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The Lazy OverachieverFinding Peace Featuring Amber DalsinHow do our routines and rituals reflect our ability to find peace and balance in our lives? In this episode of The Lazy Overachiever show, our guest, Amber Dalsin, Relationship Psychologist and I, delve into the transformative power of intentional selfishness, the impact of personal experiences on professional paths, and the evolving understanding of rest and productivity. Time Stamps:00:00 Powerful story about family, treatment, and success.04:14 Realized the need for relationship work and found passion.07:38 Therapy empowers; rest is equally valuable for success.14:20 Navigating success, family dynamics, and overcoming...2024-01-0830 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |110. Healing through Connection with Dr Glenn & Phyllis HillIf you and your partner have felt disconnected, are getting stuck on conflict, or just want to rekindle the spark in your relationship, this episode is for you. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill cover how to use the Connection Codes framework to help couples connect emotionally, and even overcome conflict in as little as 4 minutes. Core Emotional Wheel Freebie Click here. https://www.connectioncodes.co/amber Discount code: amber20 Book The Connection Codes click here Website click here https://www.conne...2023-06-2054 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |97. Attachment – The Anxious Avoidant Trap + How to Get Out of It with Nicole WalkerIf you and your partner are struggling because one of you peruses connection and desires intimacy, but the other one of you pushes away and highly values autonomy, you might be falling into the anxious-avoidant trap. In this episode we talk about: · What the anxious-avoidant trap is · How to get out of the anxious-avoidant trap · What attachment is · What attachment styles are · Fears that underly different attachment styles · Examples of protest behaviors · How to start to change your patterns · How and why to advocate for your needs Where to find Nicole Website: https://renovateyourrelationships.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the prac...2022-12-2753 min

Balanced FactorManaging Relationships, Family Drama and Challenging Situations During the Holiday Season with Dr. Amber DalsinThis week, Emily sits down with clinical psychologist and relationship expert, Amber Dalsin to discuss managing relationships this holiday season. Whether it's with your parents, in-laws, sisters or partner, this time of year can often be challenging and result in uncomfortable situations. Tune in to hear how you can prepare and set yourself up for success and take care of your mental health this year. Happy Holidays! Follow Emily to Stay in the Loop! Instagram @balancedfactor Tiktok @balancedfactor Website www.balancedfactor.com Dr.Amber Dalsin https://www.instagram.com/embe...2022-12-1450 min

BedtalksBedtalks Episode 77: Stop Fighting, Start Dialoguing - An Interview with Amber Dalsin of Ember Relationship PsychologyHey Y'All- Welcome back to another episode of Bedtalks. We are talking to Amber Dalsin, a Psychologist, and couples therapist, who helps couples communicate with one another, so they feel loved and heard. Amber is offering some pearls of wisdom about communication and how to make it easier. She discusses: The difference between tolerance and acceptance in a relationship How to hear your significant other and when and how to compromise What keeps couples in communication gridlock What we enjoyed about this conversation and think you will enjoy too is that Amb...2022-11-0642 min

Dr. Wyatt Marriage PodcastTop Conflict Resolution Techniques with Amber DalsinIf you want help resolving conflicts then you're going to love this podcast episode with Amber Dalsin. In it, I interview Amber, a couples therapist in Canada, on her perspective on conflict. We'll cover: 1-What causes conflict?2-What mistakes do couples make during conflict?3-How should couples resolve conflict? 4-What's the silver lining to conflict? You can find Amber Dalsin at the following.WebsitePodcastInstagramSIGN UP for my FREE newsletter to receive weekly emails on fresh marriage content and discounts here!2022-09-1131 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |88. Building Meaningful Relationships with Tamara HenninghamIf you’ve wanted to build a deeper connection in your relationship, feel safe with your partner, and repair past hurts, this is the podcast for you. In this episode we discuss: · How to prevent damaging your relationship · Why ask yourself “is this helpful?” · The difference between impact and intention · How to repair your relationship after a rupture · The importance of loving your partner the way they want to be loved · How to increase safety in your relationship · Why you will make mis...2022-08-2347 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |87. 6 Signs You’re Compatible with Your PartnerIf you’re in a romantic relationship and found yourself wondering “are we compatible?”, “is love enough?”, or “what if we don’t have chemistry?”, this episode will help you understand the difference between compatibility and chemistry. It will also give you a framework to evaluate if you and your partner have enough in common to be compatible, with or without chemistry. In this episode I discuss: · The difference between chemistry and compatibility in a relationship · Neurotransmitters involved in chemistry · Why love isn’t enough · 6 components of compatibility in a relationship ...2022-08-0911 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |86. When Pornography Becomes a Problem with Wendy MaltzHave you ever wondered “why would my partner rather watch porn than be with me?”, or maybe you’ve started to think your pornography use is becoming excessive and aren’t sure how to stop? If you relate to either of these things, this podcast is worth a listen. In this podcast we discuss: Factors leading to compulsive pornography use The impact of pornography of relationships What to do if you think you may have a problem with pornography Tips to make quitting pornography easier Healing...2022-07-1947 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |85. How to have deeper conversations with your spouseWhat to do to feel closer, have a deeper connection and have conversations that can go on for hours. FREE GUIDE the Emotional Intimacy Cheat Sheet This is a conversation guide with 36 questions designed to help you and your partner deepen your connection through conversation. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet Click the link to get the free guide. This podcast is for informational purposes only.2022-07-0511 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |84. 6 Common Relationship Problems with Isabella GondekIn this podcast we cover the top 6 reasons relationships fall apart. Listen up to gain insight on what to watch out for and repair so you can keep your relationship healthy and connected. In this episode we cover: · The ideal ratio of positives and negatives in a relationship · How negative interactions breed more negative interactions · What leads to emotional withdrawal · What happens when you fail to accept influence from your partner · The difference between negative and positive sentiment override · How to make repair...2022-06-2144 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |83. 2 Common Communication StrugglesIf you’re like me, you probably went to school for 12 years, but never learned a key skill for connection and belonging – communication. Many of my clients tell me they struggle to · share how they feel because they fear their partner will be defensive. · Stay level headed enough to understand the other person’s point of view · Clearly communicate their needs · Feel like their partner cares about their needs Do you relate? In this podcast, we will cover some of the answers to these questions, 2 communicat...2022-06-0716 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |82. How to Have Connecting Conversations with Dr. Jessica HigginsIn this powerful episode, we cover communication strategies to help you connect with the person you love when you’re hurt, how to avoid criticism, and give you practical tools to help you convey your upsets in a way your partner is likely to hear. No one gets into a relationship to have blowout fights with their partner. In this episode, we cover what is beneath the conflicts you and your partner have, and how to communicate so you feel safe and heard by one another. Other topics covered include: Ho...2022-05-2457 min

