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Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 280 Mental Health Awareness Month with Kim JeffsThis is a special conversation I had with Kim Jeffs, Founder, Executive & Somatic Coach of Soma and Soul and Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counseling Supervisor. From Kim: ‘I'm licensed as a mental health counseling supervisor in the State of NC. Additionally, I'm a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, focused on high-stress physiology. Over two decades, I've explored the connection between the mind and body, obtaining various certifications that enrich my practice. This continuous learning has allowed me to help individuals tap into their potential, both professionally and personally. Despite my professional journey, it's essential to remember th...2024-05-2351 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 267 What to do if Someone You Care About Over-DrinksWhat do you want to hear on the Stop Over-drinking and Start Living podcast?
Today, I'm answering this question:
How can you positively influence someone you care about who is over drinking such that it is negatively impacting not only your relationship with them, but many areas of their life and how they show up? How to support and inspire positive changes?
Tune in and hear the answer! Also, will you share my podcast?
Chances are you know a lot of people that struggle with alcohol.
Most people who over...2024-02-2221 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 254 Holiday Rewind. You Get to Say No, Not Just to AlcoholThis episode gives you permission to not feel obligated to do all the things around the holidays that you normally do 'just because it's family' or otherwise.
I discuss how you have free will and autonomy as an adult to decide if you do things or not.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
And yes, some people won't like it and it's ok.
If you do decide to do it even though you don't like it, own that it was still your decision to make. You...2023-11-2222 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 225 Scared of Change + The BuzzWelcome back to the podcast.This week, I will help you examine why you are scared to change your relationship with alcohol and why you love the Buzz so much.
These two topics will help ease your worries about what you think you will experience if you work on cutting back on how much you are drinking.
It all comes down to our minds and how it's wired to keep us the same and comfortable.
When we want to change, our minds tell us how terrible and awful things could be.2023-05-0320 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 207 You Get to Say No, Not Just to Alcohol!This episode gives you permission to not feel obligated to do all the things around the holidays that you normally do 'just because it's family' or otherwise.I discuss how you have free will and autonomy as an adult to decide if you do things or not.You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.And yes, some people won't like it and it's ok.If you do decide to do it even though you don't like it, own that it was still your decision to make. You...2022-12-2118 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 206 Play this FIRST, Your questions AnsweredListen to this podcast FIRST! If you are new and just tuning in, this episode is a GREAT one to kick off this podcast series.
I've coached hundreds of women to stop over-drinking and I have collected some amazing questions that my listeners and followers have, and created a special class, teaching you how to stop over-drinking and answering these questions.
In this episode I answer these questions:(I also share how you can join me in Stop Over-drinking and Start Living, my 6-month coaching program. Enrollment is open now, but CLOSING 12/31/22...2022-12-141h 24
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 198 DedicationThis episode is highlighting 4 women who have dedicated themselves at the highest level to reach their goals and live their dreams.One woman who at 68 years old decided to change her relationship with alcohol and now is celebrating one year alcohol-free and is now taking her business to the next level.Another woman who thought "I'll be the client that Angela can't help," almost 3 years ago and now works for me and is building her own coaching business.Another woman who lost her son 6 years ago and was drinking every night and who...2022-10-2028 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 174 Remember Who the F You AreWe all need to be reminded sometimes of who the F we are.
We have all done some amazing things in our lives.
And when we get wrapped up in workplace drama or over-drinking or not following through with things we want to do, it's real easy to forget who the F we are.
This episode will remind you.
And until you get a chance to listen, let me tell you:
You are a badass. You know how to do hard things. You have a lot of gifts that...2022-04-2607 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 173 How Much is Enough?Tune in to learn ‘how much’ is enough when you are planning your drinks.The secret answer: whatever you decide — ahead of time.You get to decide how much is enough. Your decision on how much to drink is the perfect amount. That might be 0, that might be 2. But when you decide, with intentionality, ahead of the time, it means you have chose the perfect amount for you and it’s in alignment with your goals around alcohol.What we tend to do is wait and see if it feels like enough. This is not a...2022-04-2017 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 172 Interview with Veronica Valli, Soberful AuthorThis week was a very special treat! Veronica Valli, author of Soberful, came on and we discussed her path to sobriety, and had awesome discussions stemming from her new book, Soberful.We discussed the bandwidth that alcohol requires and Veronica compared a life of drinking too much, like only having 2G internet.
We ‘function’ but we aren’t running at the full capacity that we could be.Also, we discussed growth and how we are programmed to be growing, and how alcohol stalls that growth and with that stall, we need to drink more t...2022-04-1345 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 171 How to Not Over-drink During Hard TimesLet's be real, we are going through some hard times right now.There is a lot happening in the world, and it can be tough to not give in to the stress and numb out with some wine.These tough times inspired me to offer a pop-up Masterclass a few weeks back. and I wanted to share it with the rest of you.In this class, I explain that it is NORMAL to be having emotional responses to what is happening in the world around us, and that nothing is wrong with you.2022-04-071h 05
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 170 What Else Could be True?'What else can be true?' is a great question to ask yourself when you notice you are over-thinking, ruminating, spinning out, and notice you might be thinking about one thing for a long time.I ask my clients this question all the time, especially when they present to me with thoughts like ‘I feel like I’m slipping back’ or ‘I haven’t progressed as much as I had wanted to.’When we look at these types of thoughts and beliefs, we need to pull them out of our heads and look at what else is goin...2022-03-3010 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 169 Recognizing AddictionIn this week's episode I explore addiction. Not just with consuming alcohol or food but other unhealthy behaviors too.
The definition of addiction: a compulsive, chronic, physiological or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having harmful physical, psychological, or social effects and typically causing well-defined symptoms (such as anxiety, irritability, tremors, or nausea) upon withdrawal or abstinence : the state of being addicted.
