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Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhat You're Not Saying and WhyIn this episode, I open up about the hidden cost of unspoken truths and what happens when we hold back from sharing how we really feel. I talk about why silence can feel safe in the moment, but ultimately keeps us stuck in patterns that don't serve us. Through personal stories and practical tools, I share how learning to speak up and honor your true feelings can change not only your relationships but also your confidence in yourself. This is about finding the courage to be authentic and vulnerable—because that's where real transformation begins. ...
2025-08-2228 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalA Painful Lesson in Avoiding Facing the TruthIn this episode, I open up about how avoiding uncomfortable truths in relationships can create even deeper pain over time. I talk about the emotional toll of denial, the importance of addressing challenges quickly, and the role a supportive community can play in the healing process. This conversation is an invitation to face what's really going on so you can prevent unnecessary heartache and move forward with clarity, strength, and peace. Key Takeaways: Avoidance can lead to greater problems in relationships. Facing uncomfortable truths is essential for healing. Delaying action can cause emotional and relational...
2025-08-1522 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhen to Let the Old Stories GoIn this episode, I explore how storytelling can be a powerful tool for healing after betrayal. I explain the difference between revisiting a story to gain clarity and retelling it in a way that keeps the pain alive. You'll hear how to recognize when it's time to release an old, harmful narrative and replace it with an empowering one that supports growth, self-discovery, and emotional healing after infidelity. Key Takeaways: We tell stories to make sense of our experiences. Some stories can create more pain than they resolve. Exploring a story can lead to deeper...
2025-08-0822 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalHow to Bring Up the Infidelity Again Without Starting Another WarIn this episode we're going to talk about the complexities of conversations about infidelity. I know that sometimes it's important to revisit painful topics, so let's discuss some effective communication strategies, and the importance of setting boundaries to foster healing. We have to own responsibility while moving forward and practice conscious communication while rebuilding trust and intimacy post-betrayal. Key Takeaways: It's common for partners to want to revisit the topic of infidelity. Conversations about infidelity can either help or hinder healing. Bringing up past pain does not mean one hasn't forgiven. Effective communication is key...
2025-08-0225 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalKeep Watering - What My Flowers Taught Me About Healing After InfidelityIt's the 200th episode of Heal from Infidelity! I'm going to share a personal story about planting flowers - and the importance of continuing to care for yourself and your relationships, even when faced with challenges after betrayal. Key Takeaways: Healing after betrayal requires patience and nurturing. Just like flowers, relationships need care to thrive. It's important to keep watering even when results aren't visible. Your roots are still alive, even if it feels hopeless. Nurturing yourself is essential for growth. You can make decisions from a place of wisdom and care...
2025-07-2522 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhen They're Unhappy with You: Staying True without Shutting DownLet's talk about the challenges of navigating disapproval and emotional reactions in relationships. You'll learn about differentiation — maintaining one's identity while being in a relationship — and hear about ways to manage emotional responses. We'll look at the significance of self-respect, personal growth, and keeping the courage to stand firm in your truth, even when faced with someone else's discontent. Key Takeaways: Healing from infidelity involves becoming your truest self. Disapproval can trigger deep-seated fears of rejection. Differentiation means staying true to yourself in relationships. Emotional reactions should be managed before responding. It's okay to feel sad...
2025-07-1825 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhen Forgiving Doesn't Mean ForgettingToday we take a look at the complex relationship between forgiveness and forgetting, emphasizing that true forgiveness does not require the erasure of painful memories. I'll discuss the importance of recognizing and processing emotions through the body, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the ongoing journey of forgiveness as a continual practice. Key Takeaways: Forgiveness does not mean forgetting; it means letting go of emotional baggage. Our bodies hold wisdom about what needs to be processed and healed. Forgiveness is an internal process that requires self-awareness and honesty. Remembering can be protective and wise, helping...
2025-07-1134 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe Hidden Pain of Betrayal - Yours, Theirs, OursIn this episode, we look at the hidden pain of betrayal, emphasizing that both the betrayed and the betrayer experience deep emotional turmoil. We explore the myths surrounding infidelity, the importance of facing one's pain, and the necessity of mutual understanding in the healing process. Key Takeaways: Betrayed partners often feel worse while the betrayer appears unscathed. Pain avoidance leads to deeper issues later on. Indicators of healing include facing pain honestly and openly. Mutual understanding of pain is crucial for healing. Compassion does not mean excusing harmful behavior. Healing requires acknowledging grief and loss...
2025-07-0422 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe Mask of Avoidance: When Protection Becomes DisconnectionIn this episode we discuss the pervasive issue of avoidance in relationships. We explore how avoidance manifests as a lack of communication and emotional engagement, leading to disconnection and mistrust. We look at the costs of avoidance, the importance of setting real boundaries, and the detrimental effects of cancel culture on personal growth and relationships. Key Takeaways: Avoidance is a habit that keeps us stuck. Hard conversations are essential for growth and intimacy. Real boundaries require clarity and courage. Cancel culture promotes disconnection instead of dialogue. Avoidance can lead to emotional numbness and self-abandonment. We...
2025-06-2726 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalReclaiming Your Life After Abuse with Alysha LeeIn this powerful episode, we welcome Alysha Lee, who shares her intense journey of leaving an abusive relationship. Alysha opens up about her experiences, the challenges she faced, and how she ultimately reclaimed her life. This episode is a beacon of hope for those who may find themselves in similar situations, offering insights into healing and the courage to seek a better future. Key Takeaways: Alysha's early experiences and the red flags she overlooked. The emotional and spiritual manipulation she endured. The pivotal moment when Alysha decided to break free. The healing process and the...
2025-06-2044 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhat It Means to Be All in on the RelationshipIn this episode, I explore the concept of being 'all in' on a relationship and talk about the importance of commitment, understanding deal breakers, and establishing rules of engagement. I highlight the significance of truth-telling, emotional maturity, and personal accountability in fostering a healthy relationship. Key Takeaways: Being all in means commitment with your eyes wide open. It's important to know your deal breakers in a relationship. Rules of engagement help protect both partners during conflicts. Truth telling is an act of love and should be practiced. You are responsible for your own emotional maturity...
