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BECOMING UNTRIGGEREDWhy Your Child's Defiance Triggers You (How to Break the Cycle)Does your child’s defiance trigger something deep in you? Maybe it’s backtalk, boundary-pushing, or refusal to listen—and suddenly you feel disrespected, overwhelmed, or out of control. This episode of Becoming Untriggered explores why your child’s behavior creates such a powerful emotional response and what it reveals about your own inner wounds.We take a trauma-informed approach to parenting triggers—like authoritarian upbringings, religious shame around obedience, and emotional neglect—to help you understand the real reason defiance hits so hard. You’ll discover how power struggles form, why your nervous system reacts like it’s under threa...2025-05-2325 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDCan Couples Therapy Make Things Worse?Couples therapy is often seen as the fix for relationship problems, but what if it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we unpack why traditional couples therapy or marriage counseling might not work unless deeper emotional wounds are addressed first.We explore how unresolved attachment trauma, unmet childhood needs, and inner child work play a major role in how we show up in romantic relationships. You’ll hear how unconscious expectations, coping patterns, and childhood experiences silently sabotage even the most well-intentioned communication tools.If you’re considering couples counseling, or feel like it hasn...2025-05-0926 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDParenting Tips to Manage More Than One ChildParenting more than one child is a beautiful and chaotic dance of energy, emotions, and endless learning curves. In this episode, we discuss the complex dynamics of raising multiple children, from juggling attention and managing birth order effects to uncovering unconscious triggers rooted in our own childhood experiences. With candid stories and heartfelt insights from raising our three kids, we reveal how subtle adaptations in each child can form based on how we parent them (or don't).We explore common patterns such as the “good” vs. “bad” child dynamic, sibling rivalry, and how birth order can shape a child’...2025-04-2528 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDIs It Your Personality or a Trauma Response?Have you ever wondered if the way you show up in the world is truly YOU, or if it’s a response to something you’ve been through? Many traits we consider “just who we are”, like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional numbing, or hyper-independence, may actually be protective patterns shaped by past experiences.In this episode, we’ll unpack how unresolved trauma can wire the nervous system and influence your behaviors, reactions, and relationships. You’ll learn how to identify common trauma responses that often go unnoticed because they’ve been part of your identity for so long.If you’re...2025-04-1123 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDWhy You Pick Your Partner: The Psychology of Attraction & LoveHave you ever wondered why you’re drawn to certain people? In this episode, we uncover the psychology of attraction and the unconscious reasons behind your partner choices. From childhood experiences to hidden emotional wounds, we discuss how early attachment styles and past relationships shape who we find attractive and why those patterns sometimes lead to relationship challenges.Attraction isn’t just about chemistry; it’s deeply influenced by trauma bonds, unmet childhood needs, and subconscious expectations. You will learn how these factors play out in romantic relationships, why certain traits that once felt comforting can later become...2025-03-2822 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDThe Path to Becoming Untriggered with Joanna LindenbaumIn this episode, we explore the power of somatic healing, what it is, why it matters, and how it can transform both personal growth and relationships. We also explore the role of deep inner work, the connection between mind and body, and how somatic practices can help navigate triggers in marriage and parenting. Joanna Lindenbaum shares her journey from the art world to coaching, revealing how a life-altering experience pushed her to embrace her true calling.Joanna is the founder of the Applied Depth Institute, where she trains coaches, therapists, and leaders in master-level facilitation and trauma-informed...2025-03-1436 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDIs It Ever Too Late to Repair Your Parent-Child Relationship?In this episode, we explore the power of repair in parenting, what it means, why it matters, and whether there’s a point where it’s no longer effective. We dive into the difference between short-term and long-term repair, the role of unresolved trauma, and how self-awareness can transform your relationship with your child.Many parents struggle with guilt, wondering if past mistakes have caused lasting harm. We share our own experiences and expert insights on why repair is always possible, even if it feels too late. We discuss how acknowledging your mistakes, taking responsibility, and showing genu...2025-02-2821 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDHow Your Inner Child Is Sabotaging Your CareerDoes your career feel stuck, unfulfilling, or full of unnecessary struggle? You might be unknowingly sabotaging your success. The beliefs and patterns formed in childhood don’t just shape your personal life, they also dictate your career choices, job satisfaction, and professional growth.In this episode, we uncover how your inner child influences your professional choices, the jobs you choose, why you stay in unfulfilling roles, and how you show up at work every day. From seeking parental approval to struggling with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and burnout, we unpack the unconscious ways your past is controlling your present....2025-02-1421 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDHow to Make Your Kids Feel Safe in an Unsafe WorldIn this episode, we explore how to make your kids feel safe in an increasingly unsafe world. From natural disasters to unsettling news cycles and social media overload, modern parenting comes with unprecedented challenges. They discuss how these external factors impact children’s emotional well-being and why creating a secure home environment is more crucial than ever.You’ll learn practical strategies for balancing honesty and protection when talking to your kids about difficult topics. We not only share our perspectives on managing fear, regulating emotions, and fostering resilience in children, but also address the importance of pare...2025-01-3125 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDWhy Addiction Stems from Childhood Pain (And How to Heal)In this episode, we dive into the complex and often misunderstood world of addiction, exploring how it functions as a coping mechanism for unprocessed pain and trauma. From socially acceptable habits like workaholism and exercise to substance dependencies, we examine the many faces of addiction and how they impact both personal lives and relationships. Together, we unpack what it means to recognize and address these unconscious behaviors and ask: How can we replace coping mechanisms with authentic healing?