I actually really like this definition because it helps you measure in terms of symptoms, like irritability and anxiety.
So many over-drinking women have high levels of anxiety.
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Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 168 Weekend Binging with Renae SaagerThis week's podcast discusses Weekend Binging with Renae Saager.
Renae is an expert on Binging, and host of the Ditch the Binge podcast. She has recovered from disordered eating and alcoholism and is a funny force to be reckoned with. Make sure you tune in and hear our discussion on how to reduce the weekend binging.
Get more of Renae here: Freebie: https://mailchi.mp/renaesaager/why-cant-i-stop-eatingwebsite: https://www.renaesaager.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/renaesaager/
Bio: Renae Saager is a certified health & life coach and emotiona...2022-03-1645 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 167 Building Something NewThis podcast is GOLD! I recently built a shelf (and I'm someone who does NOT build things). I discovered that learning how to build a shelf is the exact same process that I took to stop over-drinking.Here are the steps that I explain in this week's podcast: 1st step - Deciding you want something {like to not over-drink}.2nd step - Recognize and be aware of your current beliefs about alcohol3rd step - Decide you are willing to try (keeping the end result vague)4th step - Put it out there that...2022-03-0726 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 166 How to HumanRight now, I help women solve one main problem, over-drinking.BUT, if you are in my program or have listened to this podcast long enough, you know, it’s not all about drinking.It’s about life and how we are handling it; from our relationships to what happened in our past, our professional life, and family life.Drinking is behavior that happens in response to how we feel - or don’t want to feel - or want to feel more of.This behavior can turn into a habit and can be...2022-03-0314 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 165 Interview with Janet Whalen, Sleep Coach for Mid-life WomenYou must tune in this week and learn how you can sleep better WHILE you cut back on your drinking.
Some of the biggest fears you share is that you need your wine to sleep at night.
And if you cut back or take a break, how are you going to sleep?
Well, Janet Whalen, sleep expert and coach, is here to tell you!
We cover: Societal messaging around sleep issues. How it’s a 24-hour problem and not a night time problem. And how your thinking plays the bigge...2022-02-2354 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 164 Improving Your Relationships Begins with Improving YouDuring Valentines Day, I was reviewing my relationships in my life; friends, kids, husband, colleagues, clients, in-laws, neighbors, the public, relationships in public-service, people driving, clerks at the store, people selling me a car, or people just walking outside.I used to let all these relationships cause so much angst in my life, and maybe if I was lucky, I might notice that occasionally I enjoyed these relationships.But more often that not, my colleagues caused me to feel unappreciated.My husband made me feel unsupported.My kids caused me anxiety.2022-02-1717 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 163 SAYING NO. Why we don’t, and how you canTune in this week and hear the Top 3 reasons saying NO feels so impossible when you are trying to cut back on drinking. I cover these reasons: 1) Hurting other peoples feelings.2) Fear of Missing Out.3) Fear of Being Judged. And how you can move past these reasons and say NO easier. Don’t miss!
I am now accepting applications to my coaching program, Stop Over-drinking and Start Living. It is a 6-month, small-group, women-only coaching program, and it is changing lives!
Apply now! https...2022-02-0915 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 162 Q+A with AngelaYou must brew a cup or get out your headphones and go for a long walk with this episode.
I held a coffee chat last week and it turned into an AMAZING discussion about what over-drinking is really costing you.
AND, we had a special guest on the podcast who shares how much she was spending and what her relationship with alcohol looks like now.
You don't want to miss.
And YES, you can still join Stop Over-drinking and Start Living, get your applications in NOW!
https://www.angelamascenik.com...2022-02-031h 02
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 161 Sharing That You Need HelpOne hot question that keeps coming up is how to share with a loved one that you want to stop over-drinking and discussing what this means..
And how so much fear comes up and anxiety and worry about what that conversation might sound like.
And this is a legit concern and I want you to know that it’s absolutely ok if you are having it and nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way.
This episode, I cover why we have this fear and what we can do to overcome it and h...2022-01-2616 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 160 Checking the BoxThis podcast episode is on theme with the last week's podcast, Creating New Habits.
I discuss the importance of doing things that will help you create new habits, even if it feels like just going through the motions or 'checking the box.'
Checking the box might not seem like it's working, you might not be seeing real time results when you are going through the motions but it is building the act of following through on the things you said.Even if this simple action like making a drink plan or food...2022-01-2013 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 159 Creating New HabitsI'm reading Atomic Habits by James Clear, so good, highly recommend you get it!
Going alcohol free (for a day or forever) is a RESULT we want, right? We don’t want to consume alcohol, PERIOD, that’s the end game, I’m not talking about forever, just think for a specified amount of time. This is the habit we'd like to change.
However, just focusing on the end game, and declaring ‘I will not drink.’ doesn’t change why you want to drink, your identity as an over-drinker, how to overcome deprivation, or any internal trigg...2022-01-1313 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingEp 158 MomentumI'm enjoying some fun momentum towards my goals for 2022.
My definition of momentum is consistent movement that propels you closer to where you want to go.
That means no stopping and starting over and over again.
That has the opposite effect of momentum.
Gaining momentum while you are energized and excited to make some changes or achieve your goals at the beginning of the year is super fun, that's where I am right now and I want to take advantage of it.
Because let's be honest, some times it take...2022-01-0516 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 150, Focusing on the Wrong ThingIn this episode I explore why focusing on just cutting back on alcohol doesn't help you permanently stop over-drinking.
The frequency at which you want to numb your mind should be a signal that your mind needs some help. Not a signal to numb it. Your thoughts and emotions don't need to be shut off so you can relax and unwind. We want to understand what is happening in your mind that you feel the need to escape from it. Tune in this week and hear me explore getting to the root of why we over-drink.
