demands in parenting with your partner to better support your child together.
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Low Demand Parenting, by Amanda Diekman; Chapter 11
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90-Minute School DayEp. 13 - Don’t Let Demands Overwhelm You: Less is MoreDiscover a revolutionary approach to parenting and homeschooling!
Join host Kelly Edwards as she engages in a live recorded conversation with Amanda Diekman, author of "Low Demand Parenting” and Robyn Robertson of Honey! I’m Homeschooling the Kids.
Amanda walks us through her personal journey through burnout, breaking societal norms, and finding freedom outside conventional boxes. She shares practical tips for navigating demands, recognizing your capacity, and building trust with your children. If you're a parent seeking joy, healing, and a unique path, this episode is a must-listen.
In this episode we answer the...2023-12-301h 1090-Minute School DayEp. 13 - Don’t Let Demands Overwhelm You: Less is MoreDiscover a revolutionary approach to parenting and homeschooling!
Join host Kelly Edwards as she engages in a live recorded conversation with Amanda Diekman, author of "Low Demand Parenting” and Robyn Robertson of Honey! I’m Homeschooling the Kids.
Amanda walks us through her personal journey through burnout, breaking societal norms, and finding freedom outside conventional boxes. She shares practical tips for navigating demands, recognizing your capacity, and building trust with your children. If you're a parent seeking joy, healing, and a unique path, this episode is a must-listen.
In this episode we answer the...2023-12-301h 10
Special Needs Kids Are People Too!S3E48: Low-Demand ParentingI recorded this episode back in the spring before I got sick, and so Amanda's book, Low-Demand Parenting, has already been out for several months.The conversation we had was quite fascinating! As it turns out, Amanda Diekman is also an Autistic adult who thinks in patterns!I have found that when an Autistic adult who thinks in patterns writes a book, it is worth reading because it will help you understand exactly how everything fits together!Low-Demand Amanda is no different! In this episode she provides us with a great overview of...2023-12-1534 min
Journeys With PDA Coffee Chat PodcastEP 14: Season 1 Wrap Up!Send us a textIn this episode, Heather and Kerissa reminisce and chat about each episode from Season 1. We had such a fantastic first season! We learned so much from our amazing guests! We are so excited about Season 2 coming February '24!!Season 1Episode 1: Who We AreEpisode 2: PDA: What it is & Why we careEpisode 3: PDA vs. autistic avoidanceEpisode 4: Amanda Diekman, Low-Demand ParentingEpisode 5: No - We aren't all a little autistic2023-12-021h 44
The ReProgramLow Demand Parenting with Amanda DiekmanY'all. I haven't met another coach or clinician who is more aligned with me around parenting, the nervous system, and what that means for US adults as we navigate these bodies, lives, and the monumental task of parenting.
Amanda is here to offer a supremely refreshing perspective on how we need to peel back the layers of what we're doing and focus entirely on what is most critical-- meeting everyone's essential needs for safety and connection. Focusing on this base, we promote resiliency, learning, more regulated connected nervous systems, and healthy attachment relationships.
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The Peaceful Parenting Podcast128: Low Demand Parenting with Amanda DiekmanIn this episode, Amanda Diekman, an eminent advocate for low-demand parenting, discusses her own experiences as an autistic adult, and how it has shaped her parenting style. She also explains the core principles of low-demand parenting and emphasizes on building trustful relationships by being creatively supportive to meet the child's distinctive needs. We also look into the parental process of accommodating a child's neurodiversity, experiencing a sense of deep 'why', and their own need within it. We talk about: [6:40] What is low demand parenting and how did came to adopt it [10:35] Ho...2023-11-1555 min
Divergent ConversationsEpisode 26: Exploring Different Neurotypes: Ask an Autistic [featuring Amanda Diekman]Do you wonder how life might differ between an Autistic individual without ADHD and an Autistic individual with ADHD?In this episode, Patrick Casale and Dr. Megan Anna Neff, two AuDHD mental health professionals, talk with Amanda Diekman, mother of three neurodivergent children, and an author and coach in the neurodivergent-affirming parenting world, about her experiences as an Autistic individual without ADHD.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Understand some of the struggles, grief, and loss surrounding switching between a masked and unmasked self.Identify some of the ways that autism without...2023-11-031h 07
Neurodiversity PodcastLow-Demand Parenting: Bridging Divisions, Fostering TrustEntering the world of neurodiversity often enables personal discovery, and creates challenges. How can parenting nudge adults toward uncovering their own neurodivergence? What is 'low-demand parenting' all about? It’s not simply eliminating expectations, it’s deeper and more nuanced. We’re diving into the complex world of self-discovery and parenting with Amanda Diekman, a late-diagnosed autistic adult, and author of "Low Demand Parenting." Learn more about 2e students by taking our course, Strategies for Supporting Twice-Exceptional Students. It’s great for CE credits for educators, and the course will be enlightening to anyone curious about helping 2e studen...2023-10-1935 min
