Shows
The Happy GynecologistEP#268: I'd Rather Be Lucky than GoodToday we are exploring how we can use luck to battle perfectionism and imposter syndrome. To save your spot in the next Happy Gynecologist Group visit: coach-miles.com/saveEmail: amanda@coach-miles.comIG: CoachMilesMDKeywords: physician burnout, burnout, imposter syndrome, burnout recovery, luck, perfectionism, OB/GYN
2025-11-2029 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#266: OBGYN Life HappensOur lives as OB/GYN's can be wild and messy. We sometimes have no control over when we will be require to stay late for a delivery or get called to do an emergency surgery. Creating more balance requires us to live by a different set of rules than we are used to, which is exactly what I am going to teach you in this episode. Links:To listen to Episode #36: https://coach-miles.com/ep36-how-to-handle-the-shit-show/For more free help from me, visit: coach-miles.com/freeresources
2025-11-0621 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#265: The Gift of TimeI love giving gifts to other people--so this is my gift to you. Today I am going to teach you about The Gift of Time, what it is, how to give it, and how to receive it. Let's find time to chat and make a personalized burnout plan for you: https://coach-miles.com/4584-2/ Or send me an email: amanda@coach-miles.com
2025-10-2331 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#258: 5 Things You Need to Hear Right NowSometimes, you need to hear it from a Friend, so I am sharing with you the 5 things you need to hear right now. Links: To join the next Happy Gynecologist Group visit: coach-miles.com/saveTo learn more and sign up, visit: coach-miles.com/happy
2025-09-0417 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#250: The Neutral Thought TrickI've got a trick that will help you start to process a bad day, a rough case, or any other problem in your life, so you can start to feel better and move forward. Some exciting gifts for you!Join me for my upcoming FREE webinar "Quit Your Burnout, Not Your Job" by registering here: coach-miles.com/quitHere's a gift for you! Download The Busy OB/GYN's Quickstart Guide to Ending Burnout by clicking here: coach-miles.com/quickstart
2025-07-1022 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#248: Care for CarersIt can feel shitty to realize that no one at work cares about you. I've been there. Today, let's talk about the best ways we can care for ourselves and decrease our burnout. Links: Email me to set up a Zoom chat: amanda@coach-miles.comCheck out The Happy Gynecologist Group: coach-miles.com/happy
2025-06-2636 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#247: What it's like to be CoachedSummary: In this episode, we discuss what it's like to be coached and the power of a coaching session. I will even give you an opportunity to get coached by me to see if it is something you would benefit from!Mentioned in this Episode: To set up a Coaching Consult call with me, send an email to: amanda@coach-miles.comTo join The Happy Gynecologist Group: coach-miles.com/happyIn This Episode You Will Learn: Coaching is for everyone, regardless of their current state.You don't...
2025-06-1914 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#237: Radical AcceptanceIn this episode of the Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the concept of radical acceptance, explaining its significance in managing life's challenges, particularly in the medical field. She emphasizes that radical acceptance is not about approval or resignation but about acknowledging reality to regain personal power and emotional energy. Through practical examples and exercises, Amanda guides listeners on how to practice radical acceptance in their daily lives, ultimately encouraging them to choose peace and empowerment over resistance.Website: coach-miles.comFind me on Instagram @CoachMilesMDKeywords: radical acceptance, mental health, emotional well-being, mindfulness...
2025-04-1017 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#237: Radical AcceptanceIn this episode of the Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the concept of radical acceptance, explaining its significance in managing life's challenges, particularly in the medical field. She emphasizes that radical acceptance is not about approval or resignation but about acknowledging reality to regain personal power and emotional energy. Through practical examples and exercises, Amanda guides listeners on how to practice radical acceptance in their daily lives, ultimately encouraging them to choose peace and empowerment over resistance.
Website: coach-miles.com
Find me on Instagram @CoachMilesMD
Keywords: radical acceptance, mental health, emotional well-being, mindfulness, self-care...
2025-04-1000 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#237: Radical AcceptanceIn this episode of the Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the concept of radical acceptance, explaining its significance in managing life's challenges, particularly in the medical field. She emphasizes that radical acceptance is not about approval or resignation but about acknowledging reality to regain personal power and emotional energy. Through practical examples and exercises, Amanda guides listeners on how to practice radical acceptance in their daily lives, ultimately encouraging them to choose peace and empowerment over resistance.
Website: coach-miles.com
Find me on Instagram @CoachMilesMD
Keywords: radical acceptance, mental health, emotional well-being, mindfulness, self-care...
2025-04-1000 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#233: Boundaries Don't Make You a BitchBoundaries are essential for preventing burnout, and often as OB/GYN's we aren't great at enforcing strong boundaries. In this episode, we will talk about the importance of having strong boundaries. To register for my FREE workshop How to Build Better Boundaries, sign up here: coach-miles.com/boundariesIf you would like to learn more about the Happy Gynecologist Group coaching program, visit coach-miles.com/happy
2025-03-1321 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#232: How to Get Out of ANY FunkSummaryIn this episode, Amanda discusses a structured approach to overcoming feelings of dissatisfaction and mediocrity through a 30-day reset. She emphasizes the importance of setting measurable goals, confronting negative emotions, and creating a detailed plan to achieve personal growth. The conversation covers practical steps for accountability, time management, and prioritizing self-care, encouraging listeners to commit to their goals and embrace the process of change.Website: coach-miles.com/freeresourcesKeywords: 30-day reset, self-care, goal setting, overcoming mediocrity, emotional awareness, accountability, time management...