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Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 149, Doing It LaterJoin me this week as I explore all the excuses of 'doing it later.' I explain WHY we are inclined to do things at a later time, whether it's later that same day, on Mondays, or January 1sts. And I explain how doing it later doesn't help you suffer any less than you already are.
We think that doing it later will be easier, but we know (from having this pattern for years) that it won't be easier at a future time. It's just your brain's way of being comfortable in the moment.
Tune...2021-11-0417 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 148, What’s Possible with Steph TellWant to know what is possible when you use life coaching to change your relationship with alcohol?
Tune in this week and listen to what Certified Life Coach, Steph Tell has to say about it.
Steph joined my program thinking she’d be the one I couldn’t help and now she’s a certified coach in that same program!
She gives amazing insight to what her life was like before coaching and what it’s like now. She’s 52 and feels she’s got another amazing opportunity at fulfilling her dreams ahead of her!
...2021-10-2830 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 147, Your Most Common Questions AnsweredI am excited about this episode. I recently held a LIVE Q+A where I answered some of the most common questions that I get from all of you. Questions like: What if my spouse drinks? How do I not feel deprived? What if I fail? ... We are going to dive deep into these questions!
I also talk about my new and improved SODSL 2.0 coaching program and let you know how you can apply. (see link below)
Tune in to get ALL the answers, and then apply!I am accepting applications this week, and there...2021-10-1945 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 146, What You Know How to DoThis episode explores identifying things you already know how to do, to help you stop over-drinking.
Focusing on what you know how to do versus what you don't know will empower you that you do actually know many things that will help you through some uncomfortable situations.
When you believe you know how to do something you feel confident and in control and then you are less likely to want to over-drink.
And you can use this concept in any area of your life, not just learning how to stop over-drinking.
...2021-10-1400 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 145, Willingness to Letting it GoI wrote this thinking about how I can teach you to be willing to let something go.
Willingness to fail. Willingness to make mistakes. Willingness to be sick.
Hold on the tightest is when we get in trouble.
Trying to convince. Trying to resist. Trying to please.
All of that effort instead of being open to it ending.
Being open to surrendering. Being open to being wrong. Being open to making mistakes. Being open to letting them leave you.
RESIST, push, fight, hold on, being right, being...2021-10-0714 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 144, Allowing People to Be UpsetI want to explore the art of letting someone be upset with you.
First, people have emotions all the time. And it’s normal for us to disappoint or trigger negative emotions in other people. It does happen, it will continue to happen until we die. We can not control it.
Sometimes you will cause other people to be upset. And if you can learn how to navigate that better, you can create a better connection through it with the other person and do less harm to yourself.
When a person displays or co...2021-09-2900 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 143, Stop Policing PeopleThis episode might make you feel uncomfortable.. I’m talking about how we might police people in what they do or don’t do.
When you feel free to tell people how they are doing something wrong (in your opinion) and they should do it in a way that matches what you think is right, that is policing them. We do this because of how our society has taught us to behave, how we were raised, where we were raised, and how our culture operates.
All of that to say, when you think people should do i...2021-09-2300 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 142, RejectionRejection is defined as the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc. Humans don’t like rejection.
To be told no, or to be denied something you want, or an idea that you have, or to sell something, or to put yourself out there and then told no, whether it’s love, or a new job, or a business idea.
The idea of rejection or being rejected keeps a lot of people from going forward.
But the most PAINFUL rejections are the ones we do towards ourselves.
Tune in and lear...2021-09-1500 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 141, I Won’t Be SatisfiedThis episode examines satisfaction.
How it’s created.
How you create different patterns of satisfaction.
AND how satisfaction is not created by how much you drink.
Satisfaction comes from within not by having a certain amount of drinks.
So, if you’ve ever thought ‘I won’t be satisfied’ when you think about cutting back, this episode is for you!
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Over-drinking and Start Living is a 6-month, small-group, women-only coaching program, and it is changing lives!G...2021-09-0913 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 140, I Deserve It!How often have you thought 'I deserve it...' or 'I want to reward myself...' or 'I've worked so hard today... I should be able to have a glass...'You deserve WAY MORE than a glass of wine.
You deserve to reach your goals.
You deserve to live a happy, fulfilling, life.
You deserve to honor your commitments to yourself.
You deserve restful sleep.
You deserve to feel good.
Tune in to this week's episode where I teach you how to reach bigger and to think...2021-09-0114 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 139, Interview with Client RuthRuth applied to join my stop over-drinking and start living coaching program just over 6- months ago.In her application I knew she'd be a good fit for the program so I reached out to her to schedule a quick chat.
She ignored me!
Then I sent her another message and she came back with a LONG story about how she's scared and she things she would be boring and her friends will judge her and that it's gonna be another thing she goes all in on and then quits.
Well, needless to...2021-08-2543 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 138, Making it Easy to Drink LessWe can’t make permanent changes with our relationship with alcohol or any relationship unless we get conscious of our current thoughts.
This is important because we are motivated to seek pleasure avoid pain and save energy.
This is our foundational basic human programming, it’s the motivational triad.
So, if we don’t know what we are thinking.. and how that plays into the motivational triad, it can feel like you are pushing through mud.
Your thoughts make you feel a range of emotions. Some positive some negative some just neutral. ...2021-08-1819 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 137, ‘I Haven’t Really Tried’When you want new results in your life like maybe to stop over-drinking or to lose some weight… You might have this ‘well, I haven’t really tried’ thought.
And then you go on to think.. 'well, I'm still drinking too much on the weekends, I haven't been sticking to my food plan 100% of the time, sometimes I snack after dinner.. I'm not drinking enough water, I overeat on vacation a lot last week..'