Networking and Marketing Made SimpleEpisode 367: How Proper Communication Can Solve So Many Of Our Problems with Amber DalsinAmber Dalsin, FOUNDER OF EMBER RELATIONSHIP PSYCHOLOGY Many couples are stressed about communication and the growing distance between them. At Ember Relationship Psychology we provide frameworks with actionable strategies to help couples create connection and clear communication. When couples use the frameworks, they discover a loving relationship where they both feel heard. Here is the link to the 6 Small Things Loving and Successful Couples Do https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/6-small-things-that-successful-couples-do and here is the link for the course Communication Cures https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures Get my free LinkedIn Pro...2022-05-1254 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |81. Betrayal Trauma with Liz LacyThis episode is the follow up to episode 73: How sex becomes compulsive or addictive with Liz Lacy. Betrayal Trauma is the impact that happens when there have been repeated betrayals in multiple ways by your partner. It is a “harsh violation of trust by someone you depend on.” This episode is all about what Betrayal Trauma is, the impact of betrayal trauma, and working through betrayal trauma as a couple. In this episode we cover -what betrayal trauma is -how betrayal trauma is different than the trauma from an affair -what the symptoms of betrayal trauma are -what to consider when...2022-05-1049 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |81. Goal setting – More than New Years ResolutionsIf you want to have clarity and purpose in 2022 and feel confident that you can achieve your goals this year, then this episode is for you.Do you relate to this?· Have you ever had your soul whisper to you about something you might like to achieve in the new year?· You started off the new year working towards a goal, but as the days passed by you lost your motivation, or maybe· You feel spread thin, like you have too many goals, too much to achieve, and you look at you...2022-05-0309 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |80. 6 Signs It’s Safe to Trust Your PartnerRelationships require you to let down your armor and expose your heart. Much of the time it doesn’t feel safe to take down your armor. That could be because… · You’ve been betrayed by your current partner in the past · A past partner has broken your trust · Or you grew up in a family where trust was nonexistent and you have never known how. If you know you want a love that feels both safe and free, this is the episode to help you determine if you have a partner that can help you get there. In this episode we cover...2022-04-2613 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |79: Attachment Styles and Building a Happy Relationship with Stan TatkinIn this episode, Stan covers the basics of attachment, the neurobiology of connection, and practical strategies to create a safe and long-lasting love. We cover: · How attachment develops · How attachment impacts future relationships · What attachment has to do with safety and security · What autonomy has to do with attachment · Why people cling · How come people feel not enough or insignificant · Why you can be securely attached and free in relationships · What secure functioning is · How to build secure attachment in your relationship · Why love isn’t enough in relationships · Why creating a joint purpose in a relationship matters · How you can change you...2022-04-1249 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |78. 3 Tips for Peaceful ConversationsNo one wants to feel disconnected, misunderstood or alone with the person they love the most. Have you ever noticed you and your partner? · Have blowout fights when all you wanted to do was share what was in your heart? · Can’t stop interrupting each other because you have different views? · Are afraid to share how you really feel and think in case it pushes your partner away or causes a fight? No one wants to feel this way with the person they love the most. I remem...2022-03-2911 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |77. Strategies for Better Communication with Nancy Evan and Scott Aaron.Strategies for Better Communication with Nancy Evan and Scott Aaron. In this episode do a deep dive into what Nancy and Scott do to nurture their friendship and keep the lines of communication open. Whether your relationship is struggling because you feel like you’re disconnected, don’t know what to talk about anymore, or struggle to hear what your partner is telling you, there is a nugget of gold in this episode for you. In this episode we cover: - Communicating the hard things before they bubble over - The u...2022-03-1556 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |76. How Taking Responsibility Led to Deep & Authentic Love with John RomanielloToday John is in a loving relationship where he can be his authentic self… but that isn’t how his story started. In this episode, John shares how he put himself back together after a failed marriage, what he healed in therapy, how to own his sexuality, how he took responsibility for his mistakes, and how to let in deep and powerful love. John shares the secrets to what is he does differently in his current relationship that keeps the spark of passion alive. Whether you are wondering how to overcome the fear of abandonment, gain comfort with your own sexuali...2022-03-011h 21

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |75. 3 Reasons You Should Care About Fighting FairDo you want to stop feeling disrespected and unheard in conversations with your partner? Whether it’s repeat disagreements about your in-laws, sexual intimacy, different personal goals, preferences in housecleaning or the budget, I know it can make your heart pound, your face hot, and your jaw clench. In this episode, we talk about why bother fighting fair. We cover the impact of destructive conflict, the desire to be heard and understood, and how to prevent things from getting worse. A key idea we talk about is being willing to fight fairly. Because before you can fight fair, you have to...2022-02-1512 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |74. Goal setting – More than New Years ResolutionsIf you want to have clarity and purpose in 2022 and feel confident that you can achieve your goals this year, then this episode is for you. Do you relate to this? · Have you ever had your soul whisper to you about something you might like to achieve in the new year? · You started off the new year working towards a goal, but as the days passed by you lost your motivation, or maybe · You feel spread thin like you have too many goals, too much to achieve, and you look at you...2022-02-0109 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |73. How sex becomes compulsive or addictive with Liz LacyUnderstand how sexuality drives us, how our sexuality becomes problematic or even addictive. In this episode, we especially look at what leads to problematic sexual behaviors, compulsive sexual behaviors or addiction. Topics covered include: ● What is the role of attachment and sexuality? ● When do sexual intimacy problems develop? ● How can attachment heal sexual intimacy problems? ● How to change sexually compulsive behaviors? ● What happens to children sexually when their emotional needs are not met? ● What is sex addiction? ● How to determine the difference between infidelity and sexual addiction. ● How partners typically react when learning about their partner’s problematic sexual behavior. ● How the pandemic and...2021-12-1448 min