2025-03-0644 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#230: Holding SpaceThings are hard right now. Today I'm teaching you a tool that may help you right now, and I'm assigning homework!Reach out any time! Email me at amanda@coach-miles.com or find me on social media @CoachMilesMD
2025-02-2000 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#218: Shame FishSummary:
In this episode of the Happy Gynecologist, Amanda delves into the concept of shame and its impact on self-perception through a personal story about her experience with goldfish. She explores how feelings of shame can lead to negative self-talk and actions, and introduces the thought model as a tool for understanding and reframing these emotions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of compassion towards oneself, especially in the face of perceived failures, and encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences with shame and self-judgment.
Links: coach-miles.com/happy
2024-12-0537 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#216: The Next Best StepsSummary: In this episode of The Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the importance of focusing on the next best steps amidst uncertainty and anxiety. She emphasizes grounding oneself in the present moment and trusting inner wisdom. Through the Starfish Story, she illustrates how individual actions can make a significant difference, even when the larger situation seems overwhelming. Amanda encourages persistence in the face of challenges and highlights the importance of community support during difficult times.
Links: coach-miles.com/happy
Takeaways
It's essential to focus on the next best step.
Grounding ourselves in...
2024-11-2120 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#214: If Your Brain is Losing its ShitSummary:
In this episode of The Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the emotional aftermath of the recent election, emphasizing the importance of recognizing that our feelings are shaped by our thoughts rather than external circumstances. She offers practical advice for managing anxiety, including grounding techniques, community connection, and the importance of processing emotions. Amanda encourages listeners to embrace their feelings, particularly anger, and to channel it into positive action while also advocating for self-care and unplugging from social media.
Takeaways
Elections can evoke a wide range of emotions, and it's important to...
2024-11-0737 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#212: Consistent vs. PersistentSummary
In this episode of The Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the importance of self-care and the common struggle between consistency and perfectionism. She emphasizes the need for hobbies and personal time outside of work and parenting, and how the pressure to be consistent can lead to feelings of inadequacy. Amanda encourages listeners to redefine consistency as persistence, highlighting that showing up imperfectly is still valuable. She provides practical advice on scheduling self-care and embracing the human experience of imperfection, ultimately reinforcing that persistence is key to achieving personal goals and reducing burnout.
Links:
coach-miles...
2024-10-3126 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#211: Negative Bias BurnoutSummary
In this episode, Amanda discusses the concept of negative bias in our brains and how it contributes to burnout, particularly in high-stress jobs. She explains the roles of the primitive brain and the prefrontal cortex, emphasizing the importance of awareness and strategies to combat negative thinking. Amanda provides practical steps for managing stress and promoting emotional well-being, including self-care practices and the significance of journaling.
Links:
EP#211 Guide
Coach-miles.com/freeresources
Takeaways:
Our brains are inherently made to view things negatively.
The primitive brain drives our survival instincts and can lead...
2024-10-2435 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#210: Becoming Comfortable with DiscomfortSummary
In this episode of The Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the importance of becoming comfortable with discomfort, particularly emotional discomfort. She reflects on her recent ocular emergency and how it served as a reminder of the challenges we face in dealing with our emotions. Amanda emphasizes that society often teaches us to suppress our feelings, leading to difficulties in setting boundaries and asking for help. She outlines strategies for embracing discomfort, including recognizing that life is a balance of positive and negative emotions, practicing microdoses of discomfort, and allowing ourselves to sit with our feelings. The conversation...
2024-10-1733 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#210: Becoming Comfortable with DiscomfortSummary
In this episode of The Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the importance of becoming comfortable with discomfort, particularly emotional discomfort. She reflects on her recent ocular emergency and how it served as a reminder of the challenges we face in dealing with our emotions. Amanda emphasizes that society often teaches us to suppress our feelings, leading to difficulties in setting boundaries and asking for help. She outlines strategies for embracing discomfort, including recognizing that life is a balance of positive and negative emotions, practicing microdoses of discomfort, and allowing ourselves to sit with our feelings. The conversation...
2024-10-1733 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#207: 3 Truths About ConfidenceSummary:
In this episode of the Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the importance of confidence for OB-GYNs, emphasizing that confidence is not an innate trait but rather a skill that can be developed through practice. She outlines three key truths about confidence: it is a practice, it is not dependent on being liked by everyone, and it is heavily influenced by self-talk. Amanda encourages listeners to embrace discomfort, accept rejection, and cultivate positive self-talk to enhance their confidence in both personal and professional settings.
Links:
coach-miles.com/freeresources
...
2024-09-2636 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#207: 3 Truths About ConfidenceSummary:
In this episode of the Happy Gynecologist, Amanda discusses the importance of confidence for OB-GYNs, emphasizing that confidence is not an innate trait but rather a skill that can be developed through practice. She outlines three key truths about confidence: it is a practice, it is not dependent on being liked by everyone, and it is heavily influenced by self-talk. Amanda encourages listeners to embrace discomfort, accept rejection, and cultivate positive self-talk to enhance their confidence in both personal and professional settings.
Links:
coach-miles.com/freeresources
Chapters:
2024-09-2600 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#204: How to ACTUALLY Have Hobbies (Webinar Replay)This episode is a replay of Amanda's recent webinar "How to ACTUALLY Have Hobbies as a Busy OB/GYN." Even if you have hobbies you love, this episode is for you! Amanda will walk you through a doable plan to find more time to enjoy your hobbies, with less guilt, and more enjoyment.
Check out The Happy Gynecologist Group, Amanda's 6 Month Group Coaching Program, by visiting: coach-miles.com/happy
2024-09-0500 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#204: How to ACTUALLY Have Hobbies (Webinar Replay)This episode is a replay of Amanda's recent webinar "How to ACTUALLY Have Hobbies as a Busy OB/GYN." Even if you have hobbies you love, this episode is for you! Amanda will walk you through a doable plan to find more time to enjoy your hobbies, with less guilt, and more enjoyment.