Basically, you go and reflect on all the things that you 'haven't been doing perfectly' to prove this [belief] to be true...2021-08-1112 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 136, Corinne Crabtree InterviewThis week I'm excited to share the interview I did with Corinne Crabtree, host of the Losing 100lbs with Corinne podcast and creator of the No BS Weightloss program.
Corinne shares how she got started to lose over 100lbs and the obstacles she had to overcome.
We also discussed her relationship with alcohol and how that has changed over the years.
Corinne, just like you, used to have a lot of beliefs about her capabilities to lose weight and keep it off. It wasn't until she decided to change that narrative, that she...2021-08-0547 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 135, Fear and My Alaskan AdventureThis week I'm sharing all the details of my wild Alaskan adventure AND how I navigated fear.
I also explore why you want to learn how to navigate fear so that you can do more in your life, like stop over-drinking.I am good at navigating and allowing fear in my life, but I didn't used to be.I learned how to be with fear and move forward anyway and it started with learning how to stop over-drinking.
Tune in this week and hear all the amazing scary adventures I went on in Alaska and...2021-07-2844 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 134, Taking a BreakThis week I'm diving into why taking meaningful breaks from work and in our day to day lives helps you feel better and drink less.
When I look back in the first 6 months of 2021, I implemented many more breaks, meeting free days and more vacation time and I've had the most success in my business to date. How does this work?
Tune in and I'll explain it to you.Basically, we are not meant to be productive all of the time.
Our brain needs rest, quiet time, technology free time and if you...2021-07-2118 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 133, Are You Doing What You Want?Make sure you grab a notebook before listening to this episode!
I'm taking you through a fun exercise that will help you see how you are spending your time versus how you WANT to be spending your time.
When you do this exercise with me, you will immediately feel inspired to start to do more of what you want and it doesn't have to be hard or complicated.
When you start doing things you actually want to be doing.. you will feel less inclined to seek alcohol or food for that quick hit...2021-07-1413 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 132, Getting To The Root and Dry JulyTune in this week and hear me explain why just doing Dry July or saying you won't drink during the week doesn't create permanent change with your relationship to alcohol.
Understanding WHY you are over-drinking is critical to changing how much you drink.
And if you skip this part you will find that all the little breaks and challenges you do will be temporary at best. If you are looking for real change you will not want to miss this episode!
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Ove...2021-07-0718 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 131, Group Discussion: Spouses/Partners Who DrinkI've been asked frequently how to cut back on drinking when your spouse/partner also over-drinks.Well, I brought in some experts in this area, my badass clients, who have successfully cut back in spite of their partner's drinking habits.
We will uncover how they made cutting back work for them WHILE their spouses continued doing what they do with alcohol.
I also share my own experience in working on my own drinking while my husband had his own relationship with alcohol.
You DO NOT want to miss this one.
Are y...2021-07-0157 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 130, What Other People ThinkThis week I discuss the impact of worrying about what other people think about us.
If you have worried what other people might think about you not drinking or cutting back this is a must listen!
I also discuss how we take on other people’s thoughts and it causes us to get defensive and can create more problems that can be avoided by letting them have their own thoughts and focusing on what we want to think instead!
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Over-drinking and Sta...2021-06-2415 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 129, Your Enduring Human SpiritThis week's podcast is inspired by my recent trip to New York City and visiting the One World Trade Center and the sight of the 9/11 attacks.
I hadn't been there since 2006, so it looked a lot different, it was gorgeous. It was very moving and I couldn't help but think about the human spirit and how it endures hardships and often comes out of hardships even better than before. That's what I saw in NYC this past weekend.
Just like many of you, who have overcome their struggle with alcohol, this area where the twin...2021-06-1610 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 128, Taking a New RouteThis week I'm discussing the process of taking a new route with your drinking patterns.
We all know what it's like to learn something new. It takes time. It takes repetition. It takes making mistakes along the way.
But when it comes to learning how to stop over-drinking.. we expect perfection.. we are hard on ourselves when we don't do it perfectly.
This episode illustrates just how automatic the process of over-drinking has been for us.
We don't have to consciously * think * too hard about doing it. We just do.
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Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 127, Stop Fighting For Your ProblemsIn this week's episode, I highlight how we have a tendency to 'fight for our problems.' Meaning, we like to say 'I can't stop.. I keep doing xxxxx... I'm never gonna figure this out..'
As humans, we like to highlight our past patterns and fight for evidence that it's hard for us to change.
But when we do this, we just keep convincing ourselves that we are right.
And you will keep creating the exact problems you DON'T WANT TO HAVE.
So, in this episode, I'm teaching you how...2021-06-0216 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 126, Bypassing EmotionsI am digging in this week on what it means to bypass your feelings.
What happens when you don't allow yourself to be sad [insert any emotion]?
When you think you 'shouldn't' be sad.. and don't acknowledge that you ARE sad you are bypassing how you feel.
This causes a disconnect and you become out of alignment with what is happening inside of you and who you are.
And you notice that disconnect subtly.. you might think 'what is wrong with me?' or 'Why aren't I happy..?' 'Or what...2021-05-2720 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 125, How to Identify Self-SabotageI used to think self-sabotage meant I was doing something wrong.. and I didn’t like thinking that about myself so I haven’t enjoyed using the term self-sabotage until now.
I now think self-sabotage is actions I'm doing that aren’t helping me get the results I want.
When I think about it this way I feel curious and open to figuring out why I’m doing things I really don't want to do.
Being willing to learn about your own self-sabotaging behaviors is taking responsibility for actions you take that don’t create th...2021-05-2021 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 124, When Things ChangeHumans like to know what is going to happen.
We like routine, structure and doing the same things.. because it's predictable, we know what to expect, and we don't have to constantly scan for danger.
Because of this we might be feeling a little unsettled right now as the US starts to open back up and we have more social engagements, travel opportunities, or as we go back to work and being around more people and commuting.
