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The Divorce Field GuideParenting Rights You Don't Need to NegotiateThere are broad categories of parental rights that you do not need to negotiate for in a divorce, in that they will almost always be included as boilerplate in the custody article of your divorce agreement. Episode 95 takes a look at what subjects these rights touch upon, and what is typically said about them in your agreement.
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Episodes | The Divorce Field GuideEpisode 95: Parenting Rights You Don't Need to NegotiateThere are broad categories of parental rights that you do not need to
negotiate for in a divorce, in that they will almost always be included as
boilerplate in the custody article of your divorce agreement. Episode 95
takes a look at what subjects these rights touch upon, and what is
typically said about them in your agreement.
2020-01-2200 minThe Divorce Field GuideNaming a Legal Guardian for Your KidsShould name a legal guardian for your kids in your divorce agreement? And what significance does it have if you decide to do so? All that and more in Episode 94.
2020-01-0810 minEpisodes | The Divorce Field GuideEpisode 94: Naming a Legal Guardian for Your KidsShould name a legal guardian for your kids in your divorce agreement? And
what significance does it have if you decide to do so? All that and more in
Episode 94.
2020-01-0800 minThe Divorce Field GuidePrimary Caregivers & Parental RightsA common question that many parents raise is whether and to what degree having been (or not been) the primary caregiver for their children will impact their parental rights in divorce. Episode 93 explores the impact of primary caregiver status on your custody negotiation, in and out of court.
2019-12-2517 minEpisodes | The Divorce Field GuideEpisode 93: Primary Caregivers & Parental RightsA common question that many parents raise is whether and to what degree
having been (or not been) the primary caregiver for their children will
impact their parental rights in divorce. Episode 93 explores the impact of
primary caregiver status on your custody negotiation, in and out of court.
2019-12-2500 minEpisodes | The Divorce Field GuideEpisode 92: Big-Ticket Purchases for KidsIn Episode 92, we look at how your divorce agreement can and does - or does
not - regulate each parent's spending on their kids, in particular with
regard to big-ticket items, post divorce. We'll look at how to ensure that
your co-parent shares certain big-ticket purchases with you, or how to
prevent your co-parent from making certain big-ticket purchases without
your buy-in and approval.
2019-12-1100 minThe Divorce Field GuideBig-Ticket Purchases for KidsIn Episode 92, we look at how your divorce agreement can and does - or does not - regulate each parent's spending on their kids, in particular with regrad to big-ticket items, post divorce. We'll look at how to ensure that your co-parent shares certain big-ticket purchases with you, or how to prevent your co-parent from making certain big-ticket purchases without your buy-in and approval.
2019-12-1112 minThe Divorce Field GuideHealth-Related Expenses for KidsHow do parents cover health-related expenses for their kids post divorce? What's covered by the term "health-related expenses" in the first place? And what potentially-sticky topics should you give thought to in advance of negotiating this subject in your divorce?
2019-11-2714 minThe Divorce Field GuideHealth Insurance for KidsPreserving health insurance coverage for kids is a focus of the divorce process, despite the fact that not much needs to change in kids' health insurance when you divorce. Episode 90 looks at the kid-related health insurance details your divorce agreement will speak to, and how to think through future changes in your kids' insurance.
2019-11-1307 minThe Divorce Field GuideHealth Insurance for AdultsHow does health insurance coverage change for spouses during a divorce - and at what particular points in the divorce process does it change? How can you ensure that both spouses have health insurance coverage post divorce? All that and more in Episode 89!
2019-10-3009 minThe Divorce Field GuideOverview of the Divorce ProcessJoin us in Episode 88 for an overview of the divorce process, including brief outlines of the key phases of your divorce: working through the issues, drafting your agreement, filing court paperwork, and handling post-divorce administrative matters.
2019-10-1619 minThe Divorce Field GuideBusiness Interests in DivorceInterests in privately-held companies can be one of the more complex types of assets to divide in a divorce, and there are several different approaches to doing so. Check out Episode 87 to learn what to expect from the divorce process if you or your spouse owns an interest of any size in a business of any size.
2019-10-0219 minThe Divorce Field GuideVacationing Post DivorceHow do parents organize vacations with (and without) their kids after a divorce? What types of details related to vacations will your agreement clarify? What vacation-related topics will your agreement not address? Answers to all that and more in Episode 86!