2025-06-1334 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalRelational Bypassing - The Hidden Ways We Bypass Real HealingIn this episode we'll discuss the concept of relational bypassing, a pattern where individuals avoid emotional pain in relationships, particularly after infidelity. This behavior can hinder intimacy and healing, so there is a real importance of emotional presence and truth in rebuilding the trust. Key Takeaways: Relational bypassing can kill intimacy in relationships. Fixing without hearing leads to disconnection. Emotional shortcutting delays healing. What we resist stays stuck; what we feel can move. Both partners in infidelity need to process their emotions. Avoidance strategies prevent real connection. Emotional presence is crucial for rebuilding trust. Truth...
2025-06-0626 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhat It Means to Be All InWhat does it mean to be "all in" on yourself, especially in the context of healing from infidelity? We'll talk about the importance of self-commitment and internal stability before you can fully engage in relationships. Key Takeaways: Going all in means committing to yourself first. You cannot be all in on a relationship without being all in on yourself. Internal stability is crucial for healthy relationships. Overriding your feelings leads to losing your peace. Being all in does not mean over-functioning for others. Recognizing when you're half in and half out is important. Your healing...
2025-05-3021 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalFull Body Healing with Majo TorreliIn this episode, Majo Torreli, a somatic coach who helps women break unhealthy relationship patterns and cultivate self-love, shares her personal journey of healing from emotionally abusive relationships and the transformative power of somatic coaching. Key Takeaways: Majo Torreli is a somatic coach helping women heal from unhealthy relationship patterns. Her personal journey involved overcoming emotionally abusive relationships. Somatic coaching helped her achieve what years of therapy could not. Feeling safe in one's body is crucial for emotional healing. Intellectual understanding of self-worth is different from experiencing it emotionally. Forgiveness requires processing and releasing trapped...
2025-05-2338 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalManipulation or Influence - How to Tell the Difference After InfidelityIn this episode we'll explore the critical distinction between manipulation and influence, particularly in the context of relationships affected by infidelity. We'll emphasize the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier interactions and personal growth. The discussion covers how manipulation often stems from fear and self-serving motives, while influence is rooted in strength, clarity, and a desire for collective betterment. Key Takeaways: Understanding the difference between manipulation and influence is crucial after infidelity. Manipulation often arises from fear and self-serving motives. Influence is about seeking the betterment of everyone involved. Recognizing patterns of manipulation...
2025-05-1625 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalUnbecoming Who I Never Was - Releasing Old Stories and Reclaiming What's TrueToday we're exploring unbecoming and self-discovery. We'll look at the importance of stripping away old identities and beliefs that no longer serve us, particularly those rooted in childhood trauma. We need to create space for authenticity and self-acceptance, rather than striving for an idealized version of ourselves. Key Takeaways: Healing from infidelity involves unbecoming old identities. Many beliefs about self-worth are rooted in childhood experiences. Unlearning is often more important than becoming something new. Creating space for authenticity allows for true self-discovery. The pressure to be better can stem from past trauma. It's essential to r...
2025-05-0932 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalMore Than Actions - What We Really Need After BetrayalActions alone are insufficient for healing after betrayal. Today we're talking about the importance of genuine connection, the impact of childhood experiences on emotional safety, and the necessity of self-awareness and self-care in the healing process. A person who has been betrayed has to prioritize their emotional safety and seek deeper, more meaningful connections in their relationships. Let's talk about how... Key Takeaways: Healing requires more than just actions; it needs genuine connection. Box checking can create an illusion of safety but lacks depth. Emotional safety is often rooted in childhood experiences. Resentment can undermine...
2025-05-0228 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalMaking Room for It All - Lessons from a WeddingToday I'm going to share a personal experience of navigating some complex emotions during my daughter's wedding. Let's talk about the importance of making room for all feelings, including joy and grief, and acknowledge the societal expectations surrounding emotional responses to significant life events. Key Takeaways: Emotional maturity involves holding multiple truths at once. It's okay to feel both joy and grief simultaneously. Cultural expectations can create pressure around how we should feel during significant events. Mixed emotions are a natural part of the human experience. Self-judgment can intensify emotional struggles. Making room for all...
2025-04-2525 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalFocusing on the Wrong Things After InfidelityIn this episode we talk about how important it is to focus on personal growth after infidelity rather than fixating on the actions of the partner. We need to prioritize self-healing, understanding the true nature of remorse, and the significance of moving forward rather than trying to return to the past. Key Takeaways: Focus on personal growth rather than the partner's actions. The decision to stay or go should not be the first question. Remorse from a partner does not equate to personal healing. Healing is not contingent on the partner's regret or recognition. Self-care...
2025-04-1818 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalStop Learning and Start Letting In: The Power of Integration After InfidelityIn this episode, we cover the critical concept of integration after infidelity. It's so important to move beyond mere education and understanding and advocate for a deeper embodiment of the lessons learned. True healing comes from slowing down, feeling emotions, and practicing integration. It's not easy facing the challenges of decision-making in the aftermath of infidelity; we have to commit long-term to the healing process. Key Takeaways: Integration is essential for true healing after infidelity. Education without integration leads to avoidance. Embodying change requires slowing down and feeling emotions. Real transformation happens when we practice...
2025-04-1133 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe Hidden Cost of Happy Wife, Happy LifeToday, let's explore the phrase 'happy wife, happy life' and its implications on relationships. We'll discuss the dangers of suppressing emotions, the cost of avoiding truth, and the importance of building true intimacy and honest partnerships. Real happiness in relationships comes from mutual respect, truth-telling, and emotional resilience rather than appeasement and avoidance of conflict. Key Takeaways: The phrase 'happy wife, happy life' promotes dishonesty and emotional withdrawal. Suppressing emotions leads to resentment and distance in relationships. Real partnership is built on mutual truth and respect, not just keeping one person happy. Avoiding conflict can...
2025-04-0426 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalHonesty - Your True North in Healing and RelationshipsIn this episode we're delving into the importance of honesty and truth-telling in the healing process after betrayal. We'll talk about the courage required to face one's own truths and the detrimental effects of withholding honesty in relationships, and we'll explore the concept of 'mini betrayals' and how they can lead to larger issues in relationships. Key Takeaways: Honesty is essential for healing and growth. Self-honesty requires courage and vulnerability. Withholding truth creates distance and resentment. Mini betrayals can lead to larger issues in relationships. Facing our truths can lead to clarity and alignment. Silence...
