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Real Talk with Tina and AnnAttention Seeking vs. Connection Seeking Part 1 Join Denise Bard and Ann as we unravel the complexity of what truly lies beneath behaviors labeled as attention-seeking, especially in children dealing with trauma. Trauma and loss can profoundly impact a child’s need for connection. We aim to shift perspectives, advocating for empathy and understanding from adults and educators towards children unfairly labeled as “bad.”Our conversation extends beyond childhood, exploring how unaddressed needs can manifest into adulthood, often leading to more significant issues, as seen in our work with women in jail. We examine how the absence of connection in formative years can derail lives a...2025-01-2931 min
Real Talk with Tina and AnnEvery Step Forward is worth CelebratingEvery step forward in overcoming fear is worth celebrating, no matter how small. This episode is a testament to the power of acknowledging daily victories, as Denise and Ann reflect on the journey towards building confidence and embracing a life unchained from past traumas. Inspired by the encouraging words of Donna Dannenfelser’s "Game On," we discuss how dreams can reignite our purpose and the profound impact of embracing even the tiniest achievements. We invite you to listen and find your own moments of triumph, realizing that a joyful and authentic life is not only possible but within reach fo...2024-11-0631 min
Real Talk with Tina and AnnKindness can Change a LifeThis week's episode is a reminder to look past the 'attention-seeking' behavior and look at it as connection seeking. This episode is for anyone who has had someone change the trajectory of their life with a simple act of kindness or if you have done this for someone else. Join us (Ann and guest host Denise Bard) as we embrace the fact that our past gives us the wisdom we need to equip us to shine in the future.Denise Bard and her new book 30-second Moments and the Women Who Raised Me. We ar...2024-03-1329 min
Real Talk with Tina and AnnAnniversaries: The Delicate Balance of Celebration and Grief Part 1Tina and Ann get nostalgic in the complex tapestry of emotions that anniversaries weave into our lives. We unfurl the delicate threads of joy, heartache with reconciling past grievances with love and understanding. It's a journey through the winding roads of grief, where sorrow and celebration often hold hands. The dialogue ventures into the realm of bittersweet realizations, recognizing the absence of loved ones in future triumphs and the heavy weight of 'unfinished business' that lingers after their departure. We also share the treasures that keep the essence of those lost, like cherished keepsakes and recorded voices, cl...2024-02-1430 min
Real Talk with Tina and AnnHelping Our Kids Through Trauma can Trigger Our Own Abuse Part 1When the echoes of our past traumas surface as we navigate the waters of parenthood, the journey can be complex. Denise and Ann open up about the raw, emotional challenges they've faced in an attempt to parent effectively without their fears and experiences overshadowing our children's growth. From confronting the specter of inappropriate behavior to instilling the principles of consent and personal boundaries, we traverse the thin line that separates vigilance from overprotection. Our candid stories shed light on the complexities of safeguarding our kids while not encasing them in our shadows.As we unpack the impact...2024-01-0231 min
Real Talk with Tina and AnnReading someone's Trauma or Triggers is a Love LanguageHave you ever questioned the saying "God won't give you more than you can handle" and wondered if maybe, just maybe, He does? This deep and meaningful conversation tackles that very thought, highlighting how our trials can draw us closer to Him. We share our journey of understanding trauma as a love language and the unique healing paths we've taken, including supporting our children through equine therapy. We also share a personal encounter with toxicity, underscoring the importance of eliminating harmful influences from our lives.Trust and empathy: two words that hold immense power in our lives...2023-12-1428 minReal Talk with Tina and AnnPhysically Revisiting TraumaWhat goes on in the mind and in the healing when a person walks the same streets where trauma occurred. Returning to these places can trigger positive and negative emotions. Sometimes, revisiting a place tied to distressing memories can help us gain understanding or find a sense of peace. Sometimes it shows how far we have grown since the event occurred. Ann’s visit to her dad’s grave, for the first time after 20 plus years, came when she wanted to share him with her kids. Denise is working on a boo...2023-12-0559 minReal Talk with Tina and AnnA Quote-Filled Episode on Boundaries, Healthy Healing, Healthy Grieving and AdvocatingTina and Ann delve into quotes that have echoed in many hearts and souls. Does God give us more than we can handle? Tina and Ann have a very interesting discussion on these words. This quote-filled episode is carefully guided through the topics of boundaries, healthy healing, healthy grieving, ridding of toxic relationships, the importance of advocating and empowering insights to help carry you through your day.Do words change our perspective? Does a quote whisper to our soul and understand us, at our depths? Can a quote mean something different to two