2019-09-1814 minThe Divorce Field GuideRight of First RefusalWhat happens when you're scheduled to be with your kids but you can't be with them - for instance, due to a work trip? What if you're the non-scheduled parent in that scenario? Do yuo have the right to be with your kids? The obligation? In Episode 85, we discuss the "right of first refusal," a handy clause that's commonly found in the parenting section of your agreement.
2019-09-0411 minThe Divorce Field GuideDivorce + Your Family PetPets are family members, too! If you'd like your divorce agreement to address sharing time with or the costs of your pet after a divorce, Episode 84 is for you.
2019-08-2106 minThe Divorce Field GuideHow Child Care Costs Are Handled in DivorceDivorcing with young children carries with it a host of challenges. How you share responsibility for child care costs should not be one of them. Episode 83 will walk you through the ways couples commonly structure sharing responsibility for future child care in their divorce agreement.
2019-08-0708 minThe Divorce Field GuideSharing a Family Car Post DivorceFor many families, one family car is enough, even post divorce. Episode 82 takes you through the various considerations to bear in mind when you agree to continue sharing a car with your ex.
2019-07-2410 minThe Divorce Field GuideAcquiring Assets During a DivorceDivorces takes time to resolve, and life moves forward in the meantime. If you're in the fortunate position of creating or acquiring an asset in the midst of your divorce, Episode 81 walks you through some of the key considerations to bear in mind.
2019-07-1017 minThe Divorce Field GuidePrivacy Concerns in DivorceShould you be concerned about privacy and confidentiality in and following your divorce? If so (or if not, and you're concerned anyway!), how can your divorce agreement address your concerns?
2019-06-2613 minThe Divorce Field GuideOrganizing Your Finances - Getting Outside HelpFor many people, the task of organizing their finances is overwhelming. In this episode, we discuss a variety of options for getting outside help with one of the more challenging requirements of the divorce process.
2019-06-1224 minThe Divorce Field GuideOrganizing Your Finances - DebtsIn Episode 78, we finish our four-part series on organizing your finances, a task that provides the foundation for all financial negotiations in your divorce. Here, we focus on organizing your debts.
2019-05-2914 minThe Divorce Field GuideOrganizing Your Finances - AssetsIn Episode 77, we continue a four-part series on organizing your finances, a task that provides the foundation for all financial negotiations in your divorce. Here, we focus on organizing your assets.
2019-05-1519 minThe Divorce Field GuideOrganizing Your Finances - ExpensesIn Episode 76, we continue a four-part series on organizing your finances, a task that provides the foundation for all financial negotiations in your divorce. Here, we focus on organizing your expenses.
2019-05-0111 minThe Divorce Field GuideOrganizing Your Finances - IncomeOne the bigger tasks when you're divorcing is to organize and understand your financial situation. This provides the foundation for all subsequent negotiations around finances, but many spouses are at a loss for how to get started. Over the next four episodes, we'll cover the basics of how to begin organizing your finances, vis-a-vis your income, expenses, assets and debts. Episode 75 focuses on income.
2019-04-1709 minThe Divorce Field GuideAssets You Can't Sell or DivideWhen figuring out the distribution of assets in your divorce, you may have a subset of assets, or a single asset, that you can neither sell to a third party, nor divide between you. What then? Episode 74 will lay out your options.
2019-04-0308 minThe Divorce Field GuideAccepting Less Than the Law ProvidesIn the course of your divorce negotiation, you may face the question of whether, and to what degree, to take less (or provide more) than the law calls for. How can you determine, in your particular situation, whether that's the right thing to do? How can you ensure that a decision you make today is not one you regret down the road?
2019-03-2015 minThe Divorce Field GuideWhy Your Divorce Moves SlowlyIt's uncommon for someone to feel like their divorce process resolved too quickly. The opposite is more frequently the case. Why does divorce take as long as it does, and often so much longer than divorcing spouses would like? And what can you do to move your divorce along more quickly?