2025-03-2828 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalReleasing the Leeches - Letting Go of What Was Never YoursToday we're talking about the concept of emotional leeches — people or beliefs that drain our energy without giving anything in return. It's so important to recognize these leeches, understand the false narratives attached to them, and to ultimately release them to reclaim our energy and well-being. Key Takeaways: Emotional leeches drain your energy without giving anything in return. Recognizing leeches is the first step to reclaiming your energy. False narratives often stem from childhood conditioning. Healing from infidelity reveals the leeches we carry. Setting boundaries is essential for self-care. Letting go of leeches is an ac...
2025-03-2121 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalTruth - the Doorway to FreedomIn this episode we discuss the transformative power of truth in the healing journey after infidelity. There is emphasis on the importance of facing hard truths, both about ourselves and our relationships, and how this process can lead to personal empowerment and freedom. Through various exercises and reflections, listeners are encouraged to embrace their truths and develop emotional maturity, which is essential for genuine healing and growth. Key Takeaways: Truth is the threshold between devastation and transformation. The hardest truth to tell is often the one we tell ourselves. Ignoring the truth only makes it...
2025-03-1427 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalStop Reacting and Start LeadingToday we're going to stop reacting and start leading. Let's talk about the importance of moving from a reactive state to a proactive one in relationships, especially after infidelity. We'll discuss the need for self-leadership, the power of pausing before responding, and the significance of understanding one's triggers. Key Takeaways: Reacting to a partner's choices gives them power over you. Responding from strength leads to clarity and control. Jumping to conclusions can be dangerous and unproductive. Emotional outbursts often stem from a place of fear. Making decisions based on a partner's mood undermines your...
2025-02-2825 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalSelf-Repair After BetrayalToday we discuss the essential process of self-repair after experiencing betrayal with an emphasis on the importance of focusing on your relationship with yourself rather than solely on repairing the relationship with your partner. We explore how infidelity can shatter self-trust, the urgency of self-repair, and practical steps to rebuild self-trust, set boundaries, and engage from a place of choice. Ultimately, the episode highlights that true healing begins with you and that nurturing a strong relationship with yourself leads to healthier external relationships. Key Takeaways: Self-repair is often neglected after infidelity. Healing the relationship with...
2025-02-2124 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhy Those Who Invest in Themselves Heal FasterToday we explore the critical importance of investing in oneself for healing and personal growth after infidelity. Those who commit financially and emotionally to their healing journey tend to see the most significant transformations. We address some common objections to investing in oneself, the concept of money as an energetic exchange, the high costs associated with remaining stuck in unhealthy patterns and the impact of personal healing on future generations. Key Takeaways: Healing from infidelity requires courage and self-discovery. Personal growth often involves stepping out of comfort zones. Choosing how to respond to challenges is...
2025-02-1432 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalTurning Intense Moments into GrowthIn this episode, we discuss the journey of healing from infidelity through personal growth and empowerment. Using a skiing experience as a metaphor, I emphasize the importance of making conscious choices in response to challenges and triggers. The episode highlights the significance of micro choices in shaping our emotional responses and the power of taking ownership of our healing journey. Key Takeaways: Healing from infidelity requires courage and self-discovery. Personal growth often involves stepping out of comfort zones. Choosing how to respond to challenges is crucial for growth. Micro choices can significantly impact emotional resilience...
2025-02-0723 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalIs It Healthy Love or Love Addiction?In this episode, we explore the critical differences between healthy love and love addiction. We discuss the emotional dependencies that characterize love addiction, the signs to recognize it, and the traits of healthy love. The conversation delves into the root causes of love addiction, including unresolved childhood wounds and attachment styles, and offers practical steps for healing and cultivating healthy relationships. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, emotional independence, and the need for mutual respect and growth in relationships. Key Takeaways: Healthy love is about mutual respect and emotional security. Love addiction often involves...
2025-01-3123 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalInfluence Through Self-LeadershipIn this episode, we discuss the importance of self-leadership in the healing process after infidelity. Self-leadership involves taking responsibility for one's thoughts, emotions, and actions, which can significantly influence relationships. We cover various aspects of self-leadership, including emotional regulation, integrity, accountability, setting boundaries, and the ripple effect of personal growth. Reflect on your control, set intentions, and seek support as you navigate your healing journey. Key Takeaways: Self-leadership is crucial for personal growth after infidelity. Emotional regulation is key to fostering trust in relationships. Living with integrity inspires others and builds credibility. Setting healthy boundaries...
2025-01-2423 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalTransactional Versus Generous GivingIn this episode, we look at the concepts of transactional versus generous giving in relationships, particularly in the context of healing after infidelity. We discuss the motivations behind giving, the emotional toll of transactional giving, and the importance of genuine generosity without expectations. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness and communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy after betrayal. Key Takeaways: Transactional giving seeks control or an outcome. Generous giving is rooted in love and authenticity. Trust is rebuilt through consistent, small gestures. Expectations can complicate the act of giving. Generosity should not come at...
2025-01-1724 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalNavigating Change After InfidelityIn this episode we discuss the challenges of navigating personal change and grief after infidelity. I share my own experiences of emotional upheaval as my son leaves for college, exploring the triggers that arise during significant life transitions. We'll emphasize the importance of self-awareness, healthy communication, and grounding techniques to manage intense emotions. Please embrace your healing journey and consider joining my transformative program for support and growth. In this episode: Navigating Personal Change and Grief Understanding Triggers and Emotional Responses Tools for Managing Change and Grief Embracing Healing and Growth
2025-01-1023 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalFalse ConfidenceIn this episode, we discuss the concept of false confidence, particularly in the context of healing from infidelity. We explore the difference between true empowerment and the illusion of strength, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in the healing process. The episode highlights how performative behaviors can hinder emotional recovery and the significance of assertiveness over control in rebuilding trust. I provide actionable steps for listeners to cultivate true confidence, including acknowledging pain, taking ownership of healing, and focusing on personal growth. In this episode: The Illusion of Strength vs. True Empowerment The Impact...