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 297: How to Enhance Emotional Intimacy in Your Relationship — An Interview with Amber DalsinAccording to research, women are the primary initiators of divorce, with emotional intimacy being the most significant factor. In the early stages of a relationship, you may feel that intense sense of connection even without emotional intimacy because of the dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and pheromones making everything seem to be in perfect harmony. However, as time passes by, these neurotransmitters diminish. In this episode, we'll dive into understanding what emotional intimacy is as Amber Dalsin talks about her personal journey — from someone who craves connection into a love that she never thought was possible. Learn ab...2021-12-0750 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |72. How to know if you’re compatibleWhen couples are feeling unseen, unheard, resentful or unloved they commonly wonder if they are compatible. In this episode, we cover 4 key ideas to consider when you are thinking about your compatibility. 1. Do you have the same beliefs and values about what a relationship is? 2. Are you facing a deal-breaker? 3. Are you willing to learn how to do conflict together? 4. Are you willing to accept/tolerate your partner’s flaws? This podcast is for informational purposes only.2021-12-0713 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |71. Lightening the Mental Load with Elizabeth EarnshawIn this episode we are bringing to light the hidden mental load that exists in relationships. Whether it’s remembering doctor’s appointments, booking the dog in for it’s vaccines, or cleaning up the kitchen, there is a way to restore fairness and respect in your relationship. · How to work better as a team. · What mental load is in a relationship. · Tips to explain mental load to your partner. · How mental load could be impacting your relationship. · How to ask for what you need without blaming your partner. · Wha...2021-11-3049 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |70. 5 Tips for Communication in ConflictConflict is hard, and here are some tools to help you have a peaceful conversation, even when you are angry. 1. Remember you’re a team 2. Soften each other 3. Repair 4. Take breaks 5. Come back and talk without fighting This podcast is for informational purposes only. See a relationship professional in your area for advice for your specific problem. Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.2021-11-2315 min

Finding DirectionAmber Dalsin: Building Stronger RelationshipsAmber Dalsin is a psychologist, couples therapist, keynote speaker, and podcast host. In this episode, we talk about: A few simple things you can do in your relationship to create a massive impact on it How Amber went from being a Taekwondo champ to a relationship therapist Why you should stop seeking external validation @emberrelationshippsychology https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/ https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.ca/6SmallThingsThatSuccessfulandLovingCouplesDo https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/relationship-psych-the-podcast findingdirectionuniversity.com/3steps 2021-11-0945 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |69. How to rewire yourself for love with Orit KrugHow dance movement therapy can help you break free from unhealthy relationship patterns so you can find healthy and loving relationships. In this episode we cover: How dance can help you heal from trauma. How trauma gets stuck in the body. Why talk therapy doesn’t always work and other therapeutic methods to help you stop sabotaging relationship patterns. How to start feeling to love you want and deserve. To learn more about Orit and her programs, click below: Website: https://oritkrug.com/ 3 Secrets to Lasting Love: Website: https://oritkrug.com/...2021-11-0945 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |68. What is Narcissism with Wendy BeharyIf you have ever wondered “what is narcissism?” or “does my partner have narcissism?”, then this podcast is for you. In this episode we cover: What narcissism means Different kinds of narcissism How common narcissism is Where narcissism comes from The impact of narcissism on relationships What kind of people are more likely to attract partners with narcissistic qualities How to speak to someone who does have narcissistic tendencies To learn more about Wendy Behary and the book Disarming the Narcissist check out these links: https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/ The book: https://www.amaz...2021-11-0252 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |67. How to make your relationship happierHow to make your relationship happy again. We are going to go over some steps to make your relationship better and two common mistakes that will get in the way. In this episode we talk about: Your relationship goals The actions you need to take to reach your relationship goals Mistakes getting in the way of actually creating a happier relationship Get the Course Communication Cures by clicking here. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures This episode is for informational purposes only.2021-10-2611 min

The CouragecastThe Truth About Love + Entrepreneurship | Amber DalsinHave you ever wondered if you can have it all? Or do you feel like you have to sacrifice your love life to have a successful business. In this episode of The Couragecast I’m chatting with Couple’s Therapist Amber Dalsin about the fears that hold us back in relationship, how to have our core needs met, and choosing a partner that will be able to support the dream. Amber Dalsin is a psychologist, couples therapist, educator and author. After 10 short months of marriage, she found herself single and living in her boss’s dark basement. From a...2021-10-1929 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |66. 4 Mistakes Couples Make When Trying to Make Up After a FightMost couples don’t want fights to become huge blow outs that hurt their relationship. They want a way to successfully resolve pains between them. Like a washing machine, sometimes a problem might spin you around or twist you for a short while, but then you come out cleaner and even brighter than before. Conflict is normal in relationships. But how we do conflict can be so destructive. It can turn a good relationship toxic and leave a good intentioned couple headed for divorce. In this episode we are going to talk about th...2021-10-1913 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |65. Save your relationship with simple frameworksSave your communication with simple frameworks We get into a relationship to have big smile greet us when we get home at the end of a day, a warm body to curl up next to in bed, a listening ear when we need to vent, an adventure companion to explore with on weekends, and a teammate to tackle housework. And why shouldn’t you have that. But tell me if this has ever been you? As you walk into your front door there is no greeting smile, in bed there is another body hugging the edge of the bed an...2021-10-1213 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |64. What Predicts Divorce, & How to Prevent Divorce with Dr. Tamara FackrellDiscover what causes 95% of divorces, and tools you can use today so can create a loving and long-lasting relationship. Whether your relationship is struggling with difficulties feeling seen and heard, lack of intimacy, or the same problems over and over, Dr. Fackrell shares some practical tools couples can use to increase their connection. In this episode we cover: · What gender is filing two thirds of divorces and why. · How to handle it when the same problems come up over and over. · What is means to actually show your partner lov...2021-10-0553 