2019-03-0616 minThe Divorce Field GuideChanging Your Will During DivorceMany people wonder if they can update their will or other estate planning documents before their divorce is finalized. Sometimes yes, sometime no. Episode 71 provides an overview of the ways in which changes to estate planning are typically restricted during divorce, and common exceptions to those restrictions.
2019-02-2015 minThe Divorce Field GuideImportant Asset ConsiderationsEpisode 70 describes several of the more important but less obvious considerations for you to keep in mind as you think through the ideal division of your marital assets.
2019-02-0621 minThe Divorce Field GuideModifying Support in the FutureOnce you and your spouse have agreed to the amount and duration of child support and/or spousal support, there are two important questions you need to answer. One, do you want to speak to whether support may change in the future, in amount or duration? Two, if so, do you want to speak to exactly how support would change? Episode 69 will take you though how to think about support "modification" in the context of your divorce negotiation.
2019-01-2310 minThe Divorce Field GuideMortgage Refinance + AssumptionIf you own your home and want to complete a buy-out of one spouse's interest in the home, you will typically also need to refinance or assume the mortgage. In Episode 68, we look more closely at how that works.
2019-01-0911 minThe Divorce Field GuideCoordinating Outside Attorney Review of Your AgreementWhen you've been in mediation, and you're ready to have outside attorneys review your draft agreement, what's the best way to go about coordinating that? Should their review be sequenced, or happen simultaneously? Answers to those questions in Episode 67!
2018-12-2610 minThe Divorce Field GuideUnderstanding the Role of Term SheetsWhat's a term sheet? Do you need one? We'll take a look at the role a term sheet can play in your mediation or negotiation process in Episode 66.
2018-12-1208 minThe Divorce Field GuideCan You Mediate If You Can't Stand Your Spouse?Many people have the misconception that mediation is only for spouses who get along well. Not so. But, at a certain level of conflict, mediation ceases to be an effective or productive process for you. Episode 65 looks at how to determine where that tipping point is, and how can you work productively in a negotiation process even if you can't stand being in the same room as your spouse.
2018-11-2818 minThe Divorce Field GuideWhen Your Spouse Won't NegotiateWhat can you do when your spouse has dug heels in on a particular point and won't negotiate further? Especially where their offer is far outside the realm of the reasonable on the subject being negotiated? Episode 64 looks at what your options are, and how can you weigh them and proceed productively, when you have a stubborn or intransigent spouse on the other side of the table.
2018-11-1418 minThe Divorce Field GuideChanges in Spouses' Incomes During DivorcePeople's incomes change over time, and divorce is no exception to that. What happens when your or your spouse's income changes - for better or for worse - in the divorce process? How should you consider and work with income changes in your divorce negotiation?
2018-10-3114 minThe Divorce Field GuideDivorcing with a Significant OtherMany people are in a relationship with a significant other while going through their divorce. How does that impact your divorce process? Episode 62 will explore this dynamic and its impact on divorce negotiation. We'll offer some tips on how to ensure, if you do have a significant other while divorcing, that your divorce process goes as well as possible.
2018-10-1719 minThe Divorce Field GuideMediating When You Don't Trust Your SpouseIt's not uncommon for spouses to come to a divorce mediation process without feeling much trust for one another. Episode 61 looks at the ways that the mediation process can be structured to solve for an absence of trust, and what red flags, in particular around lack of transparency and integrity, may indicate that mediation is not an appropriate process for you.