Uniquely Human: The PodcastLow-demand Parenting: with Amanda Diekman Amanda Diekman discusses and provides examples of the approach she refers to as “Low Demand Parenting” and presents this approach in contrast to advice often given to parents of autistic and other neurodivergent children. With her lived experience as a mother of three neurodivergent children, and as an autistic person, she challenges many mainstream beliefs about raising children, especially those who are defined as having behavioral patterns perceived as problematic by others. Her work prioritizes building trusting relationships focused on supporting the emotional growth and well-being of children. Find out more about this episode hereSee P...2023-10-131h 10
Out Of LineOOL_0044 Low Demand ParentingOn this episode of Out of Line, Amanda Diekman joins Annie Friday and Candis Ogilvie to talk about living in a low demand household. Amanda's new book Low Demand Parenting: Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection with Your Uniquely Wired Child came out this summer. It was an autism burnout, a term new to their family, that finally set them on a path toward this low-demand lifestyle that worked for them. With new diagnosis of neurodivergency in multiple family members, Amanda and family could reflect on each member's individual needs for flourishing. Redefining their family dynamics has given them...2023-09-1935 min
Sage FamilyLow Demand Parenting with Amanda Diekman“A demand is anything that is too hard in the present moment. And that can be for you or them. As a family, we have found the language of ‘too hard’ to be incredibly freeing. When things are hard, we show up, we do our best, we’re brave, we ask for help. And when things are too hard, we find a way to let it go.” Amanda Diekman joins me in today’s episode about Low Demand Parenting. Amanda is an autistic adult, parent coach and author in the neurodiversity space with a new Low Demand P...2023-09-0559 min
One Bad MotherEpisode 511: That's Going To Leave A Scar! with Amanda DiekmanWe're back! And burned out already! Amanda Diekman, founder and author of Low-Demand Parenting, joins Biz to discuss parenting PTSD, the trouble with masking, and opening a package of Oreos in the middle of the supermarket. Learn more about Amanda Diekman and her work on Low-Demand Parenting, by visiting her website, www.AmandaDiekman.com. Follow and contact Amanda on her Instagram, @lowdemandamanda.Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Go to MaximumFun.org/join to become a member! This week, we're sponsored by Bombas. Go to B...2023-08-191h 05Calm the Chaos Parenting21 Expert Tips for Parents Who Are Barely Surviving the ChaosEPISODE 18: Ever wished you could go back and talk to your younger self and tell them everything you wish you’d known?Well, in this week's podcast, we’re going to do just that.In it, we asked 21 parenting experts the same question: What message do you have for parents who are struggling, who are where you were at the start of your journey?Because parenting is hard. And sometimes, it can feel like we can barely keep our head above water. These experts are here to offer you a life...2023-08-0833 min
Raising WildlingsLow Demand Parenting with Amanda DiekmanSend us a textIf you’re anything like us, the title of today’s episode, “Low Demand Parenting”, made you take a hopeful gasp and wonder if low-demand parenting could actually work for your family and take some of the weight and pressure of parenting off of your chest. Well, after chatting with Amanda Diekman, author and leading voice in the neurodiversity parenting movement, I can honestly say I felt some of that weight lift as she gave me and all our listeners permission to say, ‘It’s too hard right now” and let some th...2023-07-261h 05
TILT Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent ChildrenTPP 335: Amanda Diekman Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection with Your Uniquely Wired ChildI’ve gotten to know today’s guest, Amanda Diekman, over the past year after I participated in her Low Demand Parenting Summit, which I know many of you attended, and more recently, read her new book, Low-demand Parenting: Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection With Your Uniquely Wired Child. Because low-demand parenting can be such an effective approach to supporting differently wired kids, especially kids who fall under the PDA profile of autism, I invited Amanda to join the show for a conversation about what this parenting approach looks like. An autistic adult, parent coach, and a...2023-07-1849 minTILT Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent ChildrenTPP 335: Amanda Diekman Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection with Your Uniquely Wired ChildI’ve gotten to know today’s guest, Amanda Diekman, over the past year after I participated in her Low Demand Parenting Summit, which I know many of you attended, and more recently, read her new book, Low-demand