Check out The Happy Gynecologist Group, Amanda's 6 Month Group Coaching Program, by visiting: coach-miles.com/happy
2024-09-051h 12The Happy GynecologistEP#202: Pushing Through Doesn’t WorkSummary: In this episode, Amanda discusses the concept of pushing through as a survival strategy and why it doesn't work when it comes to burnout. She emphasizes the importance of taking care of ourselves and meeting our basic needs instead of constantly pushing through. Amanda provides steps to break the habit of pushing through, including gaining awareness of where we do it, choosing one area to focus on, and making a plan to support ourselves in that area. She encourages practicing self-care and being present in the moment to find enjoyment in our daily lives.
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2024-08-2200 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#202: Pushing Through Doesn't WorkSummary: In this episode, Amanda discusses the concept of pushing through as a survival strategy and why it doesn't work when it comes to burnout. She emphasizes the importance of taking care of ourselves and meeting our basic needs instead of constantly pushing through. Amanda provides steps to break the habit of pushing through, including gaining awareness of where we do it, choosing one area to focus on, and making a plan to support ourselves in that area. She encourages practicing self-care and being present in the moment to find enjoyment in our daily lives.
2024-08-2234 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#201: Old Belief StressSummary: In this episode, we discuss the concept of 'old belief stress' and how it can cause anxiety and stress in our lives. Old belief stress refers to the stress that arises when we try to make changes or take actions that go against our old beliefs and training. Amanda even shares a personal experience of feeling stressed when her schedule changed and she had fewer patients. She explains that this stress comes from old beliefs that we have internalized and need to change in order to create a healthier mindset. The host emphasizes the importance of examining our...
2024-08-1500 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#201: Old Belief StressSummary: In this episode, we discuss the concept of 'old belief stress' and how it can cause anxiety and stress in our lives. Old belief stress refers to the stress that arises when we try to make changes or take actions that go against our old beliefs and training. Amanda even shares a personal experience of feeling stressed when her schedule changed and she had fewer patients. She explains that this stress comes from old beliefs that we have internalized and need to change in order to create a healthier mindset. The host emphasizes the importance of examining our...
2024-08-1529 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#200: How Hobbies Help BurnoutSummary:
In this episode, we celebrate the 200th episode of the Happy Gynecologist podcast and discusses the importance of hobbies in combating burnout. Amanda encourages listeners to find a hobby that activates the non-burnout part of their brain and reconnects them with joy and creativity. Hobbies don't have to be complicated or time-consuming and can be simple activities like gardening, doodling, or spending time with pets.
There is also an upcoming webinar on 8/25/2024 at 7:30PM CST, and you won't want to miss out on: "How to ACTUALLY Have Hobbies as a Busy OBGYN."
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2024-08-0825 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#199: HOPE.Summary:
In this episode, Amanda discusses the concept of hope and its importance in facing challenges and overcoming burnout. She acknowledges that hope is often seen as a negative or ineffective strategy, but argues that it is actually a powerful emotion that can drive positive actions. Amanda shares personal experiences and emphasizes the need for confidence and self-love in order to maintain hope. She encourages listeners to identify what gives them hope and to have their own backs, knowing that they will be okay no matter the outcome.
Links:
Coach-miles.com/happy
Coach-miles.com...
2024-08-0131 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#197: Questioning PerfectionismSummary: In this episode, we discuss the topic of perfectionism and its downsides. I will share my own personal experiences and observations of perfectionism in the medical field.
As we work through perfectionism, I encourage you to question your own perfectionist tendencies by using empowering questions to challenge your own thoughts.
Takeaways:
Perfectionism can have downsides and lead to burnout.
Questioning perfectionist tendencies is important for personal growth.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a demonstration of leadership.
Trusting others and delegating tasks can...
2024-07-1837 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#181: If You Weren't Doing This...Sometimes we wonder whether we made the right decision becoming an OB/GYN.
And sometimes we question if we even want to do this anymore.
While questioning like this often can be related to burnout, that doesn't mean it can't help you move forward!
In today's episode, I am coaching you through what to do when your brain offers questions like this and how to redirect your brain to be more solutions-focused when considering your answers!
If you are interested in reserving a spot for the May Happy Gynecologist Group coaching...
2024-03-2824 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#176: Am I the Asshole? (#1)Am I the Asshole?
The answer will probably always be no coming from me, unless you need some real talk. However, unlike other podcasts that answer this question, I am also going to coach you through what you are facing.
Join me today for the first in our series of "Am I The Asshole?" episodes, where we will work through your practical OB/GYN struggles together.
If you would like to submit an anonymous question to a future episode, send an email to amanda...
2024-02-2234 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#164: When Leaving is HardWhen faced with ANY decision, including leaving your job, things can feel really hard. Today I will walk you through the process that I recommend for anyone that is faced with leaving (or making any big decision in their life).
Links:
Find me on Instagram!
Find me on Facebook!
Email me at: amanda@coach-miles.com
Visit my website: Coach-Miles.com
2023-11-3030 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#163: 3 Ways to Stop the Year-End HustleThe Year-End Hustle can be exhausting, and we as OB/GYN's need tools to get through the end of the year without sacrificing our well-being.
Instead of enjoying the holidays, many of us feel overwhelmed and exhausted. And it's hard to like your job when you feel that way.
Today, I am giving 3 ways to avoid the hustle all together.
Links mentioned in today's episode:
https://coach-miles.com/ep14-people-pleasing/
https://coach-miles.com/ep130-fawn-mode/
2023-11-2327 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#156: Listener Q&A (What if I don't have feelings? How do I start processing feelings? What to do if you're freaking out?)In this episode, I am answering your questions, including:
What if I don't feel anything? Like I don't have feelings?
How do you start processing your feelings?
What do you do if you're freaking out?
How do you send safety signals to your brain?