2018-10-0316 minThe Divorce Field GuideAccepting the Changes Divorce BringsDivorce brings with it a lot of changes, a number of which can be unwelcome. At least, initially. How can you work productively with difficult change in the divorce process, and how can you support your spouse in doing so? -- NORMAL --
2018-09-1911 minThe Divorce Field GuideWhen Your Spouse Hires An Aggressive AttorneyMost people who hope to settle their divorce out of court envision working with reasonable attorneys in the process, on both sides. What happens when your spouse doesn't share your vision, at least insofar as his or her attorney is concerned? And what are the most constructive ways you can approach your divorce negotiation if your spouse has hired an aggressive attorney? -- NORMAL --
2018-09-0514 minThe Divorce Field GuideLetting Your Divorce LapseFor many reasons, couples may initiate a divorce process and then put it on the back burner for months or years. What are the consequences of doing that? And what are some things you should consider if you're anticipating letting your divorce lapse, or are in the midst of a well-lapsed divorce? -- NORMAL --
2018-08-2214 minThe Divorce Field GuideChanges in Asset Value During DivorceYour divorce will likely take a while to resolve. What happens when the assets that are the subject of your divorce change in value during the process? -- NORMAL --
2018-08-0816 minThe Divorce Field GuideReturning to the WorkforceOne of the many changes that divorce brings may be a return to the workforce for a spouse who has previously stayed home. The issue of how and how quickly this happens can be a source of conflict between divorcing spouses. In Episode 56, we'll take a look at reasonable approaches - by both sposues - to one spouse's return to the workforce. -- NORMAL --
2018-07-2519 minThe Divorce Field GuideDisparity in Spouses' Financial SophisticationMore often than not, spouses bring differing levels of comfort with and knowledge of their finances to the divorce process. This can be challenging, especially in a mediation, where spouses participate more actively in the negotiation of their own settlement. What are the best ways of working with this kind of disparity in spouses' financial sophistication, while maintaining a commitment to a reasonable settlement process? -- NORMAL --
2018-07-1111 minThe Divorce Field GuideInterim AgreementsWhat's an interim agreement? When might you want one? What are some of the potential pitfalls of signing an interim agreement? We'll discuss these topics and more in Episode 54. -- NORMAL --
2018-06-2709 minThe Divorce Field GuideChanging Your Mind in a Divorce NegotiationWhat happens when you change your mind about something you've already agreed to in your negotiation? Is it too late? What are the effects on your negotiation process? And how can you minimize the likelihood of that happening?
2018-06-1310 minThe Divorce Field GuideCommunicating Directly With Your SpouseIs it a good idea to communicate directly with your spouse during your divorce? It really depends. We'll discuss some common pitfalls and how to work around them in Episode 52.
2018-05-3016 minThe Divorce Field GuideFiling Taxes Jointly During DivorceMany couples going through a divorce have questions about whether they can (or should) file taxes jointly with their spouse. Episode 51 looks at the pros and cons of filing jointly while divorcing.
2018-05-1609 minThe Divorce Field GuideRecent Changes to the Tax LawIn December 2017, our tax law underwent a major overhaul. Let's discuss the components of that overhaul that are most relevant to divorce.
2018-05-0209 minThe Divorce Field GuideHandling a Spending Deficit in DivorceMany families going through a divorce have expenses that exceed their income. What are the implications of a spending deficit, and the solutions to it, in a divorce?
2018-04-1808 minThe Divorce Field GuideMoving with Kids During or After DivorceWhat happens when a parent wants to move out of state with their kids during or following a divorce?
2018-04-0405 minThe Divorce Field GuideDividing Retirement AssetsIn Episode 47, we look at what's required to transfer retirement assets (without tax penalty) between you and your spouse.
2018-03-2109 minThe Divorce Field GuideFiling in Court During MediationIf you're participating in a divorce mediation at what point in the process should you file in court? What are the pros and cons of filing at the outset vs. conclusion of your process?
2018-03-0709 minThe Divorce Field GuideMoving Out of the Marital HomeDuring a divorce process, many spouses wonder if they can move out of the marital home. While there's no blanket answer to that question, we'll look at the pros and cons of doing so in this episode.
2018-02-2108 minThe Divorce Field GuideCo-Owning the Marital HomeIn Episode 44, we look at the option of continuing to co-own the marital home with your spouse following a divorce.
2018-02-0709 minThe Divorce Field GuideMarital Home BuyoutsEpisode 43 walks you through the considerations and components of buying out a spouse's interest in the marital home.
2018-01-2410 minThe Divorce Field GuideSelling the Marital HomeIf you own your home, it's often one of the major assets in a divorce, and there are three approaches to dividing it. In this episode, we discuss selling the home to a third party.
2018-01-1009 minThe Divorce Field GuideNet Operating Losses - An Asset In Divorce?Back-to-back tax episodes! Episode 41 explains how "net operating losses" (NOLs) can come up in a divorce context, and how to figure out - but not overstate - their value.
2017-12-2704 minThe Divorce Field GuideSplitting The Tax Bill During DivorceYou're divorcing, and you owe taxes. How people handle their tax bill when divorcing, plus common pitfalls to look out for, all in Episode 40.