different people and change m...2023-11-2936 minReal Talk with Tina and AnnA Hurting Child's Countdown to the Holidays: A time of Joy or a time of Fear?Holiday Breaks. We're not talking about the joy of time off school, but rather the anxiety and fear that can come with the loss of the safety and support provided by the school environment. Ann and Guest Host Denise share deeply personal experiences to shine a light on this often overlooked aspect of the holiday season.Our discussions dive deep into the crucial role teachers play during this time, providing a sense of security and positivity for students, particularly those coming from challenging circumstances. For these children, a teacher can unknowingly become a lifeline, providing love, stability a...2023-11-221h 12Real Talk with Tina and AnnDidn't speak or learn to eat until 12: One Chippewa Indian boys quest from being told he would never speak and learn to a doctorate in Special EducationBorn with a severe Cleft Palate, half a nose and told he would never learn, Dr. Don Bartlette has a story of overcoming and hope. He lived in a small shack in North Dakota. His father left him and his mother because of his disabilities. Don would steal to eat and his best friends were the rats. "One White Woman," he states, believed in him, changing his life forever. This man who didn't even speak until the age of 12, became valedictorian of his high school and got his doctorate in Special Education to help others. A...2023-11-161h 21Real Talk with Tina and AnnA Personal Message from AnnA personal message from Ann. You have to listen to hear it! Go to realtalktinaann.com and leave us your email in the contact section and you will get a special message from Ann. Leave us a voicemail on our website and you might end up on our podcast.Follow us on Tina and Ann's website https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Denise Bard's website: https://denisebard.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor a...2023-11-1519 minReal Talk with Tina and AnnFight or Flight: The Human Response to TraumaEngage with us as we delve into the human response to trauma, with a focus on the fight or flight response. Guest host Denise Bard and Ann paint vivid pictures of how trauma can manifest in our bodies and our minds. The pair talk ways the body handles stress and includes terms such as dissociation and masking. The pair also discuss paths to healing. Forgiving?Counseling? Ridding of toxicity? Everyone's path is different. This episode gives you a chance to understand not just your own responses, but makes the listener look inward...2023-11-081h 21Real Talk with Tina and AnnThe Simple Comment that Changes a Child's Life: The Denise Bard Story of Advocacy and HopeImagine a single moment in your life, one powerful enough to shape your trajectory. This is part 4 of Denise Bard's interview. This is our 40th episode!!!!!! Denise shares how the abuse in her childhood actually made her a better parent and how she touches the lives of teachers today. Ann states that she does not want her children to know what it is like to not belong and tells a story she has never shared before in 40 episodes. All four of these Denise Bard episodes have such valuable nuggets as she points out how everything we say to a chi...2023-10-3021 minReal Talk with Tina and AnnChanging your Story: You don't have to be the story you were born into: The Denise Bard Story part 3YOU MATTER! Listen as Denise shares her journey of changing her life's narrative, reminding us all of the power of our own voices, even in the face of adversity. Join us as Denise shares how she rewrote her story to one of triumph and resilience and reminds us that faiure is a part of success. She quotes Denzel Washington as he stated, "If I'm going to fail, I'm gonna fall forward." Denise changed her lens. "It's not about changing perspective necessarily but changing what we focus on," Denise states.We all write our own stories and are not t...2023-10-2331 minReal Talk with Tina and AnnThe Power of a Safe Space and the profound Impact 30 seconds can make: The Denise Bard story part 2This powerful episode is part 2 of Denise Bard's triumphant story. This is proof of how 30 seconds can make a huge difference in someone else's life. Denise shares 3 life-changing moments that gave her something to hold onto to when life was hard . She also talks in depth about the youth shelter that gave her importance and worth. Anchor House, a sanctuary for runaway and homeless youth in Trenton, New Jersey is featured in this episode as Denise recounts the remarkable milestones since its establishment in 1978, and the significant impact it has had on many young lives. From emergency shelter to tra...2023-10-1629 minReal Talk with Tina and AnnFrom Something to Someone: The Denise Bard Story of Resilience and Hope Part 1Denise Bard's life story, one marked by struggles and hardships, is a compelling portrayal of the human spirit's capacity to rise above circumstances. This is a must listen as Denise discusses being born from two drug-addicted parents and the physical, mental, and emotional abuse that she endured. Abuse and neglect led her to almost taking her own life, but she chose to live and fight. Denise attributes her transformation to the intervention and constant support from Anchor House, a shelter for runaway, abused and homeless youth, in New Jersey, that left an indelible mark on her life. The...2023-10-1135 min