In this episode, I am giving you the exact actions and steps you need to start working on these topics and more.
If you'd like your question answered on the podcast, send an email to: amanda@coach-miles.com
2023-10-0522 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#153: Behind the ScenesToday I am sharing some of the exciting things happening behind the scenes at The Happy Gynecologist Headquarters, and some of the lessons I am learning along the way. (You'll definitely want to hear about what I learned when it comes to worrying FOR my kids). Also, did you know I get to MEET some of you soon???
In today's episode, I am looking for your feedback--I wanna hear from you, so send me an email at: amanda@coach-miles.com
For more free help from me, don't forget to...
2023-09-1419 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#133: The Worker Bees of MedicineI was recently asked why I referenced Bees so much when talking about OB/GYN's, and the reason is simple: OB/GYN's are the Worker Bees of medicine. We juggle a million roles, we work tirelessly, we take care of others, and we keep the world going.
The problem is, whether we are talking about honey bees or burnt-out bees, our numbers are declining. I don't know the solution to declining honey bees, but I definitely know what it takes to address the burnt-out OB/GYN problem. I know because I have been there, a...
2023-04-2737 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#125: ExerciseI don't like to exercise. (There, I said it!) But I recently started a journey to move my body in a kind and loving way again. Not from a place of fear or scarcity or to find myself more acceptable, but from a place of love for myself. Today, I am sharing with you the process I took to accomplish that. Whether you love to exercise or haven't in years, this episode will teach you some vital things about the mindset of exercise.
To join the March Happy Gynecologist Group, visit: coach-miles.com/enroll
To l...
2023-03-0230 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#116: How to Handle Complications and Bad Outcomes (Like a Boss)In the next two episodes, I am gifting you a comprehensive guide to managing your mind surrounding surgery by sharing with you the archived recordings of my two most popular webinars.
In the first half (today's episode), you will learn how to process your emotions and manage your mind when it comes to complications and bad outcomes.
As always, you can always find me on Instagram @CoachMilesMD or by reaching out to me at: amanda@coach-miles.com
2022-12-291h 25The Happy GynecologistEP#108: The Top 10 Things My Coach Taught MeCoaching has taught me so many valuable tools and lessons over the years, both from getting coached and coaching clients. Today I am passing along 10 of the most life-altering lessons I have learned from getting coached. I want to give you the wisdom that helped me take back my power and become the person I am today, free of burnout.
I also want to know what your top lessons are from the podcast! Send me an email at amanda@coach-miles.com or find me on Instagram and Facebook by searching CoachMilesMD
2022-11-0339 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#101: Indulgent EmotionsToday we are talking about Indulgent Emotions, when they arise for us, and how they keep us stuck.
To register for my upcoming Coffee with Coach: 3 Steps to Enjoying This Job Again click here: coach-miles.com/coffee
To submit a podcast topic, click here: coach-miles.com/podcasttopic
2022-09-1537 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#97: How to Juggle All the ThingsEver feel like you are juggling everything? Like if someone asked you to do one more thing, everything would fall apart?
Today, I want to equip you with some tools so that you don't have to be overwhelmed by all of the balls you have in the air.
Links mentioned in today's episode:
For my free course, enter your info here: coach-miles.com/freeresources
To submit a topic to be featured on the podcast, click here: coach-miles.com/podcasttopic
2022-08-1831 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#96: How to Get Out of Survival ModeI used to live in survival-mode back when I was burnt-out. I recently found myself there again and was able to get out in 10 minutes, using the 2 steps I am going to teach you today.
To get my Free Course (3 Steps to End Your Burnout) click here: coach-miles.com/freeresources
To submit a podcast topic for me to cover on an upcoming podcast, click here: coach-miles.com/podcasttopic
To tell me how you did on my 30 Day, 10 minutes and 2 Steps Challenge, send me an email: amanda@coach-miles.com
2022-08-1131 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#95: "It's all my fault"As OB/GYN's we are often haunted by certain cases or events in our career. We get stuck and have a hard time moving on. This can be due to an underlying thought of "It's all my fault." This subtle thought and those that come with it can keep us stuck, and unable to process what happened. Most of us don't even realize that we are blaming ourselves. Today, I am going to walk you through the steps to moving forward and releasing yourself from blame.
Links:
To submit a topic for an upcoming Q&A po...
2022-08-0438 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#94: ResentmentResentment was a HUGE part of my burnout. I felt it most when comparing myself to others, even those that I loved. Today, I want to talk about how I struggled with this emotion and how to start identifying where it might be showing up for you. When we can identify resentment better, we can start meeting our needs better, and reduce our burnout.
To get on the Priority Enrollment List for the next Happy Gynecologist Group, enter your info here: coach-miles.com/enroll
To get more free help from me, visit the free resource area of my w...
2022-07-2832 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#92: 3 Good ThingsI am going to teach you the tool called 3 Good Things. This amazingly simple tool (created by Dr. J Bryan Sexton) can reduce burnout by up to 22% if you do it before bed for 2 weeks.
Episode Links and Notes:
Coffee with Coach (3 Steps to Enjoying This Job Again) is Saturday July 16th at 9amCST. Register (FREE) here: coach-miles.com/coffee
Get the help you need by becoming a member of The Happy Gynecologist Group. Enrollment is OPEN for August and the spots won't last long. Click here to snag a spot: coach-miles.com/enroll
2022-07-1411 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#87: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself When Ruminating and WorryingDo you ever ruminate or worry all night after a tough case? Or after a patient complaint? Or with current events?
After recently finding my brain going down the proverbial rabbit hole of rumination and worry, I spent some time really working on how to get out. I want to share with you my process for doing the same, by asking yourself 3 simple questions.