2017-12-1303 minThe Divorce Field GuideSecuring An Inheritance Through DivorceCan you ensure that your ex leaves part of his or her estate to your kids when they die? Are you obligated to promise a part of your estate to your kids? We'll answer all that and more in Episode 39.
2017-11-2903 minThe Divorce Field GuideHeirlooms + Jewelry In DivorceWhat about when your "stuff" has emotional significance? Like a family heirloom, or a meaningful piece of jewelry? Tune in to Episode 38 to learn how divorcing spouses tackle emotionally significant items when divorcing.
2017-11-1503 minThe Divorce Field GuideDividing Your "Stuff" After DivorceWhen you separate your households, who keeps what? If you can't agree, how can you resolve your conflict? Episode 37 walks you through dividing your "stuff" as a part of divorce. (Hint: it's often simpler than you think.)
2017-11-0103 minThe Divorce Field GuideWhat's A Walk-Away Divorce?What exactly does "Walk-Away Divorce" mean? And what's so special about having one? What if you don't have one? Answers to all three questions in Episode 36.
2017-10-1804 minThe Divorce Field GuideMaintaining Joint Accounts Post Divorce3Should you maintain a joint account with your ex after your divorce? Let's look more closely at why you might, and why not, in Episode 35.
2017-10-0403 minThe Divorce Field GuideLegal Separation vs. Legal DivorceWhat's the difference between a legal separation and a legal divorce? Episode 34 breaks it down for you.
2017-09-2003 minThe Divorce Field GuideOutside Attorneys in Divorce MediationWhat are the different ways you can work with outside attorneys in your divorce mediation? Episode 33 looks at the variety of options available to you.
2017-09-0604 minThe Divorce Field GuideWho Should Draft Your Agreement in Divorce Mediation?In Episode 32, we examine the pros and cons of having your mediator vs. your own attorney draft your settlement agreement in a divorce mediation.
2017-08-2305 minThe Divorce Field GuideSelf-Employment + Spousal Income in DivorceIf your spouse is self-employed, how can you figure out their income for support purposes in a divorce? Tune into Episode 31 for two key tips.
2017-08-0905 minThe Divorce Field GuideSaving for CollegeMany divorcing parents want to address how college will be paid for. Episode 30 looks at the different ways you might do that as part of your divorce.
2017-07-2605 minThe Divorce Field GuideHow to Handle Low-Ball Support OffersEpisode 29 explores what you can do when your spouse presents a low-ball offer in your divorce negotiation.
2017-07-1204 minThe Divorce Field GuideAlimony BuyoutsIn Episode 28, we look at the concept of an alimony buyout, and how it may or may not be an attractive option in your divorce.
2017-06-2804 minThe Divorce Field GuideWhen Parents Can't AgreeFollowing a divorce, many parents must mutually agree on all major decisions for their kids. Episode 27 explores what happens when they can't.
2017-06-1405 minThe Divorce Field GuideKids' Preferences + Parenting SchedulesHow much deference should parents give to their children's opinions on a parenting schedule? Episode 26 addresses that challenging topic.
2017-05-3102 minThe Divorce Field GuideIntroducing Significant Others to Your KidsIn Episode 25, we look at the different commitments parents make re introducing future significant others to their kids.
2017-05-1703 minThe Divorce Field GuideKids' Passports + Citizenship Post DivorceIn Episode 24, we delve into how parents can manage their kids' passports and citizenship post-divorce.
2017-05-0303 minThe Divorce Field GuideTraveling with Kids Post DivorceIn Episode 23, we review the commitments and restrictions around traveling with kids after a divorce.
2017-04-1904 minThe Divorce Field GuideSharing Holidays After DivorceIn this episode, we look at how divorced parents typically share holidays with their kids.
2017-04-0504 minThe Divorce Field Guide50-50 Parenting SchedulesIn this episode, we review the most common 50-50 (equal time) parenting schedules for divorced parents.
2017-03-2206 minThe Divorce Field GuideListener Q+AIn Episode 20 of The Divorce Field Guide, we wrap up the podcast by reviewing our top listener questions about divorce.