2025-01-0326 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalRecognizing Narcissism with Kendra LastIn this episode, Kendra Last and I delve into the complexities of narcissism in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal and infidelity. Kendra shares her personal experiences with narcissistic partners, highlighting the signs and traits of narcissism, the impact it has on individuals, and the importance of recognizing one's worth in the healing process. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-love, understanding the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, and the journey towards healing and empowerment. In this episode: Understanding Narcissism in Relationships Kendra's Personal Journey with Narcissism Identifying Narcissistic Traits and Behaviors The Impact of...
2024-12-2747 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhat True Remorse Looks LikeIn this episode, we discuss the critical role of remorse in healing from infidelity. I'll emphasize the importance of genuine apologies, the characteristics of real remorse, and how to advocate for meaningful communication in relationships. The conversation provides insights into what constitutes true remorse and the steps necessary for rebuilding trust after betrayal. In this episode: Understanding Remorse After Betrayal Defining Real Remorse The Importance of Genuine Apologies Characteristics of Real Remorse What Real Remorse Does Not Look Like How to Ask for a Meaningful Apology More from Andrea: The January Workshop...
2024-12-2026 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe Free Fall of CommitmentToday let's delve into the complexities of commitment, especially in the wake of infidelity. We'll discover how committing can feel like a terrifying free fall and learn strategies to navigate these intense emotions. I'll share insights from coaching sessions, emphasizing the importance of going all in to find personal empowerment and growth. Whether you're deciding to stay in or leave a relationship, this episode offers valuable guidance on embracing vulnerability and finding grounding in uncertainty. Join me as I help you transform fear into a path of healing and self-discovery. In this episode: The Anatomy...
2024-12-1327 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalOne Choice at a TimeJoin Andrea in episode 167 of the Heal From Infidelity podcast as she explores the power of making choices, one at a time. Discover how each decision, big or small, can shape your life and lead to personal growth and healing. Andrea shares personal reflections from her busy Thanksgiving weekend, including the importance of advocating for oneself and the profound impact of life-altering decisions. She also announces an upcoming workshop on the decision to stay or go, offering guidance for those at a crossroads. Tune in to learn how to embrace your choices and create a life that truly reflects...
2024-12-0623 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe Gifts of UncertaintyIn this episode, Andrea shares personal experiences and insights that show how letting go of the need for certainty can lead to profound personal growth and self-discovery. She discusses the costs of clinging to the familiar and the steps needed to embrace the unknown, offering listeners a pathway to rebuild self-trust and create a life filled with possibility. Tune in to discover how stepping into the unknown can help you become the boldest, truest version of yourself. In this episode: Program Updates The Importance of Uncertainty Clinging to Familiarity Embracing the Unknown Personal Growth and...
2024-11-2929 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalEscapism and InfidelityIn this episode, Andrea delves into the complex relationship between escapism and infidelity. Discover why individuals turn to escapism, how it manifests in both betrayed and betraying partners, and the long-term impact on relationships. Andrea offers insights into identifying escapism tendencies, confronting them, and fostering personal growth and healing. Tune in to learn how to face personal struggles and relationship challenges head-on, and explore healthier coping strategies for a more fulfilling life. In this episode: Black Friday Specials Announcement Understanding Escapism Escapism Examples Impact on Relationships Healing and Confronting Escapism More from Andrea:
2024-11-2228 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe Price of JudgmentAndrea explores the profound impact of judgment on relationships, especially in the aftermath of infidelity. Discover how judgment can hinder healing and connection, and learn the difference between judgment and discernment. Andrea discusses empathy and self-compassion as powerful tools to overcome judgment and foster communication. Whether you're working to rebuild a relationship or deciding to move on, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice to help you navigate the complex emotions of betrayal. In this episode: Announcement: Free Class on Handling Triggers The Price of Judgment Types of Judgment Judgment vs. Discernment Impact on...
2024-11-1525 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalTechnology and InfidelityIn this episode, Andrea delves into the intricate relationship between technology and infidelity. Discover how the digital age has transformed the landscape of relationships, presenting both challenges and opportunities for healing. Andrea shares insights on setting digital boundaries, differentiating between surveillance and privacy, and the importance of open communication to rebuild trust. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of betrayal or preparing for new relationships, this episode offers empowering advice to help you take control of your digital space and foster healing. Tune in for a transformative discussion on safeguarding your mental health and reclaiming your power. ...
2024-11-0826 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhat Healing Really Looks LikeIn this episode, Andrea delves into the profound journey of healing from betrayal. Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, she explores the expectations versus the reality of healing, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and resilience. Andrea shares a poignant story about a dream that reignited past emotions and uses it as a metaphor for understanding the healing process. Join her as she uncovers the subconscious fears that linger and offers guidance on how to confront them with courage and kindness. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that healing is not about erasing the past, but about growing stronger and...
2024-11-0117 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalBetrayal and New TrustJoin Andrea as she delves into the complex journey from betrayal to rebuilding trust. This episode offers tactical insights and real-life examples to help listeners understand the dynamics of trust after infidelity. Andrea references Brene Brown's "Atlas of the Heart" to explore the emotions tied to betrayal and trust, emphasizing the need for accountability, integrity, and self-trust. Whether you've experienced betrayal or are working on self-trust, this episode provides valuable guidance for healing and growth. In this episode: Discussion on Betrayal Insights from Brene Brown's Work Building Trust: The BRAVING Framework Self-Trust and Personal Growth
2024-10-2531 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhat's Possible After InfidelityJoin Andrea as she explores the transformative possibilities that await after infidelity. Through real-life client stories, Andrea sheds light on the healing journey and the potential for personal growth and stronger relationships. Discover how courageous individuals have navigated betrayal, rebuilt trust, and emerged more confident and connected. Whether you're dealing with a recent discovery or a long-standing issue, this episode offers hope and strategies to move forward with intention and resilience. In this episode: Client Success Stories Dealing with Same-Sex Infidelity Rebuilding After Separation Couples' Journey to Reconnection More from Andrea: Free...
2024-10-1829 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalIs Anger Holding You Back?Andrea delves into the complex emotion of anger and its impact on personal growth. Discover how anger can serve as both a warning signal and a barrier to healing, and learn practical strategies to channel this emotion into positive action. Whether you're struggling with boundaries, resentment, or fear, this episode offers insights to help you move forward with confidence. Tune in to explore how to turn anger into a catalyst for change and create a life of empowerment and peace. In this episode: Virtual Retreat Announcement Understanding Anger Anger and Boundaries Resentment vs. Anger Anger...