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |63. What to do after an affair with Mac Stanley CazeauThe truth you didn’t know about healing from infidelity, tools you can use to overcome betrayal, and steps to rebuild so you can create a relationship that was even stronger than before. In this episode we cover: What goes wrong in relationships that sets the stage for infidelity. Dos and don’ts after learning about an affair. If affairs are really about sex. Different kinds of people who have affairs. The 3 stages of healing after infidelity. What is an appropriate consequence after infidelity so your partner can trust again. Bio: Mac Stanley Caze...2021-09-2853 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |62. Mental Health Across the Lifespan with Dr. Julie EricksonDiscover the secrets to good mental health over the lifespan. Even if we keep putting 29 candles on the birthday cake every year, the earth keeps going around the sun, and we age. Tune in to hear about how we can keep fit with our mental health, how we can optimize our mental health, and what to expect as we age. We cover: · The truth about how aging affects mental health · Poking holes in the myths about the psychological effects of aging · How to support the mental health in...2021-09-1440 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |61. Fix your communication fast- for couplesFix your communication fast- for couples Have you wondered how to fix relationship communication problems? If so, this show is for you. We are going to cover: How to fix communication after it breaks down, why communication matters, and a tool to help you improve your communication as soon as today. Sticks and stones will break your bones and words and meanness will hurt you. My heart started pounding in my chest as my fingertips started to shake, I was reading a comment on one of my...2021-09-0718 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |60. Rebuilding after an affair with Anthony TrucksAn affair is like having a grenade go off in your marriage. Shockwaves stun you, the smoke makes your eyes water, while the shards tear apart your heart. Eventually, the smoke and dust settle, and you are left to pick up the pieces. Sometimes affairs end in healing and healthy relationships if the couple takes the time to clean up their relationship and rebuild. Other times, couples decide there was too much destruction, so they move on. If you’ve wondered if you can heal after an affair, or if your ma...2021-08-3150 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |59. 4 Tips To Help You In A Long-Distance RelationshipLong-distance was the thing that taught me about bitter loneliness, and the thing that taught me about committed love and two imperfect people who refused to give up on each other. In this episode I’m going to share about my 14 month long-distance experience, as well as share some ideas from couples therapy research to help you with your long-distance relationship. 1. Talk about your goals. 2. Establish rituals of connection 3. Use love languages to bolster the connection 4. Soothe difficult emotions. I am also answering some Q and A. This is not specific relationship advice and an assessment has not been done, so...2021-08-2420 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |58. How Meditation Helps with Jasmine IrvenGive us 50 minutes and we will give you meditation tools to reduce anxiety and stress, as well as give you a mediation to use to regulate your nervous system when you are upset with your partner. Have you ever wondered… …how meditation helps people? …why meditation is important? …can meditation help anxiety? If the answer is YES, checked out this episode of Relationship Psych – The Podcast · We cover how to use meditation when you are upset with your partner so you can regulate your nervous system to better work...2021-08-1755 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |57. What causes infidelity?What causes infidelity? It might not be what you think. In this episode we are going over the early warning signs of infidelity using examples from the TV show Sex Life. We explore things you can do to protect your relationship from infidelity. The difference between influence and choice. We cover John and Julie Gottman’s theory on affairs. Link to the FREE guide: 6 Small Things that Loving and Successful Couples Do. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/6-small-things-that-successful-couples-do This show is...2021-08-1013 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |56. Stop Giving Your Power AwayStop Giving Your Power Away How putting everyone’s needs ahead of your own could be sabotaging your relationship and your mental health. Break free from overwhelm, feel supported, and take your power back. In this episode, I share some of my story and how I learned to give my power away. I describe how I fluctuated between subjugating my needs to everyone else’s and how I tried to regain my control. I talk about the first steps to getting your needs met. There are suggestions about assertively gett...2021-08-0311 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |55. Desire in Long-term Relationships with Dr. Katelyn GomesDiscover how to rekindle your desire and passion in a long-term relationship. We discuss: · Key factors to spark the flame · Uncertainty and its connection to desire · How novelty plays a role in desire and how to create new experiences · All the different hats we wear with our partner and how to make sure you make time for your relationship hat · Ideas for rituals for connection This podcast is for informational purposes only.2021-07-2740 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |54. Are You Making This Mistake?I’m going to tell you a story, that comes from couples therapy, the names are made up but the content is true. In this episode we cover emotional validation, and how to give it. We discuss what gets in the way of being able to hear your partner’s side of the story. If you want to learn a little more about validation, check out the Emotional Intimacy Blueprint To learn more just ✅ click the link www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-blueprint ✅ watch the videos ✅ and get the to...2021-07-2013 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |53. Bids for ConnectionHow missing bids for connection can take the wind out of your sails. In this episode, we review what a bid for connection is and how to turn towards, turn away or turn against bids for connection. We got over examples for how to respond to your partner differently and improve the chances of a strong emotional connection. If you are interested in learning more about Emotional Intimacy check out the mini-course: The Emotional Intimacy Blueprint. · Discover the 7 pillars of emotional intimacy and how to implement them to create a loving r...2021-07-1315 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |52. Rekindle Emotional Intimacy TodayCrack the code to emotionally intimacy where you consistently feel seen and special. Last Friday, after 6 months of lockdown, patios reopened. Sitting on a picnic bench with a plastic divider next to me, my eyes landed on a couple whose gazes seemed to burn into each other, and it was as if they were oblivious to the 50 other people on the patio (6 ft apart). ➣As I watched, they sampled each others’ beer, tasted each other’s food, all while keeping their gazes firmly fixed on the other. ➣No phone, no silences, just palpable connecti...2021-06-2112 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |51. Can Emotional Intimacy Be Learned?Get the tactics to feel seen and heard, cultivate a strong partnership, so you can be walking hand in hand with your closest confidant into your 80s. I love to bring TV shows into the podcast to teach relationship lessons. Last night my husband and I were watching For All Mankind. It’s a TV series that takes us back in time to the space race, highlighting missions to the moon of Apollo 11, the controversy of the Soviet Union landing on the moon first, and how the USA was the first country to have a ma...2021-06-0713 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |50. 