A lot of you have been working on how much you are drinking and you might...2021-05-1217 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 123, Why It’s Hard to Say NOIt's hard to say no to other people sometimes, right?
And WHY is that the case, especially for women?
Well.. maybe it's because if you stood up and said NO you got in trouble when you were a kid.
Maybe.. you have been told by family, society, work, -that you shouldn't be too loud, talk back, disagree... And if you have a hard time saying NO I want you to know that you can learn how.
But it takes some awareness of how you might be holding back.
This...2021-05-0519 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 122, I Get ToI GET TO SAY NO.
But listen.. just over 3 years ago, 'getting to say no' was not an option.
I would have thought 'I can't say no,' or 'saying no isn't an option' or really.. NO was not even a consideration.
It wouldn't even have crossed my mind that saying no easily could be a possibility.
If I had been in one of the cycles of trying to cut back I might have thought 'I shouldn't have that drink..' or 'I said I wasn't going to drink, but I...2021-04-2813 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 121, Are You Being Too Nice to Yourself?This week's episode explores how you can end shaming yourself when you over-drink AND find compassion when you do.
'I'm gonna be easy on myself and not be too strict..so I'm gonna allow myself to have a drink.'
This is not being nice to yourself or being easy on yourself.
Being nice to yourself looks like checking in with yourself, asking yourself why you want a drink in the first place, slowing down and processing those feelings, and supporting yourself in the ways you WANT to instead of your default of...2021-04-2114 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 120, Relationships and Our Manuals For ThemThis week I'm discussing what is a relationship and all the rules we have in all the different relationships we are in.
Uncovering these rules we hold in our minds for the people we are in relationships with is critical to improving our relationships.
Our relationships are a big part of our lives and learning how to improve or change one relationship can have a ripple effect in all the other relationships you have, and it's worth every minute you decide to work on it.
This is a must-listen for everyone whether you...2021-04-1526 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 119, Why Do We Judge Other People?This week's episode is a juicy one.
I've been coaching a lot around Covid and all the issues we have with other people and their decisions on masking, not masking, getting vaccinated, not getting vaccinated, traveling vs not traveling, school or no school.
This debates on this are about as hot as a presidential election.
We get very attached to how people should be acting during this pandemic and it's having an impact in our daily life.
I did some research on why humans are so quick to judge and what...2021-04-0712 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 118, Swearing and the PatriarchyPatriarchy, as I define it is a set of beliefs and systems where men hold more power and women have less.
One small example of 'the patriarchy' is the beliefs that 'we' women shouldn't swear in so-called professional environments.
I have received enough feedback on my swearing and how it's not 'professional' that I wanted to dive deeper into these sets of beliefs, that a lot of WOMEN have.
Yes, women can hold patriarchal beliefs that they've adapted from our systems and societies as well.
Please join me in this very l...2021-03-3151 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 117, How to Take Care of YourselfThis is a must-listen podcast episode as we approach the next season of the pandemic.
We might be experiencing a range of emotions as things start to 'go back to normal.' And your brain is going to need to adjust, again, to change.
You might find yourself worried, anxious, or scared even when at the same time you want to start doing more things.
This is normal.
Tune in to hear my list of 10 things you can do to take extra good care of yourself during this time.
...2021-03-2519 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 116, Are You Porning Out Over Wine?Ha! This week is a FUN one.
I describe how we get really worked up in our heads about our love for our favorite drinks and how this creates a very strong desire for the drink which often leads to over-drinking.
I've coined this concept 'porning out.' Similar to fantasizing on how awesome sex would be we fantasize on how good that glass of wine will be.
But if you really pay attention to this and look at the truth and the reality of that glass of wine you will quickly see...2021-03-1719 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 115, What is Mindset Coaching?What is Mindset Coaching?
I get asked all the time what kind of coach I am.
And it's a great question because there are a lot of different coaching modalities out there.
I coach you on your mind. I show you how your thoughts are creating your results in your life.
The first step is awareness and then you have options. A lot of people want specific instructions on what to DO. And I don't tell you what to do. I coach you on how to think differently and create new...2021-03-1024 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 114, Your Unconscious BiasUnconscious Bias (or implicit bias) is often defined as prejudice or unsupported judgments in favor of or against one thing, person, or group as compared to another, in a way that is usually considered unfair.
In this week's episode, I'm talking about our own unconscious bias we have against our own bodies or ourselves.
I explore how you can find an unconscious bias you have toward women who look different than what we as a society consider 'normal.'
Women in larger bodies, women with non-white skin color, women who dress outside of...2021-03-0424 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 113, Interview with Client MauraI talk a lot about sharing your goals with the world.
Whether it's telling your friends, or whispering it out loud in the woods and no one else can hear you, sharing what you want helps you achieve it FASTER.
Well, my client Maura did just that.
She shared she wanted to be on the podcast and her wish was granted, that very same day.
Maura has had massive success inside my 6-month coaching program and of course it was a HELL YES when she asked.
Maura is barely 3 m...2021-02-2442 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 112, Starting and Not Following ThroughOne of the biggest concerns I hear from women who want to make lasting changes with how much they drink is 'I start things and don't finish.'
In this week's episode I help you see why you might have HAD this pattern in the past. And I teach you how you can learn to follow through and stop this on again off again cycle.
Just because you've had this pattern in the past DOES NOT mean you will always have it. You just need to see why it's happening so you can fix it. ...2021-02-1718 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Bonus Episode, Stop Numbing and Start Self-Loving with Elena SonninoFebruary is the month of LOVE!
I had the pleasure of being invited to talk to life coach Elena Sonnino, her superpower is to help individuals and groups thrive with more well-being, more purpose, more delight, and more curiosity in the now.
Elena invited me to share how we can numb less and self-love more.
It was a wonderful conversation about how we can choose self-love over numbing our feelings with alcohol.