2024-10-1123 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalChanging Your MindIn this episode, Andrea explores the concept of changing your mind, its challenges, and benefits. She shares a story about Terry Real, a well-known therapist, who publicly retracted a previous statement, demonstrating humility and growth. Andrea discusses common obstacles like cognitive biases and the sunk-cost fallacy, which prevent individuals from being open to change. Highlighting the importance of personal growth and integrity, she encourages listeners to be curious, seek diverse perspectives, and embrace flexibility in decision-making. By sharing her personal experience of navigating challenging decisions during her first marriage, Andrea illustrates that changing one's mind, when a...
2024-10-0417 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalYour Bottom LineIn this episode, Andrea explores the concept of "your bottom line" and how it plays a crucial role in the healing process after experiencing infidelity. She shares real-life examples from her clients and her own journey, illustrating how identifying and adhering to your bottom line can provide clarity and empowerment. She discusses the importance of self-reflection, understanding personal values, and establishing firm boundaries to protect oneself. Tune in to learn how to define your bottom line and why it's essential for your emotional well-being. In this episode: Importance of Knowing Your Bottom Line Real-Life...
2024-09-2721 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalYour Relationship to TraumaIn this empowering episode, Andrea delves into the complex topic of your relationship to trauma. Andrea shares personal stories and professional insights to help you understand and redefine your relationship with trauma, especially in the context of infidelity. She challenges the conventional narrative that trauma must be a lifelong burden and offers a fresh perspective on how to transform your pain into growth. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your life, shift your mindset, and build a future that's not defined by past hurts. In this episode: Understanding Relationships with Various...
2024-09-2024 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe Boomerang EffectIn this episode, Andrea delves into the concept she calls "The Boomerang Effect." Inspired by a coaching session with a client, Andrea explores how strong emotional reactions often lead us to make drastic decisions, only to later soften and reconsider our stance. She discusses how this phenomenon manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, politics, and religion, and emphasizes the importance of finding a middle ground. Tune in to learn how to navigate these emotional swings and make more grounded decisions. In this episode: The Origin of the Boomerang Effect Examples i...
2024-09-1321 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalA New Look at Forgiveness with Dara McKinleyIn this episode, Andrea welcomes forgiveness expert Dara McKinley to explore the profound and transformative power of forgiveness. Dara shares her personal journey and professional insights into how forgiveness can liberate us from emotional burdens, helping us to heal and move forward. They discuss the misconceptions about forgiveness, the difference between forgiving and pardoning, and the role of unconditional love. Dara also provides practical advice on how to approach forgiveness, even in the most challenging circumstances, and emphasizes that everyone is inherently capable of this healing process. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that promises to...
2024-09-0646 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalSpiritual BypassingToday, Andrea dives into the complex issue of spiritual bypassing. She discusses how individuals often use spiritual practices as a way to avoid facing the real issues at the heart of infidelity. Through real-life examples and personal anecdotes, Andrea explains why it's crucial to address the root causes of betrayal rather than masking them with temporary solutions. She also highlights the importance of facing uncomfortable emotions and the potential negative impacts of spiritual bypassing, such as emotional confusion and codependency. Tune in to learn how to confront these challenges head-on and grow into a more authentic and confident version...
2024-08-3032 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalRemembering Your ValueIn this week's episode, Andrea takes us on a heartfelt walk in the country to discuss the importance of recognizing and remembering your value. Learn how to move from needing validation to wanting it, and make powerful, courageous decisions that align with your true worth. Andrea shares personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and inspiring examples that will empower you to step into your full potential. Listen now and take the first step towards embracing your true value. In this episode: Discussing self-worth with teens Recognizing our own value Reactive vs. proactive actions Examples of valuing yourself...
2024-08-2316 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalBoundaries and Self-Sovereignty with Lindsay PoelmanAre boundaries hard for you? Do you struggle to know when to be firm and when to let up? In this episode, I interview expert Linsday Poelman about boundaries, how to think about them, and what to try if you struggle to set them. You will leave with a concrete way to check in with yourself as you become more autonomous in your closest relationships. Ready to embark on a NEW CAREER? Join Lindsay's exclusive masterclass to dive deep into her Trauma-Informed Coach Certification. Get insider access to a special 72-hour discount by...
2024-08-1643 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalPeople-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 2In the 2nd of this 2 part series, Sara Fisk and Andrea go deeper into people-pleasing. They go into more detail about how people-pleasing tendencies can put relationships at risk, and how stopping people-pleasing can help relationships heal. You will learn: How we are all deeply wired to people-please How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of people-pleasing) is crucial to healing Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the...
2024-01-2641 minHeal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalPeople-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 1Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Is it getting in the way of making clear decisions for yourself in the after-math of infidelity? In this 2-part series, Andrea and Sara Fisk talk all things people-pleasing. You will learn: How we are all deeply wired to people-please How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of people-pleasing) is crucial to healing Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism and codependency that...
2024-01-1226 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalAfter the Affair with Luke ShillingsIn this episode, I interview Luke Schillings about his personal experience with experiencing and healing from infidelity. He has used his own painful experience to now work with men who are navigating that space. Listen for some amazing wisdom of how to let go, heal, and move on. Luke is a 40 something father of two who recently escaped the 9-5 to chase his dreams of becoming a relationship and infidelity coach. UK based and Lincolnshire born and bred, he can often be found running in the countryside, volunteering, drinking coffee or engrossed in an Excel spreadsheet...
2022-10-2139 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalJanuary AnnouncementBe sure to listen to this announcement as Andrea will be sharing some upcoming changes that will interrupt the show temporarily. Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit our website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2022 Andrea Giles
2022-01-0703 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalTrust After Betrayal with Melissa SnowIn this episode, Andrea is a guest on the "Love Starts Here" podcast with life coach Melissa Snow. This episode covers the tough topics of how to trust again and whether or not it is a wise decision to do so, and the importance of building up trust in yourself first before deciding to trust someone else. We also discuss Andrea's #1 tip for how to decide to stay or leave so you can make that decision without second guessing yourself. Melissa Snow is a Certified Life Coach who helps women improve their relationships...