Our conversation touches on the emotional weight of shame, the unhealed wounds from childhood, and the societal norms that...2025-01-1731 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDDo You Need Estrangement to Break Generational Traumas?In this episode, we dive deep into the often misunderstood topic of estrangement and ask the question: Do you need it to break generational traumas? We unpack what it means to create space in family dynamics—whether it’s reducing contact or going completely no-contact—and explore how this process can be a powerful tool for healing. Together, we tackle the generational trauma and societal norms that shape family relationships and keep many stuck in unhealthy cycles, offering actionable steps to create healthier connections.
Our conversation examines the emotional weight of guilt and obligation, the co...2025-01-0327 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDHow to Talk to Your Teens About Drugs, Alcohol, and S8xParenting tweens and teens is no easy feat, especially when navigating their rites of passage. Navigating teenage rites of passage can bring up questions like: How do I prepare my child to handle peer pressure around alcohol, drugs, or sex? How can I teach values without sounding authoritarian? In this episode, we address these and more by sharing personal stories, practical strategies, and actionable tips. We reflect on the importance of clearing our own emotional baggage to show up as the best version of ourselves for our kids, and discuss how to differentiate between helpful guidance and unintentional control.2024-12-2027 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDThe Path to Becoming Untriggered with Melissa & BryantIn this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we sit down with Melissa and Bryant, a couple navigating the intricate challenges of parenting, partnerships, and personal growth. They share their transformative journey of uncovering and overcoming individual and shared triggers that have shaped their family dynamic. Through honest reflection, they explore how childhood experiences, trauma bonds, and ingrained patterns influenced their roles as parents and partners. Their vulnerability provides a relatable and inspiring look at the ongoing process of healing and self-awareness.
We also discuss the tools and strategies we helped them use to foster growth...2024-12-0646 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDWhy Men and Women Approach Conflict So DifferentlyAre Men from Mars and Women from Venus? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we’re getting real about the differences between men and women—and how those differences can both challenge and strengthen our relationships. Drawing from our own experiences (like unpacking after a big move!) and our clients' stories, we uncover why men may seem withdrawn and women feel unheard. We’ll talk about those moments of frustration, the misunderstandings that escalate into conflict, and how shifting our perspective can foster compassion instead of judgment. This is an honest conversation about connection, communication, and what it really means...2024-11-2241 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDHow to Navigate and Manage Parenting Conflicts with In-LawsIn this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we delve into the complexities of managing relationships with in-laws, especially around parenting approaches. Join us as we discuss the common triggers that arise, from differing parenting styles to struggles with boundary-setting. We explore why these tensions often stem from deeper dynamics with our own parents and how these relationships can serve as a mirror for unresolved childhood issues.
Learn practical strategies for setting clear boundaries with in-laws while preserving family harmony, supporting your partner through these challenges, and approaching in-law relationships as opportunities for personal growth.
Tune in...2024-11-0830 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDDoes Gentle Parenting Actually Work? | Real Talk on Parenting StylesIn this podcast episode, we explore whether gentle parenting actually works, diving into gentle or conscious parenting vs. authoritarian parenting, and their impact. Offering valuable parenting tips and exploring gentle parenting myths, we address common parenting mistakes including the balance between authority and collaboration. We also discuss why parents sometimes revert to authoritarian or authoritative styles and how to blend empathy with discipline. This podcast episode is packed with practical tips, expert guidance, and the pros and cons of various parenting approaches.