To save your spot for August (remember, we are only taking 7 New Members in August), visit: coach-miles.com/SAVE
To register for the next Coffee with Coach, visit: coach-miles.c...
2022-06-0931 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#83: How to Harness Your Top 3 FeelingsWe are going to be talking feelings today Y'all. I know we as OB/GYN's are so good at stuffing them down. We want to avoid even talking about them or maybe evening listening to a podcast about them...but hear me out! Today I want to teach you an exercise for how you can put feelings to good use in your life. I am going to teach you how feelings can be useful in driving your forward and for helping you be the person you strive to be.
Also, enrollment for the June Happy Gynecologist Group i...
2022-05-1238 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#80: Being Needy vs. Having NeedsThe term "needy" often comes with negative connotations in our society and sometimes we confuse this term with simply having needs. Today I am going to delve into why it matters AND why you should consider dropping this term from your vocabulary all together.
Join me for Coffee with Coach ("How to Gain Confidence in the O.R.") on Saturday May 7th at 9am CST: coach-miles.com/coffee
To save your spot in the June Happy Gynecologist Group, place your deposit here: coach-miles.com/SAVE
2022-04-2131 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#69: Emotional ExhaustionEmotional exhaustion is not only one of the main components of burnout, but is a sign that you need to stop and re-evaluate how things are going for you. Emotional exhaustion can be a difficult thing to deal with and is a sign that you may be avoiding your emotions too often. Let me walk you through the 3 main ways that we, as OB/GYNs, get emotionally exhausted and how to start working on them.
Click here to sign up for my next Coffee with Coach: coach-miles.com/coffee
Click here to learn more and e...
2022-02-0340 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#63: Support at HomeLiving this crazy life as an OB/GYN isn't always easy, and it is much easier when we feel supported. But what do you do if you aren't feeling that support at home? Today I am going to walk you through an excellent listener question that touches on relationships, housework, The Patriarchy, when the division of work isn't fair, and where the feeling of support actually comes from.
You can also submit a question you'd like answered or a topic you'd like me to talk about by going here: coach-miles.com/podcasttopic
We are also...
2021-12-2332 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#62: Conflict in the Call GroupDo you ever disagree with how your partners manage patients? Do you ever find yourself on the receiving end of a judgmental sign-out? Do you ever find yourself judging your partners harshly for how they manage patients?
We have all been there at some point! Today's episode is another listener topic and will walk you through several scenarios and how to handle the conflict within the call group.
If you'd like to submit a topic or have your question answered on the podcast, go to: coach-miles.com/podcasttopic
2021-12-1632 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#61: Transitioning from Work to HomeToday we are talking about making the transition from work to home a better one. By being intentional about de-stressing and planning ahead of time to do so, we can make our time at home more enjoyable and feel more present. Today, I will walk you through several ways to do this and how to apply them to your life.
If you'd like to submit a topic to be featured or a question to be answered, go to coach-miles.com/podcasttopic
2021-12-0929 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#60: Imposter SyndromeHave you ever felt that you are an imposter? Have you ever felt that you needed to prove yourself as a doc? Have you ever worried about what people would think if the really knew you?
These are all variations of Imposter Syndrome, which can show up for us in many ways as OB/GYN's. The downside often results in burnout.
Join me today to learn why we often get this mindset and how to address it.
I would also love it if you joined me for Coffee with Coach this Saturday December 4th...
2021-12-0229 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#59: How to Get Through the Holidays Without the DramaDo you struggle with the holidays or with the end of year hustle at the office? This episode is for you. Today I am going to walk you through 5 examples of how to get rid of the drama, now and all year long. Whether it's dealing with relatives, procrastinating, patients wanting in before January 1st, being on call, or overeating/overdrinking--let's make a plan to deal with it together.
Also, I want you to come have coffee with me! I have another Coffee with Coach coming up on December 4th at 8am CST, to register for this f...
2021-11-2539 minThe Happy Gynecologist(BONUS) Coffee with Coach: Morning RoutinesThis BONUS episode is a recording of the first Coffee with Coach session that I hosted. So sit back, grab a cup of coffee, snuggle in your jammies and let me chat with you. Today's topic is all about morning routines and how they can set us up for success and decrease our burnout.
If you would like more free help from me, check out my free course. To register for instant access, go to: coach-miles.com/opt-in
2021-11-2059 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#58: What to do if You Hate CallThis week we are going to be talking about how we collectively tend to think that Call Sucks. This is a solid belief and is true for many of us as OB/GYNs, but thinking this way tends to lead us to have terrible life experiences leading up to and while on call. Come listen in today to learn how to start to shift how you think about call in order to have a better experience of it and to prevent burnout.
Also, don't forget to register to come have coffee with me on Saturday November 20th a...
2021-11-1834 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#57: What Motivates UsWant to know what motivates us as humans? Anything we can do to avoid pain, get dopamine, and conserve energy. So how are we able to take care of ourselves when we are wired to not do anything except sit around, snack and scroll our phones? Come listen to today's episode where we will be discussing just this!
Also, I want to invite you to come have coffee with me! Join me on Saturday, November 20th at 9AM CST for Coffee With Coach! We will be chatting about morning routines that can help us get out of...
2021-11-1126 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#56: Be Curious, Not JudgmentalWhen one of my favorite TV show characters said "Be Curious, Not Judgmental" I really took that to heart. When we are coming from a curious mindset, we are wondering and learning and exploring. We aren't criticizing or judging. Let's dive into how to employ this tactic in our every day lives. I'll also give you examples of how it can change our patient care and how we treat ourselves.
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2021-11-0423 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#54: Life Lessons from Oral boardsToday I share my top 5 life lessons that I learned from taking my oral boards and how they apply to life now. So if you are preparing for boards, or long past that, there is something for everyone in this episode!