I share a few tips and encourage you to do one thing TODAY that would be an act of...2021-02-1435 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 111, Talk with Michelle Barry Franco on Giving Up AlcoholPlease join me in a heartfelt conversation with Michelle Barry Franco on her story of deciding to 'take a sabbatical' from alcohol.
Michelle and I have almost identical stories; 3 kids, a professional, lived in California and living the 'winery' lifestyle.
Michelle shares why she decided to leave that lifestyle behind and we discuss the nuances of over-drinking and the internal struggle that we had.
Like me, in her outward appearing life, you wouldn't have known she was struggling with how much she was drinking.
Michelle shares common feelings that most of...2021-02-1046 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 110, Up-leveling Your Discomfort + a Good StoryIf you've successfully cut back on how much you are drinking, even if it's just one extra day less or instead of 3 drinks you've been having 2 more often, you had to go through some discomfort to do that right?
You had to process urges, manage your mind, say no more often, and all that isn't a walk in the park, it's UNCOMFORTABLE.
When you move towards any goal you will have different levels of discomfort.
The first level of discomfort is often the hardest but once you accomplish it and make some headway...2021-02-0336 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 109, Why All or Nothing Doesn’t WorkThis week I'm discussing the idea of all or nothing and how limiting yourself to these 2 ideas with alcohol is holding you back from freedom, joy and the exact relationship with alcohol that you WANT to have.
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Over-drinking and Start Living is a 6-month, small-group, women-only coaching program, and it is changing lives!Get the details and apply today!https://www.angelamascenik.com/joinsodsl.
Tags:Angela Mascenik, Angela stop over-drinking coach, become emotionally unattached to alcohol, drink less do...2021-01-2721 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 108, Booze and Weight loss with Corinne CrabtreeCorinne Crabtree, host of Losing 100lbs with Corinne podcast and mega successful weight loss coach, invited me to HER podcast and we had a great conversations about Booze and Weightloss.
We discussed losing weight AND drinking less and how to be successful at both. We talked about shame around overeating and over-drinking and how it doesn't help.
We also discussed how to make it doable so that you gain confidence around your ability to do it.Highly recommend you take a listen.
Thanks again Corinne, for having me!
What a treat.2021-01-1944 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 107, How to Visualize SuccessI want to teach you how to visualize success.
When we haven't done something before it can be hard to 'see' what that might look like.
In this episode I invite you to open your mind to creating the vision of success in your future.
You get to paint a beautiful picture of what success looks like for you.
In this podcast episode, I teach you how and WHY it's important for you to do this as a practice.
There are many benefits to doing it but the biggest on...2021-01-1327 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 106, Interview with Patrick Fox, Stop Drinking Coach for MenThis is a special interview that Patrick Fox, certified life coach for men who want to stop drinking.
Patrick invited me on his podcast, the Alcohol ReThink Podcast and we geeked out about this work, our own stories and decisions around alcohol and leave you inspired to DO something about fixing your relationship with Alcohol.For the men in your life.. I highly recommend Patrick and his work!
You can check out Patrick's podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Ud8662qj5Q45m5aeAUg9s?si=b7K7ztykSqiixvrDbrkfuw And connect with him on...2021-01-0742 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 105, My take on 2020This episode is a tribute to 2020.
I review what I experienced and how it was not only terrible but absolutely amazing.
I invite you to do a similar reflection on this year and then FILE IT AWAY in the archives.
2020 will never be forgotten but what happened this year doesn't need to shape what you get to experience in 2021.
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Over-drinking and Start Living is a 6-month, small-group, women-only coaching program, and it is changing lives!Get the details and...2020-12-2928 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 104, Coaching Call on Love vs Loathing and Weight lossMy amazing client allowed me to share a segment of our coaching call with you.
We were discussing loving yourself to lose weight vs. self loathing.
You see, most of us are in self loathing about our bodies.
We want to be smaller, tighter, fitter and we have thoughts about our bodies that leave us feeling BAD about ourselves.
When we feel bad about ourselves we tend to NOT do the things that help us feel better.
We self-sabotage, continue overeating, over-drinking, and not exercising.
When we a...2020-12-2228 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 103, Why You Shouldn’t Be HappyThis week on the podcast I talk about 'being happy.'
Our society has told us since we were wee toddlers that 'we should just be happy!' 'Just do what makes you happy!' 'Be with someone that makes you happy!'
And this programming has left a lot of us wondering 'Why am I not happy?'
And then we feel like something is wrong with us.
I'm explaining why we shouldn't be happy all the time and why you actually DON'T want to be happy all the time...2020-12-1619 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 102, How to Stop Drinking AFTER Your Planned AmountSome of you think 'it's easier to just not drink than to stop at 1 or 2.'
Well, if this is YOU- this episode is speaking your language.
You need to LEARN how to stop after you've had some alcohol and I am teaching you exactly HOW to do this in this episode.
Grab a notebook, shut your office door and tune in!
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Over-drinking and Start Living is a 6-month, small-group, women-only coaching program, and it is changing lives!Get...2020-12-0922 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 101, Listener Q+AYou wrote in and asked me some amazing questions!
I answered them LIVE on the podcast AND announced the lucky winners from my 100th episode celebration!
Tune in and hear me answer:'How did you know you wanted to stop drinking completely?
How did it go from cutting back, feeling emotions and urges and making intentional drinking and eating plans to deciding to not drink at all.
''My problem is on the nights that I do drink I tend to want one more glass then I probably shouldn’t be having. Ho...2020-12-0228 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 100, Celebrating 100 EpisodesWowa! 100 episodes of SODSL!
Y'all DON'T WANT TO skip this episode.
I invited past guests and some rockstar clients on to share their favorite things about the podcast and how listening and applying what I teach is helping them cut back on average 80% of what they drank before doing and applying what I teach.