2017-03-0843 minThe Divorce Field GuidePro TipsEpisode 19: Pro Tips! For those of you who've made it this far in the podcast, we've got pro tips on negotiating and on managing the interpersonal dynamics specific to divorce.
2017-02-2244 minThe Divorce Field GuidePaying for Divorce + Navigating Divorce LawIn Episode 18, we talk about the mechanics of paying for your divorce, and we discuss how to think about "what the law says" in your divorce.
2017-02-0832 minThe Divorce Field GuideInsurance + Estate Planning in DivorceIn Episode 17, we'll delve into health insurance, life insurance and estate planning, as they tend to arise in divorce.
2017-01-2517 minThe Divorce Field GuideTaxes + DivorceEpisode 16 is all about the overlap of taxes and divorce. Not nearly as boring as it sounds, IMHO.
2017-01-1128 minThe Divorce Field GuideDividing Assets + Debts in DivorceEpisode 15 is about dividing your assets and your debts in a divorce process.
2016-12-2826 minThe Divorce Field GuideChild Support + Spousal SupportIn Episode 14, we walk through the different types of financial support that are covered in a divorce: financial support for kids (child support) and for spouses (spousal support).
2016-12-1427 minThe Divorce Field GuideChildren + DivorceEpisode 13 is all about kids and divorce. We talk custody, parenting schedules, authority to make decisions for your kids, travel, moving post-divorce, and more.
2016-11-3028 minThe Divorce Field GuideSharing Financial Info in DivorceIn Episode 12, we cover the gathering and sharing of financial information -- simultaneously one of the most important and most loathed parts of the divorce process!
2016-11-1624 minThe Divorce Field GuideInitial Divorce ConsultationEpisode 11 takes you through what to expect from and how to prepare for your initial divorce consultation.
2016-11-0221 minThe Divorce Field GuideHiring A Divorce Attorney or MediatorEpisode 10 is all about how to hire the right divorce attorney or mediator.
2016-10-1926 minThe Divorce Field GuideDivorce Timeline + CostIn Episode 9, we recap the six different negotiation processes covered in Episodes 3 through 8. We also take on the two more popular divorce-related questions: How long will my divorce take? And how much will my divorce cost?
2016-10-0525 minThe Divorce Field GuideArbitration in DivorceEpisode 8 centers around arbitration in divorce. We cover how it works, who's involved, who talks to whom, how much attorney involvement you can expect, how likely you are to spend time in court, and more.
2016-09-2120 minThe Divorce Field GuideDivorce LitigationEpisode 7 is all about divorcing in court (i.e., in litigation!). We cover how it works, who's involved, who talks to whom, how much attorney involvement you can expect, how likely you are to spend time in court, and more.
2016-09-0737 minThe Divorce Field GuideSettlement Negotiation in DivorceEpisode 6 focuses on settlement negotiation. We cover how it works, who's involved, who talks to whom, how much attorney involvement you can expect, how likely you are to spend time in court, and more.
2016-08-2425 minThe Divorce Field GuideCollaborative DivorceEpisode 5 takes a close look at collaborative law. We cover how it works, who's involved, who talks to whom, how much attorney involvement you can expect, how likely you are to spend time in court, and more.
2016-08-1034 minThe Divorce Field GuideDivorce MediationEpisode 4 is all about divorce mediation. We cover how it works, who's involved, who talks to whom, how much attorney involvement you can expect, how likely you are to spend time in court, and more.
2016-07-2733 minThe Divorce Field GuideDivorce Negotiation + The DIY DivorceEpisode 3 dives into more detail on the role of negotiation in your divorce, and we cover our first type of divorce negotiation: the DIY Divorce.
2016-07-1321 minThe Divorce Field GuideNegotiation 101In Episode 2, we cover the basics of negotiation and understand why it plays an important role in your divorce, and why it pays to brush up on your negotiation skills
2016-07-1322 minThe Divorce Field GuideIntroductionEpisode 1 is our introductory episode. We'll cover an overview of what's to come in the podcast, and what you can expect to learn from it. We'll also review two key concepts, which will serve as a foundation for future episodes.
2016-07-1317 minThe Divorce Field GuideImportant FYINew to the podcast? Start here! A mini-episode with a very important message for all podcast listeners.
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