Parenting: Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection With Your Uniquely Wired Child. Because low-demand parenting can be such an effective approach to supporting differently wired kids, especially kids who fall under the PDA profile of autism, I invited Amanda to join the show for a conversation about what this parenting approach looks like. An autistic adult, parent coach, and a...2023-07-1849 minThe Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}Ep. 142: Exploring Low Demand Parenting: Shifting Power Dynamics and Nurturing TrustWhat if I told you that there's a revolutionary approach to parenting that's shifting the traditional power dynamics and nurturing stronger relationships of trust and understanding? My latest conversation with Amanda Diekman, author of the groundbreaking book "Low Demand Parenting", explores this very concept. Together, we tread into the challenging terrain of parenting children with highly sensitive nervous systems, sharing insightful strategies and breakthrough research work of Ross Green, Mona Delahooke, and Stuart Shanker.In this episode you’ll learn:What is low-demand parentingHow to create a post-meltdown plan for parentsResources me...2023-07-181h 04
Consent-Based EverythingLow Demand Life with Amanda DiekmanI chat to Amanda Diekman, parent coach and autistic mother of neurodivergent children, about Low-Demand Parenting, her journey to celebrating her family's Neurodiversity, and her new book! It's a beautiful chat and we talk about radical acceptance, permissiveness, inner work and so much more.
You can find Amanda on instagram @lowdemandamanda
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Journeys With PDA Coffee Chat PodcastEP 4: Special Guest Amanda Diekman: Low-Demand Parenting -Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)Send us a textHeather & Kerissa chat with special guest Amanda Diekman author of the soon to be released book "Low-Demand Parenting". Amanda shares about her family's journey through Pathological Demand Avoidance, autistic burnout, crisis and the path they took to find peace and healing.Amanda is a coach and has many helpful courses and resources to support parents.Visit her website: https://www.amandadiekman.com/Take her quiz, Why is it all so hard? https://www.amandadiekman.com/quizPre-order her book: Low-Demand Parenting https://www.amandadiekman.com/book...2023-05-2748 min
ASKbysParenting and Neurodiversity: A Conversation about Parenting Neurodivergent ChildrenIn this episode, we invite you to join Bainbridge Island parent, Christy Remedios, and co-founders of Neurodiverse Connections; Marcee Ben-Menachem, licenced therapist who specializes in neurodivergent populations and Meg Wolf, chairperson of Neurodiverse Connections, for an informative conversation about parenting neurodivergent youth and understanding the world of neurodiversity. Additional Resources: From Meg: If you want to reference any other resources, I recommend: Tilt Parenting Podcast -focuses on parenting ND kiddos. The Neurodiversity Podcast- hosted by a LMHC and tends to focus more on 2e (gifted plus other ND identity).2023-05-0346 min
Keep Calm Mother On! with Christy Thomas331. Low Demand Parenting with Amanda DiekmanSign up for Christy's Saturday Morning Emails Want to try a coaching call-- sign up for a free 30-minute call: https://calendly.com/christythomas/exploratory-call-free GOOD ENOUGH MOM SOCIETY (christythomascoaching.com) You are exactly the right mom for your kids. I am so glad to know you. 331. Low Demand Parenting Amanda Diekman is a late-diagnosed autistic adult and parent coach in the area of low-demand parenting. Known online as "low demand Amanda," Amanda promotes a parenting approach of dropping demands and alignin...2023-03-2442 min
The Unschool Space#35 Healing, trust, and low demand parenting. Unschooling and PDA, with Amanda Diekman in North CarolinaMy guest this episode is Amanda Diekman. Amanda lives in North Carolina with her husband and three sons, who are 6, 8 and 10. Amanda’s journey to unschooling started with her 8 year-old who is autistic, PDA and the reality that school was a difficult and traumatic experience for him. Her 10 year old son, who is also autistic later chose also to leave school. We talk about how we can meet the needs of a PDA child, and how essential it is that we leave behind any mainstream ideas about parenting and education that are unlikely to serve us. Amanda ta...2023-01-3151 min
Beautifully Complex206: Low Demand Parenting, with Amanda DiekmanLow demand parenting doesn’t mean that we dismiss all expectations of a child and let them do whatever they want. Instead, low demand parenting means dropping demands and reducing expectations in order to meet kids with radical acceptance. AS Amanda Diekman explains in this episode, the purpose of the low demand life is to find ease and joy. But how exactly do you shift from the high demand parenting that’s instinctual to most people to low demand parenting? Amanda explains that you start with radical acceptance and respecting the child’s boundaries. Listen in to hear her explain all si...2023-01-2638 min
Grow UpEpisode 24: Growing Up with Parent Coach & Author Amanda DiekmanI'M BACK!!!! Holy moly - that was a very long, unplanned hiatus! SO happy to be recording again! Thanks for being here.