You can get more free help from me on my website: Coach-Miles.com/freeresources
2021-10-2125 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#53: How Rotten Pumpkins Changed My LifeToday, in honor of pumpkin season, I want to tell you a story about how some rotten pumpkins exemplified my burnout journey and what I learned from it that truly changed my life. This experience changed how I view myself as a mom and as a doctor and has helped fix my burnout. Let me share what I learned to help you on your burnout journey.
If I can help you change your life in any of these ways, please let me know! Send me an email at amanda@coach-miles.com and we can set up a t...
2021-10-1419 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#52: Crazy SchedulesI'm going to tell you a story of how a scheduling mishap led to me to make several realizations about my work schedule. Today I'll teach you the lessons I learned and help you figure out your crazy schedule too.
If you'd like to learn more or enroll in The Happy Gynecologist Group, click here: coach-miles.com/happy
2021-10-0719 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#51: A Year of HappyThe Happy Gynecologist is 1 Year Old! In this episode, I will be telling you about my story of how I got here, and the things I have learned over the last year. This is an excellent episode to review any time you are feeling stressed or burnt-out, as it is all of my favorite burn-out teachings rolled into one jam-packed episode.
Enrollment for The Happy Gynecologist Group is open and I want you to join me! Click here to learn more and enroll: Coach-miles.com/happy
2021-09-3029 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#50: How to Keep Going During a PandemicWhen the pandemic started last year, we all thought tried to stay positive and get through 2020 the best we could. Now that we are 18 months in, we need to change the way we are caring for ourselves and our mindset around the pandemic so that we don't get stuck in burnout. Today, let me take you through the exact steps I am using to keep going through the pandemic and to stay out of burnout.
Don't miss out on my next free, live training: "What Our Burnout Costs Us" on September 26th, 2021 at 8PM CST. Register (so I...
2021-09-2324 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#49: When to Make a Change (FIXED/FULL VERSION)Are you considering making a change at work? Changing the schedule or how much call you take? Changing how many patients you see? Changing to GYN only or being a hospitalist? You are going to want to listen to this episode first! So often we try to change our surroundings to try to feel better, but if our thinking remains the same, guess what? You will still feel the same!
Let me walk you through what I mean with examples from when I was super burnt-out, and how I started to fix it.
Also, if y...
2021-09-1618 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#48: Everything Is FigureoutableToday I share one of my favorite mantras that helps me get through crazy times (like when COVID first started) and how I apply it. "Everything is Figureoutable" is a mindset that I learned from Marie Forleo and it has not only driven me to be a better OB/GYN but it gives me hope when things seem bleak. With current events containing lots of negative events right now, I wanted to share my favorite mantra and teach you the deeper meaning as it applies to our lives as OB/GYNs.
Also, join me September 9th, 2021 at 7...
2021-09-0916 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#47: How to Deal When You Just. Can't. Even.When was the last time you were so mad that you thought "I just.can't.even..." You just couldn't deal with it. You were so frustrated and upset and angry. How did you end up feeling better? As humans, we typically try to avoid feeling negatively and will deal with our negative emotions in a few ways that are less than ideal usually. We have been taught by society and by medicine some ways to resist, react or avoid these negative feelings. But these coping mechanisms often lead to burnout. So today, I am going to teach you how to...
2021-09-0231 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#46: Mean GirlsWhat's your self-talk like? Does it resemble the movie Mean Girls? What happens when you have a complication at work? What does your inner self-talk sound like then? We often have negative self-talk in order to try to make ourselves do better or be better. But having negative thoughts NEVER leads to a positive result--only negative results come from negative thoughts. Let me show you how to stop the Mean Girl self-talk and to start building the relationship with yourself again.
Also, come register for my FREE training "How to Tell if You Need to Address Your B...
2021-08-2625 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#45: AnxietyToday we are going to learn about the science behind anxiety to better understand why we have it and how it can become a frequent emotion that we feel when we are burnt-out. In this episode I will also teach you the exact steps I teach my clients for processing the emotion of anxiety and how it applies to life as an OB/GYN.
Be sure to check out my free course if you would like more help: coach-miles.com/opt-in
2021-08-1931 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#44: Creating the Life You want with Dr. Carolyn MoyersToday on the podcast, we are going to explore the possibilities. What would your dream practice look like? Most of us don't know where to start on even answering that question. My guest today, Dr. Carolyn Moyers, shows us how she is chasing her dreams by creating a unique practice in Fort Worth, Texas. Dr. Moyers is an example of what is possible when it comes to creating the life you want.
If you would like to explore creating the life that YOU want, send me an email at amanda@coach-miles.com so we can arrange a t...
2021-08-1228 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#42: When Being Employed SucksWhen we are employed physicians, often we think we don't have any control over the things that happen at work, which results in us being miserable. We think we aren't in charge, so we can't make any positive changes at work. But in reality, we should be taking charge of ourselves and who we are at work in order to make a positive change. In today's episode I will teach you how to do this and I will also teach you The Model can help us when we are employed physicians.
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2021-07-2931 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#40: What's Your Calling?In medicine, we often relate to feeling "called" to our field. Answering our calling is what gets us through the hard years of training. However, once we are done with training, we can find ourselves feeling more like it's just a job we clock in and out of to pay the bills. Today we discuss a parable that I find useful in evaluating how we think and feel about our job. Come let me walk you through the steps to evaluating where you are at with your job, and how to feel like it's your calling again.
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2021-07-1519 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#39: Are You a Control Enthusiast?Do you like to control things? Are you "Type A" or a "control freak" so to speak? We like to control outcomes in medicine, but do we really ever have true control? Many of us find ourselves trying to control more than just outcomes as a way to feel better. Today, we dive in to why we often try to control our surroundings, and what to do when it isn't helping us to do so.
If you are interested in working with me, go to my website to learn more and enroll: coach-miles.com/workwithme.