They also shared some wisdom to you if you want to make permanent changes with how much and how often you drink.
Thank you to every single one of you who listen every week, share the podcast, c...2020-11-251h 23
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 99, How to ENJOY the Holidays without Over-drinking [2020]I hosted a free class last week called How to Enjoy the Holidays without over-drinking and it's now on the podcast for all to hear!
In the class I shared how you can enjoy yourself and not feel deprived this holiday even though the 2020 holidays are just a bit different.
I taught you how to engage with the part of your brain that knows how to execute a plan and how to anticipate obstacles you might face with relatives, last minute plans, peer pressure and more.
Are you interested in joining m...2020-11-201h 22
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 98, AUTHENTICITY AND DRINKING LESSThis weeks episode I share how being authentic for me helped me drink less and go bigger in my life.
I decided at the very beginning of my journey that I wasn't going to hide who I was anymore.
Me choosing authenticity in my life, in my business, with my family, friends, in my values SERVES me.
It doesn't mean it's always easy. Sometimes it's down right awkward and uncomfortable.
When I wrote and produced this episode I knew that me sharing my true authentic self would turn people away.. and i...2020-11-1126 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 97, The Power of The PauseSo many of you are on the automatic cycle of just drinking after work on the weekends or when things feel stressful or overwhelmed or anxious.
But to break that cycle we need to pause and notice what we are about to do, how we feel and what we are thinking.
There is a shit load of power in a 90 second pause.
If you can give yourself a 90 second pause you can become very powerful and purposeful with what you do next.
And even if you do end up drinking or...2020-11-0516 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 96, One Year Later with Client AmyDid you all listen to episode 32, Interview with Client Amy?
Well, Amy is back on the podcast 1 year after reaching her weight loss and over-drinking goals and shares HOW she's been able to do it AND keep it off for a year.
🎉Stop Over-drinking and Start Living podcast is about to celebrate 100 episodes! 🎉
Wanna participate in the fun?
💵 I'm giving away [3] $100 Amazon gift cards!💵
All you have to do is subscribe to the podcast, leave me an iTunes review, and then send me an email.
*contest and sign up's are...2020-10-281h 00
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 95, How to Be Patient'You need to be patient!'
I did not like hearing this.
I am not someone who would call myself patient until very recently.
I've been exploring patience in my life and have seem major benefits from learning to slow down, pause, breathe and allow.
To take my time.
To evaluate and to ask more questions.
Patience is a skill. It's a feeling. It's EVERYTHING. Especially when you feel like you are in a hurry to meet your goals.
Learning how to feel patient actually h...2020-10-2119 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 94, ValidatedDo y’all do this?
You get upset or something triggers you and then you might spin out a bit in your head and then tell someone else about it and then you say something like am I crazy for thinking this?
I mean I should be upset about this right?
This is just you looking for someone else to validate your feelings and thoughts. It’s not wrong or right to do this, by the way, I for sure do it too.
But what I want to suggest you start doin...2020-10-1515 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living. Episode 93, What Is Fun?This week's episode I evaluate what IS fun with drinking AND what isn't fun.
If you really evaluate your whole relationship with alcohol you will see that it's actually not fun all of the time, in fact, I dare to say it's more NOT fun than fun.. right?
Inside the episode I also explore what is super fun about NOT over-drinking and how you can have fun while you do this work.
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Over-drinking and Start Living is a 6-month, small-group, women-only coa...2020-10-0713 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 92, Live Class, How To FeelThis week's podcast episode is a recording of my most recent How to Feel Class.
Grab your notebook and a coffee and settle in for a mastery level class on feelings.
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Over-drinking and Start Living is a 6-month, small-group, women-only coaching program, and it is changing lives!Get the details and apply today!https://www.angelamascenik.com/joinsodsl.
Tags:Angela Mascenik, Angela stop over-drinking coach, become emotionally unattached to alcohol, drink less do more, drink less win...2020-10-011h 02
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 91, When You Don’t Feel Like YouThis episode I wanna talk about when you don’t feel like you.
I hear this from so many women. They tell me, they used to feel good, they used to do fun things and hobbies and exercise and go out and try new things.
Then they get into a habit of drinking wine and then before they even realize it they don’t feel like themselves.
They feel stuck in a rut, they just want to drink wine at night, they tell me it’s just automatic sometimes they don’t even think about...2020-09-2316 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 90, Interview with Corey Williams on Race and FeelingsThis week we are celebrating 90 episodes on the podcast!
We are very honored to have Corey Williams as our guest. Corey is a Racial Equity Educator and Coach.
I had her on the podcast, because 1st she’s amazing, and 2nd we have been geeking out together about feelings.
What Corey helps people do is to feel GOOD about learning and exploring as you become anti-racist.
She believes you don’t have to feel ignited and full of anger to talk about race.
In the episode we use a real life...2020-09-161h 01
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 89, How to Retrain Your BrainThis week I’m sharing how you can retrain your brain to have new habits. It comes down these 2 things-
1st - consistently and repeatedly interrupting the automatic cycle you are currently on.
Stopping, pausing, and feeling instead of drinking or eating.
Retraining your brain that instead of pouring a glass of wine, we pause, feel, and process.
Once you do this repeatedly it becomes your automatic response instead of pouring the glass of wine.
2nd - start to reprogram your brain with new thoughts.
Going from thinking 'I just love wine!’ To ‘wine’s ok, I enjoy it oc...2020-09-0918 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 88, Why Do I?Why do I?
I am going to help you always have an answer to this question.
Why do I?… drink, overeat, spin out, yell, do things that I actually don’t want to do. Or NOT do. Why can’t I - Why don’t I?
Same question.
When your brain asks this question it’s important to answer it.