3 ways to use touch to increase connectionHere are 3 things you should know about how touch can make you closer, restoke the flame between you, and reinforce the reasons you fell in love in the first place. Touch used to be the thing that made me recoil from someone, and today it is the only tool that can slower the walls I can put up around my heart. And if you keep listening, I am going to share with the exact moment everything changed, and why most people call my husband and me a very affectionate couple. ...2021-05-3109 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |49. How attachment styles affect communicationThe impact of the 6 core attachment needs Sometimes being in love feels like you’re standing on the edge of a cliff and hoping your partner is going to catch you. In this episode, we discuss 6 core attachment needs, attachment styles, and the impact on communication. 6 Attachment Needs · To feel special · To feel valued and respected · To feel safe, that you care about my emotions, even if you don’t understand them · To understand that vulnerability is hard for me · To know I...2021-05-2532 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |48. Uncover the Foundations to a Long-Term Love with Alex StreetAlex shares what has made his 20-year relationship work, how they have worked through what could have become massive fights, and how others can do the same. As Alex shares, Amber provides relationship theory and takes what Alex and his wife are doing right, and shares strategies for other couples the do the same. In this episode we cover: · The 3 foundations to emotional intimacy · The number one predictor of a happy long-term relationship · How to notice and respond to your partner’s request for attention · G...2021-05-1737 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |47. Why Emotional Connection is So HardWhy Emotional Connection is So Hard It’s because of this little ingredient… Connection requires vulnerability. “Being vulnerable is like jumping off a cliff. You take a big leap of faith, and you hope someone is there to catch you.” In this episode, we discuss connection, the family of origin, and attachment needs. Communication solutions course: Communication Solutions — Ember Relationship Psychology This podcast is for informational purposes only. 2021-04-2611 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |46. 3 Ways To Improve Your Communication FASTAvoid spending time in disconnection, or worse another conflict cycle that drives you farther part, most couples want a way to come back together. Many couples want love to be easy, like taking a deep breath of air, or drinking a glass of water. And yet, the communication that seemed to flow effortlessly at the beginning of the relationship feels stale, difficult, and at times very hurtful. Most couples have heard that relationships take work, and still, they feel like love shouldn’t be so hard, they are tired of their communication struggles....2021-04-1917 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |45. Are We CompatibleProblems, different interests, ridged positions and conflict makes lot of couples come to therapy and wonder if they are even compatible, if they are soul mates and if they should be together. It sucks to love someone a lot and wonder if you should be together. This is a great question and it's hard to answer. This podcast is for informational purposes only. 2021-04-1209 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |44. 3 Ways to use Words of Affirmation3 Ways to use Words of Affirmation. How to use words to reignite the love in your relationship. Imagine if you could take down the guard around your partner’s heart. Discover how to use words to make love shine in your partner’s eyes again. After working with couples for over a decade, I know people want love to be easy, and can be frustrated by the work involved to keep love alive. They want it to feel genuine and are conflicted about the intentional work it takes to make a rela...2021-04-0509 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |43. How to make your partner feel loved & specialHow to make your partner feel loved & special The five love languages can guide your way. Gary Chapman, author of the book the 5 Love Languages defines the 5 Love Languages. This episode is about using these as a guide to help your partner feel loved and special. TV/movies have lied to us… it looks easy, simple, it depicts a false picture of what “true love” is. If we were lucky enough, maybe we had parents that modeled what how to make love last. Many people didn’t. And even if you d...2021-03-2911 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |42. A FAST and little-known way to increase loving feelingsA FAST and little-known way to increase loving feelings Reigniting loving feelings with words of affirmation. Long term relationships are hard, the spark fades and rather than loving comments, your relationship has ugly complaints. You don’t listen to me You don’t respect me You think I’m a bad person You don’t love me Many couples start to wonder if they are compatible, or if their partner finds them desirable, or if their partner even likes them anymore. In this episode...2021-03-2213 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |41. What Attachment has to do with CommunicationWhat Attachment has to do with Communication Some people avoid conversations Other people aggressively attack conversations While yet others openly chat and hear the other person and calmly express their side. Depending on our underlying attachment styles, and beliefs and values in her world, we will respond in conversations in different ways. In the episode The Secret Behind Creating a Love That Lasts With Any Attachment Style (37) we review the attachment styles in a relationship. For more on attachment, see that episode. In this episode, we will...2021-03-1515 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |40. 6 Steps to heal past resentments6 Steps to heal past resentments Past pains get in the way of current pleasures We all want conflict to stop and to feel deeply connected to our partners. It sucks to have the same conflict again and again. Like we are spinning our wheels and getting nowhere. Lonely, angry, feeling invalidated and disrespected, sometimes we can end up even more resentful when trying to actually address the issue. It feels like relationships should be easier… but if you’ve ever talked to someone in a relationship, you know relationships aren’t easy. Afte...2021-03-0813 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |39. 5 Reasons Couples Therapy Will Not Work for You5 Reasons Couples Therapy Will Not Work for You If your relationship needs help, but you are not sure if couples therapy is for you, this relationship will help clarify why you should not do couples therapy. When couples come to therapy many are in joint agreement they need help, whereas sometimes it is one dragging the other. Since therapy can have a stigma, many people can be fearful o try it out. So here is why you should not.. Save your money and do not engage in therapy if: 1...2021-03-0111 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |38. Improve your COMMUNICATION SKILLS with your partnerImprove your COMMUNICATION SKILLS with your partner. Discover how to express your inner feelings with pushing your partner away. (and even hear their inner feelings too). I have seen too many couples feel like they are living parallel lives with their partners. Many couples feel lonely in their marriage and feel like it should be easier. I get what it’s like to be drifting apart without a clear way to steer the ships back together. By hitting the relationship research and truly doing my best to pu...2021-02-2211 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |37. Secrets behind creating a love that lasts with different attachment stylesSecrets behind creating a love that lasts with different attachment styles. How to break free from connection problems, even if one partner is avoidant or the other is anxious. Many couples want a safe connection, with open communication. They want the rejection, loneliness, disrespect or the fear of not being enough for their partner to end. They just want to feel… safe. In this episode we are going to cover what attachment styles are, and a simple tool that can help create connection no matter your attachment styles. We use the TV show Bridgeton to illustrate different attachment styles. We di...2021-01-2521 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |36. How to calmly bring up a sensitive topicHow to calmly bring up a sensitive topic. Because past pains can cause current sore spots. In this episode, we cover 4 steps to bring up a sensitive topic. We review a predictor of divorce and how to prevent it We talk about how to calm down and why. We discuss communication and timing. The text number is 1(313)710-9683 This podcast is for informational purposes only. Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.2021-01-1911 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |35. Is Healthy Dependency Possible?Is Healthy Dependency Possible? Debunking dependency In this episode where they talk about relationship dependency, when it helps and if it hinders. There are many common myths about relationship dependency. Many people think dependency is a bad thing period but is it really? We cover if needy really is a bad thing. How security actually helps create independence. The dependency paradox. Calming down so that your partner can meet your needs. If you want the FREE GUIDE 5text 50 to 1(313) 710-9683 to get your copy of 50...2021-01-1113 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |34. Catastrophic Couples Conflict and How To Prevent ItCatastrophic Couples Conflict and How To Prevent It Transform fretful fights to calm conversations. In this episode, we are going to discuss 2 types of problems in relationships and how couples get stuck in fretful fights. We will answer the questions: So why are you fighting with your partner anyways? Are fights even normal in relationships? Do all couples fight? We review common cognitive distortions in relationships. We discuss the two things that happen in all couples conflicts. I teach out about...2021-01-0413 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |33. 3 Steps to Communicating So He ListensSimple Strategy to Be HEARD & Understood To be heard, understood, respected, appreciated, connected - fundamental desire. This human needs is found in all races, religions, and groups- its woven into the fabric of our being. If you’ve wondered the strategy to use, so that he will listen, this is the episode for you. To discuss the episode, we are going to use an example from the TV show the Crown and how in this one conversation Prince Charles (at least momentarily focuses on his relationship and not with that of his mistress). You can te...2020-12-2816 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |32. A Mistake that STOPS CommunicationA Mistake that STOPS Communication Avoid doing this if you want good communication with your spouse. To illustrate a mistake that most people make when they are communicating, this episode looks at an interaction between Princess Margaret and her husband that I witnessed watching the TV show the Crown. Now, I have no idea if this is what she was really like, and as TV does it made for some really interesting marriage moments. Season 3, Episode 3 on Netflix. In this episode we discuss: Relationship communication Enduring vulnerabilities Relationship contempt Relationship conflict Relationship...2020-12-1410 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |31. Secrets To Successful Relationship RepairsSecrets To Successful Relationship Repairs Have you wondered why relationship repairs are the most frequent post I make on Instagram? @emberrelationshippsychology This episode is about the power of relationship repairs. Imagine, you and your partner start sliding down the nasty spiral, the way all your big fights start, and then one of you quickly does a ninja move and halts the process, reconnecting you, getting you back on track. A repair. On a cold snowy January day, I pulled up to a restaurant and saw my future husband sitting outside on...2020-12-0710 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |30. Is Porn Bad For RelationshipsIs Porn Bad For Relationships? Show Notes In this episode we are going to look at when pornography is helpful and when pornography is harmful in relationships. We will outline the negative symptoms related to your partner watching pornography. Understanding Porn Use, The Confidential Information No One Talks About. In this podcast we discuss: So, is pornography bad? Positive and negative impacts on relationships. How pornography leads to betrayal. Positive ways pornography can be used in relationships. Negative emotions related to learning about y...2020-11-2310 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |29. 5 Ways to Build Love Maps5 Ways to Build Love Maps The crux of a solid relationship In this episode we are discussing LOVE MAPS. What is a love map anyway? It is knowing your partner’s inner world and having mental space for their experience and what is going on in their life. We are going to get to know more about these love maps and why they are a foundational part of relationship success. We look at three evidence-based strategies for building love maps and two strategies thought up by my couples. ...2020-11-1619 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |28. The secret to finally getting him to listen to youThe secret to finally getting him to listen to you Do you feel like this when you're not heard? Understand normal emotional reactions to an unresponsive partner. In this episode, we go over the 5 experiences of 5 women when they do not feel heard. We connect the emotions of grief, sadness, anger, shame, vulnerability, and rejection in response to him not listening or him being unresponsive. We review 3 components of emotional intelligence and how to use the skills so he finally listens to you. Remembering some people will...2020-11-0900 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |27: Almost as good as FREE couples therapyCan’t afford couples therapy, and need to get clear on what to do to improve your relationship? This is the episode for you. Chris Harder- at Fast Foundations 2 Day Event shared a great tool to understand your problems, how to fix them, and what you need to achieve the solution. The stop, start, and find a method! In this episode, we discuss Kate and Toby and what happened in their marriage after they give birth to their child, Jack, who has a visual disability. We review how without knowing what they were doing they use the stop, start, find me...2020-11-0210 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |26. Emotional Intimacy: a simple strategy that builds connectionEmotional intimacy a simple strategy that builds connection End loneliness and disconnection in less than 10-20 minutes a day In this episode we discuss: What builds emotional intimacy Questions to ask for emotional intimacy The difference between creating emotional intimacy in the TV show Love is Blind vs. Raised By Wolves. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. Talk to a couple's therapist in your area for help for your specific relationship issues. Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual...2020-10-1910 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |25. COMMUNICATIONS skills for couplesCOMMUNICATION Skills for couples. Even the best couples have conflict- how to stop disconnection in its tracks. In this podcast we discuss: The enemy in the relationship: the conflict cycle. Feeling heard and understood How to do everyday communication Levine & Heller’s book Attached, and the reasons for effective communication Tips to help couples communicate: Use empathy Use body language Stop interrupting Ask good questions Free Guide How to finally get him to listen to you. www.emberrelationshippsychology,com This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not...2020-10-0511 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |24. 