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2021-07-0829 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#38: How Wanting Can Prevent BurnoutOur training in medicine often teaches us that what we want doesn't matter. We put off our interests and lives until we complete our training, then we can find ourselves struggling with who we are outside of medicine. This is often a major contributor to burnout amongst my clients and amongst physicians in general. By allowing ourselves to want things and to dream about things again, we open our mind to living intentionally and creating the life we want.
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2021-07-0120 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#37: What to do When You are Struggling at WorkOur medical training often makes it hard for us to tell others that we are struggling. Often we think they should just know and offer to help us. We often assume that our boss or administrator knows that we are struggling and we feel victimized when they don't help. But when we think this way, it strips us of all of our power in the situation. We need to realize that the company we work for highly values us as a physician and that we are experts at being OB/GYN's, so when something in the workflow isn't gong...
2021-06-2425 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#36: How to Handle the Shit ShowToday I am going to walk you through my process for how to handle the day-to-day stress of being an OB/GYN and then what to do to handle the Shit Shows that happen in this job. I have developed a Shit Show Plan for myself and I walk you through what that looks like and what to do to make yours.
Enrollment is open for Quit Your Burnout, Not Your Job! To work with me click here: www.coach-miles.com/workwithme
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2021-06-1729 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#35: What to do When You Run Behind in ClinicDo you find yourself running behind in clinic? Then do you find yourself beating yourself up or stressing over how much you run behind? Many of us have beliefs about how running behind makes us bad people or rude. These beliefs don't serve us and may actually lead us to run even more behind! Come listen today to learn more.
Also check out my newest FREE Mini Course on my website that I have developed to teach you the REAL causes of burnout and 3 essential steps to beating it. You can sign up for this 3-part video co...
2021-06-1012 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#34: Long Hours and Burnout Have you ever wondered why we work such long hours in this field? I think the answer to that question is much deeper than "because there's a lot of work to be done." I see 5 common reasons why we work long hours in OB/GYN and they aren't what you might think! We need to look at the real reasons why we end up overworking and begin to realize it's not just the amount of work. Our beliefs and our conditioning often lead us to over-work, not our contract.
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2021-06-0328 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#33: The Questions You Should Be Asking YourselfBurnout can feel like you are stuck on a hamster wheel--running and running, exhausted, but getting no where. Often, this is related to the questions we ask ourselves.
When we ask our brain a question, it's job is to find potential answers. So if we ask negative, Dead End Questions, we get negative, dead end answers...and a negative, dead end mindset.
In this episode, we discuss what Dead End Questions are and I give you some Better Questions to ask yourself.
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2021-05-2717 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#32: The Truth About Birth PlansWanna know the truth? Your truth is different from mine. Because it is based on your thoughts, experiences and life. The truth is subjective. This applies to when patients bring birth plans to the hospital. Come learn why patients do this and how to deal with it in a way that doesn't add to burnout.
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2021-05-2016 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#31: The Price of AdmissionWe will all pay a price to do the things we love. How much is too much to do those things? What if we thought about call/charts/clinic as the price we pay to play? Come learn what I mean by this and how to start changing your beliefs about work so that you are ready to pay the price of admission without feeling burnt-out. In this episode, I teach you a technique to change your thoughts about work in an easy and doable way.
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2021-05-1319 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#30: External Validation and Burnout
For some more free resources, head over to my website: coach-miles.com/freeresources
Listen in today to learn about what validation is and how it leads to burnout
Learn a helpful metaphor for being an OBGYN that can help you prioritize yourself
Learn the questions to ask yourself to begin working on your self worth so that you no longer have to rely on validation from others.
2021-05-0618 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#29: Life's PleasuresWhen we are burnt-out, our brain doesn't have much dopamine floating around. It is in survival mode. Dopamine is what gives us motivation and satisfaction. Many times, our brain will try to feel better by seeking out large amounts of dopamine from external sources, such as sugary snacks, alcohol, social media, or online shopping. These are all examples of concentrated pleasures, which give our brain a large amount of dopamine all at once. When we seek these things out, our brain then prefers these things over natural pleasures. This is problematic in a couple of ways--first, the natural pleasures...
2021-04-2926 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#28: What to do When You Feel DisrespectedOne of the leading causes of burnout is the lack of respect from admin, staff and colleagues. The problem is, respect is a feeling, and feelings come from our thoughts. When we are burnt-out, our brain is in survival mode and primarily is run by the primitive part of our brain, which views most interactions as negative. Today we are going to discuss why we often feel disrespected when we are burnt-out and some strategies for what to do about it.
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2021-04-2219 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#27: Beliefs That Cause BurnoutBeliefs are thoughts that we have thought over and over again. They are thoughts that we believe to be true. When we have beliefs about work, sometimes they can lead to burnout, as I quickly learned. By examining these beliefs, you can start to question whether your beliefs about work are really serving you or not. Listen to find out what beliefs are, and how they may be leading to burnout for you!
If you have questions, you can always email me at amanda@coach-miles.com or visit me on Instagram (CoachMilesMD) or Facebook.
2021-04-1515 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#26: Failure and BurnoutIn medicine and on the road to get here, we have been taught many things about failure. Mostly that it is bad. And that to be good, we must avoid it at all costs. After a recent event at work, I decided to dig deeper into failure and what we make it mean about us as physicians, and as people. Come listen today to see if you do the same, and how to go about addressing it.
You can always find me at my website: coach-miles.com or on Instagram (CoachMilesMD)
2021-04-0815 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#25: The Sunday ScariesSunday Scaries. I'm pretty sure they should have their own ICD-10 code. And they suck. That's what I've decided. I used to struggle with this regularly, even on non-Sundays... Sometimes it was a mini-version of the Sunday Scaries, where I didn't want to get out of the car when I get to work. But I've found the way to get rid of the Sunday Scaries for GOOD. So come and listen to find out whether you have Sunday Scaries, where they come from, and what to do about it.