2021-12-3129 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalCo-Parenting with Mikki GardnerIn this episode, Andrea is interviewed by Life Coach Mikki Gardner about how to put emotion aside and show up as the kind of parent you want to be after infidelity. This will be useful wherever you are on your journey. When emotions are running high, it can be very difficult to think clearly, especially when it comes to parenting our children. You want what is best for them, but we also may be in "survival mode," not really seeing the big picture. This episode will help you navigate the rocky terrain of co-parenting when...
2021-12-2429 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalGratitude, Pain and a BabyA few themes of this podcast are that we always have choices even when we feel we don't, that the hardships we experience can catapult us towards our greatest growth, and that we can create the future we want. In this episode, Andrea gets personal with her recent experience of welcoming a new baby girl into the world and how it has enforced in her mind that things are always working in our favor. As difficult as infidelity and betrayal can feel, Andrea reminds her listeners that they have a bright, fulfilling future in front of them...
2021-12-1719 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhat I KnowWhen life throws us unexpected trials and curve balls, it can be easy to slip into doubt and fear. We can forget the hard-won lessons we have learned, become overwhelmed and lose sight of who we are and where we are going. In this episode, I'll share five things that I know for sure. These five things have helped me throughout my life to navigate those times where everything seems upside-down. My five truths have reminded me what matters, and encouraged me to keep going, no matter how desperate I may feel in the moment. ...
2021-05-1422 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalVictim MentalityDo you ever cringe when you hear that someone is being "such a victim"? We often carry such harsh judgement around this way of being, although most of us slip into it throughout our lives. In this episode, I'll explain what victim mentality really is and all the various ways it shows up. It can be sneaky and seem very justified, but in letting it stick around can cause all kinds of unnecessary pain and suffering. While many of us have been victimized at some point in our lives, we can use the feelings we...
2021-05-0729 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalValuesDo you know what your values are or why they matter? We often hear of companies having values but skim over the importance of knowing and living by our own. In this episode, we're going to dive in to what values are and how they can help guide decisions, know what to say yes and no to, and set parameters around where you will let your mind wander to. Knowing your values is crucial as you create a future you love. It becomes bigger than you - you are part of a vision. Listen, to...
2021-04-3024 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalClean Pain, Dirty PainPain is a natural part of life. We all experience loss, grief, and transitions. Suffering, however, is optional. In this episode you'll learn the difference between the natural pain that comes with life events, and suffering that comes from our thoughts about those events. A great predictor of the experience of one's life is how well they learn to manage their mind around their circumstances. The more the mind is kept in check, the more peaceful life will be. In this episode, you'll have an understanding of what kinds of suffering we cause ourselves, why...
2021-04-2315 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalBoundariesBoundaries are often misunderstood. Many view them as a means to control another person, a way to gain power over someone, or as something that will hurt the relationship. The truth is that a properly set boundary invites intimacy and trust. In this episode, I will be clearing up exactly what a boundary is, and what it isn't. You will understand: How clear boundaries strengthen relationships How to set them from a place of love What the most important piece of boundary setting is Why boundary-setting is a form of self-respect You'll come away from...
2021-04-1623 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalForgivenessForgiveness can be a touchy subject. Why should we forgive someone who has caused us so much pain? I get it. In this episode, I'll shed some light on how forgiveness is not actually for them- it is for you. I'll go over what forgiveness is, and what it isn't. Some of the ideas people believe about forgiveness are faulty and create additional pain. We'll uncover those and learn what forgiveness really is about and why it's such a gift to give ourselves. More information at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2021 Andrea Giles
2021-04-0923 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThriving After InfidelityMarriages can survive infidelity. But can the couple really thrive? This is a question I get asked a lot, and in this episode you'll understand why the answer is a resounding YES! Rebuilding a marriage after infidelity requires some specific tools and mindset shifts. It requires resiliency, curiosity, and a determination to change the narrative surrounding the infidelity. In this episode, you'll learn what these tools and skills are, and how to implement them. You'll be able to identify what areas you are stuck in and concrete solutions to truly moving forward and building a...
2021-04-0225 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalPornography and Trust with Lindsay and Danny PoelmanPornography in marriages can feel threatening, shameful and impossible to overcome. In today's episode, guests Lindsay and Danny Poelman share their story of overcoming the grip of pornography and creating a marriage much stronger than the one they had before. For so many, porn use can feel crippling. Many men (and women) feel intense shame around porn use which ultimately keeps them stuck. In this episode, you'll learn how changing the narrative around porn use and empowering the individual can transform a marriage. More information at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2021 Andrea Giles
2021-03-2651 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalJealousyFrequently called "the green-eyed monster," jealousy is an emotion we don't often want to admit experiencing. We judge ourselves for feeling it, as we wonder what is wrong with us, and wind up in all kinds of painful mind drama. After experiencing infidelity, jealousy can feel like a constant companion. Those pesky intrusive thoughts that creep in? The images you see? The incessant thoughts about "the other woman"? These are all normal to experience after a betrayal, but are rooted in fear and doubt. In this episode, you'll learn how envy and jealousy are different...
2021-03-1917 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalBufferingMost of us have been conditioned our entire lives with the messaging that we should just be happy and filled with pleasure at all times. When we don't feel happy all the time, we avoid the negative emotion by buffering from what is actually real. In this episode, you'll learn the real reasons why you buffer, and what it is costing you. When we buffer, we give ourselves a false sense of safety and security, but we are missing the opportunity to understand why we are buffering in the first place. We miss what the uncomfortable emotion...
2021-03-1224 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalPerfectionismPerfection is a myth, yet so many of us think that we should be perfect to be acceptable and loveable. We can easily fall into being over-achievers or under-achievers, both as veils to hide our perceived insecurities and flaws. This kind of thinking stifles our own development, and keeps us from developing real, vulnerable relationships with others where we allow ourselves to be seen. We may also block our own ability to really see others as they are. In this episode, you'll learn if you are a perfectionist (you may be surprised by some of...
2021-03-0530 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhen You Feel Betrayed by God with David ButlerWhen life doesn't go the way we thought it would, it can be easy to blame God. Sometimes in our darkest moments we can wonder if He abandoned us. In this episode, guest David Butler and I will be discussing ways to cope with this painful experience. David Butler is a best-selling author, co-host of the acclaimed "Don't Miss This" podcast, and educator. His unique view on God and scripture brings insight to this topic that will help listeners understand that they are not alone. In this episode, you'll gain a greater understanding of how...