4 Ways to Create a Fight4 Ways to Create a Fight If Aliens wanted to know how to have a conflict, this is how you would do it. In this episode, we explore what aliens would see on their 3D TV screen if they were watching couples on early do conflict in a way that’s going to lead to problems. What is talked about: The Gottman’s Four Horsemen Stonewalling Criticism Contempt Defensiveness Other episodes discussed in this podcast- Relationship Psych- Episode 5, 4 Doomed Communication Patterns Free Guide How to finally get him to listen to you. www.emberrelationshippsychology.com This relationship podcast is not meant to di...2020-09-2813 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |23. 3 Secrets to Emotional Intimacy3 Secrets to Emotional Intimacy Tips to get the emotional connection you want. Feeling got and understood by your partner really feels nice. This episode is all about how to feel close, connected and create more security with our partners. In this episode we discuss: Psychologist Jim Coan’s research on partner’s buffering pain How to create emotional connection Unhelpful behaviors in relationships Stopping negative conflict Ending problem cycles Creating rituals of connection Ideas for happy homecomings Relationship Psych Episodes Discussed in this Podcast Episode: Episode 22: maladaptive relationship behavior Episode 20: your brain on love Episode 7: how to create emotional intimacy with...2020-09-2112 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |22. Maladaptive Relationship BehaviourMaladaptive Relationship Behaviour. 2 Steps towards change. In this episode, we discuss early childhood experiences and family influences and the impact on romantic relationships. I've been struck over the last week, doing marriage therapy in Toronto about how our early experience shape our adult relationships. In this episode we discuss: Relationship influenced by our history Emotional triggers in relationships Perpetual problems Gridlock perpetual problems Book Seal Team Six by Howard E Wasdin and Stephen Templin Don Cole, Gottman Trainer, Center For Relationship Wellness and his comments about background history in relationships. Teresa Wiseman and her 4 parts of Empathy Episode 2 HELP, My...2020-09-1417 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |21. The SECRET to GREAT Sex in Long-Term RelationshipsThe SECRET to GREAT Sex in Long-Term Relationships How to make your sex life better with your spouse. It’s normal to want to have sex and it’s normal to not really want to have sex, so there is no road map for how to make sex great in a long term relationship, but there is a secret that can help. The secret is communication. In this episode, we explore Masters and Johnson’s research on sexual response and how to communicate about desire, arousal, and resolution. We cover how to talk about initiating sex, and things to share with y...2020-08-2411 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |20. Your Brain on LoveYour brain on love. Sexual chemicals and how they lead to love in the brain. Decline of the Hot and Heavy Stage of a Relationship- in this episode we are going to explore the impact the brain’s chemosignals in early attraction. Chemosingals are the glue that bond early relationships. The primary reason for sexual chemosignals is to bond couples together long enough to start a relationship and possibly a family. While there are many, in this episode talk about two chemosignals that facilitate attraction and relationships. 1. Pheromones 2. Oxytocin Keeping connection alive, when chemosignals are quiet Making the brain work in...2020-08-1709 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |19. What to do when you’re mad at your significant otherWhat to do when you’re mad at your significant other 3 steps to being angry and keeping your partner close (ish) The 3 concepts are 1. Time out 2. Remember the flip flop 3. Focus on yourself Partner will make us mad… its inevitable… but we can keep working to do anger like our partner is someone we love. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat prevent or cure any medical or relationship problem. Seek couples therapy in your area for help for your specific relationship.2020-08-0316 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |18. How Loving Relationships Become Angry RelationshipsHow Loving Relationships Become Angry Relationships And little itty bitty actions that make relationships better. This episode looks at what happens when we fall in love, actions we take that make love work, how to stay in love, and how to prevent divorce. In this episode we discuss: Caring days Relationship success What makes relationships work Why we fall in love How we stay in love How relationship problems are created This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issues. Check with a provider in your area for specific relationship advice...2020-07-2719 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |17. Why Partners Tune-out of Difficult ConversationsWhy Partners Tune-out of Difficult Conversations 3 ways to keep them engaged One of the most common problems my clients in couples therapy tell me about their frustrations when their partner emotionally checks out of a conversation, or physically leaves. I’ve seen some couples who can quickly remedy this problem fixing it in a few sessions, where other couples see me for years with the same problem. If you want to be one of the couples, that the problem is quickly solved for, this is the episode for you. Theses step are simple in concept, hard in practice. But if yo...2020-07-2016 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |16. The communication mistake that is preventing you being heard and how to fix itThe communication mistake that is preventing you from being heard and how to fix it. What to do to finally be listened to. If you’re wanting to feel close, connected, listened to, respected, understood, and like you matter. This is the episode you have been waiting for. To really feel heard there ARE certain communication styles that put a dead halt on passion. In this episode we discuss the concept ARE, Are You With Me? From Sue Johnson’s book, Hold Me Tight, and what this has to do with being listened to. We learn from her concept a coup...2020-07-1316 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |15. Why Some Relationships Survive Affairs- And Other’s Don’tWhat makes the relationships survive different? Understand what makes a relationship succeed or fail after cheating from the privacy of your home. We discuss: Normal reactions to learning about an affair What not to talk about after an affair How to make amends for an affair How to know it’s time to have sex after an affair How to rebuild trust after an affair. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure and medical, mental health, or relationship condition. Talk to a health, or relationship provider in your area before making changes.2020-07-0613 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |14. The Truth About Creating Emotional IntimacyThe Truth About Creating Emotional Intimacy 2 secrets behind getting him to open up. In this episode we discuss: What emotional intimacy is to him Differences in gender and connection Conditions for emotional intimacy This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure and any medical, relationship, or mental health problem, check with your health care provider or local couples therapist before making changes.2020-06-2908 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |13. Why Tears Make Your Partner Run AwayWhen you need soothing the most, it's when your partner turns their back. Understand the mystery about why it is so hard to stay and give comfort. In this podcast we discuss: Differences in what tears mean Fight/flight/freeze response to tears Softening emotions Compromise Repair statements See repair statements on Instagram @relationshippsych This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any mental health or relational issue. Talk to a provider in your local area for more support.2020-06-2208 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |12. 