If you have any questions about this or o...
2021-04-0115 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#21: Rewriting Your Burnout StorySo often our Burnout story is a rough one. It is a painful one. It can be full of negative emotions and terrible details. In today's episode, we talk about how I rewrote my burnout story, and how you can too. Tune in to hear my original burn out story and how I changed it.
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2021-03-0417 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#19: ScarcityWhile on call this week, it was interesting to see my brain go into a scarcity mindset, and it got me thinking about how scarcity can play into burnout. Come listen to what scarcity is, how it can show up in our lives, and how we can get out of scarcity and live from a place of abundance instead. I'd also love it if you left me a review on iTunes so I can get the word out to other OB/GYN's! You can also find me on Instagram (CoachMilesMD) if you have any questions, or on my website: c...
2021-02-1832 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#18: Sprinkle a Little Love on TopWith Valentine's Day approaching, come find out how I can make any situation better, by Sprinkling a Little Love on Top. In today's episode, we will discuss what love is, where it comes from, how we feel it, and how we can use it to take care of ourselves and reduce burnout. You will also find out if you are placing conditions on your love for other people (which means certain conditions must be met before you feel love towards them). I will also give you tips and tricks on how to show yourself more love!
Leave...
2021-02-1119 minThe Happy GynecologistEP#17: ComfortI like my creature comforts when I am on call. Yes, I bring my own pillow and bedding and body wash. But after an unexpected outcome, I found myself looking for more comfort to my stress. I was looking to sugar and phone scrolling to feel better. The problem with these things is, they don't actually comfort us. They just numb or blunt our emotions. So go get your comfy pants on and listen to ways that you can provide your mind and body comfort to close the stress cycle! While you are there, leave me a review so t...
2021-02-0423 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#16: The ManualThe manual is a list of unspoken rules you have for other people. Like a Girl Scout manual that says what a good girls scout is, we also have a manual for what a good spouse is, what a good sister is, what a good friend is. It is a list of things we think other people should do, so that we can be happy. But often, this leads to tension and resentment in relationships or feeling frustrated with people/patients/coworkers. Come listen to find out more details on what a manual is and if you currently have...
2021-01-2822 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#15: Guilt or Shame?Did you know that there is a difference between guilt and shame? And that if you experience more shame, there are higher rates of associated depression, anxiety and burnout? Mom Guilt is like "I feel bad for giving my kid M&M's with breakfast," whereas Mom Shame is like "I'm a bad mom for giving my kid M&M's with breakfast." We also tend to shame ourselves as doctors when we have complications. The difference between these is vital to how we view ourselves as a Mom, as a Doc, and as a person. Come and listen to today's epi...
2021-01-2130 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#13: Where does overwhelm come from?Overwhelm is a part of being an OB/GYN at times. But today, we dive into the causes and the tools I often use when coaching my clients to ditch their overwhelm and get a place of finding better solutions. From deep seated beliefs, to the evolution of women in the workplace, we talk about all the things that lead to our overwhelm and what to do about it. Listen in to hear more!
For questions, comments or topics you'd like help with on the podcast, send me an email at amanda@coach-miles.com or find me on instagram @ CoachMilesMD
2021-01-0723 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#12: The Secret to Toxic PeopleToxic People can really get us in a negative mood if we let them. Come along and listen today to find out my Secret to dealing with them. I'll also share the concept of Emotional Childhood and Emotional Adulthood, which is a something I teach my coaching clients to help them take charge of their emotions 100% of the time.
I also am discussing my new coaching program, "Quit your Burnout, not your Job," which starts enrolling on January 1st, 2021. If you are interested in details, listen in, or go to my website coach-miles.com or find me o...
2020-12-3124 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#9: 3 Steps to Beating Your Burnout (Part 2)This is part 2 of the 3 steps, so go back and listen to Episode #8 for the first step. Episode 9 goes into detail on the last 2 steps, including Being Kind To Your Body and Nurturing Positive Relationships. I've got several ideas of how to do both of these, so tune in for all the details!
As always, you can find me on Instagram (@coachmildmd) or learn more on my website coach-miles.com !
2020-12-1028 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#8: 3 Steps to Beating Your Burnout (Part 1)What if beating your burnout could be easy?? Today, we will talk about the science behind burnout and will start to discuss how to beat it. I have simplified the process that will allow you to emerge from your burnout, just as I did, in 3 easy steps. This week we will discuss the first of these steps in details and give you ideas to start beating your burnout today. Next week, with Part 2 of this episode, we will go into steps 2 and 3.
Find me at: https://coach-miles.com/ or message me on Instagram @coachmilesmd
2020-12-0327 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#7: Burnout and Your BrainOur primitive brain can be an asshole sometimes.
This is the part of our brain that keeps us safe and alive. It is constantly scanning the horizon for danger.
You know, lions and tigers and bears and stuff.
It doesn't know we live in a world of Whole Foods and WiFi now....so it can get a little confused.
It's also the part of our brain that gives us the urge to do things.... Like punch someone in the face when they make a rude comment.
Luckily, as humans...
2020-11-1916 min
The Happy GynecologistEP#6: Charting SolutionsWhen most physicians think about charting, it is definitely a negative thought process. The problem with this is, when you have negative thoughts, you get negative results. Come join me to learn about my favorite charting solutions to make your work day easier and to help you emerge from burnout.
Find me on Instagram at Coachmilesmd or visit my website: coach-miles.com if you have questions, comments, or would like to hear about a specific topic on the podcast! I'd also love it if you left me a review on iTunes, as that helps me reach more p...
2020-11-1227 min