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Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: http...2024-10-2533 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDThe Impact Of Angry/Absent Dads and Anxious/Volatile MumsIn this episode, we explore how childhood dynamics and parental influences shape adult relationships and parenting styles. The discussion delves into the effects of volatile and anxious mothers, as well as angry and absent fathers, on your attachment styles and relationship dynamics. Through psychodynamic coaching and inner child healing, we offer insights and healing techniques to address these deeply ingrained patterns and promote healthier family dynamics. Perfect for anyone on a healing journey who wants to understand how their parents can have an impact on their romantic relationships.
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Lavinia’s Making Peac...2024-10-1145 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDThe Secret to a Smoother Back-to-School TransitionIn this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we discuss the back-to-school season and its impact on both children and parents. We explore how unprocessed childhood trauma can influence parents' reactions and provide practical tips for supporting both your child and inner child through this transition. The conversation explores understanding the inner child, the challenges of parenting, and how to create a supportive environment for both your kids and yourself during the back-to-school transition. Perfect for any parent dealing with back-to-school anxiety and looking for parenting tips.
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Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past...2024-09-2738 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDStop Feeling Annoyed By Your Kids Neediness!In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we discuss the challenges of dealing with children's neediness. We explore the reasons behind why parents may find their children's neediness annoying, the childhood triggers linked to this, and how to overcome these feelings. This episode covers various ways children's neediness manifests, including clinginess, verbal demands, ungratefulness, and unhappiness, offering practical parenting tools and parenting advice to help parents process their emotions and create a more nurturing environment.
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Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
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We offer practical advice for new parents on maintaining intimacy and overcoming relationship challenges with the help of inner child work and psychodynamic therapy. This episode serves as a guide for understanding how having kids changes your relationship and provides valuable relationship advice for new parents to ensure a...2024-08-3037 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDWhy Being SELFISH Will SAVE Your RelationshipIn this episode, we delve into surviving early parenthood and the importance of not losing yourself in the process. We discuss how prioritising self-care and being 'selfish' in relationships can prevent resentment and burnout. We also explore the negative effects of people pleasing, the crucial role of inner child work, and how understanding and addressing unprocessed traumas from childhood can help you navigate the challenges of parenthood. Tune in for insights on balancing responsibilities, managing guilt, and supporting each other as co-parents.
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Lavinia’s Making Peac...2024-08-1639 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDHow to Keep Stress from Ruining Your RelationshipsIn this episode, we delve into the topic of stress in relationships and how to manage it effectively. We discuss the negative effects of stress and how it can manifest in daily life, often due to unprocessed trauma from childhood. By exploring inner child work and inner parenting, we provide practical tools to help you cope with stress, own it, and process it rather than projecting it onto your partner or children. Through our own personal experiences and examples from our clients, we illustrate how to recognise and deal with stress in a healthy way.
2024-08-0234 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDWhy Your Kids Fighting Triggers You and How to Handle ItIn this episode, we uncover why your kids fighting triggers you and give you practical tools on how to deal with your kids fighting.
We explore the common challenges faced by parents when their children fight, including sibling rivalry, name-calling, bullying and physical fighting. We delve into how these situations can bring up unprocessed childhood traumas and offer practical tools to help you become the calm, respectful parent you desire to be. We also offer step-by-step guidance on how to process unprocessed emotions, dealing with repressed anger, and maintaining a regulated nervous system even when your children f...2024-07-1934 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDWhy Most Relationships FailIn this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into the common issues that lead to divorce and discuss how childhood traumas and unprocessed emotions can manifest as conflict in relationships. We also share personal experiences, insights on attachment trauma, and practical tools for reparenting your inner child to foster healthier, more present relationships. Tune in to learn how to navigate conflict in relationship, take responsibility for your emotional needs, and support each other in overcoming unconscious wounds.
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Book a 3hr Relationship Recovers session with Lavinia and Andrew - https://calendly.com...2024-07-1938 minBECOMING UNTRIGGEREDWelcome to Becoming UntriggeredWelcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners. In each episode, you'll hear stories, practical tools, and strategies related to topics like healing your inner child, emotional regulation, overcoming childhood coping mechanisms, and so much more.
Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene.
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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury UnruffledBecoming Untriggered (with Lavinia Brown and Andrew Lynn)Trauma informed coaches Lavinia Brown and Andrew Lynn join Janet to discuss how they help parents identify triggers and heal wounds that are preventing them from being the parents they wish to be and otherwise negatively impacting their daily lives. Andrew says: "Trauma robs you of the freedom to choose how you react." Lavinia and Andrew describe some of the common signs of trauma and repressed emotions, how they recognized their own, and how their respective coaching practices enable parents to process these emotions by connecting with the needs of their inner child.Reach Lavinia at LaviniaBrown.c...2023-02-1446 min