If we don’t answer the questions we ask our selves, we don’t get resolution and it feels confusing and incomplete and humans generally don’t like the way that feels s...2020-09-0219 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 87, The Cyclone of Feelings in 2020Do you feel like this year just keeps getting worse?
You are not alone.2020 has been a cyclone of emotions for most people.
I feel like our society is on the edge of total emotional collapse.
We 'can't take much more.'Yet, I know we can. Because we are humans and we are built to endure and grow and evolve and shift and pivot through hardships.
It's how everything we have now has been created.
All the luxuries and conveniences and technology and medicine have been created because a...2020-08-2711 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 86, The Lie of CertaintyLife is NOT certain. We just think thoughts that make us feel certain about the structures of our lives that we have put in place.
Such as having a job, our home, our health, our families.
We think about all these things in the current and future tense as if they will never change.
Generally, we don't live our lives thinking that we could die, we won't have work, or we could lose everything.
But of course, anything can happen, and that is always a risk that we have just by ch...2020-08-1917 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 85, New Way to Lose Weight, LIVE ClassTune in to hear a live class I taught this week about how to lose weight without dieting.
Losing weight is less about what food you are eating and more to do with what you are thinking.
You can lose weight easily. It doesn't have to be 'another thing' you take on in your life.
You already eat and think about food, learning how to do it by using your inherent skills, and tuning into your body, is the way to do it permanently.
You don't need to count calories, track...2020-08-121h 10
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 84, It’s NOT the Want that’s the ProblemIn this week's episode, I talk about the WANT for alcohol.
Also, called urge, desire, 'feel like it,' drive to drink. So many of my clients are worried about the urge/want/desire, they think they can't handle it.
Tune into this episode where I dissect the desire/urge/want and separate it from the conflict in our minds.
The want is a vibration in your body if you can truly be with this feeling you can see that managing urges 'the want' is not a problem.
The problem is...2020-08-0626 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 83, You are Born This WayThis episode is NOT me preaching how you are born with some gene that makes you over-drink.
I actually DO NOT BELIEVE in 'the gene' or 'not having an off switch.' But, what I do know to be TRUE, is that you are born with bravery, confidence, motivation, self-love, respect, drive, and acceptance.
You aren't someone 'who isn't brave.' You aren't someone 'who isn't motivated.' You aren't someone 'who lacks confidence.' YOU WERE BORN WITH all of these feelings and attributes.
You just haven't learned HOW to use them....2020-07-3021 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 82, Exploring NEW InterestsIn this episode, I talk about HOW to explore new interests while you are cutting back on how much you are drinking.
For many of us, we haven't explored anything new so the idea of a new hobby or something to do in the evenings or weekends other than drinking can send us spinning in confusion.
Don't be confused, tune in and I'll tell you exactly how to explore new interests that you will enjoy.
Are you interested in joining my coaching program?Stop Over-drinking and Start Living is a 6-mo...2020-07-2318 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 81, Alcohol and Relationships, Your Questions AnsweredI spend a lot of time coaching my clients on their relationships. Relationships with spouses, work relationships, kid relationships, ALL relationships.
I’ve talked about relationships in past episodes but I thought I’d give you a quick overview of what relationships are, here again.
Our relationship with another person is what we think about them. Our thoughts will determine if that relationship is good or bad.
So interesting right?
Tune in and hear me define what our relationships are and my answers to these questions:
How relationships and our deci...2020-07-1521 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 80, How NOT Hitting Rock Bottom Could Be WorseThis week I'm discussing how NOT hitting rock bottom could be worse.
When we are stuck in a high-functioning pattern of living our lives, working, taking care of our families, we can let YEARS pass us by without making significant changes with our relationship with alcohol.
This is very dangerous. Because on the outside, most people won't recognize you as being someone with a drinking problem, so you don't get the interventions and external pressure.
And because of being here, it's sometimes very difficult for you to admit to your family and friends...2020-07-0912 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 79, Processing GriefThis week's podcast I am sharing how I am processing grief as my grandmother's life is ending.
Grief is an emotion that you WANT to learn how to process and be with because if we numb or avoid it it will cause many more painful emotions and issues down the road.
I believe that grief is evidence of LOVE and life and joy. When we grieve it's because we have lost something important to us.
Grief needs to be allowed the same amount of time and space as we allowed the love preceding i...2020-07-0115 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 78, How to Decide Whether or Not to Take a BreakI want to teach you how to understand and evaluate how you are making your decision to drink or not drink.
For some of you, you have an idea that a 30, 60, or a 90-day break will help you reset your drinking habits.
Dry January is very popular because of all the over-indulging y’all do during the holidays.
You feel sick and bloated and you want to make some changes when the holidays are over. You might feel frustrated, gross, disappointed, shameful for how much you drank. Then you decide to take a 30-d...2020-06-2515 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 77, Fear of Missing Out, FOMOWhen I ask women what is stopping them from moving forward with going all-in on stopping the over-drinking and committing to making permanent changes with their relationship with alcohol, they tell me all sorts of fear-inducing thoughts.
Such as, 'I'm scared... that my life won't be fun.. I'm scared I'll fail.. I'm scared I won't know how.. I'm scared of what people will think of me.. I'm scared my relationships will change..I'm scared to dig deep and look at what is causing me to drink.. I'm scared of saying I'll do it and then won’t..I...2020-06-1712 min
Stop Over-drinking and Start LivingStop Over-drinking and Start Living, Episode 76, Deprivation and Social InjusticeThis week I dive into the fear of feeling deprived when you are trying to cut back on how much you are drinking.
Often we think we don't want to feel deprived before we go to a party or social event or Friday night, and we don't even try to drink less because we don't want to feel deprivation.
In this episode, I examine the feeling of deprivation and how when you decide to drink/eat so you don't feel deprived you are actually depriving yourself of your goals and dreams of being someone who...2020-06-1015 min