3 Secrets To Fighting FairDon’t let fighting become the root of evil in your relationship. Nasty fighting can turn even the best of relationships sour. In this relationship advice podcast we talk about: How to fight fair How to solve conflict with your partner How to take breaks Going to bed angry Differences in how men and women to conflict Coming to terms with taking breaks in a fight Remember the allure to talk about the problem, and talk about the solution instead Putting conflict into perspective Optimal Heart Rate for conflict with your spouse (Teachings from The Gottman’s) This podcast is not...2020-06-1511 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |11: 4 Point Road Map To Increase Sexual Satisfaction In Your RelationshipIf your sexual relationship is as stale as month-old bread this podcast will lay the steps to create a passionate and enjoyable sex life. In this relationship advice podcast episode, we are talking about the following: How to talk about sex with your partner How to initiate sex with your partner Sex idea to keep it interesting How to decline sex with your partner Talking about sex likes and dislikes This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issues. Check with a provider in your area for advice to help your...2020-06-1111 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |10: If We Are HARD WIRED Differently, Are We Destined For Divorce?What does it mean about you if you and your partner are very different? In this podcast we discuss differences in relationships. Some topics include: Being different than your partner Arguments Feeling invisible and taken for granted The movie The Darkest Hour and lessons from Clementine. How to accept your partner’s negative qualities. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure mental health or relational issues. For Treatment, talk a mental health or relationship professional in your area for advice specific to...2020-06-0311 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |9: My Partner Pulls Away Under Stress, HELPMy Partner Pulls Away and it HURTS. Help. How to deal with a partner that pulls away when they are under pressure. In this episode we are going to be discussing some over-generalizations about how men and women typically do conflict and deal with emotions. Surely this is not the case of all women and all men, and in same sex couples it may look a little bit different, but some patterns will also be the same. Most of the literature comes from research on heterosexual couples. For more relationship advice check out...2020-05-2612 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |8: How to Whisper SWEET NOTHINGSHow to say simple words to make your partner blush. In Gary Chapman’s book, 5 love languages he talked about the language words of affirmation. You use words to encourage, affirm, and appreciate. While this comes naturally to some, I have watched many couples struggle to find the words that connect to their partners hearts and ears. The whisper of a sweet nothing is just a few words that expresses how you feel, or what your partner means to you. You don’t need to be a poet to craft the right thing to say. Simp...2020-05-2008 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |7: How To Create EMOTIONAL INTIMACY With Your PartnerThe secrets every woman wants to know. After doing couples therapy with hundreds of couples, I routinely encounter similar problems as I assess couples. It takes different forms, but sounds like this “I can’t get my partner to open up,” “I wish we were closer,” “we don’t have intimacy,” “my partner doesn’t talk,” and many more comments indicating that emotional connection is lacking. In this episode we discuss the TV and Book Series Outlander by Diana Gabaldon. We look at the scene in season 1 episode 7 The Wedding, where they need to consummate their marriage. 2020-05-1811 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |6: Stay in LOVE Through Lock-Down5 Conversations to remedy stay-at-home order fueled problems. "I thought love would be my cure, but now it's my disease." – Alicia Keyes, "Love Is My Disease". Don’t let this quote speak the truth for you. Spending 24/7 with someone you adore can make even the greatest love turn to frustration. Learn how to transform irritations into productive conversations, so you can look at your partner with adoration in your eyes. Do your best to make these conversations positive and productive. Stay away from pointing out what is wrong, blaming, criticizing, taking shots, defending, or withd...2020-05-1512 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |5: 4 Doomed Communication PatternsStop doing these now, if you want your relationship to last. John Gottman terms these four patterns in a relationship, the four horsemen of the apocalypse because they are so bad for relationships. Even the masters of relationships do them from time to time, but the key is catching it quickly and making relationship repairs. The 4 horsemen of the apocalypse are 1. Criticism 2. Defensiveness 3. Stonewalling 4. Contempt This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical or mental health condition. Check with your...2020-05-1310 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |4: 6 Tips to Help Your Partner Through Cabin FeverIf self-isolation is hitting your partner's mood hard, here are some simple steps you can take. From feeling useless to action you can take. Here are 6 things couples can do to fight the dark days of cabin fever together. This episode had been adapted from the Blog on Depression at the Canadian Centre for Psychology and Relationship Resources. You can check out the blog here https://www.ccprr.ca/blog/6-tips-to-help-your-partner-through-depression Quarantine Low mood Depression physical distancing Social distancing This podcast is...2020-05-1110 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |3: ARGUING and Keeping Your Relationship INTACTDo conflict like your partner is someone you love. “Wishes are thorns, he told himself sharply. They do us no good, just stick into our skin and hurt us.” ―A Face Like Glass, Frances Hardinge Call them wishes or expectations, when they don’t come true they hurt. It’s okay to have expectations, but they also require flexibility and disappointment. Why do we argue? Arguing is a normal part of relationships, the goal is understanding. Why arguments continue Do arguments like your partner is someone you love. ...2020-05-1015 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |2: HELP, My Partner is Driving Me Crazy!“My wife and I play this fun game in quarantine, it’s called “Why Are You Doing It That Way?” and there are no winners.” (retrieved from @thedad who reposted @ericspiegelman) While this podcast has been in the making in my mind for over a year, it’s birth will be in the middle of (hopefully end) of the COVID-19 Stay at home, physical distancing. Many of us are at home with our partners…. Leaving our blood to boil and tension to mount in our bodies when we see another dirty dish that hasn’t made it to the dishwashe...2020-05-1011 min

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |1: From FAILED Marriage to Soul Crushing LoveDo you want long lasting love? Do you want to understand what prevents divorce? This podcast is going to provide the roadmap to long lasting love. We will learn from the masters of love, as well as the disasters of love, in order to sort out the secret sauce of what makes a relationship work. Mentioned in the this podcast: Christine Padseky Aaron Beck- Love is Never Enough Gottman Method Emotion Focused Therapy Cognitive Behavior Therapy For more from the Canadian Centre for Ps...2020-05-1012 min