There truly is no better way to kick it back off than with this incredible conversation with parent coach & author, Amanda Diekman. Amanda walks us through the "low demand" lifestyle and the JOY that comes right along with it. She helps us understand the difference between "hard" and "too hard" when posed with the question, "when should I push and when should I accommodate?" Yes, this episode is long, but it's also packed so FULL...2023-01-101h 32
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Two Sides of the SpectrumHow to Reduce Adult Demands to Increase Autistic Joy with Amanda DiekmanThere’s a tool that is missing from most of our therapy bags: it’s lowering the demands for our Autistic clients. This tool is irreplaceable for helping Autistic people recover from the burnout cycle, and even for preventing burnout all together. Amanda Diekman (“Low Demand Amanda”) helps us figure out how to do just that.
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Navigating the Spectrum with Michele PortlockE66- Amanda Diekman and Low Demand ParentingThis episode with Amanda Diekman focuses on low-demand parenting. Amanda tells us what it is, who it benefits, and why she uses low-demand parenting herself. Amanda has also written a book on low-demand parenting that will be out in the near future. 2022-11-0819 minLow Demand ParentingLow Demand Holidays: Deep Why2022-11-0600 minLow Demand ParentingQ&A 10/252022-10-2600 minLow Demand ParentingMy Autism Diagnosis: How it empowers my low demand approach2022-10-2600 minLow Demand ParentingQ&A 10/18How to set goals with the state education organization to support low demand priorities? Time stamp: 1:10-6:40Question 2: When and how to tell a child about their PDA diagnosis? Time stamp: 6:41-11:04Question 3: My child is already melting down over their birthday in two weeks, wanting everything on their list, and asking for new things every day. Time stamp: 11:05-17:23Question 4: Is low demand parenting a privilege? Time stamp: 17:24-22:522022-10-1900 minLow Demand ParentingWhen you're tempted to use high demand2022-10-1200 minLow Demand ParentingQ&A2022-10-1200 minLow Demand ParentingHow to move from reactive to proactive parentingThe steps to adjust from a more in-the-moment, reactive parenting style to a planned, thoughtful, mindful, and informed proactive parenting style.2022-10-1200 minLow Demand ParentingQ&A 10/112022-10-1200 minLow Demand ParentingSiblingsTeacher Amanda Diekman explores the nuance of healing sibling relationships after a break-down in trust through aggression, fighting, hurtful words, meltdowns, etc. Then, she shares how to learn from this painful situation in order to make a proactive plan going forward.2022-10-1200 minLow Demand ParentingQ&A 9/27Question 1: Unschooling Time stamp: 0:00-6:50How to do unschooling, particularly math? Unschooling in the teen years?Additional Resources:https://www.unschoolingmom2mom.com/can-unschoolers-get-into-collegehttps://www.unschoolingmom2mom.com/unschooling-teens-and-transcripts-how-does-that-workQuestion 2: How to protect a little baby from enthusiastic older siblings' germs Time stamp: 6:51-10:14Question 3: Period difficulty and a doctor with high demands Time stamp: 10:15-15:56Question 4: How to stop asking so many questions! Time stamp: 15:57-22:09Declarative Lang...2022-10-0700 minLow Demand ParentingQ&A 10/6Question 1: How to use the idea of "space" without it becoming a demandTimestamp: 1:11-4:44Question 2: How to problem solve sleeping away from homeTimestamp: 4:45-10:02Question 3: When our kiddo says "But aren't I the most important thing?" when we have to separate or do other thingsTimestamp: 10:03-15:14Question 4: Child with a constant craving for sweets. How do I accept this and help her?Timestamp: 15:15-20:06Prior food q’s:- Q&A 9/20, question 5...2022-10-0700 min