2021-02-261h 01
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalAll or Nothing ThinkingIn this episode, I'll be diving into why it is worth leaning into the "cognitive dissonance," or the space in between black and white where things feel a little more fuzzy. It is in this space that we grow. We try on new ideas, understand others on a deeper level, and create a safe place for ourselves, even when we don't have all the answers. Even more importantly, when we can allow the discomfort of the gray area, healing takes place. If we can believe that someone who hurt us is both good and bad, it becomes...
2021-02-1924 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalUsing Feelings As FuelThoughts create our feelings, but feelings are the fuel that create our experience with life. When we learn to leverage the power of feelings, there is nothing you are unwilling to do, because you will be willing to feel any emotion in service of the result you want most. In this episode, you will learn specific tools that will help you create the emotion that you want, and have an understanding of why both positive and negative emotions can be useful. Everything you could ever want is on the other side of learning to use your...
2021-02-1225 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalDiscomfort ToleranceWhen faced with an uncomfortable situation, our natural tendency is to get out as quickly as possible. Sometimes we physically or emotionally check out in an attempt to avoid pain. In today's episode, you'll learn why your greatest growth comes from increasing your tolerance to discomfort - not avoiding it altogether. By paying attention to what we want most in life, our willingness to allow discomfort will grow. When there is an understanding that the discomfort is in service of your ultimate goal, we are more willing to lean into the growth. The more we...
2021-02-0523 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalAnchoring to What You KnowWhen faced with decisions, our brains automatically point out all the things we don't know, all the reasons it won't work, and why we should be afraid. In this podcast, you'll learn why starting with what you do know will help you solve what you don't. For as long as humans have existed, our primal response to any kind of threat or danger is to get defensive, confused, and go looking for safety outside ourselves. Although this has kept us alive, it is outdated and does not ultimately help us create the kind of life we want...
2021-01-2924 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalAccepting What IsWhen it comes to healing from infidelity, acceptance is key to moving forward. This does not mean agreeing with it, liking it or not being sad about it. Acceptance means acknowledging that it happened instead of arguing with it. When I first start working with new clients, they generally switch back and forth between making themselves wrong for the infidelity, or making their spouse wrong. Both stories have the potential to bring up strong emotions, and they often use those emotions against themselves instead of processing them. In this episode, you'll learn the 3 stages of...
2021-01-2226 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalPost Traumatic Growth with Krista St-GermainIf you've been listening to the podcast for awhile, you know how much I talk about the growth that can happen following a life-changing (and un-asked for) event. In this episode, I talk with my first podcast guest, Master Coach Krista St-Germain, all about post traumatic growth. Krista is very familiar with grief, loss and having plans change. In this episode, she'll share her own story of loss and how it propelled her into challenging her beliefs, leaning into future possibility, and ultimately helping others grow after loss. If you've ever wondered how you can...
2021-01-1544 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalAllowing Yourself to Be WrongFor most of us, being wrong feels like a threat. If we are wrong, what does it mean about us, our judgement, and our ability to make wise choices in the future? In this episode, you'll learn why it's actually good news that you could be wrong. When we give ourselves permission to be wrong about our assumptions of ourselves and others, it makes space for other thoughts and emotions. We can get curious about new possibilities. We can challenge thoughts we've had about ourselves that feel factual but cause a lot of pain. In...
2021-01-0831 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalHow to Set GoalsIt's the beginning of a New Year, and for many of us it means setting goals for 2021. Statistically, even the most well-intentioned goals often fizzle out and we end up feeling like we failed. Today, you'll learn how to make goals that actually stick. Most of us have been taught to go after goals that scare us, but our brains are naturally inclined to run from things that feel hard. That is why most people quit. In this episode, you'll learn exactly how to set goals that are both challenging and doable. Goals that keep...
2021-01-0120 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalPreparing for Hard DaysAll of us have days when we may feel anxious anticipation, but sometimes those days can become more frequent after infidelity, divorce, or other life-changing events. This episode will dive into how to prepare for hard days. Whether it is a custody situation, an anniversary, or being around people who may ask tough questions, it is possible to not let those events de-rail you. Listen to understand how to best prepare for those days so you can set yourself up for success. You'll know how to handle your emotions, how to be the best version...
2020-12-1824 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalLearning to Trust, Part 2On last week's podcast, you learned about the different kinds of trust and how to build trust in yourself. In this episode, you'll learn some of the pitfalls to building trust and what you can do to create a more trusting environment for yourself and others. You'll learn how we can mis-read disappointment as a betrayal, and why it is important to learn to differentiate between the two. You'll also understand the importance of cultivating an environment of trust in your relationships, whether you are staying married or not. More information at https://andreagiles.com...
2020-12-1122 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalLearning to TrustOne of the most common questions after experiencing infidelity is, "Can I ever trust again?" In this episode, we'll explore different kinds of trust and how to build the most important kind of trust, a trust in yourself. When faced with infidelity, the foundation of trust can be broken, and it takes time to repair it. In this episode, you'll learn how to make "temporary" fixes, and how to make more lasting, solid repairs that will lead to the most fulfilling relationships. Learning to trust is a process that requires patience, but ultimately allows the...
2020-12-0423 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalJournalingYou may have heard that journaling can be a healing process, but there are benefits you may never have thought about. In addition to being a healing tool to our physical bodies, journaling is proven to be an emotional regulator and healer as well. In this episode, I will share how impactful journaling has been for me, how to journal, and why I encourage you to make it a part of your daily practice. More information at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 Andrea Giles
2020-11-2720 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhat It Takes To HealHealing from infidelity can seem so overwhelming, undefined and unattainable. In this episode, I'll share 6 things that help in the process of healing. In a simple online search, you can find many varying opinions about how healing actually happens after infidelity. Can it actually be done? Yes. Listen to understand why some traditional views on healing (such as the saying, "Time heals all wounds") aren't necessarily true if we don't know what to be actively doing with that time. You'll learn how valuable self-compassion is, and more tools to help you process your emotions as...
2020-11-2025 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe 50/50 RuleDo you ever wonder if you can just feel "good"? In this episode, you'll learn why we aren't programmed to feel good all the time, and why it's actually a positive thing. Most of us spend our life feeling just a few main emotions, and wonder why we keep getting the same results. When you learn that life is best when we allow both the positive and the negative, doors open up that were once closed. There is literally nothing you won't do if you know you can handle any emotion. Listen to understand how...
2020-11-1325 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe ManualMost of us have long, detailed "scripts" of how others should behave, and when they don't, we get upset. We expect others to follow the script, even if they don't know it exists. This is not only frustrating for the people in our lives, but very frustrating for ourselves because of what we make it mean that they didn't do what we wanted them to do. Listen to this podcast to understand the difference between making requests of others and having your own back whether they agree or not, and turning all of our emotional well-being over...
2020-10-3028 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalHow To Have Difficult ConversationsJoin me on this podcast to learn what keeps us from telling the hard truth in conversations, and why it is actually not only hurting you, but the relationship itself. How many times have you avoided a conversation because you know it may get tense and uncomfortable? In this podcast I'll teach you why that tension is actually not a problem, and how allowing yourself to sit in that tension creates the space to problem solve and get what you actually, truly want. More information at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 Andrea Giles
2020-10-2325 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalPeople PleasingIn this episode, I'll help you identify if you're a people pleaser, why you do it, how it is harming you, and what to do about it. Many of us have false beliefs that we have to say yes to everything, make everyone happy, and not let anyone down, ever. This of course creates so much pressure. And in the end, is not only exhausting, but deep down we know we are letting ourselves down. We may believe that is it loving to pretend like we are okay with things when we actually aren't. If you have...
2020-10-1621 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalBelieving New ThingsYou've probably heard that what you think about matters, but the questions is- HOW do you actually change your own thoughts? Maybe you have tried positive affirmations, read books about changing your thoughts and wondered why nothing has actually changed. That is because the actual process of how to change the pathways in your brain are not readily explained. Listen to find out the 3 steps to literally changing your mind. Once you understand how to use the power of your mind, there is nothing you can't have or do! More information...
2020-10-0926 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalCreating SafetyDo you know what it's like to feel "triggered?" In this episode I'll talk about why we stay triggered, and how to create safety within ourselves to successfully move forward with our lives. After experiencing a betrayal, our safety can feel compromised, causing us to feel perpetually "stuck" in a pattern of flight, fight or freeze. Although this pretends to keep us safe, it actually is keeping us from being able to move forward. Listen to learn how to use science-backed tools to calm the brain, relax the body, and ultimately allow you to move...
2020-10-0221 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalDivorce and the Stories We TellMany of us carry around painful stories about divorce and what it means about us to make that choice (or for someone else to choose it for us). Whether you are married or single, listen to uncover what stories you carry about divorce and how to let them go. When I first got divorced, I was so embarrassed to say it out loud because I thought it meant "failure." Over time, I have changed my story and see it as success rather than failure. In this episode you'll learn how I went from blaming him...
2020-09-2524 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalLetting Go of the OutcomeWhen faced with tough decisions, it can be so hard to make a powerful choice because we so want to know how it will turn out. In this episode, I'll share my own experience with letting go of the outcome and how it changed the course of my life. I'll share 3 examples of how doing what I felt was the best (albeit hard) decision opened the door for even better things in my life. Listen if you are grappling with two decisions -- one that may feel a little easier because it gives a sense...
2020-09-1820 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalYour Plan BHave you ever stayed in a situation you don't love because you're so afraid of what the alternative might be? In this podcast, I'll teach you why planning out Plan B actually sets you free. If we don't really lean into the fear, pain, and discomfort of a new plan, we aren't fully choosing the one we are in. Listen to learn how stretching your brain and making alternative plans is what brings peace and security to either choice you make. More information at https://andreagiles.com/ © 2020 Andrea Giles
2020-09-1116 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalFeeling Your FeelingsA crucial part to healing and moving forward is learning to acknowledge and process your own feelings. In this episode, you'll learn what to avoid, and how to allow yourself to feel your feelings. Many of us have never learned how to allow our feelings, and have stuffed them down, hidden from them, and punished ourselves for having the feelings we have. What if feelings are not a problem at all and actually allow you to experience life more fully? Tune in to learn how to allow feelings, and how to create the emotions that...
2020-09-0423 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWanting What You WantMost of us have learned to talk ourselves out of what we want, or have grown so accustomed to paying attention to what everyone wants that we have no idea what we want. In this episode, you'll learn why what you want really, really matters. Listen to find out why the things you want serve as guideposts along your journey of who you are becoming. You'll learn how your desires were put there on purpose to help guide you to who you are capable of being by leaning into them. You'll hear examples of women...
2020-08-2821 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalThe Thought ModelYou've heard that your thoughts matter, but maybe you don't quite know how your thoughts are affecting you, or how to change them. In this episode, you'll learn the science behind thoughts and how they are directly creating results in your life. Even when life hands us circumstances that we struggle with, we still have so much more power than we know. Tune in to learn how it's not the circumstance that is causing all the heartache, it's the way you are thinking about it. This is very good news because it means you don't...
2020-08-2127 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalHow to Make DecisionsOne of the most common things I hear from my clients is that they don't know what to do. This applies to not only the big questions, but the little ones as well. In this episode, I'll teach a 3-step plan to making decisions. Once you understand how, you can apply this process to any decision you need to make in your life (and we make a lot of them as humans!). You'll learn how indecision pretends to keep you safe, but is in reality holding you back from the life you want. Once you...
2020-08-1223 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalWhy You're StuckDo you ever wonder what is wrong with you? You've had your trust broken, yet you are left feeling terrible like it was somehow your fault. You know something has got to give, you build up your courage, but end up turning back into familiar patterns. I have great news for you… you are normal. You are not broken. Your brain is doing exactly what it's supposed to do, and in this episode I'll explain why. Once you understand why you behave the way you do, I'll teach you how to take steps forward, away fr...
2020-08-1221 min
Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After BetrayalMy StoryWelcome to the show! In this first episode, I'll be sharing who I am, why I am here, and how this podcast can help you. I, too, know first-hand the pain of having trust broken, my own little world turned upside-down, and the confusion of not knowing how to make it better. I have been where you are, and know how to help you heal from it. This episode covers some of the things you can look forward to in this podcast - the exact tools and skills I learned that not only have changed my life...
2020-08-1217 min